Mamak Sessions - Coming Out ft. Nigel Chin and Magnum

[@Tigris797]

just wanted to commend Jin for being very respectful when talking about the LGBT culture and I’m very impressed with the way he talked about the community! the girl was a little careless about her words when she hasn’t gone through it but she’s learning i guess. Please keep on having discussions about societal issues like these as it will help our society grow into better humans

[@thevisionistofficial]

Tigris 797 can’t agree more. Thank goodness the male host is intellectual.

[@TehxHope]

I agree, it was refreshing to see how genuine and open Jin was during the interview. But the girl was also respectful. I think it's unfair to say she was "careless" or not "intellectual". Just my two cents.

[@mattryanleeml]

Nigel was from my high school, I’m glad and I’m proud of what he’s done, not hiding and just being himself. Love from Taman Sea bro! ❤️

[@haiccalhazim9376]

Bishop 92 hey, which taman sea are ya both from? SMK taman sea or sk ? I happened to be from SMK taman sea..

[@cintaslalumenang1206]

I believe Love has no gender, love has no race, love has skin color, love has religion, love is love, love always wins over hate

[@Dufrense1978]

Hope they will have long lasting relationship. Im so envious of their courage to be open. I wish them all the best of the world 😍.

[@william2154]

Hirzi and Ben watching this video unsure if they should go public next, lmaoo

[@katelynchinkm97]

I was exposed when I was eight years old, it's kinda culture shock to me cause I was in Australia doing my treatment and the news pop up. My grandma told me that it is very common in most Western countries. As a young girl back then, I didn't know about anything. As I grow older, I started to understand the challenges that they have go through and slowly accepting the facts. In my opinion, love has no boundaries- if we love that person, just go for it!

[@RonLarhz]

It's not a western thing tho. Asia have history on it, just that religion and new level of toxic patriachy took hold.

[@markanthonyagna5511]

yeah

[@covan74]

Love the true love vibes between Nigel and Magnum. Love wins 👍🏼

[@joel3977]

Some ppl say that they accept you for who you are...but eventually they will show their true being....

[@zkwnrzk]

This is exactly one of my fear considering my friends' race & religion. You just have to live with it and trust them by what they said.

[@twosevendotthree]

So cute!!!!!!!!!!!! The way they interact, their faces glow when the talk about each other. Like what Jin say we all can see that they are really happy! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@desmondcmp9739]

Dam.... Jin still have that Hitz.fm laugh when I used to go to school early morning 6am

[@deanab-se5op]

OMG I can't believe this. but knowing the fact that Nigel was no longer single

[@joel3977]

I didnt know Nigel is Malaysian. Live your life and be happy no one can say anything about how you can live your life.

[@msamjaad2562]

Oooh my god!! My favorite couple~ they are just so sweet and kind to each other ♥️♥️ The way they look at each other when they were talking you can see the love out there ! And i love how Nigel engaged Magnum in the conversation!! just watching them happy makes me happy & they give me hope that love indeed exist !! Not just for the gay Community but in General, I wish you a happily long lasting ife together & happy anniversary ♥️

[@alvinlimmmmm]

nigel is actually so brave in facing the backlash. Both of my parents know about me but they would never allow me to bring my boyfriend to the family gathering. They would hate me more than my aunties and uncles if i were to do that lol.

[@georgetan86]

House house got one hard to read scripture.

[@im_learning_bicth]

Lim Lian Chern All I can say is stay safe and hope you’ll find your peace 🌈

[@abearicano]

Love is love. Great on them for coming out! Malaysia still has a long ways to go.

[@nazriazmi8960]

Malaysians should be more open to talk about all this taboo topics

[@boyrambutan3835]

what do u expect? still, we are in muslim country..

[@zukinang]

I think it is crucial to get it right. Living in a country with the majority populations practise Islam doesn't make Malaysia an Islamic State. According to the Federal Constitution of Malaysia Article 3(1), Islam is the official religion for this country and it stops there.

[@deanab-se5op]

@@boyrambutan3835 even without Muslims, among non-Muslims don't openly talk about it. not everyone is open. even parents can't accept it.

