I was accused of leaving my Kenyan husband to marry a white man in Belgium, here is my truth | LNN

If there is one thing Victoria is unapologetic for, it’s choosing to follow her heart and love who she loves. She knows too well how it feels to marry someone you are not compatible with. She also knows all too well how it feels to marry someone who gets her heart.
On this episode of LNS, she walks us through the tough choices she had to make and why in life, one should never conform
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[@LynnNgugi]

Good morning team LNN What are your thoughts on today's show? You can connect with Victoria through her social handles: Instagram victorianyaga and Facebook VICTORIA NYAGA To share your story with us, send a summary to [e-mail] Thank you so much for watching🙏

[@sr.salomemwendenthiwa414]

Good morning Lynn. Regards. Much love from this side. Pay a visit to Spain🇪🇸. ❤️❤️❤️😘

[@glslatifahnsubuga51]

Good morning too LYNN ❤

[@glslatifahnsubuga51]

Good morning Lynn and everyone nice weekend to you all ❤

[@gladysmoraa4818]

Lynn welcome to America

[@abitu47]

@@gladysmoraa4818 we need her here.

[@PastorEdmundMNgoci]

Victoria challenged me to study when I was in high school. With her brother, Martin, they organised for tuition sessions during school holidays for us. I'm glad she played a part in shaping my life. I wish her well in life and celebrate her.

[@tabbiekyallo8127]

Marrying someone that you are not compatible with is a nightmare

[@elizabethkanyi3004]

Hell fire

[@kanzayire20]

Very true!

[@Day537]

It's mental toture😢

[@chelangatlinet2548]

It's really a nightmare, I have experienced that feeling. One may end up depressed or cheat

[@destinysworld423]

It's hell fire weeee

[@MimiXxx09]

What I love about this is that she didn’t leave her ex husband for being toxic, cheating or violent (like most people usually ask) but because they were not compatible. Also they had communication problems, why force someone who clearly isn’t into the marriage. It doesn’t matter what the reason is. If you are not happy just leave the marriage. Don’t die trying to make the society happy. We only live once, make your life worth living .. waking everyday feeling happy is such a luxury 🥰🥰🥰

[@norahrigha8436]

true

[@user-hd4um8tn9j]

Ma dear we only die once and live everyday, opt for happiness everyday 😊 love from Tanzania

[@agnesndumbi8072]

Ladies need to set their priorities right to avoid getting into relationships then finding out you are not compatible leaving one part broken

[@josephinesuji5900]

I like how Nyawira comes across. She sounds very authentic and real. Also very emotionally mature. I resonate with her mindset and opinions

[@betalife4women]

It's wonderful to listen to a woman who knows exactly what she wants.

[@gracemuriuki6305]

I am one of them. I had to leave with two kids and no regrets at all

[@imperatricekenyuri2040]

I can relate to her story so much but for me, the relationship I left in Kenya before I moved to USA was very abusive and kids were involved which is sad. Thank God that I'm now happy and soon bringing my kids to the US and in a happy relationship. It's true, An ending isn't really an end. It's an opening for a new beginning somewhere.

[@beatricenyaboke8186]

Hope to find my happiness too cz i live with bitterness and regrets..my kids are unhappy too.. really sad😢

[@imperatricekenyuri2040]

@beatricenyaboke8186 I totally know how difficult it is and it's even more sad when kids have to go through what they didn't sign up for. You as a loving parent, should find a way to protect them from the trauma even if leaving the situation will be the only way dear. I hope it's not too hard for you

[@phideliamuhiga3139]

Same here mummy

[@joangichuki3244]

Happy for you

[@lesymalerato]

I like how Victoria took ownership of her own happiness and forgot about the expectations of the society. I admire her so much. The truth is most of us have lost ourselves in the same way and the damage gets bigger the longer you take to free yourself from all this. Thank you Lynn. I am personally working on myself and everyday I wish I could have done it earlier but it is never too late. Even our fellow brothers can learn something out of this. God bless you all

[@fridahkinoti18]

Never stay somewhere you are never happy to please people. There is always a perfect match to everyone. Good work Lynn.

