Love Me, Hate Me, But NEVER Ignore Me

[@donnaholton1981]

I’ve found the solution to my ex-Narc problem. I pay zero attention to him he’s tried to contact me and I act like he is a stranger because he is. He once told me that he knew what my reaction to every situation before I did. He definitely underestimated me,I won he did not.

[@ann-kristinjansen8277]

💌🌺🌺

[@jullietmburu9672]

I also was told that same thing - that he could read and predict my actions. It's like they all train at the same narc-college. I read the comments and sometimes wonder if we were all dating the same dude!! To his credit I was somewhat predictable., to survive.

[@rebekahsigworth5708]

I yelled at him. I called him out. And he stood there basking in my screams. Like he was getting a tan or a hit from a crack pipe. So crazy!

[@kauffrau6764]

HG's education has cured me of my obsession to always talk things out until the issue is resolved. Feeling Relieved.

[@Doobeedoo499]

I am destined to live the rest of my time single as I will trust no one with my heart or soul ever again.

[@nyxnightlinger7719]

Then you are still letting that narcissist control you

[@chilloften]

You can’t help it, unlike the narc.

[@DutchJoan]

Defence line number one. Good on you! You can have meaningful relationships without handing over heart and soul. Always keep the love for yourself above all else. There is plenty where that came from. And when someone starts to ask more than you're prepared to give: get out!

[@nyxnightlinger7719]

@@DutchJoan Hopefully they do decide to have relationships and not just refusing to go on dates, like a lot of women I met tend to do when they been hurt, or having one night stands like a lot of guys I met tended to do after they been hurt. But even if they plan to have relationships but not give away their whole heart, eventually after years the other person notices that " i feel like I don't really know you" which happened to me

[@DutchJoan]

@@nyxnightlinger7719 There's a difference in having a say over matters of the heart and closing parts off. At least there is for me. Handing over heart and soul means I give total control over my heart to someone else. I did that when I was young, but I don't think that is the right thing to do. Maintaining a healthy portion of self-love means I can still get hurt in the relationship, but I keep a boundary. I won't allow my self to be endlessly hurt.

[@marthamoreno1539]

Good one! My Dad always told me, whenever anyone is giving you a hard time ignore them. He was right! My sense of wanting justice always wanted to meddle more than necessary but the message from The Bible, my Dad and HG all matches. I just gotta shut my mouth and ignore. The video from the Knowledge vault about keeping your mouth shut was another good reminder. Good Job HG! Thank you The consult really helped me too

[@sharon-anngerman9805]

Painted black, Traitorous, unkind person lol, all of the above 😂👏👏👏 I didn't run though 🙃 I had his ass dragged off by the cops. 👍done and dusted

[@caridad724]

My dad used to say this exact thing to me about dealing with people who weren't nice to me. Came in very handy when dealing with my narc ex-husband!

[@marilynshields220]

HG You have my undivided attention every morning and every evening when I listen to your videos. Thank you so much for your efforts and your knowledge.

[@hgtudor-theultra]

You are welcome.

[@explorer0213]

The narc does not want love it's worshipping with no emotional return. GOSO.

[@DutchJoan]

Hate is indeed a very powerful emotion. An all consuming fire.

[@coleendanielson3950]

going NC with my 38 yr old son wuth NPD..means giving up seeing my granddaughter and financial help, but the abuse has to end..I am done with the blame and shame if the past..It is the past..My soul needs to thive not die..I prayed it wouldn't come to this,but here we are..

[@SkylarK_x_bk_0]

Some parental narcissists "operate" by a "transactional" (give and you'll get back) future faking by always moving the goal posts via a "systematic" method so that the child becomes "programmed" (conditioned). Some children may fight back, some didn't. A number of times when I turned my back on that Lesser = boom! His fury in "response" (laughing at recalling such moments of my unaware 'power' to ignite without meaning to 🤣). Thank you for the education 💕

[@joatkins6741]

HG… My heart hurts for you Sweetheart… Hugs, Jo 😘😘😘😘😘 You ARE WORTHY to be LOVED by someone who IS an EMPATH!!! You ARE someone who DESERVES TO BE LOVED for simply being WHO YOU ARE!!!

[@sharonjoubert7413]

HG WONDERFUL way of putting the narcissist across I thank you for telling us how the narcissists brain works great episode. Thank you.👌👌

[@lenaonmealways4193]

Thanks HG!

[@MariaMaria-hv4py]

Spot on. I am living with one.

[@karenturner7184]

I was. Be strong. It does come to an end

[@nyxnightlinger7719]

Work on your escape plan

[@francoisgouws7288]

Save money!

