LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS - Lunch Break!

[@thebigbadwolf9759]

Who else got hit hard in the feels with Wes' "Wish you were here" speech?

[@carissafernandes380]

MEEEE

[@thewesleychan]

always target the feels. always :D

[@xOxteddybearxOx]

🤚🤚🤚

[@DerWonMusics]

Check 😅 Even tho she ended it a few weeks ago, still hurt when I hear Wes say that. I was on the road to her with public transport for two hours to her and two hours back home

[@chococone2552]

I cried

[@thewesleychan]

wish i was there. with you all. but happy youre here with us...on this lunch break

[@bernice931]

Hi Wes! Your sentiment about "wish I was there" really resonated with me and I feel like it would make a great short! Love you guys and this Lunch Break episode

[@bryansl0587]

Yes! I was just thinking that "Wish I Was There" sounds like a great short. Come on Wes, we all know how you like making fans cry...

[@thewesleychan]

i have some ideas...

[@prashantgrg]

Wes, you talked about possibly meeting someone new. Does that mean you broke up with your girl? ☹️

[@RohiniLazarus]

Wesley Chan in one right now. That line made me cry but is also very true

[@elizabethdavies176]

I struggle with the distance between me (at school) and my bed (at home) everyday.

[@bensonq]

Better love story than twilight

[@elizabethdavies176]

bensonq Haha thanks Benson!!!

[@Roberttang20]

new short?

[@leelandluver]

Hahahaha! xD This comment for the win!. . . Far too relatable.

[@bryansl0587]

Same lol. Except I'd sub out school for office

[@Golgiaparatus2]

Woah, "Wish I Was There" would be a great name for a sketch about long distance relatioships or maybe about one partner that needs to travel a lot for work.

[@chococone2552]

@WONG FU PLEASE MAKE THIS HAPPEN

[@sophygallegos5701]

"In the end she chose to be with me so I have to believe in that, and it's not easy" that was beautiful T.T

[@lchoii]

"I wish I was there" to hug Wes when he was describing how tragic those words were. #feels

[@thewesleychan]

received. thanks :D

[@DerWonMusics]

Yeah got out one kinda long distance relationship and it still hurted a lil bit when I heard this part 😫😅😅

[@Martian_marzan]

Best man Wes wanting to spoil whoever his S.O. is 👏🏼😁

[@thewesleychan]

wurthit.

[@Martian_marzan]

Wesley Chan #goodguyWes

[@ntxawmvaaj]

"but, I wanna spend that money on her." -Wes *heart melts* haha Wes, you're always super sweet!

[@MikeBowShow]

Benson was triggered this entire episode and I love it 😱

[@christineduior]

When Wes said "I wish I was there" it made me actually tear up. I've been in a long distance relationship for about 1.5 years now because we go to different colleges. It's been tough but we know it's still worth it. And to anyone considering it you really need immense trust between the two of you. Whoever is going through it now, just remember the moments when you can hold hands and embrace again to remind yourself why you're doing this.

[@thewesleychan]

good for you two!

[@monicaleigolen9768]

I can feel you. It requires trust not only with your partner - but you should also trust yourself and be confident with what you have. Props to the both of you!!

[@jaammps4ever]

i've been in a long distance relationship for over 7 years now. I live in Boston and he lives in LA. when Wes mentioned the "wish you were here/I was there" feeling, it just brought me to tears. it's not easy but it'll all be worth it in the end ❤️

[@thewesleychan]

[@kawaiiafangirl]

I have long distance relationship... they're living in the future.

[@thewesleychan]

temporal distance counts.

[@missisiVi]

I was looking for the same respond as mine in the comments, and there you are 😂😂

[@lolann77]

That's so unfortunate.... cuz same...

[@ltheelementalflowl]

Just gave me an idea for my novel. Thanks!

[@reycheljoyrobles5503]

For those who think long distance relationships never work out, it does! You just have to find someone mature enough to have that relationship with. My boyfriend and I met in high school and to this day in college, we're still a happy couple. For the past three years, I live in California while he's three hours ahead in Florida. It's difficult, for sure. But it's made both of us stronger regardless of how far we are from each other.

[@YepCinders]

I don't typically comment on KZbin videos, but this video definitely resonated with me. Wes had the best point when he said all the tips are not just for long distance relationship. In particular, the "trust" part. It's the same for "nondistance" relationships. They also have to generate some sort of trust. You're not always together with your SO and chances are you won't ever be ALWAYS together with your SO. It's something you just work on. You need to have confidence in yourself to have confidence in them. I'm currently in a long distance relationship right now and we've been going strong for over a year (15 almost 16 months) now. I love him more than anyone I've ever been with and I honestly wouldn't give it up for the world. We're not too far away, but we're unfortunately separated by a border. It's around 7 hours by car, over 15 hours by bus, but (luckily) only about 2-4 hours by plane. We're just under 550 km (around 340 miles) apart. I've had to go through the passport procedures and will, in the future, have to decide who will move where and when and with what money. But again, it's also something people in "nondistance" relationships do. They too have to decide who moves where and when with what money. It's just a little harder with a border, haha.

[@thewesleychan]

[@YepCinders]

Wesley Chan tfw noticed. Bless :D

[@achoi15]

Dang when Wes said "i wish you were there..." I definitely got the FEELS right then

[@thewesleychan]

BOOM.

[@kevc7942]

The test of a true relationship is when you are far apart from each other. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. And love will always stand the test of time even when you are far away. ❤👍

[@thewesleychan]

true test. hopefully shorter than longer

[@kevc7942]

Wesley Chan - True!

