Loneliness epidemic: Panel discusses how to combat feeling alone

[@Paul-se4qh]

"I think the irony of social media is that it was intended to connect us but I think it actually disconnects us." Yes. Yes. Yes. and Yes. Overall, social media has had a toxic effect on humanity.

[@AllDayWithTheAlis]

Thank you CBS for inviting me and bringing awareness to this verrrry misunderstood subject.

[@CreativeSpiritKWB]

All Day With The Alis Thank You For Sharing 💞💋🧚🏽‍♀️

[@DandyInTheBronx]

All Day With The Alis you rocked ❤️

[@Jason49877]

This definitely struck a cord with me. I worked from home for 5 years, 70+ hours a week sometimes. Not married, no kids, no pets, etc. I was painfully isolated for extended periods of time and genuinely thought I was going crazy sometimes. I thought about taking my life every single day. I took a massive pay cut but finally got out of that job and things got soooo much better.

[@Malcolmdeeb]

Becky I understand and empathize with you

[@tjmichael8773]

I work from home. I had to start seeing a therapist. I enjoy my job and I like being alone but I often think the isolation creates added anxiety.

[@nuk115]

Find your passion!! You are deserving and worth the world 10 ten times over ❤️❤️❤️

[@WatchMeEat]

I’m happy things got better for you.

[@linguinepast3743]

I hear ya. I think isolation like that is not good for our mental health. I’ve had some really hard times spending massive amounts of time alone. Especially when we are younger. It can be hard reaching out. Not everyone is so nice some ppl bring their own poison. I don’t mind being alone anymore.

[@justjayok]

The 90 yea old lady looks AMAZING!

[@eddenoy321]

WTF, ! She looks like a 90 yr old, FFS !

[@DandyInTheBronx]

Thanks CBS for having me on this panel. Still working on myself and something we should all be talking about.

[@DandyInTheBronx]

Tom H. Thanks Tom 😊

[@debbiedoodiedandi]

Thank you for taking part in this panel. This story really hit me hard

[@j3npho83]

Thank you for sharing.

[@DandyInTheBronx]

debbiedoodiedandi the first steps is definitely to start talking about it. Glad to have been a part of it and share

[@DandyInTheBronx]

J3n Pho thanks for watching 😊

[@glittersilver7779]

I work 60 hours a week in a hospital just to keep a roof over my head . anytime alone I have to myself is precious to me

[@WarriorVinyard]

looks like you have a sweet cat to spend time with

[@mpalmer7800]

Such a lovely mix of guests, also we need to unplug and meet real people, I sit in the train I see all these amazing men not looking at these beautiful ladies because they are all on a gadget. Please say hello to someone give a compliment stop these stupid emojis!! We have replaced language with an emoji, of course we will be more lonely as we continue to be attached to gadgets.

[@lgee9027]

M Palmer so true!!!! Im going to have to get off this phone ASAP

[@arroyobaby38]

Well said M Palmer!!

[@selendriamuganogo7077]

Exactly... The gadgets are replacing human companionship

[@jessicalt4121]

M Palmer yes!!! This is something I’ve been concerned about for a long time. Look up and disconnect to connect. I purposely try not to look at my phone so I can see others and talk some, but most are looking down. Older people will talk with me and smile but many younger people seem to be socially off and not receptive to older people, which is a shame, because we are fun, interesting, can be a wonderful friend, and have been there so we have a lot of wisdom to share. I truly believe these gadgets are our downfall as a society. Maybe as a public service we talk about this more.... start a movement to change the direction of things.

[@terrencedayton2788]

Why can't the beautiful ladies stop and say hello to the "amazing" men? Why must it always be the other way around? SMH female narcissism

[@yogaqueen1527]

I'm very lonely. Its sad. No real friends, no family in my area, ex bf treated me horribly, so its pretty sad

[@wendyellis3738]

I'm sorry I'm so late but I pray you are doing better if not reach out cuz I can relate to u..

[@everettfanor1989]

At least you had a boyfriend. Im 29 year old guy who never had a girlfriend, moved to LA, no friends, no family. Im a security guard so Im very alone at work during the day and when I get home theres nobody to talk to. I feel the pain of my loneliness. I hope something changes soon or im gonna lose my mind

[@lexydanielle8705]

Talk to God and ask for guidance and strength to get through your loneliness. Also, work towards something you always wanted to do/accomplish during your idle time. Blessings and love to you and everyone reading this. 🙏❤

[@wendyellis3738]

@@everettfanor1989 ur not going to loose your mind reach out to some who has the same problem/ situation even if ur not n the same state friendships can be different types of communications..just try it

[@bellaisdus8960]

Message me if u wanna talk

[@ilove3dsomuch]

If Anyone want's someone to listen please hit me up. I'm in the military and in korea so i can't hug ya. I promise though i listen as best as i can.

