Lisa Feldman Barrett: Love, Evolution, and the Human Brain | Lex Fridman Podcast

[@lexfridman]

Here are the timestamps. Please check out our sponsors to support this podcast. 0:00 - Introduction & sponsor mentions: - Athletic Greens: athleticgreens.com/lex and use code LEX to get 1 month of fish oil - Eight Sleep: www.eightsleep.com/lex and use code LEX to get $200 off - MasterClass: masterclass.com/lex to get 15% off annual sub - BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/lex to get 10% off 2:10 - Falling in love 19:54 - Love at first sight 34:32 - Romantic 38:32 - Writing process 49:15 - Evolution of the human brain 1:03:24 - Nature of evil 1:12:07 - Love is an evolutionary advantage 1:16:43 - Variation in species 1:22:24 - Does evolution have a direction? 1:40:03 - Love with an inanimate object 1:44:21 - Just be yourself is confusing advice 1:54:32 - Consciousness 2:01:10 - Book recommendations

[@Grey_Just_Grey]

You have the best show on the web, Lex. And Lisa is such a great guest! Please, never quit, Bro! Love from the UK.

[@Psychedeliasmith1987]

Did you save her some of the joint this time Lex?

[@michaelsiegfried3878]

Chino R he did interview him once like 6 years ago. It was pretty good. Idk why more people don’t interview him, smart and open guy.

[@wendylegge4822]

Questions

[@Mark-df3qc]

need more UFO ALIEN podcasts

[@maggyfrog]

we need a compilation of all the guests answering lex's questions on love and meaning of life :D upvote if you also want this video.

[@mm-fn2co]

I agree🙌🙌🙌

[@maggyfrog]

@@stanislavshapiro that's cool too.

[@erwang]

What if there is no meaning?

[@maggyfrog]

@@erwang i don't think any of the guests had ever had that opinion though.

[@456yukon]

u edit it and sell it to him

[@MrTrollerful]

Brings in experts in every field.* Lex: let's talk about love. Keep up the good work lol

[@MustObeyTheRules]

He talks like he’s always tripping on acid. “love is the answer”

[@Cofeeman911]

@Da Real Killa Kotik Chickatilla Based on what I've seen of him, he's really lonely (romantically), and by talking about other's love, he compensates for it. I could be wrong but as I'm single all my life, hearing about love, makes me hopeful too.

[@s.tahsin.r2288]

And still we love him. Don't we?

[@Cofeeman911]

​@Da Real Killa Kotik Chickatilla It might better, but being alone for a long time is really painful.

[@Cofeeman911]

@Da Real Killa Kotik Chickatilla I hope so too, and I'll continue seeking love, but for some reason, girls have no interest in me.

[@husseinazher]

"People don't lie to you about themselves, they lie to themselves in your presence." -Lisa

[@johndoe4073]

1:46:05 - "Choose relationships that allow you to be your best self/selves." - Lisa Feldman Barrett

[@royalecondrey]

"ive been really into stalin and hitler recently--IN TERMS OF READING" good save, lex

[@weebsreact1087]

The best Podcast on KZbin.

[@ramblerwong7642]

100%

[@scottmcfarland9965]

I completely agree!

[@vikranttyagiRN]

On every platform

[@dignan193]

Lex is the best!

[@MFnDahk]

I need him to have salty cracker on.. that would be a helluva show.

[@kal2487]

I've just adored your talks with Lisa Feldman Barrett and Sara Seager and ordered their books as a result. Thank you!

[@karenkilbane8043]

So good...thanks for letting us eavesdrop:)

[@FunkyCold.]

"A man after my own heart" Please never change Lex, always looking forward to what you bring us next !

[@yashbijlani6652]

Elon is returning soon!

[@Grey_Just_Grey]

You have the best show on the web, Lex. And Lisa is such a great guest! Please, never quit, Bro! Love from the UK.

[@ogegadaniel4439]

This is what the Internet was created for. Thanks Lex.

[@dangiscongrataway2365]

YES LISA FELDMAN RETURNS My prayers have been answered, thank you simulators for following after my binaries

[@earthgirl0225]

Lisa is one of my favorite neuroscientists for the ability to put neuroscience in layman's terms and for being humble.

[@kingleunitas5920]

Lex is the next big Podcast! He is very relatable and he's turning into a great interviewer!

[@aydtsang]

42:40 exactly why I listen to Lex, it's rare that you see smart people on the internet who aren't just trying to teach and tell

[@lucidchem]

Hell yeah! She's one of my favourite guests, if not my favorite. Happy to see her on the podcast again!