[@maryn7609]

I was married to a Mr.Kinuthia Ndegwa i tried to hold even when things were getting worse, I stayed coz"A good wife builds her house"kind of a thing,endured physical,emotional abuse,unfaithfulness but when I left i went back to school abroad and currently dating a white guy and I can't ask for more,atleast for once in life I feel loved appreciated and at the same time pursuing my career!!!!!

[@teejayangel6638]

Good for you!👏👏👏

[@margaretsyombua9208]

Am happy for you gal go go go

[@sonyia7521]

Wah😮 umemtambua na majina yake yote, are you really healed?😂

[@jullieisaac4868]

😂😂😂😂 remind me of Andrew kibe how he call them Nganuthia

[@wehavebeen7450]

@@sonyia7521 I think the name is generic not his real name.

[@hellenmaina3045]

I like this lady's school of thought.She knows who she is and what she wants.Nyinyi wengine endeleeni kulazimisha mapenzi alafu mnauana.

[@chikugetao9198]

😂😂😂 ati nyi wengine muendelee kuforce issues hadi wafanye nini

[@hellenmaina3045]

@@chikugetao9198 😂mtu akiachwa anawachika,asiue mtu amemkataa

[@michaelrapando6658]

But ready to be white man's maid

[@hellenmaina3045]

@@michaelrapando6658 read my comment to understand

[@brilliantmind9729]

​@@michaelrapando6658 kaskie vibaya uko kwenu

[@lucymaina5908]

She listened to her inner feelings and acted right to walk out.❤

[@mwendapoleee]

Yes before she got children cause kids need both parents,I hated it seeing my parents fight and being caught in the middle.

[@counselingtips]

Perfectly put. Wise and intelligent woman I can attest too.

[@naxiz_kenya2805]

Sounds great. Do such rules apply to men coz I feel like men would have been demonized in circumstances like this.

[@counselingtips]

@@naxiz_kenya2805 it applies in relationships either way(men or women). It's about self-care resulting from conscience.

[@esthergithogori2930]

Being with or married to somebody whom you are not compatible is the worst thing. Love this ❤. Thank you Lynn.

[@michaelrapando6658]

But never incompatible with the colonizers

[@jackiegakure1052]

True

[@maryanneatienootieno1413]

Am actually in the situation right now

[@esthergithogori2930]

@@maryanneatienootieno1413 may you find yourself and find peace and finally follow your heart dear.❤️

[@puritygikaria2830]

Some of these comments clearly show why there is such a rise in murder suicide marriages, if u dont feel complete in the marriage you are in, leave like she did and move on. Let the man find a woman that complements him fully.

[@homeoffavours]

Exactly , let people talk , what matters is yourself

[@hellenkariuki8544]

She has such a calm demeanor and really straightforward,knows what she wants. She made a good decision...hii African mentality ya kuvimilia kwa ndoa and it's not working has affected many. Being content and Happy in marriage also contributes to raising a healthy family.

[@gracekiondo2541]

Mpaka mtu anatolewa macho ndio anaamua kuondoka kwenye ndoa!

[@biancamoyo9795]

I see myself in her personality, I am going through this right now. Thank you Lynn for this interview. I feel justified and today I have made my decision and it feels so good💃🏽

[@sandraraini6195]

How can a young man burry himself in business to an extent of not visiting a newly wedded wife in Belgium?????????!

[@faithrehema4767]

My question too

[@TheRubymark]

Exactly……that right there was a red flag 🚩

[@wehavebeen7450]

This story is very easy for me to understand, she got married to the Kenyan man because she was going abroad though there were compatibility issues. He was enjoying the financial support she was giving but he was not supportive of her dream. She knew in her mind the marriage was just on the paper. She is accomplished so she does not need a man to support her, the fact that she got one along the way is a good thing. Ladies get a man who is supportive of your dreams. It seems she has both.

