Low birth rate? also low dating rate in korea 20s |Undercover Korea

In Korea, young people don't have relationships, but romance shows continue to be successful. There are also many romance shows around the world. Why do we watch them?
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[@MonaMoreish]

My father worked 8-10 hours a day, and he could feed and support the whole family. My mother would stay at home taking care both of us. Now both husband and wife working 12 hours a day, and they still struggle to support the whole family with only 1 child. The financial burden for the new generation keep rising higher. The biggest problem is, some governments refuse to force even minimum wage on big companies. And people have to work two or even three jobs to support themselves.

[@2Phast4Rocket]

They financial burden comes from multiple car loans, huge credit card debts, buying junks they don't need, paying interest for the two big overseas vacations they had two years ago. It's not that they didn't make enough money, it is because they spent so much more than they earn.

[@moneylust]

in other words, lazy losers whining for others not giving what they want for free. Aren't you ever getting tired of whining?

[@roserevancroix2308]

Whining about it is not going to help or change anything, but because humans are weak sheep then they can do whatever they want with you, if they want to pay you almost nothing and force you to work 24/7 until you die they can, what are you going to do about it? Nothing, and they know that - you have to act and do something to make change, it will not come because you pray to god. If that worked everyone would be a millionaire with wings by now.

[@rafaelcapuano8280]

Yeah, its funny how everyone knows the solution but politicians are to even discuss it.

[@Daisy999]

@@2Phast4Rocket well atleast in india for men to married if he had sister she should be married atleast because female family pays for the marriage and mostly girls parents dont like to marry her daughter to someone who has unmarried sister because infuture it is most likely to force her bring more money from her parents. and after that they boy need to have house and bit of property. in some cases girls also give house or cars as dowry. think about it you have a sister or two, as the brother and your father is retired all the burden to marry sister or sisters falls on you. and no one marry you until they are married. and as female family pays for marriage and they have do how groom likes it the boy likely will have loan and if groom family asks for dowry as house or car they have to take loan. even if there is nothing you mentioned people will suffer because of the society pressure. you may ask why girl cant pay well for the marriage why there brother because still in society many dont want woman to study. if woman study so much they wont find groom for her. and they have to save for marriage too so it happens many times girls dreams are forcefully taken away so they can save money for marriage.

[@sarahngghae]

The biggest hindrance to young people dating - not just in South Korea but also in other Western countries - is the financial burden. Young people are finding it extremely difficult to purchase homes, build their savings, and cultivate romantic relationships while also focusing on their careers to increase their salaries. Everything is so expensive these days that most young people cannot spend their time seeking and pursuing relationships when they can just put all their energy on their careers/pursuing higher education and earning money. To governments: if you want the younger people to get married, have children and financially support your country, you need to find a way to make it financially easier for them to do so!!!

[@hawo1054]

well said 👏🏽

[@kristinesharp6286]

Yet in Korea education is free, everyone has a closet full of shoes, people can travel abroad, there is plenty of rice, one can get medical care under country health insurance plan. Yet when this was not true people could have 4?

[@Anonymous-xq3cd]

I think finance is just a secondary problem. The primary problem is, is that all women just want the top 10% of men. Women’s expectations have gone through the roof. They only want the most handsome, 6 ft tall, has 6 pack abs, and is rich. This means if you put 10 woman and 10 man in an island, its almost guaranteed that around 8 to 9 if not all the girls would want only the top 1 or top 2 guys. This leaves a lot of people single and lonely 8 to 9 males and the 8 to 9 females that the top 1 or top 2 guys didn’t pick. So in an island with 20 people (10 man and 10 woman), 16 will likely be single.

[@kristinesharp6286]

No one has stuff on an island. @@Anonymous-xq3cd

[@user-Korpan]

everyone assumes they have to buy a home, and saving for one seems impossible while also being extremely materialistic and have a big spending problem.

[@BruhImAGirl]

Everyone wants to be happy, sometimes you have to let the people talk and focus on what you want with your life. Marriage is not for everyone, but loneliness is not for anyone

[@placidity13]

When you grow up u understand important of relationship. Kids say they want to be single and don’t marry . Life after uni sucks with loneliness.

[@Ahgase7for7]

​@@placidity13not if u have friends and family

[@14KroshTV]

@@Ahgase7for7 They also will grew apart from from you and have their own lives. Thats how life is.

[@thatchiqfaye9154]

@@placidity13​​⁠it’s possible to make peace with being alone, you could also be lonely even with others.. loneliness is part of life. It’s not something to be scared of. Just find ways to cope when it hits, because there’s no guarantee that others will make u feel less lonely. Live life, build meaningful relationships, and just live..it’s true that friends and family can drift away, so can a partner and kids especially when they get older. And oh I am grown.

[@dxdxdxdx]

@@14KroshTV if all parties nurture the relationship by understanding that life can get busy but still make time for each other once in a while, it works fine.

[@SamuelSamuel-zx9mu]

The obession with dating shows, while not dating themselves, has a little bit of the para-social behaviour we see in people that fawn over "influencers" they have never met, yet play a big role in their social life.

[@misterkefir]

This is one of the worst things that internet has amplified. It was crazy before even with books/magazines and TV.. but the internet took it to a whole new level of bad.

[@liilack]

Our parents married at their twenties. They began their marriage life in a rented house or small flat. At that time Korean women didn't use to have a lot of job opportunities so normally a man was happy to marry a woman in exchange of his house, job at certain age. It was possible because they could hope for the better future with no lack of decent jobs, high interest rates. Now women get proper education, get a job. They no long see a marriage as a matter of life and death like my grandmother once did. While people's opinions about marriage have changed, a lot of women are still finding it hard to continue working after they get married due to most companies' policies. As a result, in south Korea the percentage of working married couples is the lowest among OECD countries. With other factors like rising living costs and housing, a marriage life doesn't seem appealing to young men and women any more.

