Love vs In Love

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[@ingridfrancetravels]

“You don’t find in love. You choose in love. You don’t fall in love. You walk in love.” “Someone in love with you won’t hurt you.”

[@ingridfrancetravels]

@@vanessaburton8146 By Tony Gaskins 😍

[@existence75-xm7co]

Men choose lust, men choose porn, men choose shopping, searching and selecting others to masturbate to, men choose sexual immorality, men choose their " visuals" of women other than the woman they say they love, they deplete her love tank. She chooses him, he chooses others. Is he in love with her when choosing images, porn, strip clubs and hiding it?

[@ShadaeMastersAstrology]

Finally a black relationship coach/expert who’s actually married❤️. Way too many single so called relationship gurus on KZbin 🙄!

[@Love87837]

I agree with your statement that's why I stop listening to them. How come you are not married if you are so great but they are giving us advice hub

[@tamelacole478]

SOOOOO TRUE®™®🙏

[@believvemarical3415]

Derek Jaxn, is awesome too and he is married. I like Tony because he is A believer of God

[@kemi.a.2000]

Matt Boggs is a married relationship coach too with children.

[@ShadaeMastersAstrology]

Kemi Agbonlahor I’ll check him out, thanks 😊

[@jasminewoods9801]

To love a woman purely and wholeheartedly without lying without cheating without deceiving without manipulation and without controlling. That’s it.

[@lizsharp5632]

I agree with you..

[@imspecial2286]

REAL LOVE doesn't hurt you intentionally. However, someone can love you and still hurt you. That's so true!

[@adaiyah-zerahbahtyahudah7860]

Tony, I know that type of love. I was married to my King for 30 yrs, until his passing. It is a type of unexplainable wealth. I miss him so. These brothers today, ohmigosh????????

[@saracoleman6912]

Me too! I was loved and in love for 28 years until he passed! I was secure and am still in awe. He literally showed me till his last day and beyond. If I never enter another relationship I'm good cause I lived what everyone is chasing. He was good to me and for me. Be blessed.

[@kimmieg1407]

It's so good to hear someone in love and staying married death do u part. That's beautiful.

[@cherish.o.m4453]

God will give you another sis.

[@waterwiccax]

I always knew love and being inLove was different

[@WWE-MediaTv]

Yup two different things.

[@Ms88Chick]

Lala SINATRA yes!!!!

[@aaliyahforney9414]

Me too

[@RT-gu3kc]

I am praying for a Godly man!!. Truly trying my hardest to wait on God!!

[@BYCDatingStoriesandAdvice]

Rosalyn Thompson Hello! I have a lot of videos on my channel about Christian relationships, please check it out if you have time!! 🙏🏽

[@keneshawilliamson1574]

Just continue to seek God with you whole mind, body, heart and soul. God will give you the desires of you heart. God is the best matchmaker!!! Please wait he will give you the husband he want you to have. ❤️!! May God continue to bless you! Have a blessed beautiful Monday!!!❤️🙏🏽❤️

[@RT-gu3kc]

@@keneshawilliamson1574 Thank you so much for your encouragement.. I am waiting on the Lord.. He is truly the best matchmaker as you said. God bless you 🙌🤗..

[@lyndapeoples8127]

Rosalyn Thompson. .so many of us are. I'm not trying to be negative but it seems like so many of our black men don't want us anymore.

[@keneshawilliamson1574]

You are so welcome Sweetie!!! Have a blessed beautiful Monday!!!❤️🙏🏽😘❤️🙏🏽😘

[@gloriamcqueen2031]

I think being in love is difficult because so many people have trust issues and dont want to be vulnerable of getting hurt You have to find the right person who won't abuse your heart

[@danyellg3079]

Amen

[@yulandasmith3382]

This is a smart man . He’s wife is a bless women I would love to see more of this in da world 🌎

[@eulandathreat1964]

I love the way your name is spelled. Mine is spelled with an E..

[@yulandasmith3382]

Eulanda Threat Thank you dear heart ♥️

[@simplyart24]

I think you hit the nail right on the head, being in love is a choice and it has to be followed by your beliefs, it has to be stronger than the person's physical features, or what they can do for you.

