Life Will Feel Empty Until You Start Doing This

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#feelingnumb #selfimprovement #selfhelp
Timestamps:
When I Felt Numb To The World: 0:00
Dealing With My Anxiety: 1:01
What Happened When I Started To Notice More: 2:03
Focusing On The Details: 4:15
Seeing VS Looking: 6:29
The Biggest Lesson I Learned Through This: 8:23
How To Master Yourself For Good: 10:16
More Self Improvement Tips: 13:14
Topics: Feelings of emptiness and numbness, why you feel so empty, who do i feel empty inside, how to see the beauty in everything, how to see the beauty in yourself

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you for all the support. If you want to join our community, actualize your potential, and finally see lasting change in your life, check out the Ultimate Self Mastery School here: Cole-Hastings.com/selfmastery

[@CGrantMusic1]

“Overdosing on information will numb your curiosity.” Hits home on so many levels…

[@ColeHastings]

Sounds counterintuitive, but it happens

[@Draxper]

@@ColeHastings I don't know, maybe I'm missing a perspective, but there is a saying "the more you know, the less you think you know". That should make a person more curious, right? So getting info should make you more curious

[@deisebrsoares]

​@@DraxperGetting info is okay. Overdosing and getting overwhelmed isn't

[@Sharperthanu1]

A lot of people I am numb to no matter what the circumstances and so is everybody else.Occasionally someone finds a USE for some of these people and then they lie and say they care about them.

[@TheBrokeBoyMycologist]

Bro…. Been doing this for months now. Everyday just consuming self help improvement videos and I get this dopamine boost & start for the day, then I wake up and all these thoughts hit again and feels impossible to stay on track.

[@appleitree]

KZbin and cole be spying on me 💀💀

[@arun5797]

Ha ha haa.... they always do

[@ColeHastings]

👀

[@user-th8dx4wn5t]

For real. I have been feeling this way all week

[@30Cal-Cam]

Well you all did agree to the terms of service agreements when you downloaded the app(s) on your phone

[@user-th8dx4wn5t]

@@30Cal-Cam good point

[@atlastobin7837]

That feeling of "going blank" is almost worse than the feeling of having too much on your mind. But it should be taken as a gift, a call to recollect. Take some time to think things over and how to go forward.

[@ColeHastings]

Good perspective shift

[@nischuAnchan]

My Overview of video: As we grow old we stop thinking about things and remember about our old experiences and assume. Actually what we should do is experience the whole thing once again and not assume about a thing, that it is like this and that. This helps us being in the present.

[@HeWhoLifts]

then it ends up bein same as our old experiences so why bother trying

[@birch151]

@@HeWhoLiftsafter owning it, we move on and live the present instead of drowning in the past

[@guanciottaman]

As an Italian, I thank you so much because you made me notice a lot of things that we don't do very often anymore, now I can be more intentional in what I do. Thanks Cole

[@gabrieleboracchi7411]

Same, so true. Also the video made me contemplate how the place where we live and our culture don't alterate our deep human problems and needs. we need to fulfill the same things, wherever and whenever, we just do it in different ways. Vero, verissimo. Tra l'altro il video mi ha fatto contemplare come il posto e la cultura in cui vivamo non cambia I bisogni e i problemi di noi umani. ci serve soddisfare le stesse cose in ogni quando e in ogni dove, lo facciamo solo in modi diversi.

[@ColeHastings]

Prego!

[@RicoFrank69]

2:52 As a city planner it’s great to see you talk about how more walkable cities help establish community! Keep up the good work!

[@ColeHastings]

I hope to see more of it in the states one day

[@AlexWheely-bx7pk]

cities are shit. what a depressing joke this world is

[@piercebunge4297]

BRO JUST SAID TOUCH GRASS

[@gibs40]

I've realized that the longer time spent on screens, the less enjoyable the present life experience is. Due to that dopamine rush you get when scrolling through reels and photos of other people, or through fighting dragons and saving people in the virtual world, the actual reality becomes relatively boring for you and you get disconnected from yourself- your alive self - which causes this feeling of numbness. No wonder why we keep hearing that staying inside a lot, especially on the screens, is causing us depression. If you're not in contact with reality and enjoyiing- or at least going through the human experience- everyday- lacking a sense of community- lacking a sense of purpose, then it follows that most likely your mental and emotional health will suffer and thus, your mind will activate its coping mechanism

[@ColeHastings]

Big time

[@PercyJackson93]

Easier said than done. Any tips?

