MAKE-OUTS AND MISTAKES | Let's Talk About Hook-ups

[@justmorganandmakeup]

the noises at the beginning make me so satisfied

[@jialeiq.7026]

Same. May I suggest you to watch or rather listen to some asmr videos?

[@luuluuxd]

Jialei Q. ^

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Just don't watch trisha paytas' kidnapping ASMR video though.... A bit weird

[@abbyt2093]

Oh my god same! It's called ASMR! you should definitely give it a try!

[@hiheidz]

love how candid you are on camera.

[@hiheidz]

i live for your advice videos x

[@meghanhughes]

god i love u

[@makeupbymichelleeicher5176]

Meghan I love you!!!

[@malusisti]

MAKE A VIDEO TOGETHER please!! u are 2 beautiful little stars in my sky

[@jadeb5862]

Please do a pizza talk together

[@samanthaswonderland1319]

Meghan Hughes HelloKaty Please make a collab! You guys would be so great together!

[@Akankshabak]

Which song is this???

[@Hilarynicolee]

Thanks for your honesty! I'm also very glad that you don't friends with benefits shame, so many people look down on it but it's not a bad thing for a lot of people!

[@elizabethahren]

Hilarynicolee yesss

[@AnnabelleSabourin]

Right?!

[@garndt]

I'm still in high school (going into senior year) and I have yet to have a real relationship. I think it's because I'm not confident with my body or my exterior at all, but sometimes I think it's about my interior and because I'm bland and hard to click with. I'm worried that I'm missing out on opportunities to have a good time with guys because I'm so cold to myself. Has anyone encountered any similar experiences?

[@paulikonfire3]

I'm exactly like you described yourself! Sometimes I wonder if there's something wrong with me and I don't know why it's so difficult for me to connect with people specially guys. I totally feel u

[@RocketPuppy1]

Yes. We are in the same boat :/

[@MissMakeupBlondie]

I am the exact same

[@georgia4404]

Trust me, focus on your school first. It's your future, the guy you date at 17 probably won't be your future. If something comes up, great! If it doesn't, don't be disheartened! Someday soon a someone will walk into your life and love you regardless of your exterior/insecurities. Teenage boys are pigs anyway 😜😜

[@kballetbeauty]

Gina Kameron Like me, there are lots of girls in this situation. It has nothing to do with you, or how you look, or how your personality is. The right guy will come around loving everything about you, inside & out! Just give it time, I'm 19 and still feel like I'm stuck in this situation. Just be yourself and you will eventually find your guy ;D

[@lovelyanna0]

I saw a quote on tumblr and I think it applies here, "Why regret something you once wanted". Your mistakes don't define you, and you're not less of a person for them !! Loved this video Katy❤️

[@Vanessa-bt5vf]

"I've seen plenty of friends with benefits movies to know exactly how to handle this" lmao Katy I love you

[@saraluzpg4258]

In my opinion, I like hookups, because I'm a practical person I don't like texts or calls or being jealous of someone (I'm not very romantic person), but you have to be strong for that shit bc if you don't control your emotions you can get REALLY hurt. But you know, it's fun when you don't have time for a relationship and you just wanna have a good time. I mean, the sexual life of a woman doesn't define her personality at all.

[@kaileyanderson]

your videos are always perfect and always so honest. you're such a role model to me, as well as other girls that watch your videos!

[@lashexpresso]

I think it's so important for people to remember not to compare their journey to someone else's journey, whether that be in life or in love. Everyone leads a different path when it comes to finding love and especially with finding themselves.

[@hannahr1304]

Agree!! XX

[@AnnabelleSabourin]

I feel extremely lucky because I hooked up with a guy during the first week of my freshman year, and we were friends with benefits for two months before becoming a couple. We've been officially together for almost 9 months now and I think what made it so easy and perfect was that I didn't get involved with him with any expectation. I was attracted to him, he was attracted to me, and we both respected each other. I think that's the most important part. You can have friends with benefits but pleeeease, don't be with someone if you don't feel respected by them. Great video Katy!

[@nishatnguyen]

SO GLAD YOU ARE SO REAL IN THIS. Way to open up and be honest. Thanks for sharing your true feelings. Any judgement regarding the FWB thing is on the part of the viewer, not you.

