A Chatty Q&A: Why I Left Gleam? More Kids? Best M&S Snacks 🍩 Lily Pebbles

[@kate-from-studio-huske]

The last question was so well handled Lily. We've all been there and it's so tough but it's unfortunately a natural progression in different life stages. Glad to hear you're feeling better about it now

[@Petitkaramela]

Do you think?! Still didn’t say anything

[@sallyannc3176]

@@Petitkaramela well of course she didn't - that's not for us to know. Don't be so selfish - it's not our business to know the details. She wanted to deal with it respectfully, for Anna's sake too, and I think she achieved that.

[@lydiacarels7912]

Just a big virtual hug to you for your last answer. I "know" and love you both and was quite emotional about the "tremble" in your voice ❤. But part of growing is to talk about things, no matter how hard it might be, so well done and thank you 😘

[@lilypebbles]

Forever grateful to have such a supportive and kind community here, you've all managed to create a safe space for not just me but each other too. I read all your comments and just want to say thanks ♥

[@sylvialuisa]

It's you that has created that space, Lily. Thank YOU. 🩷

[@OctopiesForTana]

Ugh, the way it sounded like your voice was wavering a little but in the last question kills me because even though there are so many videos of you and Ana it is still YOUR relationship that ended and YOU that had to mourn that. To then have to explain it to people that don’t understand the intricacy of that relationship but feel that they do must be so fucking hard. I am glad you are in a good place. So glad you are healing.

[@umbrarella]

Thanks for addressing the last question, Lily, it must've been really hard for you and we appreciate it. Hopefully people will stop asking about it. It's really unfair that you've been burdened with explaining the whole thing, I didn't see anyone questioning the other person about it at all. Take care xx

[@raejae5565]

I think she deletes any comments that reference it tbh. Her videos rarely have any comments at all, so I think she's very selective about what comments she chooses to show

[@KarlaMendez28]

Yeah, she definitely deletes everything. I appreciate Lily being open and transparent with us!

[@katiesmith3242]

Yes she deffo deletes comments cuz I’m sure I’ve asked her before in the past! X

[@sophiewilson6213]

She deletes them. Such an odd thing to do, unlike lily who’s open honest and relatable

[@Heydrayheyhey]

She has a function where any mention of certain words like Lily, work wife etc gets automatically deleted without ever going public, it’s very strange behavior indeed

[@gemmastone2202]

Not quite sure how to say this but, well done. You just seem to have grown in confidence a lot, you’re really self aware and have a great sense of fun. I’ve watched you for maybe 12 years? And this is the best & most engaging your stuff has ever been. Just happy for you I think! X

[@ginaprasad7695]

I normally don't comment. But I just want to say lily you did so well acknowledging the elephant in the room. Friendships are hard. I stopped being friends with my BFF who was my bridesmaid. I always knew it wasn't a healthy friendship. But it was so hard to end the friendship. I would say worst than a boyfriend break-up. I still think about her now and than.... but I also know that it was a healthy decision to make for both of us. I had to go to therapy and talk it through. Your podcast with Anna really helped me through that friendship ending. I felt like you both were friends in my ears. So you are so brave ❤talking about a friendship break-up in a public forum. Sending you the largest hugs xx

[@katiesmith3242]

Maybe they will make up one day. I fell out with my best friend for 2 years, we are friends again now but not as close as we used to be but it’s nice to be able to hang out together again especially are we are in relationships with a pair of brothers we can all be together ❤

[@andreabarrcoaching]

Here here! That is exactly what I wanted to say and I too never comment! Huge hugs!

[@belindajames3966]

Closure. Well done. And we all move onwards. That's life x

[@Abbi-qg1tc]

Huge respect for finally acknowledging the relationship breakdown directly, I can't imagine how hard it must be to lose such a close friendship while also being in the public eye. Everyone thinks they're owed the details and it's truly a testament to what a decent human you are that you haven't indulged that, but have remained respectful while also being honest about the struggle. Seeing you go through this journey and come out stronger has been really inspiring and helps me feel less ashamed of my own relationship losses over the years. Xxx

[@andreapoulieva6717]

Lily, you asked a question that touched a nerve with me, and I'll respond as honestly as I can. I'm a mom to two beautiful girls (6.5 and 3.5 yo). They have a beautiful relationship, and we are very lucky to have them. But I've always wanted to have three. I'm an only child, I come from a broken home and my mission in life was to create a happy, loving family. We did, and my partner is very content with two. Still, I ached for a third. Finally, I got him on board and we started trying. I got pregnant right away, which felt like a positive sign. We were happy, at first. But then, around the 6 week mark, I started panicking. Our house is too small to confortably raise 3 children and we would have to sell ours and buy a bigger one (doable), we both work an hour away from were we live and the commutes make for long school days, with a third we would have even less time (the weeks would be go go go without much quality time), we have exactly one family member that helps us and I know she wouldn't look forward to us adding a baby to her 'load', I also consider the ages and suddenly I feel like the age gap is too big (our daughters will be 7 and 4 if I give birth). My partner is super scared all of that means less quality time for our daughters, less quality time for us as a couple, less financial means and more pressure, which he fears could jeopardize our equilibrium. And it's not like we hadn't considered all that prior to getting pregnant but suddenly, it feels so real. We aren't excited anymore, but consumed by fear. So in all honesty, I don't know whether we are going to keep it (and I say that with the heaviest of hearts). I feel like if you have a lot of family support, if you have financial means that can take on an extra person, if your home is big enough, if you have flexible work hours...all that will make having a third easier. Also, do you really, deeply ache for a third or is it because somehow you grew up with that idea and struggle to let go ? I wanted to share because we women don't openly talk about these things, I find. I appreciate your honesty and I'm sure you and Rich will make the right choice for your family ❤