[@sallyhere]

Kev C good

[@kevc7942]

Sally J - 👍

[@justhyejin]

But absence can also make the heart grow farther. ;) #DevilsAdvocate

[@phoebetan17]

I agree. The hardest thing is hearing "wish i was there". Been with my bf for about 5ish-6 years and now I'm currently in a LDR, cause i'm away in Perth for university while my bf's back at home in Singapore. It'll be officially 1 year of LDR at the end of this year and 1 thing i can say is that the first 2-3 months is the hardest, but you get used to it :) It's all about setting time for each other, trusting and communicating! The pros about being in an LDR is that you really learn to discover who you are, to be independent and also be really clear that you chose to make the decision to be committed to someone you want to spend your life with. I've always been rather clingy but finishing my first year in Uni away from home, i've definitely grown SO MUCH!

[@katherineschow]

I'm in Vancouver, Canada. My significant other in Gwangju, South Korea and I dated for three years. Just got married this year! This Lunch Break was a great refresher:)

[@justjazzycovers]

my current boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year (our anniversary is in a week!). we met in college, so this past summer was our first real time apart. we were both at internships in different cities, about a 2.5 mile drive, and it was HARD. it's definitely like a new relationship and figuring out how you communicate with one another not face to face and without things like physical touch and other affirmations. other confounding variables also made it hard, like his parents not wanting him to be in a relationship (he was living at home), etc. we were definitely on the verge of breaking up at some points, but we worked through everything and for us, it was worth it :) it also helped because we had a specific date to work towards that we knew we'd be together again, ex. the start of the academic school year, to wait for. thanks for this vid wongfu!!!

[@rayx2_yt]

My long distance relationship started senior year of high school through an online game. At first i didnt know what she(or could be a he at the time) looked like, and my friends were skeptical about it. However, we clicked and i learn to love her personality before her beauty. She did a face reveal 6 months in and of course she was the most beautiful girl ever. Our relationship lasted 3.5 years into college (i was only able to visit her once in RL), but we were committed. At the end, we couldnt take that next step together because there were a lot of factors around both us that we couldnt control to make it work. My friends keep saying that she doesn’t really count, but i say it does, it was true and real to me. During wes’s “wish i was there” moment, it really hit home and brought all those memories and feelings back. I cherish what we had, and i wish her the best.

[@kkariss14]

"i wish i was there." that statement will always evoke feels

[@thewesleychan]

yep

[@JenniferKhuu12]

Ahhh this was such a great lunch break! While I'm currently with my boyfriend, we're 2 years apart, so he'll be heading off to college this September, and we both agreed that breaking up when he leaves is most likely going to happen, just so we don't hold each other back later on. Right now, we're just making the most of our time together!

[@KC-ks5dz]

Ashley Brown - you should read Kev C's comment.

[@Mitsuki550]

Ashley Brown it's sad when that happens but at least the both of you understand and support each other, good luck! 💪🏼💪🏼

[@kroganoperator]

Are you guys still together?

[@LourdesMB]

I’m currently in a long distance relationship. I’ve been with my boyfriend 3 years prior to starting our long distance because this year I chose to go on exchange for a year. It’s from Sydney Australia to Buenos Aires Argentina. There’s a 14 hr time zone difference and like you guys said communication and finding yourself out of the other person’s life is key! Especially me being the shy and introverted person that I am, doing exchange taught me to get out of my comfort zone. Whilst it’s definitely tested our trust in each other, it’s been so worth it, because I’m with the right person and because we’d already built that foundation and been committed for 3 years prior. It’s a lot of hard work but it’ll make reuniting that much ore special and it’s taught us to appreciate the other a lot more. So glad you guys raised this topic today! Much love xx

[@Hellozulu]

I have been in a long distance relationship (Europe-Canada) for about 3 years. Yeah parts of it are hard, like not being able to be there for them when they need you. Though, I think it all comes down to how much you love that person and how important they are to you. If they are very important to you then you want to go through all the hassle just so you can be with them longer. My parents did LDR for 9 years. They said it was challenging trying to communicate without the technology we have now. My mom needed to take the bus for hours to another town to use their one long distance telephone. Since rates were so high, she could only afford to talk to my dad for a couple minutes. After a couple mins of hearing each other's voice, she had to sit on the bus for a few more hours to get home. So no matter how much we complain about it now, we should really appreciate the technology we have now that allows us to be close to our partners. We have it easy!

[@SaruStuff124]

Even when Wes isn't wearing gray, he's wearing a shirt that says 'BASEGRAY' xD How very loyal of you Wes when your gray is away.

[@kennethk89]

We've known each other since 2003 and was brave enough to start our cross continent Singapore-Canada relationship in 2015 which we made it work for 2+ years before deciding to end it in September 2017 with a wedding! Through the challenges, the goal for us was to always be positive about it and look forward to the ultimate end of the distance :D now we're happily married and I've moved to Vancouver to start a new chapter of life.

[@adventurers5958]

I love this video and the aspects of a long distance relationship that you guys chose to talk about (especially Wes)! My boyfriend and I have been together for 6.5 years, 4 of which were long distance during college and the rest of the time we were semi-long distance within LA. I completely agree that communication is key, and it is so crucial to set aside that time to talk and focus on each other everyday/every other day/however much you need. Besides just catching up on how your days were and other surface-level topics, it's so important to also express your love and feelings for each other often, not only as reassurance but also as strength for you both to keep pushing forward past the distance. And let me just say, when you get through it, you will feel invincible as a couple. You really learn how to love the other person the way they want to be loved. When the long distance was finally over for me and my boyfriend, it was one of our proudest moments. It is absolutely worth it with the right person, and you will definitely have established such a strong bond that can get you through future challenges that life throws at you. I am so passionate about this topic after having been through one, so thank you for making this video about it! :)

[@cassidyp5933]

I'm in a long distance relationship with wong fu

[@elizabethdavies176]

Cassidy P Same

[@thewesleychan]

im happy we at least talk once a week.

