MARRIED AT 19. KIDS AT 20. THE TRUTH ABOUT OUR MARRIAGE

[@arielmadeline5728]

“Stop thinking about all the things your spouse is NOT doing, and think about all the things they ARE doing.” -Milena Ciciotti 🙌🏼 This mindset is really great for marriage!!!!!!!

[@sarahd1730]

yessss love that the ciciotti crew is in this comment section lol

[@christengardner4780]

I'm so keeping this thank you

[@violettababenko4847]

except that is not really practical if you have real concerns and problems

[@Endorphinn_]

What does a wife do when the things her spouse is doing is shit? What does she do if she is doing 5 or 10 times more than him?

[@loveandcandour]

Absolutely!

[@crafthag6736]

Married 19 and 20, kids 20 and 21, married 42 years so far. Met, engaged in 6 days, married in 4 months. Yeah, people were skeptical. Guess we showed them.

[@20britty]

Craft Hag We’re the same. Met and married in 3 months at 20 and 24 and here we are 12 years later! Lol everyone said we were too young and I’m sure a lot of ppl thought we were pregnant lol. No kids yet, we just started working on that. People always have opinions but at the end of the day the only person who’s gotta live in your life is YOU.

[@claranguyen2738]

Please tell the secret to your long lasting relationship.

[@crafthag6736]

That’s the million dollar question. Husband says “Don’t be an ass.” I say “Take care of each other “ Very simple but profound answers. There’s no explanation. It just works. It’s not hard work. You don’t have to think about your heart beating or making yourself breathe. It just happens as long as you live. Not very romantic or especially helpful but I have no explanation. It’s just our life.

[@20britty]

I’d say the answer is that: you must marry your best friend. At the end of the day, years from now, long after youthful attraction has gone, you must TRUELY enjoy one another’s company. You must actually LIKE to talk to each other, grow with each other, want to spend time with each other. Because everything else will fade or fall away. Kids grow up and leave and friends come and go, but your spouse should be the one you WANT spend forever with.

[@mariamanilenko1120]

Engaged in 6 days?! How did you realize that they were the one in under a week?

[@monicagarcia358]

I loved it when you said the best part about marriage is not having to go home at night. I remember when my husband and I were just dating and it was so hard to say goodbye! Now we get to fall asleep together and wake up together and it is the best feeling. Being with your favorite person in the world all the time is the biggest blessing! Especially when God is in the center!

[@CB-jv6cj]

I am not married yet but I have already been going to bed and waking up with my partner for the past 5 years. Marriage is luckily not needed for that, but that doesn't take away from the fact that I am so excited to get married next year haha. It definitely is the best feeling.

[@johanna2690]

@@CB-jv6cj I would never marry someone if we haven't lived together for some time. For me marriage is important and I wouldn't want to regret the decision. The people who are saying that they are still married and have never lived together, are also people who would probably never divorce their spouse. So it's hard to tell which way is more beneficial

[@CB-jv6cj]

@@johanna2690 Definitely, to me it's so backwards to get married first. I know my fiance through and through, we have been together through the worst parts of our lives but also the best. I know I want to spend the rest of my life with this man but I couldn't imagine getting married if we haven't lived together. If people want to it's up to them, but I personally don't get why people would.

[@HerHealthyHome]

@@CB-jv6cj People do because they trust God.

[@CB-jv6cj]

@@HerHealthyHome And that makes no sense...

[@madeline2282]

I think when people say that marriage is hard they mean that you need to put effort into it. You have to actually try to resolve conflicts, to give attention to one another, and come to compromises you might not necessarily like but it's for the good of your family. It's not hard necessarily, but it is effort. You gotta put effort into the things you love, marriage is no different

[@jessaboice4055]

Madeline Rose I definitely agree! However it is difficult because you have to face reality with your spouse. It’s not like you’re dating all the time, you have to be serious, and face the facts. Also it’s hard because you start seeing their Idiosyncrasies and they start seeing yours. When you marry young, you mature fast because you have to learn to get over the little things and love them no matter what.

[@janellebeene3817]

I totally agree w/ this!! 💛

[@kristinccha]

Some people's marriages are easier than others. My husband and I are both pretty stubborn and want our way, so we both have to really work at things

[@alishapotts6423]

I agree, marriage is "hard" because it requires effort. Heartfelt effort.

[@jaylenedias4371]

I disagree to the sense that marriage shouldn’t be hard. If you’ve found the one you want to marry, the one that makes you happier than anything in the world, then it’s not difficult at all. When my husband and I were dating we would pick arguments because we wanted to be with each other. I’ve been married for over a year(yes it’s still new but I don’t see anything changing any time in the future) and there is never a day that passes that I doubted why we got married or a day that passes where we’ve had to seriously sit and talk about change. We knew what we were getting ourselves into and we had a very realistic picture of what it was we wanted and I feel that is maybe why it gets difficult for other couples (unrealistic expectations).

[@imbomi7845]

I got married at 25 and I was still told I was too young. Some said I was too old. Some said it's perfect. People will always have their opinions.

[@mariahsjourney356]

Interesting

[@leximontgomery9549]

My husband and I were married at 19, pregnant at 20, baby at 21 and again at 22. We love our life ❤️

[@Fantasycricketsirji]

May god bless you both

[@Basti95]

25 still a Virgin sad Life

[@saramartinez1112]

So lucky!

