Man Received Backlash From Other Men Because Of What He Said About Women

[@AndthefuturelookedBlack-hq7hy]

In corporate spaces, there are LITERALLY men who have obtained certain deals and promotions because the owners like his WIFE!

[@CitySlickerButtKicker]

Its true. A man with a wife (not a gf) is credited to being more valuable to a company.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Exactly 💯

[@haahmayan9637]

Beyoncé said it best 😂 you told no lies her lyric said “You take me just to complement the deals (that's a good look)”

[@AndthefuturelookedBlack-hq7hy]

@haahmayan9637 I forgot about that! Spot on Sis.💯👍🏻

[@murtleturtle4027]

It reminds me of those 40s-50s infomercials about how to be a good housewife, usually there's a segment where they talk about your husband's boss being invited over and they always talk about how important the "woman's role" is to him getting that promotion. Like this has been known.

[@DiverseDalliance786]

and this is why you don't build a man...

[@Tati843]

Never

[@77kc_77]

Facts

[@BamPowBoom11]

Was taught up early in age. “Don’t buy no man no shoes cause he gone wear them while he walking out your life” 😂😂😂

[@mscece1900]

Right!! I swear it's always the same outcome

[@gaudylady7]

@@BamPowBoom11 LMAO

[@chiquitaf16]

Spent almost 2 decades married where I put his career first, was his biggest cheerleader. Took on all the child care and parenting responsibilities to give him the freedom to build “his legacy”. Mind you I was working too and making great money. I made it so his life was taken care of and he only had to worry about work. Well he lost a bunch of weight and started buying expensive clothes. Really started feeling himself and everything I did was wrong. By time I realized he’d been cheating he was already starting the divorce process. When I found out she was pregnant I finished that divorce! He soon learned I was his foundation. I barely spent money while he over indulged. So when the 20 something mistress realized that he could only spoil her cause he had his whole income and mine. She turned nasty and left all child rearing to him. In fact she made him take my place while she didn’t even work. His health went downhill and she still didn’t care. He’s now a broken sick man that realized too late that he only stood tall cause I let him stand on my back. I so disrespected myself and promise to never do it again. I’m remembering what it’s like to be happy again.

[@Tati843]

Yup never build a man up for this reason it's either u got it together or you don't 💯

[@bohobabie5987]

Sending you a virtual hug✨

[@FIREDRAGON7]

🎉Thanks so much for sharing your story, IT should let you know and be a constant reminder that you are AMAZING and the MAGIC that improves all the endeavors that you embark on 💕 WE ALL have to go through the fire 🔥 to really KNOW this. Happy trails sis .

[@txspacemom765]

My ex thought I was going to constantly carry his arse, after almost 15 years. When it came my time to really step out, he thought he was going to be slick and ignore my needs and keep building his. I refused, started building my life back up and then, I left. He is failing miserably now. It took me a year to get on my feet but I did it and I am thriving! Recently, had someone reach out to ask him if that was me at a rather important event (she didn't know we had divorced). He became so angry.

[@TheIndiajones]

Sending love and light ❤❤❤ thank you for sharing your story it touched my heart, something similar happened to someone I love dearly and I'm so happy she's able to move on and live her best life.

[@harajukugrl]

This is so true. I remember people voted for Obama because they loved Michelle so much.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Right.

[@dreamchaser5758]

That's not entirely true for all demographics. I remember how harsh they were towards Michelle in the early years. For some whites, Obama's blackness was more palatable than Michelle's.

[@FranSanTeeth90]

This is true for most presidents. But it's sooooo true for Obama.

[@tinachristine4573]

​@@dreamchaser5758 because whiteness is very threatened by the mesmerising energy of black women.

[@menspurpose]

Because the loved Michelle so much? Michelle or Karen or Kim it didnt matter. Thats like saying they loved fanni willis x husband ao much they made her a lead attorney lmao! Obama had the skills to pay the bills. If that is the case, then I assume Michelle will be our next president since everyone loves her so much. You have to realize there were just as man people who hated her and did not want to see a Black woman in the white house ( some even questioned gender). Some of you women live in a delusional fairy-tale lmao 🤣 😂 😆 💀

[@ronnylove1081]

My sister, who is very pretty and cool, used to purposefully date unpopular guys, and because of their proximity to her, became popular and then would start feeling themselves. Then, when the relationship ends, they never get anyone close to her level and try to get back with her, they really thought they was something!😅😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

Yep. They always try to come back, but we don't do rewinds.

