Loneliness When You Don't Like Other People

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[@dustinmiller2775]

"Do you hate people? I do not hate them. I just feel better when they aren't around." ~Arthur Schoepenhauer

[@dr.elvis.h.christ]

I thought that was Bukowski.

[@dustinmiller2775]

@@dr.elvis.h.christ You're right, it was Bukowski! 🙃

[@danielbezjak1479]

I almost wouldn't mind stupid people if they acknowledged and accepted their own stupidity, but the problem is they all think they're smarter than they are and you can't even have a conversation with people like that

[@DiffuseAppearance]

That's the root of the stupidity for the most part. IQ don't mean shit if you think you're correct 24/7 even though you're wrong. If you're that sort of person, you'll most likely just become an idealogical pseudo-intellectual.

[@bigt3995]

You can but its either a dishonest conversation or you have to "dumb" yourself But its kinda like talking to a child. But like you, i cant and wont do that.

[@KrakeTube]

bingo

[@furdterguson9909]

Not verbatim here but it gets the point across: "While it's difficult to win an argument with a smart person, it's damn near impossible to win one with an idiot." - Bill Murray

[@awkb777]

and they always think they are smarter than you

[@dr.elvis.h.christ]

I drink to make people interesting.

[@DrmCom2003]

That only works for so long

[@GSAZYNSKI]

My liver joined a union, now it's on strike.

[@Toactwithoutthinking]

The hangovers make the uninteresting people nightmares to be around unfortunately

[@tadghostal8769]

My passions are tax evasion and weapon procurement.

[@awkb777]

I'm one of the most peculiar men you will ever meet. I'm in Washington DC if u ever wanna meet up. I've been told my combination of skills , appearance and beliefs shouldn't genetically exist

[@iainbearyay2236]

The western school system is a prison. Broken children are not an unforseen consequence; it was the goal all along

[@Josh-fp2qn]

This planet is a prison. And so are these bodies.

[@pentagon56]

​@@Josh-fp2qn A "soul trap" if you will.

[@stefanegstrup3145]

Indoctrination camps

[@tyvrabel1696]

Conversations most people enjoy: tattoos, social media and places to eat 😩

[@timdersch8754]

So true. Not necessarily the most intellectual type of conversations. Lol

[@jakejennings5152]

And their stupid Range Rovers!

[@jelkel25]

​@@jakejennings5152They are called Chelsea Chariots in the UK along with any 4x4 that is solely for town/city use.

[@jelkel25]

Sports and b*tching.

[@veeli1106]

…how did you forget about the sportsball?! ( Yes, I do consumes sportsball as it’s my vice and it’s the only thing connecting me with the Normie-Conformies…)

[@David-uw3ke]

I'm average IQ, and I hate everyone too. For me, it's not about IQ as much as effort. Society is just low effort and lazy. As a man with high energy and high standards (for myself and others), I just don't fit in.

[@vinculaomega5283]

Are you absolutely sure that you're average? Really? You're here, you understand what Cappy is talking about. Averages don't. Having standards is indirectly thinking about the future. Averages don't. And don't make the common mistake of conflating education and intelligence. Just look at all the degree holders of today that wouldn't know the difference between pie and pi. I mean, I'm not like the guy that this video was about either, he's clearly smarter than most of us. But I'd wager that almost anyone that finds this channel and gets something out of it is above average.

[@David-uw3ke]

@@vinculaomega5283 You are probably right, and I appreciate it

[@LibertyDino]

Being self reflected and realistic about it is already so far from what society preaches.

[@SC-gw8np]

I agree with your assessment about society being low effort and lazy. I can't help but liken modern socialising to pigs rolling around in their own filth, that's just the way it feels like to me. People dragging each other down and enjoying the fact that they don't have to rise to any standards. Civility doesn't exist anymore.

