Love Life Or Career? The Debate Is Getting Hot

Dr. V, actress Alesha Reneé and Cari Champion finally decide what should come first.
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[@robertabenson621]

That white ladies voice is soooooo soothing

[@user-pl5nu6vn7c]

Sounds fake and forced like Paris Hiltons baby voice act. Paris HIlton natual voice is way deeper now!

[@echakamonjok]

Roberta Benson I’m saying! It was so soothing and calm.

[@sarai2sarah734]

Yess!

[@cristenjenkins8818]

Right, she sounded like a therapist. Her voice is calming

[@GreenBlue8840]

@@user-pl5nu6vn7c ok???

[@kalahcollins8758]

First of all, that orange is her color. She looks amazing

[@jaquaveonandress649]

She's on sport's center

[@acharich]

💯💯💯💯💯

[@passerau]

Trust me she's going to be single for a long time

[@passerau]

@Natasha Williams ???? I'm not against the color she's wearing in fact she's beautiful in that color, but the mentality the minset that she's bringing on this debate it's so degrading and pitiful. I don't see in any single way that she can build the sound and loving relationship of any kind let alone a marriage with that type of completely abhorrent Behavior. Getting married is about complimenting each other it's not about selfishness it's not about always thinking about yourself. if you want to do that don't get married because it doesn't mean anything. at some point you have to rely on your spouse on your other half to build something.

[@passerau]

@Natasha Williams to the contrary my dear I was 100% on point. Did you ask yourself why is she still single with no kids by the way she is 44. Look this is nonsense, if you listen again. the other two ladies have a different view. one is married, the other one is much younger and she's actively looking (she's going to find someone very soon). Her behavior will never attract any men for at all for a lifetime commitment, you don't catch bees with vinaigre. She doesn't realize that, she's not getting younger and she's acting like she is 22 or 23. rule number 1 in marriage your happiness come through the happiness of your partner. This is a key for every successful marriage. The problem here is she has been focusing on her career as a key for her happiness now she is 44 and alone. she even admitted life is really hard when you are single. but I guess she needs to justify the life style she chose. but trust me out of 10 women, at least six or seven will choose to have a good husband a good relationship compared to a carrier. this is the reality because it always comes down to being able to rely on your better half either that or you can justify your singleness through your career or any nonsense excuse. Today people are so fake. They Just don't want to tell the truth this is not a good Behavior listen to the other two women and you will understand that they don't really agree with that behavior. because they know that building a relationship will come with a lot of compromise and that's just a fact. she's not looking for a husband or for a partner. she's just looking for a slave, who is going to bow to her and accept everything she wants this is not how things work . I'm sorry but marriage doesn't work that way.

[@fennyyahtaylor6772]

Love ain't never paid my bills.

[@lovexoxo251]

Oh well you need to find the right kinda love honey, many will pay your bills. Not to say you should stay with anyone for money but the financial support is great

[@AllPro777]

+Fenny Yah Taylor Shoulda tried Backpage when it was open...

[@tonye.5410]

Fenny Yah Taylor no, its but your Bill's will never get you to the next level. Love will deflect, protect and be selfless. Bill's always give you a bird eye view of "self". If your focused on self, you can't be focused on someone else. Take it from a black man that has learned, and then found my wife of 20 years. Peace sis..

[@shrapnel77]

Amen.

[@JGallis]

Fenny Yah Taylor because love isn't money

[@magicpower1858]

The career is more guaranteed than the relationship.

[@evelyn8044]

Sassy girl06 nothing is guaranteed

[@raquelbrim5268]

Have seen at different companies people whose work was everything for them .. and the company ended up making them redundant.

[@SuckerPunch92]

Not it’s not. Anyone can get fired at any time

[@nora-e6120]

Tay Boone not if you are the owner, entrepreneur

[@douglasmcquaid5343]

Tay Boone Anyone can get dumped at anytime.

[@UnyikQueen]

Why end a relationship for a career and you don’t have to end the career either. Just support each other and build with the person. You don’t have to reach your goals alone! If you have someone who loves you don’t you drop that person might be hard to find them once you’re all successful.

[@dontaycox1472]

No you humans need to stop letting money be the compass of your relationship

[@robertkirby5955]

@@dontaycox1472 She's not letting money be the compass of it; she's just saying don't give up one for the other. Have someone on your side for support and try to balance it out with all of your effort.