[@brittanyngia]

your filming is the most professional thing ever. literally the intro could've been the start of a movie. and thank you for talking about the most awkward things 💕

[@vchristie6088]

You are the most genuine KZbinr :) Every video seems like honest advice to your girlfriends or younger sister. It is so raw and I think every girl needs to watch your videos. Love you, Katy xo :)

[@marianareis8106]

That first comment about your family and the fact that u don't have a boyfriend... I GET IT PERFECTLY! Do they want me to randomly date the first guy I see outside? It's not like I'm that picky. It's just not happening now. Who needs that kind of pressure? Thanks for all the honesty, girl!

[@anavfv]

can we talk about how much of an amazing person Katy is? She is my dream big sister

[@malirose2684]

Can I just thank you for being the only original KZbinr😍

[@MaddieMercer]

love how real katy is ❤

[@LoverlyHanna]

I love how your human... I feel like every one on KZbin pretends to be perfect. But you don't, and you tell it as it is. Love you Katy!!

[@junelaffey366]

This has to be one of the best videos you've ever done. Thank you for opening up about the stigma of hooking up and FWB. Both have gotten such bad reputations, but you have a very unbiased viewpoint. Thank you Katy!

[@kimboisvert7243]

chit chat katy videos are the best katy videos

[@BlondeBeautyxo24]

My problem is that I don't have any of these issues. I block out all guys and I guess would consider myself 'scared' of them. I don't talk to them, leading to not much interaction with any, feeling ashamed of myself for not having a guy to at least talk to later on. My best friend always seems to be talking to a new guy because she is good with them (aka she's a huge flirt) and I am beyond jealous. I know boys don't define me, but it would be nice to not chicken out. I wish my personality around my friends would open up when I am around guys. Any advice?

[@courtland6227]

BlondeBeautyxo24 I'm going through a similar situation. Most of my friends are in serious relationships and I can't even talk to a guy. I think a lot of it has to do with lack of self confidence. Don't be ashamed about not being able to interact with guys because you're definitely not alone in this. Have you tried talking to your friend about it? Sorry, this isn't really advice. I feel exactly the same way. It's not an easy road. I wish you well :)

[@TheBieberworldxo]

I'm exactly like that! I always freeze up around guys and my friends talk so easily with them. I usually just smile and nod when they're talking to them, which doesn't really get me anywhere!

[@helloitsdenisse]

How old are you? Im pretty flirty with guys but when it comes to actually dating one I literally get so scared I have gotten hurt before so I think thats why i like that, im so scared to be disappointed im 19 and I feel like almost all of the guys expect me to have sex and you know but I havent even been in a relattionship I really regret not dating when I was younger and not be afraid of all of these now it aucks im sure I will be single forever Thats why I have considered just giving up

[@courtland6227]

helloitsdenisse I'm 23 and it feels like everyone I know is either engaged or casually dating. I kind of regret not dating in college but unfortunately, I can't go back. You're definitely not gonna be single forever! You're still young! My friends always tell me that it'll happen when you least expect it. I hope that's true lol. #foreveralone

[@mendi3395]

BlondeBeautyxo24 Ugh me too. I'm so awkward around guys....I thought I would get better when I got to college...nah. I'm seriously scared that I'll be foreveralone.

[@martoniatilla3864]

Loved this video so much! So relatable, I'm the same age as you and I love hearing people going through similar situations. What I've learned is that boys our age (high school, starting college) are still maturing. They're not all looking for girlfriends like girls are looking for boyfriends. But with that being said it's totally okay to hook up with boys like they hook up with girls! When something good comes around you will know it. JUST DO YOU we are all still so young!!

[@emilysmith1736]

you're amazing katy. beautiful, intelligent, but still so relatable. i just started college and hook-up culture is so real -- even in high school. when you were talking about turning your feelings off, it made me realize i was doing that too, and i still am. i almost started crying because i didnt realize how big of a deal it was. thank you so much for your incredible videos. you inspire me everyday.