[@johnnypham2850]

In short, Women refuse to be domestic slaves who are reduced to an invisible status once they bear children COME ON GUYS!

[@Bergerons_Review]

Dating apps killed dating.

[@theofficialpeterkim]

Kinda hard to date with everyone wearing a mask. On a serious note, I think kids are turned off with marriage just because they saw their parents have a bad marriage. They will not take about it since they don’t want to shame the family, but there are more underlying reasons. They see their parents fighting, see kids as a burden, they will conclude why get married or have kids when things are so hard.

[@RicochetForce]

Yeah, one of the lines in there from the folks not marrying was telling: They said they saw their parents' lives END when due to become parents. They'd heard of all the stuff their parents used to do... until they became parents and that role utterly consumed their lives.

[@create306]

What you say is true. One of the reasons I don't want to get married is because of my childhood. My biological dad left me when mom died of cancer and my step parents were always fighting. Though, I respect my step dad for taking me in. I actually don't mind having a partner and maybe adopt a kid. But I will never have a kid of my own.

[@aleencross]

Marriage is hard work. You will get out what you put in. I am not Korean, but I definitely can not live with a man who puts his mom ahead of his wife. The Bible says a man must leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife. Once he has made the decision to marry his wife becomes his top priority. When God is both spouses top priority it becomes even better. If she respects her husband and he prioritize her needs in mutual love marriage is wonderful. But wevhave a world that teach us to be selfish and self absorb. Running after material things and constantly trying to keep up with or neighbors. We work 24/7 to ave the biggest house, drive the best cars, etc. But how many of you actually have the time to appreciate all that you slaved for? It's the proverbial hamster 🐹 in the wheel. You kill yourself for various 3000 square feet house and speed 98% of your waking hours in 100 square foot. By the time you realize it you are too sick or on deaths door. 99% of what we do is to please people who don't care about us. These are all things we should consider before we decide to marry and find a person who has the same faith and values as yourself. Someone who can appreciate the important things in life not the flashy things.

[@teaglass3750]

@@aleencross Amen!

[@lenas6246]

maybe stop making shit up in your mind about strangers

[@ilililiililiil3006]

Love is fun. Only when it's not my story 😂 Korea is a society of efficiency, so I outsource even my emotions to dramas and TV shows. 😊

[@MissGourmandefr]

This documentary and their take on the problem with the specialist’s opinion is really well made! I think it’s also important to take into account Korean dating culture. A lot of girls expect to be the upmost priority of their man, answering texts and calls right away. There is also the fact of sharing everything you do, texting/talking about all your lunches or where you went with whom. Cannot have friends of the opposite gender etc… Also the fact that if your parents do not approve of your partner, you have to break up and no marriage like ??? Poor them, they can’t even choose to make their life with the one they love. At the same time, the parents put a lot of pressure on their kids to marry 😅 Also I understand the girls because once you marry your husband, they say you also marry his family. Basically you have to do everything your husband’s parents ask, otherwise it’s seen as direspectful, even if what they ask is too much/not appropriate. And let’s not even talk about the fact that most boys are so sheltered, many are mama boys, and will take their mom’s side whenever over their wife 😅! I felt bad for Dongmin who says he will never date again because he « doesn’t want to loose his freedom », clearly he hasn’t experienced a type of relationship that is a bit out of Korea’s culture. Had he been born in a country with less obsession over a partner, he might have been married already and happy with a partner

[@forexdragon]

Yes, basically Korean girls are HIGH MAINTENANCE. This is well known.

[@dlstmxkakwldrl5668]

Yes definitely the birth rate and dating rate is getting lowers cause women are high management and men are "sheltered and mamas boy" and not at all because korean men are raging misogynists and think abusing women is their birth right. Their society punishes women for asking equal rights and treatment and are treated like sub human by law enforcement wherein smoking marijuana is more of a serious offence than rape. Korean women are tired and exhausted by this treatment and forever scarred by men that they've started the 4B movement - to build a life without men. Only if you, the other commentators and this stupid video itself actually did some research before posting. Look how seriously they take their molka cases and Nth room alike cases.

[@MissGourmandefr]

@@forexdragon maybe when dating but after marriage it’s the boys that are high maintenance lol The wife has so many « wife duties » to carry and is at the service of her in laws, she even looses her name when she gives birth as people and even their husband will start to call them « X’s mom » instead of their first name…

[@forexdragon]

@@MissGourmandefr Agreed! lol

[@GameFuMaster]

yeah, except divorce can strike at any time. Nothing is guaranteed.

[@cherrii7433]

I want to be married because I want to have a partner who I love and who loves me. Being in a loving relationship is such a great thing. Having someone who supports you so much and loves you. And you can support and love them in return. But it's not easy to find someone like this or be this kind of person. Perhaps, that's why those people don't want to date, its because they haven't found someone they truly liked yet, someone who matches them well. Or perhaps, their hearts aren't the type to love easily.

[@g3user1usa]

Well, good luck with that. I think most people go into marriage with that hope but the divorce rate is close to 50%. You might as well just flip a coin to decide on marriage. I hope your marriage lasts longer than your smartphone.😅

[@thinmyatlwin7378]

Based on your comment, you are such a hopeless romantic person.

[@diyambarcil2310]

good luck for a painful life.

[@Mira-gu6we]

Love doesnt matter. After marriage, woman is bogged down by pregnancy, childbirth, childcare. Early years of baby life are excruciating. Poor treatment at work of moms. Nasty people makimg fun of post birth body. Useless husband that dump all childcare cooking and housework on u. Makes life hell. Most men are useless. This is truth.

