Loving Someone With Bipolar Disorder, A Simple Guide to Bipolar Relationships.

Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder. Do you have a loved one Who suffers From Bipolar Disorder? I Discuss three main issues and three solutions that you will encounter with anyone struggling with this mental illness. Whether its a roommate, Brother, Sister, Co Worker or Husband.
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[@destaylor8083]

After three years of dealing with my BP girlfriend I have finally had enough I,m done.

[@Thesuicidejournal]

I don't Blame you, Dealing with a partner with BiPo is hard. Hope everything works out.

[@ThePoondon]

Smart man

[@bagsadmin1]

I had enough of my boyfriend of two years, he wasn't loyal. I caught him in so many lies. The day I finally broke up with him he was arrested two days later for aggravated assault with a deadly weapon and sexual assault against a female. He was in jail for 4 weeks and charges were dropped then on New Years Day he was driving out of control and under the influence, crashed his car!!!! He's out of control, he doesn't know how to slow down and figure shit out. He just keeps making the wrong choices, as soon as I thought he had his head on straight he would fuck up again.

[@lordchino2198]

Yeah I have a girlfriend who is bipo and it's not easy at all but you can't take it all personally most likely they love you but they just don't know how to process their emotions but I love her and will stick by her this sickness is serious but I understand why you are done stay strong my brother

[@jakez5795]

clear explanation and helpful suggestions. thank you loco. 2yrs+ with a bpd partner. i've learned more about myself and am way more confident about just walking away and waiting while the episode passes; sometimes hours, sometimes weeks. i also adapted and have projects and hobbies that i solely pursue only during my partner's episodes and it's a brilliant use of time! It's like being able to live a single's life replete with social exploration, business productivity, home nesting updates, with the assurance of love and commitment coming. There's a comfort, contentment, in knowing i'm making an effort for myself to be fulfilled as an individual and in relationship. This was and is the hardest challenge is to accept that the partner may not return and although ill, their decisions are to be respected. The focus comes back to self; the development and stability of character to be the bigger pillar for myself, to love myself more, in order to be available and supportive of them.

[@nicolechatman8634]

Thank you so much your video is helping to understand my boyfriend behavior and how to communicate effectively with him.

[@Thesuicidejournal]

Well I'm glad it helped.

[@relaxingmusicandwonderfuln6454]

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[@aleebush]

How are things now?

[@queennova7341]

I'm in a new relationship with someone that is bipolar. Is it worth it? Are you constantly overworking yourself to make your relationship work?

[@kwanemattics]

Queen Nova that’s what I’m here for this shit is draining

[@Mortisioner]

So good to hear from someone who actually has the disorder. I've been with a girl that I love with my whole heart and she has bipolar disorder. I will never give up on her and will always be there for her. Every time she gets severely depressed she pushes me away (like right now) and say she doesn't love me and never will and all sorts of other things to push me away. I know she doesn't mean these things because she has told me "I don't want you to leave, I just don't know if you know how bad this is. I'm scared of my own feelings. I'm trying to wait it out but it's getting worse each day" and also to tell me "You are a very special person to me, know that much" Unfortunately when she pushes me away I can't help her, or can I? I would just love to hear your take on what might really be going through her head and possibly how to help her through these times. Thank You

[@Thesuicidejournal]

It seems like she wants her space when she is going through her depression. The best thing you could do is respect her space but don't confuse space with neglect. Keep an eye on her mood, from a distance. You will know if things get out of hand or if other red flags start to go up. You a great person for loving her so much, she needs you in these moments and although she may lash out at you it can be the door see talking. At times.

[@Thesuicidejournal]

+The suicide journal the disorder talking at times••

[@Mortisioner]

+The suicide journal Thanks for your response. How do I give her space but not neglect? I have messaged her daily and she has responded. Like yesterday I bought her a massage certificate and she obviously liked it because she tried to get it scheduled but found out they were a month out for appointments and wanted a credit card to hold it. She e-mailed me saying "thank you for the thought but they are a month out and want a credit card to hold the appointment. You can use it" Today I called in to work, so I messaged her letting her know and asked if I could help her with anything today. she replied "no thanks". Is that too much or the right thing to do?

[@Thesuicidejournal]

+Adam Baxter it seems perfect, I know your worried but what you describe didn't seem to be out of the ordinary. Has she said anything about taking her life or hurting someone else?

[@Mortisioner]

+The suicide journal 2 weeks ago she got in my truck balling saying she would have nothing to live for if it wasn't for her son. But since then till last Monday she has been happy. She got really depressed when she found out Monday night that her loan for the house we were getting together fell through. Since then I've been approved for the loan but she is still in the dumps and hasn't called me or texted me unless I initiate it. And then it is brief for the most part. Wednesday I tried calling her and she didn't answer but then texted me within a few minutes saying "did you need something" I replied I found your jacket in my truck this morning. and wanted to know how you are doing. She replied in 30 minutes nothing about her jacket but telling me all sorts of things she has to do and to get more of the new medication in her system, and planning on going back to work because if she waits much longer it will be too stressful. Honestly at this point I don't think she will hurt herself or anybody else. I'm glad what you say is normal for bipolar, just wish there was more I could do.