[@maddietsou2776]

I just finished my first year of college and saw these kinds of problems everywhere throughout the year. I think it's awesome that you're so open and willing to honestly talk about problems like these that a lot of people pretend don't exist. Love your videos! ❤️

[@user-zo2yb5cl3l]

Thank you so much for posting this! The hookup culture is so real and you hit the nail on the head with this one. The culture has affected me and so many others in some of the same ways you mentioned in the video. It is something that I am still struggling with, but hearing you talk about it motivates me to seek for happiness from myself, rather than boys. I really appreciate you talking about this openly and honestly.

[@tiairrascott7993]

I love that you're not trying to put up a front and pretend to be perfect like a lot of other KZbinrs. You're human and you make mistakes. It makes you so relatable! 😊

[@CrazyBeautyBaby1]

I seriously love how you film your videos Katy! And your content is so helpful, unique and inspiring!

[@chinsanpigs]

A HELLO KATY VIDEO ON MONDAY!! WHAT IS THIS SORCERY

[@simply.meriee]

I love how honest you are. Don't stop being you, no matter what anyone says.

[@musiccrazy5678]

In my opinion, I think hooking up and FWB is a bunch of crap. Not only does it hurt you emotionally, it causes the guy to see you as nothing but a sexual object. They won't respect you, so don't expect them to call. It's best to respect yourself and your body. Who cares what everyone else is doing?

[@carliemichelle19]

It all depends on the person. To me if you hookup with someone with zero expectations and realize it's just for fun it's not a big deal. You could easily spin it and say that guys are only seen as sexual objects in hookups because hookups are meant to be purely physical. It's a bit rude and presumptuous to say that you don't respect your body if you hookup when that's really not the case at all.

[@webkinzcpgirl209]

I think FWB depends on the person you are. It has nothing to do with respecting yourself, what you do with your body is your choice and it doesn't define self respect. Some people just prefer different things. Personally, I can't do it because I'd rather a relationship but I know people who are happy with it. It's just a matter of preference, either or is fine and its nothing to look down on.

[@queenvictoria833]

ok you are wRoNg lol. the guy doesn't always see the woman as an object (although that does happen a lot) sometimes it is completely respectful and just physical. probably the only reason why you would get hurt emotionally is because you catch feelings, which is TOTALLY 100% ON YOU because YOU control your decisions and you decided to start this with the other person knowing that you might/will begin to have feelings for them. (guy or girl) also, most people don't do it because its a "trend" they do it because they want sex. period. and if someone is doing it for some sort of fulfillment or bullshit then that's on them. sorry about my rant i just needed to express my opinion haha.

[@anything896]

As you grow up no matter what beliefs you have society and social instances at every age level with permeate your existence. Learn. Always seek learning. Miss you Kathryn

[@stylebysav]

love how real and down to earth you are katy!!!

[@emilyanne1673]

I don't know about you girls but I don't like hook-ups... It's just not as fun to me because there are 0 feelings involved.

[@raeannabelle6595]

Same! I don't like relationships even though I've never been in one. But I only prefer hookups with people I know.

[@the_gibsterr]

Emily Anne a lot of girls just settle for hookups because that's all the guy will give them.. i've been down that road

[@TheAllie1235]

I hate them. Tried them twice and I'll never go back. They make me feel like crap because they only want you for your body, not for who you really are. I don't think people should do them unless they're heartless lol

[@Cinna99.]

So do I because it's just so ugh sad and depressing to look at in my opinion.

[@madiharper9219]

+Caroline G that's me too ://

[@mldylws]

"I am the pilot of my own life" reminds me so much of that Suite Life of Zack and Cody episode!!

[@MsAndreaSepulveda]

Could you please do a video on college advice because I will be a freshman next year and your advice is always so amazing💞

[@jamieeevlogs007]

could you possibly consider doing a video about elon? and your experience with the college...I'm a senior this year and I'm strongly considering applying/going to Elon and honestly a lot of the reason is because I feel that we have very similar personalities and that I would be happy there as well as the fact that they seem to have a good business program and my ACT scores/GPA fit the median data i've loved your videos for years now and thank you so much if you're able to help me out!

[@daisyblass3985]

Love your chatty videos especially about boys etc. haha :). Btw, I really like your bralette where is it from?