[@nukonuko1184]

Me 20 never dated seriously and also virgin

[@rmp7400]

@@Basti95 The very Mother of God remained a Virgin her 72 years of life on earth: she inspired much love, gratitude and yes...hostility (to this very day) from the jealous!!! Please...sincerely ask...and ask anew for the grace to overcome sadness - that prayer will be answered, guaranteed🌹

[@mommathriftvlog5375]

Hubby was 20, I had just turned 23 when we got married. Had our first baby at 24. We've been married for 11 years now with 8 children (3 adopted). I love that I've gotten to share my younger years with the love of my life! I was definitely no where near as mature about it as you, Delilah. But we've learned how to work together, forgive each other, fight FOR and not against eachother, and say "I love you" even when it was hard to say. It's great to see both of you on the same page. I like that you both knew/know what you want in life and you sort it out together. That's how it should be! And with God in the center and your eyes on Him, it will be beautiful. ♡

[@marriagesherpa7386]

Awww I got married to my husband when I was 19 and we have been married for almost 15 years this June! No matter what age if you choose love it will conquer all!!

[@Fantasycricketsirji]

May God Bless you both

[@saramartinez1112]

You are lucky

[@rmp7400]

Yes love conquers all - but people have to be taught what love is: not a feeling, not an emotion- not a romantic fantasy. Love is the Holy Presence of God nurturing shared lives: through correct decisions made, through lifting ones heart and mind, through continual thoughtfulness of others... permitting blessings to come through moment to moment and day to day. Secular American culture does not now encourage, develop or reward quiet, refreshing family life. The mere dominance of the television inflicts programming from Hollywood to disrupt fulfilling living.

[@sailingavocet]

thank you for posting this. we were engaged at 18, married at 21 and live aboard our 41 ft sailbaot preparing to sail the world... people give us crap all the time but we are best friends and as happy as could be!

[@KristanShuford]

I feel like right time to get married is less about age and more about emotional maturity. At 24 I was totally ready to get married, but I definitely had friends who weren't. If you are mature enough to be open and honest with each other, to listen and support each other even when you are hella irritated, and if you are ready to fully trust another person, THEN you are ready. for some people it's 19, for others its 45.

[@indiaxlovee]

Kristan Makl amen

[@renatacamargocollet7965]

Also, people need to be economically stable to lead a good marriage. It takes a huge toll on the relationship when the couple is not able to keep the house and the family..

[@rmp7400]

So true💖. Although, to be fair: some.... at 45...or even 75... just are not in a state of mind to be able to share ones whole life kindly and thoughtfully. Not everyone is called to marriage - but everyone can nurture others in some way to realize personal fulfillment - and to benefit the whole of a people in a special way: even if it is through baking for lonely shut ins, creating beautiful arts/crafts as gifts, making uplifting phone calls to those who are heavily burdened. Spreading strength and hope in a lovely way never goes without rewards.🙏🏼🌹

[@Sairs1902]

My husband and I were 19 when we were married. I wouldn't change it for the world. We were given advice before marrying to ensure we grow and mature together and that was challenging at times. 14 years later and we're still very in love even though we have had struggles and sought counselling a couple of times to recentre our marriage.

[@lollyb1571]

Marriage gets hard about 10 years into the marriage. When you both have changed so much as people and have to choose to find ways to incorporate your new found self into the relationship. Sadly most people are so selfish nowadays that they don't have time to work through that. You guys have a wonderful base and a beautiful family. I'm coming into 11 years and the work is worth it but there have been hard times.

[@janynehawkins5890]

I found that marriage got easier at the 10year ish mark

[@20britty]

I disagree about that. I’d say the hardest part of marriage is the second year, right when the fun and ‘new-ness’ has worn off and you start to annoy each other. Certainly by 10 years you have most definitely melded together like a well worn shoe. That has been our experience anyway. I think that other than your early years when you are learning to live together (as one) for the first time, the years with young kids will be the most tying years and probably again after the kids leave the nest.

[@BeingBetter]

I'll be married 10 years in August. I'm so blessed to have an amazing Godly husband.

[@Endorphinn_]

Selfish nowadays? Look at the human rights, the children rights, the women rights! Look at the health system, the social security in a lot of countries. Tell me these things, which didn't exist decades or centuries ago, do exist now because humans are selfish nowadays. Please, if people divorce nowadays it's just because divorce is allowed now! Don't be so romantic: a lot of couples decades ago didn't stay together by love but because they didn't have the choice. The proof is, at the opposite of a lot people think, that a lot a elders ask the divorce.

[@bedheadbutterfly]

Every time I watch your marriage videos I'm reminded so much of why I love my husband and I go through our life together and agree with so much of the things you two say. It's great to see another couple that enjoys marriage as much as my husband and I do! 🤗

[@gabg4917]

I just want to say thank you for this! 21 with a 2 week old and my fiance works so hard for us but today I felt like he didn't help enough and just wanted to sit and play his game after work. In return I was super grumpy and feeling alone but your so right with changing perspective..he goes and works for us all day which pays for our house, bills and food, he's such a loving dad and I couldn't be more happier. Thank you for turning my mood around and waking me up to my reality that I'm so lucky to have.

[@LoeppkysLife]

❤️❤️❤️

[@iambaked1537]

I relate!!! What do you ladies do when your man is gaming? How much is too much? How do you go about setting boundaries around gaming?

[@gabg4917]

I have an electric swing in our lounge room, so the rule in our house is if your in that room you watch her, nothing comes before baby 😊

[@anneliesjoss]

I agree, it’s more a matter of maturity than age. Our youngest was mature enough and got married at 20. Our middle “child” is 26, and I’m not sure he’s mature enough for marriage.

[@alyssaisawkward6838]

Zach talking about being a young parent at the end really hit me. My mom had me at (nearly) 31 and couldn't always run and play with my brother and I. Being young just means you get even more years with your kids!

[@charles201210000]

AlyssaIsAwkward That is true, but having kids young means you get less years for yourself. Your own freedom is gone.