[@Josie3387]

I dated a "nice guy" nerd. I am the hottest thing he ever got close to. I loved him for his nerdy personality and uniqueness. He started treating me as if I was beneath him, invalidating everything I did and said... I left him and he's been begging for me to come back since because he lost his clout being around a baddie like me. It's been over a year.

[@iamblackthorne]

​@@Josie3387My ex-husband was like that.

[@brittanycrockett2449]

Yep!! This is soooooo true.

[@LoveBeautyFun7]

That’s basically the premise of the ‘Love don’t cost a thing’ movie

[@MorganRimming]

Hes 1000000000000% correct. And every woman knows it.

[@humbleheart2650]

SURE IS! Happened to me! My ex was a total goofy who never got chosen. He led with his money and showered me with gifts. Had it not been for the perks I would not have considered him. Because of me he started entertaining other women becuse he got attention he never got before. When I blindsided him with divorce he was pissed cause his leverage was gone. My friends told me once I divorced him he stopped getting attention once I moved away and divorced him 😅😅😅😅

[@heneverforesakesme4038]

@@humbleheart2650 same here but I didn't marry him. It was a 90-day relationship. He NEVER got any attention, he has been on the dating app for MONTHS, with hardly a bite. He looked like a Keebler gnome, for reals. Anyways, this man started getting all kinds of attention from females the moment he posted my pic on his FB page, even his ex, started to "delay" the finalization of their divorce and turned it into a hall pass situation. This man got his @$$ up on his shoulders and would bring his laptop to my house and dm other women while he was in my house. When I caught him, I ended it. The very moment I did, being the psychologist that he was, he started telling me I had a mental disorder and thought, I have a plethora of women to choose from, NOPE, they all ghosted him, and he ended up alone. What a goofy. That ego is a relationship killer.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

💯💯

[@sg5720]

It is true. Only real honest men have the ability to admit it. My own hubby tells me everyday he is so thankful and grateful for me. I am also grateful to him, but we look back and realize how much better we are doing in life having eachother. I now understand why my single lady friends at the time always wanted me to bring my hubby with me when we went out. 😏🤷🏽‍♀️😌. He told NO LIES.

[@iamthecocoacure6519]

My interest has never been peaked in a man because of another woman in all my life.

[@leanysealvarado7499]

When I was 18 my boyfriend and I were both working after school at McDonald’s. One of our coworkers would flirt with him anytime we worked the same shift. I told him she is only interested in you because you’re with me. He didn’t listen. She was so pressed to be in his face she got a ticket to our prom (even though she didn’t attend our school). Anytime she took a photo she would walk over and ask him to be in the photo and he would leave me and go. I didn’t stop him, I let him do what it do. One time he and I were dancing together and she asked if she could cut in. He had the nerve to ask me if it was ok. I said sure, if you want to. After the prom I made him take me home and broke up with him on the car ride home. He dated her for a week shortly afterwards and she dumped him. He tried to come crying to me as if I didn’t warn him beforehand. I didn’t give him a second thought. To this day whenever I run into him he professes that I was the one who got away. No, I am the one who dodged the bullet. Dude looks miserable and gained a ton of weight and has bags under his eyes. Sucks to suck 😂

[@YoJoRockThaBeat]

He had a Jermaine Dupri moment lol

[@MzImperfectCrys]

Something similar happened to me and lmaooooo, she exposed himmmm 😂😂😂

[@alwaysaccurate8725]

Similar situation! Love how you gave him the chance to respect ur relationship- not fight the girl. Child im the same way! Insecure men hate chill women. Mines is fat tooo 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@lize5755]

Smart young lady

[@ashleytheseeker8480]

My ex also cried to me about how hisnside chick only wanted him for his money......like sir what did you expect. She's on drugs.😅

[@lacheregriffin-denton9946]

Perfect Example is Wendy Williams Ex-husband and his Side Chick. The Side chick got pregnant and everything by him but quickly left the situation once that money dried up that he was getting from Wendy Williams and then talked about how Wendy Williams ruin her life. Chick you was with a married man for years and was dumb enough to have a baby by him and thought you was living a life because y'all were living off of Wendy Williams. She has learned today! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Shillery-n1i]

Beyonce daddy and his astranged son 😂

[@cocoace7587]

My Aunt told me 20 yrs ago , never upgrade a man , leave him where he is & just date . She said , the minute you upgrade him , other women will want him . This is a story from day one . 😢

[@greengoddess6355]

It's not the outside women who break up relationships. If the man is solid in the relationship, other women won't be able to break it up. He has to put his foot down and make it clear to other women. He is responsible for his decisions.