[@dontaycox1472]

@@robertkirby5955 yes she is,why wouldn't she, money is the only thing keeping humans alive love don't keep a roof over your head "right"

[@robertkirby5955]

@@dontaycox1472 I get what you're saying, but she's not trying to make it sound like that money is a DESIRE. Everyone, including her, knows for a fact that it's a necessity. And money is NOT the ONLY thing keeping us alive; ever heard of this thing called AIR? And why are you just randomly throwing the word "humans" around so much like you're a misanthropist? Because I know TRUE misanthropic people, and just based off of your logic I can easily tell that you're not one of them.

[@dontaycox1472]

@@robertkirby5955 let's just say I know how humans think after all I am half human

[@jeniferwendt15]

if you have to choose between your career and your man then he ain’t your man.

[@mordredvonumbra154]

And what about the other way around?

[@sleepinversace8270]

facts, that bnitch needa go

[@flyandshy00]

Men would choose money to get a Kim K type of glam woman, so believe you me - always choose the money, because when you lose your youthful looks, only your money would keep a man :DDDD

[@mordredvonumbra154]

@@flyandshy00 Or you can keep a man by not making a horrible choices. But that seems impossible doesnt it?

[@qman313]

Yeah but is youre career the main income in the house? And if so are you gonna take care of all the responsibilities?

[@edugen100]

Ppl act like they can’t multi task

[@chaffls8786]

For certain careers, it’s extremely challenging

[@Dizzinator2114]

T C it works both ways. There are women who you can tell hey I have to work tonight, or study, and she takes offense to it, because she feels you should drop it to be with her, because she wants your attention, and etc. basically what I came to understand late in life is men and women who have dreams they are setting in motion should be the ones to be with each other when young rather than wait till later in life, because they understand the end game. Some men and women don’t care about that , and just want to be in love and in a relationship. So as Carrie mentioned the one caveat is someone who would support you, not someone who is attempting to stop you, because they want to go out, or just sit at home with you, rather than work hard now and play later.

[@abdirisakmussevids]

Even if you multitask, you tend to put more attention into one task.

[@callmethandz5329]

That's what I always say. Have your career. Compromise.

[@nkosimataka5565]

If this was a joke. 5 stars

[@thechatterboxtoronto7617]

This panel is a HELL YES! Especially the lady in orange and Dr. Vee. Okay Uncle Steve lmaooo Many women tend to put other people before themselves and that needs to stop.

[@judithjackson1086]

The ChatterBox Toronto bruh Tamar gonna get the job again

[@erecabredy9582]

Cari Champion

[@dsolomon]

No one on their deathbed ever wished they'd spent more time at the office. Real joy in life comes from love and relationships. Careers are the means to an end - to allow you have more time for your partner, spouse, family. If you spend your 20s and 30s married to your career, then when you decide to start really looking for a spouse, you may be disappointed to find that so many of the good ones are already taken and married. You need to find balance between love and a career. Find someone who supports you and your career goals, and someone that you also support.

[@MegaCadette55]

if you are not married, career>>>>love, if you are married ( for those who still take their vows seriously) then love>>>career

[@VONiiE8]

Rosa so the question is, when does career > love change to love < career? Bc you’re gonna be in a relationship before you get married, so when does the shift happen?

[@MegaCadette55]

+VONiiE8 that's a good question. personally, I don't claim a man to be mine forever until he puts a ring on it aka until we are married. once, we are married, then I know we in this thang forever. I am reassured he ain't going nowhere.thats when I put him and his needs before every thing. briefly, the shift happens after the ring. lol

[@chantallekee6426]

Agreed

[@VONiiE8]

Rosa lol fair enough.

[@MegaCadette55]

+Chantalle Kee 👏

[@MsSHINeeTVXQSuju]

Uncle Steve 😂😂😂 "you ain't gotta be honest!!"

[@pardivuspodcast]

SuJu_Mimi bad advice

[@jrudymorganclark2072]

Marriage and relationships dont pay your bills, a career does is that simple, all you get from dating to getting married is wasted money and time!!! Well said and done.

