Make peace with your unlived life

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@audreydoyle5268 3 ай бұрын

That's life. What's done is done, And what will be will be. There's no sense wishing on the past. You cannot mold what is already set in stone. The only thing you can do to stop feeling bad about it, beating yourself up or getting angry at other's actions towards you, is to reframe it. It's cliché, however shifting perspective works. It takes time and wisdom, yet it's worth the wait. And seriously, smile more. Even if you don't feel like it. Eventually the dopamine will soak into your noodle (brain), and the bad memories will fade. They'll still pop up, but as time goes on, you'll notice you don't dwell on your mistakes or traumas as much. If that's any consolation to anyone struggling with their mental or physical health, or an unfortunate situation/outcome in life, hold the hope that the pain of regret, embarrassment or victimhood will dissipate as time ticks on. Literally, time heals all wounds... when you stop poking at it. Become indifferent and the nightmares will stop in time. Take yourself less seriously, and learn to laugh at yourself. It works wonders when you can show humility through humour. If I can learn this being only two years older than OP, imagine what you can learn with an "I am more than" attitude over the course of a lifetime. Lo que sea sera ✌💖

@paulagelvez 3 ай бұрын

Girl thissss!! You put it so beautifully ✨💕

@princessdiana2305 3 ай бұрын

Girl, i was just thinking bout the same things as 18 year old. 5 months after I will be 19, and I was feeling like " I didn't achieve " . I started college but it felt like Im not belonging to it. Days by days I just realize that the main thing is how you treat yourself ,how you accept just the way you are. You give so safe place feeling, thanks for the beautiful contents ♡

@paulagelvez 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for being vulnerable and so kind! You will find your place, just keep listening to yourself, wish you the best 💕✨

@audreydoyle5268 3 ай бұрын

Wow, college at 18! Lightyears ahead of me. Nobody feels like they belong in a community not of their own choosing. Not unless they choose the path of inauthenticity. But even then, they will squirm inside themselves because the persona they've plastered on doesn't belong. I know that at the beginning of adulthood, especially when your first year out is upcoming, you feel the urge to belong more now than ever. Why? It's instinct. When you're not accepted, that's a strike to your chances of your DNA being chosen to pass onto the next generation. Needing to belong is just a need to procreate. That's why we do the mating dances we do: the cinched waist, the make up, the long nails, the shiny hair, the reading to seem smart. Usually, in terms of academics, when we feel like we don't belong in education at all, it's because we're not in the right major. Everyone had a dream in childhood of being something, and everyone told you "that's unrealistic and won't pay the bills,". Fck that, you'll start belonging in college when you answer the call of your inner child's dreams. "If something is important enough, you do it even if the odds are not in your favour," - Elon Musk Figuring out how to belong while maintaining your place in college is most certainly important enough. Do not squander your education. If I had access to a time machine, boy howdy, would I go back to slap 14 year old me in the face with a maths textbook, and to say stop being so obedient, cause I was never going to belong with everyone else. Trying to appease people I'll probably never see again, not worth it. Trying to appease what little me wanted? Always worth it.