[@MrsAnnThropy]

i really needed this today. my anxiety also causes me to rush on a regular basis, kind of as a default/baseline. this video reminded me that i haven’t been stopping to look at the little things lately. it’s advice i give to everyone, to look at the tiny details as simple as the joint where two pieces of a handrail are welded together, the connection point of moss on a building or a mushroom on a tree, or the individual grains that make up a small pinch of sand or dirt, or even the stitching on my shirt or coat. it really creates a sense of peace to look at all the tiny things that make up the world and whenever i stop prioritizing looking at these things, i start to get anxious and tense and i start avoiding things that would help me slow down and be at peace. it’s a really important concept to put into practice

[@JIMKATSANIDIS]

Powerful video! One of the worst things about feeling numb is that you feel so hopeless, pathetic and useless. Like you can't stay focused on one thing and get really upset about it, because you know deep down how bad you feel. You'll try to read or watch something and find it really hard to stay invested in it because you feel so numb.👋

[@justaguy9451]

That's brilliantly put mate

[@Proposal12]

It actually doesn´t matter where you are in the world (and yes I´ve traveled extensively), you can have the same in the US if you adapt the same instead of all these hustle, grinding, keeping up with the joneses and so on, we have so much in the US that people don´t stop and smell the roses because of it. Being too busy debating who´s right or wrong politically, religious, things that really DON`T matter. Go to the grand canyon, visit non touristic places there...Anyone thought of Alaska?....That´s what people do from the countries you are visiting.

[@charlesroberson1387]

Perfectly timed video, I've been in a daze for the past seeral weeks, feeling pretty depressed and disconnected. I do feel better when I'm more aware of the moment, it's weird that I'm aware of this, but still slip into the back of my mind so often.

[@taliyahjohnson1088]

You’re the only person on KZbin that understands and has experienced exactly what I’m experiencing rn, I hope to get out of it soon. Great video and great explanation.

[@denverpanelo4846]

Watching your videos before bed, always feel like I’m on a theraphy session. Thank you brother !

[@anniarti]

thank you! Your content helped me to finally take the effort to make some changes in my life. I‘m really grateful i found your channel a while ago and i appreciate all the work you do, you really helped me to make a shift in my mindset and self-awareness.

[@jorgev9674]

Thanks for helping me understand the feeling i have felt for sometime now. keep up the great advice and content Cole!

[@AnthonyStJames-yn8nr]

I always feel this when I go cycling to a place I've never been before since you have to navigate to that place and always be alert for any road hazards, the ultimate self-awareness training in my opinion.

[@lala_ho]

Thank you for posting these I listen every day while I work out blessings

[@user-th8dx4wn5t]

Thank you Cole. I have signed up for BetterHelp therapy. Your channel has helped me so much. Great video like always

[@Local_Russian]

Knowledge by experience is quite precious. I like to have a story behind everything I know, rather than just knowing without reason

[@freddyz7629]

it is crazy how much this video relates to me. i am currently in portugal on a vacation and i have come to the same conclusions you have. the culture and architecture of europe really forces you to live in the present moment instead of in the anxious reality i usually live in. so much detail and thought put into everything. very different from america

[@KevinNaughtonJr]

this vid is pure art Cole absolutely loved it

[@Dean1000...]

This video came at the perfect time for me. I am thinking about this. Interesting video. Helpfull. Thank you.

[@thisisnothing4522]

Amazing content as always Cole!

[@szellllest]

Very nice and coming from the heart video! Thank you! ❤

[@StudStudios1]

I never realised I had this problem, but thank you for your help! Also Italy is my favorite vacation location and I go there every summer, so I recognized a lot of places!

[@legiontheatregroup]

Great video. Regarding the ease with which another person’s ideas or experiences can be quickly accessed, I recently remarked to a friend (who loves to reply to any question I ask for his thoughts on with an internet link): outsourcing thought for the sake of convenience is a huge mistake.

[@eduborgeso]

Thank you a lot for this.