[@RaymondVictorMusic]

Can we have more of this panel I'm a changed and enlightened person after these couple of minutes 😍

[@mbinaomukuambi2459]

Jamie I agreeeeeeeeee

[@mbinaomukuambi2459]

This panel has truly been my favorite... Such gold and balanced insight...

[@RuffhouseNC]

These women are lost.

[@kimberleysinclair7204]

Steve, why do you say that no man has the value of a woman? I can’t imagine telling my son that he isn’t as wonderful or as valuable as his sister. It’s reverse sexism in my opinion. Men and women, boys and girls, PEOPLE are fascinating and valuable and everyone has something to offer. Both men and women should ‘fix’ themselves to be great for themselves and for their partners.

[@SuperBigdude77]

Kimberley Sinclair Thank you Kim finally somebody said it.

[@ChuckieLove2008]

I'm with you Kimberly. Like a man is not worth anything. I have given myself and thought for a lot of years that I had the one only to fall flat on my face. both parties have to be of value to each other. I don't look at any woman as a prize or a trophy. All you want is to be treated with respect and that you are met halfway and both support each other

[@happybrave7618]

Ive was scrolling in the comments just to make sure someone brought this up. VERY SAD there arent more likes.

[@JP-md1nt]

@Kimberly Sinclair I have two sons I get what you're saying if we just hear what he is saying by the surface. I know Steve Harvey is a man of faith. So, when he makes these statements I automatically think deeper and makes me reference the Bible and dissect it. "Before God created Eve, He said: “It is not good that a man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:18). " I believe that Bible verse supports what Steve Harvey is trying to convey. I am not a pastor or biblical scholar to go into depth about this topic and explain the power and importance of a woman in a man's life and explain why God saw the value of creating Eve( a woman) was very important for Adam(a man.) But, I thought I at least share this thought out there to help people to look at it from a different angle.

[@sirfoggy7682]

There are several things that have been said I disagree with but I'll comment just on some of them. "There's no guy that has the value of what you have, he does not exist". With all due disrespect (and no, it's not a typo) what a pile of hot steaming sh!t! That kind of thinking, which nowadays majority of women buy into, is one of the major reasons for so many women to be and stay single. That kind of thinking is very toxic and damaging both for men and women. There are some very bad people out there, some very good people, and everything inbetween. Women are not some alien race, they are people just like men are. That makes them neither better nor worse than men. Woman being a prize? Seriously? Woman can be a valuable partner to a man (and vice versa, of course), but never a prize. Lying about number of your previous relations? Not a big deal if you do, eh? Lying about what else is not a big deal? Him being a man of faith makes it even worse. Starting a relationship, or what could become one, with lies is not a good idea. There's a saying that you can't be dead or pregnant just a little bit, either you are or you are not. Same goes for lying, either you are lying or you are not. Some tend to call that "white lies" but they are lies non the less. If a prospective partner is lying about such unimportant detail (oh, it wasn't 5, only 3) one should wonder what else they are being lied about.

[@Demifan39]

Find the balance. I worked so hard to get where I am because I always put love last or not at all. Success means nothing if you have no one to share it with. If you see only a job as a guarante but not a relationship that’s the problem because both are not a guarante but equally worth the risk.

[@lisasylvester5513]

I put my career to the side, and regretted it.. now am doing my degree at 46

[@stephanieekezie244]

Lisa Sylvester it’s never too late to get a college education. I could never put my education or career on the line for the sake of a man who I see is replaceable. If a man truly loves u and supports u, he wouldn’t make u choose between your career and him. I’m not the type of person who can depend on a man to give me money, and make sure my bank account isn’t in a drought. I want to be able to do that, I want to be independent. Nothing wrong with putting yourself first and if the Man U r with can’t see that, then u r with the wrong man. There are plenty of fish in the sea...

[@JGallis]

Lisa Sylvester I think they can both exist

[@rachelmgongolwa7762]

Lisa Sylvester lmaoooo

[@shehely]

I put my career aside to keep up with my ex. Guess what, he left me for his career and now here I am still struggling with what I could have done then can't do it now anymore.

[@dontaycox1472]

You did the right thing bad things happen to good people good things only happen if you're bad

[@TheSuperk25]

Career (assuming that it gives you a sense of purpose). All the way! A career is more than money. No relationship should ask you to choose between a career over a relationship. Relationships come and go; the sense of purpose is not. If your relationship requires you to give up a job, you are not right together. You will not be very happy, and there will always be a void and wonder in you of what if. You'll live with a feeling of regret. True love is patient. True love can wait.

