Living together un-married for 2 years at 25

[@mckenzymathe5557]

It’s so sad to see how people actually suffer because of their traditional beliefs. So because it’s believed that you can’t stay with a man because you will not get married is so sad.. LIVE IN THE MOMENT guys , you only die once and never come back . Yes tradition is important but at what cost are you going to value it.. we do so many things that are against tradition already so we might as well just be happy .

[@GayleMudjanima]

I’m going to pin this 😊😊😊 I guess put tradition first and you last🥹

[@SincerelyMayisha]

if you’re not doing anything against God’s commandments and will,guess its fine

[@nthabelengkubeka5073]

Imagine the double standards in this immorally sick society 😂 rather abstain from sex then while you at it. Sex before marriage is not just from society it’s Gods judgement. So ppl are more scared of ppl judging than God. Cohabiting is fine 😊

[@GayleMudjanima]

@nthabelengkubeka5073 It’s the hypocrisy for me ☺️

[@mckenzymathe5557]

@@nthabelengkubeka5073 what is a marriage ??? How is it performed ??

[@queenjohannes6316]

I have been living with my boyfriend for the past four years and it’s the best decision I have ever made ❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

So glad it’s going your way queen❤❤❤

[@mamelisa.official]

I love staying with baby zaddy hes more supportive than my actual family...he's already giving husband vibes. 1 year and 6 months staying together. 5 years dating ...our daughter is the happiest and the healthiest

[@GayleMudjanima]

This so beautiful to hear 🫂🥰

[@foxbat473]

Living with someone you not married to was the most difficult experience i will ever have, trust issues were always at the fore of our conversations

[@GayleMudjanima]

I’m sorry you had to experience it that way 🫂

[@taiminuunyango]

I am so glad you did what’s best for you ❤️ people are constantly always judging and projecting.

[@GayleMudjanima]

Let’s live our lives to what we want❤

[@katlegomolokoe4437]

Dear Sis, repent of Sexual immorality (cohabitation, fornication etc.).God hates cohabitation Sis. I know you probably don't want to hear it, but God's Word still speaks. Repent from cohabitation. Repent for the Kingdom of God is near, Jesus said!

[@GayleMudjanima]

🙊 🙈 🙉

[@MSMDLSKAM]

Wuug! Let who is without sin cast the first stone.

[@katlegomolokoe4437]

@@MSMDLSKAM none of us are sinless. But remember what did Jesus say to that woman? He said to her, "sin NO MORE!" Read the entire passage my brother so to get the Word of God in its completeness. If you love this lady, you would call her out to repentance, because Jesus died for her to redeem her from the bondages of sin. God brought redemption through the blood of his Son. So the sister must repent of her sins and receive forgiveness keeping with repentance before God.

[@onceupontheaoxamubs2204]

You absolutely right Gayle. “Live Life through your own Lense”. We concur. Also great video.

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you for watching 💗💗💗💗

[@ndeshimona_]

i’ve been staying with my man four years and we recently got engaged so living with the moment is always the best choice ❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

Congratulations 🍾🎊 Sometimes it’s really the other way around I mean why plan for the future and don’t even know what’s yet to come?

[@lisanaindjala2278]

Thank you so much for your experience Gayle, but i have personally seen cohabitation that lasted 20+ years and didn't end in marriage but people are different, I am still very much traditional. I would advice 1 year cohabitation before marriage while engaged of course otherwise its a big no.

[@GayleMudjanima]

Like you said people are different And will have different experiences I’ve seen people cohabiting before a few months of marriage Just for them to get divorced It’s a lot of factors at play and not just cohabitation being one alone ❤

[@lisanaindjala2278]

​@@GayleMudjanimaYes you're absolutely right

[@Nghilifa]

@@GayleMudjanima living together has nothing to do with it really. they didn't know each other properly, hence the divorce. People don't know how to date and enter into a courtship with one another these days, hence why so many are divorcing (just look at celebs, they have got all the money in the world and they still cannot keep it together).

[@alinatangeni1345]

Waited for this moment 🥳🥳🥳🥳 There's absolutely nothing wrong with living with your partner unmarried,,,, if I had a chance I will do it over and over as well 😌😎

[@GayleMudjanima]

You’ve done it before? See it doesn’t always go south please❤

[@mirjamndapewah1334]

loved this so much. People will always have something to say, whether you are doing good or bad, live your life. happy for you.

[@GayleMudjanima]

See,pointless to live up to their expectations and etc 😘

[@letiesapieters444]

Ag thank you for this! it is sooooo irritating that people make us un-married people that are co-habiting feel like we are never gonna get married or this and that. if you have a partner that does make your life easier then why not?

