Emotional Detachment; Overcome Powerful Negative Emotions Caused by Unhealed Inner Child Wounds

[@BenAvodot]

Thank you for this video. I’ve been watching you for a while now, and I’ve gained so much understanding regarding my past traumas and how they affect my life. Working towards detachment feels right, and I’ll let it go.

[@lisabrummett6075]

I'm so beyond grateful that I found your channel. Thank you for helping me on my healing journey ✨🙏💗😅

[@saveldaniels7773]

Suffering itself is not bad....it creates self-awareness.......

[@CammieHupp-f9s]

Thank you so much. Everyone around me is so needy. It drains the crap out of me. I hide from people.

[@jennaletizia5430]

I cling to people. So hard to detach. It’s heartbreaking to me

[@cuteziyanta1473]

Same

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

Enmeshment

[@usersss100]

i feel you. what i did trying to detach myself is to ask myself if i did my best in the relationship with that person given the circumstances i was in. If i did, my conscience is clear and i know i did things responsibly. Its not fair to myself if the other person doesnt appreciate what i did for them. My feelings, emotions and thinking shouldnt be dictated by the other party just because it didnt meet their standards. We should be responsible for our own feelings rather than letting others affect it. So the only way to have control of our emotions/feelings etc is be able to detached emotionally. It takes practice and some logical reasoning. Whatever the relationship might be; friendships, family or romantic, once we are able to detach emotionally, we will automatically do what we feel is responsible to them without having type of expectations of the outcome. If its a negative outcome, we will feel less hurt because we are detached. If its a positive outcome, we will feel good that the other person appreciates and knows how to reciprocate what we did for them. Let the positives build and reinforce. If its continual negative outcomes, ask ourselves if should we be in a relationship with this person.

[@charlie-obrien]

I began watching your KZbin videos about 5 years ago when I was in a real crisis over the lasting effects that narcissists and alcoholics had had on my life. I was at the crux of whether the rest of my life would be a success on my own terms or rather I would remain miserable and adrift, steered by others. I have watched intermittently since then and also began to develop better habits around diet and exercise. All of these things contributed to an overall healthier and more "above the veil", me. But the number one thing that has made a difference is the use of meditation as a regular practice, using it to help calm my mind and also to "count my blessings" (so to speak), and to let myself go blank. Today's video reinforced so much of what you have taught and shown me over these past few years and I am grateful, not only for myself, but for others also, that you continue to provide this very necessary message and guidance. Thank you once again and may you always be blessed in your life and in your vocation.

[@sunnyadams5842]

Lisa got me going on meditation - the idea of SLOWING IT ALL DOWN!! - too, and it has made ALL the difference for me too.

[@Justin-er2bq]

If I just breathe, I, focused rythmic breathing, i feel so much better I just gotta remember that I can use that too feel better😅

[@kristinmichael6191]

Thank you so much Lisa Marano! You have inspired me again. I just escaped my narcissistic Husband and I need this guidance! You are wonderful ❤

[@zzzcocopepe]

Oh wow! I have to detach from my own emotions! That's a key point that really helped me. Thank you for that. Because, I've always been good at detaching but I've never necessarily examined what exactly it is that I'm doing. And somewhere along the way I got a little confused. Kind of like what you said about how in our 30 we examine our lives. And I started interrupting my own process of Detachment and went awry. So now I'm trying to get back into that headspace again. And I've been really struggling with it. And when you said that, about how we detach from our own emotions. That clicked it into place. Because, I work with a lot of really horrible people. And they really get in the way of my own success. They really interrupt my process when I'm trying to detach. So it makes it really hard, it exacerbates the problem. So when you said that, I realized that I'm getting even more worked up, not because they're exacerbating the problem. But because I'm mad at my own response. So when I stopped reacting to my own negative reaction, it resolved the problem. However, that still doesn't resolve the issue of the person who has been harassing me. But, it does resolve my own anxiety and panic or Madness that occurs from it. Once I become a master of that technique, of healthy detachment. Then I can start to overcome that conflict, of people who bother me and exacerbate problems for me

[@patrickbinford590]

Psychological process through ACTUALLY dealing with the stuff you NEVER thought you could deal with is SUPER IMPORTANT. The observer IS the observed.

[@josephcollins6033]

i'm glad you got rid of that first jerk you had. I think he came directly to me next!