[@aubreysmith71112]

"That's a very interesting idea... Its wrong." 😂😂😂😂😂 I'm dying

[@laurenbooker3406]

I relate to this so so much. We’ve been together since we were 15 got engaged at 18 married at 19 and had a baby 11 months later at 20. Baby is 2 months old now. It’s never been hard. We pray and love and pray some more and all has been well.❤️

[@ambertucker750]

I love being a young patent as well, i was married at 20. Im coming up on my 2nd anniversary and it is amazing what God brings you through. Also how much easier it is having a partner that is in it with you 100% makes a huge difference. Loved the video Delilah, God bless!

[@sailingavocet]

Congrats! We were married at 20 as well. now we live on our sailboat preparing to sail around the world

[@juditbaranyai4759]

I'm not married yet (hehe), but when I will be married, I want a marrige which is simular to yours. Having difficulties, but always remember that you love ech other, and remember that God loves you.

[@brittanyclift814]

Age is relative in this short life we have. You both seem very self assured and being able to know yourself so well at a young age is an amazing gift. My partner and I have been together since we were 16, and now at 28 are only just having out first baby. We just weren't ready for that step and had other things we needed to accomplish individually and as a couple before we started our family and we are due in november of this year. A few people (family) have judged us for waiting, but it's whats right for us. I love watching your channel and you and your family inspire mine. Cheers to happiness no matter your age ;)

[@gissjohan8773]

I'm about to get married in 5 months and recently a turned 20 years old. I love seeing christian young marriages because I feel that I can learn a lot of them and I just did from you guys. Thanks for making this video. 😍💖

[@switchaccounts1342]

ur so lucky omg congrats and im so jealous of you :(

[@Fantasycricketsirji]

May god bless you

[@gissjohan8773]

switch accounts Hey, I’m not lucky, I’m blessed. God was the one who wrote my love story of almost 6 years of relation and 2 months of marriage. 😍God is good, His time is perfect, it may sound cliché but is so true! So I encourage you to trust Him and rest in His promises and His presence. God bless you!

[@gissjohan8773]

MunnaBhai Gaming Amen, God bless you more!

[@Abcdefghijajajaja]

@@gissjohan8773 YES👏👏

[@harrietjane7964]

I love this! I got married nearly 3 months ago and all people asked me when I said I was engaged was "how old are you?' no 'congratulations' or anything! I turned 23 just before we got married so I love that in the States/Canada people get married young! Although the cost of living seems substantially less which is probably why I seem young as Sydney is crazy for living costs. I so agree with how good marriage is, I feel like people disregard it as a good thing and just see it as a trap which is why it's so lovely to hear you speak of it positively x

[@BH-el4rs]

Oh my gosh I’d be feeding our baby at 2 am...4:30 am.....and looking over at the other lump in the bed, snoring away. I would get sooooooo bitter!! Lol. But in the morning that would be gone and I’d get my senses back. He works all day. He can’t nurse the baby too!! It’s just exhaustion clouding the brain.

[@alishapotts6423]

🤣 the other lump in the bed haha! Yes, we nurse at night they work during the day. Sometimes it's just a matter of perspective isn't it?

[@Endorphinn_]

Even if you're at home, you have a baby so it means you DO work all day because nursing is not a hobby! So you deserve to sleep too! He HAS TO nurse too! Your are not the only parent, he took responsibilities, he has to assume them.

[@Howdy2024]

@@Endorphinn_ Umm. He can't nurse. Unless you expect him to get hormone shots.

[@tiarasmith6174]

Endorphin you know I had that same energy when our son was first born. I was always the one getting up at night changing diapers, making bottles, etc. 2 years later and I still get up if he wakes up but I don’t get mad about it because my husband has to be up at 4 am getting ready for work and I’m a stay at home mom.

[@dakotagonnet1510]

Totally agree with the part about focusing on what they are doing and serving your husband. You guys should read the book “Love Languages” because it would help you understand why you like notes and your husband doesn’t value it! It helped me understand my husband so much better!!

[@juanis8219]

Dakota Gonnet who’s the author?

[@olivialewis5970]

Yes it’s a great book! Written by Gary Chapman:)

[@carmenhart2640]

We got married at 18 and 20. We had our 3 girls at 19, 21 and 23. They were all 3.5 and under. We had one hard year and it was year 4... we were so sleep deprived and we had a few family losses in that one year, so I think grief played into the hard season. But other than that one year marriage has been really easy, and the hard season probably made our marriage even stronger! We've been married 8 years now and we wouldn't change a thing ❤

[@leticiafernandes8804]

For me, the best part of marrying (Young or not) is the freedom you get to stay close without anyone looking at you, and do whatever you want without asking permission (me:18, husband: 21). Never regreted marrying young! I love to be married☺

[@charles201210000]

Letícia Fernandes I think you actually have more freedom being single lol

[@pepperlauda3775]

This was so insightful and beautiful I really appreciate your thoughts and discussions and how you communicate really well to one another and focus on the positive. I really liked that ‘instead of thinking what they’re not doing, think of what they are doing’ I thought that’s a huge thing in any general relationships and just really glad that you’re both a Christian couple and definitely God has truly blessed you guys and continues to.

[@sandrathe5973]

11:40 Appreciating each other and really thinking about what your wife/hubby IS doing and not what their NOT doing is such a great Mindset!! I REALLY loved that part and my heart such felt so good.

[@MaddieWin]

I think marriage has seasons of hardships. My marriage was pretty easy until we packed up and moved with a toddler far away from family. This season has been hard. But before it was easy.