[@courtneypuyear2877]

"Sometimes, love is a 6-way plug". That is a key quote in this entire podcast. Life is short, and the one thing we could all hope to find as humans, is someone that understands us to the point to where no one else outside would understand us. That is when you know, you are living at the pinnacle of life regaurdless of your personal successes, or your wealth.

[@iamup5et]

I absolutely adore how much genuine information I can get on recent events like the virus and election news off lex and rogan. Way better than the industrial media complex imo.

[@bilallaaroussi7110]

Rogan not so much ...

[@MattAngiono]

Rogan is nowhere near the quality of this.... I was one of his first fans, but eventually grew out of his approach and perspectives... I don't feel smarter after watching his show. This however....! Check out Rebel Wisdom or The Stoa for some great conversations on a whole different level, and get different approach.... There's some eye opening stuff there

[@brunoribaric9683]

2:03:57 The way he says "Yeah, yeah, let's go tangents. Great." killed me

[@Howitchewstofeel5gum]

Nobody has as dry of a delivery as Lex 😆

[@fanwang6255]

Here comes again our all time favourite lady!

[@boevec1]

I have been chomping at the bit for this episode! I love Dr. Feldman Barrett! She's such a cool person and love exposing my daughter to such brilliant woman. Which coincidently, today is her birthday and looking forward to sharing this episode with her!

[@applejax1017]

I'm so glad parents like you exist! This comment made my day!

[@muttananba5071]

Wonderful, lovely conversation, once again. Plus, her voice is soooo soothing.

[@DominicDSouza]

So wonderful! As you closed the podcast, I had a big smile on my face. Thank you both!

[@WARSfate]

So excited for this one! Almost done with Lisa’s book. Thank you both!

[@camillacalhoun1089]

Once again astounded. Great guest. Thanks for letting us listen to such precious, thought provoking conversations Lex!

[@Alynnescape]

i very much enjoyed getting to know Lisa. I would really appreciate hearing more kinds of conversations in this vein. It's nice to hear from a very intelligent woman and see how they express themselves semi casual conversationally. It's very rare and I am grateful. Take care

[@gamingbucko3215]

"It's cool to look at adults and just think...that use to be a baby."- Lex Fridman 2020

[@dhaworth75]

This second interview with Lisa Feldman Barrett was thoroughly enjoyable and educational.. I love your style of questioning, Lex Nobody else is showcasing these types of conversations with scientists.

[@bradfox7997]

Hey Lex Can you do more of solo episodes is time permits. It would help us to better understand your perspective while you talk to guests.

[@natediaz449]

Colleges should not start so we can educate ourselves with these types of gems on the internet

[@Jacob_A_OBrien]

Both Lex and Lisa were trained within universities. That does not represent all they are or all their knowledge but university can be a great place for training in your chosen field. You get to meet many professors, almost all of which are deep experts in their field. Moreover, both conducted their research within a university. Years of research and reading changes you in ways that are hard to predict.

[@natediaz449]

@@Jacob_A_OBrien great professors and conducting research 😅😅 not in india bro.The professors come and read their ppt and that's about it and research is absolutely 0.

[@Hisa1shi]

Great job on this interview, Lex! Your ability to reach out of your sphere of knowledge to ask insightful questions is admirable!

[@Stadtpark90]

2:15 just listen to the lengths she went to to find a husband after she had secured her career (!) and was already divorced once (!) - and then, after how many (?) failures / fallen through candidates she is finding the man who she’s plunging into multiple hour long conversations with (>20h/ “equivalent to five dates”), meets him in person, introduces him to her friends and then still denies “love at first sight” - (Lex is our hero and is saving my day / my world model by being insistent here until she comes up with “The rock and the ocean” / Maine in December story.) 20:56 The rock and the ocean (- and a bit of prelude of “I feel like I’m falling in love with you”) 23:20 still no love at first sight? “Well... the brain is a predictive organ... - it’s filling in all of the gaps.” But isn’t that what love is? 24:38 always see the best in each other 24:58 when you find somebody who not just appreciates your faults but loves you for them, maybe even doesn’t see them as a fault 26:01 “the optimal margin of illusion” / “When someone says ‘You’re not who I thought you were!’ - Well, whose fault is that?!” 28:48 does knowing how the sausage is made distract from the experience / make it less magical? vs Babies in the park 32:19 The two rooms (- Lex answering his own question differently than Lisa)

[@giareece3223]

Hey Lex, just watched your show with Lisa Barrett. It was pleasant with a good comfortable flow, like two old friend’s catching up. Interesting switch from your other guest.::Hoping you have her on again soon. Loved your thoughts about relationships, breaking up and Vegas! Lex, I hope you never change! Your such a welcomed change giving your viewers a great variety in entertainment selection. It’s really nice to see a person who’s not afraid to be his true self. It’s making you one popular dude, stand strong, your the best!