[@bunnyboo6295]

Thats why advice of not building a man up is going around when they are down, they are settling with what they view is easy to get once they a buildup they go for the dream girl. Don't allow losers to use you to grow. be that women they want to give it all to if he isn't investing, he isn't truly interested men love what they invest in if the women doing most or all the investing into him without receiving that man don't care about her and is using her as a place holder to lean on to grow.

[@woodswal]

A woman can seduce a man away from his wife.

[@SamanthasUniverse]

Our "community" has a LOOONNNGGG way to realize that. The home is already broken, the male just hasn't left completely yet. God forbid we hold the MAN accountable who made the committment/vows. No one can steal a man who never wanted to be kept in the first place. Just say this man is for the streets.😅😅😅 Period.

[@tracyjacksonjackson4221]

So very true. I taught my son that the devil comes disguised as your greatest temptation or desire. That's when you remember what you have and rebuke Satan.

[@bimbobagginsss]

both people are at fault in my opinion. She may not have loyalty to the other woman but if she knows he belongs to someone, she should know to leave him be. Knowingly going after someone who is in a relationship makes you a bad person. End of story.

[@talkingtochapri]

A lot of males have bad karma. Most males life becomes easier after marrying and women's life becomes difficult. And also wife groom their husband into a better male by taking care of him, changing his dressing sense, perfume, he is learning how to communicate with women because of the wife/girlfriend, he is acting less thirsty because he is getting at home, he is gaining confidence, etc. This is why a married male has a lot more option than a single male. This is also why after divorce women are easily finding partners but males have it harder. A woman presence can single-handedly change a males life.

[@VioletFlame-Ivy]

I've noticed this. Women are just jealous of each other... This is why they LOVE going after a man who's taken. My bf is unattractive, I mean I chose him for the good person I thought he was, but no girl was interested in him. Since we are together, all of a sudden women are checking on him constantly. And that's beautiful women that used to bully him..

[@talkingtochapri]

@@VioletFlame-Ivy Women are just jealous is can't of weird statement to make. A lot of women be dating cockroaches and doing struggle love and think the entire world is jealous of them, which is not true. A lot of the times, married male don't even tell they are married, they don't wear ring and hide their marriage. Male are more likely to cheat even if every women is ignoring them, they go to brothels. Married males are the highest consumer of $ex workers and OF subscriptions according to statistics. This is why women in a relationship have higher HIV cases and STDs than a single woman. And why is he not blocking those women and entertaining them 🧐 I am not single, but it's 2024, its high time to know males are really manipulative they will tell one thing to the partner and a complete different story to the other girlfriend 🤭💀

[@talkingtochapri]

@@VioletFlame-Ivy and why is he entertaining that beautiful woman that used to bully him 🧐 and not to be rude but women are jealous is kind of pickmesha statement to make 🤭💀

[@mscece1900]

Exactly!! But yet males say that marriage benefits women LOL! They don't do ish around the house as well as care for and cook for the kids. They literally just work and come home, the rest is taken care of by the woman. Housewives/ mother's never get a break or day off but they do

[@swvolleyball9137]

@@talkingtochapriI didn’t read where she said he was entertaining them. She said they were checking for him…he has no control over that.

[@leydle]

Men be driving they woman's car, claiming it's theirs Praying for dates with HER money Come on now

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Right💯😒😑

[@schuylergeery-zink1923]

Yah whenever my husband rolled up in my 2013 Tesla Model S people would be drooling around the car and he immediately would tell them “this is my wife’s car!”

[@ak-47intelligence75]

I had friend back in the day who would go to work and when she was at work, her bf ( 5 years younger than her who was in college at the time and she was a working adult ) would drive her car to meet other women and drive them around. She slogged like a canine, he used her to build himself up when she was looking run down and miserable, he traded her in for a younger woman.

[@dbig48d]

​@@ak-47intelligence75 so now this situation is going to happen to every woman now because this happened to her???