[@MoltenMetalGod7]

I'm not huge on people but as a result i rarely feel lonely. With most people including most women you aren't missing much. People have just spun this grand narrative just to keep you invested in the game, but people, relationships etc rarely live up to the hype people build up around them. If you are lucky you'll come out of life with a handful of people you can truly call friends.

[@mr.l6074]

Thinking you might be right about that

[@michaelhillary6810]

Salute to the young man. When I hear of youngstas like this , it's refreshing.

[@josiah5776]

I have found a workable solution to be associating only with people whose ideologies are either similar to mine or not rabidly opposed. People who don't want to push their ideologies in your face. They might not be intellectually stimulating, but at least I don't have stupid, political bullcrap pushed upon me incessantly. It's not satisfying, but neither is it painful. I go online with a small network of friends I've cultivated over the years for my intellectual stimulation. I was a software engineer the latter half of my work years. About 80% of my peers were some of the most obtuse, knee-jerk, leftist-script-reading, not-an-original-thought-in-their-heads, sheeple on the planet.

[@raymond_sycamore]

Good reminder, thanks Cap. Explains everything. I can't stand almost anyone.

[@LudwigPaiste28]

That kid is ahead of the game! Good on him!

[@DrmCom2003]

Most people never grow beyond high school. If you want to know how smart a person is ask how much student loans they have or ask if they got their job through their parents or a family member.

[@ystconnection]

The dude is 19 right? I had the same problem. I consoled myself with anime and video games until 21 and I could buy alcohol legally. The solution for me was to drink a beer or have a shot of whiskey when going out. Time tested social lubricant! After that people became more tolerable while I was buzzed or flat out drunk.

[@visionaryman3548]

There's an old saying, "I drink to make my friends interesting". I thought it was a joke until I came to the same realization....

[@crisisjack]

I got really along with guys who had similar interests and played video games. The school is famous for having geek kids, so it worked out for me. I definitely would've been in a ton of fights if I went local. Those schools are hell.

[@mizukagematt1186]

It’s like everybody tries to plays on the same common denominator as everybody else to fit in or not be “being the odd one out”. Don’t fall for that trap and keep being yourselves young buck 👍🏽💯

[@jimatreidēs]

I’ve read your book, The Curse of the High IQ, and I can totally relate to it. I could never relate to the majority of people, and still can’t. I prefer solitude and my hobbies. I never got married as I could never afford to take a catastrophic risk with today’s women. I beat to my own drum and I did go to university because I really did want to study science and engineering since I was a kid, so I became a Chemical Engineer.

[@reinedire7872]

My suggestion is not to filter people out based on intelligence. There are actually some really smart stupid people out there these days and they're frustrating as all hell. Filter people out based on stupid worldviews that differ greatly from your own, lower your expectations, and drink on those rare occasions when you actually do get together with people. I'm often disillusioned by the prospect of get togethers, but I usually have a better time than I expected because I usually expect it to suck.

[@francoiseeduard303]

I am incapable of the emotion called “lonely”.

[@freddyg6940]

I’d recommend he buys land and a Dog Preferably 2 dogs

[@siMntj]

why 2?

[@mr.l6074]

So they can keep each other company maybe? ​@@siMntj

[@chadcadsonvii5258]

@@siMntj they excerise each other both physically and mentally, and stay healthier longer.

[@DenshaOtoko2]

Being the dumbest friend in a friend group of geniuses is refreshing.

[@cd0130]

Gold zone

[@NtDs90]

Cappy is 100% right about Minnesota. I got the hell outta there in 2008. But the good thing about Wyoming is that we don’t have that many people. I think the population is still less than 600k. Land in some areas is still cheap.

[@theplasmacollider6431]

"The solution is to acknowledge that there is no solution." That is similar to the golden rule of differential equations. First determine that there is a solution before attempting to find one.