[@Erin60147]

Great video Cole. You videos are relevant to all ages😊

[@lofisky4355]

Thank you for helping out so many people with your videos

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you for watching the vids 🙏

[@mario125ww]

Great video cole! One thing I learn is that you never know how life might change but you have to be ready at all times. I just had an opportunity to connect with the live action actor for One Piece. Im just an average guy who went to med school but somehow a girl in my class knows him pretty well. So he came down just for the fun of it. All of my insecurities came out of me and I was a nervous wreck who couldn't even look him in the eye. Luckily he was very personable and overlook it. But i realized after that, i needed to get my crap together or else i can ruin potentially great relationships

[@Jhawk_2k]

If you choose to live life with more intention, awareness, and focus, the right teachers will show themselves to you. My life today is barely recognizable to my life a year ago, mindfulness can change everything (while at the same time changing absolutely nothing)

[@GOD999MODE]

One thing that I feel like since having graduated college is that my social confidence has decreased greatly. I don't interact with new people and I've almost completely forgotten how to relate on a human level. Dont think I've had a true genuine connection with anyone outside of my immediate circle for years.

[@NiaUnbecoming]

Cole, I’m so grateful to you for making videos that soothe my fears and worries in life. Thank you for this! ❤

[@SeptimusPrime]

Take this as an obstacle and overcoming that obstacle can become one of your achievements.

[@ghostwidmost]

I like to imagine I’m in the middle of a conversation with the universe. I make eye contact or “look closely” at the things around me and this helps me to deliver my end of the conversation. It works just like a convo does with other people. If you aren’t paying attention you’re probably in your head and won’t have a response to what the other person is saying.

[@United_Wings]

Great video ❤

[@MCEdziits]

If you think time is going too fast- live faster.

[@WowThingsThrift]

No matter what Im feeling the KZbin Gods always put someone new in my feed to help me understand myself better✌️

[@kexerino]

I feel like I've gotten better at living my life in the present ever since I started meditating and journaling. I also don't feel numb as often, or at least I can deal with it better now. Also, the quads are looking big in the thumbnail, keep it up :P

[@ColeHastings]

Quad game has been crazy lately. You keep it up as well

[@wasbruder3059]

what a good video, im stunned. Awesome work. Greetingns from Germany :)

[@maskon2]

I look forward to joining your patreon and possibly these courses you spoke about at the end of the video after my next paycheck. I do need some outer perspectives from a community that does care, so i can avoid falling back into my negative spirals that brought forth depression, alcoholism, and homelessness. I think you're doing something genuinely good here. It's odd because i do not trust self help channels very much as the space has become clouded with people just obsessed with making money, not helping people. It seems that you truly care about helping people. I look forward to having a conversation with you in the near future.

[@ColeHastings]

Very excited to have you be a part of the community, and I appreciate the kind words. The course has been the most fun ive had growing, and i get to grow alongside people who have supported me for so long. See you in there soon man

[@maskon2]

Thank you for taking time to read these comments Cole. Sadly very briefly after I got my first real paycheck. My relationship fell apart. I was living in a hotel with my partner, on a weekly lease. I had relapsed and battled that with myself, and my partner. I just paid off our debt, and got into the positive, and then I was broken up with and kicked out. I was stranded in a little valley with a string of towns with no resources. So I went back "home" but have no support structures here. And I've been rotting away in my van everyday since Nov 12th. I'm going to seek treatment for my addiction and mental health but I've made 50+ non emergency calls in the last 2 weeks to seek that treatment. I get the run around cause my insurance is in the other state, but they don't have much to help there. Regardless of my entire situation, I looked at your Patreon, and almost bought the $50 package. But that's 3/4 of a tank of gas, so I needed one more paycheck. And then all that happened. I look forward to subscribing to your Patreon when I'm able, and a bit stronger in mind.

[@trinhkhanh1030]

I used to always assume that everything is something available in this world, not paying attetion to what's going on around me or even people. This video got me thinking how to pay attention to a little thing and try to figure out where does it come from or how they can be created that really makes me feel curious and motivaed

[@joseCalderon1976]

Good stuff. Subscribed 👍

[@rijd2304]

I can't recommend mindfulness enough. It's so important to get out of one's own mind, even for a few minutes. I found the book 30 Days to Reduce Stress by Harper Daniels to be a good resource. Separating from the demands and expectations of society are so important.

[@jessicapatton2688]

I’m curious if you have experienced a full-on spiritual awakening. If not yet, you are well on your way. Thank you for this content. I’m sure you are helping a lot of people with it!😊

[@johnnyinneature]

You are real wise dude. Keep it up king.