[@sarahjackson1897]

l see you listen to "The Grits" too! How did you get introduced to them and what do you love most about their music?

[@ilove3dsomuch]

@Saint Scanderbeg Thank you 💜

[@ilove3dsomuch]

@@sarahjackson1897 Aha that's a long story... My dad got me grown up on old school Jams.

[@jelicianorwood24]

Aww well that's sweet of you

[@prosperousk5477]

Tyvontae Classix you're awesome

[@ashdacraft]

I’ve spent Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years mostly alone for the last 12 years with a few awkward holidays with pity families . My coworkers all seem concerned AFTER the fact but don’t talk to me on a day to day. This year I ate in a soup kitchen and my Christmas is me watching KZbin vids and drinking. People that have never moved to a new state as an non college student grown adult just don’t get it.

[@DreamChaser415]

I totally get it. I can so relate.

[@aliciaj_marie]

Girl me to. I moved to another state where I have no family for better opportunities so I understand.

[@alidi13]

@@aliciaj_marie I just moved to NYC and couldn't fly back due to financial reasons. I understand. Hopefully, I can fly back next year and on, but you never know. Keeping bust is key (for me). I was able to work, at least, lol.

[@Oscar_239]

The pity family is real, and yes akward

[@peekaboots01]

I've spent every holiday like that. Always.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I think the reason so many feel lonely is because there's a lack of true meaning and purpose in one's life. The mundane activities of getting up to go to work, take care of the family, make a living, meet deadlines and expectations, etc. result in emotional and psychological disturbance. I called this "existential discomfort." We're not comfortable with ignoring our spiritual, psychological, and emotional selves on a daily basis. Loneliness, as I like to explain to my clients, is the body and hearts way of telling us that something is wrong. That something is often a lack of purpose and true meaning in one's life. Would love to see this story further discussed with a psychologist or someone who understands spirituality.

[@j3npho83]

It's tough, but five things to keep in mind: 1. Seek your higher spiritual power daily 2. Only YOU are responsible for your own happiness 3. Focus on your goals 4. Help others who truly are in need 5. Spend time with nature

[@ciel222]

WELL SAID

[@j3npho83]

@@ciel222 Thank you.

[@ob2be1]

These steps are what I used to help combat my depression over the years.

[@JaIch9999]

Agreed. Except for No. 1. Imaginary friends (= placebos) are not a solution for me.

[@Bubbleyumizchewi17]

Yep. I find those all helpful! Thanks for sharing!

[@James.Payne.]

Really awesome segment. Thanks CBS This Morning

[@naturallybeautiful9109]

This does not go deep enough

[@Declan_Moriarty]

I was thinking the same thing! Just like EVERYTHING the media puts out these days. It's all so fleeting and half-hearted.

[@naturallybeautiful9109]

dM agree

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Very much agree!! We need a part two.

[@cpantheraaaa]

Yes, the host is really annoying.

[@Blissid_Waters]

You are so right.

[@Ksb88]

I love this story!! So many of us feel this way and sometimes we hide it ( behind social media) but im learning to be honest about my feelings...embracing time alone but reaching out and connecting.

[@Star-hk6gc]

Yes. It’s tough. I feel very alone. My kids are doing their own thing this Christmas going to Chicago this Christmas, I’m single and although I’m outgoing I feel very alone.

[@fortfish8190]

S Burch It's ok. They love you. I'm alone in my mother's apartment daily. I'm 23 and have no job so I'm pretty lonely. Don't be sad, it's ok.

[@Star-hk6gc]

Fort fish thank you. I am also sorry you feel that way. 💛

[@fortfish8190]

S Burch You don't have to feel sorry for me. I'm ok, There's gonna be better days.

[@CreativeSpiritKWB]

S Burch Continued Blessings 💞💋

[@arohyadav33]

Its fine find a hobby read books watch Netflix and enjoy Sometimes u r better off being lonely cz Many people have family problems

[@cherylcarlson3315]

Loneliness occurs when you aren't in the herd, in 20's friends were popping out kids annually and had to accept that change in 30's I had my kid and suddenly friends were feeling baby was anchor,all while making fun of my second shift job in hospitals" when you gonna get a grown up job?" It was a struggle to keep people in my life, felt so bad with them that being lonely was improvement. Now with a muscle destroying disease I know better than make plans and be too exhausted to keep up as they have already said" you'll be back to normal in no time, just find a new MD" never reading about Myositis and learning there is no cure, it is progressive.Loneliness is sublimated into creativity,solitude, comfort, and saying I will allow people in my life by invitation only.