[@LadyAstarionAncunin]

The driving a woman's car thing has always been THE weirdest thing to me. If a man ever asked me to drive my car, I'd dump him right away. It is the most cringeworthy, goofiest thing. Yuck!

[@assianeu197]

I learned all that at 19. The same way males are competitive and want the bad chicks their homies want, Women want the guy a baddie got. In both case it comes down to where the women's attention goes. The female gaze is powerful

[@levtieart3409]

I can say from expierience Also (men dont like consent) When i was alone and open to be in a relationship Noone wanted me and i was bullied and laughed at by men But when i was taken or didnt wanna a partner Suddenly all men demand my hand in 1 night or marriage (usualy 5+ older creeppers) Why cannot people be normal Like my brain doesent work half time but i dont act like this Also when my ex fiance left me with a bang 4 men asked me out immediately after and got shocked i rejected them Men and some women be delulier than me

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

I learned it at 24. My first boyfriend was thought to be a rich trust fund kid because he was with me. The other guys couldn't understand how we were together. 😂 I soon learned why they were doubting his luck. He ended up dead before 50 after several poor decisions in his youth, which I pointed out to him, thinking I was helping him. By second boyfriend at 25 (who tried to come back after we broke up, which I declined), I was done and remained unattached.

[@assianeu197]

@@levtieart3409 I think there's a slight difference for women and men though. women might see a baddie's boyfriend, and think "maybe he is emotionally intelligent and available, respectful and nurturing... and has good D😈" Lmaoo I think women's needs in general are a lil less superficial than men's. Which makes it even more dangerous for a couple, cause they might be chasing for long term sidechickship! Men would think "this chick prolly got good throat game👅" For them it's like Wallstreet! If they see others invest inna business, they all gonna drop their money at the same place too! But guys have more bidder mentality, and they won't stick around once they got you, cause they're only addicted to the adrenaline of chasing

[@FranSanTeeth90]

Only if she's corny. Beyonce is the baddest of them all and I still wouldn't kiss Sean.

[@dayit6260]

​@@FranSanTeeth90 Not Sean 😂 It took me a full 8 seconds to comprehend. I wouldn't go there for so many reasons: married, older, cheater, etc.; however, in their pictures when they are younger, they do not look like a mismatched couple. They do more so now because he is always doing something weird with his hair, but still, not totally odd.

[@CitySlickerButtKicker]

In the movie, Legally Blonde, Elle Woods was passing by the campus as she overheard the nerdy guy in her study group being harshly rejected... she backed up and slapped him while complimenting him in front of those women "How dare you not call me after you gave me the best nights of my life!" He was fumbling and she walked away. But those girls who rejected him just moments ago suddenly took an interest in him. This has always been the truth and every women know this!

[@genevieve7676]

Honestly "Dorky David" is one of my favorite characters in that movie because he was nice to Elle BEFORE she hyped him up and didn't expect a relationship from her just for being nice.

[@truffaut650truffaut6]

Yes. Great scene.

[@DivaDivine88]

It's it weird I never liked the "popular guy"?

[@SK-le4lj]

Great example lol

[@genevieve7676]

@@DivaDivine88 I don't think it's weird at all. Everyone has got different taste. I will say that the guys that gave me the ick in that movie were Warren and the professor that sexually harassed Elle.

[@yujuy.1329]

Travis kelce is a great ex of this. He wasn’t that guy before Kayla and I’m sure swift wouldn’t have notice him with out Kayla. And then after him and Taylor got together his star rose even more. It’s is true. Flat out.

[@Blissedx]

Great point❤

[@JaiK64]

Lmao you're using a PR stunt as an example like Travis and Taylor relationship was real 🤦🏾😂

[@ednakravitz2738]

Who is Kayla?

[@yujuy.1329]

@@ednakravitz2738 she is travis's ex from a few years before he got with Taylor. shes black.

[@marjoriethomas1681]

Travis still looks like a bum who hasn't showered in years.

[@Cocotikihut]

Gorgeous women give men a higher status among men as well. Some of these guys want to impress other men just as much.

[@MsParty216]

This is a prime example of why you dont build a bear!