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Please reply I've been trying to find one like that for ages :)

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It's Free People - you can get it at Nordstrom :)

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Daisy Blass they also have them at urban outfitters (:

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The Urban Outfitters and Free People are very similar but I tried them both & found that they fit differently so you might want to try both :)

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You can get t for cheaper at Aerie

[@rachelsjmoon]

You have a natural talent for speaking, Katy!😉❤

[@annabanai8440]

just because some girls only hook up, it doesn't mean they're damaged or are seen as a sexual object. believe it or not there are lots of girls out there who just don't want a relationship but wouldn't mind some none commitment casual fun on the side.

[@Noemitowers23]

Awesome vid, thanks so much for your honesty. We (your viewers) really appreciate it. Nothin' like a KZbinr that's hella real.

[@amywhoknits]

I definitely agree with your answer for the first question, I've lived much of my life a lot like yours and used to really think about wanting to have a boyfriend and then I tried to put it on the back burner and focus on other stuff, and I ended up really understanding who I am. And then spontaneously, I ended up meeting my current boyfriend and it was so easy. I never had to doubt about whether he liked more if I had to chase him, he straight up asked me out and was all in the relationship and it's just so healthy and happy and loving. And I definitely think the media puts focus on women, even in this day and age, to do something for guys or your significant other and it's a very heteronormative and patriarchal way of living. If you want to have just physical stuff, then do it, but make sure whatever you're doing, it's because you want and it makes you happy, not because you feel like you should do it or if it makes you feel shitty.

[@mackenziek5047]

So brave of you to share this with us! I'm starting my freshmen year in college in a few short weeks and this really just prepared me further! Thank you for this! Love you!

[@emilythomas6220]

Subscribed!! I don't know what it is about you, but I love the way you think about life and the positive ideas and attitude you put out on your channel!

[@corarussell8925]

It amazes me how well you speak and how great you are able to form or word your ideas! Love you Katy!!

[@emmyroserox]

That last part about freshman year summed up my life as well. Summer and fall semesters were full of dumb mistakes in all aspects. After finally coming to terms with the fact that I deserved better and couldn't live with the fwb & hookup culture anymore, I walked into my first day of spring semester and a cute guy sat next to me and struck up a convo. Here I am now 7 months later and we've been dating for almost 6 months! Have confidence and focus on yourself. The guys worth being with will come to you. (:

[@VirginiaHernandez-eo4rg]

This has to be the realest most genuine video that I have ever watched. I love you Katy! And I can relate to this on so many levels. Also this made me realize that I'm not the only one who feels that way about things. I'm really happy I watched this! Keep up the with these awesome vids:)

[@beautybeks]

I have so much love & respect for Katy's honesty❤️

[@ronnie5489]

Katy, you are so real and down to earth and I love that about you! You make me feel less alone with my problems and I thank you so much for that.

[@michellereames1680]

Ladies, don't settle. Love is not "you give me what I want." True love is "I will sacrifice what I want to love you." True love *is* patience, kindness, gentleness, humility, celebration, forgiveness, joy, truth, protection, hope, and perseverance. Love is not a feeling. Love *does*. Wait for a *man*; the one who isn't afraid to treat you the same no matter who he is with; the one who values you and *honors* and *respects* you. ...just wanted to put that out there. Girl, you are LOVED. No matter what. (1 John 4:10, 1 Corinthians 13)

[@hellocharlieebarley]

LOVED this video Katy; I feel like it's one of your most honest ones because you touched on a lot of hook up topics that I always feel are difficult to discuss, but YOU did it. :) So thank you for that, for being the voice for girls and even boys who wish someone would talk about this kind of stuff more often on social media.

[@kkkaatttiieee]

Katy you are so right about the first question about how you shouldn't have to chase someone and things will just fall into place. When me and my first boyfriend met we hung out once or twice, stopped talking to any other people we were seeing or texting or whatever and just couldn't keep away from each other. If you've already gotten to know someone and they're still playing games or hard to get, id move on... its not worth wasting your time

[@MissTiffanyMA]

I loved this ❤️

[@bearhat19]

Love this video, finally someone is truthful about the 'hookup process' no sugar coating! Looove it

[@meganmcgoldrick98]