[@philippawood5047]

This was a very vulnerable comment and I know it will be helpful to so many - thank you for your honesty and I wish you support in whatever decision you make. I only hope you are somewhere that allows you to make it safely.❤

[@andreapoulieva6717]

@@philippawood5047 Thank you Philippa (beautiful name!). I feel I'm at a point in my life where I need to cut to the chase, cut all the bullshit (the one I often tell myself 😅). Fortunately, yes, I'm in a place with excellent social safety net and healthcare. I do hope this comment helps at least one person ❤️ Have a lovely Sunday

[@Courtneyburns90]

Thank you for sharing and being so honest. It must be hard to even admit it to yourself. Just know that whatever decision youse make is the best for you both and your family. Sending lots of love.

[@andreapoulieva6717]

@@Courtneyburns90 Thank you ❤️ As I mentionned, I'm past the point of lying to myself. Though this truly is the hardest decision I've ever had to make, and I'm still undecided. I cling on the notion that either way, there is love and support in the family we've created with my partner and that in time, all will be well. It's just mayhem for now 😅

[@bnabound]

I just want to give you a hug, I can't imagine how difficult all this must be. The fact that you are so considerate about what it all entails means that whatever your decision will be, it will be the right one for you and your family. 🤗🤗🤗

[@katjushah9424]

Felt emotional at the end. I didnt want to ask any question because I always thought if you dont aknowledge it there must be a reason or maybe it is too painful to and I respect that. The situation is sad, buy hey we all go through that with friends and even family members sometimes. Sometimes it gets better and sometimes it doesnt and that's ok too. Lots of love. Been following for more than a decade. We're the same age, married around the same time and are so similar in so many ways xx

[@Stitchcraftandcook]

I loved this Q&A Lily. The last question was obviously a hard one to answer but you dealt with it perfectly. I’ve been through a friendship breakup in the last few years and it was 100% worse than any relationship breakup I’ve had so I understand why it’s still a sensitive subject. Especially as you feel you need to acknowledge it publicly. I’m loving your recent content more than ever, and I’m an OG follower, you seem so content with life and who you are. Have a lovely Sunday ❤

[@_Claire_88]

I really felt that last question. Life just goes in different directions but sadly for the two of you, you also have to contend with viewers being part of the equation. I can see that it hurts, but I can see you have also grown. Big love 💛

[@louiseM14]

I have to say Lily I’ve been watching you for probably around 10/11 years now and your content recently has just really grabbed my attention and pulled me in more than any other year! You seem much happier within yourself and more confident in what you want to post which is so fun to watch! You seem a lot more chatty and easy going (not that you weren’t before but extra now) which makes all your content so enjoyable! I didn’t realise how long I’ve been watching you till you said how many years your anniversary is! I still to this day can’t hear “hey Jude” without thinking of your wedding video!😂

[@clilylilyrose87]

I think the breakdown of adult female friendships is a really interesting/difficult topic; good on you for exploring it in such a sensitive and mature way. My friendship with my best friend at university ended and honestly it felt worse than a relationship break up (though it needed to happen; the relationship wasn't healthy and also we just drifted apart). I don't watch your vlogs often but dip in every now and again and you really seem in a great place in your life. It is really lovely to see!

[@nyrhtak03]

Bravo Lily. You’ve done a hard thing ❤️

[@buzzi2k]

Lily, gosh you're doing so well. It's incredible how you were able to answer and how you answered the last question. You can see the hurt, and the healing, whatever it was that happened. Your level of self understanding, maturity and care is amazing. I really admire it.

[@16demolka]

I was devastated a month ago when I found out I was pregnant again with my third (two older are 6-8). No one talks about unplanned pregnancy later in life! You would thought that YT has loads of videos about it but no - unplanned pregnancy is associated with teens. Now I accepted my situation to some extent but I’m still terrified and sad more that excited. I understand no one talks about it because they don’t want their future child to find out they were not planned but it feels so isolating and wrong to not be happy and grateful. So if anyone is in a similar situation to mine - you’re not alone :)

[@td7363]

I have 2. They're much older (just into her 20s & 6th form age) and I had them young. The idea of a third now when I'm "approaching 40" scares the absolute 💩 out of me.