[@JohnSmith-hv6ks]

The problem with romance on TV is that its tiring

[@karmickoala101]

Seeking validation is the exact problem of this generation. My generation. Be it of their relationship, gender, social status, even their private need constant validation. In reality, it's a sign of social stigma and the personal insecurity~hesitancy problem. I pray and wish those who read this message to live their life in happiness..try to get off your typical routine in call of healthier n sociable life✨

[@Naeinsengimnida]

@@kamiliachadli Just one example : Makeup is *among* the first reasons of women's insecurity...

[@mmmky3204]

​@@Naeinsengimnidawhich is again made popular by males

[@Ealsante]

Don't be silly. Keeping up with the Joneses is not a 21st century phenomenon. Do you really think boomers don't seek validation?

[@johnnypham2850]

@@kamiliachadliNO!

[@bruneena9102]

i don’t think i’ll be able to date for the next 2-3 years. i dont even have the time to date. went to work at 8am and arrived home at 8pm. ate dinner and continue doing work at 11pm, went to sleep at 2am. life is so exhausting 😭

[@Savage-gy5ox]

That's insane 😢 what do you do?

[@bruneena9102]

@@Savage-gy5ox working at big4 well you know how it is

[@CryptoAlex89]

why do u work for a big4 then? Quit lol. You only live once, why be unhappy?@@bruneena9102

[@sicnarfvlad]

crazy😳😲🤯 thankfully i'm just a foreign worker in Korea🙈

[@one.girl...1]

People forgot what love is. Forgot basic and most important things like true values and meaning of family. Be modest, be decent, don't look for sex, but look for a person for all your life. People don't wait untill marriage, they end up in bed and this is only make things worse, because this is just senseless short pleasure which makes people's mind "blind". Understand the meaning of "love", "marriage", forget about selfishness, remember that people should take care of each other. If you find someone, try to understand do you really love each other, do you really want to live all life together. Take responsibility about each other and only after marriage show your love in bed. And you will be happy. True love is pure.

[@johnnypham2850]

Beautiful truth

[@dawn3589]

full of cheaters too, no way they'll be happy with a child if a spouse is unfaithful. That's another fear

[@helennethers9777]

It's a coping mechanism & rationalization of a man when he has a single wedding ceremony. The main issue is that he's too scared to be rejected in relationships. We all go through that same fear but we should never let it push us to this extreme. This is definitely not pro-survival towards the human race

[@Min-ek5jn]

Many don't get married because they don't feel like they have "enough" money to live a sort of lifestyle that they're too proud to give up. In other countries, generally speaking, people don't try to live up to a certain image as much as Koreans do. For example, young people could easily go live in the Korean countryside for far less money than they would need to live in Seoul. But they don't. Why? This is one of the keys to the low marriage/childbirth issue.

[@RicochetForce]

Why are you surprise that people aren't willing to plunge themselves into a lower economic bracket for the sake of having children or a marriage? That people don't want to sacrifice their living standards or freedom is not surprising.

[@Min-ek5jn]

​@@RicochetForce I never said I was surprised. If young Koreans feel like they have nothing to live for beyond some extra luxury goods or the "freedom" of not having a spouse and children, then the nation will implode and rightfully so.

[@dellyspice]

in other countries?? exact same thing is happening in china and japan tho.

[@Ealsante]

It's not about being too proud to give up a lifestyle, you privileged idiot. If I love someone, I want her to have a good life too. If I can hardly have a good life myself, why would I want her to suffer with me?

[@user-hj8ll8zn2s]

I found many western people got married to live up to certain social standards. It's difficult to socialize as a single person when you are over 38.

[@arcbrush]

While it is a global problem to an extent, I think they have a much larger issue because they lack good role models of what a good marriage looks like. Their parents pretty much live separate lives where one works and one takes care of the home without spending good time with each other, everyone is stressed etc. So marriage is a burden on top of their other burdens of studying and finding themselves in the world.

[@1Skorpia]

Marriage and children stopped being a thing when so many divorces happened. The veil was ripped off that the fantasty is over. Now the woman is stuck struggling with kids. Its a financial burden. The father often moves on and makes another family. Not many take their father responcibilities seriously. They dont want to invest in their childrens lives. No woman wants to make that life for herself. Single parenting is hard. Being stuck in a bad marriage is also tough. Its very rare seeing couples truly in love with each other. Many married out of desperation in the past and regretted it.

[@attysthoughts3253]

Women are the ones who blow up their families. 70% of divorces are filed by women. Don't complain when you drive off your husband and he doesn't want to work for a family he doesn't have any more. He's not your slave

[@konstantinrebrov675]

Where in South Korea?

[@karenwang313]

Yep, just blame males for the all the problems with marriage. That'll definitely make things better.

[@dnfoeuhwy87902]

As a South Korean - idk what the hell is wrong with us our 20-30 generation I get it most countries are getting similar to this video but the thing is I fell like everyone is in South Korea getting angry inside or wanna fight or selfish or calculating which one is better A fun fact is International married couples (especially Korean guys and International girls) are more and more

[@PingYJ7750]

Honestly I think it has to do with Korea's underlying cultural issues. But it seems like nobody in the Korean government wants to address it.

[@Naeinsengimnida]

Even my Korean teacher refuses to date any South Korean women. And the reasons you gave are why

[@vinipcplayer]

korean dudes are coming here to brazil

[@snhw_y]

There's something wrong with Korean women.