[@r.q5194]

I wouldn't put it any better. I consider myself one lucky woman. I too was newly married when I went to pursue my master's in Belgium through a full scholarship my hubby is my number one support system he was super supportive of me following my dreams was done came back to Kenya worked abit then got a PhD scholarship in Germany still my hubby was my number one supporter he never felt intimidated at any point because of my career progress

[@kaykay5605]

Typical kenyan mentality

[@michaelrapando6658]

​@@r.q5194 most women are hard headed when they become successful

[@r.q5194]

@@michaelrapando6658 It all depends with one's character. Despite all that I have achieved careerwise my hubby is still the head of our home like the way it should be and so he leads and I follow his lead.

[@trishmncube3384]

Well explained… lm still in Africa… met my husband while my business was just starting and didn’t make sense… he has supported me through and through and yes compatibility and aligned interests is the biggest part of a successful relationship

[@faithkavutha3141]

First one leo nipewe likes

[@elizabethmwangi9342]

Aki inconsistency kills love... what happens when your partner says things and never keeps any of them,,, each day you grow further away 😢

[@beatricenyaboke8186]

Exactly..trust fades n loves "Runs away "..

[@cutie4766]

I have dated both black and white men and i can proudly say, if you are a strong minded woman who want to be independent despite being married then just marry a white guy😁.

[@fridahkarimi5510]

True 😊

[@mareshalite]

Very true

[@reginahenry513]

I support this

[@ednahchirchir1924]

True. Most African men are insecure of a woman with a strong mind or principles bcoz they feel undermined or not having enough authority over her. They want a woman who follows their orders without questions. The few who accept it are called "weaklings" or they have been sat on but they don't care as long as they are happy.

[@naaguebarry]

You mean black men are dense?

[@Goshenite.]

The Dutch Accent waaa.I love her educational background.she put herself first.zingine next 🔑

[@julietdumas2356]

She is a very honest lady and down to earth. Thank you for believing in who you want to be

[@leonalee392]

This Lady is open minded, intelligent, true and honest to herself...her mind set is on another level....i love the interview 😀

[@shironjuguna5853]

Those who can't get their heads around her accent, it's very simple; her primary language is Dutch NOT English, and thus the heavy accent. Kitu kidogo...let's get over it and listen to the heart of the story ☺️☺️

[@kigendawafula3109]

But uni was kenya and we speak proper english..😂

[@murugiwangai5496]

@@kigendawafula3109 true

[@proudmganda1159]

It’s only a fool who complains about other people’s accent.

[@janetshiku186]

​@@kigendawafula3109 If you had been to Britain, you would know the English you were taught in Kenya is fake

[@naomwambui257]

Shiro Njuguna am actually enjoying it.. sounds soo sweet

[@stargate356]

i like the way she is naturally simple , no makeups

[@nabaddashamim4025]

Not all endings r failures. Thank you Victoria for owning your story. Thank you Lynn..Much love from uganda

[@nancydavid4421]

I found this conversation very profound. Victoria is quite sound and an independent thinker. I have learned a lot. Thank you Lynn for the amazing work you are doing 👏.

[@damariswanjiku913]

If all women would be this mentally independent, and clear with what they want in life and relationships, then we would have less single parents and less cases of couples killing each other. Just dont settle for less because it will cost you in the long run.... Good job Lynn

[@wgracewangui4879]

I love your thinking

[@sylvia2798]

Hallelujah!

[@annesitati7246]

Some African women love suffering. They love being treated as second-rate objects, they're happy when they're enslaved and beaten and walked on. They hate peace and progress. Yes, they're "submissive." In a nutshell, I love your proposition, Damaris. If only.....

[@JoyKobilo]

A KZbin notification from LNN is enough to brighten my day,. Lynn you are amazing,

[@LynnNgugi]

Love you!!❤

[@Adm9464]

If a man says to a woman @just decide what you want to do with your life” , obviously it’s over. I am glad you did what was right for you sister. You never let yourself down as you have a life and your children are precious. I could see that bad sign coming from him.