[@Lisa-el7rs]

You have done an excellent job explaining things that sometimes I have been unable to get out of my head and out of my mouth in a way that makes sense to others. Thank you for having the courage to speak for all of us with Bipolar, keep on with it, you can and will help people.

[@Thesuicidejournal]

Thanks !

[@a.l2904]

Been dating a bp girlfriend,first times it was so hard to an extent that we had a lot alot dramas ,i never gave up on her,waited for her to change,on the second year of the relationship,we got a child with her,she even became worse,I almost gave up ,prayed to God one day she may change ,since then till now its our 3rd year in the relationship,shes still the same ,the fact that i lover her but i'm giving up,she just pretends to be fine but she loves me ,but im not comfortable with it ,she's always toxic all time home violence,i dont wanna die you of stress,i gave up,will never love again,but will always be there for her and our kid ,thanks for reaching us out ,now i know the truth,bipolar is serious not that people take it for granted

[@naomithompson3639]

Bipolar is horrible. My boyfriend is bipolar..or I should say my ex now..I just cant take the ups and down. When he is manic..he talks a lot..wants to make love all night.next day..I dont know who he is. He sleeps all day..dont answer my text...and I'm left stressed out wondering..."How could he love me so much one night..and the next day he detest me. I cant take it..makes me sad,because I love him,but it seem impossible to get along. He doesn't think he needs help. So he was diagnosed with type 2 bipolar..but doesn't thing he needs medication. He is wasting away.😥

[@TheDanceluver37]

I wonder why people who suffer from depression act different around friends. I've seen laughing and not taking things seriously when I witness someone with depression get around friends or non-family members but then shut out, ignore, ostracized and generally treat loved ones like the plague.

[@Thesuicidejournal]

Some people who suffer from this Disorder can push family away, but not all individuals and not all the time. Its not an absolute issues with everyone. I my self, am guilty of this and the quickest and simplest answer i can give you is the amount of intimacy you have with an individual. You can always have a touch and go relationship with friends, you tolerate them and enjoy there company for short periods of time. Family members can get real personal real quick which can be a bad thing if the bipolar individual doesn't want that intimacy and needs personal time.

[@TheDanceluver37]

+The suicide journal That last part..got it. Thank you for taking the time to answer.

[@rmzelhustle]

Darian Crouse I witness the same exact

[@shylocie595]

You are the first person to explain why my husband is so dramatic. Thank you for explaining! He is very creative too.

[@Thesuicidejournal]

Even though we are, don't call us Dramatic or else we'll get dramatic. lol

[@albertgarcia412]

Thank you for helping me with the information in this video due to your personal experiences. Your explanation of what a person with a bipolar disorder goes through has helped me understand more of what my own girlfriend is going through, especially the last part of giving them space . We are a fairly new couple (since New Years) and I am trying to learn as much as I can about her disorder because I do care and feel love for her and want us to go the distance in life. This is all new to me and now she is going through a period where she is distant and wants time for herself, and is not really giving me the time of day lately. I do push with calls and texts and even visiting her 5 hrs away. We are not separated or anything, but I once upset her and she has asked for more time than a person without her disorder would. Hearing it from you to give her time and space alone has opened up my eyes to respect that since that is necessary for a person with BPD. I will not give up on her and us, but this is all new to me and I just hope my efforts go noticed. That was also one of her requests, for me to research her disorder. Thanks for this video!

[@Thesuicidejournal]

+Albert Garcia All new relationships are hard, your relationship has the luxury of knowing that one of you is suffering from the disorder. I'm glad your educating yourself about the disorder it will make your relationship way easier. I'm glad i was able to help I'm some sort of way and with you and your girlfriend the best.

[@ayo_moreno]

bi polar type one and seasonal depression im struggling with and the way that you just explained is actually what I don't tell my therapist. I'm very sensitive to everything that's goes on in this world and i don't understand why. paper heart I love it

[@lisahandley7959]

This is fascinating because what you described is exactly how to manifest things you want in life. Visualize it, act like it's already happened, feel the emotion

[@danielletirpkoff8191]

Thank you very much for sharing this with me and all of us, who watched this video!!🖒👍

[@MariaWade]

OMG! You just explained my life and all of the relationship problems I have ever had. I am performing artist and teacher. Thank you for this video!

[@NotSentry]

My girlfriend has Bipolar Disorder and we've been together for 5 months. This video you made really taught me how to see things from her own perspective and what I could do to avoid miscommunication and things I should be saying to help her. Thank you.

[@pinkblushblvd2846]

I’m 19 and you are explaining literally my whole mind set my ways etc thank you for this video I’m glad I’m not alone in this.