[@hearteu5260]

I see foreign women struggle with Korean men AFTER they become couple enable to deal with the guys conservative demands, it's like a global phenomena, they get attracted to their looks and end up regretting when they're told to cover up and not work and take care of the children and in laws which the Korean women have denied them of. And then there's Korean girls being happy with their foreign husbands/boyfriend's becuz they were raised as a free spirit so they know how to clean up after themselves and know how to participate like an actual partner rather than be a bank account with no support bro

[@studyou1016]

not what ive seen when i was in korea for 1.5 years lol, everyone on the streets was a couple

[@HikeJ1]

Yeah. That’s insane, Couples are everywhere in Seoul, you can’t make a single step without seeing a couple. I was so exhausted. This is so fake and showing off, they copy paste each other, many couples don’t last. They change partner like socks.

[@kevcross3617]

@@HikeJ1 this is true....korea is hell for single people lol

[@newjnsbby]

I was looking for this comment, thank you! Also every time when I was in Korea you can meet many couples on the street if you go to the Seoul forest, Hongdae or even to the amusement parks! There are so many couples that when you stroll through the streets without your friends you apparently can feel lonely. Also the fact that you can see more couples cuddling on the street in Seoul than in big cities as in Germany also surprised me a lot! On top of that there are many Korean couples who are together for a short period of time and then move on to date the next partner. So I think the video does not show Korean dating culture to the fullest.

[@propertymanager9149]

@@unlikethem last i heard abortion rate is also pretty high in Korea...

[@HikeJ1]

@@propertymanager9149 Recent infanticide cases expose challenges single mothers face in South Korea. A government investigation found that between 2015 and 2022, 6,000 infants were abandoned or killed by their parents who did not want them, before their birth was even registered. Precariousness in a country where education remains expensive and the fear of social opprobrium if the child was unwanted, was conceived outside of marriage or suffers from a disability: these are the main explanations given to explain the decision to kill the newborn, even before reporting it to the authorities. Between 2015 and 2022, there were 6,000 ghost babies in South Korea, including nearly 4,000 from foreign mothers. These figures could be underestimated and not take into account previous years, due to the complexity of making recoveries between municipal registers and those of hospitals and clinics.

[@dandaeun]

While in my country dating is easily started once you had consistent communication and connection. I think some people have high standards these days and also the inflation affects the views for dating and marriage. People these days are being smart in terms for dating. It's heartbreaking to choose the wrong person and also heartbreaking if you don't find someone. You really have to take risk when you do dating because you should also think of marriage in the future.

[@upthedown1]

That is the whole purpose of dating. To get to know the person and see if they are for you. If they are not it's not a tragedy. Perhaps the next one will be.

[@rangoman1815]

Korea like most Western countries was a Christian nation and saw marriage and children as blessings and gifts from God. When the Biblical morals have eroded and lost through the generation when prosperity started flowing, all types of societal problems started to creep in and no wonder degeneracy is rampant, morals lost, family in disarray, divorce is through the roof, mental health problems, depression, loneliness, drunkenness, lack of purpose in life, self gratification etc. Only Godly morals can fix this and no matter what psychologists or science suggests, it can never be fixed. The void left by God can never be filled with earthly material things and young people have been brainwashed that money is everything when God is everything.

[@upthedown1]

@@rangoman1815 💯

[@upthedown1]

@@rangoman1815 Matthew 6 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

[@jasonreviews]

USA there are parts which is korea. KTOWN for example. haha!

[@zevil89]

This is what happens when men and women of society hit peak education. One party is hesitant to enter into a relationship where they'll enter a series of financial burdens compared to being single. The other party would rather stay single than enter a life that's no better than their single life but full of restrictions. This is simply a case of an unstoppable force and immovable object paradox.

[@propertymanager9149]

gender issue doesnt exist in real life as evidenced by couples everwhere and polls taken outside. They found our recently that china has been hiring people to create discord in korean society online. Especially regarding gender issues.

[@ceeIoc]

Not necessarily. Being in a relationship can cut your rent in half since you have someone to chip in.

[@RicochetForce]

@@ceeIoc And simultaneously strip you of the autonomy, freedom, and self-direction you'd gotten used t while being single. All while increasing the pressure on you to marry and eventually have children.

[@zevil89]

@@ceeIoc until they want kids. Women know unless they have kids the man can leave them anytime for someone younger

[@johnnypham2850]

This is what happens with peak education and no fear of God

[@hoochill]

i have never dated in my 20s. now I'm undateable cos im poor

[@tonberrygaming3267]

what can you do to fix your current predicament?

[@tednguyen7258]

you can date a guy

[@ahoj6614]

Good then. You’re not alone, I’ve never dated in my 20s either

[@koreakim693]

Same but I'm the female version - never dated in the whole of my 20s and now I can't cos I'm ugly

[@create306]

You are not missing much: heartbreaks, STDs, drama, and loss of freedom. Just focus on inner fulfillment and self-discovery.

[@thedavemanride]

also it is particularly due to dating crime that would not want to date at young age.

[@mmmky3204]

Honestly i don't have time to spare in dating, i can't afford it mentally or financially. I'm desperately trying to do well in studies as this is the only possible way to get decent job for middle class family. I've no financial backup, I've to look after my parents financially as they have liitle savings for themselves

[@truth6242]

The reason why they are not dating is because these shows produce false and unrealistic expectations. Not reality. This is what I love about my wifey, she understands the difference between fantasy and real life.

[@Cyndi3907]

A friend, who has traveled the world, once said that South Korea was the most depressing place she had been. She said that the people were somber (rarely smiling) and seemed depressed. Contrary to the image being produced for the world by the South Korean entertainment industry. But, there has got to be something to it because of the number of people foregoing love, marriage, dating and children.

[@rezadyn87]

lot of ppl saying they coose to stay single isn't always the truth lol

[@asolaris6470]

In the USA, it is predicted that "based on Census Bureau historical data and Morgan Stanley forecasts, 45% of prime working age women (ages 25-44) will be single by 2030." While this may have nothing to do with South Korea right now, one thing is certain, its trend tends to be followed by other countries. I can only imagine how Korea will be in 2030--singles desperate to find a meaningful partner to no avail. Well, time will reveal when we approach 7 years from now.