[@lucywachira3056]

We speak about the American accent,this one really got the bug of the Dutch accent.shes a strong woman and love her story.knowing what she wants and going by it.

[@tombimashri8149]

I understand her perfectly, am a people person I guess

[@ruthwambua5511]

everyone needs genuine love , I am a victim of living with a man who I have no feelings for and I sense he doesn't love me too , let me say it's not easy

[@lizzywriter]

yeah it's not easy

[@homeoffavours]

Its hell , jipange polepole , everyone and anything needs love

[@gracewangeci7471]

Me too

[@christinemoraa5657]

My situation TOO

[@njokindungu313]

Jipange you need love,life is short.

[@cathybt]

I'll never understand how people forget that we only have one life to live, therefore it should be a worthwhile one with happiness of of course

[@adventuresofmarie]

WOW! Another online dating success story!!! Your happiness is key no matter what

[@Sindi63084]

You are a wise lady. I stayed for 25 years with a man who spoke to me only one sentence which was always a question; 'where's my food?, are my shirts ironed? Did you do what I told to do? ' that kinda thing! Eventually I left.

[@perisndirangu1280]

Wow

[@KuiWaKamau]

Weuh! As a divorcees, but the other way round (divorced a mzungu & got kids with an Afrikan) sema rejection from family & friends 😢 I know how she feels. #FollowWithHeart #LoveAlwaysWin ❤🙏🏾✅🌻

[@LynnNgugi]

Sending you more love and light🙏

[@gw7768]

Waa these two girls are naturally beautiful. And I like that Lynn is still Lynn with light makeup.....good girls 😊👍👍 The path Victoria is describing is one most Kenyans esp Nairobians don't comprehend...they think they do but they don't. And the ideology of 'fighting for your marriage' is a very Kenyan thing even when the situation doesn't justify nor defend it.

[@LynnNgugi]

Thank you❤

[@orglasworld]

Its all of Africa i guess 😢which is sad coz why force things.If its not working ,its not working period!!!Fight for what is worth not what is non existant !

[@rosekoboge9766]

Well stated❤

[@piahatieno1248]

@@orglasworld That's it. If it's not working it's not working period. One should reflect and move on

[@MaryMuhura]

This is one brilliant, strong and courageous lady. She has bravely followed her heart (intuition) and simply her God given common sense. She did not waste her years fighting the wrong battles - She knows her self worth and She fought an inner battle to flourish and become who she envisioned to be. She refused to lie to herself, faced her truth and made decisions that has led her to this positive and uplifting story. Kudos and all the best.

[@queendeborah2821]

I luv the line...'she FOUGHT an inner battle to flourish and BECOME who SHE envisioned.

[@christinewavinya3978]

I was married at 16 and divorced at 21😢its not because he was physically abusive but thats not the kind of life i wanted for my dearself😉im now chasing my dreams and loving it,

[@mariabaemedi3326]

My take was, you may have lost everything but as long as you have a will to move on, things will work out for you. Thank you Lynn for bringing Victoria on the show.

[@Carolina_James254]

She is so composed ,i love that about her ❤am glad she chose herself no matter what people will think 🤔

[@beckychepngetich758]

I love how she is explaining everything.

[@geraldinfenti5422]

Same

[@cmg8683]

She’s intelligent

[@jjkui4535]

Blow by blow account of everything

[@jjkui4535]

MATE is my new name for partner. Can my mate locate me ooooooo abeg

[@njokikinyanjui8504]

@@jjkui4535 pokea nyota

[@milliemillen1131]

The man was good, not abusive as she's said, just that you didn't have exposure and once you were out you discovered yourself and what you want to go for ..... It's good you both realised quite early and I hope he's doing well wherever he is❤❤❤

[@proudmganda1159]

So where 3 in this marriage? Let’s learn to say more about other individuals’ mental health wellbeing ‘

[@milliemillen1131]

@@proudmganda1159 what do you mean

[@kadogo7712]

Why marry racist whites . Kenya women have this terrible reputation of marrying whites . As white people on the right talk about genocide , I subscribe to that. You are literally destroying your own race by blindly mixing it with those who funked up your country. I'm really glad that this obsession is not in my country women .