[@madelynhoangdiemmai7959]

Just binge watching Wongfu videos today on my Winter Break lol. Your Lunchbreak discussions are so much fun to watch, and I could relate to. @WesleyChan, You are entirely Right about the emotional effect of this phrase "Wish you are here!". I have been in multiple Long Distance relationships too and hearing that Phrase really really Get to me. I don't say it because I knew how much it hurts, but on the other ends receiving it, it emotionally drained. Many times it is the "wish you are here" lead to the break up in my long-distance relationships.

[@stephenli7]

My girlfriend and I have been doing long distance for almost one and a half years. We're both in college (I'm at UPenn and she's at USC) so we're pretty much across the country. I think this was a great discussion and topic. It touched on all the points and difficulties that we've faced and provided some good insight and inspiration so thanks for this.

[@TingtingLeNgo]

Before I got together with my boyfriend I had already decided to study a year abroad in Japan. The distance for us was 5000 miles (I'm from Sweden). So in the first year of our relationship, I was abroad for 11 out of 12 months and non of us had enough savings to visit eachother during that time. Although it was on of the toughest things we had to maintain, I believe that by going through all of the challenges together that year gave us a strong foundation as partners for life. Sure we could've probably make it work without the distance also but hey, he went to on of my family gatherings when I was away. Alone. That alone made me trust and appreciate him over any gesture that any guy has made for me (dad not included ofc). Now we're going strong on our fourth year as a couple :)

[@LoneAzn]

We've been together for 5 years almost 6 now. A little over 2 years we've been at the long distance mark. Give or take 300 miles apart so a 6 hour drive for me to visit. Definitely is tough with scheduling as well as keeping things different. But we did have a little break recently to reflect on everything. This video definitely solidified what I've been thinking of lately to be able to keep us moving forward. Love the work you guys do! Thank you.

[@mareenaxoxo]

I really enjoyed this lunch break because I can relate. My boyfriend and I are coming up on 4 years together!! We dated for 6 months and then he left for 2 years to serve a mission for our church in Chile. During those two years we were only able to communicate through email. It was so tough but we grew to appreciate each other so much more and I fell even more in love with him because of it. When he returned about a year ago we had the whole summer together but now school is keeping us apart. We skype every night and it’s the high light of my day. LDR is so tough but worth it because it’s all finally coming to an end since we are currently engaged and set to be married on May 19th. I couldn’t be happier (:

[@ricom8]

Hearing Wes say that one of the hardest things to hear/say "I wish I was there" spoke volumes to me. I was in a long distance relationship for a bit over the summer, but it didnt end well. Going into a relationship, i really believed that no matter distance, a true bond of love would not be broken. Unfortunately, i was wrong with that. The worst thing about how it all ended was being completely blindsided. One thing I will say for everyone out there in a long distance relationships is like they said, always remember why you chose to be with this person, communicate, communicate, communicate! I cannot stress that enough. Try not to let your worries and insecurities of trust damage the relationship too. I learned that the hard way lol. And to just have faith

[@withloveaimee5130]

Loved this lunch break! It reminded me of the long distance relationships I've been through. I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 and 1/2 years and when we first started dating, we were long distance for 3 months (I was in Malaysia, he was in California), we spent 4 months together during the first semester of school, and then we spent another 6 months apart due to my study abroad (I was in Japan, he was still in California). Fun fact for our 1 year anniversary, we actually spent 8 months of that long distance from each other! Since he's a year older than me, he graduated while I was on Study Abroad, so for my senior year of college, he was working in Irvine so we only saw each other during the weekends and though we were in the same state, it still felt like long distance to me. And even now since I've graduated undergrad, I'm doing my masters in LA and he's still in Irvine, so we still are in that long-distance where we only see each other every 2-3 weeks or so. It's honestly been hard, but we've been growing together through our long distance. When we do see each other, we make the most of every moment we have together and I'm really happy we went through long distance together because I don't think we would've been the couple we are today. Communication and trust in your partner is the key to any successful relationship. So to everyone in long distance relationships right now, hang in there! Love has no boundaries. When two hearts are meant to be, no matter how long it may take, how far you both may be, or how tough it may seem, time will eventually bring you two together to share a life called forever. :) Good luck!

[@PrinceJacob5]

I've been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for more than 3 years now. I think of long-distance relationships as when you're not able to easily see each other. We've been in different states like TX and PA, and there were times when we saw each other once a month, or times we saw each other twice a year. It was crazy and it's still pretty crazy. I would say that communication and trust are definitely the biggest things that helped us. Phone calls and skype calls are nice too but as long as you're both appreciating each other and not trying to get angry at each other for not doing "more", then it's fine. People get busy and if you trust each other, you need to show it.

[@adelepenguin13]

ah Ben!! i started my relationship with my bf long distance as well~ and I agree with Wes that when you are in a long distance relationship, it's important that you both know and remember that you choose to be with each other

[@eunicelim3405]

LDR for 2 years. Initially 2 hours during the week and 1 hr on weekends, for the last year its been UK to Australia - minimum 24 hours flight to see each other and only once every 3-4 months. Wes definitely nailed it with "wish I was there" and Phil with time efficiency. Think its hard for people who have done further distances to empathize with those who have done less. Probably the hardest thing is knowing your only options are to keep doing long distance, leave behind your home/career or to break up. Great topic WF, definitely harder in practice!