[@mirandarichard122]

Young marriage is so amazing. I hate when people frown upon it. It's been the norm for thousands of years, and it's only recently that people are being so negative towards it. You two are goals! ❤❤❤

[@jkeefer1988]

Well debt is a huge issue now, 50 years ago you didn't require college for a majority of jobs for one job was enough for a family of 4 and a house which just isn't possible for many now. I got married youngish (23) after we finished college and both got fulltime jobs and without my parents financial help I don't know how we would have managed for the first few years, it was hard and no way were kids anywhere in the picture until almost our 30s we could hardly support ourselves and pay the student loans let alone a child/children. I'm glad it has worked for them but people are just different now and marriage/kids isn't the standard anymore. Not that young marriage is bad, it's just not the expectation when you turn 18 anymore.

[@bethanysanders32]

I love seeing you two talking about life together. My husband and I got married at 21, and had our first baby before our first wedding anniversary. Now we are 26 and have 3 kids years 4, 2, and 4 months. I get asked often if I ever feel like I missed out on my twenties/being able to go out whenever I want. My answer is no. I couldn’t imagine having done this any other way. We love being young parents. Like your husband said, we would rather be able to be young with them and be able to run around. Having my babies is such a blessing. I agree that the right age to get married has to do with maturity, now age. Anyways, you two are amazing, and your babies are beautiful. God bless 🧡

[@emilybethmitchell]

This was sooooo encouraging to see you discuss your differences, but still be respectful and love each other!!

[@amberh3358]

y’all are the cutest little family! ❤️ im 19 & engaged, and it’s so great to see other people who have made the decision to marry young!

[@rachelleigh6269]

My husband and I got married at 18 💕 my parents got married at 40 lol so.... I was crazy judged by my entire family.

[@quincyprisirie588]

Hahhaha. How old were you and are you now?

[@Genesis_Barrios]

How did you tell them?

[@rachelleigh6269]

I'm 26 now, and we had a courthouse wedding. It was perfect for us. I didn't tell anyone in my family for a while 🤷‍♀️. I moved out two weeks after I was 18. Got married two months before turning 19. I have known my husband since I was 14 btw

[@rmp7400]

Sounds like you are the most gifted person in a struggling clan. Pray for, and continue to be kind to them....they are probably afraid you will soon be divorcing! That is the limit of their awareness.

[@gracedellis3383]

Love you guys and love so much of this advice, but the Bible doesn't say the husband is the head of the household - the Bible says the husband is the "head of the wife," and the passage goes on to say that the husband is the love his wife as his own body, since the marriage relationship is a one-flesh union which reflects the Gospel. Totally understand where you guys are coming from with that advice around big-decision making, but it's not a Biblical command for the husband to be the "head of household." It's a Biblical command for husbands and wives to be, and live as, one flesh. That passage in Scripture is less about who has authority to make decisions and more about what it looks like to live in unity - two people forming one flesh.

[@HerHealthyHome]

The bible also says women are to be makers of home while a man who does not provide for his family is worse than an infidel. So basically it says both.

[@MercisJourney]

I think by default, the scripture you’re referring to, essentially leads to place the husband as head of household seeing that the two (as one) are the “heads” as it goes but husband is head of the wife, as it clearly states, and God is head of husband, God being our overall covering. Scripture also tells us to submit to our husbands, in that same scripture that states for husbands to love their wives as themself. Submission from the wife is the first part of that scripture. There is an order to that, and that’s okay. It doesn’t make us lesser. God gives us wives to our husbands to be one with them as you said, and to be a help and a gentle voice to them

[@maplebacon1]

@@MercisJourney if wives are to submit to their husbands, than so the husband to the wife :)

[@somnathganapa5789]

You said the Bible says the husband is the "head of the wife." How is that dissimilar to being the head of the household? If the husband is the head of the wife, then he is certainly the head of the rest of the household e.g. children.

[@maplebacon1]

@@somnathganapa5789 that's your assumption though. you can believe whatever you want- it's your life, but some of us would rather not partake in an outdated belief that the Bible does not actually say.

[@brittneylindquist6932]

Zach saying Delilah at you in the beginning and singing made me laugh. I love seeing his personality come out. I hope to find my 'Zach' one day ^-^

[@foxymchloe]

I got married at 18, my husband was 21. July 25th we will have been married for 5 years, and we have two beautiful kids! If you know you love that special person, then marry them! Get married young, you get to be with them even longer (:

[@Leandrisx33]

We married when i was 19, one month after I graduated high school and I wouldn’t want it any other way. We decided to wait to have a baby though to be with each other and get used to one another. Love this video! Many people were skeptical but we get along so well!

[@glorielenacr]

That's also my favorite thing about being married, to not have to say goodbye every night and be with him most of the time.

[@samanthadurand4243]

I got married the day after I turned 20. Then We found out on our 2 year wedding anniversary that we were pregnant. Now our daughter is almost 10 months old! Couldn't be happier. But for us, marriage is hard and has been very hard. We were NOT financially stable, and are still having trouble finding financial stability. I am a SAHM and my husband works full time, but we do not have a house or anything and that is a huge strain on our marriage.

[@sophieh8195]

Samantha Nyhof I could have written this! I was married at 19 and I am now pregnant with my second at 22. My husband works HARD to provide for us, but still it never seems enough. We love each other deeply, but if there has been any strain on our marriage, it’s been about finances. Praying that one day we can be more financially stable and enjoy life more.

[@samanthadurand4243]

@@sophieh8195

[@rosealtman843]

I met my husband when I was 15 and he was 17 we were instantly best friends and knew we wanted to be married some day he proposed to me when I was 16 and he was 18 we got married when I was 19 and he was 21 now we are 21 and 23 and have a 8 month old and would love to have 3 more we love being married we are each others best friends we love spending time together and being together and have never regretted our choice we live a more traditional life style and marriage and it works amazing for us we love being married young and having children young and wouldn't have it any other way I have never found marriage to be hard either I think communication is key we always talk to each other about everything.