[@chinnaparker]

It takes two people that are both willing to sacrifice for each other. When I love I am all consumed. Having that reciprocated would be a dream come true. 🤗

[@cherish.o.m4453]

There's good men out there sis

[@webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453]

It can take one person to get the relationship right. You can love someone the right way and they can decide to reciprocate the genuine love.

[@chinnaparker]

@@webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453 I respectfully disagree. It takes two. One person may be able to change another over time but if that person never changes you only have yourself to blame. Why invest your heart, mind, body & soul in a broken situation. I love myself too much for that.

[@webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453]

@@chinnaparker I do agree with you. I mean to say that it is possible. I am with you regarding my situation I will nit invest myself in this broken marriage of mind. I am putting this man in Gods hands and moving forward in my life.

[@danyellg3079]

Said that right sista! I'm waiting on God to send me a king 🤴

[@fayesmith4751]

Some people are in lust!

[@bobate6030]

He needs to teach on Lust unless he has already

[@gloriaj.jackson7268]

Thank you Sir for being "in love" with your purpose! Your wife is richly BLESSED & HONORED! Awesome video! 😊👏🏽

[@Stillwaters119]

God is the Love teacher. He is the one who teaches you what love is about and how to love. If you love someone you won't cheat on that person. Love or in love. The measure of your love is equal to that of your loyalty.

[@cherish.o.m4453]

Love doesn't make you perfect or erase imperfection. We continue to make mistakes and take corrections.

[@whitney7622]

A man is in love with a women when he's not cheating on you, and has never cheated on you, he refuses to cheat on you mentally, physically or emotionally. Just because you can't read his mind or don't know he's having or has had an affair does't confirm he's in love with you.

[@Broadwayma]

Guess no man is ever in love then.

[@whitney7622]

Another way to look at it is within his actions, how does he treat you, If a man is not kind, is rude, and lies all the time he's not in love with you.

[@allisonhylock8667]

Damn. Relationships are complex.

[@alisiajamerson9240]

Allison Hylock too complex for me lol

[@PrincessTiana83]

Agreed...I'd rather NOT do them😩😩

[@patriciajones8467]

Devine Blakley you are correct. There are four types of love but the strongest is Agape love. It will keep a marriage strong even when you are no longer "in love".

[@Max0429.]

It's actually 5 levels. Sweetness. God, yourself, then your family, friendships, nd then your partner(husband)who will then become both your family nd friend.

[@theonlyjoshow]

That is correct! Because true agape love is not emotion nor is it a feeling, but the love of God. He has it a little mixed up.

[@candidwithglee2670]

How can you love without the creator in your life ! It’s impossible

[@candidwithglee2670]

God is the creator of LOVE and led by example with his sacrifice. You can’t show love if you don’t know him

[@claraht.6999]

@@candidwithglee2670 Yes. My accountability is in HIM.

[@tamara-tamara6404]

Money will not be equal to your love life in anyone's lifetime.

[@c.h8357]

I have to disagree with you here. Loving your partner and staying committed is a choice. We often loosely use the word “love” and we mix being in love with actually loving someone. Being in love with someone can stem from infatuation, possessiveness and obsession. You feel alone when your partner is not around you. You crave and yearn for them. Loving someone on the other hand, goes beyond the physical presence. You desire to see them grow, you see past their flaws, you see opportunities of building into each other and together; you motivate, encourage and inspire one another. You said in the first two years of your marriage you were emotionally unavailable because there was temptation everywhere. And then decided to focus and stay committed through the act of LOVE. Loving someone requires 100 percent commitment on your part Love takes work, sacrifice and time. True love is committed to putting in the effort that a long-term relationship needs.

[@kellynharamon7683]

Very true...well said!!

[@shantalbarbot5801]

Well said

[@RT-gu3kc]

Wishing the men of this world had your mindset. God bless you. AMAZING!!

[@lyndapeoples8127]

I am so glad to hear him explain this about love and being in love. I agree with what he's saying. Some ppl look at me like I'm crazy when I say there is a difference between love and being in love. Even my brother disagrees with me and he's a pastor!!