[@SavedByGrace806]

“True love heals and affects spiritual growth. If we do not grow because of someone else's love, it's generally because it is a counterfeit form of love. True love is unconditional positive regard. Unconditional positive regard allows us to be whole and accept all the parts of ourselves. To be whole we must reunite all the shamed and split-off aspects of ourselves”

[@VanessaSimon26]

@SavedByGrace806 exactly. True love affects our spiritual. When our spouse gaslights and are “ Avoidants” well it brings up our childhood wounds. If their behavior continues for years it causes very low esteem. And let me not even go into a husband that withholds intimacy and sex. Emotional and physical neglect erodes a person.

[@angelafayesims1563]

Thank you soon much for affirming my journey to healing😇🥰🙃

[@val-id8vi]

thank you Katy Perry for teaching me about the law of detachment

[@mokyan7]

Thanks! This is a fantastic video. I will rewatch and practice meditation and emotional detachment as I pursue healing codependency traits while in a discouraging marriage with a covert narc.

[@lisaaromano1]

Hey thank you Dear One!

[@tinabrooks4397]

Thanks so much. I realize that I am codependent and suffer from childhood trauma and my father was an alcoholic. I married a narcissist beyond nothing I have experienced before. Not being myself has rendered me speechless and child like because he always shamed me when I am vulnerable because according to the Bible so he says , feelings are not allowed. I could cry a river , but I allow him in my life, and my feelings about him are nothing but contempt. I need work on myself, but having him in my life is like a relapse. One more thing, it’s the lies, the gaslighting, the know it all mentally he has because he’s a minister. Ouch.

[@lisaaromano1]

A religious narcissist is hard to deal with. Don’t let that stop you from healing your broken parts. www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp

[@CHOOSE_TO_BE_U]

@tinabrooks4397 My heart goes out to you...I assumed for a long long time because I did not know any better, that having a close relationship with God a person would become like JESUS. Only after it was pointed out to me, did I realize this belief was wrong. I have met unhealthy, unsafe, narcissitic people in the church. Those who attend all the time, serve and are very involved. I have met people who have no self-awareness or very little. People who lack empathy & compassion. I'm sorry you were told feelings are not allowed. That is not Biblical. JESUS wept. I hope you realize you matter and your husband is not doing a very good job!! I hope you make yourself a priority and reach out to people who you can trust and feel safe with to begin to heal. God cares very much about you and ALL that concerns you. I hope you let Him minister to your injured soul for HE is near the broken-hearted. Bless you dear one, bless you!

[@tinabrooks4397]

@@CHOOSE_TO_BE_U thank you so much. Blessings.

[@dwanavent3067]

🙏🙏❤️

[@aviana3841]

Read a book = anxiously attached ❤

[@alexpelayo9946]

Reach your zen, so that we can help others. We release ourselves first, then through Acts of service, we help others emotionally detach in order for everyone you inspire to help the universe and humanity with the greater good in mind. Thank you for this amazing message.

[@disappearingremedy7400]

Reading your third book is a goal of mine. I've read the first two. I love your work ❤️

[@Lorettaforbes1]

Quantum tools is my favorite

[@teresarodriguez821]

What a beautiful photo of your husband and you, it's so lovely. Thank you! to your husband and family for sharing you with all of us empathetic people choosing to live life on our terms without toxicity.

[@breeze529]

This helped me tremendously on my vacation this weekend. I prayed to God to guide me in a high emotional state. Next day I saw this and gained understanding about myself

[@baleny]

Incredible video, reminds me to recommit to meditation, visualizing and manifestation. So many golden nuggets in this clip, I relate to your story so much. And I’m a recovering codependent, the patterns of narc abuse that resulted in me picking partners ironically very much like my mother. How she withheld love, manipulated, controlled, portrayed herself as the ultimate martyr, the cognitive dissonance I experienced as a child that felt so familiar in my adult life - I knew that pain and confusion, it was home. Except, I was sick and lacked rational thought or reasoning - so thank God, AA, my sponsor Nic, my psychotherapist, my hypnotherapist, YOU and so many other amazing humans like you for walking with me, with all of us on our respectively insane journeys into the LIGHT. God bless you Lisa ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@kaylankrolikowski]

I absolutely love this video! It puts everything I have said and thought about detachment into the perfect words! Thankful for these wonderful messages!

[@akjenx8319]

When I entered how to detach emotionally in the search bar and saw your video, I knew that your words of wisdom would be perfect for what I've been experiencing. You never disappoint and somehow are exactly on topic with what I've been experiencing. I've never mediatated to clear my mind, but I will definitely start. I want to live above the veil. Thank you

[@CharlesJFilmsProductions]

bahut-bahut dhanyavaad, sister.

