Lolita reacts to Living Lolita | Irish Comm Documentary

[@fruitygarlic3601]

Honestly, it's probably easier to explain that The Frilly Frock Brigade has nothing to do with the military than to explain that the fashion has nothing to do with *the book.*

[@bethm5852]

Pastel Kitten Same! About a year ago I said something to my mom about how I thought lolita was cool and showed her a couple pictures. At the time, I’d heard of the book but had no idea that it was disgusting. Now that I’m actually starting to wear the fashion I’m scared to tell her what it is lol.

[@DancingProduce]

lor: "i hope salty lor doesnt ruin your innocent view of me!" lor: (is nothing but respectful and polite and complains about one thing) lmao

[@clickergirl98]

when i first saw Marie Antoinette, i remember falling in love with the dresses and thinking "why don't people still dress like this??" and then a couple years later I discovered lolita fashion :)

[@dollyta]

same omg

[@LPSRosyYT]

When you're talkin about people staring and judging for how you dressed and how you ignore it. It made me think about what I do in those situations. I'm not a Lolita, I'm more into decora. but I sometimes notice people looking at me strangely, but I usually don't really care. I have autism and I'm extremely socially awkward and I'm always worried people are judging me about what I'm doing or how I'm acting. but when I'm wearing Decora or any other fun fashion. I'm not really worried about people looking at me, cuz they're probably looking and judging me at what I'm wearing and not how I'm acting. It's giving me so much more confidence.

[@cheerfulcaptain5077]

I'm also really socially awkward and I feel too self conscious to go outside wearing my pieces but it's really nice to read that someone with similar problems to mine enjoys and feels more confident wearing what they want! You've inspired me, thank you :)

[@ladylibrum7145]

That's a good attitude to have! I haven't worn my full Lolita coord in public YET, but for Halloween I wore an all-black "Lolita-esque" outfit to work, with sapphire blue satin bows and religious symbols for jewelry.. with my modest petticoat under my knee-length ruffled skirt. It was not too over- the-top and we were having a potluck lunch, so it was work-appropriate. After leaving the office I went to a local mall where they do trick-or-treat, just to see all the cute kids and people in costume. A few people complimented me on how I was dressed, saying very kind things. I came to the conclusion that people enjoy seeing others beautifully dressed.. it may startle the brain for a moment if it's different.. but that's a natural response to things out of the ordinary. So maybe a stare, if its not accompanied by rudeness, may not be a bad thing. It could be the visual equivalent of stopping to enjoy the fragrance of a rose. I like to think I can bring people happiness by the way I'm dressed.

[@AzuraRose]

I'm autistic and physically disabled (use a cane most of the time), wear goth stuff generally including the odd gothic lolita coord, and yeah pretty much the same for me. I'm awkward and I still notice people staring at me all the time because it's hard not to notice *everything* for me. These days though because I've grown more confident in expressing myself and more happy with my appearance I don't super care. I do a quick assessment of the staring folks for safety reasons (I've been actually assaulted or stalked before and I think that's mostly a visible disability while female-appearing thing) but it doesn't effect my self-esteem at all. I'm glad you're getting more confident in your style!!

[@Rensey]

In the same way the music distracted you, the animal crossing mug distracted me! It's by bluepotionco who has been stealing from the uk indie artists and taking domain names of competitors and using them to redirect to her site. I'm a long time fan of yours and a UK illustrator so please... Don't get that mug

[@chaoticneutralsheep]

Wait, really? I bought that mug some years ago from etsy, damn.

[@kuma8642]

DO NOT GET THAT MUG! The “artist” stole that art!

[@lilyoftheveil666]

I loved the person who said "People stare at me all the time because I'm a young person in a wheelchair, so I might as well give them something to stare at"

[@stardarling6866]

Irish person here, I just wanted to clarify that I think that picture of Josephine and her mother is actually a First Holy Communion dress which is a religious thing we do here in Ireland. But now that you mention it, I guess they do look a bit like J fashion 😊

[@FattyChan]

I cant stop think about how ur twinkle journey headbow looks so good with that wig lmao

[@jaydence2542]

I was thinking the same! I kept staring at it lol

[@FattyChan]

sorry lor but siouxsie and the banshees can never be overplayed 😤

[@Brujoneja]

Amen!