[@abbeynannis8405]

Im not married yet, but my boyfriend and I talk about it often and what comes with it. This is a good video! As soon as Zach said “this is where people will dislike” I liked it 😂😂 y’all answered these questions so well! Ugh I love your family

[@yap4808]

Im not married, but I dont think its hard, a stupid on and off relationship is hard!!...when you choose to be the rest of your life with the person you love, you have to be mature... there are so many that get married and get a divorse afte months, like its a game?...like thats not a phone that you are bying🙄

[@CorrinaRoseWrites]

I'd say marriage can still be hard, but not for the reasons that an on and off again relationship has. There are no "mind tricks" or playing games, but in marriage there are still problems that come up whether it's money, job stress, etc. that you have to just work on, communicate, and come to a compromise with your spouse about. I've been married for 2 1/2 years and we have a 1 year old and another on the way. I think for me the hardest struggles have been dealing with the stress from lack of money (like with Delilah and Zach, my husband was also laid off and unemployed for months which was so hard with a baby) and we could totally use a date night or two!! Just remembering to trust God and keep the focus on marriage is so important to me for being a great mom!

[@yap4808]

@@AliceRoche-ii2ke well, I didnt say you HAVE to be married...its just If you want to get married;)... and everything you said...thats me😅😅 i always say I dont need to be married, to be with the person i want to be with for the rest of my life..☺ but not everyone understands it, so.. 😜

[@yap4808]

@@CorrinaRoseWrites i think the key is to be honest and always communicate with the partner...but i see it like its the same....relationship or marriage....marriage is just the next level 😜

[@yap4808]

@@AliceRoche-ii2ke well i dont think its nice to point at them with your finger😕 i dont judge anyone, we have the right to live life, like we want and think is right for us. So thats not beacause someone make things different and what you said now, thats not how I think😂 if we want to be free and enjoy freedom, than its just not the time to be in a relationship, to be married or have kids😅

[@hannahgilles8430]

I am young and married and I completely agree with you it's all about maturity and people will always want to tell you marriage is hard but that's their opinion/experience.

[@Erinraewellness]

I can relate with you guys. We have always been told marriage is so hard but we’ve been married 5 yrs and I have yet to think or feel that being married is hard. We’re happy and our relationship is so pleasant. Maybe that’s because of our personalities and because we communicate so well..? Not sure really

[@navyandlime]

I was 19 he was 21 we've been married 12 years, and we have 4 kids. So many people said that we were too young but I wouldn't change a thing. Our eldest is 11 and the youngest is 4, when we go on date nights. Just sitting in the quiet is so nice.

[@amazecat6213]

Omg I just watched the video where she surprised him for Christmas with the trip and it just warms my heart so much to hear that it’s his big dream that he’s willing to hold off for Delilah because he thinks she’d hate it and then SHE surprised him with it cause they love each other so much!❤️

[@melissaterblanche1598]

I met my husband when I was two months away from being 18. He was 23. There's a 5 year gap but he's such a kid at heart. We never notice the 5 year difference. We'll be together 10 years in September and married 2 years and 3 months in September too. He's my absolute soul mate and to be honest we are complete opposites. I never thought I'd ever date someone like him but opposites attract. We have the same life goals and we love and adore each other so much. Life and relationships are tough, it's not always sunshine and roses but to say marriage is hard is not true, marriage is just confirming a relationship with a piece of paper in the eyes of God so it isn't any different than dating. It doesn't change anything to be honest in my opinion. Living with him has been the best thing and finding him has changed my life. Thank you for keeping it so real. Love you! ❤️

[@frizzzx86]

5 years is nothing lol. you are the same generation. my husband and i are 12 years apart, although it doesnt feel like it at all.

[@christinaclancy281]

I have so much respect for you two! I also married my husband at 19, about 1 or 2 weeks after my birthday! Get judged all the time but I wouldnt change it for the world! Nice so see great role models in the 🌍

[@justdominican7474]

Me and my fiance have been together for almost 3 years. We've know each other since school, and recently we've been dealing with immigration, I had to come to the States in the search of a better life. I want to be with her, we get along so well and I miss her each second. I want to bring her with me, nothing would make me happier.

[@colorfulthoughts3320]

17 mins of pretty much learning how to have a perfect marriage 😂 love you guys❤️I have been married for almost 3 years now and me and my husband are wayyyyy different so it’s a lot of challenges and I am younger then he is which is also a challenge with personality so I took a couple notes from this video 🥰

[@LoeppkysLife]

❤️❤️❤️

[@zz-ic6vy]

Colorful Thoughts i agree so much! And same situation 😁👍🏻

[@GabriellePanetti]

I got married at 20, my husband was 23, and we are now expecting our first baby at 22 and 25. People ask us why we didn't travel more first or enjoy being just the 2 of us for longer but we are both really happy and don't think us having a kid will hinder that. I agree that marriage isn't hard but then again we've only been married for 2 years but I'm confident we'll be just fine :)

[@callmekiddo1401]

I also got married at 19 and had my first son at 20! We are very close in age. It would be wonderful if you could do a series, or at least make a video(s) about handling life as a young married couple: did you/are you guys going to school, your timeline for your self/family and how you and Zach keep your family stable, i.e. finances day-to-day, monthly, how you’re able to afford your home and how you balance work/school and also spending time with your children. I apologize if I’m asking for something too private. I don’t have a lot of young couples near us and am always looking for inspiration and support!