[@HeyItsWreck]

My girlfriend has BPD and I’m trying to educate myself on it as much as possible. I just want to be able to understand. I love her so much.

[@Kennelkrazed]

This totally hit the nail on the head on my way of thinking. Thank you so much. Your video will help greatly in getting the point across on how to effectively communicate with BiPolar without triggering the mood swings.

[@52188972]

Everything you said resonated with me closely, honest and genuine vulnerability

[@ashleyhumphries9941]

Thank you for sharing your personal struggles. This has also helped me with my boyfriend. I'm glad to see I already do some of the things suggested. Such as closing any potential gaps (if he's over thinking) so he can't fill them in with misinformation.

[@iDalisMediaTV]

Understanding where it's coming from is key . It helps in anyone's situation . Thanks for the video

[@zupermikkel]

I have been with my gf for over 6 years now and she recently got diagnosed bipolar! The last 6 months have been a living hell where she has broken up with me 3 times and cheated on me! Something I can never imagine she would do. It hurts so badly and I don't know what I should do because I still love her like a mad man :-(

[@ronnieevers5115]

This has really touched my heart and emotions,,I got tears from listening ti you,,this is just how I feel and also feeling like I'm a outsider. It's nothing that we do,,,it is very hard to deal with being Gay,,bipolar depression,,PTSD,,panic and anxiety,,, and single,,I often think If I had someone in my life to hold and do things with,,and to love and have love in return it would help,,my last relationship ,,,was a train wreck,,,I never know anyone could treat someone so badly,,verbal abuse,,,it was up and down for 13 years,,I finally got the strength to tell him,,I've tried for 13 years and it's not going to work,,and I hope he has a great rest of his life, there will always be a place in my heart for him,,and good memories,,,but I need more than he could give,,him being narcissistic,,,,its was all about him,,not us,,,just him...I was just a toy,,,when he wanted to play we did and then he would throw me back in the toy box,,and just act like I wasn't in the same room,,I told him one of there day he was going to wonder what ever happen to that guy that was so good to him,,,and he called last week,,wanting to go out to eat,,I told him,,,its over,,,if it didn't work in 13 years ,,it wasn't going to but,,,thanks for the invation,,Good Bye,,

[@TruittONeal]

This is extremely helpful and I appreciate you sharing.

[@gastongonzalez5765]

Explained in a way I never could. Great Video

[@charleslewis4625]

I think you gave good information about the illness , I found out too late , I left her after 2 years of struggling with her bipolar , I wish I could of watched this video sooner . Thanks sir.

[@donazee1365]

You are truly a blessing! Thank you for making this video. I have bipolar 1. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for three years now. The first year was fine because I was still on my medicine but after I stopped taking them it's been world war 3 everyday. I break up with him everyday. We have really nasty fights. I'm screaming my head off at him. Whatever I'm thinking that day about him I get sooo angry I leave because I remember how insensitive he was and I just can't deal with him. I don't communicate how I'm feeling and he wonders why I just leave. As much as I get soooo pissed off and never wanna see him again, something just changes in me and I'm happy again, I miss him and feel like nothing ever happened between us. I'm so grateful you made this video. I shared this with my boyfriend. I hope he will see me a little different now and not this horrible person.

[@bamafan3673]

@Dona Zee can I ask u some questions about being bipolar? I'm dating ot thought I was dating a girl with dipolar and right now she is the meanest I have ever seen her and says a lot if hurtful things. I don't think she means them but idk what to do and she just started taking her meds again. She also has a coworker that knows she's on meds and apparently my girl or whatever we r has gone off on her and she's never done that before.

[@timeahorvath4302]

Thank you so much!!!!!!! I have read a lot of articles about this illness, but you have explained it in a way that is much easier to understand, therefore easier to implement! Very helpful about how I need to communicate with my loved one, who has bipolar disorder.

[@Thesuicidejournal]

Thank you, I i'm glad it made things simpler for you. I hope everything is going well.

[@salamono100]

I have been suffering, and thank you for helping me to understand more about myself

[@martindavis4201]

Came Back Home To The One I Love That Going Thru This & Now I Understand She Needs Me To Be Here With Her

[@justd6684]

Thanks for this. I'm bipolar too. I wrote this for my , family and friends Thank You To those that love me when im not okay. You are my wings on my darkest day. Loving someone like myself can be draining. But the love we give can also be gaining. Intense we are in emotion and mood. Sometimes we can lash out and be very rude. We can be dramatic, impulsive and overthink. To sooth our racing minds we may be tempted to use drugs or over drink. We aren't easy to love. But our loyalty is so strong when push comes to shove We can test you . We usually do. But it's because most tire of us and say so long. When all we want is to belong. Our emotions are so intense . At times at our own expense. We think and feel more it's true. But our love for you is so intense too We sometimes lose our way. But your support will make us okay. We feel more that is true. But I think that's why you still love us after all we do . Our hearts are good, loving and pure But our minds can make us angry, sad and insecure. If you love as we are. You will be always a bipolar persons star. My heart I give to you to stay. But I can never change that I am this way. For the hurt I cause I hate myself. But please remember my reason is my mental health. I don't hurt out of hatred of you. It's because my mind goes askew. Those that stay by us at our worst. Are those who with our hearts are most immersed. We appreciate your love and support more then you know. Our road isn't easy but your love and support makes it so.