[@corinnabambina]

YES!!!

[@triplehearts914]

Theres something incredibly adorable and endearing about lor wearing the tyler pin on her collar. You can really tell theres a genuine frienship there and I really like seeing that!

[@CombinationError]

This has nothing to do with anything but I just wanted to let you know that the animal crossing mug that you pointed out was made by someone who sells traced work on their store and has been acting really sh*tty after being called out on it (cybersquatting by taking url's from legit artists and making them redirect to her store) and continues to sell stolen art. Not gonna mention her name here 'cause I don't wanna promote to her store but you'd probably be able to find it with some googling (the controversy mostly went down last summer). Just a heads up if you were actually thinking of purchasing from her shop.

[@Mary-fy8qi]

Yeah I heard she's horrible. I did my own research and it's worse than I imagined. This "artist" is stealing people's work, blocking people for calling her out, stealing business, etc. and is overall just being toxic af. Can't believe some of the people support her go on to then say things like "Support artists!" like do you not see what you're doing?

[@sadsprt-501]

@@Mary-fy8qi They honestly may not know. I saw the shop years before I ever saw anything about the tracing and stealing. As an artist myself, I am so happy I didn't buy from or support someone who was stealing.

[@Mary-fy8qi]

@@sadsprt-501 Oh for sure I bet some of them have no idea! However, I have asked a lot of them about the situation and they all defended her because they liked her aesthetic or they were stans or etc....

[@AlarmedCryptid]

Just gonna pop in and say the girl who sells those pokemon mugs is a thief and traced all that art from other artists. When she got called out she blocked thousands of people and bought the domains of her competitors and critics to redirect anyone from them to her shop of stolen merch. Edited for spelling

[@matthewsmith8402]

which person?

[@AlarmedCryptid]

Matthew Smith they go by the name “BluePotionco”

[@changelingsys]

I loved the disability rep in this! I'm also a young person who uses a cane and honestly I dress cute or odd when I use it too. Not Lolita, more of a vintage faerie thing, but still. It helps.

[@actuallink9656]

Lolita casino dealer is my new aesthetic.

[@Picligto]

Ah so happy! The Irish comms 10th anniversary meet was my first meet ever, and this doc helped me loads the week before the event! Seeing everyone in the doc and then being able to recognise the women at the event and have something to talk to them about really helped my calm my newbie nerves lol

[@margegrimm]

The mug is from Bluepotion and co , who is known for stealing other people design...

[@WhyHelloThereHelen]

A picture of them together wearing j fashion *insert picture of her first communion day* 😂😂😂

[@danysanerd2383]

I am so thankful to you for introducing me to this doc! I cried at least three times, (which was astonishing as it's less than fifteen minutes long but more so because I almost NEVER cry when watching things because I tend to avoid unnecessary drama), because it really helped me understand my daughter! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

[@aprilclevinger9963]

I loved this documentary! It was beautifully shot and well-made. I just loved the part where she was explaining how she felt that the little bear doll backpack represented her, it was soooo cute. Thanks for sharing this documentary in this video. Also I know this is random but I just recently did a short speech on lolita and decora fashion for a college class and you would pop into my mind frequently while researching lol. And a lot of people in my class thought lolita fashion looked very cute! (there were pics on a powerpoint) Okay anyway I'm just very happy that you're out of your little hiatus and making content again

[@LacedWithOreos]

About the Marie Antoinette soundtrack: the only track that makes me cringe is the 'I want Candy' cover. I'm sick of hearing that. Also, I adore the 'Lolita last supper' hahaha

[@GundamM3ister]

I was distracted by the music too because it was SO GOOD. 👌🏻 I have never seen the Marie Antoinette movie, but I love Siouxsie and the Banshees, so that was where my excitement came from. 😂

[@Lollipop256]

FRILLY FROCK BRIGADE UNITE!!!

[@katedoesthings]

this doc was so freakin good, i almost cried

[@djohnston1977]

I second the motion to rename “Lolita fashion “ to frilly frock brigade!