[@Sheppesh]

The way people live their lives in the U.S. creates that environment. Most people in the U.S. don’t trust each other and usually want nothing to do with anyone else unless they’re getting something in return so most always remain suspicious of others. Being that the U.S. is a capitalist country it’s true that most are always wanting to sell but not always buy. The climate of criminality also helps contribute to a culture of fear leading to loneliness, ie., random shootings, workplace violence and always being on the defensive because today everyone is anticipating being offended. Pop culture and mainstream music project success through individuality which indirectly promotes being a loner which is suppose to translate into being a “trendsetter”. Most people have bought into the idea that “it’s lonely at the top”. The problem with this thinking is that it doesn’t have to be lonely at the top. Abroad, I find most people take interest in the well-being of their neighbors whereas in the U.S. most focus their energy on making money instead of balancing making a living with making lifelong friendships and relationships. This is why in most cultures out the U.S., the building of relationships precedes any talk of business, if any business opportunities are to be had.

[@MrApple12610]

That’s absolutely true. Thank you for the statement

[@jelicianorwood24]

I agree with everything you said.

[@shaunta104]

Hi Seph Callaway: Wow, I just read your comment here and it really resonated with my soul. I'm currently living in the U.S. but want out so bad. I feel as though I don't fit in here. What country are you living? Just curious? thanks

[@Sheppesh]

Juanita Lee, I’m a nomad

[@shaunta104]

@@Sheppesh

[@loverofthetruth6085]

There can be a lot of shame that comes with loneliness--especially during the holidays. It can be even worse if you've been rejected by family members, or feel abandoned by those you love the most. But we are all part of a human family, and we are not alone. What an amazing time we live in, that we can anonymously gather together right here, without even leaving our home, to give and receive love and support. If you are feeling lonely this holiday season, please leave a comment below. We can all meet right here, in this very comment section, and create a safe and supportive place to help each other get through this difficult season. If you need a friend, let us know. If you care about those who are hurting, leave a message of encouragement. If you just need someone to listen, tell us what you are feeling. Just put it in the comments below. You are not alone. Wherever two or more are gathered, love is there with them.

[@j3npho83]

❤Merry Christmas 🎄⛄🎊

[@loverofthetruth6085]

Merry Christmas to you!!

[@Missusri]

Lover of the truth, Yes I am with you. Maria Shriver once said "We all have our own battle." As for myself...sometime I am angry, sometimes I am alright. Have a great Winter Spirit!

[@loverofthetruth6085]

Missusri: Thank you! There are so many people hurting, but we will make it if we take care of each other. Have a beautiful day!

[@loverofthetruth6085]

theresia2012: Merry Christmas to you! May Love & Joy surround you!

[@MattCharnock]

This was so, so well approached. Kudos, CBS.

[@gina_ashford3548]

I dislike the holiday season because of my loneliness. My mother is gone and it makes everything far worse. Thanks for this video. Its good to know im not alone.

[@gigig7855]

Imagine how people with chronic illness feel; because no one wants to listen to pity and most of the time ones just don't have the energy to keep up with social life but I also recognize that feeling lonely is no the same as being alone. I felt the most lonely when I was surrounded with a lot of people who didn't care and also when I was in a marriage were my partner didn't love me and it let me know by ignoring me. I am alone now and I feel less lonely then I did before.

[@helgapataki4156]

I think people look at me & think I have a perfect life. I'm grateful, but I'm missing a Family unit. I'm single w/ a Dog & no kids. I date, but the Guys aren't willing to let the intimacy (not sex) grow. My Dad was murdered on Christmas so I find myself crying out of nowhere sometimes. My Good friends don't live where I do. I wished, I've prayed for a huge Family or a Man who welcomes me into his & it has yet to happen. I reach out to Friends, but they're busy. I cook on Christmas & Thanksgiving out of tradition that my Mom started, hoping people drop by after giving out invites. I do all of this w/ a smile, so I can relate.

[@fatimahconteh3971]

Don't worry u will find someone

[@helgapataki4156]

@@fatimahconteh3971 thank you so much. May this be a prosperous New Year for you 🙏🏽

[@ljrockstar69]

Don't give up 👍

[@helgapataki4156]

@@ljrockstar69 Thank you 🤗

[@bellaisdus8960]

Message me if u wanna talk

[@PisoPinoy]

"Being lonely is not the same as being alone." Deep. I'm alone but not lonely.

[@pluto545]

I also think the culture of having to work, so much to pay bills, along with the cost of living forces people into robotic lifestyles as much as, if not more than social media.

[@sarahs5340]

This felt very shallow and plastic. Wth, this is a critical topic and deserves more than this! Thanks for at least trying, but this kind of gloss is the reason people are tuning out msm programs.

[@Hollysays]

Sarah S agreed. I feel like a panel of “influencers” mixed with the lady who lost her husband of 60 plus YEARS...idk...

[@newnana9070]

Sometimes you have to make yourself a family where you are. Group activities, do reach out to others for company, visit others, reconnect with friends, be open to senior groups, book clubs, travel groups, they all have other single, new moms, and married people that become families to each other. My senior building is like a mini family.

