Losing Skills - Regression and Autism

[@happinessfaithfulness]

When Abbie smiles and her dimples pop she looks exactly like Isaiah

[@TheHollyIncident]

I think she could understand how the pool is cold, because even though she has delays she has so much sensory sensitivity. So possibly even a small change in air or water temperature is very noticeable and she can tell it would feel intensely cold to jump in. She is using her reasoning to know that, maybe her sensory sensitivity is driving it.

[@mermaid1717]

Exactly!! My nephew is 19 now & can reason many things from years of learning, being taught, & realizing a+b=c for himself. It really comes with age too. My nephew has hit so many milestones with the help of maturing ages.

[@joanngrace6514]

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[@colleenmcindoe6812]

In education, we always make the least harmful assumption, and we should always assume that people know more than they may express.

[@alisonratliff7814]

Abbie would have THRIVED as a 90s kid with our boom boxes!😂💓

[@xcarolynx2002]

I was just thinking that

[@catherineritch6241]

Was that a rock or a speaker? Or a speaker in the shape of a rock? 😄

[@HikariOfHime]

@@catherineritch6241 It's a speaker in the shape of a rock. ^^ They showed them closer in a previous video. :>

[@aryanbryson933]

instablaster

[@amylangham0330]

When she has the speaker next to her ear.. I think back when I did that with a boom box!

[@kendrakkhalilieh1616]

This was a beautiful insight into these 2 as a couple....to be completely respectful of each other's ideas and as the wonderful and engaging parents they are. This was just enriching on so many levels. Thank you guys.

[@curious1366]

You asked Abbi "what's up?" and she looked up and laughed! She was joking with you!!

[@cheyennehalliger1164]

What time stamp was that

[@curious1366]

@@cheyennehalliger1164 Start at 2:17

[@MellowJelly]

Yeah at 2:14 lol that seems like she was playing along. Her smile is so amazing in that shot

[@linnsoltwedel]

After watching for years its very clear to me that Abbie is very, very smart!

[@RBNobody]

SUPER SMART. And cheeky lol . Such a character. Gosh I just love this fam 😍

[@linnsoltwedel]

@@RBNobody Yes! Such an cheeky funny girl :)

[@estherwhite3119]

@@RBNobody me 2 🤗

[@valerieloney5346]

I get that too. But they don’t

[@RBNobody]

@@valerieloney5346 who doesn’t ?

[@heathertempleton732]

I love Abbie's relationship with Summer. She is so comfortable and affectionate towards Summer. What a very special bond ❤

[@carolkelly1136]

I think Abbie knows and understands a lot more than you will ever know.

[@sheryldougherty282]

All kids regress to some degree when learning a new skill. Love how music is her thing. Holding the speaker up to her ear. And it’s like the Flintstones rock.

[@janeteaton8661]

Love Abbie's dimples. She's growing up to be quite lovely young lady. Abbie makes me smile.

[@justkibby5959]

You asked abbie "whats up" and she looked up lol

[@laurissacurts5064]

I’ve often wondered at these things with different kiddos I’ve worked with. I once read something in one of my classes that, because people with autism’s brain functions differently than a “typical “brain, they could be functioning at a completely different level in some areas. For instance, colors having a sound or textures having a taste. So... what if, and bare with me, she can see that the pool is cold or warm? That her intelligence is so heightened in this area she can see different shades and know it’s temp? Maybe by the color it gives, or even vibrations? So she was staring at the pool thinking, it’s not the right color yet. Instead of warm or cold? This probably sounds super wacky but I love thinking about stuff like this and have all kinds of theories when it comes to brain function and autism. Bottom line: there is a brilliance there that is way underestimated by most. You guys are doing a great job brining that awareness.

[@CrystalCat24]

I love this comment!

[@zachorozco5491]

this family is my favorite youtube family

[@NoellePerritt11]

LVP is the flooring. Luxury vinyl planking. It's my favorite stuff to lay. Me and my husband do home remodeling. Love your videos! ♥️

[@hl3818]

Abbie likes the cold weather, Asa said one time i think, but for a few seconds i thought Abbie was going to jump in thw pool, when Abbie smiles makes my day, i've watched their vlogs for 2 or 3 yrs, i learn a lot and makes me miss the kindergarden Kids and special classes i was tearcher's assistant .. MAASS FAMILY THANK YOU SO MUCH, big virtual hug from Rio Brazil .. .🌼🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🌼.