[@GayleMudjanima]

No really ,you’d say they see right through your future 😂😂🙊 You’re so welcome Letie

[@letiesapieters444]

@@GayleMudjanima my dear to each their own! 😆

[@johannashihepo4553]

I like it here mahn. You just let things flow in a natural way. I like how you really just tell the truth. Wow Gayle👏

[@GayleMudjanima]

We’re authentic on this channel Johanna❤

[@the_psa_shixa_music]

Glad to have you back on KZbin , this video really taught me to never take people’s negative advice and beliefs to heart but to just live in the moment and create my own rules in my own world 💆🏾‍♂️💜

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you,always remember It’s your story to tell ❤

[@helena_mwapiti6547]

The quality 🔥🔥🔥🔥 the background music 🔥🔥🔥🔥 the discussion 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@GayleMudjanima]

🙈 thank you Helena💗

[@TangeniFX]

There is nothing wrong with living/staying with your partner. These old beliefs are setting us back.

[@nonhlakaniphonkosi9204]

And this is a movement. Well done for the confidence in sharing and so many of us will follow in sharing our stories as black, african women living unmarried_ And Loving it

[@GayleMudjanima]

You’re so welcome 🌸

[@nonhlakaniphonkosi9204]

Whooo, I come back. 3 months Later since watching the video and 2 years Later of living with a boyfriend. Listen- I say to any unmarried lady... Stay away from such! That man should marry you if he wants to live with you. Anything that is worth hiding- is pure Darkness. Truly I tell you: There is no peace nor joy in a relationship that is hidden because you are always keeping up with lies. I left not because of family- Because I was tired of lying. I was a wife to someone and at home they knew nothing of it. That lie is exhausting to keep up- It eats on your soul. Then once you have suppressed your conscious enough! You are literally a zombie that lives off of empty words and promises from your partner. Goodness me I struggled to pray. I genuinely did. I was further and further from God. My life was not surrendered to God. I was buffeting the Word of God and when it suited me- I prayed for sustenance in my relationship. But I was not even viewing marriage as an institution of God. The Bible holds me accountable now. I simply cannot live life and just be pleasing myself. I want to live biblically now. And I am happy. I am at peace.

[@taiminuunyango]

I love the new quality 🥰❤️ must be that new camera gear Excited to watch this 😊

[@GayleMudjanima]

It’s giving neh😆 Thank you Tai❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

Please let’s interact in the comments 🫂

[@selmaNNangolo]

So authentic that I could listen to you talk all day. Lovely. 💕💕💕💕

[@GayleMudjanima]

Selma don’t let start start talking all day now 😂 Thank you 🫴🏼💕

[@emilypeace8535]

The submission part..sis..u nailed it😊

[@GayleMudjanima]

😆😆😆Thank you 😘

[@_ndeshie_8530]

I really enjoyed watching this video. You're so well spoken and if there is anything I'd take from this video to live life and make my decisions based on how I feel and not other people's opinions about it. Basically putting my happiness first. Everybody else will adjust. Thank you so much for the great content Gayle 🤗 I look forward to the next video.

[@GayleMudjanima]

Awwww thank you Ndeshie Always remember you make the rules no matter me else 🩵

[@beinghelvi]

I love a RELATABLE QUEEN 😍😍 Thank you for sharing ❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

You’re so welcome Helvi 🩵🩵🩵

[@HidinihambaHaitamba-hl2cm]

Cohabitation is a big red flag in my world!

[@tinashemashao]

The toilet paper question got it giggling. Great video 🙌🏽

[@GayleMudjanima]

Like seriously 😂😂😂

[@christophinehaihambo257]

Welcome back 🎉 And thanks a lot for sharing your experience❤...I have been leaving with My boyfriend for 3 years and I don’t regret anything,growing together as adults was great and we’re getting married in September 🙏🏾💃🏾

[@GayleMudjanima]

It’s really good to hear beautiful stories from these type of situations ❤ And you’re so welcome Congratulations to you Christophine 🎉🎉

[@celdaamakali4936]

Love this type of content its giving growing and glowing❤❤❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

You say ! Love this comment so much Celda❤

[@Fatima_Etuna]

Wow, really enjoyed this video, learned not to take other people’s beliefs to heart, and it’s a choice

[@GayleMudjanima]

Otherwise you’ll be living other people’s lives instead of yours ❤️ Glad it was informative!