Going through the exact same thing as far as the "hook-up" culture goes. Just going to parties, maybe having too much to drink and just hooking up. Like that's fine but what's worse is when they text you and take an interest in you then it just stops? I also agree that I've tended to numb my emotions so much and it's so hard to cry at situations where it's most necessary to cry. I always tell myself to cry but I physically can't. I think alcohol has the tendency to do that also just numb you down and it's probably affected me sober. Ah the party scene kids. I still don't understand how girls want relationships and boys don't yet you still see people in relationships at my age. You sometimes think "what do they have that I don't?" It's not even a matter of being attractive to a guy or kissing a guy, it's being good enough to be in a relationship like you could go out there and kiss anyone it's a matter of relationships. But put it this way, we've all got an opportunity to have such a good life ahead of us at this age and we don't need to have the emotional roller coaster of a relationship affecting it. Putting someone first instead of yourself. They can also stop up from becoming successful just being so blinded and infatuated by love. Sorry for the rant just loved this video definitely spoke to me! x

[@jrabriss07]

Handsdown perfect advice. Experienced the same things my freshman year and this gave me a new perspective. Thanks, love your videos 😊

[@janiejackson234]

I really hate this FWB and hook up culture.

[@BeautyByKat08]

You seem to give the most amazing advice, these types videos are so great to watch on your channel!

[@dianachamomile]

hands down best boy talk ever!!

[@CoraPayner]

I think it's important to clarify that just because you feel like just hooking up is "lowering yourself" doesn't mean it's demeaning for everyone. I'm assuming you meant it in the context of you want more, therefore you shouldn't settle for not getting it. But for some people (women included) causal sex is more than enough. They aren't lowering themselves down for attention, they're just living life the way they want to. Casual hook ups aren't always a mistake and I think it's important not to generalize. Would you ever say a guy is just looking for attention if he was having casual sex? Not typically. Sometimes some people want just physical, just like how sometimes some people want just emotional. It's all about doing what's best for you. Oppose to one side is lowering yourself, and the other side is "standing up for yourself"

[@wildwolf5621]

Unlike most women, guys don't care about attention

[@CoraPayner]

Not necessarily... That's quite the generalization.

[@wildwolf5621]

It's a valid one

[@CoraPayner]

Oh sorry, you recently researched multiple psychological studies where they all concluded that there is a substantial about of evidence that says that women are the only gender on the planet that crave and want attention? because if not, not really sure if the word "valid" works there. You may think that based on the environment you've experienced in your lifetime, but you can't conclude that there are no guys out there that don't want attention.

[@wildwolf5621]

You're losing your time with me

[@foreverxdelectable]

This video was so worth watching. I went through the same exact thing freshman and sophomore year of college and it gets better. I finally found the right guy and I hope you all do too.

[@Takeoffmycolors]

I have been watching you for years and I am so proud of you Katy! You have grown so much. xx

[@jennifer655430]

Seriously thanks for admitting you've done friends with benefits before. I've did it once before too and people it's so hard to just admit to get off your chest b/c everyone starts judging you. I do believe that friends with benefits does not typically work out and that's just not for me. But everyone is different

[@watzupitzjen]

This video connected with me so much. I just really want to say thank you for being so honest and open. You're one of a kind!

[@FigureSkatesForever]

WOW thank god this video was suggested to me!! i am in my first semester of college and i am dealing with the whole hookup culture thing. I have been doing the exact thing that you said, numbing my feelings and making it seem like its okay to just hookup with random guys and not give a fuck. It has been upsetting me because its just not the same as actually having real feelings for someone. I came into college expecting to find an amazing guy and relationship and when i didnt i literally started just letting myself loose. thank you so much for making me feel better, knowing that others are also in this situation.

[@sammieannie421]

I'm going into my freshman year at a huge University and I'm so nervous! Can you do a college advice video/more videos like this one?

[@TheRacquellShow]

its so weird but watching your videos is like taking a fresh breath of air if that makes sense haha your so honest and real which makes your advice 10x better 💜

[@bammitsAlex]

I love you so much that it's getting to be on the wierd level. You are an amazing soul Katy, don't ever change

[@makingacupoftea]

Omg i screamed so much when she said "ive done FWB" Like WHOOOO you go girl!! Damn! Love you katy xxx

[@APinchofCG]

This is so brilliant, I found myself nodding in agreement with so many of the things you said! Such an amazing role model

[@BeautyHeure]

thank you sooo much for posting I really needed to hear your advice because I'm in the exact same situation.. As for FWB - I think it can be healthy and fun as long as you feel comfortable and respected.