[@alicewangui9656]

My high school mate..you were very sharp in school and athletic too....you haven't aged at all.Looking good,all the best in marriage.

[@counselingtips]

Listening at this beautiful Kenyan woman with exceptional narrating skills one can't help but admire the parenting skills some children gets exposed to. "Because I don't like makeup....", is there any lady listening out there? It's rare to find a simple, beautiful and intentional natural skin woman telling her story in a composed demeanour and masterly of English. I wish today's generation can listen to Victoria in meaning and intention. Men look for such ladies for marriage. Ladies, learn something about the secrets of "What men really want in a woman...." These are the two expectations from men-Natural beauty and exceptional humility. Victoria is visionary and a personal with values and value to bring to the marriage @50-50% that where that marriage fails, property can easily be awarded at fifty-fifty. Don't bring nothing to the table and expect everything or half contribution. Victorias are rare today. Thanks Lynn for this show and by the way you look exclusively beautiful and smart in that outfit👏.

[@justbeingme3075]

So what happened to her first husband that he couldn’t keep her? Please let women be, marriage is not the ultimate goal but happiness. Dear women, go to places where you are loved and appreciated the way you are, make up or not. Teach men how to be good husbands too please.

[@annemuchunu4807]

Very intelligent woman. I am marveled by her smart way of thinking about her future at a very young age and shaping it. May God continue to guide her. Another great episode Lynn. Keep them coming. Love you.❤Cant wait to have you here in the USA. I will host you. 🙏🏼

[@perisonyambu]

A young woman with a smart mindset on how to find your true love....she tells us all that matters is your happiness....Kudos Victoria

[@lindahvusha3790]

Now this is opening up, great interview, great lessons she's well expressed. I like it when they come on the show and open up this much without tarnishing the other partner but also making us understand well what exactly happened from there side and how they feel. Sio the other lady who we hosted juzi na akakatalia info akakua tu motivational speaker 😅

[@nancie_daisy3213]

😂😂wee wacha

[@LynnNgugi]

Wewe Lindah sasa ungeachia tu hapo kwa feel but umeamua kuongeza vayolence🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@wairimu625]

Mgani huyo 😂😂

[@Waithiramburu]

@linda mgani? is it mwenye alikaa na boyfriend for 17 years?

[@mummylexie]

kumbe si mm tu niliona hivyo😂😂😂😂

[@mikekiguta724]

Good to know that there are other Kenyans there who are statisticians. I pursued a graduate degree in statistics in the USA and do not regret it. Victoria's personal story is also very inspiring as well. Compatibility is very important a in relationship and who are we to judge someone else's choices as they pursue hapiness. Thanks for sharing

[@tebogomakhetha3524]

What I like about this Lady,she's a down to earth person. What a lovely soul

[@nanynkechinyere-nkechi510]

She's naturally beautiful 😍 and comes across as emotional mature. Once one knows thyself don't waste time. Do you sis .... 💃🏾

[@counselingtips]

Lynn can you get more of this type of guests to impact marriages more? Marriage is no longer interesting. Victoria has brought out many issues or tips that can impact a lot to today's couples-" it doesn't matter who brings out how much money, but its more on how you compliment each other "Masterpiece!!

[@sonikariuki1884]

I don't think people understand that in a lot of African homes, we are devoid of affection. And sometimes (but not all the time) we are also devoid of love. When you're out there in the world and strangers don't shy away from telling you they love you and appreciate you, it changes your whole perspective of life and love. And then you realize that it's normal for them and that's how they communicated with their family growing up. I personally would love that for my children, African as they may be. And so should you.

[@watchman1thewaycher169]

You haven't lived abroad. There is no affection abroad.