[@aine1597]

it's so wild to hear a non Irish person talk abt rté lol

[@anmarbhchrios]

Wish Raidió na Gaeltachta would've come up for some reason

[@olwen3087]

"a picture of them both together wearing J fashion' lmao that's clearly her holy communion picture

[@itsalwayshalloweenexceptwh5118]

I think I've said this before about another documentary. This was the best lolita documentary I've seen so far.

[@melissacarter9389]

Just wanted to say i love your videos. I found you when i started stalking lolita fashion in 2016. You have been so informative and i have learned so much. Thank you!

[@lolahbell]

YESSSSS the IREGL comm is so cool. Their Myths of Our Own event last year was one of my faves.

[@aangangel333j]

it was!!!

[@magicalgirlme]

I really enjoyed this! The documentary was lovely and I appreciate your expertise in your reaction videos ♡

[@ellmcel7313]

Aaa I loved that doc!! I'm so happy you made a video on it!!

[@marjorieserpa5931]

So, where's the salty?

[@milkyfawnn]

the marie antoinette soundtrack definitely does make me feel that exact kind of way, buuuut also it's a killer soundtrack 10/10 every song slaps

[@kgcat]

lmaoo I also got distracted by the pop music "if you didnt like this video, im tyler" LOL omg

[@CatBarefield]

I havent watched it but it just seems like they are a great comm. A museum lolita meetup sounds like exactly the type of thing that would give me that extra little push i need to buy my first piece (looking at you Ladysloth’s my tea time print..). Its good to have you back Lor 😄

[@CaptainLunar]

When people stare at me when I'm dressed in Lolita I usually look at them and smile or wave. It really freaks them the fuck out, especially because I'm from Finland where people really don't make eye contact or any other contact with strangers.

[@rodafrogvonsakray3526]

Not much salt tbh. Still loed the vid. :3 Also "I'm Tylee, you've been watching scarfing scarves" I died at this xD.

[@Naomi-ni6ep]

I loved this documentary so much! Ref the women getting distracted and walking into a bad: v. funny, I would say that this is not necessarily an example of someone getting distracted and judging someone in a negative way, and sometimes that it's just distracting because it's something people don't see too often. They might be admiring it and be in awe of it 🤷‍♀️

[@Rose42358]

Lor you look so cute and pretty in those short fluffy wigs!

[@plantadelbosque]

As a person who doesn't wear any out-of-conventional fashion, but REALLY appreciates the artistry of different styles I do want to ask you (and any other lolitas/alt fashion people) if it is possible to be polite at looking at people? I mean, sometimes the clothes and styling are AMAZING or super detailed and yeah, I would totally love to figure out the little details of it, as it happens with tattoos as well, but as a stranger I do feel it is rude af to just... plainly stare at someone. So I really want to know y'all opinions. I'm pretty sure it depends on personalities and all, but I wonder if it has been discussed as a community and if there is a way to not look like a creepy ass person and be able to appreciate fashion hah

[@ineed2beabetter326]

I feel the exact way. If I see someone wear something really beautiful and out of the ordinary, I'm probably gonna stare at them. Cuz when am I gonna see that look again?! I don't know, like why wouldn't I look at you if you were wearing something that pretty? It's definitely confusing.

[@psychotophatcat]

@@ineed2beabetter326 You guys could try offering a quick compliment, just something simple like "I love your outfit" or "you look lovely" to explain your staring! It might be harder if you're socially anxious, but 99% of alt fashion wearers are just going to smile and thank you and go about their day feeling a bit happier.

[@ineed2beabetter326]

@@psychotophatcat That makes sense. That could make someone feel uncomfortable to be stared at all day.

[@asheslaree1713]

I know im late, but I was soooo happy when the smiths came on in that doc. And might it actually be her record. YES! Perfect! Also "there are two people and they are both me" same. great review/react!

[@diva.t.williams]

This documentary inspired me to get up and put on my dream dress that I recently got, but have nowhere to wear to, and that still isn't perfectly accessorized yet, and just... sit around in it, imperfections and all. It still feels whole somehow. As for the music, I was just excited to hear Siouxie and the Banshees. I've never seen the Marie Antoinette movie because I don't care for that historical figure. Speaking of Siouxie, I've been a goth for so long that I've stopped noticing when people stare too, especially because I tend to show a lot of skin on top of that. I fail to notice so much that people I know have tried to talk to me on the street and I've just completely overlooked them! It is nice when people do manage to get my attention and say that they like my look. I'm not dressed like this for them, but it's good to know that not everyone who stares is thinking something negative. They might just not know how to approach you to say something kind, and that's a comforting thought.