[@lovexoxo251]

I wish Steve would stop encouraging women to lie and be ashamed of how many people they've been with, 5 relationships in her life span isn't that bad. It could have been a short one for 3-4 months. The truth sets you free and if a man can't handle how many relationships you've been in then he's not the man for you.. simple.

[@dontaycox1472]

Right I'm 24 and I never been laid

[@candylove49]

Its easier to just lie, since men do as well.

[@acharich]

💯🎯💯🎯💯

[@iisuperstarii7310]

@T C you can have a relationship without sex

[@uo2650]

This panel is giving me the jitters...this is going straight to the marrows..they should make them permanent lol

[@dannac_8888]

Ugo Darrel Straight to the marrows. I LOVE IT! From now on I'm going to quote you. Peace! 😀

[@uo2650]

D'Anna C 🙏🏽 feel free...thank you

[@robinnoneofyourbusiness9963]

I’m 54 years old. Never married, I cannot say I’ve only been in 3 relationships!!!!! LOL!!

[@user-gu4tw2uf6s]

ill be you when i grow up. you da man

[@Sheldon1411]

Yes yes yes wise panel, make it permanent Steve

[@martinvasquez1096]

Career is always important he/ she can walk out whenever. There is plenty of Fish in the sea. Career only comes once, not love.

[@Nasute]

Marriage is a divine union between two people as a declaration of the binding of each other's hearts forever and is about love. It's about supporting each other. Each can have their career, but you put each other first.

[@hopeagainsthope9553]

Yea but usually women shouldnt have careers if they're married.

[@SD-nw6sx]

@T C happened with me .. he even comments on how much i eat and says me and my parents are leeches.

[@SD-nw6sx]

@T C i still love him .. inspite of all the insults he and his family has done even in public. They asked me to donate my kidney to him (he has esrd) while they were not ready for any screening or donation. He forced me saying if i dont sonate then i should leave the house. Then i left .He said he never loved me and i was mere a substitute for his ex whom he always liked better.

[@SD-nw6sx]

@T C sure will cherish that. Thanks

[@erowo8767]

@@hopeagainsthope9553 this is stupid, women are smart and should be able to do what they want just like men, stop being sexist

[@juanitamgeorge4022]

Yes!!! The lady in the orange dress said what I was thinking!!! Why should you even have to put your career on the back burner? Why can't they go hand in hand? Support me while I build... and I'll do the same. Why am I with you if you can't support my dreams?

[@johnbrittain8695]

One day people will understand the most important things in life are people not things, a career is extraordinary but it's pretty obtainable with the right Drive but to find the perfect soulmate is once in a lifetime some people never find theirs all the money in certain cases doesn't bring happiness long is you're earning a decent amount of money have clothes on your back of roof over your head and able to eat healthy with someone you truly love you will feel like you have a billion dollars 😉

[@be1812]

Amen!

[@trulylvd8320]

I agree. I don’t believe in this at all. To put your career as the focus point is just lonely. I have a great career, money, and seeking a promotion. But my desire is to be married and have children. To experience love, arguments with a partner, deserts with a partner, and someone to lay next to. My career does not remove my loneliness and I have more than enough.

[@franzmutuc9272]

Career first.. Love fills the heart but NOT the stomach... If you choose career first, you'll be financially stable... Girls nowadays will NEVER say NO to financially stable guy

[@septane]

Steve is dead wrong about any woman being more valuable than a man. If a relationship isn't built on mutual respect it won't last.

[@gedogdarker7211]

I agree thinking your more vualble then your spouse never works it should be built on mutual respect

[@abdelrahmanelsherbini4985]

How about, both partners change themselves for each other, to meet a common ground that satisfies both of them.

[@hopeagainsthope9553]

Yes changing for someone is not bad! This myth is pushed by feminists who put up the "If I'm fat he must love me and all my fatness cuz I aint changin" mentality.

[@santo9032]

I turned 29 next week and I’ve NEVER been in a serious relationship yet. Just been focused on the grind !!

[@lovemecom3832]

It's not easy to say or do but it's not always impossible to maintain that balance. Not everyone can, not everyone does. We prioritized our career more often. Sad but true. That's the reality of life.

