Lilith in Relationship Video

Evolutionary Astrologer Tom Jacobs shares insight on the true Black Moon in relationships, specifically synastry (how one person's chart affects another's).
What does it mean that your Sun conjuncts your friend's Lilith? Or your parent's Lilith opposes your Mercury? Tom gives you basic info to begin understanding what interaspects between you and others mean when it comes to Lilith.
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[@eagillum]

The Cookbook: Conjunction: 12:30; Sextile: 15:07; Square: 17:04; Trine: 20:57

[@emjay3344]

Erin M thank you

[@samie7025]

Ty!

[@gracelewis6071]

I'm really happy to have come across a guy that knows about the pill and women's hormones! You are a Lilith person indeed. :)

[@TomJacobsAstro]

hi grace - thanks for the comment. i can't help it! i have the true black moon conjunct moon-mercury-neptune, so the energy is wrapped up in how i think and feel, etc.

[@quantumuniverse5771]

Grace Lewis I really would love to know what you mean when you say: "You are a Lilith person"? Our Lilith in houses define that or? I am so confused with my Lilith. I would love to know her better! 😊🙏

[@gracelewis6071]

@@quantumuniverse5771 I just meant that the archetypes she represents are displayed very strongly in Tom especially in this video.

[@amandadetour4365]

I ordered my True Black Moon Lilith chart from you Tom and stayed up until 3:00 AM learning 🌟🔥🌟I went to bed a blow up doll and awoke a vivacious lively woman! This, I feel, just really gave me a life’s worth of clues. I went from Lilith in Aries (Mean) to Lilith in Pisces in Twelfth house. There is the Hero’s journey and then there is Lilith’s journey. Hind sight is 2020 and I am middle age looking back and Lilith has actually saved me when I was hard wired as a Capi in a very fundamentalist religion and marriage. Lilith may have made me a foreigner to my family and social network but I can tell we are going to become best friends. I’m still a long ways from re-entering life but grateful for this strange time. I have always been shamed for having yes/no answers and listening to my gut and told I’m crazy.

[@udubeats4543]

So refreshing to come across someone without such a doomtastic view of hard aspects. Constructive criticism is one of the best parts of squares and so often overlooked

[@mintymantis3913]

It’s rare for me to come across someone that explains concepts like this in a way that resonates with me, and all your videos I’ve watched so far really click for me in a special way. Thank you so so much!!! I’ve got to throw in that my boyfriend’s Lilith is conjunct my Venus, and my Lilith conjunct his Mars, and they are all sextile each other. It’s what made me want to dive into this topic, because it is DEFINITELY SOMETHING!

[@Empre55]

20:57 Trine is supportive what you are already being. 22:55 opposition sharing perception of you/ reflection / or constructive criticism. Can feel blocked. Self trust.

[@coolqh]

Very interesting. Someones Sun is on my TBM Lilith and I didn't care for him for years, now I want to be with him all the time.

[@FengShuiSusan]

I had not honored my Lillith for so long - feeling suppressed for years. Thank Source for the growth I've made and my current partner. Haven't done his chart because he doesn't know time of birth. Can't wait to read the book! Thank you. ☮

[@pinargosterisli8249]

Hey thanks so much! I have a Moon, Lilith and Uranus exact conjunction in Libra. And I just realized all of my family have their Persephone/Proserpina exact on that degree! This explains the dynamic of parents pushing for "be this innocent, puerile daughter who is perfectly controllable or you will be our scapegoat" and me going between being controlled by them and rebelling. I moved to USA to get away from this dynamic! Recently I can balance this being in my power without knee jerk reactions of capitulating or rebelling. But you are right, it took work, pain, all my focus and energy. Thanks you so much again!

[@plutosprincess]

Pinar Gosterisli This is my story ❤️

[@user-es5cv2bg8y]

3 lilith conjunctions and my god i can't stress how much I feel shadowed,overpowered and my instinctual desire to be true,real without restriction and compromise

[@cristinachaliandroi1369]

Your explanations always articulated with presition and clarity

[@darkktur88]

Tom, thanks for your insights. What if someones Lilith is conjunct your ascendant? Or midheaven?

[@jaymesEo6]

Very interesting... I'm more intrigued now than ever. Now I want you cookbook synastry aspects. lol

[@filipinamomlife7497]

I am so grateful to have found your channel.Very insightful!