[@helloitsmejunely]

The distance was 3,000 miles away for me (6 hr flight across the country). It lasted for only 6 months. The distance and the "I wish I was there/I wish you were here" made it extremely difficult. It's tough but on the bright side, we're friends now. Long distance friendship? Haha :)

[@misslis25]

JuneBeautique aww lol. cool

[@daisymcx]

I have only done long distance relationships so I actually don't know what it is like to date someone in close proximity. The shortest distance was a 7 hour car ride and now I am currently dating someone in California and I am in New York. Long distance is definitely not for everyone, but it worked out because of my busy schedule in grad school and studying late nights the skype dates and facetimes meant everything! It's the little things you appreciate that make everything worth it (:

[@luciegoosiex3]

We live about 2.5 hrs apart and that may seem like barely anything compared to international relationships of course, but it's still difficult. Wes' comment about "I wish I was there" is so true it hurts. We've been doing this for 2 years now after having lived with each other before (I had to move away for school and work) and it doesn't seem to get easier. But we definitely make it work because we're both busy, independent people trying to build our future for each other. That 2.5hr drive is always worth it to see him.

[@tahtahresa]

I'm in a hour and a half LDR mostly bc of how busy both my SO and I are. It's so difficult to see each other for weeks on end sometimes. To me, I think it hurts even more to be in this type of LDR bc we're both so close to each other, but our busy lives keep us away from each other. It's so difficult, but we love each other so much that we will keep on trying our best to see each other as much as possible bc all of this is only temporary.

[@Noovil25]

My first relationship is a long distance one, we met in the last 2 years of high school and we are from different cities. Now we are both in university, I am in the NL and he's in the UK...it's been 3 years and it's going stronger! So for those who are considering LDR, definitely give it a try, you don't want to look back and said "I should have tried" :)

[@HeartofaWarriorX]

This is now my new favorite lunch break episode! It means so much that you guys are so open with us and willing to share your experiences with us, esp. This episode was all guys! Would love to hear more topics on relationships!

[@JessieCXiong]

This really hits me in the feels. Wongfu never fails to amazed me with what the things they do. 😭😭😭😭 I don't know, it might just be me but I don't really consider 1-3 hours or dating in state a long distance relationship. I'm currently in a Long Distance Relationship. We are 3,043.7 miles away. From coast to coast he's from California and i'm from Rhode Island. We been doing long distance for 1 year and 6 months. Long distance is tough but it's also incredible. There's going to be quarrels and misunderstandings, learning to fit with each other time schedule. Finding time to visit each other, learning to communicate with each other but when you found the one you will love that person with every fiber of your being, living in two different places will not defeat that love. Distance will not tear you apart because you won't let it. Love is the strongest force in the entire world; it penetrates miles, zip codes and state lines. The distance between you may feel like daggers in your heart from time to time, but you know that the bond you have is worth the pain. Thank you for the wonderful and beautiful reminder Wongfu. I needed it. Long distance is so hard yet it'll be worth it in the end. Don't give up and don't give in. I'm rooting for my long distance couples. I love you guys! ❤❤❤

[@amyyyhuanggg]

My boyfriend and I have been in long distance relationship for almost 4 years now, we met in high school and I moved to another city for college and we've been dating for almost 6 years now. In the beginning it was really difficult because we both are poor college students with so little income to fly and visit each other, but as time passes, it gets better and we are able to accumulate more to atleast see each other every 3-4 months. It's definitely tough to not be able to be with each other whenever we want but it's also a great experience to become more independent and learn to better communicate with each other :)

[@maiyajyuam7680]

I can actually relate to this episode for sure. Being in a relationship has its good and bad parts. My boyfriend and I are like 2 hours away which isn't so bad but as teenagers, makes it harder. We've been doing long distance ever since dating but its worth it.

[@Martian_marzan]

I feel like I could never be in a long distance relationship because there are parts of me that are still insecure about myself in a relationship. But on the other hand, I'd be okay with a relationship where the other is just as busy as I am since time is still just as precious 🤷🏻‍♀️🙃

[@Roberttang20]

martian_marzan For me though it depends on the actual distance, right now it is about 60 km(40 min commute by train) from my city to the city my gf is at so it isn't too bad but if it extended beyond 100 I might had reconsidered it .

[@cloudy_3]

Lunch Break about interracial relationships / dating outside your race!

[@smallfryqie]

Just when I was feeling down about my own LDR, Wong Fu came clutch with the advice. I really needed the reminders☺️ 3/4 years my relationship has been LD. First from an hour away cities, east & west coasts, and now SoCal & NorCal. Hopefully this upcoming year no more heartache

[@robinsdemonhunter]

I actually started my long distance relationship during November of 2017. As of now we are 3 months in and it feels amazing. We talk everyday and due to different time zones, her being in the Philippines and me being in the US (southern Cali to be exact) we have no difficulty talking to each other everyday. I see that it being a long distance relationship everything seems to feel brand new everyday we talk, but big con is what you guys said where the hardest thing to fathom is just mentioning “wish I was there”. But both of us have established how we feel for one another and are patient enough to wait. This topic has really connected with me. Love you guys keep doing what you are doing. Watching your videos have gotten me through tough times. Big supporter and always try to keep up to date with y our vids. Big fan!!!

[@emmaporter7508]

I’m still in high school and the two relationships I’ve been in have been long distance. The first one was three hours away and the second 20 minutes away. From those experiences I have learned that trust, communication, and honesty is key to a “smooth” relationship. Both relationships were stressful, as I put in more work for the relationships then my S.Os did. Now I’m a happy Single and am more than willing to wait till college for a #nondistance relationship 😊

[@123yanling]

I’m currently in a relationship where he is 16 hours behind, Sydney and Michigan. When I heard 1.5 hours drive apart being LD , judged you guys so hard. Knowing that it takes 20 hours by plane to able to see each other is heartbreaking and the only advise I can give for people who are in a LD is to be CONFIDENT! Trust him! Never over think because at the end you would hurt yourself , because he might not be available to text you back when you’re sad or insecure due to the time differences.