[@eirinstevenson7738]

Thank you for this video! The timing, I needed this. After going no contact for a little over a year, I see how my emotional attachment to ideas and beliefs followed me. They keep me stuck in pain, even though I finally physically escaped/cut off the abuse.

[@candymilton]

Your Gods open door for me so i can give back and help others ❤

[@SelfLove65]

I keep trying my meditation. I see my "monkey mind," like you say. My fears keep scaring me more than anything else and I know now, they are from my chidhood trauma abandonment. I want get through it. I feel the love coming from all scientists included you Lisa A Romano. I appreciate it immensely. ❤❤❤❤❤

[@mariahernadez9702]

Thank you soooooo much for this community Lisa! Your channel is powerfully real & is helping me grow & heal safely, allowing me to be compassionate on myself ❤️ keep doing what you do, we need your empowering real deal encouragement!

[@majorimages6401]

You rock. Thank you for this.

[@candymilton]

You are a blessing. I have a toxic family who tried so hard make it look like i was just making things up and i was crazy.

[@lisamartinez5888]

Yes, I'm identifying with what you're saying. I just started your Inner Child Journaling program. Thank you for everything you're doing. It really speaks to me. Blessings ❤

[@D_Isness]

This content is absolutely brilliant.

[@johnsegura1093]

This video is so healing for me

[@WoundedWarrior77]

Great advice, it’s so on point! And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. John 8:32

[@janeenmpellicane956]

This is One of your best that has resonated with me! Ty Lisa. ❤️

[@marren6323]

Thank you Lisa. I always appreciate your commitment to boldly share your experiences and insights about your own healing and growth. I find your messages inspiring and empowering.

[@Sandra-mq1nb]

Yes, I'm in my fifties & very very happy getting 3 years ago a recommendation of your channel 🙏 It literally changed my life !! And today, I had an other ephiphany with this video🔮 Although I'm since a while on my healing path - thank you from the bottom of my heart Be blessed dear Lisa 🎆

[@candymilton]

I live alone and hve no and no family to be there for me and support. God is the only i need. He blessed me with my dog to that helped me depend on him always.

[@jammy5181]

Wow this is exactly what I needed at this exact moment. Thank you for sharing your story and helping me feel seen and like I can heal in the same way

[@kimberlymccracken747]

You're up early my friend 🌷 Happy Easter 🐰🧺🐣 Know you're loved 💝

[@evanowenby3541]

Thank you Lisa

[@_cr8ive_]

Extremely powerful segment. Packed with insightful understanding. 💯👌🏻👍🏻🙏🏻

[@43warriormode98]

Powerful..needed these words !!! Truth ☝️ thank you Lisa ❤

[@rachelcoloradomy3kidz778]

Very helpful and You are amazing and Thank You 💖🙏 😘

[@emptynesters2520]

Love this video Lisa, thank you!💖

[@lisaaromano1]

So glad!

[@lovesylvia2621]

Such a life changing video 😭 😢Thank you from the depths of my heart, Lisa. Thank you for all your teachings 😭 ❤

[@John-mh7uz]

Thank you for this

[@saveldaniels7773]

Amazing insight. Thanks for your wisdom and for sharing!

[@flowersunandmoon]

Wow this was so wonderful! Thank you for your wisdom !

[@zahreenasimone7303]

You are so right on!👍

[@CDV99]

Thank you for these insightful tools. I will be working on consciously strengthening my detachment skills.

[@mariacvonloewenfeld6713]

Thank you Lisa. I think this is all your most powerful video. It sure helped clarify many ideas for me

[@izawaniek2568]

I am so grateful for having found you Lisa and feel honoured to have had the chance to learn so much from you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Happy Easter. God bless you ❤

[@evanowenby3541]

Very good assessment &knowledge of alot of people . Good uplifting video and way to speak to our acknowledgment. ❤

[@TransformativeMind]

Best video ive ever listened too thank you

[@TanekiaSmith-z5l]

Everything that you were saying. Im going through the same thing

[@mitche5007]

Thank you Lisa :) I would say that Bashar is another good source of help understanding as well :)

[@sarahshaw-sehgal1146]

Excellent explanation as always Lisa ❤❤❤ Happy Easter

[@gladysmarine8794]

Thank you

[@debbiemagee3519]

Good morning, Lisa! Happy Easter! Wonderful video, hearing your work helps me every, single day. Thank you so much for all that you do!