[@gwenhunter8454]

Friendships change and evolve and they become sometimes less than they were, it’s hard…. You handled that question wonderfully ♥️

[@TheLeaveTaking]

Oh, you put that so well... It's so hard when they become less. But no one really talks about it.

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Relate so hard on the question of a 3rd...it's all I think about! I'm also one of three/Thomas is one of three, I don't want to go into it spontaneously either...my lists are like, the same length (pros/cons) arghhhhhhHHHHHHHHHHH. I'm LOVING having a bit of my life back, feeling more healthy, having better sleep. But the thought of getting to 50 and regretting not having another baby kills me. *Editing to add, having a friendship end (or simply for two people to drift apart which happens so often after kids etc etc) is hard enough but when there are strangers invested in it it can make it that much more difficult to navigate. The grief is different because it's like...you're grieving but you're also trying to act fine...this job is WILD. So much love to you

[@johnarchibald3]

You answered the last question so respectfully. Loved the whole video & loving the content you have created in the past 2 years. Really grown into yourself & it’s amazing to watch 💐

[@melissaarauz4830]

Loved this Q&A so much. Your integrity as a content creator is unmatched. I’m in LA and always look forward to watching your videos before going to bed on Saturday nights 😊

[@mariedavtyan371]

OMG i've been crying at the end (also because it's the first day of my period) but also because how you explained it. I've been thinking about it for such a long time recently because I've been watching you two from the beginning but neither of you addressed it. So glad you answered and how respectfully! xx loved this Q&A, thanks for sharing such personal stories.

[@TheStarterM]

God, I’ve been following you since you’ve lived with your parents! Then the flat, then the wedding, now the house… when you said your wedding was EIGHT YEARS ago, I almost dropped my plate (I was washing the dishes while watching 😃). In the meantime, I’ve stopped following you, then started again recently. I must say, I really enjoy your videos again, I guess I can relate better, you and Estee are only two KZbinrs that I can’t wait to watch. So, I guess, I just wanted to say that I really enjoyed this q&a, it’s really great to see you happy and in a good place, it really shows. Also, when you were talking about Rich, it’s like you were describing my boyfriend and it reminded me how grateful and happy I am to have him in my life. Anyhow, all the best 🤍

[@killertatzi]

Dear Lily, that last part of the video made me tear up. I have been following you for 12+ years and even went to the meet up you and Anna did in Berlin in 2012. Over the last months I sometimes wondered what happened to your and Anna's friendship. Thank you for addressing the topic. I really enjoy your channel and I can see how much you have evolved. All the best! ❤

[@rachel9199]

Truly cannot imagine having to deal with friendships online. Hats off to you Lily! Big supporter of you and Anna for over a decade now and continue to be, whether you’re friends or not! Xx

[@louise1elly558]

Ive recently lost my best friend of 20 years. Ive been given no reason why, just radio silence. It hurts but i have to pick myself and move on and be grateful for all i have in life.

[@bbbproductions7059]

I have had the exact same situation and it is so hard! 😞

[@hannahcagneylace8022]

Me three, clearly it’s more common than I realised. Hope you’re all doing ok ladies. As cliched as it sounds time is a healer, this happened to me a couple of years ago and I’ve come to terms with it all now ❤

[@natatatt]

Same. It was hard at first, needed to grieve it like a break up, but fine with it now. I put my heart and energy with the dear friends I do have instead.

[@louise1elly558]

​@bbbproductions7059 I think it's quite cruel to do to someone. Makes you really question the whole relationship and if you've been a good enough friend.

[@franug]

​@louise1elly558 I also went through this, and I agree with your sentiment: Am I such a horrible person to deserve being treated with such cruelty? I can't figure out what I did for that reaction to be proportionate...either way, it shows the friendship was/is not worth it, if that's any consolation

[@madslynch]

The loss of a friendship is so heartbreaking. I still struggle with the loss years and years later. I appreciate your honesty so much, thank you for being so graceful and handling such a difficult thing with such integrity.

[@georginat6051]

Oh Lily, you made me cry. The loss of a good friend is so sad and unfortunately happens a lot as we get older. I think it’s much worst than a break up with a partner. Thanks for talking about it x x

[@Bohemiandancer]

Hi ! Just wanted to add my two cents on the third baby debate. My kids are almost the same age as yours, I thought I was happy with two, my husband certainly was 😅 but something just sparked and I knew I wanted a third baby. Got pregnant quite fast and sadly lost the baby. Tried again as soon as I had the green light and we were blessed with a healthy lovely baby girl. She is the easiest, chillest baby. She has so much love around her, her brother and sister are her biggest fans, it’s the most heart filling thing to see. I also am not huge on the first months, and had postpartum depression and anxiety in the past so I had apprehension. But the experience helps, you know you’ve got to put yourself first sometimes and you just take it easier I guess. I feel like if it’s meant for you, the baby spark will ignite and you will go for it ! I now feel like my family is complete and life is more hectic but also more filled with love than before. Lots of boom boom in our hearts for sure 💖💖💖 Also, happy anniversary 💕