[@AynaRafik]

I was in a long distance relationship for 6 months whilst I studied abroad for an exchange in the Netherlands and the boyfriend was back home in Malaysia (6 hour time difference & 10,000km apart). It was hella tough, but its what Wes said; effort. And a whole load of trust is needed. We're still together, celebrating our 4 year anniversary in a few months :)

[@JoY-zo2yi]

liked, just for wes' cheesy comment and pose

[@thewesleychan]

cheeeeese

[@puiees]

I had a long distance relationship a year ago, it lasted for 6 months before he called it off. We were together for 9 years, and he was my first love. I guess what was really tough is - the fact that you want to do so much with that person but he/she isn't physically present, and how we slowly let things slide off without communicating. Still, I do believe some love do conquers the long distance. It might not be for me, but I hope those who are in one, keep on believing!

[@adventmemory2247]

My lady and I have been in a LDR for about 1.5 years now. It's been tough at times being here in Texas and she is all the way in the Philippines. But those occasions where we can video chat, send each other practically essay-length messages on why this makes us happy, etc., it is all worth it in the end!

[@paul.gutierrez]

Hey guys! Great video! My girlfriend and I are over 19h drive (1,310mi) apart. We've been at it for over two months now and going fairly strong. It's my first time keeping a long distance relationship like this and there's definitely been challenges, but you guys speak truths and offer great advice. Definitely in it for the long haul. We'll see where this journey takes us!

[@d0gluver123]

It is definitely tough being in a long distance relationship especially if your bf/gf lives on the other side of the world (I am in Korea my bf is in Germany)😢 but if it's with the right person it's worth it.

[@mixis8637]

s_rim I totally agree. Me I am in Germany and my husband is in the Philippines. We are now waiting for his visa to come to Germany. It is so hard waiting all the time. We are together now for 1 year and 8 month, we know each other for 2 year and 6 month. Married since this year july.

[@d0gluver123]

Mixi S I feel you. Waiting really is tough😢 For me the best part of the day is getting to talk to my bf. Congrats on your marriage by the way :) hope you two can meet up real soon.

[@mixis8637]

s_rim Thank you. Yes talking to each other is really important but the time difference is making it also difficult. Do you have plans to see each other? Thats what makes me always happy, when we can plan to see each other :->

[@d0gluver123]

Mixi S he is coming to Korea in December so I am real excited! I'm just waiting for that day to come right now :D

[@mixis8637]

s_rim wow, thats so cool. Have a good time together. I hope you have a long time together. How did you met?

[@Chibua]

Me and my boyfriend are almost together now for 8 years. He was studying in America at the time I met him (he is Singaporean) and i live in The Netherlands. Those 8 years we never have been able to live together so the longest time we were able to spend with eachother was 3 months. I think i have flown to America for about 5 times and he went to The Netherlands the first 3 times, that's a 11 hour flight. Yes, it's not easy being seperated, but you choose for a relationship and if you can't take the fact that you are far apart from eachother then you have to think to yourself if it is worth it, some people just can't be in a long distance relationship. Trust is something what takes effort and time to build in a long distance relationship, it's not going to be easy, but then again showing some jealousy sometimes is showing that you care for the relationship and care for that person. Just don't forget that communication is key and that sometimes, especially when you both have different cultures, there will be things that are normal to the other but totally not okey for the other, don't get offended right away and talk things out, maybe you misunderstood the whole situation. But next year we will finally be able to live together, so to whoever is in a long distance relationship, keep your heads up, smile and keep communicating ♥

[@annalisachang]

this lunch break is great! the boys are killing it!!

[@amandacristobal3366]

Really great topic. Doing LD (California to Philippines) for 4 years now. Hearing this feels refreshing and supportive in the best way - especially from you Wes, saying "why are you with this person?". People say it's because we're both "mature" to grow together and separately, but it's still a learning process after 4 years of LD. Thanks for the video!!

[@elsuhhh]

HAHA I'm imagining Wes' reaction when Phil consoles him by saying "you save money though"...😅😅😅

[@ankyanku425]

Phil in every lunch break going like "first of all, how do you define blank?" or "what does blank include?" Same Phil, same 😂

[@thewesleychan]

lol

[@samjanthablinks]

Anky Anku You gotta make sure everyone is on the same page

[@truyenthuyetkia80050]

I went "oooh and d'awww" when Wes said, but "I want to". Such a sweet and #niceguy status thing to say. Prop to you!!! Also, it's too real and so true about "wish i was there" or wish you were here part. My past 7 years of long distance (U.S. to Asia) relationship funnily didn't end because we were apart, it actually ended a year of us finally being together. So we started dating in high school for a year and then I moved to the U.S. and we kept our relationship going for the next 5 years with us seeing each other only once when he came over for a student exchange program, then he came back a year later to officially under international student status. I guess thing didn't work out when we finally was together because we realized we were not the same people anymore and we have different views and needs in life at that point. Things were much simplier when we were high school students in a small town in Asia. And it's much easier to be the "perfect" self on camera/phone/email/chatting than in real life, even tho we were sharing everything about our daily lives with each other. lolz. Sorry for the long comments. Hope this could be a good source of material for your next short/video series/movie ;) I enjoy watching you guys and I was at LA Identity, but only saw Christine and David Choi, guess I missed Phil and Wes. Keep it up guys!

[@yeps2468]

One time. My ex was in another country for three months. We Skyped heaps. Read the Bible and journaled together. Found out FaceTime was way better than Skype. Sometimes ate meals in front of the camera.