[@Chartomy]

Live your life the way you see it fit. People will always find reason to critique you. Even after marriage. If their criticisms do not add value to your bank accounts, ignore. The best way to know someone’s true colours is by introducing shared space, food and money. Otherwise, you will get the shock of your life during marriage. Some people are even untidy 😅. Great video Gayle🙌🏽❤️

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you for a beautiful comment 🥹🫂

[@oliviamoneninafuka8170]

I loved it so much, your honesty is amazing. Keep doing you love🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you Olivia You too❤️❤️😊

[@Life_with_Saint]

Been living with my boyfriend 2.5 years 😊 and everything is just amazing, we grow , and learn each other every single day … 🥰 best decision

[@GayleMudjanima]

So happy it’s going well ,love to hear other perspectives ❤

[@annamarkus5519]

You’re a nice girlfriend especially there by annoyance 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I could never laugh about it 🤣🤣🤣

[@GayleMudjanima]

😂😂😂😂😂😂heee baba

[@Linoosworld]

I love the authenticity 🤍

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you Lino💕

[@Herthamary]

So happy to have you back

[@GayleMudjanima]

So glad to be back on your screens ❤

[@pendayafrance9801]

Thank you for the beautiful content ❤️ feels good to be watching your videos again ❤️

[@GayleMudjanima]

You’re so welcome ma darling ❤❤❤ You must be so happy😂

[@Brenda_Troy]

I'm so happy you're back giving us content ❤️🥺

[@GayleMudjanima]

It feels good to be back 😍😍😊

[@lellyiyaloo9504]

Love this soo much 🥹🔥❤️ Enjoyed watching it🔥❤️ “Create your own world and your own rules”😭❤️🫶🏽

[@GayleMudjanima]

You’re so welcome Lelly❤️

[@mckenzymathe5557]

We need to have libra do a voice over on these questions to hear what he has to say

[@GayleMudjanima]

😆😆😆Haibo

[@mckenzymathe5557]

You can edit the voice. Would really be nice to hear his point of view

[@GayleMudjanima]

@@mckenzymathe5557Mmmhh

[@naominangolo2189]

That’s a genuine vlog I love it ❤️✨

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you ❤️

[@Sunday_ya_Kapopo]

This video is so authentic 😊thank you Gayle🥺🙏🏽💕

[@GayleMudjanima]

You’re welcome Sunday ❤

[@kainoawala]

This world with its criticism and beliefs, atye. Are we all meant to get married anoh. Can we not experience it ngoo kashona if one does not make it to the other side🤣🤣 Great video really. Loved it 😊

[@GayleMudjanima]

😂😂😂😂Owati to experience kashona?😂

[@kainoawala]

@@GayleMudjanima Eenwee 😂😂

[@BeingLuciana1]

A new subbie here in the house vakwee🎉🎉💃🏾. So authentic, KIND and on point. Thank you for sharing your experience Gayle. It’s always best for one to do what suits and is best for them . ❤️🙏🏾

[@GayleMudjanima]

Welcome to the channel 😍😍 You’re very welcome Lusia

[@BeingLuciana1]

@@GayleMudjanima thank you 🥰

[@Imiolz]

This is so honest and authentic. Thank you

[@GayleMudjanima]

Oh you’re so welcome 😉

[@rakkelnamolo]

Yes run your own show hun cause is only your decision that matters at the end of the day ❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

Periooodt 💯

[@_that_girl_linah]

I just wanna say I love you and I am a fan.....your the reason I started a yt channel....love your content❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

Love you too❤ All the best with your channel

[@noxolosihoyiya7543]

“ The minute we started dating is the minute we started dating “ Lmaooo this is me and my boyfriend 🙃🤎

[@GayleMudjanima]

🙊🙊🙊

[@evelin-he2se]

Very relatable and authentic Looking forward to more content really 🔥🔥🔥

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you Evelin💗💗💗

[@twapewakadhikwatv9232]

My own child this one I tell you. Shitenya neuye nee keumbo 🎉 much love

[@GayleMudjanima]

🙊🙊🙊💗

[@debbymutilifa]

This was so informative Thank you so much for sharing ❤❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

You’re so welcome Debbie🙂

[@mweshikutondokwa]

She's back 💅🏿

[@GayleMudjanima]

Oh yes she is ❤

[@mckenzymathe5557]

Also with the personal space , did y’all ever have days where like you need space , not that you are mad at him but you just wanna do things alone or you just want to be on the same space but not with him there.. did you ever have those days ??

[@GayleMudjanima]

No I didn’t ,we weren’t always together he travels a lot so maybe that’s why I never got to a point of wanting my own space.