[@elden5052]

I hope all the single people are planning their retirement, they will have no family to rely on.

[@web3wizard381]

theyre waiting for the perfect man

[@2faf3dafafd]

Lol i bet you no one does. When you are a single it is extremely harf to budget.

[@2faf3dafafd]

Not perfect men. They are looking for slaves

[@RicochetForce]

@@elden5052 You mean like all those coupled people that got divorced? Or the parents whose kids almost never contact them? Do not use children and family as some sort of retirement policy.

[@marinakukso]

it seems like things in korea are kind of strict or narrow. dating is assumed to be for marriage (what about casual dating?)... or parents getting upset if the child chooses not to marry... or those kids who want someone over 178cm tall... or who think that they need a big salary to get married. it just seems like if things were a little less narrow, there would be more options for people to have different kinds of experiences. even their blind date looked really awkward and formal. i guess marriage and dating is a really big deal and very serious over there. it looks stressful!

[@sociolocomtsac]

Just a little context: homes cost at least $1 million in Seoul, where all the jobs are. Women like taller than average men in general, no matter where you live. Korea's male average height is 175 cm. People date, but around 30, women date to get married because there is no more time.

[@propertymanager9149]

except everyone is a couple

[@kaydkaydkayd]

im more than a bit worried for all of u in the comments that seem to have forgotten that both friends n relatives exist ??? u dont need a spouse to not feel lonely …

[@prithamandal2738]

Exactly. Also lonliness stems from being misunderstood and not fitting in as well. Your own spouse can make you feel lonely by not validating your feelings. These people are so dumb

[@fantasticalhistory4285]

Everyone deserves to be happy but don't want any of the responsibility of contributing to society. If everybody thinks this way in Korea then the country will literally not exist in 100 years.

[@Ahgase7for7]

We are too many ppl in this world anyways... + The world is getting worse and worse, I don't want them to live in our world right now

[@odysseus0990]

Yea but everyone isn’t the same though. There will always be people still want to marry and who want to be a parent. In civilized societies, people who don’t have that calling can choose how navigate life best for them.

[@BOO-ii3ni]

@@Ahgase7for7 do you think that you stopping living and also helping other people to stop living will improve the world?

[@winter9741]

@@BOO-ii3ni yes

[@alantes]

This narrator sounds SO MUCH like MINHO from Shinee, that I feel completely discombobulated.

[@user-hj8ll8zn2s]

We were born alone and we will die alone. I think its more natural than feeling the need of partnering up with men/women who might have different core values or beliefs

[@YuiAdventure]

Dating cost money. You date, get married, and have kids = more mouth to feed, more financial burden. Nowadays how can you afford to buy a house in your 20s without your parents help. Not everyone earn high income and can afford it so who wants to date and get married in their 20s…. Looks like things will get worst for future generation….

[@marcellostraps]

Money is the problem? People got married and had kids during the worst parts of the Korean war and IMF crisis, sometimes with no money, sometimes living three or four generations in one house. Some people rented forever, etc. Money is a weak excuse for not dating. Plenty of couples down at the Han river in the summer with nothing but a can of beer, a bowl of ramyeon and some laughs while the sun sets. I think young Koreans have become socially inept, largely due to spending more time interacting with devices than with other humans. As a society, Koreans have never really been quitters, so it is sad to see young people evolving into weak spirited quitters who have to rely on others for everything. I miss the old Korea, where people were fun, energetic, and partied together all night long instead of just doom-scrolling social media in their pajamas while watching netflix alone on Saturday night.

[@sneakystef]

This is the truth. The man who chose to stay single because he valued his freedom is too weak and unable to take responsibility for anyone but himself. In a way that’s a good thing so he doesn’t burden another person or worse his a bad father to his kids. Many young people dont know what responsibility looks like and so never mature beyond their own self serving interests

[@Majdi404klouz]

You should also take into account the desire to improve or at least maintain the same standard of living. Having an extra mouth to feed and providing for their needs for the next two to three decades can pose a considerable financial burden. Since, the dynamics of Korean society have undergone a transformation, transitioning from a profound emphasis on traditional Confucian values, which prioritize family, community, and social harmony, to a more individualistic orientation. Some people choose to provide and take care of themselves over having a family and the associated responsibilities that comes with it.

[@jamiek1714]

As a Korean, I see one reason why this is happening. Their entertainment industries treat dating like some scandal. It's insanity. They glorify the single life in their kpop idols. It's screwed up. But the govt, must support marriages with massive subsidies. If lack of money is the problem, it needs to help more.

[@eafanboyssuck]

You're wrong. No one thinks this way. I don't think you're from Korea.

[@Naeinsengimnida]

Dating often equals sexual promiscuity...ever thought about that ? Maybe that's where the scandal comes from no ?

[@kaydkaydkayd]

the millions of young ppl there dont all revolve their lives around kpop idols or celebrities ☠️ its more serious societal issues like economic struggle that result in them not wanting to get together

[@Mia-cc9bm]

This as stupid as saying the marriage rate will go up thanks to The Return of Superman

[@bluemoondiadochi]

screw subsidies, that wont solve it. what needs to be done is to throttle down the work pressure so people have time to.. you know, actually live. and some affordable housing wouldnt harm either. do these two things, and even this smartphone-clenching snowflake generation will produce the next one.

[@selohcin]

I was there. It's true. Korean women in their 20s hated to date me.