[@tretre4u72]

So mature and transparent!!

[@BYCDatingStoriesandAdvice]

tretre4u72 Hello! I have a lot of videos on my channel about Christian relationships, please check it out if you have time!! 🙏🏽

[@soul0soul0music86]

Wow I got some major work to do. Thank you 🙏🏾 my brother ✊🏿🤛🏿👊🏿

[@ksmith80]

Tony you are preaching here bro! Thank you. 🙏🤗

[@TonyGaskins]

K Smith thank you! Bless you!!

[@reneeholley1891]

I always knew the difference between love and being in love.. but many people may not know the difference. Thank you Tony for your sharing your knowledge to the world 🌎

[@Chinadoll698]

Hey Mr. Gaskins, I think a lot of marriages would be better and last until death do us part and if men and some women would be in love not just love someone. Thank you for doing this video sir and may God continue to bless you and your family!

[@paulhenry5875]

Love is just love, in-love is just a word we use to describe an exclusive relationship with someone. The bible says for God so loved the world: it did not say in-love. You have to bring love to the relationship. You have all the love you will ever need inside of you already.

[@kibuladesire8019]

*With love everything is possible! ! I am in love with my family and Jesus Christ*

[@niecyrobison1289]

POWERFUL, AND POWERFUL!!! THANKS, MY BROTHER FOR THE TRANSPARENCY! BLESSINGS!☺

[@zeeavi6280]

Dads with daughters, take note and teach your daughters. It starts with you! Single moms with daughters, take note and teach your daughters. It starts with you! Wish either parent would have taught me this growing up. Just learning at 36, regretting previous men like nothing else matters! Tony - thank you for your service to young women and even those older that never had this lesson. You are truly a man of GOD! 🙏

[@tayoriginal4067]

I need a husband like Tony 👍 He's a real man who is good to his wife after 13 years. He's mature, smart, and you can tell he is very loving. Ugh the best ones are always already taken Praying for a Godly man that I know i deserve

[@Maria.74]

God bless you and your family. Keep up the good work!🙌

[@BYCDatingStoriesandAdvice]

Maria Christina Sanches Hello! I have a lot of videos on my channel about Christian relationships, please check it out if you have time!! 🙏🏽

[@michellesledge6777]

This is one of the the Best talks about Love I've ever heard. Thanks for Teaching.

[@alaya3410]

Yes, Lord!!! Speak through this man of God. Hallelujah 🙌

[@flowerchild3312]

I absolutely love how your messages are waking me up !!!!!!!!

[@mieklovely5240]

Everything you said is absolutely right!

[@pla4825]

I absolutely agree there is a difference between being in love with someone and just loving someone

[@alyssakiesler8113]

Amen Glory to God!! Thank you Tony for so eloquently explaining this topic the way you did. God bless you for walking the path of being a kingdom man. Your son are blessed to have you as such an influence in their lives as young men. Our church, cities and homes need more Kingdoms men leading in love and honor as God ordain from the beginning. 🙏🏻💕👍🏻🙏🏻

[@BYCDatingStoriesandAdvice]

Alyssa Kiesler Hello! I have a lot of videos on my channel about Christian relationships, please check it out if you have time!! 🙏🏽

[@AnointedVessel40]

Amen!!! Come on now!! This is Golden

[@BYCDatingStoriesandAdvice]

Mona Carletta Hello! I have a lot of videos on my channel about Christian relationships, please check it out if you have time!! 🙏🏽

[@DaAvant]

It is the great feeling for real!!"

[@BYCDatingStoriesandAdvice]

Da Avant Miranda Hello! I have a lot of videos on my channel about Christian relationships, please check it out if you have time!! 🙏🏽

[@SowMe_AF]

This so powerful Tony, thank you so much!!! Every word if wisdom rightousely resonate in me!! Thanks again and God bless you!!🙏🏾🙂🙏🏾

[@LovelyCeee]

AMEN!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Hello somebody 📣📣📣🔊🔊🔊This is golden!! Thank you Tony! And May God continue to bless you and your beautiful Wife!❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@BYCDatingStoriesandAdvice]

Luvly Cee Hello! I have a lot of videos on my channel about Christian relationships, please check it out if you have time!! 🙏🏽

[@tanarareynolds3915]

What about rising in Love...my mantra is I am rising in Love everyday in everyway! We are rising in Love. I am Love.