[@Sheismarienicole]

I am so glad they made a video about this topic. I work from home full time and believe me when I say it gets super lonely and often I feel very isolated. I do have moments in my day where I try to power down and go somewhere public to meet other likeminded people. I think that while technology is convenient, it keeps us in our comfort zone and actually disconnects us at the end of the day. It takes a bit of a lifestyle change but worth it for your mental AND physical health.

[@ninbendoyt3203]

I wish I had a friend. Im so lonely and depressed all the time ;(

[@fatimahconteh3971]

Why

[@kjames002]

You should try meetup.com. Maybe they have some groups in ur area, it takes a while to get used to but it’s an easy way to meet people w similar interests, and often they’re looking for friends as well

[@Moore18jp]

Here if u need a friend :)

[@minimee8221]

Same here i wish i have a friend to talk to and voice out all my pain.. Been locked up myself in my room for a months now.

[@lloydfrancis9149]

Jesus loves you. Tell God you are lonely share your pain with Him and he will visit you.

[@carmelogiuseppe3805]

Thank you for having this conversation and I love all of the view points that were given and they are all valid. Chiming in with my thoughts. We are always surrounded by something or someone and I feel that we must embrace our loneliness. it is a sign that the self needs undivided attention, gentleness, TLC to go inside oneself and nurture the cry of this valuable emotion called oneness. Out of the shallow waters and taking deeper dive.

[@rebeccagutierrez1401]

I grew up in the state of Illinois but moved to Puerto Rico two years ago. One of the main reasons why I picked Puerto Rico is because Puerto Ricans have such a tremendous sense of community. If you go to the store for example when you walk in you just say good morning and everyone responds back and says good morning. One thing I hated about the Thanksgiving season and Christmas season was that in Illinois I sometimes felt alone but in Puerto Rico it was so different. I'm surrounded by friends and family all the time and it's wonderful. It's just been to me the best thing I've ever done.

[@brittneyyoung1882]

But what if you like being alone?

[@Brwniee95]

Brittney Young there is a difference btwn being lonely / liking to be alone ... the latter being suitable

[@ravenrosemia4840]

I do too..i don't see what the problem is, it released me from the pressure of this animalistic dog eat dog society i am free now i don't haveto know people.

[@aa-jm7js]

Hmmm 🤔...then people might tease you and make things uncomfortable for you so you have to interact more. Or, they'll be like "😏 well, fine then...we didn't like you anyway, hmph...!"

[@ravenrosemia4840]

@deharleyva you're right to an extent but if you're in a hostile environment you're not isolating yourself but being careful. you have to see that you grow inside from spirituality and not pain then it's safe.

[@ravenrosemia4840]

@@aa-jm7js wanting to be alone is not about being accepted rather acknowledging you never were and that's fine.

[@ticiao]

I just don’t want to be bothered with Christmas this year. And the gifts for other people the money being wasted. I don’t have social media.🤷🏼‍♀️

[@lgee9027]

Ticia o after this year Im done with Christmas!!!! I will be on a trip somewhere enjoying

[@ticiao]

L Gee that is a good idea. I’m going to do that next year.

[@lgee9027]

Ticia o Im not lonely Im just not about to feed into American consumerism year after year!!! This year me and my son are putting in together to buy gifts 😂

[@wendyellis3738]

U sound like me...

[@jamesjohnson1050]

Ticia you don't have to be done with Christmas. Just don't make buying gifts and spending money the focus of Christmas. The birth of Christ should be the focus. I had a really nice Christmas without spending a lot of money and I barely got anything myself. In fact my parents didn't get me anything for Christmas. They donated money in my and my brothers' names to charity. I had a nice Christmas because I went to Christmas parties and hung out with people and friends and then I spent time with a lot of my family who I haven't seen in a long time. My church and being around Christmas decorations made this Christmas nice too. You can still enjoy Christmas without it having to be a financial burden.

[@MsTuliplady]

To be honest, so much has been taken from me. Ive spent my entire life being misunderstood, to the point that I don't reach out and make new relationships because they are never fruitful, or last, and it gets worse when you approach middle age. If loneliness will shorten my life, I welcome that outcome. Get me off this blue green ball, please

[@bigcheese5689]

Hi there, I hope you are in a better place now :)

[@nicolehunter5927]

Thank you for this topic I too am dealing with this... life is change.

[@jujubee90275]

I too struggle with loneliness. Thank you for shedding light on this

[@JeremyForest]

This is deep! I am so glad that there was diversity in all people, and show the television viewers that they're not alone. We are people! We are human beings. I really needed to see this.