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you king

[@lliryk2943]

Thank you for sharing this 🙌🏻 i currently feel numb/empty too. Meanwhile, my screentime is double digits on many days. Really need to work on that. Wanna go outside more, be among people. Being on my phone all day long gives me nothing. Justs numbs my mind

[@ColeHastings]

That’s way too much screen time. Start off by going on walks more frequently throughout the day

[@lliryk2943]

@@ColeHastings totally agree, it's an issue I have to tackle. Ideally, I wanna get to 1 hour or less. Planing to go on a walk tomorrow, need to go to the library anyways. Thx for your reply :) Have a nice day/evening/whatever :)

[@gibs40]

If you want to reduce screen time as well, start reading books. They will improve your mental health, but they can't make up for the need to socialize. Nothing actually can

[@cocothedog5151]

Hey Cole, I’m quite new to your content, but you’ve definitely given me some new ideas to apply to my own life. I do want to ask you a question though, that being: What do you think is the measure of a person’s life? In other words, how do you define a successful life vs an unsuccessful life?

[@aaronaustrie]

Great vid as always ✊🏾💯

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks Aaron

[@MuscularAlien]

Just sitting or laying down without doing anything helps a lot in calming yourself and figuring out stuff. Veritasium once said,"Boredom is the key"

[@skyhavender]

I am just tired of life atm, dunno what i want. Some times i want to die and other times i fear dying. Its a weird situation to be in.

[@flamart9703]

Today, and many other days, I feel the same, but that's the life in general - a combination of good, bad and everything in-between. The only thing that keeps me to live is the thought that my life is the only conscious state of me before my molecules turn to dust. So, no matter bad or good, will continue to live as long as I can and do what makes me feel good, but which doesn't cause bad consequences.

[@alexklara816]

stay goated fam, many blessings. much love

[@ColeHastings]

You too, much love

[@seustaceRotterdam]

Now in Europe we are building ugly buildings next to old masterpieces. If you love Italy you will love “Eat, Pray, Love” the movie

[@deborahostmo]

Love it

[@dismayingmist7868]

Great video Your channel is awesome and helpful

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you

[@dismayingmist7868]

@@ColeHastings your welcome

[@macgyver6720]

Why your content somehow can relate to me,keep up the good work bro

[@ColeHastings]

I’m in your walls

[@linzhao2235]

@@ColeHastings I have this issue in my life. I always feel like time is running out. I'm 22 years old soon to be 23 I'm dreading my birthdays. Is it over? I need to get x y z done and I'm super unhappy. Idk what to do. Figure life out?

[@spencercheung549]

Awesome video once more! I believe that the terms should be switched however. To me, "to look" has always been a term that is surface-level (i.e. "look over there" or "yea, I'll have a look"), something more attuned to glancing for a short-period of time without much focus. Conversely, "seeing" has always seemed like a term that is more thorough and deep (i.e. "to see into your soul" or "I see you (as opposed to just looking at you)"), something that correlates well with existential epiphanies and heartfelt realizations.

[@KBlade1]

I didn't know there was such a thing as "Apple Maps" wow 😂

[@Bachconcertos]

Italy is about food friends & family art and beauty

[@ScooterCat64]

The more mindfully I see and experience my surroundings, the more ugly and isolated US towns look, so what am I supposed to start doing??

[@reecelassiter126]

I feel like I already do this and I’m considered an “over thinker” but the things I’m seeing seem obvious to me and not that deep

[@---js3wz]

Hello Cole. It has been a while since I last commented. I like your channel and make it a routine to comment when I get to lol.

[@ColeHastings]

You’re a frequent commenter. I appreciate it

[@---js3wz]

@@ColeHastingsyour welcome :) this is my first and the one channel I will always stan

[@marcofrasson9202]

Bro discovered fire

[@danthaman7777]

You know what makes Italy great and so stress free. Homogeny and xeno

[@user-fm5eh1fi5z]

This reminds me of "the power of now", a 10/10 book about this same topic

[@ColeHastings]

Read that a long time ago, and has made an impact on my life since

[@user-fm5eh1fi5z]

@@ColeHastings same!! and the older I get, the more its content makes sense. Presence is truly a gift

[@Peter-mj6lz]

9:05 perhaps we mostly have a less curious, more grown up view to architecture in modern cultures as modern buildings aren’t built with as much detail and in fact some are built to not last long.

[@CarMadElliot]

Fuck bro this was so intensely relatable and as a result, a brilliant watch as always

[@EricLewandowski-vn7ky]

How much time per day do you spend on KZbin/ your business? Is it like a full time job?

[@ColeHastings]

Would say more hours than a full time job, especially a couple years ago. There's usually not a day that im not working

[@EricLewandowski-vn7ky]

@@ColeHastings Thanks for the reply! Last question: Do you spend the majority of your day alone when you’re working? Is working alone preferable to working with a group for you?