[@revina0923]

Wow!! This is a new insights of how to truly love. Praise God for your life brother. Shalom!

[@reneelb7]

That’s good stuff man!!! ☝🏽

[@musicmakeuplover3025]

Preach sir this was so on point God bless you and your family thanks for the post

[@dnewt3551]

“We grew apart” This phrase always perplexed me. I never believed in this phrase. Thank you for clearing this up! 🙂

[@antoinitaviolette4140]

BEST BLESSINGS TO YOU AND YOUR WIFE, AND BOYS...

[@ayeshalewis4064]

Preach my brother!!! Out of all the videos you have done this is the most powerful and impacting message you have ever taught . You have found what the Bible talks about having life and having it more abundantly. This video needs to be blasted on every mountain top in the world.

[@karenvanschalkwyk9593]

This made me cry. Thank you Tony

[@hopebrown5296]

WOW!!!... 🔥🔥💯💯..powerful teaching 💪🏾🙏🏾

[@chassidylindsey2165]

Amazing message Tony!!! Speak the truth!!! I completely agree with you!!! God Bless you always Tony!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏👍👍👍👍👍😇😇😇😇💚💚💚💚

[@mstashondabrown]

This is a word! Thank you Tony!

[@lizsharp5632]

That's Deep.. and so true!!

[@TaliWho9]

Keep holding up the high standard Mr. Gaskins and showing men how it's really done! I believe every word you are living and demonstrate before the world. God bless you my brother! Bless your union and your children! 💖💪🏾🙏🏾👍🏾👆🏾🙌🏾

[@camuyana]

This is a great video explaining what love and being in love is all about. Love he gave an example that it is an affection or liking while in love is a commitment-filled feeling.

[@prettinessful]

Published on my birthday so I’ll watch it and it’s an interesting topic. 👌🏾

[@victorianovicofficial]

Thanks for showing a different perspective to people and opening our eyes.

[@ye2959]

This is such a powerful video. It came to me exactly at the moment that I needed to hear it. Thank you.

[@noreenduke8410]

I just love these teaching am bless thank you

[@michelleblair146]

Love vs. in love I love it Tony Gaston keep doing what you doing a great job if it wasn't for you I don't know where I would be today I'm doing great me and my man God bless you

[@ileneabraham6801]

Yessss this is so true so many people don't understand what love is and how to love and greatly explained by a man of God that's awesome blessings to you and your family 💖🤴👸💖 the world needs more examples of this me and my husband talk about this all the time so glad you know your blessed 🙏✊🏾

[@claribelgarcia9256]

Blessings to you and your family it’s a beautiful thing🙌🏼🙌🏼🙏🙏

[@rosestephen6789]

This might be one of your greatest messages. So many jewels 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾

[@bettytinsley2140]

Confrontation for me! I always felt LOVE and IN LOVE IS TWO DIFFERENT LOVES! . . THANKS TG! . . BBB! BIG BOUNTIFUL BLESSING'S TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!. .

[@mrswee16]

Excellent medicine. I have mad respect for your teachings.

[@sweetgapeach42]

Your videos are so inspirational. I hope your "messages" help most people have an understanding and remove the weight(s) that are holding them down if the shoefits. Amen. Keep doing what you're doing. Love It.

[@tamara-tamara6404]

Thou shalt not kill. The greatest commandment is "love". (Read The Holy Word of God).

[@CoachLove]

You stepped on some toes here! Thank you. #teach

[@shirlblon1459]

Mr. Gaskins all I can say is THANK YOU AND I AM IN LOVE WITH THIS MESSAGE!!! May you stay Blessed, Rich and In Love ‼️

[@margaretahogberg6869]

I've listened to a lot of your podcasts and I think this is the best one of them All. I love the way you are talking about how you are In Love with your wife and boy's 💗💗💗, I love you for doing that. Thank You

[@genevajohnson5070]

Yes Tony! I wish people can understand Love, especially men

[@BYCDatingStoriesandAdvice]

Hello! I have a lot of videos on my channel about Christian relationships, please check it out if you have time!! 🙏🏽

[@citysk]

Spot on

[@nnena3631]

Actually the different types of love are mentioned in the Bible. They are Agape- Principled love Eros- Passionate Love Philia- Affection between friends Storge-Familial Love The love you described is a mixture of Agape and Eros.