[@PaulinaAmaralMedeiros]

I love this video it describes me very well, I need to learn to detach

[@dionprice114]

Awesome video! Thanks

[@elizabethcummings2283]

Thank Yoiu

[@Sheandmotherhood]

great video!

[@Goldenheart2911]

Excellent video, analogy and visual Lisa.💛 Wishing you and your beautiful family a Blessed and Happy Easter 🐣 By taking baby steps, believing in yourself and wanting to find the answers within that will lead you on the path to a healthier and happier life have faith that you are one step closer to getting there.💛 Namaste🙏❤️✨🕊️😌

[@iloveFreedom.]

Really appreciate this intel a lot, Thankyou 🎉❤🎉

[@Consiouschoices]

❤ Spot on!

[@blessed1969]

This is awesome! Wish I could afford your course 😢 when you listed the ways we may have been wounded in childhood, literally all of them happened to me. It was eye opening,..Im surprised I made it this far not totally cracking!

[@eyesaidit5195]

Excellent

[@jennaletizia5430]

I will know the truth sooner rather then later.

[@IamAnson777]

But i feel so hopeless because i didn't realize this until now at age 62😢 .... It's too late to go back and re-raise my 25 yo son or to be able to have a happy romantic relationship.... Why couldn't i have woken up at age 35 or 40?? I was diagnosed as bipolar and codependent at age 25 but that was 40 years ago and no help from therapists for the 15 years i went... None of them helped me .. Thank God for your channel for the younger ones who have more life ahead of them

[@deelish58]

I was 60 and wish the same. It's too late but it's not over

[@Lorettaforbes1]

I love your videos. 😊🎉

[@fightswithspirits915]

Very helpful, thank you. I have totally embraced the inner child and his programming. I'm deeply concerned that IC had no real understanding of reality and was totally self centered. While some things were certainly hurtful, there's no doubt IC conclusions have lots of room for error and I carry around those errors as default responses. There must be way to perform a general reset. If we're software, there's a reset to factory specs. I'm totally not digging being bound by a 5-7 year old emotional state. It's total crap.

[@daynagriego9392]

My husband is very abusive. He watches corn and when I tell him to stop, I am emotionally and verbally abused by him! I need to detach from him!!😢

[@natalia6g]

I hear you, my husband follows provocative girls on instagram and I hate showing him that it bothers me, but when I do he gets mad and says all men do it. And now we’re separating..

[@skywolfvr]

No not all men do it, but most yes ​@@natalia6g

[@sofy786]

What kind of meditation should we do please

[@josephsworldoftaekwondo5059]

Funny. I was never aware of my physical responses to toxic people or stress. I was never aware of the ques from folks that scream “run”.

[@hatchet8209]

Subconscious is basically habits and should be called that. Doing things without your realizing it out of habit.

[@irinamladenoska7539]

I know exactly what happened to me. I am a child of one codependent alvoholic parent and one covert narc parent.

[@yumifl.5133]

great knowledge but how does a child define that emotional threat and what can percieve of it when they are older? As a child of trauma how do you know when your brain had not even started to develope, but yet you can recall it(the trauma)?? just asking? thanks

[@shadowshilling9498]

But I can’t stop crying 😢I checked more boxes than not and I need help to stop crying please! ❤

[@Christine-nj3kl]

Emotional detach

[@thebirima91]

I am a child from a mother who gave me up for adoption. Spent my first year in an orphanage house to be adopted after one year. I later learned that the caretakers were told not to bind with the children over there. Now I am with a woman who can't reciprocate due to undiagnosed aspergers. Isn't that all ironic? Feel so f*cked up. Trying to detach from my partner who is also the mother of my three children. Thank you for the insightfull video.

[@dexorne9753]

Ive been emotionally detached since my early teens, it fucking sucks. Im not unhappy, but im never happy either. Repressing feelings is not a one way street.

[@sunnyadams5842]

So neato to see a pic of u n ur sweetie ❤

[@peggygarcia1131]

8:55

[@Pond770]

can you recommend any] drugs that would put me in the state recommendations please

[@lucyadeclat8901]

Lisa, do you take new clients? I am looking for a therapist.

[@lisaaromano1]

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[@C5iqx]

Hello! How about someone used to know all that been said in ur video and practice it every now and then until his mid twenties. Like i Was a pro of mastering my feelings. But after one narcissist relationship in my late twenties, my whole world has collapsed and I figured out that i lost all the control over my emotions! How do u describe that Lisa?