[@jaynen6243]

"LIFE IS A CHOICE THAT IS FOLLOWED BY YOUR OWN DECISION THAT LEADS TO YOUR DESTINY" Congratulations Victoria for "BEING YOU" and listening to your heart. You sounds just like me. I follow my heart and not worrying of the society opinions. Wishing you all the best and Abundant Blessingsto your family and your future. We need many Victorias to listen and make the right decisions according to their observations and their views towards life.

[@tombimashri8149]

Truth

[@martharinebiseko1457]

You are very brilliant. You are calm yet with a strong personality. You speak English eloquently yet with a Dutch accent so I guess you are quite good at Dutch too. And detailed... Enjoy yr life. Love must be reciprocated

[@user-yz4lc7ih6f]

Thank both for the inclusiveness. Understanding that this is a Kenyan show it shouldn’t be assumed that all supporters of the LNS platform are from Kenya and or speak Swahili. It makes it hard to follow the stories when the guests switch languages right in the middle of the narrative.

[@janekiratu5342]

Wow... she's so goal oriented and so grounded.

[@annnaliaka3830]

I feel that just isolating "God hates divorce" is not right and simplistic! We already make mistakes in deciding whom we marry before we know them well enough. Let us not blame God for our own mistakes. And let us ask God for wisdom !

[@sihledlamini.m8628]

I'm in swaziland 🇸🇿 and I'm very happy to see such an amazing nd strong lady...your happiness comes first ....if doesn't save u just let it go....if u not at peace just choose u..not even what our parents used to say..they are staying in an abusive marriage just for the kids but truth of th matter is u teaching your kids tht it's OK to be abused...so I just love this lady she really stood up for her self no matter what the society is say..coz at th end of th day u matter nd u come first...I really wish to share my story one day with u.....God bless u all for th wonderful job....

[@nyongesafranciswandera162]

Swaziland ulienda through which way?

[@VanNyaimbo]

Am glad to know that she’s happy and that she chose herself as God intended for her to.

[@DD0504]

My take is again self-awareness! She rushed into this thing called marriage per where she was, and the expectations of her society. ( African standards). Then she happens to travel out of the environment/country, discovered herself as she got exposed to "there's more to our local standards, and it's ok to be happy and want the best for yourself." Even when you don't get to travel outside, take time to discover you, your potentials, and what you like/love, what you don't like, what makes you happy, your dreams. Take time to be with you, date you, love you, heal you, and build you especially mentally and if possible physically before extending to the other person. Let it be your choices and decisions and not circumstances, beliefs, and society expectations.🤷‍♀️ And ofcourse GOD being at the front and center of it All, the Source!

[@jlmchannel5579]

Happines ,peace of mind is what we all want . Right? Happy for her❤

[@dankinuthia3886]

Am I the only one who sees Lynn and the guest resemble each other like sisters?

[@joemaina]

This is so encouraging.You have to be happy in all aspects but unfortunately, most of us fail terribly on this.

[@estherynyagawa6839]

Lynn - the Bible is very specific "alichokiunganisha Mungu, mwanadamu asikitenganishe". Swali ni kwamba are you sure ni Mungu ndiye aliyewaunganisha? Mnapotafuta mchumba na kufunga ndoa you don't consult God, then kikiumana mnasema ni Mungu aliwaunganisha! Ukweli ni kwamba mlijiunganisha wenyewe sio Mungu. Naamini talaka sio sahihi kwa waliounganishwa na Mungu, meaning Mungu akuthibitishie huyo ndio mwenzi wako kabla hamjafunga ndoa. Kuna njia nyingi za kuwasiliana na Mungu. Mpe Mungu nafasi kwenye maisha yako.

[@mercyatira9206]

What if you are already married to non believer

[@lydiawaweru2307]

I love how composed, humble,simple Victoria is...her story is so inspiring and educating...she has a very amazing family. Thanks Lynn for the wonderful show🤗

[@teejayangel6638]

Beautiful! You do you girl. Be with that person who loves you in every way. Don't let your villagers hold down your dreams and squeeze your boundaries in a dot.