[@ReclaimingSensitivity]

I never usually comment on videos, but feel compelled to with this one. I lost the friendship of someone I've known since school last year, and it was very out of the blue and hard to not fall into people pleasing tendencies and actually be true to myself and honour my own needs. It seems to me that you have been in a really difficult place, not being able to be the authentic, honest person you are on here. I'm glad you got to speak about it now and feel in a place to do so, but I also feel so sorry that you feel the need to because you are being constantly reminded of this painful experience by people who consume your content. I wish you continued healing and happiness. As an aside I think what you said about not working with Rich is such a heathy and realistic take, and as someone who is worried about fertility the way you handled the baby no 3 question was done in the perfect way.

[@ismettopalovic4479]

I hope that people can lay the last topic now to rest. You did that very gracefully and grown up. And now there is at least the feeling of dreading it gone🤷🏼‍♂️😉💐💐💐

[@lauracopeland9377]

Loved this video, and your honesty. You talked so eloquently and was so good to hear your thoughts. I’m a follower of over 10 years and loved seeing you on this ‘journey’ ❤

[@adriana7144]

Oh Lily, I just wanted to give you a big hug at the end. It’s just how life goes sometimes but that doesn’t make it any easier. Thank you for addressing it. I hope you continue to feel better about it all x

[@SustainableSanoobar]

It has taken me 3 days to watch this video while battling my toddler and back to school bugs. I just wanted to say thank you Lily for addressing the Anna question. I came out to see you guys way back when at your Space NK meet up. I still watch both your content for different reason. I just wanted to say that I've lost friends over the years especially post covid and post baby but it's all for the best. Some friends are only meant to be short term travellers on our journey and that's okay. I got really emotional listening to you and honestly I'm so freaking proud of you. I've grown with you and we all love you. Keep doing what you're doing! ❤

[@saramathews1069]

Well done Lily. If you haven’t then Elizabeth Day’s Friendaholic is a great read. You showed such decency and courage. You’re a great woman to watch xxx

[@sarahjenkins9456]

Thank you so much for acknowledging the end of a friendship. I have had to let go of a friendship that was not the best for me and my mental health. So, it’s so refreshing to hear that someone who I look up to has experienced the same thing. I have found that It allows you to focus your energy on people who support you and appreciate those people more. ❤ Btw there is a song that really helped me get through it. It’s called “Someone I used to know” by Tom Grennan. It helped me come to terms with the ending of a friendship. ❤

[@suzyheartsbeauty]

Loved this Lily ❤️ It’s always good getting to know you more and it’s been amazing to see your confidence come back in the last few years! I haven’t had kids but I’ve felt a bit stuck/lost with myself so it’s inspiring to see someone finding their new way forward and feeling better ❤️ I felt emotional on the last question for you and you can tell how tough it’s been for you, so I hope people will give you a break on that now ❤️

[@gk181072]

I was finished at 30 with 3 girls but was never really done ,i had a boy at 38 and omg the absolute joy he has brought us is immense…you have tome but you will never regret it!!!!🎉

[@ShhhhhhImsleeping]

Friendship issues and breakups deserve their space and respect. I'm so glad you decided to answer that question and finally felt safe in doing so and I hope it was healing and you're receiving only supportive answers and reactions from all of us. It's hard to do, it's hard to feel, and so many of us relate to you. Love from Spain! Xxx

[@gabrielaprusak3811]

With your 8th wedding anniversary I realized that it must be getting close to 10 years since I started following you. It's bonkers how time flies. I also wanted to say, as many here do, that you've grown so much and settled into this beautiful version of yourself and it really is a pleasure and a privilege to witness it and to, indirectly, walk through life with you. Thank you for being a part of my Sunday morning and for all you do for us ❤❤

[@LaylaAbraham]

Ive been watching you and Ana for over 10 years and I don't remember if I've ever commented but that last question really made me emotional because I could feel how hard it was for you and I think it's a reflection of who you are as a person❤ On a side note I think it might be a good investment to buy a house now in the good high school area and rent it out then when the kids are grown you can move in and sell this place or rent it out, because you know the prices are just going to keep going up and up

[@zoecarpenter298]

Love this Q&A Lily - it’s so rare I manage to watch a whole 40 min video haha but love hearing your thoughts on all these topics. Echoing other comments but it’s so nice to see how much you’ve grown and what a great place you’re in at the moment. I’m in my late 20s so a little bit younger but have always watched your channel and it’s made me excited for the next steps ahead in life (marriage, kids, career & friends in your 30s). Also thankyou for so eloquently and thoughtfully handling the last q - honestly just so sorry that you’ve lost a friend & hope you’re ok! X

[@alicia.cj.94]

I’ve been watching you for around 12 years now and I can say I love your content now more than ever. Thank you for your honesty and respect, and for talking openly about such a personal thing.