[@a.j.norris5134]

i've been really loving this channel! i'm looking into getting into lolita. i love the fashion and designing coords seems really fun, but i'm running into a bit of trouble finding things in my size. i'm very tall, AND my waist is over 100cm. it seems like the only options out there are buying from very expensive etsy stores that are not even always exactly lolita, buying full shirring brand pieces and hoping you can squeeze into it, or trying to make it yourself. it doesn't help that most resources i've found for plus sized lolitas are SUPER out of date. i'd love some up-to-date tips and resources for Big and Tall lolitas!

[@astra1653]

Late to the party, but it was a good video! I thought it rep'd the ladies in Ireland quite well, and was very playful. Thanks for introducing it to your (trying-to-get-caught-up) audience, Tyler! 😈💕

[@keichunyanthousend]

6:54 That's her communion, a religious ceremony when you're in second class in school in Ireland and her mom is wearing black clothes and a chain of the cross, not a lolita co-ord but still cute!

[@TheStitchess]

Omg that furby pin is everything

[@EleanorRoseRawr]

I don't think they even played Hong Kong Garden because it's from the Marie Antoinette soundtrack. I think the person choosing the music just thinks 'Ahh, a subculture with a distinctive dress sense. Let's add some goth background music." since they had the Smiths in there too and one of Siouxsie's other big songs - Spellbound :')

[@mayoucheghalil5722]

There is alot of talk about being stared at while being in lolita and I just wanted to share my opinion as someone who usually wears punk/gothic fashion but started to also wear lolita. I get stared at in both style quite alot but in the punk fashion people look more negatively at me while in the lolita fashion I get alot more compliments and kids smiling at me. People are nicer to me when I dress lolita! I've got people compliments in punk clothes but usually it's other alternative people (or oddly enough grandma). So while both fashion attracts attention, it's two different types of attention.

[@Megu_Byte]

This is my first reaction. I liked it and I would show my mom

[@pinkdinoprincess4347]

I've waited so long for this video and I love it!!

[@britaki]

LOL The Marie Antionette soundtrack just makes me nostalgic because I had it on repeat as a youngster. XD But I could understand your reasoning of cringe; every time I hear, "Girls Just Want to Have Fun" I go, "ugh" because my friend's Mary Kay group overplayed it a while back.

[@kawaiilolitaleprechaun2798]

This is like the first lolita irish documentary

[@SteviiLove]

Your background is so aesthetically pleasing 😍

[@Coinin_Beag]

Didn't even know we had a community in ireland or that this documentary was filmed by rte.. Gona have to check it out

[@melanie9126]

Wondering where’d you’d been for a min. I hope you enjoyed your break!

[@Dolleemixtures]

Sooooo when I (rarely) see people in alternative fashion especially freaking kawaii princesses... I stare. I do. And I'm not judging. I'm really trying to take everything in and like with a regular glance at a well turned out human in a nice but regular outfit, you can grab everything into your eyeballs but with lolita there's just so much and I need more eyeball time to take it in. I would love to wear lolita but I just don't have the space or money soooo I'm basically living through your co-ord. If I ever have the confidence to approach a cute girl to tell her she looks incredible rather than just staring I promise I will

[@aliceis9068]

1. WHAT A GREAT DOC I'VE NEVER WANTED TO BE A LOLITA THAN NOW!!! (and i have wanted to wear this fashion and join this community since i was like 13) 2. HOLY SHIT THAT (500) DAYS OF SUMMER JOKE OMFG LMAOOO xD (i also got distracted by The Smiths xD) 3. "I am like other girls and other girls are awesome!" ;-; (im nonbinary but that... really spoke to me also cuz WOW thanks lolita/#FrillyFrockBrigade for p much DESTROYING internalized misogyny, im so inspired LMAO)

[@castlegarden2999]

12:01 The Marie Antoinette movie soundtrack reminds me of my high school thesis. My subject was Marie Antoinette and I needed to vibe with her. I actually quite like the movie.