[@propanaughtygeez8287]

As a westerner living in Asia, I've found that dating culture here is just so regimented and awkward, there's not enough passion. You're supposed to find someone you're happy to do the most normal things with. Stop fussing over the perfect location, the perfect time and drop this anxiety about everything that might happen in the long term. Take off your mask, look into each others eyes, relax and have a good time. If you can't be yourself, then that person is not for you.

[@propertymanager9149]

koreans are dating just fine they are just not getting married and having kids so shhh please. just because they dont like your ass doesnt mean shit

[@oscarpena7285]

another westerner who believes its culture is the center of the world

[@create306]

Korean mainstream "love" is very superficial. It's all about looks, status, money... It's the corporations and media pushing this image and people are buying it like idiots.

[@lenas6246]

leave people alone

[@sprocket8662]

I feel that Korea children are so sheltered they do not know how to interact with strangers especially the opposite sex which makes it hard to date if they want to. Getting to know other people and their experiences is a way to broaden yourself but no one should feel that they have to get married or have children.

[@ocean080]

There is nothing wrong to choose singlehood for his entire life, he is taking responsibility for his own life and we should respect his decision and not second guess. Just take some time and listen to a few divorce attorneys. Most people get married for the wrong reasons and not understanding marriage is a lifetime legal contract. Your partner is still maturing and a person will change over time. After all the passion fizzled out, love dried up, what's left? and divorce is expensive.

[@notsojharedtroll23]

That is why looks matter to solidify the contract.

[@create306]

What matters is that people make choices for themselves and don't let external influences twist his/her reality of what constitutes a good life. Personally, I value my freedom and self-expression too much to give it up for anything. I will sacrifice status, power, money, prestigious jobs, love or whatever to live authentically on my own terms.

[@ZOXME]

@DKDKTV i just think this analysis will help in making of Ramyun & Chill s2

[@MapleJokerRofl]

Himchan is so fking gorgeous

[@wendyshoowaiching4161]

When the country government or household parents fail to produce high morals and financial security (family financial sustainable security) standards in men and women . The decline of youth marriage in society is inevitable.

[@NikaBoyce]

As in most conservative cultures, from the perspective of young people today (male and female) the loss of agency when getting married is a HUGE negative in this modern world. When you have devoted your entire childhood to education in a profoundly competitive culture why would you take risks with all that work by marrying someone who may not end up being right for you, by losing status at work as a "wife who should be at home having babies and tending house" (yawns), by yoking oneself to the tyranny of paternal and maternal in-laws who expect to dictate your life path, by taking on the enormous costs of launching a family and educating kids in an educational system that will cost even more than yours did and will be even more competitive..? Why would ANYONE choose this? These kids are smart, they can see exactly why remaining single is the sane rational choice. My perspective? I didnt get married until after I got my PhD and even then I never thought I would. Ive been married 28 years and have 3 kids (2 in college, one about to go to college) - as my parent did, I tell my kids that getting married is NOT required and really something that you should consider only if you want kids. (need to have legal protections in place, as much as is possible)

[@johntay3831]

another reason: their parents will be like: 'No dont date foreigners' marry a Korean instead.

[@climhyung]

there's no spontaneity in today's society. Everything can be analyzed on an app/google. I didn't think of financial planning, purchasing a home, ideal partner match etc and its worked out fine.

[@badhollywoodscience]

There are many instances in this video where the translation is wrong and writes "leave" when it should be "live".

[@jia2001]

I don't think everything is black and white. Sometimes marriages are good and sometimes they end up badly. Not an yes or no question really have to see on individual levels.

[@4ksandknives]

Hmmm. There's a lot of social programs and health care systems within Korea themselves that a lot of citizens won't have access to if they're single. A lot of people in their 40s and 50s that realise this and will be homeless if it carries on; otherwise, you have people that marry same-sex partners or their friends to gain access to the benefits. Again, not everyone will be affected, but they'll be the exceptions to the trend :( People need to think a bit beyond 5-10 years and think how their lives will be across the span of their lives 20-30+ years into the future. Sad.

[@RicochetForce]

Society will just be altered to assist them rather than watch them suffer with no help. Not a problem.

[@canadianbird1185]

This can happen to any country at anytime. It's just a matter of economic hardship and time.

[@alantes]

Hate to be this person, but Himchan and Dongmin would make a gorgeous couple. It seems they both want the same things in life anyway: freedom. //////

[@Snorlax11574]

My Korean mother really deterred me from any type of relationship, I witnessed her complete failure of a marriage and she projected all of the complications afterwards on to me her oldest son which was the spitting image of her ex husband. 🤮🤮 🤮. Sometimes I wish I was born into a different family 😅

[@fredrikbergquist5734]

How is it in South Korea, can a girl be married with possible children and have a profession and a job or does she have to be a housewife? Are there daycare centers?

[@akay3787]

Nope, they conveniently leave that out here. Korean women are expected to choose between a career and marriage/ motherhood. Once you’re a mother there, it’s nearly impossible for you to return to your career. Companies simply end your contract once you give birth in most companies. Many women don’t want to give up their career, understandably so. And in some cases, like in entertainment but also some corporates, the end of your career already starts when you get married even if you have no children, it’s a crazy world

[@Ju_Tube23]

자신을 비연애주의자, 비혼주의자 라고 스스로 얘기하지만, 누구보다 연애를 하고 싶어서 연애프로그램을 보고, 자신의 이상형의 기준이 높고 그걸 낮출 생각이 없으며, 그런 이상형이 자신에게 올 거라 기대를 하지 않으니까 비혼주의자라고 말하는 것 뿐이다. 매우 모순적인 심리와 감정, 생각에 솔직하지 않은 사람이니 멀리하는 게 좋다.