[@Manijhe]

My husband and I are a decade older than you two, but I love you guys, you radiate of beautiful souls. As a couple we've known each other very long, but married late. We did the whole traveling and pursuing independent careers and lifestyles...which did give us a lot of stoicism and self-worth. But as life gets pretty tough from time to time, it's the simple things that really matter: faith in the Lord, good values and selflessness towards each other. Keep that up and one by one God will bless you with everything you really need 🧡 Thank you for being exactly the way you are 😊

[@Scott-by9ks]

My wife and I got married at 23 & 21 in 2005. We were married almost 6 years before our daughter was born. My wife and I had an amazing 5+ years as a married couple before our daughter. I highly suggest this for young couples. I get it, there is this pressure from parents and society to have kids once you get married but I can tell you from my experience that being a young married couple without kids is amazing! I mean I love my daughter but, time and place. I was 23 when I got married and a couple weeks away from 30 when my daughter was born. I had so much time to enjoy living/being with my wife, traveling and doing so many things young couple dream of before she was born. Now she is 9 and the thought of traveling is difficult because of school and work commitments. I'm glad were were young when we got married. Marry young and wait to have kids, it's what we did and we have no regrets.

[@inspiringsimple]

I am about to have my 10th baby (in less than a week) and all of our children are 14 and under. My beloved husband loves me so well through action. I think both living to care for each other and others....our marriage is very strong because we prioritise us and we realise we have to stick together to survive having all these kids and no outside help :)

[@theoldsoul9667]

Wow that's such an inspiration stay blessed and happy 😊 ❤️

[@Nikcholey]

Hahaha you two are too cute! You have me smiling as I relate to your relationship. My hubby and I were married at 18 and 19. We have known each other, and were best friends since a young age. We find marriage 'hard' in that we work hard everyday to treat each other with love and respect. That can become difficult for us as imperfect humans, especially when it comes to very difficult emotional, familial, and circumstantial problems arise. But we are so grateful for God's Word, which shows us how to show love and respect, as well as forgiveness. I agree with the scripture that says all those who marry will have tribulation in their flesh (1 Cor 7:28). Of course, there are challenges to remaining single, and the type and amount of "tribulation" would be different for each couple. I look forward to our 14th wedding anniversary in January, and I am so thankful I married my husband at a young age.

[@jkeefer1988]

I actually really like the financial system my husband and I have. We both work fulltime so we have separate checking/saving accounts (that are visible and accessible by both) that our checks deposit into and a joint checking/savings that all our standard bills come out of. We know roughly how much each month those bills cost so before the start of a new month we contribute half the amount needed to put the joint checking to that number and any bigger purchases for say the house we talk about before and split it 50/50 out of our separate accounts. But we both have a savings account we can use for things we personally want (after contributing to the joint savings) and our own checking to use for spending money say my clothes shopping for me or buying computer parts for him. It's helped a lot to not have petty arguments about small purchases and feel like we have a tiny bit of independence. It helped us majorly get back on track after a horrible year where we were seriously unhappy and money was a big stressor/cause of a lot of arguments.

[@baileyramirezbyrne7210]

This is a very “idealized” version of a marriage. This might be true for a very few percentage of people and not how most marriages are. People argue. People disagree. We are humans and marriage is hard. Your circumstances also determine a lot. You might not be in your own home, you might not both have good paying jobs. Normal people struggle. Please don’t think this is how every marriage is. It’s beautiful but everything good comes with a price.

[@mackenzieasmr9694]

They have had to struggle and maintained a wonderfully happy marriage through that. Through struggles and disagreements it takes humility and unconditional love to have a happy marriage like theirs.

[@baileyramirezbyrne7210]

Mackenzie ASMR are you married?

[@baileyramirezbyrne7210]

Mackenzie ASMR and do you know them? lol

[@mackenzieasmr9694]

Bailey Ramirez they talked about it in previous videos before her channel got big he lost his job. And yes I am :) married to my complete opposite, takes work but we are happy because we love each other and communicate about everything and really listen to each other and be understanding even when we don’t agree with each other.

[@sandrathe5973]

Mackenzie ASMR I‘m glad for you! Just randomly reading yout little thread but keep it up! Wish you all the best for your marriage and family! 💓

[@nickischroeder6048]

Hahahaha!! “You’re too old to give opinions” I loved that!! Love you guys. God bless you

[@grayonthewater]

Saying someone is too young to get married is a nice way of saying they’re too immature. I was engaged at 19 and thank god we didn’t go through with it, we were so immature and the relationship turned horribly unhealthy. At the time we thought we were so mature, we thought we were the exceptions. My best friend’s sister got married at 18 and divorced at 20, that relationship also turned toxic as well. You grow so exponentially fast when you’re young, like 1% of people really know and love themselves at these ages. I’ve felt like a new person almost every 6 months until I turned 25, then I felt like I was leveling out and finally understanding myself. I can relate when y’all say marriage isn’t particularly difficult, I’ve been married for 5 years and I feel the same way- we’ve never once has a fight, at most we’ve made snippy comment or sat each other down and discussed a concern very calmly and rationally. I feel like it probably becomes more difficult after a few decades and you start to become more independent again and need to put in effort to incorporate each other into your world and break the day to day routine and keep the spark alive, I totally believe someday we will start to feel like we are hitting that rut but having these good foundations of respect and communication will make those discussions easier. Best of luck to y’all!

[@sophiagray3191]

I don't think marriage is harder than any other serious long-term relationship. It takes constant work, but I actually feel more relaxed about it now that I'm married because to me that's like a promise to never just give up on the relationship. I will always fight to make this work, no matter what, and it gives me comfort to know that my husband will do the same.

[@lyanagagliardi2175]

I’m 19 and getting married in August and we had a lot of backlash. Thanks for the video!