[@christy4062]

My former assistant pastor is a narcissist. I wish I had these videos years ago.

[@pamela_377]

Makes me feel a bit ill listening to this. Too close to the bone. Luckily I escaped.

[@pinkprincess7516]

It's interesting to me how in childhood someone can be deprived of love and as an adult when they have the love they saught after then it's not enough now, I wonder if the soul being fractured can be retrieved , but then then the trouble is they may not want to feel. I think it is interesting that Narcs and Empaths can have similar upbringing but go down different paths.

[@nyxnightlinger7719]

The soul has left the building.

[@pinkprincess7516]

@@nyxnightlinger7719 Agreed. What is interesting to me, where does it go? if I contemplate what it means to be human and why we have emotion it's a fundamental, a theory is these things can get distorted fractured or damaged but can they ever be retrieved? There is so much we do not know and understand

[@nyxnightlinger7719]

@@pinkprincess7516 It's highly doubtful. If God himself stepped in and did it is probably the only way.

[@lynnemccully6014]

The mealy mouthed mid ranger I knew saw me really angry. Once. That was more than enough for her. You don't piss off a Taurus woman unless you want a bull charging straight at you. Challenge fuel?, Hell, yeah, here's enough for the next 2 years.

[@kelirae7870]

Haha we can scare the shit out of people. Never ever poke a bull, especially if we are sleeping...

[@danatate8803]

I appreciate your honesty

[@geefull]

Chilling! But thank you HG, a valuable insight into the narcissistic point of view.

[@octobermoon9]

Another powerful video. Thank you, HG.

[@hgtudor-theultra]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@nichobee]

Isnt this how United fans talk about themselves

[@triplejmom7826]

Informative as always

[@YukonFox1972]

HG, how does this apply to a narcissist who shows signs of psychopathy? The psychopath I know told me that he generally prefers being alone (he views most people as stupid or boring) and that he doesn’t attach to people like “normal” people do. His mother died when he was young and he admits to barely mourning her. He says he doesn’t need people. In the past, he told me that he would be too cold for my emotional needs. However, he now has another serious girlfriend, and he wants other sexual relationships on the down-low (I’ve refused). Is he lying about not needing people? Do psychopaths just attach differently-as in not emotionally attaching to others, but merely for fuel?

[@narcsitereader3844]

Psychopaths don’t require fuel. They are incapable of bonding. People are a distraction from the boredom but they are not required.

[@DenisKeenan]

But at what point is ignoring not a good tactic and the Narc must be reported to authorities? A tenant making noise, for example. Or allowing their dog to poo & pee everywhere, and bark, and run freely out on the street. Isn't this going to be seen by the Narc as fuel, knowing that they're annoying someone enough for them to make a report?

[@SkylarK_x_bk_0]

@Sharon, you can refer to your tenancy agreement (if applicable) and refer to the guidance notes, if any. You can read up local authority guidance / advice? Or consider a consult with HG, if need be?

[@theManishMuse]

In my country, we’re bringing laws in to stop perps from using the legal system as a form of control. HG has a whole section on how narc uses the legal system.

[@SkylarK_x_bk_0]

@@theManishMuse Good about the new laws. Yes, HG has covered a great selection of guidance in regard to where legal advice may be required ie 'How To Handle the Narcissist At Court, HG has posted on KTN blog the article 'How to Make a Request of a Narcissist' - very useful 😊

[@De-tw7by]

If someone is not behaving the way we want them to behave we call them narcissist😋. Are we keeping our expectations high or are we evil haters who lost the capacity to love and see humans as it is? Seeing only the bad side of humans and naming them narcissists is very cruel to that human. Even Jesus Christ was nailed because evil haters did not see his loving and good side of him.

[@stephaniestanley8041]

You need to start a series on Hunter Biden. Where do I Begin??

[@De_Bengels]

I keep ignoring ….

[@thegatestoavalon]

I'm just curious HG, what happens if you were treated with indifference?

[@irenewatson]

In need of attention I see.Here is something I came across and thought about you. As long as you try to impress others.You are not convinced of your own strength. As long as you strive to be better than others.You are doubting your own worth. As long as you try to elevate yourself by lowering others.You are questioning your own greatness. Who is at peace with themself, doesn't have to prove anything to others. Who knows about one's own greatness, let's others keep theirs. Who knows one's own worth. Doesn't need validation. By Gabrielle Ebbinghausen.

[@jillstruthers]

This guy is so addicting to listen to. But... is he really a top-level narcissist or a psych professor or maybe a psychiatrist? Maybe even a skilled Empath? Either way, it's excellent content and very on point.