[@2faf3dafafd]

비혼주위자인데 소개팅나가 ㅋㅋㅋㅋ 그거보고 웃었음. 그냥 솔찍하게 돈벌어다줄 노예를 찾는중이다가 딱맞음. 50살 넘어가면 다 현타온다 60살은 고독사야

[@upthedown1]

Mr. Single Wedding Reception said no dating or marrying. He will be lonely. He said no dating. As time passes his friends will be busy with their families, children, grandchildren. The cycle of life. And he will be free but alone.

[@tednguyen7258]

you obviously havent been to usa where divorce is over 50 percent...most who stay hate each other or cheat

[@elden5052]

They say that now because they are still young and healthy. Give it another 20 years, the’ll have a different opinion, but’ll be too late. Dongmin’s issue might be an entirely different one… but he won’t admit it.

[@tonberrygaming3267]

he big gay

[@tunkytunky]

That house sealed the deal 😂

[@YukiGibson]

He would have money and be 20 years less stressed than you, for a counter argument lol

[@odysseus0990]

You think people who chose to be nuns, monks, yogis, etc regret it? Because I never heard of it despite those communities existing for hundreds of years. And arguably those people seem healthy and happy into old age because they chose a simple lifestyle.

[@create306]

@@odysseus0990 This. What constitutes a "good life" is deeply subjective and personal. What matters is that an individual makes life choices, consciously, based on who they are and not what others (gov, family, media,) want you to do.

[@ken4747]

Because a few decades ago, "dating" didn't even exist in Korea? Korean culture hasn't figured out how to integrate it yet for people outside of ideal standards of success or beauty. And given the evidence, there's a nonzero chance that it may never be compatible with Korean culture.

[@tallysworld21]

We have more people in earth who are single than in a relationship. I understand both sides, but since the world changed so fast, physical touches are more important than deep love, etc. It's better to be single. We were born alone and we will die alone. I let my destiny guide me and choose if I should be in a relationship one day or not

[@mysterio5837]

lets be real here, sex is probably one of the biggest targets for most relationships

[@konstantinrebrov675]

You know destiny is something that you create by your own choices.

[@anamarianeivameiraleites5518]

Un vrai problème en Corée ! Ici en France c'est beaucoup plus simple pour les rencontres bien que ce n'est plus aussi facile qu'avant, l'internet a gâché les relations humaines mais en même internet permet de voyager, de faire des connaissances à l'autre bout de la planète. Dommage qu'il n'y ait pas de sous titres en français dans les paramètres, ça serait plus facile à comprendre. Bon courage à tous et soyez heureux , l'essentiel c'est de se sentir bien avec ou sans partenaire

[@ladybug3380]

Cest vrais

[@macandkiss9719]

No wonder the K drama are so rampant nowadays XD

[@user-ws7qq3ip3h]

Everyone says reason that Korea’ low birth rate come from not a good environment for having children, but I think that is not true. There are statistics showing that our country has a very low out of wedlock birth rate and that married people have 2 children. People just don't date. There is no dating, so no one gets married. Young generation in Korea chose not to date before having children. Low birth rates are simply the result of not dating. So, is a solution to encourage births outside marriage to overcome Korea's low birth rate? That will never happen in Korea. Then, Is relationship necessary for young people? Absolutely not. I’m a young woman, so from standing a woman's perspective, dating and relationship really don’t need to me. I don't have to have a relationship to interact with others. Because there are a lot of things to enjoy and more fun things than dating now. Many Koreans don't feel a need for spouses and children in their lives (even more than Westerners). Therefore, no matter how much the welfare of new mom improves, Koreans don’t want to have children anymore. So Korean government instead of encouraging more children to be birth, should start thinking about how to cover the growing social costs of the shrinking population. South Korea’ territory is very small but with an excessive population of 51million people. It is time for us to move on to a better path. I don't know how long the process will take, but the decrease in welfare and the increase in taxes will probably be painful for all Korean. The shrinking population will be a very natural and positive sign so that everyone can live a more pleasant life. It's even a very good sign in terms of the environment of earth. In preparation for that time, we koreans must reduce excessive consumption and seek more active exports and foreign tourism.

[@user-jj4bv5yk5k]

"The shrinking population will be a very natural and positive sign" for who?????

[@user-ws7qq3ip3h]

@@user-jj4bv5yk5k As women have jobs and rights, fertility rates decreased significantly. (Think about why birth rates are extremly high in some muslim countries) Korea is densely populated. (#1 in OECD country) For better life, the population needs to be decline. Also, considering the pollution produced by one person, shrinking population would be a way for the next generation.

[@user-jj4bv5yk5k]

@@user-ws7qq3ip3h nah man, you sound like a WEF bot

[@karenwang313]

The massive elderly population will destroy your country. Old people are an economic vacuum who don't meaningfully contribute to the economy while sucking resources that could be better used elsewhere, not to mention they will likely outvote the much smaller younger generations and force through policy that benefit themselves. If you think things are bad now, imagine todays economic conditions, with even higher taxes to support an entire generation of useless old people.

[@lindsaybelderson7735]

No wonder dating is unpopular in Korea, they can't even see each other's faces, the experience is sanitised and wracked with anxiety

[@EternalHandmade]

I love the guy who married himself. I also love his room and hobbies. No one is talking about his room.