[@thesoul3461]

I love the intro part of lex's podcasts. The way he softly swings his head, raises the brows up and down. It's fun to see.

[@OzoneFineArtVentures]

Absolutely love her, thank you for having Lisa on again. I enjoyed your first conversation profusely and watched the Huberman/LFB on Instagram as well (and will be devouring her new book soon). As per tradition, you were able to have a totally unique conversation with her, as you do with all of your guests. Thank you for hitting it out of the park every time you step up to the plate.

[@BitcoinDad]

Such a heart-warming conversation

[@da-qz6li]

this podcast has turned into one of my faves. pure wonderfulness

[@lvtutorials3039]

Round 3 is overdue Lex. It will make you feel good and it will make the Internet better. Spread the love.

[@jbalger_01]

This is THE BEST love story EVER!! Thanks for sharing Lisa. Back to the pod...

[@Wellspring.speaking]

Just started to get into your interviews. You're a really great host. You know how to get the best from people. Thank you for your work!

[@marybusan7507]

Thank you both for another great podcast together! 💕🌺

[@MarkoStevMusic]

Just today, I was thinking about how I should rewatch your podcast with her... And now round 2. So delighted. Thanks.

[@mz282]

lex back at it again i feel weridly addicted to these podcast or maybe its just a youtube addiction haha regardless amazing convo as always, all the best lex and lisa

[@NickolasGoadSD]

"Can you speak to the stickiness.." Oh Lex! haha. Loved this one, excellent guest!

[@x0rn312]

I loved her take on Borat, we need to find the goodness in each other.

[@sammatysen]

Hi Lex, just wanted to let you know I really enjoy your conversations. Before I never really listened to a podcast, but yours captivated me by both their great guests and some of your personal convictions that shine through regarding love and empathy since they reflect my own. It's very wholesome to have these topics discussed by people of large intelligence in so many different fields. Keep up your great work and thank you for sharing!

[@An123Observer]

Thanks for this fantastic interview. I hope you bring her back again and again.... shes fantastic 😊

[@ewazbrozyna3054]

I think I’ve found another favourite interviewer. Thanks Lex for great questions you always ask. With Lisa, you two are a wonderful duo!!!!

[@tommyjhback]

Well done. Nothing better than a long and deep conversation intertwined with personal stories.

[@g0ddyie]

Stop reading comments lex.

[@chriss729]

Bad advice. Keep reading feedback and don’t seal yourself off from criticism.

[@g0ddyie]

@@chriss729 He needs some off-time lol, Too much of anything is good for nothing

[@chriss729]

@Attox I'd say both. Your friends are more biased than random people.

[@kshitijeminem]

Some solid points from all of you, can't win - Can't lose, no matter what he chooses to do

[@johnekopy]

Read the comments like you read Amazon reviews. Ten percent of the people have a broken brain before they arrived. Just skip past those and read what actual people think.

[@lestercrafton]

One of the happiest days is any day with a new Lex podcast.

[@ik9881]

Thanks!

[@eagleeggs3862]

this ladies the best she really resonates

[@lizgichora6472]

Brilliant Conversation Lex fridman and Lisa Feldman ; on fascinating topics of the senses and perceptions that are always a phenomenon worthy to explore.

[@--OFFLINE]

This reminds me of one of his appearances in Joe Rogan when they had only been in conversation for about five minutes and then Joe says “you’re a romantic guy, you should get married.” And he’s right. And whoever it is whenever that happens, is a lucky person, whoever has him as a friend even, is a lucky person. The same for Lisa. Great people. They inspire me.

[@liemle82]

Thank you Lisa and Lex for that conversation

[@georgetacarmen8824]

I enjoyed this conversation. I didn't really expect to listen to a love story on Valentine's Day. I feel a bittersweet feeling listening to this. I think that I've closed myself off from finding love anymore. But, it was a really sweet love story. I felt it. I hope that all of Lex's dreams come true. He's a special guy.

[@AbsurdTube]

"ants, in that regard, are really impressive". . .Lex just gets pumped about so many things, love it.

[@bc9137]

Thank you Lexie (Another beautiful and highly interesting conversation)

[@davidcowley]

Another great podcast Mr Fridman. Lisa Feldman Barrett is a great guest. Love listening to you both, you really bring the best out in people. Your questions are great, I guess your genuine interest and feedback bring out great responses from your guests.

[@patrickcompton1483]

So glad to see lisa back on, her perspective is so great.

[@geokat5403]

Oh my God let’s thank you thank you so much you are such a beacon of hope in this darkness that we’re living in I love you so much

[@CricketsMa]

Completely delightful. Just downloaded her books as well as one she recommended. I hope she will be returning.

[@FahrosXIV]

What a sweet start to the conversation. Glad you both decided to take the time.