[@justd6684]

For my partner, family and friends.

[@courtprince]

you are amazing!! I am going to show this to my boyfriend in the hopes that he will understand me a little better and understand why I do the things I do a little better. I was diagnosed at 14 and I'm now 39 and I've never been able to explain it like this, so thank you so much!!

[@Thesuicidejournal]

Don't thank me, thank the Mania. Im sure i wrote that stuff out when my mind was racing.

[@lisahind8858]

Thank you . I am 54 year old who has bi polar disorder. This is very helpful. :)

[@twrpytrnp330]

Thank you so much for this. I have read and read on this topic, to help me be the best support for my boyfriend, but hearing your words was the best thing for me, and for what I can do to make a better us. xo

[@wc541]

Thank you for this video. It was very helpful to better understanding a person with this illness.

[@feliciakluppelberg5079]

very well said. I am starting to understand myself better learning more about Bi polar disorder. I was diagnosed in February because I had a mental break down being severely depressed and very angry by something my husband said and it was like pulling a trigger and I was just done at that moment I decided to overdose on pills. I realized what I did and told him right away and was taken by ambulance. I am lucky and happy to be alive. I was transported the next day to a behavioral hospital and stayed for 3 days. it was awful and I never want to experience it again. I didnt know I was Bi polar until I got home and looked at my papers they sent me home with but I didnt look at them till weejs later. I was shocked to see that was my diagnosis and who knows why they never told me nor my husband but reading it and looking up research now I understand why im the way I am. I might have had ut grown up but not as bad as it is for me now. Im on a anti depressant but I think I beed something for anxiety. I will see a new psychiatrist and therapist this month so hopefully I can get myself better and not feel so on edge. thank you for your video it really helped to understand myself better.

[@AmandaSiobhanLyons]

Thank you for sharing your honest advice and insight, much appreciated!

[@andreabrasher568]

Thank you so much for this video. My boyfriend has bipolar 1 and we live together so it gets difficult sometimes. Luckily he allows me to tell him when his thinking is irrational. The other day I mentioned how I wish that he liked singing so we could go to karaoke together. He blew this out of proportion and thought that I wanted to change him and that I was comparing him to an ex. Luckily we were able to talk it out but this was after he threatened to spend the night at his moms house. I have depression and anxiety and we both take medications, see counselors and meditate and that does wonders for me. His bipolar can sometimes make my anxiety worse to the point where I feel like I'm going to die because my well being is being threatened. I love him so much and know that we can make it work as long as we put our mental health first. Because if we don't put that first, we won't have either our mental health or our relationship. I really appreciate your video and look forward to watching more of your videos.

[@Thesuicidejournal]

Thank you, I've been absent from my channel for a while now but i will be posting a lot more content at the end of this year.

[@annenew8220]

Thanks for sharing your experiences. This video has helped answer many questions within our marriage. 1) the fixing things scenario- thanks for sharing. 2) you mentioned at 3:18 disorder is not an excuse to abuse others or behave badly- please elaborate. 3) Most informative for me - do not leave any gaps when we converse(solid communication). I could not understand why he would respond "he does not understand my point. THANKS SO MUCH! 4) you mentioned at 10:41 build trust - please elaborate. Thanks for sharing any additional information in advance.

[@alib1993]

You are so right ! I'm bipolar 1 also. I adore my partner to the extreme. It suffocates him and confuses him. I create stories in my head that is is planning to leave me (we are together 2 years now ) my feelings of love exhaust me. I feel insure and am always asking for vadility of love from him. Whatever he says will never be enough. It's tiring and so upsetting for me. You're so right by saying that we need our "gaps" filled . I wish he could do that.

[@lisahandley7959]

Honey that will make him leave. That's very bothersome on his end. I wish I had the perfect words. I'm sorry

[@rhondahosey9416]

I wish I had heard your discussion a long time ago. It would have helped me to communicate not only communicated with my adult. It also, would have helped me, particularly, before I was diagnosed with ADHD, which may actually be an incorrect diagnosis.