[@astrafaan]

Finances, horrific wealth inequity, power imbalance, probable long hours & with a heavy handed expensive education system (lots of well educated food deliverers in Korea I'd guess....) just for starters - why on EARTH would people want (or be able to afford) children in that situation? As for the way AI is going - we think things are bad now? 😂 Joseon hell indeed - and we're all headed this way to some degree imo :(

[@PingYJ7750]

As a young Korean raised in America, I genuinely don't get these people. Maybe it's because of the cultural differencwa, but I always thought it is important to get married and settle down so you won't be lonely when you get older and contribute to society by having children

[@kaydkaydkayd]

having children just to “ contribute ” is stupid lol u should only have them if u actually wanna be around them n can provide a nice life for them

[@PingYJ7750]

@@kaydkaydkayd more children = more future adult workers which increases the economy and fills out position within the labor force. However due to people having less children, the workforce has been getting smaller in Korea and there has been serious concerns raised over whose going to pay the pensions for the elderly. If less and less people are working causing the economy to shrink, that in return contributes to decreased revenue for the government which can cripple social services. This is what's happening in france when they raised the pension age from 60 to 62, and the U.S from 65 to 67 because less and less people are replacing the older generation in the work force.

[@create306]

Should a family living in poverty have children so they can "contribute" to society? Should people who are struggling to get by "contribute" to a system that's abusing them in every way?

[@lenas6246]

im imagining you telling your toddler that he will contribute to a pool of workers@@PingYJ7750

[@nicholassimpson518]

They love blurring stuff, don't they?

[@Kiyoone]

NO MONEY = NO LOVE

[@KBKim-jt6uj]

ladys from other countries.. please dont watch Kdrama... it ruined our womens.....

[@mrbungle112loser5]

Make a video of American where most young people don’t live past 20..!!

[@tinatieken8840]

Kids today in Korea know how to plan, most kids in the states do not.

[@darend8896]

Capitalism and western values at its finest...i love it.

[@user-kr5tz5uc7s]

아버지 세대랑 지금 세대는 인종이 다른거 같다 그때는 진짜 거칠고 투지가 있었는데 지금 세대는 충돌을 피함 연애도 피하고 결혼도 피하고 간섭받지 않고 조용히 살려함

[@roserevancroix2308]

If the youth don't want to date then leave them alone, maybe some people have other things in mind, maybe not everyone is just walking genders looking for something to mate with, maybe some people want something different and better with their life's. We don't need more people, we are already over-populated, and we cannot support all the people we have so we don't need more.

[@imtheonehero9305]

Everyone is too worried about looks which makes them selfish. They don't care about anyone but themselves. It's sad but that's the truth about Korea. I really wish Kdramas were real haha.

[@novakattila]

They are all pretty socially awkward. Hard to date when you never really learned to talk to another person and be interested in another person (not just out of politeness)

[@whitecrow20XX]

They put drama standard on their mind at real life relationship. They afraid to face the struggle and sufferings in life especially in relationship. Everything has to be perfect to do things, that is man child problem. Puer aeternus/aeterna.

[@kristinesharp6286]

Once a country is prosperous no one can seem to be happy. It’s greed.

[@jturquoise]

Lol These fools don’t understand “reality “ tv.

[@hojinna6396]

It all comes down to making money.

[@amurika6336]

They have “F Famiy its my life”

[@yyeo__niii]

인간은 지금기로에 서 있습니다 우리는 이제 어떤 길을 가고 싶은지 정해야합니다 여러분은 어떠한 길을 가고 싶으신가요..

[@create306]

Humans are doomed. Just enjoy it while it lasts.

[@kristinesharp6286]

Why are people falling for the deception that they don’t want or should have what they really want, people?

[@flobba123]

dating? I tried online dating writing to like 500 people but that dident work so i have given up.

[@lenasydnetyy]

Online dating is not the way to go. Get out, explore you will meet someone, Lord Willing.

[@felixthecat2786]

This is the saddest documentary I've ever seen. I've never seen so many people who were so apathetic about finding a companion and experiencing affection. In the US both men and women are constantly complaining about how awful the other is and how it turns them off to dating. I don't even see anger in these people. They just don't seem to care either way.

[@yogyal292]

Well some of you don’t want to learn it her cultures or Date outside your Race wish is sad 😢

[@86yuho39]

10:38 공포물로 바뀌는 순간

[@chandraprakashchourase8959]

Is bringing up kids is very costly in korea thatswhy people are not having kids?

[@edilee5909]

I just believe I'm a failed human being so better off rotting by myself, no need to drag anyone with me

[@stephensteele1213]

I love Korean girls because they are so beautiful. How can I get a Korean girlfriend? I don't care north or south

[@create306]

lol

[@karenwang313]

Did you find one yet?

[@pascale17]

It's so sad 😞

[@AlbertPike2025]

코리안 트웬티즈 릴럭턴트 투 데이트. 가 더 적절할듯. . . 하네요

[@themans8226]

Korean people should start listening to Sematary

[@WinsomeTangent]

The singles wedding ceremony was incredibly stupid. Marriage is a very good thing. Committing yourself to a life lived for oneself does not lead to having lead a good life.

[@MapleJokerRofl]

Maybe they should stop being so racist to everybody and pretentious, That could be a good start for them.

[@TheWeirdResearcher]

Didn’t take long before the racism card got pulled …

[@P7ejfjr]

It has nothing to do with racism at all.

[@johnkeen37]

Corrupted politics governors Rich companies most feminist country in the Asia all combined

[@zahrabjinu]

Sad reality.

[@Itskal3]

I don’t know why SBS produced documentaries like this to shoot Korea in the foot. I lived in Korea for over a decade, and it’s literally the “couple capital” of the world. Couples are everywhere dating and mingling!

[@BearingMySeoul]

True but it's changing QUICKLY. All over the world, GenZ isn't participating in all sorts of things these days! The birth rate in Korea is super low which suggests that even those who are married aren't having kids. I'll be curious to see how this all shakes out cuz it doesn't look good!

[@upthedown1]

In that case Japan can get a clue from Korea the couples capital 😉

[@arcticredpanda4598]

The crazy unrealistic expectations that no one can meet. Real life is dull compared to the brightness of Kpop and Kdrama.