[@stormygeo]

Wow. I really relate to this guy. I won't compare my situation, but I'm a woman and it hurts because I'm very social, but people don't like to be around someone with a high IQ, they like that you can explain things to them, but it makes them feel inferior because it's often like a teacher/student. I've learned to shut up, as much as I can around people. I found good friends in the Latin mass catholic community. Smart people and if they're not smart, they're kind, USUALLY. Clarey is right. Find your tribe. But, also accept you will be lonely at times, but reading books can cure loneliness.

[@fearrogue]

I'm dealing with k through 12 right now and I swear it evolves to be more and more Petty as the years go on I'm so glad to be almost done with this b*******.

[@Max-zs6cj]

Not quite. If you will be someone's employee, it doesn't end.

[@joedoe8558]

Think it's more about stupid people not liking smart people just like Schopenhauer said. After a while you start seeing the patterns...

[@frankcastle2876]

Kinda dark to think I need to search out the lost dark spaces of the interwebs to find motivation to stay smart and stay strong. "you are going to be alone for the rest of your life." TALK HARD!!!!

[@scotttyson607]

As a person with a higher than normal level of intelligence, I have discovered that it is easier for an intelligent person to interact and relate to lower IQ individuals than vise versa. This also applies to dealing with children and animals. Highly intelligent people are easily adaptable to challenging people and circumstances.

[@WaterMelonKillas]

These titles are getting a little too personal.

[@brzoza17kar]

That's when you should know, there's something to gain from the video 😉

[@DiffuseAppearance]

You're right Cappy and it's refreshing to hear honestly. I've never had my IQ tested, but I very much relate to this dude and even being older as I am, I get so sick of society gaslighting themselves and you with their stupid bullshit. Sometimes it's just the case that things just fucking suck, there's nothing you can do, things aren't gonna change and the hoping is making it worse because you're clinging to something that's never gonna happen and blaming yourself when it doesn't happen as though its your fault. It's not. Life is unfair. Sometimes something can be done about that. Sometimes not. This is one of those cases. Society just fucking hates super smart people. You make them look inferior and force them to confront how wrong they are about everything just by existing and having an opinion...God forbid you succeed in a way that contradicts the ways in which people believe that's normally done. They'll be merciless with you.

[@philipmetts8831]

Already know that one.

[@DrmCom2003]

Yeah pretty much. The normies try to make you feel that something is wrong with you for having a brain.

[@au9parsec]

There is a spiritual teacher named Teal Swan who preaches that it's bad to be alone. But it's really hard to not want to be alone if you feel that you can't relate to other people. I can't relate to other people since I am into creativity and spirituality, but most people are into sports and action movies instead. If most people were into the same things that I am into, then I would not have desired to be alone in the first place.

[@AiphTheDJ]

Worry is an unnecessary interest, paid on a debt you already owe. Haven't heard that before. But damn it's real hahaha

[@fastbackgt4821]

30:00 I absolutely agree! Likes like each other and opposites attract, but what evokes arouses.

[@ldreese33]

Get a dog, they are great company

[@dr.elvis.h.christ]

Cats are quieter and much lower maintenance, not to mention more intelligent.

[@alansewell7810]

The price check story at Menards reminds me of something I saw at a Wendys in Atlanta decades ago. The power failed at lunchtime when the place was crowded and the line was long. The grease pits and grill stayed hot enough for them to keep cranking out the food, but the cash register didn't work, so the register girl (a black high school girl) couldn't make change electronically. She knew she had to keep the line moving, so people would get their food instead of rioting, but she couldn't do the change in her head. Nevertheless, she improvised a plan: The last person the register rang up before it went off got 35 cents of change. Thereafter, she gave everybody 35 cents in change, no matter what bills they gave her and what the order cost. That got the line moving, and not too many people complained. Those who did were told to keep quiet, as everybody else needed to order their food and get back to work, and as the power was likely to be out at every other nearby place, they had just as well better get it here, while the ovens were still hot. Most people paid her as approximately as they could, and got their food and their 35 cents back. She cleared the line with most people getting served and charged approximately correctly, and few complained. Pretty smart girl in a practical way.