[@aidenpowell6093]

Good video. Problem i have is possibly having bipolar or mood disorders myself undiagnosed, with a bipolar partner. We both get very caught up in the moment like we're stars in our own romantic film. The flip side is when things turn bad, we both make assumptions and feelings make the whole situation spiral out of control. We're learning to talk about problems which is helping, but by nature we get caught up in the moment and think too much. Usually the arguments are over what most people deem silly or mostly irrelevant topics. The rollercoaster takes time to learn when it's going to make a turn, or drop down a hill, or rise up a hill dramatically, and it's like your riding it with your eyes closed. It's great if you can sit back and enjoy the ride, knowing when it will do a lap and restart over again on the exact course it was on. problem is when youre in the moment your just worried about the next turn. And every turn is different. And the speed varies along with everything else in the equation. It can also stop or start at anytime and isnt limited to staying on the rails of the ride.

[@michaelureadi2884]

Fantastic 'awareness' video!!...Huge respect to you!!

[@Thesuicidejournal]

Thanks, I appreciate the positive feedback.

[@sensitivegirl-ty2nc]

I agree. Major respect.

[@romy3311]

Bipolar girl that I dated for 6 months randomly cut me off one day, as well as her two closest friends. She vegetated at home for one month and missed half those days of work. She agreed to lunch finally after that month of vegetation. It went amazing. I thought were back to the highest point of our relationship and then oddly enough she just gave me silent treatment after that meeting. She ignored all my texts after that lunch except she said goodnight back. Then day she text me with F you and a bunch of random sh*t talk. And that's been it since then.. She cut me off again. Now she talks to everyone in town and is active on social media again but still has silent treatment toward me and her two other closest friends.

[@dr5820]

thanks for the video, bro. this is exactly how my missus behaves. I've had a pretty good idea for a couple years now that she has bipolar. type 2 I believe. she will not admit to this terrible cycle that happens.

[@sheenab0131]

I wish I would have watched this video 4 years ago, when he told me he had this mental illness I didn’t think much of it or do my research, which was probably the biggest mistake an selfish thing I could have done in our relationship. This video was the missing piece to all the questions I had and just makes everything he goes through and how he thinks makes so much more sense. Had I known all of this or at least took the time to try and understand I would have known how to move and would have understood him more without judging or thinking he is crazy. Everything in this video describes things he experiences or feels. I feel stupid for not taking the time to research, damn I really feel bad. I hope with the knowledge I have now maybe that can fix how we move forward. And I love how you said it’s not an excuse but it’s a reason ! That really hit. Thanks for making this video.

[@Thesuicidejournal]

No problem, I'm glad it was helpful.

[@Brizzlebre_]

My boyfriends bipolar one min I’m being accused and being called out my name and the next he’s sorry and loves me I don’t know what to do and he doesn’t think he’s bi polar but I see it in many ways and he’s in denial

[@rmzelhustle]

Brizzleee same situation

[@sv5721]

That is not bipolar

[@plushpandora]

Hello, I kno you posted this video awhile ago, but I had to just give you a quick comment and say how much I enjoyed it. Truly some of the best advice I've heard anyone give on the bi polar issue ever. It's very difficult to be in a relationship without being diagnosed with a mental illness,,,,,then once you factor that into things, ,,well hell....... I don't have a good track record! !! You gave me some excellent ways to explain things to that significant other person and much healthier view points for myself to keep in mind when I'm feeling a little on the irrational side. Thanks so much for a great video !!! Xoxo Jenn

[@Thesuicidejournal]

This video seems to be a popular one of mine, I seem to hit it on the mark. I spoke out of my own knowledge struggling with my own diagnoses and my long term relationship. I have to give him a lot of the credit for this one because a lot of what I said is his own criticism of my behavior. I'm glad I provided insightful material. I like to know I'm helping out.

[@yourehilarious8619]

My girlfriend has this disorder and I never knew what was going on I thought that was just her now I know and can understand better thank you this will help my relationship with the person I love a lot.

[@gosertube]

Thank you for your vid. Sadly I’m at a point where I cant go back to my relationship, but this gives me more understanding towards the mother of my child and having to deal with her for me son. It’s really hard and I’ve been trashed by her when only trying to do good. I haven’t been perfect either but it seems I keep paying for mistakes I’ve done 6 years ago whereas she’s done the same things to me. This vid hopefully will give me the tools I need to communicate in a way that she can understand that I’m not attackjng her

[@corey_kuma]

this was extremely informative.

[@tinatucker5423]

Thank you, you helped me so much with my boyfriend. I understand now..

[@Thesuicidejournal]

I'm glad to hear that!

[@LyndzPaul]

Love this video. Thank you for sharing your personal story. You have a beautiful mind 💕

[@Thesuicidejournal]

No problem, I'm surprised how clear my thought came out in this video. It seems to help people out

[@victoriahoward422]

Thank you so much for this video ,this help me out so much . I want to do my best to be there for my boyfriend .

[@Kristinamascorro]

I'm always "filling in the gap" and creating ideas in my head. I overthink everything

[@OG_DSM]

thank u. this video was very helpful in my understanding of this condition. thank u again. time, solid communication, trust and space..

[@SecretPlace3333]

Thank you for this video . It helped me a little. I love someone that is bipolar

[@Thesuicidejournal]

Hope it helped !