[@Jakilyn]

Damn, I love being alone! I don't have facebook or social media, thank goodness! Less people=less drama=more happiness for me! 😃

[@denizthecat1293]

Most of these stories sound more like depression or feeling 'down/low' than what I always assumed feeling lonely was about. I guess these kinds of discussions are important because there are increasingly more people ALONE and feeling lonely, and those 2 together are what society can work on. Be kind to each other must be our first rule. Just smile, say hi, help others, contact old friends, go bring a cake to your neighbour.... relationships do not have to be deep, but we simply all want to be acknowledged as 'alive' and 'human' and be invisible to the world.

[@Darcsied27]

Run a 5k 3times a week Meditate 20 mins daily Happiness is a skill

[@brianmurphy5313]

what if I swim 2000 meters everyday, do Pilates and yoga everyday, and meditate for 20 mins twice every day - and yet I am stilly lonely?

[@madinamassoud2312]

@@brianmurphy5313 i have a simple solution for you :)

[@djc621]

Good for you. I can't do anything because I'm disabled and live in a rural area with nobody else around but a lazy husband. I can't do anything, so I always hope that people who can be physically active, appreciate that blessing.

[@Rebrandking]

facts

[@altudy]

These people know nothing. Try having NO friends and NO family, nobody to care what happens to you. These people are just a bit lonely and feel temporarily isolated and passingly sad. If you are truly lonely your life has no future.

[@brittneyyoung1882]

That's not true

[@AvgJane19]

Your experience does not define the problem of loneliness. Try thinking outside of yourself and being open to understanding others lives, that might help you connect more often.

[@mamatoreal6167]

Great segment!! At least I know I’m not the only one feeling lonely this time of year.. now to find a hobby of some sort and isolate less.

[@arroyobaby38]

You're not the only one that feels that way mama to real. I feel that way too but I keep going because I know that there are other people that have it alot worse. I hope you have a WONDERFUL HOLIDA mama to real. Hugs being sent your way !!😊😊😊

[@mamatoreal6167]

BABY A thank you and happy holidays to you too

[@Xunxunism]

Can anyone be lonelier than I? I doubt that.

[@tazb1110]

I am

[@zendavis3501]

Iam sure I might... have you beat😐

[@SH-op8lv]

Everyone wants to be connected with another person, why? because they are not comfortable with being with themselves. You can be in a relationship and still feel alone. For me, combatting feeling alone is connecting to myself, get a hobby, take a walk in the park, try new things-get comfortable with discovering who you are and along the way you may connect to nice people. The key is loving yourself enough to be with "you".

[@SH-op8lv]

priveyful thanks for the comment now go find some self esteem and self love!!!!

[@brudyboy58]

I've learned that there are a lot more things worse than being alone. Being alone can be blessing.

[@spacechannelg6843]

i understand this so much. i hope one day i can share my story and help others. mental illness is becoming worst in our society. we need inspiration and hope

[@tekkenfan01]

The advices they gave are great, do your hobbies with other people, don't expect people to come to you and admit to yourself and do something about it

[@anneshirleyduncan]

I've only felt truly alone twice in the last fifteen years. But as a teenager (there was always a house full of people. I felt alone seventy-five percent of the time.

[@ninishcjute7970]

This is such an important topic to discuss, good job!

[@randomworld4662]

Do not smoke do not consume so much caffeine only once in a week do not take alprazolam do not drink too clean your body! as my experience and study loneliness caused by highly consumed caffein and alcohol +smoke just eat healthy food walking amd do exercise be friendly and focus on job and listen smooth music !

[@kilombo6702]

Funny. I'm from Africa and over there people give you no time to be lonely. The neighborhood will ask you why are you alone. They will come with a plate of food and almost force you to come and eat with them. As results depression is very low, loneliness is not that common. People are not so distrustful of one another

[@jip230]

I am glad that they did this segment to talk about a very real issue many Americans face, but don't often talk about. It's fascinating how many Social Media 'influencers' are lonely

[@djc621]

I'm married but feel completely alone even though my husband is with me all the time

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

Most women I know don’t understand that they go through cycles and they need to understand that . Your monthly cycle affects every aspect about your life . Please educate yourself .

[@AvgJane19]

Do you have a link to a source that talks more about this?

[@mawilove3418]

I agree, I've noticed that I'm more discouraged or sad the week before I start my period. Realizing that these emotions are directly tied to changes in my hormone levels has helped me to understand that the feelings are temporary and that they will fade. It also helps me to combat them a little better because I know what to expect.

[@prosperousk5477]

Yes I've experienced this every month right before my cycle begins

[@Sp1n1985]

This is a transphobic comment

[@alidi13]

@@mawilove3418 Me too! I get really, really sad a week or so before my period starts, to the point where at times, my emotions affect my work life and relationships. I try to prepare now.