[@uwuvashi]

cuteeeeee

[@GeevesPie]

I'm in a long distance relationship. We've been together for four years, he's west coast Washington and I'm eastern Colorado. So that's about 1000 miles as the crow flies or 24 hours driving. The key to our relationship is trust, communication, and being able to adapt. If we couldn't be open with each other, I don't think we would have lasted. We tell each other just about everything, and realize after feeling those doubts and paranoia that we can and do trust them. That puts my mind at ease. We always talk, and I don't think I would love him as much as I do if we didn't have to mainly communicate through text or skype. I got to know more and more about him in a shorter period of time than I might have through being together for as long. And lastly, I had to change a lot as a person to get to where I am, and it's mostly because of the distance. I have matured, and he has opened up more. It's a really interesting situation. But, the best feeling of all are those small moments we're able to be together in person. And it makes me realize, that when we are able to be together for the 'forever', that it will all be worth it.

[@CharlieisaRealGolden]

So motivating and inspiring to read all the comments of LDRs. I think the key to success in an long distance relationship is the same for success in a nondistance relationship (I gotcha Phil). Communication, compromise, and mutual feelings and respect. You have to share your lives without being physically with each other which means communicating regularly and keeping the other person in the loop. Fights are resolved with communication and compromise. But most importantly, you can't make a relationship if you're both not invested in it. Yea the distance makes it hard (easier to grow apart, neglect the other, etc) but if you both feel the same way and are passionate about making it work, it will. Probably the biggest reason any relationship fails is that someone gives up because it's just "not worth it" anymore. Been in a 7 yr relationship and doing a medium distance relationship for the last 5? But any relationship success is a win so high five to all the happy fighting couples :)

[@imocha22222]

one hour drive is definitely not long distance lol

[@thewesleychan]

relative :D

[@sallyhere]

E YJ right

[@danella636]

lmao my bus to school takes 2 hours

[@samjanthablinks]

It’s middle distance

[@marygracevicente24]

haha god my bf is 13 hrs away... i cringed im hearing that

[@kathykitty11]

This video really hit me hard after a rough argument I had with my S.O. We resolved it through communication and there were some things he left out which was what caused misunderstandings and hurt feelings but after talking things out and mentioning what was going on in both or our lives, many things made so much more sense and we definitely settled things out. Currently in a ldr where I’m going to college in NYC and him in Austin. This was our first month doing ldr after dating for 1.5 yrs and I can 100% say it’s been the hardest obstacle we’ve ever had to face in our relationship. However, there’s only 1 of him in this world and we both are determined to pull through the roughest times and now these days it’s getting a lot easier. I’ll be seeing him again in 2 months which is very exciting reuniting after not seeing each other for so long. This video really helped and definitely #relateablecontent Thanks for this, Lunch Break Wongfu

[@BrutalBeatz69]

Wes almost made me cry with the “wish you were here/I was there” currently 2000+ miles away from my s.o. bc of military, it’s been almost 6 months since I’ve last seen her but thankfully going home on thanksgiving to see her and my family as well, second time being away this long, or far, only other time was going to basic training and tech school and being away for 4 months and I thought that was tough...

[@ceciliap2778]

I've been in a long distance relationship for 6.5 years and we're getting married next year! It's a hell of a lot of work but I think it's helped prepare us for marriage in ways a #nondistancerelationship wouldn't have been able to. Besides it's not like when you get married it gets any easier :)

[@minjikim6012]

Whoa this video was uploaded 2 years ago, when I didn’t think I’d ever be in a long distance relationship like how Phil felt in this video. BUT some things change :) My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 11 months. He lives in Washington, and I’m in California, so thank God for the same time zone, but it definitely does not get easier. Communication improves drastically while in LDR. When I told him I wanted to have FaceTime coffee/movie date every other weekend, he suggested every weekend! We just bought the ticket to Washington in December so we can spend Christmas together and celebrate our 1 year dativersary as well. Every day is worth waiting since I get to be with him at the end of my 5 hour flights!

[@SirAgravaine]

lmao, Phil being like, "longest was a 45 min drive" and the other three immediately rolling their eyes Also, Wes saying, "I wish I was there"... DO I SMELL ANOTHER WONG FU SHORT?

[@lkali810]

My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 11 months because he's in the U.S. Army. Our relationship began 5,965 miles apart (Iraq to NY). He's since returned to the U.S. but we are still 600 miles apart while he's on base in NC. We watched your video together via FaceTime and totally live by the advice of communication, planning, and flexibility! Any relationship can be tough but having those as foundations have really helped our relationship grow. It has brought us closer together as ironic as that sounds. This makes him returning back to NY that much more satisfying (as Phil stated). Also, we're huge fans. Keep up the great videos! :)

[@dumbkorean1]

wow, you guys are so lucky you guys have each other!! ;D

[@TheKatlnelson]

When my husband and I met we lived across the country from each other. Best thing about it was that we communicated constantly, honestly, and about everything. So when we got married we had this fabulous foundation for talking everything out. Worst thing about it was feeling lost for a few days without him after each trip we made to see each other. Every time if felt like my best friend just moved away, again. I remember once my husband calling me after he got back to his home after visiting me. He said "I walked into my dark apartment and I knew I never wanted to come home without you again." Five months later we got married. 16 years later I still love that I never have to be without my best friend ever again.

[@RekaQuivira]

I am in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend is in Sacramento and I am in Kansas City (originally Chicago). It's about 1600 miles, and its a 6 hour flight (including layovers). We have been dating for 3 years 9 months, we have been friends for about 9 years. We met on a video game that we played together. It is not easy, but I believe it makes you and your relationship stronger! When I have been to visit him three times this year, everything feels perfect and its amazing. I am now moving there in January! One of the hardest parts of long distance is that at some point, someone is gonna have to move to the other person. If both people are happy living where they are, it could become very complicated and even make the relationship fall apart. Lucky for us I have always wanted to live in California so I have no issue moving what-so-ever! Wes's "wish you were here" speech almost made me cry... too close to the heart... right in the feels. And Benson was SO into this topic. So passionate about it. His knowledge was invaluable and the advice he gave was legit. Even if it didn't make sense sometimes :P I understood it!