[@amydvm]

have watched your youtube since 2012 and honestly just appreciate you so much in growing up, next phases of life and finding yourself and settling in. i don’t have kids so can’t always relate, but the way you have pivoted in youtube life etc really resonates- we still have the same struggles with finding ourselves as we age and change. friendship losses have been harder than breakups, feeling for you and knew something had gone on and can only imagine how uncomfortable the questions and comments have been. so glad to still be here. ♥️

[@MScolourMEbeautiful]

Thank you for being so honest xx

[@mcmafalda]

And that is why you wrote a book about friendships. You care about them, you know how to describe them and you really understand friendships. The way you addressed the subject was so smart, so beautiful and so emotional at the same time. Thank you for that. You need closure and this subject needed this exact same closure. Good to know that you are well and moving on. ❤️

[@ptriiez]

You handled that last question so well Lily! I never comment but I just wanted to say that I really love your content (you really have been thriving lately). Dealing with topics like friendships ending (I broke up with an entire friendgroup this year and it was so hard) is difficult in life, but feeling like you have to acknowledge it in your work must be incredibly hard. Thank you for your openness and showing how to handle things like this as a respectful human being.

[@msaramaa]

Such a classy and kind (also to yourself!) answer to the last question. x

[@kcmorris4875]

Beautifully handled, I so loved following you before but now you have shot up even higher in my respect. xxx

[@MISSLEONAJB]

Hey Lily 🤗 loved this so much. I have watched you for years and years and years (and Anna), and I always love your content. Keep being you and doing what you are doing. I appreciate you answering the last question, it’s obvious to see that wasn’t easy for you so thank you. Sending lots of love ♥️ xxx

[@carolyngibson7723]

Sending you ❤ Lily. Talking about hard stuff is, well, hard! You’re in a good place! Love your content.

[@lydiaaranarevenga3921]

Your skin looks amazing!! Need a video of this makeup ❤

[@aqilaali2354]

I think it was well handled and I think people now should stop asking - some friendships changed and end (and often ones you never expect to end which hurt hugely)

[@SophHogg]

Yes Lily! You are great for answering that last question, LOVE your honesty. You are the only follower I have watched pre kids, through Covid and now as a mum of two

[@cherylverber7672]

I've only been following your for a few months. I'm in my early 50's and find you interesting to follow, our lives are poles apart, however I enjoy your content and look forward to the next vlog.

[@gillianaitken87]

I had my third when my two boys were 7 and 5. Best decision ever having a fairly big age gap. I’m loving having a 1 year old and am so so happy we decided to go for the 3rd. I now know 100% that I’m done. Zero regrets.

[@hnnhxxx8387]

Lily, I barely comment even though I’ve watching your videos for a long time. This time I cannot keep quiet though but I have to compliment you on how well you have answered the questions. You are so respectful, down to earth and I appreciate you being honest without oversharing. Very well done! Thank you! 😊

[@emilybirchall3166]

Well done Lily, you ended a lovely video with such a brave and honest answer, people can learn so much from that. Have watched you for years and years but you are better than ever right now xxx

[@caitlindavies1672]

Thanks for sharing Lily, another lovely cosy Sunday video! I’ve been here for many years (remember you getting married!) but I was telling my boyfriend recently how much I have enjoyed your content recently. You seem so much more confident and happy holding your own. I adore how down to earth you seem and your content is always a breath of fresh air. Sending hugs! ❤

[@sarahbee27]

Loved the Q&A, admire you for speaking about the friendship, I lost a friendship 5 years ago, I don’t know why but it happened so I know it’s difficult, but for it to happen online and be constantly reminded must be very difficult. I hope your audience can move on now and put it to bed xxx

[@ivanavujicic1705]

Thank you for addressing the last question Lily. It must’ve been really hard to do so, so thank you for doing it for all of us. Honestly, it made me cry since it reminded me of a friendship of mine that’s no longer there. As you said, time helps. Thank you for being open and honest about it ❤

[@siobhan7798]

I cried too. She handled it so well.

[@aphraell]

Me too, as soon as her voice trembled a little, I started to cry. It was so close to the heart.

[@ladadidah]

Lily, I've been following you for years! I love your content- how it and you have grown and evolved over the years but you've still managed to remain so authentic, open and genuine. Hearing you answer the last question made me emotional because I also lost a close friendship that I thought would last forever. It is so hard, but it's of some comfort that it's a part of life. While I don't know the details, I can relate to you because you seem fiercely loyal in your friendships so I know how much it can hurt to have a friendship break-up. Thank you for sharing x

[@ulla3168]

Hi Lily, I just quickly paused the video at the third child-question to share a very interesting thing I just recently learned from a neurologist about pros and cons lists (which btw I personally also love doing😅). The truth I came to understand is: They simply do not work. Why? Because it is a general misconception that we humans make our decisions based on such thought through facts. Instead, we are always(!) driven by our emotions, so when it comes to making a decision in life there's always - whether conscious or subconcious - an emotion inside of us that already made the decision. So even if one side of the pros/cons list is absolutely packed, we will still decide for the other simply because of our "guts feeling". Pure brain science. So: What do you and Rich feel? 😉 Greetings from Berlin (and mum of two and zipped up😅) Thank you for being you❤