[@yuelunavantgarde]

Well tht is the norm in asian countries. We still have the nuance tht marriage is an exclusive thing that must be done by a man and a woman. And also the invisible wall of religion. Islamic country or not it is still a taboo to talk regaeding this openly. I am so worried this vid gonna receive tons of backlashes. Hopefully everything gonna be fine. But still, this vid is such a breakthrough in our definition of life. People knows about this but tend to overlook it because like Jin say, they prefer silence and for them silence is okay.

[@royb2st640]

Idts..

[@brandsong3615]

Wow, its not about gender, its about love, its not about love, its about inspiring!!! well said!!!

[@ahmadfakhrullah6381]

Really good to see some LGBTQ+ representation here. It's still a long way to go for the LGBTQ+ community in Malaysia to be open and free of themselves.

[@Cxs1a3]

i'd be more impressed when you see a malay couple

[@ahmadfakhrullah6381]

@@Cxs1a3 There's plenty of Malay and interacial gay couples out there. Unfortunately, it's a struggle still for Malay LGBTQ+ to be represented and out in public for fear that Muslim gays are more likely to be mistreated & persecuted due to Sharia laws, etc.

[@Cxs1a3]

I guess it's as likely to happen as legalizing alcohol for Muslims. The US will probably legalize cocaine before malays approve of gays.

[@ahmadfakhrullah6381]

@@Cxs1a3 which ia never since Malaysia can be such a homophobic country.

[@wadafik]

They are both so cute. Happy for them!

[@phatasm24]

To touch on the point that Shufaye has mentioned about hate; people hate what they don't understand. They were taught to hate because of cultural, religious and/or family upbringing. I've confronted bigots mostly on social media platforms and after stepping away and re-evaluating the arguments i've put across, it's quite baffling cos the premises for their hatred stems from my aforementioned statement. And for the overzealous individual(s), it's even more startling that they shut down everyone who disagrees with them cos of the mentality that if you're not with them, you're against them (god complex issues). Yet while on the other end of the spectrum, you have self-professed gay activists who insist that every LGBTQIA must speak out against discrimination but what they fail to realize is that not everyone who identifies as such are comfortable with the idea of parading out in the open fighting for equality. Don't get me wrong, we want equality. But some of us are doing it in our own ways even if it's not making a big impact (like how Magnum and Nigel are through sharing their experiences).

[@theuglypaulus]

LGBT wise: Malaysia and Indonesia are similar

[@LoC28C]

Paul Kolone no I think Indonesia is a lot more open than Malaysia

[@rioview1706]

@@LoC28C Indonesia was like Yesn't to LGBT, they have no any problems to LGBT but they hope LGBT isn't in their circle...

[@ArpYorashol]

I really like how Nigel tries to pass the attention and opportunity to Magnum to talk in the podcast. :)

[@aspiromy]

great this LGBT topic being discussed on "mainstream", long way to go specially for our fellow compatriot born into certain religion by default, be awesome religion leader walk the talk, love is love.

[@thevisionistofficial]

Just to add - being sexually active shouldn’t give a negative impression to the society. There are people who love to love, people who love to fuck. It’s part of life and who you are. People who don’t like to fuck aren’t superior. It’s a choice of life and we all should respect that - regardless of your gender and sexuality. There are many girls who love sex as much (if it more) than guys. There’s nothing to compare. Physical attraction and emotion aren’t mathematical and shouldn’t have a simple equation. Live for yourself people!

[@bojongkia123]

I feel happy for both Nigel & Magnum. Thanks to the hosts too! I am touched with the conversation all the way! I was recently following the other You Tube video channel in Chinese about Malaysians coming out (“we are different so what”) & now I stumbled upon this video! Somehow feels inspired & blessed! 😊😊

[@zxcvbnm13579246]

Thank you Jin for doing a podcast on this taboo topic. I think all Malaysians need to watch this. It’s so good! Both the hosts and the guests shared valuable life lessons/ values :)

[@robsonjee]

I wish if this in national tv. Coz I love the way Jinny hosting the show. 😍😍👍🏻👍🏻 Btw Nigel & Magnum so sweet 👍🏻

[@lainieyeoh3977]

Thank you Nigel and Magnum for sharing your stories, and Jin for providing a platform.