[@Alltagundso]

​@@EricLewandowski-vn7ky From what he said in the past and his old videos, I would guess he lives alone or with his girlfriend. I think he always said, he likes a lot to spend some time alone and I would guess he also needs that for all the reasing, editing videos and so on. Otherwise he also goes outside to meet others. Just a random guess from a long-term viewer with a bad memory. 😂

[@amedeot3855]

Hi Cole! Have you visited Lucca as well? I am from there. It's close to Florence 😊

[@lethalhotbox3778]

So true omg

[@IshyVideos]

back to watching these kind of videos. Wallow in self pity and self loathing. Maybe get motivated to do something that I should be doing to be better. Maybe start doing it. Then stop for months to come back to this shit and start the insanity all over again. Yay, pudding.

[@hayekhayek580]

If you feel blank go outside and take a walk

[@bazhumke4040]

underrated tip

[@misha_bloom]

Great video, carnovour diet helped me dramatically. Fatty meat like beef and lamb, salt, water. Start with low carb or keto if that seems impossible at first. Gradual transition probable is the best way to go. Google mental health and carnivore, there is a lot of info on that

[@diesal_one]

was the transition at 4:00 an Assassin's Creed reference? Looked/Sounded very similar to the transitions in Assassin's Creed trailers, lol.

[@ColeHastings]

lol i dont think so. My editor edited this video

[@BaloonieFloat]

Is the course $200 US dollars? I’m canadian so I’d pay $270? Pls reply!! Need to know before I buy

[@thatrogueguy123]

Bro said look harder, buy my course

[@_1.a1]

Agree

[@IntrovertMaxxing]

One word: 🌿

[@sqvishykilla]

8:00 so true

[@88tongued]

Apple maps?

[@jalaberga]

This might be a dumb question but is the course for women too? I’m just thinking of Adonis academy and how it’s strictly for men, you didn’t say it was targeted for men but I just wanna make sure lol

[@dvd921]

I love u

[@MilesPerez_2K22]

While I get that mastering yourself is great and all. But I’ve always wondered… where’s an end game? Like if you literally have accomplished everything that you’ve wanted to work on and have a good life, you got the money, love and well-being. Where’s a point where it ends without doing everything all over again?? Just a curiosity.

[@ColeHastings]

Life is a constant process of becoming. It never ends. And once you fall in love with that process, youve won.

[@MilesPerez_2K22]

@@ColeHastings I have heard of a similar thing before.

[@MilesPerez_2K22]

@@ColeHastings But surely there has to be a point where you can finally enjoy your own personal pleasures in life with the stuff that you’ve already mastered no?

[@ColeHastings]

It should be that way from the very beginning, although usually its not. Self acceptance is just as important as self improvement. Its a balance between enjoying where you are right now while improving for the sake of improvement itself.@@MilesPerez_2K22

[@MilesPerez_2K22]

@@ColeHastings Amen to that! Thanks for understanding Cole. 😃

[@MillerMoore-gq2pe]

Why everyone try to fix stuff just let it be....

[@ricksanchez2425]

U do any good fishing lately man

[@Cr1stew]

KZbin read my mind

[@ColeHastings]

Always does

[@zigzagposers2955]

Io sono di Bologna ❤️❤️

[@sarahbolouvi5828]

Peace is ONLY through Lord Jesus Christ. 🤍🤍🤍

[@vsonic86]

Fuck man, are you writing my story? LOL, that is how I feel when I travel some where with family. I just don't like "Come on, hurry up" It is like I can't be with myself.

[@your_omen]

❤

[@circustoonsjokevideos]

Dude, we do this stuff all the time, You’re choosing not to talk to people, or not paying attention to detail. That’s You. And this has nothing to do with living in the U.S., because I’m very interactive and attentive to detail.

[@justaguy9451]

So america is a dump and Italy is beautiful. Yep. From the UK and our cities are mostly dumps. Mainland Europe on the other hand which also has its dumps is by and large more beautiful and enriching. The culture seems more natural, more human and beauty is everywhere.

[@Earthtime3978]

Too deep for its own good

[@user-vm6yj8mn6d]

Cole has been wasting 7 years of his life overthinking what hes doing in life

[@gab1172]

I need more oxytocin

[@oftheearth1986]

Moral of the story: go on holiday or live in europe - maybe not Ukraine

[@charliefox9573]

Welcoeme to normal life pre-internet. Sorry your generation missed out on it.

[@piercebunge4297]

Dude, get tf out of my head