[@MaireTreasa]

Thank you so very much for sharing this. It was very helpful to me.

[@claraosullivan737]

This was helpful. Thank you for sharing.

[@deniseharvey5038]

Your a really good speaker💖🙏🏽

[@reclusivescavenger]

thank you for sharing you are helping people

[@soniagarrow1807]

I have bipolar as well... i have destroyed all my relationships, i literally do everything you just described. Like in detail. Wow.

[@chasvonplatten1298]

Very insightful!

[@Lucailey]

I tell my girlfriend this one! I have BP2 and it's quite different than BP1. I tell here that there are going to be times I will push her away and be distant and it may last a few days - but I am a frisbee. I come back. I just need that mental "spoon space" where i don't feel like i can deal with the pressure of a relationship at that very moment. It does not mean I don't love her, it means that at that moment I don't have enough spoons and I need to recharge. I will be faithful and I will return those texts with in the next few days or even hours - sometimes even minutes. I just need that "me time to recharge"

[@iamkalkidan3800]

Hey I love your video. Thank you so much!!! You are awesome!!I feel like you are describing 100%

[@melaniedevlin5091]

Hey I love this video it is so on point with me. .. I like this guy and I doubt he will ever like me because of my bi polar... I hope to show him this video it's such a relief knowing I'm not alone x

[@Thesuicidejournal]

You don't always have to be upfront about your mental illness. If he is understanding he will accept you and love you.

[@melaniedevlin5091]

+The suicide journal he doesn't take into consideration my illness. . He fights back with me instead of counteracting my disorder. .. I like him but if he doesn't ever accept the disorder I guess I will have to move on? x

[@Thesuicidejournal]

+melanie devlin I've been with My boyfriend for 8 years and he's never really accepted or understood the disorder. being with someone like that is an obstacle but it doesn't mean you have to let go.

[@melaniedevlin5091]

+The suicide journal do you have inatgram account ? Would Love to Message you for More advice ? Cz

[@Thesuicidejournal]

+melanie devlin Facebook and snapchat are the best way to message me.

[@mayagreenwald293]

thanks you so so so much this helped me and boyfriend so much better

[@rainingpatchouli4476]

Bravo👍🏻thanks for helping me understand myself better🌝

[@michaelmahon712]

This is killing me. My gf and I have been together 4 1/2 months and I've never been more in love and she is too. She has bipolar depression and severe panic attacks. We both smoke weed, but I realized too late it makes me super anxious , irritated and overwhelmed with emotion. She's been really depressed lately. She wanted a break 17 days ago because she said she needs to think of her own health and thought my overwhelming anxiety was a permanent thing. She's still not ready to talk to me and it's killing me that I didn't take her into consideration when venting my stress to her. I don't know if I'll ever have her again.

[@BR-oh5kc]

Thank you for this video.

[@torisaurisrex123]

Thank you for this.

[@Thesuicidejournal]

No problem I hope this helped out.

[@lorimorales8436]

Thank you, you’re awesome

[@Thesuicidejournal]

Thank you! hope it helped

[@nanichica]

Very helpful video!

[@havenlyshamblin9033]

Dbt quick!!!it helped sooo much.

[@JohnnyRebKy]

It only takes a few weeks of not taking their meds and they will totally destroy their own life and yours. It’s not worth it. I stood by my wife 12 years in sickness and health. She secretly quit taking her meds and went totally manic. It was like a demon possessed her!! She suddenly quit her job, went out drinking, and then started sleeping around. She decided her stable loving home was now the root of all her problems. I became the target of her anger. I begged her to come home and get some help and she refused. She claimed being on meds wasn’t the real her and this was the REAL her. I had no choice but to kick her out of the house. The sad thing is I know this will end and reality will catch up with her. She will be devastated by what’s she’s lost and done. I told her the Great Depression would be coming next when she comes back to reality but she won’t believe it. She will end up suicidal and kill her self. But I can’t take it anymore and I have no forgiveness left in me. I can’t live with someone that can turn into a devil when they don’t take their meds. I was willing to forgive the infidelity because I know she’s sick, but she refuses to get help. So I’m done with it. If she ends up dead then it’s not my fault Do yourself a favor guys and seriously think about marrying a bipolar. They can destroy your entire life in a single day and not think twice about it. They become the most cold hearted careless human being you can imagine. All they gotta do in convince themselves they don’t need the meds or use not taking the meds as a threat or weapon against you

[@RubenGomez-jz2bx]

Thanks dude I would tell me girl friend drop it and get over it like stop thinking about what she's mad about but she can't help it but I get it thanks good video 👍🏻

[@Thesuicidejournal]

I hope it gives you a better sense of the disorder and hopefully you and your girlfriend can work things out a lot better now

[@jgnmtz]

Thank you for this.. Now I know what I was doing at work when the boss wouldn't let me write it down. Whatever he told me was often vague 5 minutes after I left his desk..so I would worry excessively about what I missed. then I would put something in there that was never intended.. Sht that why I can't work anymore.. UGH!