[@indigobeauty1]

5:39 the quote EVERYONE need to realize...reach out to strangers if u need to...Never believe suicide is your only option!! You are important. ❤

[@cherylmcleod6088]

90?????....No..I don't see 90

[@jelicianorwood24]

These holidays don't help with the loneliness. Is not Men to be alone which is why GOD made Eve for Adam. So many lost souls who haven't healed from past relationships. Want even give no one a chance in their life. Social media is more Anti-social Site.

[@donttextanddrivegm642]

With God on my side I'm never lonely he's always there

[@rebeccatreeseed410]

Not everyone wants your imaginary friend.

[@maryanne2025]

Rebecca Treeseed there’s more to this reality than you think...

[@GoldenGraham25]

I love the Lord, but human interaction is needed for me as well.

[@maryanne2025]

@@GoldenGraham25 reminds me of Adam when there was no Eve..

[@SantNabi]

I just got divorced. At least, it's been 4 months, but the pain just hit me. I've been sad about it, but sadness is different from pain. And I think the reason why the pain came at this point was because of the holidays. I went back to live with my parents, but this year, from all years, there's been this vibes as if everyone is mourning a loss. No one talks about it, and it's as though we are together in this, but alone at the same time.

[@tekkenfan01]

They gave good advice in this vid, follow them people, don't be so prideful and wait for people to call

[@agneslaufer9579]

I am a capricorn, lonliness is on daily basis .

[@DanieInDC]

I'm 28 and recently bought a home. Only now do I feel lonely. I'm keep busy but I just feel so lonely when things really settle down.

[@xosoxo391]

Haha. I agree Capricorn ♑️ life

[@alwaysright5169]

Yep I can agree on that.

[@jozzz222]

Capricorn too my bdays today

[@island661]

I'm Cappy too. I love being lonely!! 🤣

[@Mithridates_7]

Fair to say that worse is for those who are not in a realtionship or lost partner to death... I understand that people can feel lonley with kids at home, but at least they got someone to cuddle with.

[@DreamChaser415]

Going on Instagram n Facebook seeing people enjoy their families for the holidays was just too much. It made me feel so isolated n unloved.

[@sheilakaur8119]

I have traveled a lot and much of it alone on biz but only ever felt lonely for the first time in my entire life in NYC - over the Christmas season. There was a vibe in the air in that city at around that time that made it seem too big and too quiet. But in Singapore, generally, it is perfectly fine to be on your own. I've decided that the problem is not that individuals can't be on their own, but that different people have different attitudes toward those people on their own. I was raised in a sibling culture (there are 7 of us) that places higher value on DIY, self confidence and self worth vs being popular ie at any one time, someone is not talking to someone else but the wheels just keep on turning. I also have no problems with seeing or conversing with people on their own. But some cultures require social validation because that's how they were raised and you typically find this in those raised in small families. Also, I noticed that people in LA and NYC smile a lot more than people in Vegas and in most major European cities. I think childhood plays a huge role but if as grown ups people get on with celebrating themselves a bit more, and celebrating our flaws as unique, or smiling a bit more at ourselves and also others, there will be less cruel stares by people at those who are alone and people will generally be less lonely. An issue could arise when there are lots of immigrants or visitors to that neighbourhood or city who are not familiar with that city culture and think it weird to smile or converse, and do not participate, such that they could effectively shut down a great habit that many locals were counting on.

[@prophecyrevelations5653]

Gadgets & technology are taking the human element out of everything.

[@JamminOnThe1]

I think the loneliest people are the ones in an unhappy or “dead” marriage. Living parallel lives and feeling trapped and unfulfilled. That was me about 5 years ago. I got out out and my life just got better. Now I’m married to the live of my life and have 2 beautiful sons. The lesson I learned was you are worth more than being lonely and depressed. And so you change your life and good things follow.

[@lexuscarrington]

I enjoy my alone time. I worked at home for 4 years while my husband was overseas waiting to obtain his Visa. I worked on me.. my health, spirituality, my issues that takes alot of time. Now I am home three days a week and two days in the office. The people in the office are really doing some very mean and dark things. I am uninterested in these lower behaviors. My friends dont really text or call. Calling someone I literally have to make an appointment because people want to be left alone. I am blessed with a colorful mind. But I must had to say a week before Christmas the people closest to me were behaving badly and it really affected me. Because now I have to go into this when I avoid it as much as possible. There is alot of loneliness, sadness, but there are people who are happy. I find joy within not from people unless there on my same happy vibe. Joy from within... I dont want to sit and listen to hours of doom and gloom, gossip etc. After awhile having a million likes become uneventful. These are all beautiful people and maybe its the push they need to do something so unimaginable that it could be life changing. We are more than the neighborhood we live in. Time to think broader and bigger. We are more than selfies, talking to a video camera there is a beautiful earth we need to explore and love. Once you begin that journey the loneliness will leave you. Because there is a world that will fill you up with life and wonder. This is time to put the technology down and live.... Blessings to everyone....