[@shark_llama]

I was binging on lunch break yesterday bc I was sad. So glad a new one came out!

[@francinesalazar4682]

they tanned a lot??? It’s not just me right??? They’re usually pale bless the sun for giving these boys some vitamins during this time of need (Bc tHERES NO SUN WHERE I AM)

[@KJHLovA]

I have been in a relationship since 2009 and recently married to the man of my dreams just over a few months ago. Our relationship was long distance for most of those years aside from the 6 semesters when we attended university in the same city. Even then, it took us 1hr+ to visit each other as neither of us had a car at that time. I wouldn't trade what we have for anything else. Wes is right on two points which hit home - "I wish I was there" moments really hurt... and that if a LDR works it's the most beautiful story ever. My husband and I are living proof and we are so excited to spend the rest of our lives together

[@HappyYoulia]

Me and my boyfriend met through the game overwatch and have been together for almost a year now. The distance is about 3h with train so we only saw each every other weekend. It’s the best relation I’ve had though and now we have an apartment together in his town. I will move in after new year when I’m done with my studies so it worked out great for us! I’m 19 and he’s 20, couldn’t be happier. The distance is absolutely a pro but also a con. But I love him and he loves me and together we communicate and get through it. Love these type of videos Wong fu!

[@bleachfan392]

I’m currently in a relationship with a guy who is the same age as me and also in the military. He and I were dating for 3 months before he left for boot camp, so we didn’t start out as long distance. He was like 10 minutes from my house. It’s been 9 months that we’ve dating and we’re about 1,700 miles apart. I’m in a small, rural town area in Illinois for college while my boyfriend, Kyle is in Monterey, California. It was incredibly tough since he went to boot camp where we had to write hand written letters to each other. After boot camp, it was a lot easier to communicate and talk to him because we had our cell phones and social media. We were both on different schedules. It’s still hard to find the time to actually talk to each other on the phone than just texting. I still love him and I know that he loves me. 💕 It’s all about open communication, trust, and honesty with each other. I always LOVE Wong Fu for being SO RELATABLE! 😍💕

[@daphne2606]

The "I wish I was there" / "I wish you were here" really hit me hard 😢 Still currently in a long distance relationship (I in US and him in Germany) for almost 5 years. This Sunday will be the fifth. Don't know how we've gone this far, but the relationship still feels fresh and new, even when one of us flies over to visit. We have to agree, though, that communitcation and commitment is huge in order for it to survive. We're in the process of having him move here soon, so we're super excited about that! 😊

[@ChristineChern]

As someone in a 2,000+ mile long distance relationship for over a year (our anniversary was the 10th haha), I was like get out of here Phil with the 45 minute drive! I don't even consider an hour or two to really be long distance. Although, to be fair, my experience with that distance is limited. Still, some people commute longer than that for work, sooooooo... Also, Phil why are you taking up so much advice and talking time when you haven't even been in an ldr -_- I really relate to what Wes said, "What's enough to you isn't enough to them all the time" (10:40) because we use social media very differently, and that can be a huge point of frustration and why communication is so important!! Wes was full of insight in general and clearly I'm biased and just like him better than Phil LOL Kiiiind of touched on this, but I think something that deserves more discussion is the way others perceive your relationship and how that can put a strain on you. I've had more than one friend tell me that I'm basically "goals" because I'm maintaining an ldr and essentially chalk up all sadness and loneliness to it. It's really annoying that people are like "awh good for you for doing a hard thing" but then at the same time are very evasive or awkward about it, like they'll ask about the S.O. but then have actually nothing to say because they can't relate or whatever. I honestly find it to be a really weird topic that is used for small talk, but I find small talk to be obnoxious as a whole. OH. AND AS A WOMAN. FYI TO ANYBODY READING THIS: DO NOT FUCKING ASK ME IF I'M GOING TO GO LIVE WITH S.O. AFTER I GRADUATE SCHOOL LIKE I DON'T HAVE A FUTURE INDEPENDENT OF BEING WITH A MAN. THANKS. ^Can you tell this is a huge peeve!!!! It is reasonable to ask about where I see the relationship going after I graduate or if I am considering moving etc., but to just ask me if I'm going to move after I graduate like I'm planning on wife-ing up is really demeaning and ignorant imo. A lot of people are shocked that we see each other almost once a month because we have to fly to see each other, and we are definitely very lucky that we can make that happen between my school and his work schedule as well as the obvious financial barrier. But hey, time with a loved one is priceless.

[@jenniferhuynh3871]

i think what i hate the most about lunch breaks is that it makes me want to eat the food that they're eating too. and what's worse is that i'm a poor college student :(

[@lydiafong1118]

I'm in a LDR (I'm in Norway and my SO is back in Canada so we're 8hrs difference) for a year and a half and will be doing it for another half-year. It works fine, but I've been given this advice a lot: works if you have an end goal. Not true for every case, but I imagine it's pretty for a lot of relationships. But LDR does teach you a lot about being in a relationship!