[@AkitakitaNeruFan]

the end had me dying but, in regards to your question. im very new to lolita, have yet to take the leap into the clothes but follow so many youtubers and just learning stuff for now. I do not know about the music that was overplayed

[@elizabethevry963]

I am not a Lolita but when I cosplay, I will sometimes get some 'what the...' stares so I understand. (I know Lolita is not a costume but is an expression through fashion.) For me and cosplay, when I take on a character I feel more open than when just myself.

[@blooberrybaggens]

This look is so friggin cute UGGGGGGH 😭💙💙💙

[@endlessteatime4733]

I've been in lolita fashion for nine years and I've never been exposed to the Marie Antoinette soundtrack apart from when I actually watched the movie ages ago, or at least I've never noticed it. Now I need to check it out on spotify (after I've finished watching this).

[@Naomi-ni6ep]

I imagine some people must stare because the fashion is so different and interesting, not always judging or not in bad way at way at least.

[@OrianaBats]

I once had an older woman bumping into a café sign, because she was staring at me. I'm a goth and had blue/green hair at the time, was sitting on some stairs, reading a magazine, waiting for some people to arrive. How is that worth watching, I'm not sure, but that's small towns for you XD

[@allisonnicole1659]

It actually doesn’t make me uncomfortable when people stare at me anymore bc I mean they’re gonna stare at you no matter what so might as well give them a show? I mean they’re just proving my point that I’m the main character here

[@GeoNeilUK]

Nice backgorund music - Siouxie Sioux and the Banshees. I'm glad it's available in the UK though (I'm not sure if BBC iPlayer is available outside the UK without resorting to a VPN, I do know that in the UK at least, iPlayer and All4 require you to register and login) if it wasn't, I'd be like "they really haven't forgiven us, have they?" Seems to have been really respectful, though I'm a diabetic, I'm not sure if that tea party scene helped me any...

[@SteviiLove]

I just want to say something; I'm not lolita, but even I get stared at just for being myself. I know how uncomfortable that can be but what I've learned is they typically don't stare because they're hating what you look like or are wearing, it's typically because they admire it. I've had a few people stare then run into them later and pay me a compliment. Typically, they're intimidated by how unapologetically you you're being and just don't know how to express that. We judge ourselves enough as it is, don't worry about others because you've probably said worse things to yourself than anyone could say about you. Just love yourself and what makes you you. 💕

[@kawaiilolitaleprechaun2798]

I'm an irish lolita lol 😊

[@moon-y513]

1:37 is my favorite part😂

[@WanderingHobbit12]

Music easily distracts me too. I have that way of thinking people always stare at me and I might as well as dress whatever way I want. I love alternative fashion!

[@KarmaKatajisto]

i would love to see Lor react one american nxt top model episode. It's from season 3 and girls are trying to dress in harajuku styles because they are in tokyo.

[@Schwarz_Sinister]

Very good call on not playing the video with the soundtrack intact! That would have been SO many copyright strikes! XD I recognized the "Marie Antoinette" stuff immediately, but I was on a bit of a sabbatical from the fashion during the height of its use and abuse by the comm, so it wasn't exactly cringe, so much as it felt low effort. They already used a different Siouxsie Sioux song earlier in the doc, and I feel like they would have been better off being inspired by the MA soundtrack, using alternate tracks from the same/similar bands, rather than lifting straight from the film. Also my condolences on the title. They ought to have googled around a bit before settling on the doc name, alas. It seems like they were working SO HARD on making some aspects of the doc really stellar that other important elements weren't given the attention that they needed. :/

[@trunks8896]

so I'm Tyler means screw off now...lol...if you have problems "I'm Tyler" lol love it

[@kyoko2752]

Crying internally and externally at Harmony's coord because Holy Lantern

[@mahoushoujo8020]

Just love siouxsie and the banshees haha.

[@Lilpinkvelvet]

I think the doc was super well done. I loved the use of the MA soundtrack. It's fun music--it was (over)popular quite a while ago now, so I have more happy nostalgia than burnout I guess. Is it that music permanently ruined for you now? Bummer.