[@marymugo3306]

Aki Lynn just know that we love you soo much may God continue to bless you and expand your territories ❤

[@agribongahub]

I was in such a situation... though not married in April I let go. .... great learning from the episodes.

[@sharonadongo2573]

I feel so miserable in this marriage that i am into.. and i would really love to get myself out... and even just writing this, it takes a lot of courage. I need help..

[@philliceatieno9165]

Same here

[@mirriammutuku715]

Sorry.

[@highlandssuites8255]

May GOD guide you in every step and his will prevail

[@eliciphanjuguna4605]

Nyawira is so positive… the episode is such a breath of fresh air!

[@SloMotherapy]

I like her eloquence and clear expression of mind and soul... very intelligent kiudu educated 😁😁

[@user-jp3ri5sv5u]

What a privilege to hear this, what God has blessed no man can destroy 🎉🎉

[@Leah.ngunyi]

This is amazing Vicky,you have represented us well in Belgium ❤

[@maishafrance96]

Victoria is intelligent and knows what she wants, she found her right match❤️

[@judyroth5461]

Congrats to Victoria ..ooh ha paper work in majuu ningori sana hakuna hongo za kiafrika bana🫣😂😂😂😂🌞🌞🌞🥂🥂

[@rosamariewanjiru8659]

My take. As long as you can work don't be afraid to leave what is lost and start all over again. I need this right now. Thank you nyawira.

[@mareshalite]

It's not about color it's about compatibility currently dating a beautiful soul from Netherlands and I have dated both colors of people it's who you click with

[@ladysafari01]

I think Kenyans in general have a completely distorted view of dating hence getting themselves tangled in marriage with a wrong person. Dating should be a period where you get to spend short periods of time with 2 to 3 people with the intent of going steady with one of them. At this stage they are not your boyfriend, it's an interview/ elimination process, so no commitment, no physical relations, just observation and lots of questions for several months to a year. This will help you determine the compatibility question too. Once you find the most suitable mate at that point you can decide to get to know each other with the intent of marriage; I would advise seeking counseling even if you are not engaged, group dates with like couples, get an older married couple as mentors, this is not the time to act like you are married but to be more thorough in your investigation coz it's down to the wire. Fo you support each other's goals? Ask the tough questions- What if you don't get kids- how would you react? What if you got disabled? What if one person was transferred to a different city or country for work? If you both agree then you can proceed to the next step... because marriage is a daily commitment for better or for worse.( Except any abuse- Walk away) Remember your happiness is not contingent on the other person. If you are not happy all by yourself - Quit dating and work on yourself first.

[@carolinecongo1179]

Is it really a Kenyan thing or a Human thing ??

[@wanyagahostrich2443]

God hate divorce but not divorcee,compatibility is all matters my dear 🙏your happiness ,joy n living your life is all matters 🙏🙏

[@childofgod310]

Guys this story has really encouraged me , i am in the same situation you was right now but mine is worse because i discorved i am pregnant for him when i was about to tell him its over ...now i have to stay with him because of pregnancy and am not financially stable ...i felt bad because i wanted to settle with my boyfriend who is in canada write now but we have been on and off ...i feel my life is messy but there is God of another chance....if i ever get a chance to walk away i will do without any regret...my man doesn't harrase me but we are not compatible

[@elizabethmwihaki5816]

Stop worrying

[@childofgod310]

@@elizabethmwihaki5816I will not worry my dear,, God is giving me grace day by day

[@nyongesafranciswandera162]

​@childofgod310 what is " we are not compatible"

[@janetday5431]

This lady is very smart, it was never going to work, I tried for 19yrs,I stayed for my kids,😢 it never got better. I'm happy alone.

[@donnawelch7306]

New subscriber from Guyana 🇬🇾 South America. I listened to Victoria's story and I'm amazed at her intellect, honesty and humility. Thanks for sharing this with us 🙏

[@priscillaw1813]

People used to divorce because they were unhappy, now we do it because we can happier😮

[@stellarombe9614]

That is a good parting short "listen to God and what makes sense to u".