[@nadeanbowles3052]

TA B No, he’s talking about all four in combination = being IN LOVE.

[@snowwhitemichael1838]

What verse in the bible?

[@crachal1223]

True I completely agree with you....I don’t believe he should’ve discounted the types of love. They are valid. You don’t have to discount something to make your revelation valid.

[@mieklovely5240]

I have never received that type of love from any man I've been with unfortunately not even with my ex husband I would luv to know what that type of love feels like

[@CeeceeH1819]

He said this type of love is pure, holy and righteous. So it's coming from a spiritual foundation

[@pecanthickness8785]

Me either

[@blessed1peace]

That love is a wholeness that is bonded by Gods consent. It’s something that you ask for from God. A love you waited for from God. It’s a love that is spiritual. Have to go it turning New Years in 5min. Happy Nee Year to all. Ask the Lord and you shall receive it.

[@keonamorgan1898]

Beautiful❤️‍🔥 and each women or man here can receive that same love while waiting the lord… keep your faith children of God♥️🥳

[@mwright0428]

This was an excellent word!

[@trutalk12]

I needed to see this, right on time. Right on time,

[@angelnetworkascension2039]

Listen to what Tony is saying: Some people still don't grasp this concept. Loving assigned purpose that God has given us is beautiful. To serve others as it is pleasing to God, to honor your spouse, to care for your loved ones IN LOVE fuels the spirit. For me, I can truly say, I can definitely relate to what Tony is saying now because I share with others that my purpose for what I do is unto God therefore it is bigger than me and not about me however the standard is that it must be done in love.

[@sophiah6271]

OMG!!! I really enjoyed this. I couldn't agree more, I truly believe that we (mostly men) honestly need to open ourselves to love and the world would be such a different place.

[@kingsolomon7027]

Informational ✅

[@BYCDatingStoriesandAdvice]

KingSolomon aka SoLoGoNe Hello! I have a lot of videos on my channel about Christian relationships, please check it out if you have time!! 🙏🏽

[@thisqueenwontquit9699]

Amen God bless you and your family I pray that God blesses me with a man with the same principles

[@darlenemason563]

I highly respect your sharing this one. Every word you shared is so real, it blew my mind! GOD'S CONTINUED BLESSINGS UPON YOU, AND YOUR FAMILY

[@karinasimon9589]

Soooo majority of men cheating aren't in love with their wives? Hmm you can't tell them that though, they'll go off lol

[@clarkclarke]

@Stephon Stewart Really ???? What are you still 17 ????? if you are cheating ok ...go on cheating but unless you are cheating with a dog or a horse or a cow then good for you ... cause if you cheating with a woman you are BOTH cheating ...clearly you didn't come to listen to the video ... Big dummy

[@binkyfaith]

@@RiaNag2024 THIS IS TRUTH....if he is falling in LOVE with another or cheating. He IS NOT in love WITH his spouse periodttt

[@augustharper15]

Stephon Stewart you seem to be a very unhappy and angry person. Get well soon x

[@augustharper15]

Stephon Stewart continue to be mad, it’s logical the only reason you’d even comment the things you do is because you’ve either got mommy issues, been rejected, incel, cheated on. & anyways cheating depends on the person, not a whole gender. The guy in the video said that all of his guy friends cheat, and that he wanted to be different. It’s not a contest on whose the most faithful, if it was both would lose.

[@augustharper15]

Stephon Stewart as long as you’re this bitter, we stay winning. Truth hurts beta

[@rozh8321]

Wow...Wow...wow...Mr. Tony u broke it all the way down.. I received this message alot more..BE BLESS❤

[@nikkitheevixen]

Thank you for helping us.

[@moniquezmuda3924]

Thank you for the explanation on love vs. In love.