[@PrismYuuzuki]

She’s making so much progress. I noticed she’s looking up, smiling, and communicating more in recent videos.

[@sthrnbll2u65]

Her common sense is better then you thought. ❤️ My daughter does that to me, she will regress, and then shock me with her ability to understand something I thought she would never get.

[@Shadow-pn3sp]

I haven't been watching. So much has been going on in my family dealing with covid. I lost my job, my family had the virus...ugh. but i am currently going back to Christmas to get caught up. But i couldn't resisted watching the new vlog. Im so happy to be back watching!

[@Myrtle2911]

When you parents were talking about Abbie, and she kept appearing in the background through the door, I kept waiting for her to just take the plunge! LOL!

[@dancnluc1]

Abby and that speaker rock. That was something else.

[@annamariaagatha9392]

Abbey probably understands more than we and she realizes. Very interesting. And she is sooooo sweet. We all love her!

[@KrissyRoseAnimallover]

Abbie

[@conniemiller411]

You took my joke, Abbie rockin out with a rock 🪨 lol Abbie be so cool 😎

[@shelbychrastil8023]

Seeing Abby give me hope some days when it hard knowing that the hard days is just temporary. Love watching your videos

[@jennirunyan1724]

Girl! Those dimples are fantastic! Love your smile, Abbie!

[@terriedenna7751]

It's so funny to see Abbie rockin' it out with her rock speaker. 🎵🎶🎵

[@conniebrown4928]

Mom doesn't do much

[@havalittlcourage]

Connie Brown - you clearly don’t watch this channel much...

[@debbieodell4319]

@@havalittlcourageshe's obviously a troll.

[@pennykronbach1357]

My favorite is when Abbie gets the look in her eyes and messes with you guys! I used to be like that with my dad. You can just tell when someone is plotting to mess with someone. I almost always won and got my way 😂🤣

[@orlandl.blanchard5423]

Maybe she put her hand in the pool when it was cold and that memory is fresh in her mind. 😀

[@sarahcavanaugh572]

I love watching your family videos

[@ellieeargle]

Isaiah’s mini when those dimples pop out 😍

[@bdavisnc88]

I loved this video and seeing Abbie so happy and having fun. Loved the laughing at the end. Just brightened my day to see it.

[@HollyWood.8309]

Maybe it's because she only jumps in the pool when she's hot and knows the pool will cool her down..she has no desire to jump in when it's cold out because she's not hot?

[@LovelyRiv]

That makes sense. That could be a possibility!

[@rissole799]

My husband and I just said the same thing. Her thought process is the here and now, so she isn't preemptively thinking that if she jumps in the pool when it's cold she will get cold, but it makes more sense to me to think if shes hot she knows how to cool off ☺️

[@sarahjanewilgress3791]

In Canada 72 is perfect swimming temperature lol.

[@SarahThompson25]

That's considered warm!

[@jenniferwhalen9612]

I was thinking the same thing lol. I’m Canadian 😀

[@angywatson3251]

@@jenniferwhalen9612 me to lol

[@maureencolby3441]

Watch The Greatest Showman with Abbie! I think she might love and it will probably really touch your heart in how the represent differences! Best Movie Ever!!!!!!!

[@bevanarcher4586]

Asa, just a thought connecting back to my comment about swinging and swimming... If you think back over time, when she wasn't interested in swinging as much were those times that she was swimming a lot? Basically, does she replace one activity with the other? When she can't swim, she'll swing, but she'd rather swim....

[@ChallieWallie]

Regression/progression is not just a thing in children, but also in adults. In my experience, when i focus on learning a new skill, the skill I learned last will regress. It goes back and forth for a long time until it finally balances out. And that will be the maximum obtainable level of acquiring those skills. That is why I choose to not learn certain things because the result will not be worth the effort. It is more profitable to use the energy for things that give energy. Set yourself up for success. If i struggle a lot with learning a new skill, I just set it aside for a better time.

[@janaleonard4702]

Oooooh deep thoughts with Fathering Autism!!! So crazy !!!