[@nkrsh]

I am currently in a long distance relationship. I'm in Canada, he's in California. We've been together for 7 years...although he thinks it's 6 and a half ish. If I could sum it up in one word, I'd say...CRAZY. Lol. Our communication was always our first priority and if you don't have it, it'll be extremely difficult. At first, we would actually message each other so often that there were times we would be "too clingy" and it happens even if you aren't physically together so we really needed to set boundaries and communicate in a way that was best for us. One of the best things you can learn whether long distance or not, is learning what eachothers love language is. This helps to ensure you both understand eachothers wants and needs and how to be intimate and affectionate. 7 years later...and we are getting married next month!! CRAZY! 😁

[@theweirdo337]

Hey guys! I've been in a long distance relationship for 2 years and we're 765 miles apart. It's hard but honestly if love matters enough, then time doesn't!

[@drey3866]

Australia and US long distance here! Seeing him again after 5 months on Christmas Day and I absolutely cannot wait - it's what pushed me through exams and uni haha

[@sherisse7]

What a coincidence. I watched this 5 days after I saw the very ex I was in a long distance relationship with. Last friday was the first time I saw him after breaking up 7 years ago! To answer Phils question, the distance was 750kms/1hour flight/10hour drive. We did it for what felt left 4 years but only under 2 years. Broke up due to poor conflict resolution skills i.e. Intense love and Passion + yearning + both emotional types + poor communication (at the time) = premature breakup and lack of adequate closure. Here's the kicker! 4 months after the premature break up he moved to the same city as me as work approved his job transfer. We live minutes from each other now and have been for years. Today, neither of us have ever been married (yet) but have moved on with lives.When I saw him last Friday (at the wedding of our mutual friend who introduced us), my heart felt like I wanted to talk and chat with him all night long.. but didn't. So much to say but not worth the hurt it could cause. Ahhh the long distance relationship! Lol

[@JC-cc8td]

I was long distance with my SO for the majority of our relationship and next feb will make it 13 yrs that we’ve been together. we started off going to different high schools in Ny, I went to Boston for college, Shanghai for study abroad, Orlando for work, Philly for work and finally moved back to Ny around our 9.5 year mark. The whole time I was away, he was in Ny. I would agree that trust/honesty, open communication, and high effort are the three biggest factors of success in our relationship. Now we live together :)

[@MRJQUACH1]

Been dating my gf for 1.5 years through long distance; we’re on opposite ends of the country and have a 3 hour time difference but we make it work. Of course it sucks sometimes but there’s also lots of positives, like we know everything about each other, and when I get to see her it it feels 10x better. Its all about effort 👌

[@thewesleychan]

nice!

[@StrykerGamingOfficial]

ayyy just when I almost gave up on looking for something to watch, Wong Fu pulled through

[@thewesleychan]

always there for you

[@jessicaa5189]

Great topic!!

[@isabellahong1262]

1 1/2 years long distance here 😅 I live in the states, my SO lives in Canada. The key for our relationship is knowing each other’s love language. His and I’s are both the same so it makes it easier to do things like play LoL together. Open communication is definitely a big part too - keeping in touch throughout the day, send pictures and messages. A pro, like they mentioned, is having the chance to live your own lives and be your own person. Yeah, it sucks not being able to see each other every 2-3 months but you get used to it. There are moments where I wish I could use a hug from him. But knowing that he sees me when I’m crying and offers support is just as important. TL;DR: Open Communication, flexibility, and love language are vital for long distance relationships 😊

[@kevinhuang8129]

I'm currently in a long distance relationship too. My girlfriend is about 3000 miles away (6hr plane ride). I've only been in one for five months but the one thing I've realized is that the feeling of being there can be satisfied through other ways. And of course it depends on each person but when you're girlfriend or boyfriend is going through a hard time and sees a message coming from you saying "don't worry, I believe in you and im always here for you" or something along those lines, it goes really really far. So to all you in one now, just remember that both of yall are in it cause you both love each other and its up to you too to get through it. Its you two against the world in a sense.

[@gracedick1110]

Wearing my lunch break shirt as I watch this

[@thewesleychan]

me too

[@SayHelloElaineyo]

My long distance is: I'm on the east coast in the United States and he is in china. This is year two. Biggest lesson, you never get used to the distance. It's about pushing through and seeing the bigger picture and long term goals. The moment you get used to the distance and being apart.. then literally, it's okay that you're apart.

[@luresial9744]

Me and my boyfriend were really far away. We met online when I was living in Southern California, and he was living in Alberta, Canada. :) We were long distances for 8 months, with a few visits in between by plane. Every time I'd see him was like magic. Everything worked out and everything was magical. Leaving was the hardest parts. Getting on a plane or even knowing I had to pack my bag to go the next day was always heartbreaking. Lots of crying. After 8 months, he finally came to live with me in SoCal, and we lived there up to our 1 year anniversary. Now, we drove ourselves up in a small car to Washington with it full of our stuff, our 3 cats, and 3 suitcases full of our things, and we've been together for 2 years now. It's going to be 3 years in September 2018. :D

[@QiMinLim]

My husband (then boyfriend) and I were in a long distance relationship for 4 years; he was in Melbourne and I was in Singapore. Honestly, when he first shared that he would be heading to Melbourne for his undergraduate studies, I was devastated. I had a ton of insecurities then and it didn't help that it was shortly after he had completed his 2 years of mandatory military service in Singapore. Long story short, we had plenty of fights, late nights crying, wishing the distance between us would magically vanish and a constant longing to never be apart again. I vividly remember what he said to me when I felt that the distance was too great and was fearful that our relationship wouldn't make it; he said, "we've come so far - there's no going back. We have to move forward, and make it through together." It wasn't the most romantic thing I've heard from him (it wasn't exactly comforting either hahaha) but the conviction in his voice reminded me that we were in this together, and for the long haul. While the distance really sucked, it presented us a challenge that required us to both take very conscious steps to overcome and I'm thankful that we did and made it through. Hence whenever I have friends who are in a long distance relationship or entering one, I have nothing but words of encouragement for them. It's tough, but it's definitely possible. 😄