[@pinkymoffat1608]

These woman is brilliant. She knows her worth. No one should point a finger to her at all. The ex was not challenging e had fears to merry such an open spirit. These sister has moral brave. But hei good decision she made. Am happy for her. She never wanted to carry a bargain man. That man I would also don't want him to be my baggage. God bless sister. Stay happy embrace life God gave you. 🙏🙏🙌That is Grace 🇿🇦🇿🇦

[@agnesnjeri8402]

Good morning fam🥰🥰 another day to learn something.. Lynn we are always here for what you got for us 💖

[@marynjunge9243]

Go on talking my dear, it's a good therapy. When I lost my son at 27 years after graduating as a doctor, I used to pick his story at any point of conversation even where didn't fit. At one point my daughter told me that talking about my late son is my therapy. Whenever I talk about it I felt is like a burden shared. Talk, talk until it's more comes in. Healing is gradual and different steps. It's had to forget but pain and tears gets lesser and lesser. Take it easy one day at a time.

[@anastasiawamaitha3167]

I can’t help noticing the accent. Without looking you would think it’s a philipina talking. Coincidence ❤

[@esta2004]

Dutch accent when speaking English

[@teejayangel6638]

@@esta2004 yes, dutch/European not asian.

[@mponisiyinhlamongwe2846]

She seem like a very down to earth woman and kind hearted❤❤ ❤ something she said that unsettled me though.. she mentioned that she has read the Bible so much but tue Bible is not some novel or book that can just be read nd put away..I'd like to encourage you my beloved sister to continue studying the Word of GOD because each da you study it the LORD GOD reveal new things to you😭 please do not stop studying the word of GOD 🔥🔥🔥 I love your humble nature may the LORD GOD strengthens you🙏

[@rosamariewanjiru8659]

I love her accent. I can listen to her for 8hrs straight

[@perisndirangu1280]

Dutch accent

[@catherinek3409]

Very intelligent lady, she seems to have been born with an old soul. I wish I stood up for what I want in life.

[@carolinecongo1179]

Ati born with an old soul. What does that mean ?😂😅

[@catherinek3409]

@@carolinecongo1179 There are children who seem so mature like they have lived longer than their actual years.

[@nyaweez2020]

She's definitely melancholic... And Catherine it's never too late to change. To choose life

[@soniaroyals]

Me taking notes from her❤she's soo intelligent...its always good to put yourself first choosing you over everything

[@1on1withjune81]

Oh my goodness I conquer about getting a divorce in Kenya, the hoops one has to jump... it's a real character development process

[@dckamwesh7434]

I think the issue here is long distance relationship and not compatibility. Long distance relationship are very hard to maintain. One gets lonely.

[@africandialogues]

I know this Lady. She is from around my town. Did statistics, got a Masters scholarship in Belgium. That when she fell out with her bf from 1st year undergraduate University at UoN. She would later meet this man.

[@esthercindy1712]

@Lyn Ngugi, make sure you eat Belgian chocolates especially the pralines. I salute Victoria for discovering her worth and doing something about it. This shows a lot of maturity. I wish her and her family all the best in everything they set their mind to.

[@kattymen237]

I needed this. I have been feeling guilty for leaving my previous boyfriend for similar reasons especially for compatibility. I knew we were not compatible but 2 years later I still felt guilty. Her story really helped me to breathe move on and it doesn't mean I'm a bad person because I left. Her story helped a lot. Love from SA.

[@leonardkinyua2524]

Does it mean the man had to leave his business in Nairobi to follow her to Belgium so that their interests could align 😅😅😅that means she wanted to force the husband to fit within her interests without caring for his interests. Marriage is about compromising for each other and finding neutral ground for the as you chase individual interests. It's not given that you will get a partner who has same interest as you, love is what binds you, and also giving each other free space to thrive in their interests.