[@livetteish]

There is also this thing called a plateau. It's when a person is neither regressing nor progressing developmentally but that phase is only temporary. Once the plateau is over there is normally a huge increase in development.

[@kimarndts4013]

Maybe she doesn't jump in because she sees that you guys aren't getting in.

[@KrissyRoseAnimallover]

No she goes in on her own even in her clothes it’s not that and the water is to cold

[@sharondietrich9059]

Abby looked so cool walking around the pool with the speaker against her ear!! Love the music!!

[@daphtahquette9242]

Summer I have read harry potter series 3x's just finished it 2 days ago for the 3rd time. Loves those books!

[@annascaligiuri]

@Steven Glansberg not sure on how many movies there is but I think the last one is in 2 parts.

[@forgottensoul1319]

There is 7 books and 8 movies. The last book was split into 2 movies 😊 but there are lots of other books that revolve around the wizardry world that were written either in the middle of the series being published or after the series was published like Fantastic Beasts, Quidditch through the ages, Journey through A history of magic and Harry Potter and the cursed child etc😊

[@rebeccahanesack9183]

Love her smile and you and your wife are amazing parents and nice she has friends

[@ciaraodriscoll3885]

When Abbie smiles it’s contagious ☺️

[@sarahstorr]

Rock it Girl! Go Abbie! 😘 I find it fascinating how people can make progress in an area, then another day regress, then make progress again. I try to identify triggers but sometimes there are no reasons at all. They just have “spiky profiles”. The human mind is a fascinating study. ❤️

[@connieolszewski3497]

The great mystery of Abby and the cold pool, Abby has mom and dad over thinking things just face it Abby is smarter then you think she is messing with your brains lol

[@KrissyRoseAnimallover]

Abbie and she obviously doesn’t want to go in the winter

[@patriciaserra6480]

I loved it when you asked her if she wanted to jump into the pool and she looked at you like....my momma didn’t raise a fool, that water is cold!!

[@daniellenida1194]

I love abbie she's so beautiful and I like how she's learning so much

[@rachelvanderwall5743]

YES!!! to watching The Sandlot!! my absolute favorite movie of all time. My notification tone on my phone is "You're killing me Smalls" I also have several shirts and quilt all sandlot themed!

[@Stumblebee35]

I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate "Fathering Autism," you are such a wonderful family. You have become my family since I have been disowned by my grown son and family. Luckily my daughter is still supportive of her Mother. My children are 40 and 44. Other than my daughter, I have no friends and family. It's so nice to have you as my online family! I love you all! Take care and stay safe!

[@estherwhite3119]

I feel you🤗

[@deyrendon26]

Love all you guys see you all on Tuesday

[@lifeonlowbatteries8153]

It’s my birthday today! My late 30s have been full of disaster birthdays: 2 years ago I got a bomb cyclone blizzard, last year I got a pandemic, this year it’s another blizzard. Glad to see you getting to open your pool!

[@cheyennehalliger1164]

Happy Birthday!!

[@fatheringautism]

Happy birthday friend!

[@lifeonlowbatteries8153]

@@fatheringautism thank you friend!

[@mandydeboard7077]

Love see Abbie smile she very beautiful.

[@stephanienealy7786]

The rock speakers appear to be a Christmas present win!

[@fatheringautism]

It was certainly a win. She loves them.

[@annamariaagatha9392]

And I think it is because she gets sooo much attention from you. I imagine it is such an orchestra of stimuli in her head and it is sooo difficult for her to work(communicate etc) around it. It must cost her so much energie! And she has humeur, the way she sometimes looks, I love it!