[@xosoxo391]

I can agree and relate to a lot of these people. Unfortunately loneliness is a part of being human - we just have to combat it and reach out to others and build genuine connections & and do things that are fulfilling. Forget social media and be like a normal human again.

[@FreebieKitty]

It was a great discussion, but why were so many social media influencers/youtubers chosen for this panel? I wish there was more variety in this sample of people.

[@jpt5579]

It’s usually a cycle of feeling sad and lonely, then comparing how you’re handling life to everyone else since we know we all have issues, then counting your blessings bc things could be worse, to feeling ashamed or wrong for still being sad. Thus the spiral. It’s really tough to speak out when you truly feel like all your friends are fake or secretly judging you or telling your secrets or using weaknesses against you or think you’re overreacting. You don’t want to burden others. Your family has a bunch of stress too. There’s always a way out and I’m really not trying to be negative. Just sharing some perspective for those who want to help loved ones.

[@anamaepon416]

My father taught me to be comfortable being alone. I also learned to stay away from people who love company for when they're alone, they are nothing!

[@pluto545]

My condolences goes to everyone who is experience loneliness, isolation, and abandonment. I don't like to see people suffer or left on island by themselves, which is something that would be done to a horrible monsters or criminals. As a self-admitted loner, I tend to Love being alone, completely without a whole lot of close friends and romantic relationship. I like social events and meeting new people which surprises. They always have quirky stories that are nice to hear. I also I feel like as attempting to be free thinker, free do-er, and free expression. I don't like the responsibilities that comes personal relationships, friends, and romantic relationships. I think I accomplish alot on my own and don't like to presume on people. Also, I think people need to be careful with strangers, because they are so many scammers, predators, abusers, toxic people/organization(s), and individuals who will make matters worse. People should seek out therapy, social groups, hobbyists, fandom culture, or go to places where people have to talk to you.

[@pluto545]

@JagBrit There's not a contradiction, especially if social events are geared towards particular topic, hobby, social matter, or civic matter. I think the topic of interest or hobbies of interest. In what I said...I don't mind meeting new people, but I don't seek out friendship, companionship, or lovers. Proposing to seek out external...that's your projection.

[@MartellThaCool]

Therapy isn't cheap, ma'am nor care to help those if they feel like helping the people. I live alone and I do talk to a therapist. I got no friends in real life

[@MsRESPECT90]

All these people seem to be really awesome

[@mars2459]

i think in way what she said is true that social media is supposed to "connect" us, but it actually "disconnected" us. Maybe it's time to take a social media break and start "re-connecting" like how we normally would, through face to face conversations.

[@bvegannow1936]

Make friends. Speak your mind. Dont be shy. Find a social job that u like that u can talk to people and enjoy it. Your reason and purpose to live is to make world peace. Try to make the world better. Express your emotions in front of others.

[@CosmicGlitterGoddess]

I'm not even a mother and I feel for the mothers on this panel. It's hard being a stay at home mom because you are communicating with children all day. There's rare interactions with other adults.

[@cintyaleal5948]

I find it strange how all the younger ppl are all social media influencers and youtube personalities... Its like everyone now is doing that and nothing else

[@velvetice100]

In my opinion, that is the symptom to loneliness!

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

It could also just be caused by lazy journalism, the reporters just reach out to people who are present in social media by DM. They don't care enough to go out into a park/subway/soup kitchen and talk to people.

[@saturncrush]

Shifting paradigm! A new era of information exchange is here. The same thing happened to record companies when people stopped buying physical albums. People stop buying news, and the news hierarchy got destroyed. Now everyone can compete for ad dollars, from blogs to Instagram/twitter and youtube. It is both exciting and depressing at the same time. IT will balance itself out.

[@phuoitrinh1]

I have Lupus and I'm on dialysis, so I really can't do anything. I'm 44 and I don't go out to drink or party because I physically can't stand to long or walk too much. So, I'm very lonely. My so called friends disappear and those that I still have barely talk or see me. And it doesn't help that I got in a bad car accident 2yrs ago, so I don't have transportation. Luckily, i have my 2 cats. People tell me I should be grateful that I'm alive. If they had to go through what I have to everyday, I'm pretty sure they wouldn't say it.

[@dp562]

Real friendships matter. Honesty matters and use of social media is widely wrong and misleading. I agree with the gentleman that said get a hobby be more active.

[@Moore18jp]

If anyone here feels lonely .please hit me up , im a great listener and after living alone abroad for 12 years,I know very well what loneliness feels like.

[@my_name_is_nat]

In my case I work 40hrs different days off , single mom but have the family close by but I just LOVE to be alone as much as I can. No social media at all either cause I love my privacy and hate the non sense that fam and friends write about. I also avoid socializing a lot. I didn't used to be like this as much as I do now but I like it it makes me focus on what's important to be done without distractions. My family hates it but I hate seeing them on their 24/7 Facebook and snapshots every second.