[@upashanaghimire4506]

I love her . I am so glad i found her via lex poadcast. Thank you so much !!

[@hannibalfordinner]

First off Lex you are great! Your conversations are intriguing and compelling. You offer a very unique and valued perspective on various subjects in life and gave me the best fashion tip I've ever received. Now I have to decide what suit to buy 7 of, along with a great option for my nutritional needs as I do plan on at least trying athletic greens.

[@tommymesquita]

I haven't watched the first discussion but saw the post for this earlier. I'm definitely going back to watch part one. Great job Lex.

[@conceptflow]

I would absolutely love to see Douglas Hofstadter on the podcast. He wrote Godel, Escher, Bach and also made roombas / robots that make noise like you mention. Thanks for everything!

[@MattAngiono]

Have you read the more recent "I Am a Strange Loop?" It builds on the same concepts, but adds a whole new perspective.... It's sitting on my coffee table right now, filled with little tabs of interesting thoughts and quotes I wanted to remember! 😁 And yes, he'd be such an awesome guest!

[@WMFOREVERYOUNG]

Last year I found your podcast and now I can't live without it. Such a thought provoking show 🤔 love it. ❤️❤❤ I'm about to have 20 years of marriage. LOVE is the answer

[@Jamie-Russell-CME]

Love is a commitment. Faults are places to improve. Things that are less lovely to most which are appreciated by a spouse are quarks. Love is a connection that you have to develop. You will be surprised what can work if you keep yourself as charitable as possible. Being humble and selfless doesn't hurt. As long as you are matched with an equally committed person who seeks the same kind of relationship. It begins and ends with commitment.

[@RITUVLOGSTODAY]

Oh my god, i'm LOVING THIS EPISODE SO MUCCCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@Giggitydodap]

"when we got together you're not who I thought you were" "Well who's fault is that?" Thankyou for this, perfect. My partner of over a year decided to end things this week and I've been really beating myself up about it since the problems stem from my own shortcomings. But to be fair I warned her before how I was before we got together

[@Coringus]

Have a good day Lex, thanks for your podcasts :)

[@dignan193]

Very interesting questions here, Lex. Really enjoying this interview.

[@motivationforbreakfast]

Listening to this on my morning walk! Excited!

[@eaf888]

my dad gave me a power bar for Christmas this year!! grateful

[@Keith-dv9vo]

Lex is steadily rising to be my favorite podcaster!! Keep up the good work. I love how your " stupid questions" are awesome questions lol

[@jusitnd2883]

I just bought your new book... I'm So Excited to read it. Huge fan!

[@consumer1843]

Very sweet, real, and AGI should view this conversation.

[@nas3426]

Another great podcast I came across! Thank you Lex, you are amazing 🙏🏼

[@hiepvu5497]

You are such a prolific podcaster Lex!

[@kalimouser9385]

This woman is amazing and her book is fascinating

[@ryanrutledge922]

Can u guys please keep talking forever please . Than k u . Love from canada

[@romanengland9544]

Lex, I'm so happy you started a podcast.

[@JimmyDShea]

I love this podcast. Much love, Lex

[@prakhyatshankesi9391]

waiting for your channel to touch 1 Million subscribers

[@jpkaneshida5075]

LFB on Lex's pod = time well invested

[@your_guitar_buddy]

I wonder if Lex reads the comments 🤔 This conversation is great! You can tell Lex has been honing his conversational skills. He seems more calm and balanced, in turn the conversations flow. Nice!

[@dmanstarr]

I love it when she calls him “Lexi”. So goddamn cute. 🥰

[@ryanrutledge922]

"sometimes you are human " profound insight Lex . ❤from🇨🇦

[@ceciliaserafini344]

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Cheers from Argentina.

[@bazingacurta2567]

You look so happy lately Lex! I'm glad

[@rui569]

More conversations on evolution would be sweet. One of the more fascinating theories that I've come around.

[@lisamuir4261]

I enjoyed this interview. I do say it's quite easy to make a girl happy. Really liked the wall plug gift share. I also appreciate the wording of people lying to themselves in front of you. Thank you Lex and Lisa.

[@kurt8263]

Lex WILL have 2 million subz by the end of 2021. Maybe 3. The sky is the limit.

[@NotSureWhatToPut]

great episode, lex, thank you

[@taehyeokjang6951]

Always thankful for great videos.

[@N8y5000]

Lex, I need a few more episodes with Lisa - brilliant scientist. Another great biologist who I hope you have on and that I think you'd love is Robert Sapolsky. Stephen Pinker too.

[@rewi_the_kiwi]

Sending love from new zealand. Looking forward to this one!

[@TheAneraaaa]

I love your podcast so much. Thank you.