[@charitymaggie9313]

Am dying pliz help me overcome this

[@nicholecornes1915]

You have too

[@stanleymaestas5441]

This Wednesday youtube channel chosen 144 000. RJ Spina interview 👍

[@JohnSmith-ks5xw]

I have heard that women's defenses start to unravel in their 30s and men's defenses start to unravel in their 40s. Usually.

[@tt5405]

Thank you Lisa. Do you have a book on the steps to heal from codependency? I’m struggling w/ anxiety from abandonment in my relationships and not sure where it’s coming from.

[@lisaaromano1]

Check out my program www.lisaaromano.com/12wbcp

[@Lizbeth-vt2nm]

Did you separate from your abusive husband? Or by emotionally detaching were you able to cope with your relationship to him?

[@lovesylvia2621]

She separated from him & is now happily married to a different person 🩷

[@charlottebarden9221]

Do you know how a child being raised by narcissistic can escape without growing up obedient, passive, allowing them to be the prey of narcissist?

[@charlottebarden9221]

What can a little child do?

[@djignatin4043]

My mother (a covert narc) used to always talk about "attachment and connection." She needed to make people her objects. That is how she needed to attach or connect to people. She treats people as objects because she is too traumatized to relate to people emotional. I know now, that she was attaching or connecting through a false self. As a codependent, I do the opposite.

[@josephcollins6033]

I need to say with love and empathy that if you are beginning to have doubts about your FAITH you are in great shape! You are beginning to think critically in an area which tolerates NO critical thinking. All religions are ancient and false. Religion was created by MEN, before we knew anything, to help us with 3 things- fear of death, wonder and to give us magic spells (prayer). You're welcome!

[@DrPhilGoode]

Brother….let me tell you something. Most people like you brother…haven’t spent deep long hard time in the scriptures brother. Actually hold on a sec brother ….never-mind good brother. I can’t get past Genesis 1:3-5 & 1: 16-18. Day 1-God spoke the light into existence. vs 3-5 Day 4-God made 2 great lights. The sun (day) and moon (night) v 16-19 What was the light on day 1 if the sun was on day 4? And why on day 4 did God create 2 separate lights and send them to separate places for 2 different jobs? Especially when he knew the moon was NOT a light , but merely a reflection of the sun?

[@josephcollins6033]

@@DrPhilGoode I'm a bit confused, and thank you for writing. It sounds as if you began to preach to me and then discovered that the Bible is ridiculous. I do want you to know that I know the Bible very, very well and translated much of it when I was in seminary. As you seem to say above, one cannot get past the first chapter!

[@DrPhilGoode]

@@josephcollins6033 Yes..I started to preach at you before getting only a few verses inside the first book… before getting stumped. I was joking though. A bit of drama while proving your original comment to be true.

[@josephcollins6033]

@@DrPhilGoode It was great. But, this is unusual. You were going to preach at me, telling me that people like myself don't know the Bible; when you had not read it? That's funny. I'm really intrigued at where your thoughts on religion were when you read my statement. You obviously are a gentleman who thinks. I'm a doctor, too, but not in medicine. If you have a chance please tell me about yourself and religion. Your comments are the most interesting I have had on KZbin. Thanks!

[@DrPhilGoode]

@@josephcollins6033 When you over explain my joke, it’s not as funny. 🤣 See another joke. Anyway I was raised in very strict and closed of independent fundamental baptist church and attended a small academy on the same campus. They were KJVO in every aspect and would not tolerate other Bible versions. They used circular reasoning to explain away what they could but as children we were not encouraged to ask questions. In fact we were discouraged to feel, think, ask, complain, show emotions etc We moved to Tennessee at 15 and I’m here now at 41. My young daughters 9 and 11 are encouraged to think critically and ask questions regardless if I have the answer. Im not 100% what I believe right now. I want my daughters to be older before they really identify with anything. I was 5 years old having nightmares about hell and by 7 I was “getting saved” every night. That is no way for a child to live. Even though I was joking about my Genesis preaching at you, one of the first passages I questioned on my own years ago was…He made 2 lights. One for day one for night. Wait a second…so God didn’t know the moon wasn’t a light? Anyway there ya go.

[@tanyakashyap6944]

🕊️🕊️🕊️

[@wheneaglesfly8211]

Namaste

[@julianal.573]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💐🤗

[@rascallyrabbit]

Judas betrayed Jesus rather than confront his own evil heart.