[@mckenzymathe5557]

Okay . Make sense now

[@laimykylee4881]

This was enjoyable ❤️create more content 😘I’m yo nab 1 fan ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you 🙏🏾 Love you ❤

[@livinglifewithdoreen4077]

This video really helped me make an decision.

[@GayleMudjanima]

Oh my goodness 🙊

[@mckenzymathe5557]

When you answered on parents knowing , you only answered about your parents and not his .

[@GayleMudjanima]

The question was mean’t for me only 🙊🙊

[@mckenzymathe5557]

But we would have loved to have his point of view too.

[@GayleMudjanima]

@@mckenzymathe5557he needs to start his own channel then 😅

[@mckenzymathe5557]

@@GayleMudjanima this girl 😂😂😂😂

[@lris_lessie9246]

I really enjoyed watching this, I can totally relate😂😂

[@GayleMudjanima]

I’m so glad love ❤️

[@monikahaidula7141]

Why am i getting to see your content today? You're my cousin now❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

😂😂yes please

[@helvielly7387]

Thank you, this is so relatable 😊❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

You're so welcome!

[@ashantinamoloh4703]

Poppy we as your family wanna see this guy 😅😅😅 bring him to Odibo

[@GayleMudjanima]

Aiiii go away faith 😂

[@tunizlle]

I’m so happy you’re back🥹

[@GayleMudjanima]

So happy to be back too Tuna❤️❤️❤️

[@tunizlle]

I started watching your videos when I was 17, I’m turning 21🤣🖤

[@GayleMudjanima]

@tunankandi913 almost 5 years of being part of the family 😍😍

[@helenahinananye9299]

Love love this, so informative

[@GayleMudjanima]

Glad you took a thing or two Helena🩵

[@kainoawala]

The quality, shuuuu 🔥🔥🔥 👌🏽

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you Kaino😘

[@NombuleloMphela]

I'm unemployed and my partner is employed and we have two kids. He's really been depressed because of missing us all the time and now is suggesting to live with the three of us. We've been together for five years now and I want to move in with him but I don't want to burden him. What to do?

[@khaehetagogaomas3869]

I understand not wanting to be a burden, but I really think he has already considered your situation, and since he brought it up, he's probably okay with it. Your children will benefit greatly from you guys being together a lot. But at the end of the day, you should do what makes you feel comfortable. If you aren't ready for that, it is what it is.

[@celdaamakali4936]

Omg can't wait❤❤❤❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

Me tooo😅

[@kainoawala]

The glow is forever 🥰🥰

[@GayleMudjanima]

😍😍😍

[@Optimist_Tashiya]

It’s the quality for me darling ❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you Tashiya❤❤❤

[@deccembba]

Gayle where is the person that was just here … that thumbnail I was awwww she is showing us

[@GayleMudjanima]

🙊

[@vistorinakaluvango2802]

I can relate but gal live your life the way you think it's right for you. We only live once and judgements shouldn't affect you in anyways. I used to feel bad about it when peoples used to criticize me, mostly in oshiwambo it sounds horrible. As for me its now 3 years and i still lie to my mom😂😂😂

[@GayleMudjanima]

Visto 😂😂😂😂 Meme nafudepo please Cheers to you ❤

[@vistorinakaluvango2802]

❤

[@bettymwatotele]

I wouldn’t mind oku hotekwa (living with my boyfriend) because I refuse to just get married to someone I haven’t lived with and see their other side like putting the toilet paper the other way around just kidding🤣

[@GayleMudjanima]

😂😂😂😂😂😂 that’s a valid reason Betty

[@dorteafotolela8570]

Wow I’m soo Proud of you 🥰

[@GayleMudjanima]

🙊🙊🙊aaahhh

[@Sonskynsmiley]

Preach sis!!! ❤😊

[@GayleMudjanima]

Amen😂😂😂

[@Sunday_ya_Kapopo]

Literally of good use 😊 Also isn’t okuhotekwa going to stay with your person in your persons space,deciding to get an apartment together isn’t okuhotekwa or am I wrong🥺

[@GayleMudjanima]

Apparently as long you’re living with a man unmarried 😮

[@Sunday_ya_Kapopo]

@@GayleMudjanima really🥺okay thank you ml

[@tuhafeniretichia7831]

Woow how did you manage girl you guys I give you thump up

[@GayleMudjanima]

Let’s find out when the video premieres at 17:30 today

[@pink_sugar_]

Love this so much for you. 🥹🫶🏼

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you babes❤❤❤

[@LungisileHadebe]

I enjoyed this video you are so authentic and natural love from SA

[@kamatirosalia9807]

I love this

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you Rosalia😍

[@kamatirosalia9807]

@@GayleMudjanima I love everything about you actually, your personality and how you do best for yourself not for the people, really learned a lot from your words

[@GayleMudjanima]

@kamatirosalia9807 Thank you 🥹

[@kingpjamunyela1205]

Nice one I believe that’s the best way for one to get used to the monster you dealing with coz honestly most of the time people get married to people they don’t even know hence we have a very high rate of divorce cases in our country…… how on earth does one marry someone they never even stayed a month with?