[@user-kj4od3ot2w]

In my opinion, if you truly love the relationship you’re in, you can still have a career, just don’t constantly put it before everything else.

[@wanderer2589]

I LOVE THIS SMART PANEL

[@maxdvmoon8739]

If you chose career, do it with certainty and efficiency. Level up your education Go up ranks Invest more Build your impossible dream into reality Do it, don't just say it Work hard/Work smart (whatever works for you) And it will never leave you. If you chose love, make sure you are not neglecting your needs for the sake of your emotion Make time for each other more Figure out how to handle fights Make it long lasting as possible (it's hard to do that nowadays) And it will never leave you Stability is more important. Wether you chose love or career, it's up to you where you think you can be more stable and happy. Some people are more intelligent and good at work/career, some are in emotion/love. And there's nothing wrong too if you can do both. As long as you are not gonna regret your decision later, your decision is perfect.

[@25mrkeys]

Sooo......they can lie, but we can’t Steve?? C’mon bro 🙄

[@hopeagainsthope9553]

And we're the prize too.

[@lifeisbeautiful9455]

My mother married a man that later became abusive and we lost her. He didn’t work and just used us for government assistance. I’m tired of men wanting me to sacrifice my career for them to be at home cooking and cleaning and having babies.

[@tashawilliams8093]

💯

[@innerpowerup]

Have you ever seen a tombstone with a person's career title on it? Why do you think that is? It's because merit used to be based on what you gave of yourself, not what you accumulated for yourself. I think we've become a little too self important and materialistic.

[@ghorn1217]

innerpowerup We remember people like Andrew Carnegie and Steve Jobs because of their careers.

[@herogebrial]

Good point brother

[@Sheismarienicole]

At 29 this is an interesting topic to me. I focused on using my 20s to get a degree and build a decent start for a career. However, I realized that many women are flawed in not getting married in their prime. It would suck imo to have literally everything material as well as a good career and not have love with the right person. Independence and money is great but being a part of a loving relationship and having a friend/partner to share that with makes life much or enjoyable. It's possible to have both I think as long as you have a good perspective on things. Great topic!

[@victorkabanda769]

Good point!

[@tonye.5410]

I think we all get confused. I wouldn't say career over love in any circumstance. What I do say is, purpose over love. Why? Because your purpose, and your gift is your value to humanity. Not a career. Now, if you are married, it's always your marriage first. This is by no means, not to say that there can't be both. The purpose of a marriage is to support and help transition your wife or husband to his or her purpose. It's not always "house". Purpose is always number 1, not nec career. In summation, love though, will always support the transition.

[@user-kx2vw8xe5h]

👏🏽👏🏽 Anthony

[@christabelmensah9973]

Steve Finna write a whole new book writing all these notes all the time

[@klickingkayasmr7585]

Christabel Mensah 😂😂

[@acharich]

😅😂😅😂😅

[@Shabzana]

lmfao, yes!!!! lol lol lol

[@alexandria4401]

I rather have love than career. You can always get a career but true love comes once in a lifetime

[@alexandria4401]

Ange I thats your opinion if you’re in the right career everything will always be straight. I’m trying to be an RN my job will always be the same the money will still be tight and nice boo

[@alexandria4401]

Ange I okay and you can be a millionaire, and still have love actually you’ll be more likely to do that with two incomes, and two people coming together to make something greater. And also some people don’t wanna be millionaires... having money don’t bring you all the happiness in the world. I can be an RN and make six figures, own a house, car, and take vacations and that’s not settling. If everybody were millionaires there wouldn’t be anybody working regular jobs and then you wouldn’t be able to buy the things you like or live to see your money cause you couldn’t get medicine or go to the hospital. You can aspire to be a millionaire but everybody’s not gonna be that, that’s not everybody’s destiny

[@mochamommyATX]

B Symone Unless you have a supportive man

[@mochamommyATX]

Ange I Most millionaires are married couples. Wealth is accumulated as a family unit.

[@lovexoxo251]

Like she said if it's real love that man will support anything you want to do and build you up, if not he's not worth keeping anyway

[@chrissalley9468]

When you are in school do you take just one class per year or do you have multiple subjects to study for? If you cant do more than one thing at once you are at a disadvantage. Multi task. You don't have to CHOOSE. You can have both. You only have one life

[@starhamilton1072]

Ok and whats the magic number of relationships a man should say he’s been in “uncle steve” ? smh.