[@montytoby5319]

Perfect!

[@nicobambino191]

As someone with Bipolar Disorder, for myself I've learned it's best to become comfortable with yourself first. I keep away from too many friends and romance. I get "high" off of relationships strangers. If they think I am strange, my life won't be terribly impacted. I can be myself- lost in my sway of varying mania. But most don't uhderstand us and never will, so I keep a good distance

[@nicobambino191]

I'm glad you are making peace with yourself. I though, wish I didn't have this "beautiful mind". And no drug, self help book, or hours of therapy will free me- only sheer willpower to just hope one day it won't be like this. But I had this since birth (mines genetic) and I rue the day I was cursed with this terrible disease. But good luck man and thanks.

[@Thesuicidejournal]

+Kuma Sama whether it's genetic or not will power alone is not enough to cope with the problems of bipolar disorder. Having a good support system and maintaining professional help as well as personal inventory of ones thoughts and moods is key in successful management of this mental illness. I made this channel to show people that they are not alone and that they don't need to fight this fight on there own. Asking for help is hard and getting someone to love and understand you is just as hard but not impossible. Isolation is not a solution.

[@leviburness4033]

I’m Bipolar 1 with mixed and psychotic features I’ve never been in a relationship. Don’t plan on it because clearly no one can handle it. Plus no

[@sensitivegirl-ty2nc]

This video is just very wonderful and helpful as well as true. Thank you so much for posting this, it was very necessary.

[@aveuch]

How do you cope with the regular rejection by your bipolar partner? I can try to understand it and be empathetic, but I don't think they realize how much harm and pain they're inflicting.

[@sailjpt]

helpful! I need to communicate more directly!

[@Thesuicidejournal]

That's one of the hardest things to d, it's not so easy to open yourself up to people even the ones you love and love you back

[@sali1029]

The suicide journal how do you accomplish that?

[@crystaldawn6253]

thank you for sharing

[@uncool777girl3]

My best friend has bipolar...it's so sad to watch her do all those crazy stuff...she's a smart girl and a lovely soul but she is destroying her life

[@donaldhottenstein9872]

Very helpful.tyfs

[@Wilky_Waves]

My bipolar boyfriend gives me so much anxiety

[@hawtskoolme9515]

Guys, I'm dating a bp guy, honestly I feel like giving up. I can't take it when he ignored me, my text..but I love him so much, I want to grow old with him, I want to go through this together with him but he seems like give up too, he said he lives me but he never work for it.

[@pedomydido6475]

Thanks helps a lot

[@StoutNerd]

Do you have any tips about how to handle a parter's impulsivity/reckless behaviour during a manic state? (Drugs, cheating, self harm)

[@issamissa902]

My boyfriend is bipolar and I feel that his behaviour is ripping my soul apart. He cheated on me, I forgave him, I talked to his friend about my project and he gets so offended and says he can get other girls and that I am manipulating him. But he forgives me so little and I forgive him so much. It hurts me every time bc I realise everything he says so seriously and after the fight is over he always apologises and turns all cute again. It's ripping me apart but I can't leave bc I love him. And he is not the first person with disorder I dated. Somehow I attract them.

[@shiling7376]

Thank you for the video.I was dating a guy for 3months, started to notice bipolar symptoms, we are long distance, and once he could be so warm, creative and charming then he could ignore me for days, i'm so suffering but don't know how to help him.So now we are not dating anymore, because this gave him too much pressure . He acknowledge he doesn't like to be with people and can't handle close relationship, he lives in forest to avoid close social contact with others, he can't focus, always swing in mood, hypersensitive, overthinking, blame others, self-center. But I don't think he is willing to change or knows he has this disorder. How can I help him? Even if I can't be with him in a romantic relationship, but i really like him and want to help him. I don't think I should tell him i think he might has bipolar disorder, how can I start to help? I really appreciate your help and advice. Thank you very much!

[@canadastamina37]

Ya you are such feelers and sooooooo empathetic. So much so you abuse the hell out of the people that actually do feel love for you

[@Thesuicidejournal]

Bipolar disorder is not an excuse to abuse anyone and Bipolar Disorder is not an excuse to let yourself be abused. I think I said that a couple of times in the video. People who do not have Bipolar Disorder abuse people all the time so lets stop giving credit to the disorder and lets make a society that becomes accountable for there actions. Im sorry if someone treated you like shit. Don't generalize,, not all of us inflict pain and abuse.

[@katinlove]

thank u very mucho ♥

[@ChristinaKilluminati]

Thank you

[@zulyreyes01]

It’s so hard! Because right now he did a whole 180! Completely pushed me away, he was so affectionate and romantic and now it’s so hurtful and mean! Literally sleeping around with the girl he talked so negative on, purposely says things to hurt me and humiliates me! I don’t know wether to wait it out, to give up, I don’t know wether he meant everything he said when we were good! I’m just so confused !!!