[@GayleMudjanima]

Monster 😂 No really or worse move in because you’re getting married in a few months and then divorce a few months after the wedding.

[@Sunday_ya_Kapopo]

This was really helpful ❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

Glad it was helpful!

[@fearless0122]

Loved this ❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you so much for the support love ❤️

[@mckenzymathe5557]

So it’s basically just communicating that you are having someone over. THATS CUTE

[@GayleMudjanima]

Yes basically,

[@sabinahaifete8071]

You said it baby📌📌📌💕🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@GayleMudjanima]

😊😊

[@foibeishiposha4793]

Notification gang 🎉

[@GayleMudjanima]

Purrrrrr😊

[@the_psa_shixa_music]

Ndele the question in oshiwambo was deep 😂

[@GayleMudjanima]

Cuts too deep ooo😂

[@hileninameho8568]

❤ beautiful content 😊

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you love

[@NoaPenda]

Talk about quality in this video👌👌👌

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you Noa,giving you guys the best ❤❤❤

[@annagwamefi4050]

New subie ☺️ Love your content ❤️

[@GayleMudjanima]

Welcome to the wining team Anna🙊❤️❤️❤️

[@reinnamvula3215]

“Shaaaaaaaaking”😂😂😂

[@GayleMudjanima]

It’s wasn’t easy 🥶

[@asianamushinga4969]

What did learn in your relationship until now.

[@GayleMudjanima]

Questions must be related to living together love❤

[@tumiprudence9508]

Doing wifely duties without being a wife, sorry guys I am not a clown. Wait until something happens and y'all are not legally married. I am not giving any man marriage benefits if he didn't wife me.

[@GayleMudjanima]

But babe are you going to be in a dirty house and starving because cooking and cleaning are labeled as wife duties?

[@tumiprudence9508]

Then there's no need for cohabitation, I can live on my own, cook and clean for myself. My problem is that most females are 'playing' wife without the title.

[@Kelesitse.m]

what exactly are wife duties? & does the same apply to him? should he also not do husbandly duties intil he marries

[@GayleMudjanima]

Honestly 🤦🏾

[@GayleMudjanima]

Honestly 🤦🏾

[@camilladealdida4759]

Yooh girl is inlove😭😭😭sbwl

[@GayleMudjanima]

Etse🥹🥹

[@Itsmonalukaas]

I love this ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

Glad you do Mona❤

[@user-hv6qb7zr7w]

Great content!

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you ❤❤❤❤

[@cathrinereturn5743]

You do you girl❤❤❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

Always love❤

[@dulajoleni792]

Beautiful beautiful content ❤🎉

[@GayleMudjanima]

Thank you Dula🩷

[@tuhafeniretichia7831]

Woow you are lucky gal

[@amutenyajacobs4954]

do something fun like village volg

[@SamuM243]

New subby here, i love u already ❤

[@GayleMudjanima]

Welcome to the channel love ❤️

[@sussanaamakali6653]

I love this ❤once you get married all will be the same nothing really changes😊

[@GayleMudjanima]

Ai tog my married lady❤️

[@sussanaamakali6653]

@@GayleMudjanima 🙈🙈😊

[@sussanaamakali6653]

Oh an his gonna marriy you soon mark my words 😊💃

[@MissWalker1]

I’m late but I’m here😭🔥

[@GayleMudjanima]

And that’s all that matters puuuurrr❤

[@Nonichisanda]

Why aren’t you guys living together anymore, why did you move out.

[@GayleMudjanima]

I’m accommodating family now❤️

[@johannashihepo4553]

How do you guys do it? you don't get tired of each other

[@johannashihepo4553]

But lets wait, content

[@GayleMudjanima]

The video drops at 17:30 my love 😍

[@johannashihepo4553]

@@GayleMudjanima I cant wait. I'm very much excited about the video.

[@thomasakwaake]

Patiently waiting 😊

[@GayleMudjanima]

@thomasakwaake 🙊🙊