[@anEllenJamesian]

What I think is helpful: Do the list and then see how you feel about it. Are you happy about the decision or did you want the other side to win? Then go with the side you secretly wanted to win. ;)

[@anEllenJamesian]

I guess you kind of already said that in your comment 😅

[@rubydutchxo]

Loved this chatty video! Thank you for being so vulnerable with us❤️x

[@MaisieLemur]

Lily, my heart broke for you when you answered the last question. You handled it with grace, honestly and respect. I’m a long time follower and love seeing how happy and content you are. Much love ❤

[@greenabby]

Enjoyed listening to this whilst I cleaned my kitchen 😂 kudos to you for addressing the last question so gracefully. Onwards we go! Xx

[@lisawright1397]

Thanks for sharing about the friendship. I know that must be hard and it’s nothing more than what it is so don’t worry about any drama caused. Friendships grow and some flourish whilst others dwindle. A note on the third kid thing. I am the same. Always imagine having 3 grown up but can’t deal with the baby baby stage right now with a 3 and 5 year old. I asked two friends who have 3 and they both said if they could offer advice they BOTH said don’t do it! I valued their honesty. Their reasons were that splitting yourself between 3 is a lot on the mind and a lot on the kids and very stressful. So they said having 2 is something to feel content with xxx

[@stephaniex8776]

love this! i love how positive you are about the future with kids and getting older! so inspiring!

[@aqqibabs]

I've followed you since the beginning, i remember you still living at your parents house... have always enjoyed you but somehow I enjoy watching you now more than ever. Not sure what it is but you're lovely!

[@LaurasDiaryx]

Gosh exactly how I feel too! Lily is shining!

[@ginaprasad7695]

I totally agree ❤

[@sarahdietz4]

Same ❤

[@ge926]

same

[@VS-tg9xq]

I’ve been thinking that for a few months, too! I don’t follow a lot of KZbinrs anymore because I feel like it’s all about consumerism but I don’t feel like that with lily at all! 💛

[@ronibt]

One of the qualities I have always admired about you is your authenticity, about all aspects of your life. It's what has kept me watching your content as your life (and mine) have changed over the past 10+ years. I can't imagine how difficult that last question was to address, and you did it so well. ❤

[@alicerosfield8078]

Mum of three here...(obviously we love our third child beyond all reason) but I would say there is a huge shift in terms of the practicalities of being a bigger family. It's hard for some relatives to take care of 3 kids for you, holidays, cars, houses, are all an adjustment, the world is built for families of 4. And in terms of feeling yourself again...that has definitely taken 3 (not 1 or 2) years...I feel like each child added a year. You basically always have at least one child with you at any given time! I also think if you have a lovely dynamic with the big two then you really risk the roll of the dice on how another baby will impact that. We lucked out and our third child brought us all closer together and we are a much more silly and happy house because of him, so the dynamic shift actually improved for us but I probably should have considered more that it might not have and what I would have been giving up for that third baby. xx ps maybe a runner on the attic stairs that's purposefully different?

[@lucymott4165]

Friendships ending or changing is so hard, big hugs and thanks for sharing with us ❤

[@meganwilliams5462]

I LOVED the variety of questions!! The last one took a lot we can all see that but you were respectful and dignified and now can heal in your own way and time ❤

[@PulpxFiction]

It's always hard when friendships end or you drift apart, even if there's no drama. I think you handled the last question really well.

[@jillianmcgill6]

Hi Lily. Another long term viewer who doesn’t normally comment but felt the urge to. I just watched this video while making some buttered leeks and it felt like a wee dose of therapy. Well done for so graciously handling the last question. I can’t imagine how difficult it would be to be going through heart break and having your audience, but strangers nonetheless, constantly remind you of it. You didn’t owe anyone an explanation, but I truly hope it helps in your healing. It has been so interesting reading all the comments and realising how universal an experience friendship break ups/dwindling is, and it feels a bit like an invisible kind of grief. Anyway, thanks again for keeping me occupied 👐

[@Hey_krystle]

Devils Advocate here, we both wish we had have stopped at two. Outnumbered, creating a middle child, the dynamic of 2 vs 1 is always present. It causes stress and I forget already how much I loved being a mum of 2. 😢 but when I'm older with adult children, I think I will be glad I have more, than less children. I too am 1 of 3, as is my husband and is all we know.