[@katrinadoxsie9773]

You are such a great find. My Lilith is Leo in the first house. I was using the wrong one and when I corrected it that did not change. However, my partner's did. His was in Libra in the 12th before. Using the true method it's in Virgo in the 11th. He already has like 8 Virgo placements in there lol. His Lilith falls into my second house with a 6 degree orb to my Moon and a three degree orb to my North Node. I assume that would be conjunction. Mine falls into his tenth house with a seven degree orb to his North Node. I will have to look more into this. There are no opposites or squares. Most of our planets, asteroids, and points mirror in overlays. However, his Moon and Venus fall into my 12th. It's incredibly telepathic and psychic.

[@instasupermamka]

Finally I found clear for me explanation of Lilith. My husband lilith sitting on my sun and well i feel socked up and no energy( maybe because he cannot deal with his black moon. I would really love to have private conversation with you about it

[@MargueriteMontes]

Thank you so much for this, I have totally understood why my last relationship went pear shape, his sun was on my true black Lillith, exact. His name was almost Jim! hahahaha

[@ik4949]

Amazing . Ur channel is a blessing to of come across. Gratitude xx

[@TomJacobsAstro]

thank you, regressing i! and you are welcome.

[@everwildforever]

You just explained so much for me... my partner's sun squares my BML.

[@aaaaaaaaaaggghhh]

What about lilith conjunct lilith ? (in cancer..? )

[@StVesta]

What about Lilith-Lilith aspects in Synastry? 🤔

[@andreac647]

I didn't know about the differece between true and mean BML, I've used Mean BML up until now. My true BML is also in Saggitarius, almost the same degree as yours, interestingly enough.

[@fooshpoof]

Could someone explain lilith square pluto in synastry? I'm really trying to understand this onr

[@blaireh9381]

so wonderful! Does lilith get affected by the nodes or vertex/antivertex?

[@Celticlioness]

Hey I have Pluto Venus in the 12 th !! Wow if only I could pay you to figure out my ascendant ?? I’m tired of having to guess ? I’m born august 06 1962 near Belfast Northern Ireland

[@trapsource_goddess]

How do you know if Lilith is expressed or suppressed in a chart

[@trapsource_goddess]

Or you mean it’s up to that person

[@TomJacobsAstro]

We can't see that in the chart--but in the person's life and behavior. In my teaching I try to paint a few different possibilities, because we can't look at the chart and see how the energy plays out in the person's life. (That's true of everything in a chart, by the way.)

[@trapsource_goddess]

Thank you

[@fineartlifestyling]

Oh boy! I have quite the placement! True Black Lilith, Venus, and Mars in Aries in the 10th house. What in the world could that mean about my femininity? Career? Father?

[@askmahogany649]

Alexandra Golovenko sex work for a career lol..

[@DevsEnd]

Steve Tuffill always swore I would love you, guess the timing was never quite right. Just had my Lilith return, 3rd house.

[@TomJacobsAstro]

I never talked with him, but he mentioned several times doing an info-sharing collaboration, and the timing - again - wasn't quite right. He seemed to really take to this approach. Be well!

[@pampriest6747]

Chilled with lil for 20 yrs wore me down.

[@conversationswiththeuniverse]

So informative, thank you for sharing your knowledge with us 🙏

[@lamuska24]

Lillith conjunct Lucifer exact 29 degs Scorpio synastry! Seems to have an equally intense attraction and underlying fear as well! Any other thoughts on how this pans out?

[@diannaboss4167]

🌻Dude, i learn so much 💬🙏🏽thank you 🌺🧝🏽‍♀️🐯♍♎♏ new subscriber Yosemite California

[@charlene336]

What about house overlays? My Lilith lands in my guy's 12th house overlay.

[@DNice0592]

Hi Tom! Would 10 degrees be too wide of an orb for a Lilith Venus conjunction in synastry?

[@educult1950]

What About lillith conjunct the other persons north node. What does that mean, how do that play out?

[@saimoooo]

How Juno sq Lilith in synastry manifests? By the look of it, it looks like a deal breaker in marriage? What do you say?

[@barbariancauldron3284]

you are crazy good.

[@yes3621]

what is it mean if sooneones lilith in my 12th house , someone whi actually were a friend but turned out they're not

[@33Astrologer]

My retrograde Lilith conjunct his lilith. Same with Juno. Vertex conj his asc.