[@zachjackel]

Not smart enough to grab a calculator or phone. Just smart enough to bridge the gap in her knowledge by fucking everyone else over.

[@brianpembrook9164]

Personally that sounds stupid. She can't do math.

[@richardbalete5337]

Your story about the cashier lady, gives me a glimmer of hope, that there are still people with common sense. I hope, that lady is doing well, after all those years. & not being swallowed by the system of rot that's happening around right now.

[@fjorddenierbear4832]

You guys are gonna laugh, but sometimes I'm jealous of people in the states, because I imagine that it would be useful to be surrounded by people who speak English. But you know what, I'll just stay here in Batumi, Georgia and pay 1% income tax... It's worth it. My rent is 700 USD for a giant 2-bedroom apartment. I totally integrated in Japan years ago, but my Japanese was perhaps at 50% of my English level. Rarely had any interesting convos, and not a single good Japanese friend to show for my 5 years living there. My Japanese definitely doesn't suck - I can go on Japanese Quora and write about life, death and taxes. No problem. But I never found a perfect new life in Japan. Contrarily, my naivete and assumption that most people are good at heart got me in a bit of trouble. But I'm all the wiser now and in a good financial situation.

[@zacharylinde1451]

Find an activity that is engaging to you that is around people. The activity that you're getting sonething out of will make being around people more bearable. Martial arts is a good example. The desire to learn in that case is stronger than your aversion to being around others. Cappy's advice to pursue a difficult STEM field is also good - choosing a career / hobby that weeds out normies You could also use an online platform like verbling / italkinfor learning your language. That'll have you talking to people and you'll enjoy it because your getting something out of it.

[@derpderpington5433]

Wow this guy has his shit together. Dude never get married do not let a bish ruin you like I got wrecked.

[@fjorddenierbear4832]

I must insist: When visiting Singapore, make sure to include Kuala Lumpur. It's basically an ultra-cheap "Singapore light". You should stay as centrally as possible, to get a real feel for the place. Just my preference, but I suggest 2 weeks in each place. And ask yourself: Is Singapore worth paying 3x more for? You can get some really nice Airbnbs in KL. Next time I go, I will stay within 1 km of the Petronas towers. You'll want to stay as close as possible to any mall, for sure. KL is hot enough that setting yourself up within 1 km of everything you care about is super-useful. Alternatively, you could choose to live near one of the newer subway stations. The nicest and newest subway stations in KL look way nicer than most stations in Tokyo!

[@mnraiders8546]

It is nice! Currently on vacation in Malaysia, the train ride from KL to Butterworth is good too!

[@anonymissed3611]

If he's studying Japanese and asks what country he should visit....

[@vex6559]

It's perfectly reasonable to see it as a simply intellectual pursuit with no plan of use... Considering how difficult Japanese is, and how high across the chart he may be... But it would make sense to merge the two...

[@anonymissed3611]

Look how long it took for Cappy to have the Eureka moment/suggestion. Not many places to employ Japanese. But hey..not odd at all.,yep.

[@fjorddenierbear4832]

I studied Japanese and lived for 5 years there. But now: taxes are too high. Welcome to commie Japan with 30-40% taxes, no thanks. You can enjoy most of Japan online. The average Japanese person is not on par with the wonderful Japanese cultural artifacts we enjoy. Besides, don't want to hang around Tokyo when the next 100 year earthquake hits. If taxes were lower I'd probably take my chances though. Malaysia is a much better proposition than Japan to most people and the English is really good in Kuala Lumpur. Singapore is of course great too, if you're willing to pay 3-5x for rent. In terms of global utility Japanese scores quite low, but you can become a translator if you're willing to put in the work. For global utility it would be better to study Spanish and maybe Russian. Spanish for Latin America and Russian for ex-Soviet including Georgia, Armenia, Uzbekistan, and many more. Currently I want to learn Russian because I'm spoken to in Russian all the time in Georgia.

[@guigues2591]

Japan: enjoy it, but only for the holydays.