[@etf42]

Women are attracted to men who other women want

[@Shabzana]

yes!!! Exactly, tryna tell me how many people i should have been and be with!!!

[@kingmark122]

Men and women are different. women love a man that other women want but a guy is not attracted to a women who has a body count that is through the roof

[@kanagawayarichin]

We don’t do relationships. We just smash

[@doug1863]

This reasoning is why so many women are alone and asking why there is are not any men who want them. They want a man in a committed relationship when they are well past their prime

[@estochaprice7416]

Steve gives the best analogies! And the best advice!

[@Benjamin-vk5vx]

next time don't only bring women to the panel...we want to hear three other men too to speak on the panel on behalf of all males and not only Steve....let see who got it right.

[@HealthyWC-2]

Ain't happening lol

[@RC-fe9py]

He's done it before and all they end up doing is cosigning these feminists. He'll never bring a set of real men up there they'd make him look bad.

[@Shabzana]

@@RC-fe9py whats a real man? a secure guy who actually feels like his woman working is good for her, only REAL me support their women.

[@RC-fe9py]

@@Shabzana lol good luck with that😉.

[@Shabzana]

@@RC-fe9py i KNOW RIGHT, I'm gonna need it!!! lmfao. lol lol loll

[@nicolewilliams3434]

Exactly Better yourself for YOU The right man will appreciate you as you are.....

[@abdirisakmussevids]

>I want a financially stable man. >I want constant attention and love from a man. Choose one.

[@christineawuor8443]

Dr.V has a great therapeutic voice.

[@SnowFoxParty]

Career because many people are disappointing and my job may be tough but I can pay my bills.

[@Atlanta718]

He must LOVE and SUPPORT you. The max number of relationships is 3. 😅lol Heal a first You are the prize. List what you WANT and what you WILL NOT ACCEPT Don't Fix yourself for them or they will not fix themself for you. Women are priceless, keep the fence high.

[@josecuervo8487]

for a female: pick one. you cannot have both. you have an expiration date. those who choose career complain that they are single in their near 40's. i find it amusing.

[@nikilyons8999]

I've had 3 sons . Married and I'm a nurse by profession . However I didn't obtain my degree till my 2 oldest where school aged. My 3rd son didnt come along till 11 yrs later after my 2nd . Things are possible but in moderation

[@brookeh21]

I'm not complaining 😂🤷🏾‍♀️

[@essencehudson526]

She's right. Love doesn't pay none of my bills

[@jemimaparker-thomas1425]

If I was to choose between being financially successful/Stable or just having a man. I’d choose being financially right. You can always really on your partner for things. So my career would come first🤷🏾‍♀️

[@AvyScottandFlower]

Marry your career, ladies!

[@YouYou-sm8tf]

Of course....WOMEN LOVE MONEY to buy everything we want

[@hillssasha9962]

Wait, at her age five is considered alot? Ok then..

[@peridozq9390]

Sasha Hills lol the truth will scatter his brain

[@user-zp5se6xp7y]

When you’re talking to a man, “relationship” means SERIOUS relationship. When you look at it that way, 5 is a lot.

[@Aja.l_]

Steve sounds ridiculous

[@Aja.l_]

T C why would she need to lie about the number of relationships she has been in? She’s a grown woman. I think a lot of women are single is because they are not just being themselves! Steve is promoting a scatterbrained ideology to women

[@TyWerks]

Listen women as a guy who has dated two career women a true man will support you . I will hold down any man that is motivated and a go getter

[@fturla]

If you're dating anyone that wants a career, expect to be disappointed about being more of a priority than making money or keeping a job but then again if you knew that then you should already be set as to what you want to do before, during, and after the process. There isn't a debate, you discover what everyone is going to do and then move accordingly.

[@hopeagainsthope9553]

Friendships and loving people in your life is much more meaningful than a chunk 'a cash.

[@mordredvonumbra154]

There is no such thing as a golden decision. What you should have done in one relationship is not what you should do in another. Sometimes you push, sometimes you retreat. Like rockpaperscissors. You have to make different choices depending on the circumstances. If your a guy or a gal. Relationship or not. Life is an art of choice.