[@lauraturford]

Getting to know more about you in this video was so nice & interesting, thank you so much for doing this video ❤❤xx

[@tessac775]

Such a lovely video - one of my favourites of yours, maybe ever! I’m in a rough patch of life right now, and I find it so inspiring to hear the way you think about things. I recognise a lot of myself in you… but I feel like you’re the evolved version lol. I have always looked forward to aging and figuring myself out more with each passing year, and I feel SO reaffirmed whenever you talk about the joys of growing older. Right now you seem radiant, confident and able to handle things with grace. Very cool. ❤

[@mariadaly4673]

I really love your channel ive been following you for a long time and love that every video you do is just normal stuff with fun stuff thrown in too. I absolutely love your fashion videos and when you're out and about. You have great style. I really admire you addressing the friendship situation. I myself lost a friend around 2 years ago at a very tough time in my life. She just ignored me and never contacted me again. It was very painful not still now knowing what ive done but i just had to move on. I guess people grow and grow apart but how they handle the situation can be very different depending on the friendship. Love to you and your lovely family ❤

[@catherinepattersonmcelroy8336]

I have to agree with others that you handled the last question beautifully. I have been been friends with people for decades and our life paths have diverged, but not because I took the correct path and them the wrong. It was just different. Something I think of often is a quote that I truly can't remember where it came from. "Some friends are for a season, some a reason, and some a lifetime." Just as seasons come and go, maybe that friend will be back in my "season" at some point. Or maybe not and their "reason" has passed. But I cherish it and wish them such an incredibly beautiful life ❤️

[@julialee2285]

Like others, I felt I had to respond and say thank you and well done. You’re one of the only people who I watch regularly on KZbin and I have really come to admire and respect you as a person over the past five years. What you said was eloquent and beautiful and emotional…and real. You don’t see that on social media very often. And no one talks about friendship breakups on social media. So thank you for breaking down that wall.

[@susanreynard1871]

So many interesting topics, all handled so thoughtfully. Thank you for sharing your life and views with us, and for making content with us in mind. Your explanation of what drives numbers, views, and growth was really interesting and definitely sheds light on why some content creators I’ve followed and loved for so long have started to fall off my regular viewing list - they’ve moved too far away from what initially attracted me to them. Like with friendships that drift apart, it’s important to handle these changes respectfully rather than feel let down. Hope you're having a great Sunday. xxxx

[@sunshinegalkw9675]

I was my mom’s 3rd and unplanned. My mom’s not very warm and fuzzy, but she always has my back and lets me know she loves me. I love being a 3rd, and my brother and sister are both over 10 yrs older than me. They have always been a great source of love and support for me. I’m also lucky to have to be close in age to my nieces and nephews! My mom said she didn’t expect me, but I was the best gift!

[@Salted_Caramel-kb]

Like everyone else, I think it was very brave of you to answer that final question Lily. Really, neither of you owe an explanation to anyone and as adult women, we should all be aware that relationships naturally change over time. That's a normal part of life, even when it's painful. Re the three children thing. I have three kids. I always actually wanted 4 kids, but my husband wasn't keen on what that meant in terms of car / house etc. He did mention having a fourth recently, but it's a big no from me now! My kids are now 18,15 & 12, so going back to that baby lifestyle would be a massive lifestyle change for me and one I am not interested in. I think if you are going to have a third, I would do it sooner, rather than later. I would 100% have my third child again. He is a lovely human and really compliments his siblings!

[@ritadantas]

Love everything about this video! (I am in a smiliar place to you homewise: we just finished a renovation that buys us a few more years in this house, but my boyfriend who was not convinced we would eventually have to move has just realised it, so he keeps looking "you know, just to know how the market is" and it was killing me and making me anxious. I was so happy with the renovation and just wanted to finish decorating and enjoy the new space.)(Friendship break-ups have been among the most traumatic break-ups of my life, absolutely)

[@klaudiazyla7363]

I appreciate so much that you've addressed the last question. I selfishly asked if you're still friends with Anna, hoping that you are but just decided not to share content together anymore. It's heartbreaking that some people are not supposed to stay in our lives forever. I lost a friend before last Christmas, just like that, no drama, no reason, no major conflict. And it was shortly after my mum passed away. I was so heartbroken, betrayed, I felt like it was pure injustice but also felt guilt and shame. Now, almost a year later, I feel more at peace but it took me hours of counselling to process all my feelings. I feel less alone hearing from you and reading comments here. Thank you so much ❤

[@rachelm1816]

After you'd lost your Mum? Oh that's rough 😟

[@anniwo-rb1np]

Thank you for being so open and vulnerable, Lily! And not just about the last question, but in all of your videos - I just enjoy all of your content and your openness and authenticity so much. So much love for you!