[@hugoromeyn4582]

@@fjorddenierbear4832 30-40% taxes is not that bad, from a Dutch perspective. In The Netherlands it's starting at almost 38% and slightly up to 52%. Than you have to pay extra tax on gasoline, electricity, natural gas, community taxes, tax on savings, tax on alcohol and tobacco, tax for water, tax for "the right" to live in a house you own, tax for your car, mandatory insurances and over all of that you have to pay 21% VAT. Earning €100,- ends up to be €25,- after all this taxes. That's also communism.

[@Save21]

💯 Nice Talk.

[@camgere]

The internet allows for communities of interest, rather than communities of geography. STEM groups are accessible from your keyboard. Other communities are available (finance) but you will have to filter out the posers from the real deal.

[@RRaquello]

Before having too high an opinion of STEM people and nuclear physicists and theoretical mathematicians and the rest, I remember how many of the top atomic scientists were socialists and how many also thought it was a great promotion of world peace to give the atom bomb to Josef Stalin. Many of the so-called greatest minds of the 20th century were taken in by the Marxist fairy tale. The super intelligent are just as prone to wishful thinking as the rest of us.

[@Ominiumshadow24]

The older I get. The more I enjoy being alone. Friends is overrated (Fiends). People are too confusing for me to deal, with and I can sniff out people for what they really are. I've scored a 129 first time. Then took it again and got an 134 IQ second time. I dont really believe in the IQ or mensa meetings. But, I do get annoyed by people loving stupid meanless shit.

[@ronheil6558]

I suspect that there might be hypervigilence at play in his story as well. I have that, and mostly try to use it to my advantage, since it just won't go away. One thing it leads to though is I see how unaware everyone else around me is, and my default thought process "wow, look at all these idiots."

[@Merlin_From_Shrek_3]

You need to get out and interact even if it's just a reminder

[@chrisbirdsall6055]

And it usually is.

[@chadcadsonvii5258]

I find running errands is enough of a reminder and very motivating to buy that piece of solitude away from them all.

[@DenshaOtoko2]

Definitely visit Macau SAR. Hong Kong SAR later in the future.

[@BlaineKK37]

Find others in the bodybuilding community who are ahead of the curve, the intelligent ones, the ones who have interest beside bodybuilding. Something in common like cappy said to start

[@guigues2591]

This 19 year old guy should watch oregairu.

[@mileage43]

This must be a trolling request. For a 19-year-old to do all these great things after being raised in a broken home, and on top of that to compete in bodybuilding is overkill. You are not to be much of competition material in the age of 19, even if you pin all the roids you can find, because molding your physique takes time. Too fishy of a request

[@robertobravo6834]

Eagles always fly alone.

[@dariustakeda1609]

This explain American individualism

[@zacharyseibert6788]

You're boring me into myself.

[@TakeMeToTheTruth]

I am reminded why I am glad that I am not that smart. I used to think I was, but it turns out I am just really good at taking tests. Lol. And yes, he could look into some deep STEM career. Some big companies hoard the big brains in some careers and they can find comfort in their colleagues.

[@Stanthemilkman]

I mean I’m a senior metallurgist and can get along with most people. I just need to take breaks usually a bathroom to sit and breathe. I think this is just tismy. Smartest guy I know professor who wrote 5-6 books he connect with people with music. Best guitar player I know. A lot of these requests and comments stink of loser secret kings.

[@elbarto9938]

Learn 2 grammar

[@spicycracker7828]

there are times when AC rants that I genuinely believe he's turning into the boomer the claims to despise

[@jamesprice4074]

Try to learn GNU/Linux, take control of how you interface with the digital world.

[@veeli1106]

…might as well tell him to start with Arch!

[@jamesprice4074]

@@veeli1106 I almost did lol, I tried to leave it unbiased.

[@DenshaOtoko2]

Like a Natgeo nature documentary narrated by Chris Broad from Abroad in Japan joke insert here.