[@wengkinho7223]

Happy for this guys ... Really his is from Taman SEA ... Happy for him ... Is being struggle for me this few years ... I kind of give up

[@whentoletgo]

Interesting to watch and listen to the questions and discussion from a part of the world where the gays are still in the process of becoming more accepted. When it got to the "I wish" discussion, I understand but was a little troubled by there not being MORE discussion about WHY it is so hard for society to evolve into a more accepting place. Obviously there are cultural barriers in Asia related to family and the importance in parents' minds of continuing the family line, and there is an understandable lack of exposure to the gay world at first that can make people uncomfortable until it is more common, but I wish these conversations could have gone a bit deeper about the role of religion in working against this societal evolution toward greater acceptance. When one of you said "Even if people don't stand for this, there is no reason to hate on it" and everyone agreed, no one pointed out that many religious people actually view the gay world as a profound, moral threat, an actual problem for themselves, their families, and their worldview. So these people kind of have to "hate on" gays, or at least condemn their lifestyles and view them, at best, with a kind of pity as fallen people. Gays are not, of course, a threat to anyone, and as San Francisco and many other places have demonstrated for decades, gays are just like everyone else: good, bad, productive, lazy, creative, dull, smart, dumb, etc.--but their existence poses zero threat to non-gays. Religion itself, therefore, is the problem when it crosses over to imposing its beliefs on civil rights, so religion must evolve or be rejected. In the U.S., one of the top five Democratic candidates for the Presidency is gay. The CEO of the largest company in the world, Apple, is gay. And so on. We're here, we are just like everyone else, and doing our best to live happy lives. What, exactly, is the problem? Only religion. And even within certain religions, did the original conceptions of spiritual life condemn same-sex love, or were those condemnations added to doctrine later? Does anyone really think Jesus, for example, would have condemned a gay man to hell, or opened his arms, as he apparently did to everyone. Good for Nigel and Magnum for coming out and for the luck of finding love. Good for your show for covering this topic so respectfully in a part of the world that has further to travel. Everyone should visit San Francisco and you'll see for yourselves that society didn't collapse because of the large per-capital gay community--it is thriving, forgiving and accepting.

[@khoatruong6845]

whentoletgo yes, that last part. In fact, when a space becomes open and accepting of queer people, and encourages authentic living, the community benefits. You see things like families and arts and businesses flourish. Look at Provincetown! Adorable little place.

[@whentoletgo]

@@khoatruong6845 Agreed. Good points.

[@viajaycay]

I am the opposite of Nigel, as I've celebrated every New Years since 2007 abroad and only this year stayed home!

[@FarisHusaini]

When he was asking "who's... reassurance was the most imortant to you?" I thought he was about to ask "who's... the guy and the girl in the relationship?" and I was about to lose it but thankfully he didn't ask that. Good interview, and happy for the couple :)

[@markanthonyagna5511]

I wish one day people change their views that LOVING someone regardless of the gender is still LOVE...

[@azlxnmnxlza]

Lovely partner Nigel & Magnum 🤗

[@LastMalayGuy]

Kesian Magnum.. wondering what he was feeling when the rest seems to have private conversation until Nigel pulls him in

[@azimmohd3979]

magnum ni org mana..

[@kwenty6]

@@azimmohd3979 thai

[@TheAJAXTER]

Thanks for doing this Jinnyboy, I just subscribed and follow your channel on Spotify. Small actions like this will definitely help the bigger society understand minority people like us better. You definitely won many hearts, thank you once again. Please have more minorities on your channel!

[@RonLarhz]

Omg that shirt!!! Im dying from cuteness.

[@ceejayyy1247]

Magnum accent is so cute HSHAHSHAHAA

[@Iamme88-b4j]

Jin is very respectful toward lgbtq issues ❤ i love the way he carry the conversation.. ur making nigel n magnum very comfy ❤

[@khongkokwai]

At minute 41.09, the host mentioning about “society accepting this culture”. I’m not sure whether or not gay is a form of “culture” or worse “lifestyle”. But I found it is quite useful to use this assumption that gay is a “culture” to come out to my parents. I told them that a girl had cultural shock when I told her I’m not interested in girls. So, I think they get the meaning without giving a slap in their face.