[@annamarkley4758]

Lily thank you for being so open and honest with us (through out the whole q and a, not just the last question). It’s like speaking with a big sister, which is something I really appreciate ❤ I have never asked what happened between you and Anna because it was none of my business, but I really hope this puts the issue to bed for you. I have loved watching your content for the last 11 years, and will continue to do so. Sending you lots of love 💕 xxx

[@hillary898]

Lily, I’ve followed you since the beginning and just wanted to say how much I’ve been enjoying your recent content. Some things I really appreciate and enjoy about what you put out there is your sincerity, creativity, and integrity. While life events evolve, you remain true to yourself and I’m here for it ❤ Big love x

[@km8827]

This was such a beautiful Q&A. Its so nice seeing you grow Lily! Really love your content. Thankyou for answering, even the difficult Q, with such respect & kindness.❤

[@abigailhall7359]

I’ve never commented on a KZbin video before but just had to say I’ve followed you for over 10 years, we’re a similar age and I’m also married with two kids. I went through a breakup with my best friend a few years ago. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever been through and still really hard now at times when you thought that person would be a part of your future. You’ve addressed it with such grace and maturity and I feel less alone knowing so many others in the comments have been through something similar. Thank you. ❤ I’d drifted away from KZbin over the last few years but your content lately has brought me back. Keep being you, you’re amazing 😊 xx

[@marcang4403]

Omg! I just realized that I’ve followed you for more than 8 years (followed you before your wedding) Thank you for the honest video. Luv the part on giving your partner space, hence not working together. Find that very sensible, mature and realistic. Also luv and thank you for your honesty on the last question. Really.. appreciate it. Not joking, I did have a dream of you going to Anna’s house for Foggy Morning (before today’s vid) i send my luv as it seemed like such a difficult question to answer. Very very beefy and good vid! Thank you

[@FairyLizzie]

How much I would like to give you a hug right now, at the end of this video, is insane. The thing is, breaking up with a friend sucks. I felt all of the emotions. It'll pass ❤

[@IzzyButler94]

I really like the sit down/q&a videos!! 😊so nice listening to you feels like I’m listening to a friend!

[@kayvio4560]

Gosh Lily, I have watched you for so long, I remember your wedding vlog and your needle & thread dress and what I heart today blog like it was yesterday. I don’t comment often on the posts of people who I don’t know irl. What I will say is that these days social media feels very inauthentic (with even people setting up their camera to walk in the room and burst out crying in a staged way) and there are very few people who have retained that authenticity and warmth, someone who feels like a warm cup of tea when you watch them, and doesn’t feel like they overly encourage consumerism or setting unrealistic expectations that everyone is walking around in a wardrobe provided by Net-a-porta. But Lily you were my cup of tea over 10 years ago, I have met the love of my life, got married, and had a child since, and you remain my cup of tea. When your voice wobbled at the end I felt a protective feeling as if it were one of my best friends. I don’t really know the purpose of this post other than to say thank you for all the years of content, sharing your life and being you, unashamedly ❤️

[@patriciad.7309]

I've been away on holiday and so just starting to catch up on videos. I agree with the comments below on the way that you handled the last question, and I hope that now draws a line under the situation going forward. I've thought and commented this often in the last little while - you have really come into your own Lily! Creatively, with Georgia, and just generally in your videos; I really enjoy watching more than ever now (have been following you since your Chanel video). And I do think that you have built a very nice community here. Congratulations!

[@hannahcagneylace8022]

Oh Lily that last part was hard to watch so I can only imagine how tough it was to film ❤ I was ghosted by a girl who I thought was my best friend a few years ago (I’m talking god parent to my daughter & maid of honour at my wedding) it was genuinely harder than any break up I’ve had but time is a real healer - cliched I know & I can now talk about it without getting choked. Whatever the circumstances I’m sure time will be a healer for you too xx

[@beccam2934]

When friendships end it is always so hard but you handled that with class, respect and dignity. I chose to let a friendship of 10 years fizzle out a few years ago because we weren't compatible people anymore. She was someone who I couldn't relate to, I didn't think it was a healthy relationship and I was becoming frustrated and resentful. So I decided enough was enough and whilst it is still tough, I know it was the right decision.

[@ritadantas]

I come from a family of 5 and originally wanted 4, but settled for 3 because I only started at 34 and didn't want kids with less than 3 years between them. I always said I would have a fourth if I won the lottery, but I have now realised three is my number and it is suddenly quite clear that we are (probably) done. I am happy I have had my third, both for us and for the other two, I think she changed the relationship dynamics between her sisters for the better, even more so for the (now) middle child. She is also an incredible joy (18 months now). Of course we are tired and stretched and it is true that we have less time for them individually, but I still feel enough and that it will be better after the breastfeeding at night stage is over (so looking forward to that). Because I had decided it was my last pregnancy and my last baby, I really enjoyed it all, both the pregnancy and mat leave. So there was some closure there, which helps with the decision of not wanting more which was originally finantial / age-related. Right now, however, it goes beyond finances and being 42. Lately, I have been feeling excited for having big kids instead of babies and toddlers, excited for the times when all of them will all be able to carry conversations, watch movies with subtitles and snuggle close to me with a book, excited for getting to kkow them better as people and finding out where they will go, excited even for the teenage years which they will spend yelling at me. I am ready to enjoy my last toddler years as if there were no more and to advance to the next stage. I hope you are also able to reach clarity, be it about not having a 3rd child or going for it.

[@kirstenrubberducky]

Oh LIly. My heart goes out to you over that last question. It has been so lovely to see you find this place of comfort and happiness in your life and I wish you all the very best for the future.