[@RileyBrooke]

Your look is so classy and chic and I love how well/lady like you explained everything!

[@sierra.sarvina7328]

You are my favorite person , whenever I feel down or like the world is against me I alway watch one of your videos and it makes me feel so much better and brings me out if my dark place . Thank you💜💙

[@mariafer95]

"you are not a sample" wow that really made me think

[@dancerinpurple616]

Loved this video so much. I just finished my freshmen year of college as well and have hooked up with a couple guys, but I definitely struggle with the whole hookup culture too. If anything, I feel it makes me more suspicious of guys bc I can't tell if they're being nice to me because I'm me or because they want to get in my pants.... Glad to know I'm not the only one!

[@Belleified]

This video is SO important. All I can say is thank you Katy, thank you.

[@pianistin10]

Hi Katy, I loved your response to the first answer :) Actually, the responses to all questions, you are really right!:) Thank you for making those kinds of videos, they really do open my eyes sometimes!:)

[@tanyamartinez1883]

Your videos always make me so happy. It seems like you are always here for me even though you don't know me. Thank you so much for everything 💗

[@mikaelaschomburg9501]

This video made me feel okay about the fact that I have hooked up with guys before and that I have had FWB before. It's a normal thing to do, whether you want to par-take or not. So thank you, Katy.

[@RosaliaCarbonell1]

really like it when she said "i am the pilot of my life" who else?

[@music85lover32]

I loved this!! This is exactly what I'm feeling here at uni in Australia so thanks Katy for your kind words!!

[@giannam2841]

I LOVE how you edit your videos!! they're always so beautiful :))

[@xod0llfacex3]

I agree about the universal thing that you mentioned- dealing with numbing your emotions. I used to crush on guys so easily but it is so rare that I do nowadays. I meet a guy and things happen, yet I build a wall up and don't develop feelings as easily anymore. I honestly kind of miss that feeling.

[@kkkaatttiieee]

Also katy, i think you'll find that when you get into your junior, senior year of college people are settling down more and looking for relationships. Freshman year its like unheard of haha. At least at my school! :)

[@hithereitscaroline]

Bravo, Katy. Well said. This was much needed, speaking for myself and probably many many more.

[@Aerodynamic7]

this video could not have come at a better time, im currenty going through a situation somewhat like the fwb thing and this kind of helped me decide what i should do.

[@oliviabutterfield7278]

One of your best videos, Katy! I really appreciate your honesty and perspective!

[@JayLuhx]

that intro was so relaxing omg

[@alyssa4157]

yeah....freshman year i hooked up with way too many guys because in college you get so used to it being all they want. it feels like better than nothing because it's attention, like you said.

[@haileyfrayre8892]

omg Katy your advice is so real and helpful! You should definitely make more videos like this.

[@MZy589]

I SWEARRR. Before I clicked this video I had a random vision of the video starting with you drinking out of a tea cup. WTTF. Am I psychic?

[@natmarie632]

I think you are😱😱

[@emilyg2378]

I love your college advice videos you have! keep them coming!

[@anewloveofficial9137]

We may had a bad decision and wrong choices in our lives but it doesn't mean that everyone is allowed to judge us, don't be ashamed with your mistakes because it's the reason why we learned in our life. If you're hooking up with someone just be sure that you're protected so you won't regret in the end.

[@hannahfaithyoung]

i so look forward to seeing your videos every week! i love your personality and i feel like i can relate to you! you are definitely my favorite youtuber! keep up the good work katy! also, i would love if you could do more college video like dorm haul, tour, and freshman advice since i will be a freshman this year!

[@sk8rkoukla]

hey just went to college this year as well and this really spoke to me. hang in there and try to just do u and it does get better.

[@simplymaci]

These are amazing and I’m so glad I stumbled upon your channel 😩

[@SravyaBalasa]

i love your advice videos katy

[@HoneyLustAmi21]

God Katy! You are so lovely! This video made me very happy and it helped a lot with my current situation. You're an amazing role model

[@Mikaylap713]

Katy is PREACHIN

[@TEEHEEMONKEY44177]

"You are the pilot of your own life." -Cody from Suite Life