[@magdalisalmodovar9113]

After 2 in half yrs I'm 58 ,my life changed, I've been in that situation, sad,you get depressed, lots of anxiety, you cry lose sleep cause all you do think,its sad n it hurts. I pretend to be ok,dont wanna go out..I got myself off Facebook, it wasnt making me happy..

[@jewellsmith9499]

I get this! I don't want to do the traditional stuff with in laws over and over again. I could be with my husband at times and feel alone. I find that I must be true to myself and do what makes me happy.

[@kadzo6614]

Guess what? You can be alone but not lonely. But at times, anxiety sets in. Sad!

[@mavrickthabor8985]

Please social media isn't the only reason we're lonely....i don't use social media and yet I'm lonely no matter where i am or what i do...🙃

[@alinaorlova6603]

How to fight loneliness - smile all the time. (c)

[@HerAeolianHarp]

Always wonderful and helpful programming. Thank you. Quality in an age of dreck.

[@cherylmcleod6088]

Grandma is right...Why do older ppl think the younger generation is supposed to call and check on them only....sounds selfish to me and a little narcissist

[@ufosrus]

The young mom who posted gatherings in the park did the right thing. I met most of my friends at the parks where my kid played. There are many stay home moms out there glad to meet other moms too. And for seniors, there's usually a senior center nearby. Or start your own group. I stay away from social media. There's no social gain there.

[@nataliepadilla1568]

I don't have any social media, I'm a mother of two beautiful children, i am not single but i am lonely..

[@jtbartz8830]

Not sure how I feel about this segment. Also not sure if I have empathy for some of the people. Definitely feel for the 90 year old widow. Like someone said below, meditation, spiritual life, having a pet, having hobbies can prevent oneself from feeling lonely.... I can be very isolative at times and am very much of an introvert, but I have found ways to cope.

[@Phineas1626]

Jt Bartz for whom didn’t you have empathy? And why not?

[@selinahester1163]

Get over myself, that works for me. It's not easy, but if you concentrate on what should be right and wrong, you'll go crazy.

[@sagebreezy]

Take personal responsibility reach out to people. And leave social media if you must it is the root of all comparison.

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

I quit fakebook a long time ago.

[@joshuamayz9260]

Realize that loneliness is the devils way of lying to you, without feeling like it, Start praying, Asking God to feel that void of loneliness. I’ve gone through my years of loneliness and as a male, I thought I’d be able to fill that void by consuming alcohol and going to bars every weekend. That turned out to leave me feeling even emptier! Now, we have social media, and it’s scientifically proven, how social media can make us even more depressed and feel unplugged from the world, IF WE ALLOW IT! I always believed in God, I just didn’t know how to get ahold of Gods love, until I connected with stronger Christians, started praying for understanding, when it came to the Bible, and Gods love. That took time, people! I am now 27 years old, blessed with a wife, who’s expecting our second son, and a 3 year old son, turning 4! I’m beyond blessed, and I feel like my life just begun, due to the fact of building a strong relationship with God! P.s. your MIND is our best friend or your biggest enemy! If you are taught on how to control your thoughts, start speaking positivity to yourself, start asking God to feel that void in your life, seek out a strong church, and change the way you think! If you don’t believe me, try it for yourself, and watch your life change! -Joshua

[@brownsugarglamour]

Mark Gill is so cute omg, reminds me of my grandpa 💙💙

[@paulbroderick8438]

Social media is a lot to blame. Some people would rather gaze stupidly into an iPhone screen than have a one on one conversation. With robotics just around the corner, already arrived concerning some occupations, then one on one relationships are going to further diminish. To close, being ''alone' is far more preferable than being in the company of a person, or people, you just can not tolerate.

[@WatchMeEat]

This was nice.

[@VirgoCatholicus]

God sometimes allows us to feel lonely so that he can fill it with his love he has helped me the problem is people have tried to remove God from everything and everyone wonders why they feel sad alone and suicidal

[@Malcolmdeeb]

😐

[@Phineas1626]

You may consider yourself a well-meaning individual. But you have a fatal flaw: you can’t see the lives of others outside of the scope of your own life. That “...he[sic] has helped...” you doesn’t mean a thing to anyone else. There are plenty of believers who feel lonely.

[@slimtee2]

I refused to take an office over a cubicle. My coworker thought I was crazy. I explained to her that I would feel isolated and I needed to be around people, as I spend enough time alone at home in the evenings and on weekends. People get on my nerves most of the time, but I still need that connection with others.

[@Phineas1626]

slimtee2 Nicely done, realizing you need others despite their flaws, or perhaps your own.

[@arroyobaby38]

Totally feel ya slimtee2

[@Phineas1626]

The United Kingdom now has a Secretary of Loneliness.