[@MegaAbigalee]

I really enjoyed this video! Refreshing to hear this perspective. I got married when I was 19 and my husband was 20. Have been married for 5 years this year and wouldn’t change a thing!

[@laureenagyemang5424]

My new favourite couple on yt!

[@Yasin_2312]

My mother was married on her 20th birthday and had my oldest sister 8 months after she was married because she was premature. My sister was born in June 1998 and now she’s getting married in 2021. I guess time flies and marrying young lies through your genes

[@ericaolmsted4515]

I’m also young and married and have a son! I’m 19 and my husband is 21. We’ve absolutely heard judgment about getting married and pregnant so young but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’m so glad to have my son young so I’ll always have the energy to play with him

[@ThisBraveHeart]

Moved in with my husband after about 3 weeks of long distance dating, engaged after about a year of living together. I married my husband at 19, he was 24 at the time. We also had our first child 10 months after our wedding. Now I’m 22 and we’re expecting our second child. I always heard that I made a mistake, I was stupid, or I was too young to make the choices I have but I’ve been so happy with every choice that I’ve made. I’ve actually never been happier in my life. It’s definitely a maturity thing when it comes to making those decisions.

[@abbeynannis8405]

Y’all should take the Love Language test!! (Options are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, and Receiving Gifts) it could help show the other person what your love language is and how you want to be loved, and it could show you how your significant other wants to be loved as well!

[@alishapotts6423]

"you're too old to give opinions!" 🤣 Zach's humor cracks me up!

[@jessaboice4055]

I got married at 19 as well. People ask how I feel about it and I always tell them it’s the hardest, most rewarding thing I have ever done. I had no idea what I was getting myself into, it’s very emotional, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world💕

[@jessaboice4055]

Side note. It’s hard because of health challenges and we both have depression and anxiety. It’s not bad to have difficulties in a marriage and it shouldn’t be shamed upon. It’s great that some people have “perfect marriages”, but it’s okay to have a bumpy one as long as by the end of the day you’re happy. That’s the biggest thing my husband and I do to help get through the hard times.

[@luxurreview]

Young marriages are so beautiful 🤩 I’m 19 and always dreamed of marrying young (under 25)

[@MissAuckland]

We're 29 and just had baby number four (3 days ago) and marriage and family are definitely what you make them, if you're both dedicated to live life to the glory of God you will strive for your family to reflect it aswell.

[@mievancha]

I've been together with my now husband since I was 17 and it took me 9 years to be ready to marry him. I think it's a very personal and huge decision, which shouldn't be judged by others. I knew from the beginning that I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life, but then again it took me a long time to overcome the thought of 'chaining' him to me. And believe me, it also doesn't feel nice or right to be at the other end of the receiving line, when people judged and openly questioned me as to why I wasn't ready to commit in form of marriage, when he was ready to do so after a year of dating. And now that we are married it doesn't feel that different, because having a relationship is just as much hard work and effort as a marriage, in my opinion, if you're really committed to your partner.

[@NellyTay]

Oh my goodness I loved this!! Thank you both for answering these questions and letting us into your experience being married young! Would love to see more of these!! :)

[@aliwright811]

I was engaged at 19 and married at 20 and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I wouldn’t know how to answer ‘what’s difficult about marriage’ either, it’s just great! Especially with God in the centre.

[@chelseabirdwell4169]

Wow! The more I watch your videos the more I realize how similar our experiences in life are. Yes are lives are almost nothing a like, but this similarities are what brought me to your Channel verses other mommy KZbinrs. Our thoughts on marriage are almost exactly the same. We got married at 20 and 22. Young just as you. Just had our first kid literally 8 days after our one year anniversary. About 13 hours before Theo was born. I was 3 days from 40 weeks mark. I think you were late about that many days. And even though our religions are different a lot of our core values are the same. I love your videos. I'm currently a out of the house working Mom. My husband has done some KZbin. And I'm wanting to start my own KZbin channel soon similar to yours but also different from yours. We are currently trying to get our computer fixed. So that's the first step toward that goal! Thank you for deciding to make KZbin videos. It helps me not to feel so alone. I love your little family! I look forward to watching your videos all the time. Both old and new videos.

[@cynthiamadsen1417]

You guys are so cute ;) My hubby and I met at 18, dating 19, engaged 20 and married 21. We just celebrated 12 Years married this summer...and this is insane to me. Feels like we just got married. 4 boys later (one is with Jesus) a house, a dog, a cat and chickens, and best of all...Jesus in the centre of our marriage. blessed.

[@sephora312]

About waking up at night often... we had the same situation, I was always awake to feed the babies. Now, kids are 3 and 5 y/o, so daddy puts them to sleep in 90% of cases. Now I feel like I deserve the relaxation and sleep.

[@livelovepoetry]

My husband and I got married when I was 19, had our first son when I was 20, and our second baby boy this may just before I turned 23, and it is the best! ❤️

[@Ash-qb2ui]

That is so weird thats exactly my life got married at 19 gave birth 20 with my first child and I just had my 2nd baby last month once I turned 23. Wow!

[@livelovepoetry]

umm amila wow that is so similar!!

[@SimplyTheSharps]

Awww I super agree with what zack said about the couch & coffee!! Mine and my husband’s favorite thing is our chipotle nights on the couch. Just us & our show & our favorite food after the kids go to bed!! So simple, so cheap, and we’d much prefer this over most things!!

[@AleMaia]

My dream is to get married with the man I love (and loves me!). I can’t imagine how amazing it must be to go to sleep together and wake up together, without having to wait to just hang out to be together. The worst part is saying goodbye, you’re totally right! I miss creating our routine, organizing our life and home...planning the future day by day. I might sound crazy, but I enjoy going to the supermarket with him, cooking...cause it makes me feel like a family. I really hope my dream will come true someday...