[@simeonyves5940]

Hello Maas Family, I am Sorry this is a Day Late. Hey Abbie. Well done Brushing Abbie :) Oops, I am glad Abbie's I pad Survived being Trodden on. Did You manage to Convince Abbie to put Her Shoes on? I hope that Grandpa Enjoyed His Coffee and Abbie enjoyed Her Doughnut. What was wrong with the Display on the Pool Pump? I am afraid I really struggle with Fahrenheit. I wonder where Abbie wanted to go. what was Sandy up to? Should have Guessed the Music would have Drawn Abbie out.. Aww, Abbie with the Rock Speaker, Carrying it just like an old Tape-Deck Boombox! Yes, that Speaker is a little too Loud for Abbie to have right on Her Ear! I am glad the Flooring is nice and Safe for You all. Wow, that Plane was Low ! So, Sandy is a Ball Dog? Abbie sure likes those Speakers. I wonder how Abbie worked out the Pool would be too cold to Jump into? Abbie's Communication is doing really well right now. Yes Abbie does seem to be rather more Switched onto the World than She sometimes Appears. You both raised some very interesting Questions there. Indeed, I do wonder how Abbie understands that the Pool is too cold to Jump Into. I, Personally, think Abbie is extremely Intelligent, as She is clearly, at least from what I have seen, very Switched on. I am sorry that some of Abbie's Skills have Regressed, and I hope that they come back on Point again Soon. I am very Pleased to Hear about Abbie's massive Communication Increase :) Interesting comments on the Progression/Regression balance. I am Pleased that Abbie is back into Swinging and Table Tasks again. I am Pleased that Abbie is doing really well in 2021. Wow! So Excited! I hope You all Enjoyed the Takeout. Well, take care then Guys, Bye Now.

[@leahmoerdyk6804]

I have noticed in the last few vlogs that Abbie has switched spots on the couch! Is that something she did on her own? I only ask and am curious because you spent all that time trying to fix the cushion in her other corner spot.

[@janaleonard4702]

Abbie is so happy with her rock speaker!!! Her smile and laugh warms my heart.

[@abithevikinglass]

I find it insane that people would think of her as not intelligent, its plain to see she's a very clever girl ❤️

[@sarahgee481]

I think that she might also realize that no one else is jumping the pool and therefore knows something is up whether its cold or not. Once she jumps in when its nice then its confirmed

[@kathrinefarmer4815]

I love to watch how excited Abbi gets over stuff, her running around with that speaker reminded me of when I was her age we all ran around with our radios on our shoulders just jamming out

[@karlysaeks7718]

I really enjoy watching your vlogs and your family

[@crohniequeenab]

That rock 🪨 speaker 🔊 was the best gift for her. She needed to be a 90s baby. With our 90s cartoons. I think she would love them. She’s the cutest that brain is always churning the mystery continues.

[@guitar_noodle]

Abby is probably aware that the pool is several degrees colder than the outside temp. Therefore she might feel that the pool temp is too cold for her liking or she simply doesn’t want to today. It’s funny that Abby was holding the speakers like a boombox from the 80’s and friends shirt. I like her style😎

[@robbiekenan8591]

I had to back the video up a little. You tossed the ball to Sandy and she tossed it back to you!!! WOW!!!!

[@joannacouncil1782]

Abbie is so cute i love seeing her walking around with her rock speaker she look so cute having so much fun thats all anyone could ask for

[@reemandair]

Nothing better than seeing Abby smile 💖

[@kristiwilliams9626]

I cracked up when I saw Abbie carrying the rock speaker. That is her kind of boom box.

[@mariajimenezclemente3215]

I am the caregiver for a little 7 year old autistic girl in the summer school since three years ago, I have seen her not wanting to go in the pool when the weather is cold and cloudy, but when it is hot she definetly jumps in without doubting. This is why I also may be thinking of sensory issues, like she is not hot so therefore her body doesn't tell her to jump in the pool yo get colder. That makes sense! Just my opinion. Love u guys 💖

[@ariellebachrach4796]

I love all your videos! Love what you guys do!

[@roshondabowens9809]

Hi abbie and family, welcome home how was ya'll trip, hope y'all are having a wonderful sunday and stay safe out there 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️

[@seriousblond007]

Abbie's smile makes me smile. She's such a beautiful girl

[@melexanie5403]

Totally agree with excelling at one thing, and regressing in another. Happening with my kids too.

[@kelleyg1379]

I love how abbey is jamming out with her rock way too cute , yeah it’s a bit warmer here in Jupiter but our pool is still in the low 70 s too cold lol

[@lillylune2290]

I know that comments say this time and time again- but Abbie is just a teen like me. Sometimes I have a week where I struggle with chores and homework- it’s life!