[@marcys_space6]

zreyes_xo that’s just him not the disorder. How are things now ?

[@beautybard]

I literally looked up "how to understand my bipolar partner" on google. He was clinically diagnosed, and takes medication.. 99.98%. He's amazing... but I dealt with a med lapse (accidental) and it was rough, cos while I knew he had those issues, I wasn't trained in how to help.... we talked about it and I felt prepared, helping him keep on schedule. but tonight... he was all set on meds. Nothing violent happened he just went from exuberant to DONT TOUCH ME. ( not words, just demeanor) Unlike him. He apologized and wished he knew how to explain how he felt without making me sad. He's sleeping now, things have been resolved... but he told me early in our first date he had these issues... and I said "just tell me what you need" and when (tonight) he couldn't tell me I turned to KZbin... And thank you. This helps. More than you know.

[@Thesuicidejournal]

Im glad it helped, but keep in mind that I only explain the general thought process you cat live by my model and you should always try to make adjustments to what ever fits you and your relationship.

[@laurieformatt]

U r awesome. Ty for this. 😍

[@Thesuicidejournal]

No problem, I'm glad it helped you out.

[@laurieformatt]

It did. I loved the analogy of our brains getting the idea and it runs through our heads and it won't stop. And the creativity and the holes it fills. You are brilliant. I cried. It was the first and best explanation to how it feels. It was so well delivered and gentle hearted. I showed it to my partner and I think it helped him understand why I freaked out this weekend. :(

[@laurieformatt]

thanks once again.

[@Thesuicidejournal]

+Laurie Nighswonger I did keep in mind the significant other in the family members of the person who is struggling with bipolar since I have had the same problems I felt like I needed to explain it and somebody else could benefit out of it

[@laurieformatt]

You did just that and more. I also want to add that you helped me see my, our minds as a beautiful creative thing. And that makes me smile and be proud. Your partner is lucky to have you. :)) you are a beautiful person, inside and out.

[@ryannmcinturf6245]

Just wondering what the song in the intro is called. Shazam doesn't recognize it

[@Thesuicidejournal]

I wrote the song. Its one of my many sad tunes in my repertoire.

[@LilytheHekateRevenant]

My bf starting showing symptoms right as we started dating and have only been physically together half the time we been a couple which is 3 years and 3 months. HE goes back and forth from loving me to hating me to thinking we are too toxic. he came back for a week but due to one arguement and the fact i didnt run and hug him when he first came back (i was making him pancakes and feeding our daughter) he left. He said he was going to get more hel=p, he was mad at self for coming back early (Though gone for 20 months and just got back, there was stress we were looking for place and my mom was pissed he wasnt allowed here so we snuck him in and he would come back and all is perfect. He said six months then agreed to a few weeks. Now he is saying he is unhappy with our relationship and it will end and he is unsure if he wants to be with me but then he sends me messages saying he loves me and misses me. I dont know if he will come back or what I with someone iwth anxiety can do to be there without triggering with my anxiety. I have tried fighting back and being logical, when hormonal and pregnant i behaved like him (which is what he is basing the "we will never work" on though i was pregnant and behaving similarily to him you cannot count that), I have tried being super nice, I tried putting his cheating (which he claims never occurred though i have proof) and abuse behind me but he is focussing on past, he tells me to move forward not focus on past and not to be negative so I am now being overly positive getting a place on my own to make things easier, he says I do not compliment him enough or show him love though he went first six months of rs telling me he hates compliments and intamcy. So what can I do?

[@dianamorales7335]

Lilythe Hekate Revenant Thats so how my ex was...to move forward and not focus on the past...but its harf to do that when they repeat it!

[@issamissa902]

Leave.

[@frankdiaz6955]

Don’t waste your life...

[@Summermoon7.]

I’ve been seeing someone with bipolar and ADHD. He was all about me in the beginning but slowly started going silent. Not answering my calls or texts. I give him space but it gets to me as he never tells me why he’s doing this. I know he’s faithful and he cares for me deeply but I can’t help my mind wondering. He always comes back but acts like nothing happened. He also has delusions,compulsive, obsessive thought and can be paranoid. He’s fine one moment then he pushes me away. He was I. A bad marriage n the woman cheated and left him. He is now obsessed with the odea I’ll do it too Therefore keeps this cycle of getting so close and then dropping off all of a sudden with no explanation. He has ideas that are not based in reality one second and the next moment he’s completely logical. He is only taking Adderall for his ADHD and performs quite well at work and has a good job he’s kept for 4 years. It just seems that his thoughts are all over the place. He’s talking about our future together one minute and the next he’s telling me he wants to be alone and he is meant to be alone. I love him and I don’t want to give up on him. Any insight would be appreciated. :)