Solo Q&A: getting ready for baby girl, family finances and 2nd trimester updates

Solo Q&A: getting ready for baby girl, family finances and 2nd trimester updates | The Real Stuff

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@luciebfink 4 ай бұрын

If you have questions that I didn't cover in the pod, leave 'em down below! And don't forget to send me the Spotify link to your Songfinch songs after you've created them! I'm obsessedddd with the custom song I had made for Allie.🥰 You can go to songfinch.com/REALSTUFF to get started and don't forget to add Spotify Streaming when you're prompted to do so (it's FREE with my link)!!

@sydneybrown9987 4 ай бұрын

I don’t think you can discredit how much Milo gets! My son was 2.5 when his baby brother died and he totally understood the process of pregnancy birth and then death. Now I’m pregnant with our 3rd, and he’s 3.4 almost 4 and totally understands that baby inside mama is his sister etc. they get it! We didn’t have a baby shower the second time around but we DID have a “big brother party” to initiate our son from only child to his new role, and it was so nice. I highly recommend

@luciebfink 4 ай бұрын

aww i love that idea. i'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your child :( sending you all so much love and good vibes in your pregnancy!

@caitlinhulsman380 3 ай бұрын

Sending you love 🤍

@abbyarnold6952 4 ай бұрын

I definitely understand what you mean about providing enough for your baby instead of building an over supply. An oversupply can be a blessing, but it’s SO exhausting! I had never felt so weak and tired in my entire life.

@jj-if6it 4 ай бұрын

Absolutely, getting help from your parents is so helpful and a big bonus is they're able to, close by and willing!

@susanmuses 4 ай бұрын

I'll add to the subset comments. My DIL had SUA with her second child, and he is now a happy, healthy 14-year-old who pitches on his school baseball team, makes straight A's, and plays the piano like a champ. No problems post-partum at all!

@jennyshore7633 4 ай бұрын

Hi Lucie! I personally don't think you need to worry too much about finding a nanny that can take care of both of your children at the same time :) I have experience teaching a class of 10 three year olds and nannying for a 3 month old and a 2 year old and I found nannying much much easier! Sure, the kids were on different schedules, but it really wasn't too hard to manage. I just made sure baby's napping schedule made sense around the toddler's schedule and was able to make it work just fine. Maybe it's because I've never had the ease of caring for just one child, but I really didn't find two to be too difficult at all!

@jj-if6it 4 ай бұрын

I think it's great for siblings to grow up close in age. My sisters and I were all under 5 years, and me and my middle sister are only 17 months apart. But now my oldest sister is having her second child 9.5 years after the first! Sometimes it just happens that way, and siblings are better than no siblings, plus obviously the most important thing is their health.

@morgandevol6218 4 ай бұрын

As a former nanny, there were a few families I nannied for that had multiple kids and a baby (under 1). I’ve been in situations where the baby just gets brought along, and naps in the stroller, and I was also in a situation where the baby would stay with the parents who were at home while they napped. It might also be a possibility for you to have a second nanny who only comes for a short time whenever there needs to be that separation or for unique scheduling days. I’m sure you will find a plan that works for you! 😊

@jj-if6it 4 ай бұрын

This is really informative. You definitely don't want to wake up in the middle of the night if you don't have to!

@birdie6916 4 ай бұрын

I don't know why, but since you announced your second pregnancy, I kept thinking the baby would be named Madison. LOL. Milo and Maddie! Has a nice ring to it. 🤣

@jj-if6it 4 ай бұрын

Charlie is a cute nickname for Charlotte... but it's very popular at the moment! I think it's nice to pick something that's not too common but not too weird

@jessicaseier3657 4 ай бұрын

I’m currently 5.5 months postpartum with my first & I’m struggling envisioning having another. I thought I wanted 3, now I feel like I would be stretching for 2. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience.

@jj-if6it 4 ай бұрын

I wonder if it's true that over time, people forget how hard it was (particularly childbirth) which is an evolutionary way of wanting to have more kids

@meeradave6012 4 ай бұрын

Hi Lucie! Wondering your thoughts on cloth diapers!

@christinahaythorne3633 4 ай бұрын

Clementine is an adorable name!

@jj-if6it 4 ай бұрын

I'm surprised the paternity leave there is so good actually! It's usually lower here in Australia - my best friend is pregnant and she only gets 6 weeks maternity leave through work! Mine is 16... Plus government leave is 22 weeks

@deneanrowe4278 4 ай бұрын

It's so funny to hear your thoughts on the name Clementine. Its quite a common name in France and the UK. Clemmie or Clem are popular nicknames for Clementine as well.

@luciebfink 4 ай бұрын

I LOVE IT lol

@jeanhouse1644 4 ай бұрын

My 3rd one I had such anxiety about birth I said hell no to natural birth and had an epidural

@CR-xh6go 4 ай бұрын

It’s so funny that Michael thinks Clementine isn’t a normal human name but liked Milo. I’ve known several Clementines but only heard Milo as a name for pets before

@luciebfink 4 ай бұрын

lol same!!!!

@jj-if6it 4 ай бұрын

Milo is a popular chocolate milk drink here in Australia

@chelseycoker6058 4 ай бұрын

I had my second 7 months ago. Unpopular opinion but I actually think having 2 is easier than having 1. It’s like my first just needed my second this whole time. The role of older brother mellowed him out a bit. When little brother got here my oldest just scooped him up and they became this little unit. The newborn days are a crap shoot but it can get easier.

@katiebugkm 4 ай бұрын

I am really surprised by the childcare cost in NY city because I live in NH and nanny/daycare costs are much more with huge waitlists.

@lovevelvetbones7507 4 ай бұрын

Hello Lucy! Long time follower here, I adore you! Clementina (the Italian version of Clementine) is a beautiful name and it's particularly used in Florence, where part of my family is from. Such a beautiful name!

@luciebfink 4 ай бұрын

So beautiful!!!!

@jj-if6it 4 ай бұрын

Clementine / Clem is cute. Some KZbinrs named their RV that name though haha

@chelseagow993 4 ай бұрын

Is the baby's name Daisy? I think that would be so cute ❤

@luciebfink 4 ай бұрын

Love that nameeee! We aren't sharing our choice yet but I do love DAISY :)

@SamarkandChan 4 ай бұрын

Have you considered giving birth with a midwife? Seems like it's not the norm in the US. In most countries in Europe at least it's a midwife unless something goes wrong, then a doctor steps in. In norway midwives are medical professionals with five years of university schooling on top of practical work.

@jj-if6it 4 ай бұрын

That's interesting, it's very common here in Australia

@ValerieLF 4 ай бұрын

Same in the UK 🇬🇧 ❤