[@np100]

72 degrees......brrr. I put in a built in Doughboy pool for my son, but can only afford to turn it on during the summer as he likes it at 90 degrees or more! Lots of work keeping up a pool, but the joy it gives our kids who crave water immersion is immeasurable. I also have a hot tub for him.

[@cucalopez750]

I love to see Abbie so happy

[@vickyg690]

I have been following for a while and I think Abbie knows the difference between hot and cold because you were practicing putting food away in the fridge. She never liked to touch cold things so she knows she doesn'r like cold water

[@itsmecandi9951]

Those dimples are soooooo cute!!! I like be when she wants you to sit with her. She s like those people hat go to concerts and they sit right by the speaker! Thank you mr airplane for being so loud!!lol She looks like people in the 80’s when they used to carry the boom boxes in their shoulder. I love her!!!!

[@lmvicente1]

I’m thinking Ms Abbie is going to wait till ya’ll are on the way somewhere and then jump in! Lol

[@lissiet22]

Hahahaha yes 🤣🤣.

[@lmvicente1]

@@lissiet22 my kids used to love doing things like that!

[@tinabuckner64]

Such beautiful weather. It’s not quit swimming weather in Denver with our current blizzard.

[@donnawatkins3316]

Will Abbie get in a rubber boat and float in the pool? When the water got to cold to go in I would get a rubber boat put towels on the bottom and float around with a beach towel on top. I would read or take a nap. In my fifty’s now and bringing up this stuff is like it was yesterday. I can even remember the smells. Fun times. Pool work was hard but oh so worth it! This was before the self cleaning vacuum.

[@beckyherbstreith8036]

Abby is amazing.

[@AnimeFan111000]

I watch their vlogs every night. ✨

[@annchristine65]

Oh my gosh her dimples melt me.

[@sophiereuter9673]

I didn’t hear you mention motivation regarding jumping in the pool. If she’s not warm, the MO to jump in the pool isn’t there. When the weather is warm, the MO increases therefore an increase in jumping in the pool.

[@mishih9189]

I love that she learned cold and doesn’t want to just jump in. -

[@tracyclaxton4180]

Abbie is wonderful❤️

[@tanyahandley3466]

I think she understands the pool will be cold because when it's hot outside the pool is still cold compared to air around the pool. I think when it comes to her school smarts it has a lot to do with being OVERWHELMED by her environment and not "focusing" on what other people think is important for her to focus on. The world around her is just so much more interesting than say writing an essay or something like that. That's why those table activity boxes are so helpful. It mashes her environment with important lessons and tools that will help her with other things. The human brain is so mystical* I swear!

[@wordswritteninred7171]

I am helping raise my autistic grandson. I agree Dad! There is no ASSOCIATION understanding. They seem to learn something. They may or may not apply it, to another situation, that is different, but contains the same elements, and understanding. They have problems with generalizations. Some, when real young, may know that a banana is yellow, but may not know the color yellow when it is a bird, or as ball. Just for a very basic example

[@joneshellenruth8490]

Hi Abbie, I live in Greece and love keeping up with you and what you get up to in sunny Florida.🔆 You have a wonderful family and support system, anything is possible for your future, high five Abbie. 🤗😘

[@st2826]

HI, I live in Greece too--love this family!

[@michaelknox6181]

lol "brush brush brush" love it, it's what I say to my wee guy, nice to know these rituals are shared :D

[@noellesnow186]

Agree with your wife - I like it better that we can see your face without the beard. Wow Abbie has gotten so big & grown so much.

[@forgottensoul1319]

So glad you're reading the Harry Potter series Summer! Grew up with the books and the movies and as much as the movies are truly remarkable they couldnt put every aspect, storyline and detail from the books into the movie so a lot got left out and there is so much more to the wizardry world one can explore! 😊

[@leighannwagor5037]

Asa, I think it is time to see if Abby can crochet. It will help with her fine motor skills and dexterity. Start with a big hook with bulky yarn.

[@ameliazidek9807]

I’m a huge fan of you all. 😀

[@karadonald5668]

Abbie walking around with that rock speaker, the best ever

[@torianderson7517]

Her hair is getting so long!!! I love it!!!

[@rebeccalackey3146]

Those dimples!! So cute!!

[@mts2457]

That's cool like she holds the rock like a boombox on her shoulder heh