[@carleecane1470]

Marriage truly can be hard at times, things unexpected can happen that really cause stress towards your marriage and it takes so much work and effort to keep it from falling apart. It is so important to have Christ at the center of your marriage and lean on Him to help and guide you. I am happy and glad you have been blessed with a not hard marriage, mine has been hard, but still good.

[@abbykennedy4385]

Love how honest you guys are with us and each other !! Totally admire your relationship 💕

[@missloretta]

I had no idea you were raised Mennonite! I have been serendipitously following several Mennonite KZbinrs. Salt of the Earth people, and I'm always inspired by them. Clearly they're doing something right. This too, I wish I had gotten married young, but I love my husband so much and I didn't know him then, so I believe in God's perfect timing. I'm so happy for y'all.

[@tiktoktiktok4056]

Thank you for this...I'm in a very healthy relationship with my boyfriend and we both see ourselves getting married before 25..I feel like I'm so ready to get married to him anytime coz he makes me so happy and a better person...literally ticks all my boxes...so it's great to know that I'm not crazy for wanting to get married early since a lot of people say it wont work out when people get married so young

[@taliapancakes7858]

I really need to watch this because I am 11 years old and I hit puberty way faster than normal and my father’s side still treats me like a 7 year old. Now I ware makeup and heels to school and am mature. They compare me to my older cousin who hides in the shadows once my mom left them and my mom was the only person she really had. But I am very lucky to spend most of the time with my mom and have many friends. Thanks for the vid!!!

[@violetgabriella1990]

This is one of my favorite videos from you.

[@normarietorres1657]

I got married at 17 had my first baby at 18.. Now my son is 21, my daughters are 20 and 16 and decided to have a baby at 39, she is 1 year and a half!!! Nothing wrong getting married young!! My kids are my friends!!!

[@dallastalada1831]

My marriage is hard. My husband is incredibly selfish, quick to anger, mentally abusive and manipulative, and dominating. And I obviously didnt know this before marrying him- he has said to my face that he was a good liar and wanted a good wife. I wouldn't say it's just a thing people say, I think its more common than you'd think, unfortunately. So glad yall dont have this issue!

[@mallorymoran03]

Dallas Talada sorry to hear that :(

[@BH-el4rs]

Why are you still with him? Do you have kids? Are you hoping he will change? Usually, behaviors like this only get worse. They escalate into physical violence and could end in your death. I hope you have family nearby. Talk to someone. You need help

[@zz-ic6vy]

get help and get away

[@dallastalada1831]

@@BH-el4rs We do have one child. I have set boundries the past few months on what I will live with- if those boundries are crossed I will leave. It has been hard since I did not do so for so long. I'm a Christian, and though I technically have even biblical reason to leave him I have decided to continue to pray for my husband and try to make our marriage better as much as I can. I am actually pretty convinced that he will divorce me since he is either forced to do so or change. Obviously if at any time I feel unsafe or feel like my child is at risk I will leave- and if he ever hurt me physically I would never come back.

[@dallastalada1831]

@@BH-el4rs And our families know and so do several friends. It is not a hidden secret. (As in I've told them.)

[@katarinajurisic2641]

I so agree with the fact of growing with your children. I turned 23 few days after my daughter was born which is very young for place where I live but then again being young parent really favours you in a way that you have more strength and are 'less embarrassed' to be involved in these fun kids things like playing with them in sand for hours 😊 Also being married is hard if you are not ready to listen and compromise with you loved one 😊

[@ileanaaaaa]

Mi eldest sister got married at 19, my middle sister and me (the youngest) at 23 and for each one of us everyone thought that the reason was pregnancy and kept saying that marriage was hard (everyone outside of family and closest friends). It has never been hard for us but we feel bad saying that back to people when they say that in their experience it has been hard for them? is difficult to explain but I hope this makes sense...anyway... 20 years, 14 years and 9 years of marriage later, respectively, and it has been the best thing ever. We have never stopped doing the things we want to do; moving cities, moving countries even! Traveling, change of careers and we feel so lucky to experience it all and everything life has to offer next to your favourite person? I mean, how lucky are we?! If you know, you know and if you are ready, you are ready. Age and commitment and understanding is in you heart and in your brain, not in your age... at least in my opinion :D

[@agajaniuk5027]

I agree it’s not hard. Ever since I got married I feel like we’ve been more in love then ever. I just feel like we have some sort of closer connection. 🥰🥰🥰

[@My_MelodyOwO]

Me and my boyfriend are engaged ( both of us are 20) and we are so excited to get married. Seeing this makes me so hopeful for our marriage

[@MarieJohnson]

13:33-14:31, have you guys read the 5 Love Languages book?! I love how open your communication is with each other! I think you could really take your marriage to the next level if you read this book! I have been married 10 years this October and we have four boys!

[@Alyo_aly]

I was smiling for the whole video. You are so cool, I love you! For sure you are an example for my future

[@zesuper]

Its definitely hard when youve married the wrong person like i did once. Started following for the baby stuffs, coming back for the young wisdom

[@J3ssthem3ss]

My husband and I got married young as well, I was also 19. Had 2 children by the age of 21. I’m now 31, and looking back, you don’t realize that even if you think you’re mature, you have so much growth and sometimes that can get blurred getting married so young.

[@iambaked1537]

No name sounds like someone regrets getting married young. If they are happy they are happy. They can grow together.

[@johanna2690]

I'm now 25. At 19 I would not have been mature enough for marriage. And I thought I was mature. I think every 19 year old thinks they are.

[@MarieJohnson]

7:31 Zach is such a good guy!