[@matthewsmith8402]

theyre all the nicest people ive ever met too

[@marionhills8031]

I absolutely love your coord in this video ;-;💓💗💖

[@SignsOnTheWalls]

ok when you prefaced the whole thing being a representation of you being salty, but then mostly just had good things to say about it... I was so confused. :'D I kept watching being like "what's she mad about...? aside from a bit of lazy invoking using 2 songs from the Marie Antoinette soundtrack I really like it" and it was... just the one thing, really, it seemed.;;;

[@Grizzlegone]

That picture of the girl and her mam wasnt j fashion It was her communion lol!

[@3haydenberger337]

I LOVE YOU PIN!!!!!!!

[@harukoann8971]

I just love your outfit and cords

[@maryecho9215]

I love the girl who uses mobility aids and that she addresses, I'm also a young person who wears braces (will likely use some sort of aid soon) that gets a lot of eyes anyway, i relate to her reason for wearing lolita a lot

[@Littleladyduck]

I have to drive 3.5 hours of one community and 1 hour plus 3 hour ferry for another 😢

[@psychotophatcat]

I feel you ;_; My in-state comm is ~4.5 hours away and we share a comm with the next state up, so most meetups are hard to get to with a janky car and low cash reserves. I wish I could go! Everyone is so nice and cute!!

[@Littleladyduck]

@@psychotophatcat I feel ya until I got my "newer" car meets were not an option unless I car-pooled plus I live on the west coast so I have to do mountain driving with is not fun in a beat up sunfire lol It's a nice felling knowing that other lolita have the same problem and go threw the same issue... I hope thing get better and meet up's become easier for you 😊

[@psychotophatcat]

@@Littleladyduck Mountain driving is terrifying, I don't blame you for being wary. Thank you! I really hope it gets easier for you soon too so you can have fun with frilly friends ♡

[@shammydammy2610]

Person in teased hair, huge sunglasses and a blue velvet dress stares so hard she walks into someone.

[@alienaf8151]

I think I can see kawaiibatfangz (i think her actual name is Lynn?) sitting right at the edge of the table there

[@cuddlefishtreasures338]

1. I did not see this program on US Netflix 2. This is my favorite COORD that you've worn. 3. You look like the beautiful Angelica Houston, when she was younger, and therefore look amazing in bangs.

[@chelsiemalfoy]

My husband is the one that introduced me to Siouxsie and the Banshees & since they played another one of their songs in the beginning it didn't bother me. So I don't have that song correlation like you do.

[@creepykoolkat1869]

On the topic of people staring,my parents have raised me to think half or most of the time the person isn’t doing it to be rude ,they may just be intrigued or think you look really nice,so especially when I’m all done up and dressed in Lolita or just nice and I get stares and they don’t come up and say anything I just take it as a compliment and continue with my day 😊

[@cm4688]

Are Minty Mix wigs good for people with larger heads?

[@psychotophatcat]

I've heard they're very comfy! Speaking as a fellow bighead.

[@audreydarcovich643]

your coord in this video is so cute :D

[@catherineleslie-faye4302]

I can not watch the original on their site as my computer is not new enough to support their platform. Thanks for the review.

[@AlLeDrgon]

FYI, it seems that mobile users can only watch the linked video if they are willing to download the app.

[@im_bobby_mom]

I couldn't help but stare if I saw them, but just because they're so pretty. Which is a double edged sword, I wanna look but also don't wanna make the girls feel awkward. 🖤 Go Irish Lolitas! 💚 (I'm Irish lol)

[@janellem.6744]

Lor talking about Judas: yknow, that guy who was mean to Jesus Judas: betrayed the son of god for a few silver coins, effectively leading to his violent crucifixion Lor: yep....just a mean guy.... (This made me crack up so hard and I haven’t read that story in years jfbevdhwh)

[@jordang7479]

I never noticed the Marie Antoinette music before.

[@SaraTen]

Yep 3 hrs for an active community or 1.5hr for an inactive one 🚙

[@Alex96D]

I’m from Ireland and had no idea this came out 😯

[@maebholeary2734]

I'm Irish and like lolita but haven't seen this yet!!