[@ferinmartinez415]

Tucson mountains!? Do we happen to live in the same city? I would freakin die lol

[@ferinmartinez415]

Fyi this video is beyond amazing. Lilith for me is in my gemini 8th house between and conjunct both my moon and venus 👍🏻

[@wendyevans1359]

thank you i have found lilith mean and true,and i wasnt sure which one to fallow. both me and my husband are lilith in gemini true

[@Businesssparkgre]

What if a man's lilith trine with woman's sun??🙏🏻

[@Joe-ty9ps]

Thankyou, gold nuggets,by the bagful.🖤

[@biancaiordache6446]

What about Lilith square Venus DW in synastry?

[@claudiafalcao9166]

This is brilliant, thank you!

[@elineeugenie5224]

22 min. thats me, urgh☺thanks so much for this video!

[@jenniferperez1944]

I do Lilith how she’s meant to be done..

[@Nuverselive]

Do you do synastry charts ? Does it include BML?

[@zeph6439]

Thank you very much , sir.

[@TomJacobsAstro]

you're welcome!

[@zeph6439]

Tom Jacobs It is so refreshing to be able to tune in to someone who really and truly knows what they are talking about. Blessings to you.

[@zinebabbad1774]

his Lilith conjunct my Jupiter and my Lilith conjunct his Chiron

[@kimmccullough4353]

I love your videos, thank you ❤

[@mary-anneb2614]

great explanation! do you have a cancer mars? just curious, you remind me of someone with it

[@TomJacobsAstro]

Hi Mary-Anne - I have a Libra Mars, and my South Node and Midheaven are in Cancer.

[@kimberlywillowsagetree6321]

Tom Jacobs, my NN 11° Cancer 4h :)

[@paulaamero]

Spot on.

[@vattufru]

I love this!

[@Joe-ty9ps]

So Lilith is a bdsm primal?

[@analuca6659]

What does lilith opposit juno can mean in a birth chart?

[@honey406]

I have True lilith in Cancer @ 21 degree w/my Sun & Mercury(12H) conjunct my Bf's Moon @ 19 degree His TL is in Sag @ 12 degree w/ his Sun, Mercury& S,Node(10th H).while I have Mars in Sag @ 2 degrees, With 10 degree difference can this be conjunct too?

[@forevaayoung]

Great video! Thank you :)

[@sarahwaiyee9137]

Thank you so much for instructions on the true BLM is on that site. I have many trines and a biquintile there now that its accurate. What a gift you revealed.

[@moranbriga]

Such wisdom thanks so much

[@yes3621]

hii , i like watching ur videos u have unique information, i have true lilith in scorpio and mean lilith in saggitarius haha, anyways my english is not the best am an arabic fan😋 .. my boyfriend moon + true lilith + mean lilith is in my acsendent conucting my sun + venus + mercury .. i just wanna know if it is a positive sign cz it seem strong .. what do u think about it ?

[@kgwilliams7684]

do a mars square pluto synastry

[@yes3621]

what is it mean if a friend lilith in my 12th house

[@ShadaeMastersAstrology]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@elineeugenie5224]

trust... amen

[@ghadat.480]

my mean and true lilith are 1 degree apart in pisces!

[@babybae1309]

HI. Who feels it most ? Lilith or Planet Person? Thank you xoxo

[@themoonbleu627]

planet

[@Rosa-jt8up]

I had it with so. He was Venus and I was lilith. He was crazily obsessed with me.

[@ninhursag8640]

Ohh my I love this I need help with my lilth

[@ninhursag8640]

How can I get a lil info on my lilith

[@GeniusisCommon]

WOW!

[@dreezydree9813]

Capricorn conjunction

[@Amber-rk3be]

❤

[@jridablack1808]

True just sounds like the truth 😉😂

[@108grog]

Dolly. Haha😆 Roxy Music song.

[@aceventura8890]

astrodienst yurp

[@Celticlioness]

Hey I have Pluto Venus in the 12 th !! Wow if only I could pay you to figure out my ascendant ?? I’m tired of having to guess ? I’m born august 06 1962 near Belfast Northern Ireland

[@TomJacobsAstro]

hi again--unfortunately ,i don't have the skills to do chart rectification (to confirm the ascendant degree). honestly i wish more people went into that work. i don't currently know any.