[@DenshaOtoko2]

Trekkies that are engineers.

[@ldreese33]

Minnesota is a dump now, I left in 1991.

[@DenshaOtoko2]

Cosplay conventions.

[@DenshaOtoko2]

A barcade.

[@krucafukszajete]

trigonometry etc on Queendom? come on... i finished (barely) junior high and did good on there

[@nuclearbullfrog]

48:00 ish You need to join the Navy for Nuclear field and go through NNPTC. There is no reserve nuclear field in any of the military branches.

[@nuclearbullfrog]

You will also need to commit 6 years of your life to the Nuclear Navy. 2 years for the training (Nuclear) and 4 years of active service either on a submarine or aircraft carrier.

[@eoh6708]

Do not drink

[@aarnavghosh2260]

cappy doesnt like me but i love cappy he is the best

[@DenshaOtoko2]

Engineers.

[@lizzi437]

Woodworking or smithing. Plus a dog--or maybe even horses.

[@notsure1135]

I think I am 125. I suck at math beyond arithmetic.

[@Mazatzal]

You 'think' that you are? Push up the Shekels and pay for a professional to test you. If you find that you are, then buy Mr. Clarey's book "Curse of the High IQ".

[@badass6300]

Math is a skill as much as it's knowledge, so yeah. Start learning and practicing 2-3 hours a day and in 1 year you'll be great.

[@TravisFebruary]

Me when I lived in Scranton: 28:19

[@vex6559]

😂 may God have mercy on your soul

[@awkb777]

get yourpassport or go to med school. thats what im doing

[@VulcanXIV]

Be careful viewer, this stuff is copium to the stupid and just weird, too. Don't let it get to your head and think it's ok like he's saying

[@DenshaOtoko2]

Hawaii is the best.

[@thedon9375]

I’ll fix it do bjj or boxing

[@DenshaOtoko2]

Chess players.

[@jebes909090]

Try scandinavia

[@dr.elvis.h.christ]

Listen to the Sweden by the Stranglers. The song is very accurate when they say "the only country where the clouds are interesting." Scandinavia can be pretty but it ranks as one of the most boring places I've ever been in my travels around the world.

[@jebes909090]

@@dr.elvis.h.christ i was more talking intelligent people if thats what this guy is looking for.

[@vinculaomega5283]

​@@dr.elvis.h.christAs a Swede, you're absolutely right. We're quite boring. We're overly polite and non-confrontational. We're cautious and safe. It comes from thousands of years having to survive winter. As a boring swede, even by swedish standards, I absolutely understand that coming here you do it for the nature, not the culture.

[@RRaquello]

@@vinculaomega5283 How about Norwegians? We had Norwegian neighbors when I was a kid. One day the father came over and knocked on the door. He said he liked our set of backyard furniture and would like to take a look at it and I said, "Sure." Next day I saw him in his yard building from scratch his own set of our backyard furniture, just from looking at ours. No plans or measurements or anything. It came out perfect. As a 12 year old, I was very impressed and that Norwegian guy automatically became the most interesting man in our neighborhood. He could build or fix anything and it made me feel that we Americans were inferior people. If we wanted something nice we had to buy it.

[@dr.elvis.h.christ]

@@vinculaomega5283 I don't think I'd say the people are boring, at least no more than anywhere else but the nanny state there makes anything fun either illegal or prohibitively expensive, like alcohol.

[@DenshaOtoko2]

Instead of being either the smartest student in a college class or the second smartest student in a college class.

[@DenshaOtoko2]

I knew a group of friends with a low IQ of 136 a median IQ of 140 and a high IQ of 210. My highest IQ was 114.

[@TILLEYJS]

If you have a friend group that all know their IQs, what a bunch of pretentious twats. I seriously doubt anyone would want to be in that group.

[@Mazatzal]

Where did you meet this group of unique freaks?

[@DenshaOtoko2]

In community college.

[@Mazatzal]

Why are you there?