[@JC-jb1mn]

Thank you for this video. I always saw men as cheaters, selfish jerks who can't be trusted, but after hearing you made me believe that there are faithful, honest family oriented, God fearing men like yourself who value what's good and hold up to it. Thank you! You gave me hope again that I can be able to trust that one day God will bless me with one like yourself. God bless you and yours! -Yaling

[@diannewasko8030]

This is so powerful!! I really enjoy listening to your message ! Thank you

[@rotterdamcreola]

Learning Unconditional Love for Self & All Others has been Transformational. 💜 Thank you. In Love with Life 💜

[@powermovement247]

Your explanation of love vs in love is provocative! It is simple and straight forward. I can personally say that it has answered alot of questions for me and given me a clearer understanding of this thing called love. My prayer is that all who desire to find "real love" can experience what you are describing. God bless you and your listeners.

[@LAKE4742]

Just found your channel, brother, and I love it!!! Great video!

[@lindamorina5056]

Thanks So much Brother.

[@lediawhiteside9964]

Love is strong enough to keep your faithful. I’m allowing love the flow through ME! Love is Pure, love is Righteous, love is Blemish and spot free. TG

[@rarity3814]

I really needed to see this! Thank you.

[@imhisandheismine7175]

Good Day Mr. Gaskins and Precious SOULS of GOD!!! Mr. Gaskins I've listened to you prior to this video. You have spoken on some real life situations. One Vlog in particular you were so transparent. I thank God for you giving the perspective and experience from a Man. In this video so far (including the title)...I see through a different lens. The phrase "Love vs Being In Love" is a phrase that was created by a man as well. However, I was meditating on the the Word LOVE. It stand alone solid without the remainder clause "...vs being in love..." Why? LOVE IS GOD and GOD is LOVE. I Corinthians 13 the chapter does not teach us to stand in love but commands us to LOVE. Charity (LOVE OF GOD) is the the end all be all...Period!!! We cannot truly Love except we have what we need from GOD and GOD alone. Yes, people will love to what they understand love to be. Human understanding and Humanly speaking love is dictated by feelings. Keep in mind when those feelings change Humanly 'that live ceases to exist'. But Charity (LOVE OF GOD) is based in a decision to love despite how one may feel. Agape is the Greek word for GOD'S LOVE. CHRIST dies while we were yet sinners (Roman's 5:8 KJV). Still longs to free Souls from the bondage of sin if they are willing as God is willing (II Peter 3:9 KJV). As for "loving" a Microphone, Desk, Couch, a pair of Jordan's, an iPhone, Facebook, Snapchat, BET, MTV, TMZ or NETFLIX....That is Idolatry and that is a foundation of lust. I refer back to one video you posted in 2012 that I acknowledged earlier as being transparent...It was entilted, "Close Your Legs". I recently came across it. I enjoyed it because you spoke on building on the right foundation. You spoke truth in it. You spoke on Building on a foundation of LOVE...Not "being in Love". You spoke on the wrong foundation which is "lust". I see this as being A Love vs Lust issue. ALL that's in the World is the Lust of the Eyes, Lust of Flesh and the Pride if Life (I John 2:16 KJV). Has something changed? JESUS CHRIST is the same (Hebrews 13:8 KJV). How can any of us stand In or On LOVE if we don't have the Very Foundation and Creator of Love which is GOD??? I Say this with the LOVE and Reverence of GOD in my heart for you and All Souls. Consider what I say and the Lord will give there understanding nin all things (II Timothy 2:7 KJV). By GOD'S GRACE My love and prayers remain for ALL SOULS. Thanks Mr. Gaskins.♥️🙏🙌🌹☀️😎

[@user-io7dy7cg1z]

Sacrificial Love means you are in love;, "Quoted by coach love Coach" When you are Truly in Love a Sacrifice has to be Made!

[@tabithamcrae147]

And the sacrifice is not paying someone's bill which many woman feel is love

[@quaishilithapace2535]

Wow I needed this thank you

[@jacquiblackburn743]

I’m in love with your words and explanation 👌❤️👍

[@theresabell2492]

Preach so true amazing talk.