[@khairaoul]

Nigel. Always have been crush on u. But always happy for ur love life. Still can't forget the fact u did come to my open house for Raya. Hahahhha

[@alvink1164]

So good

[@khairaoul]

@@alvink1164 yes it was an honoured to have him coming. Such a nice memory

[@charles138]

I can answer the question why guys are less accepting than girls. It's because those guys are so confident on their looks and afraid that gay will fall for them. But, guess what? Most of them look better than you. I'm impressed by Nigel's courage to come out publicly as it is super tough especially when we are in MALAYSIA. I'm glad that Nigel found someone and lives happily now.

[@hennawhite8183]

Ikr.. im living double lives myself.

[@nickgan8089]

Respect to them both. Pure courage!

[@zackerhann6888]

i so envious that their have a courage to come out

[@edmundino89]

A very inspiring story. Thank you for do this topic...

[@elvertwan750]

Kudos to Nigel and Magnum for living such a lovey courageous life and I applaud them for coming out. I have something to say tho. I hope I don't get any backlash from this but just hear me out. I know coming out is important to find your true self and your happiness (it's obviously better than hiding in the shadows. If knowing that you could live a better life after coming out, why not right?) but please do not come out just to come out or because it is a trend. Come out of the closet when you feel comfortable doing so. Come out when you know or feel that the people around you are okay with it. Be honest with your feelings and have empathy towards others especially your closest family members, not everyone can comprehend or accept this community. Some might even act out their negativity. After all, we are living in Malaysia. Love it or not, there are still some of us who are not as progressive/open-minded as we think we would be (although it's already 2020).

[@Kentokki007]

absolutely concur. i disagree with what the lady said towards the end of the show where she mentioned that parents are generally more accepting these days when in fact, she has not been in the shoes of a gay person before. young people should only come out if they are comfortable and/ or if they are able to support themselves, and not do so because it's what people are telling you to do so.

[@muhammadshafiq686]

Love them so much, huhuuu...

[@mohamedkhaidirmohamedzaraa8070]

4:52 omaigod Constance Wu is such a divaaaaaaa

[@firmangobi6477]

Mohamed Khaidir Mohamed Zaraai

[@jamesh7959]

An awesome interview! Thx guys!

[@jenniferpengarah6834]

They are both cute!!! Congratulations!

[@whyearth]

I think they have the “couple face”

[@afiqhazmi4061]

Their relationship is beautiful. Love to see them together. OMG 😍. They are like an example for gay relationship.

[@babylemoncakes]

Congratulations!

[@mingmingsworld269]

FINALLYYYYYYYY THE STORY IS OUTTTT

[@celineko4918]

M&N FOREVERRRR

[@halimsalim1732]

Love will win in Asia .

[@smartyguy87]

Happy 1st 2020 podcast video!!

[@junieditio2522]

Both of the are so cute and luckiest couple ever 💙 Always be happy and God bless you guys

[@yangtzeling7468]

Magnum is gorgeous lah !

[@naxremix]

Anyone watch The Good Place ? Magnum sounds like Jason Mendoza like legit 100/100 😂😂

[@MagicalKid]

That's not a compliment cuz Jason is kinda slow....

[@RonLarhz]

Lmao jason mendoza.

[@HouseOfMissJoaquim]

Nigel!!! 😍❤️😍❤️

[@hennawhite8183]

Whats their channel or Instagram? I have always have a soft spot for gay couples

[@lysuenn]

Henna White @nigelust

[@richardkleinberger7031]

In the US or Western Europe this conversation would be considered an everyday happening. They would ask them when they are getting married and having kids. The fact it is still taboo in these places is quite sad for their cultures.

[@RonLarhz]

But at the same thing christians lobby groups are going ard to shit on everybody.