[@weljo2001]

Never Take Relationship Advice From A Single Woman...........

[@Hafsa-4realz.]

Steve I love u but don't fukin tell me I can't be honest about how many I've had. Kmt

[@hopeagainsthope9553]

You shouldnt use the f word there are children on youtube.

[@chrisruiz8002]

Relax, he's not telling you, it's a suggestion

[@KhalidBoqorShow]

The relationship is what builds people character to be better in any other field in life

[@indyd9322]

Something I finally figured out: we all miss out on something. Time and energy are finite. Even the ladies with both great careers and relationships miss out on things, whether it be not having enough time for yourself, or your friends, or something. You can have many things and it may even look perfect on the outside, but you will miss out on something. And that's okay.

[@icetray2727]

GET ON AND STAY ON YOUR PURPOSE!!!!💯

[@osmanmaksud6895]

_LOVE IS COOL, BUT MONEY IS NECESSARY_ says, judge Lyn Toller. Ain't nothing like money 🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭

[@sarahd8674]

I think you should marry someone who will empower you and support you. However, sometimes being married and the women/man is build herself/himself the other might feel left behind or neglected and that can cause problems.

[@Everything_Ju]

The best panel so far!! That metaphor about the fence is great.

[@SermonsSubtitled]

That woman on the left is so stunning!! And the one in the middle too!

[@tianamiller6820]

Really dont like what Steve said that women should only claim 3 relationships. It is a new time and a new era. We are allowed our truth and if men cant handle that a woman has had a certain amount of relationships (5 isnt even alot) then that clearly shows how insecure he is. Women do not have to lie and be ashamed of decisions they have made in their love life if it has not negatively impacted anyone. Steve has such a backward mentality when it comes to women's roles in relationships and its even more frustrating when the other women or audience agree with him.

[@etf42]

Dont worry most men already assume a woman has been with more men than she will ever say especially in this hypersexualized society where women are encouraged to sleep around

[@mixymonroe]

baddogonline Seriously 5 is a lot??

[@marcusmelton2295]

Tianna Miller agreed вecaυѕe тнey ѕeeм тo agree wιтн aвoυт everyтнιng нe ѕayѕ.

[@11213Mind]

Tianna Miller. Its not about insecurity, Its about psychological stabliity. The more partners the more emotional baggage. And the more questions decent men will ponder. Like why didn't. any of those partners marry her? why All these partners,? she may not be honest about. Her polygamists. Nature!!!.

[@jaylogik4020]

Mind Matter exactly.

[@yasminagustave7365]

I love this panel.. They're the best so far... keep on featuring them..!!!!!

[@shanazhu2673]

The woman in the orange is stunning 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@StoicBehavioR]

Cari: You know how it is in the single street (other lady: They're rough), they're rough. They're rough because you chose your career over finding a man. Now that your older it's harder for you because you have to compete with younger women. Single men your age having well establish careers are dating younger girls.

[@Shabzana]

yeah, you should hit the nail on the head, dating younger GIRLS!!! These are WOMEN on this panel right here...

[@snowbird1381]

Career gives you money and benefits. Love life only gives you a hot six month lust trip, only to end in heartbreak. I’m at the point where I wish I had never dated cause I feel like I’ve just waisted my time

[@madmann1000]

I love this panel

[@syameenapillai9052]

😱😱😱you mean to tell me in 2018 a grown woman has more than 3 relationships??? It’s okay to date around and date often? Wow I’m shocked - Steve is giving some very old fashioned and backwards advice

[@icycici]

Syameena Pillai In his previous videos he jokingly suggests that women only have 3 men they've been with: "There's you honey (one), my ex (two), and JUST one more (three)!!" 😂😂😂 Girl, You know how territorial/sensitive men are!!! He tellin truth!! lol

[@medhatfaris5808]

It's depends on your age and underage relationship does not count ،as you said , it's 2018 but if I know you had too many relationship I would wonder , they all left u , you must be crazy . Sorry .

[@Lyn.isGrey]

It can look bad on men too if the number is way high, even though they might get cut more slack for higher numbers. There's still a "whoa buddy wow" high. Just don't even tell me unless I ask, and I probably won't ask until we've been married for many years. Sheesh… I need to know about relationships though. What happened to them...

[@keithgreen5678]

Steve's been giving antiquated advice.

[@lovexoxo251]

icycici- Yes but we have to get men out of being that way, women are human too. If you are in your 30's clearly it's possible you've been with more than 3 people

[@TheLadylynn88]

THE best panel ! i never comment but i had to say that !

[@Chaptersaudio]

I agree with Cari, it depends on who that man is to me. If I know, with every fiber of my being, he loves me, is committed and devoted. That we are supporting one another, at this stage of my life I would put a relationship before my career. 4:27 THIS is the type of man I want.

[@giabrooks2717]

Ughhhh were was this discussion when I graduated out of high school. Thanks, Steve for these women perspective on career and relationship.

[@Onguard8737]

Why are we trying to compare love to money here guys. This is very disappointing

[@floriankristel]

I would choose my career as woman because my career will support me financially. No relationship is guaranteed,even with a ring on your finger. Some couples divorce after 11 years and I do not want to be broke and old. 😅 You can't hold a man. No such thing. Even if you are the prettiest. I would choose my career hands down.

[@hossein232]

There is conditional and unconditional love. Am I going to find unconditional love in a relationship or possible marriage? Probably not. Unconditional love is MOST parents to their kids, especially mum to their kids. MOST mothers have an unconditional love towards their kids. Now, what will make me happy? Imagine a career never makes me happy? What if you choose "love" and you get heartbroken? There are a lot of things you need to think about before you make a solid decision.

[@varoshah]

You reach the point in your life when you want a relationship? So basically put, you chose a career...and now that you’re heading towards the wall, you now want to devote time to a man? Why would a man want you when he can get a younger woman ?

[@texas5009]

How come it's only women panels on his show talking about relationships and never an all men's panel?

[@airmax897]

The first chick talking literally explained why there’s not a gender pay gap- study does not include amount of hours worked, overtime, type of job. Dudes end relationships to make more, she would rather be with dude. Boom.

[@emilyw530]

"Gottta be smart and hold the prize high..." steves a genius

[@leticiamiguel8165]

BEST PANEL ❤️

[@LoriWolfcat]

I would never put my relationship on hold for a career. Either you love the person or not. Don’t make an excuse to put a relationship on hold. Just break up with the person and move on!

[@MrKevEv]

In part, the first guest on the panel described the difference between men and women when it comes to work..men are willing to work longer hours and focus more on their careers whereas women put family first, and there's nothing wrong with that..but this is why the hierarchy in many of your top 500 fortune companies are the way they are!

[@wokemanishboi5003]

More TERRIBLE advice from Steve Harvey..🤦🏿‍♂️

[@herogebrial]

Pandering to his audience

[@DevilFrog61]

I hate the whole “you are the prize” thing Steve said....such a toxic thing to tell women. A good man who can protect and be strong, loyal, and a great father to your children. THAT TOO is the prize, it’s not one sided that’s such a toxic feminist way of thinking that’s going to make gender relationships in this culture a nightmare, which it already is a lot of times due to that type of entitlement, uncompromising attitude

[@uduakgeorge]

Will you be my dad Mr. Harvey ?? You give the best fatherly advice !

[@flawlessstone7669]

Wow,beautiful discussion from this beautiful ladies.thxz Mr.Steve,for ur message for the ladies out there.

[@marienoel3835]

Amazing panel

[@aneesaneil3785]

Team love life ❤️ You can make money anytime but it’s hard to get honest soulmate who is ready to share with u happiness n sadness and who will be your side no matter what 👌

[@YouYou-sm8tf]

That kind of person doesn't exist

[@JamesHunt1000]

American society needs to stop saying women are worth more than men!!! We all have the same worth!!! Nobody is better than anybody else!!!

[@TMURF]

Both are important in their own way for sure. The problem I also have with Steve is when he tells women they are the prize. This contributes greatly to women's self entitlement mentality. A GOOD man is just as much as a prize as a GOOD woman. If a woman can't see the man's value as equal to her own then it won't work with the men today.

[@roshb6138]

The question, was generally asking about people and not gender specific. These ladies started escalating and talking about make vs female

[@luckysahar683]

Why is it separable ? Love life should push your career forward ..

[@dmx1721]

this is why guys are going mgtow and that women saying marrige is about support not love that just screams RED FLAG to me

[@YouYou-sm8tf]

Let them go MGTOW