[@yourfans104]

I can’t stop smiling😂😂😂..... I guess I’m not the only one 😅

[@fallenri6042]

Nigel was awesome! So inspiring me 🤩

[@oenrob98000]

Aiya...gay, straight or bi...these good looking people will only go for good looking peoplelah...what feeling is right...kai wan xiao

[@abdulhady4034]

Indeed... Absolutely right...

[@RonLarhz]

They r avg looking. Only buffed.

[@Dufrense1978]

Well straight people are the same too, but its not all the same. Some people search for the look n physical appearances, some at their sense of humour, many at their age. Hey, education and financial stability are also a big criteria. So it's what it is.

[@leon1078]

Magnum is from Thailand and he Gay ? Though he from Malaysia

[@kwenty6]

Yas

[@romaniagoh8146]

Life is good. They look cute together ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ Ignore my fangirling

[@Kentokki007]

Love is love!

[@nazarcy8093]

Ohhh so sweet😍🥰

[@anthonynolan2710]

love this !

[@shimas007]

Come to visit America and get married here!!!

[@gerardt2818]

Hey 5 people disliked the vid is not respectful😅

[@chrizalis]

They are so hot

[@gregfrllo]

Thanks jin

[@ideasmith1972]

This is what happens when people are allowed to be who they are - happy, positive, energetic and a joy to be with. Most of the developed world have legislation that protects gay people and recognises their equal rights. In this case, we have lost a talented young man to Thailand where gays able to be who they are. It's time Malaysia as a country moves with the 21st century, or it will continue to lose in race of keeping and attracting the best!

[@frossilladragon17]

Thought Magnum is a Malaysian 😂

[@hamizanjauhari3286]

are they jusy broke up? sobsob :')

[@markanthonysangalang2772]

They broke up 😢

[@AdelineAdel-n1k]

Do you know why ?

[@markanthonysangalang2772]

@@AdelineAdel-n1k Magnum now works and lives in the US and Nigel is still in Malaysia. Magnum chose to break up with Nigel bc of this

[@AdelineAdel-n1k]

Aaa... i see.

[@alvink1164]

😍from indonesiah

[@izadkim5619]

oh my goddddee

[@tcruise77]

Wow... what a controversial topic. Jin, not worried about those "Holier than thou extremist" hantam you meh? lol... I personally can't really accept gay but lesbian is no problem... ok ok... I'm a farktard. lol... but I guess was due to an unwanted experience long time ago where a gay friend showed interest in me, and other friends teased me. I freaked out. Anyway, now already adult, as long as no gay interested in me & purely just friends then I'm cool with it. Even the transgender (ah gua). Sometimes I find some ah gua are far more approachable. hehe...

[@thisismeatw7318]

😍

[@J-Season-O]

💕

[@5thgendirector]

You don't need to tell the society who you are as that's non of their business!

[@khongkokwai]

Jacob Padalecki I think what they are doing is being part of the society. They made it part of the society by coming out.

[@yangtzeling7468]

Everyone has a choice in life , but being gay is not a choice.

[@Dufrense1978]

Its what we were born as. We have only one choice is to live a life of lies

[@yangtzeling7468]

Dufrense1978 Whether you choose to live a life of truth or lies , that is your choice. No one has a right to judge your decision.

[@860623496517]

Dont condemn me. I just curious, can a gay couple happily ever after? Can share you experience?

[@wadafik]

If two people commit to each other throughout their lives then why not? Unfortunately we don't get too see many gay couples in Malaysia because most are hiding from public view. But personally I've seen couple who has been together for years.

[@Kentokki007]

i am curious, what was your thought process when coming up with this question?

[@phatasm24]

From my own experience (if we haven't broken up), it is possible. Gay relationships are just like any other heteronormative relationships (:

[@thevisionistofficial]

I’m in a 10 years relationship. :)

[@akumanusiabiasa9002]

From my experience im in my 8th years annivesary.. my family accept me n my partner

[@useless839]

Would you mind help me to pass a small message to Mr. Nigel that help me grow my channel with touching scene. Thanks in advance.

[@MidnightcityX]

First

[@daryantoh861]

Shu shu gang was here!

[@andyzzone]

Fourth

[@gregfrllo]

Thanks jin