[@ll2323]

0:52 Mr. Simone Biles husband needs to hear this 😂😂😂

[@Khumo_Mpho]

Lol, I've noticed that sometimes when I go somewhere with my man and a guy starts checking me out the moment he sees that I'm with my man they'll do this thing where they look him up and down like they're studying him

[@DemureDarlings]

Exactly! Had a guy do that to me! As soon as this man saw me with my man he waited until I kissed my husband goodbye then he and his friend followed me into another store then down an escalator hunting me like prey! I really thought they were on some S/T crap the way the man was staring at me! I had to tell my husband to come back and get me it got so bad!

[@tjaspire]

Interesting story

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

Yep. The better their woman looks, the more other women want them

[@ak-47intelligence75]

There's a femininity coach that made a video on this. It's proven.

[@txspacemom765]

Yep. The only reason my ex had a wonderful life was because of me. I had hyped him up, because that is what a relationship should feel good. He had a glow up and a good life by proxy, to me. He reaped the rewards because of me. He attended some events and met some pretty epic people because of me. The access was by proxy to me. I was, and still am, the one people liked, that people invited, that people wanted to be around. When I left, he is now living in garbage life again and no one bothers with him. Yeah, he thinks he was the prize.

[@personneici2595]

This was my situation too. He's only got people who pity him now. 😂

[@BlackberryTitties]

Well the prize got a “Surprise!” 😂😂 Deez Maleszz!!

[@NamasteInYourLane]

I thought we were done with building men up?

[@truffaut650truffaut6]

My story😢

[@DivaDivine88]

Mine too.. It's so sad..

[@lillybilly9954]

I’ve had men literally admit this to me and then proceed to be the clown he describes. I don’t think they do it because they’re feeling themselves. I think they do it because they’re not. They want the validation and they want to humble you.

[@kitcowool]

THIS! I just posted this!

[@kidforeverplz]

Women are the source. ✊🏽

[@ravnidara]

always

[@2dents513]

What we learned Men are nothing without a woman. Many men can't seem to get anything done without them, like nothing... it's sad. If you're a girl, and other girls hate your guts for no reason. You're THAT girl. They are jealous of you, sis. If you're a guy and have a good woman. Your ass better not let her go because you won the lottery. But unfortunately, it seems many men make the same mistakes. Reason 124,647,974 of relationships being unnecessary hard and a headache. Seriously, why are people like this?

[@Crisjola]

I’ve a theory why people are like this, and it comes down to people having had problems in their lives, but those are mostly/usually ones that are somewhat universal (not a great, to down right awful, home life as a kid, being taught to be a doormat, what have you) so people don’t really understand how difficult things can be, and are made actively uncomfortable by being reminded of their own lack of actual, real world protection, so they think “this [bad thing] would never happen to me” and then, doesn’t matter if it’s cheating or an early death in the family, or a horrendous medical issue, or something. That bad thing happens and then, because of society wanting to paper over the uncomfortable bits, no one knows how to deal with it and everyone is on edge and unhappy but no one really gets to help each other outside of very exact places. And when those places/groups are made/formed the people in them are able to heal and be helped and then they’re not “like that” which then leads to them wondering why others _are_ and it just repeats. :/ At least that’s been my observation.

[@Ghostisback24444]

Hmmm

[@plmitch]

ego....

[@MothersHeartGypsyDoVe]

Ego. Envy/Jealousy, lack of actual character, immaturity, vanity, fickleness, and superficial people. Easy to knock others down off the pedestal than to build up their own character. That takes actual work.

[@real-ishstraighttruthnocha1687]

Men are nothing without women? Nothing at all? I think not. I'm self made. Nobody ever gave me nothing but my mother. Miss me with this BS.

[@HaughtyHedonist]

No Lies Told! Whenever I'm Single I Don't Get As Much Attention As When I'm In A Relationship With Someone. People In General Are More Ego-Centered Than They Care To Admit.

[@mscece1900]

Some males like competition from their male counterparts. It's a big ego boost for them

[@bunnyboo6295]

it is when you're in a relationship so many men trying to hit on you when single it seem you don't draw as much attention. So many people want what someone else has

[@2okaycola]

@@bunnyboo6295envious people methinks

[@2okaycola]

@@mscece1900I gotcho beeesh

[@Babes94-nx5lq]

Af 💯💯💯

[@squarebear619]

Wmen dress for and compete with other wmen. Men think that wmen do it for them, lol.

[@prettyloubey8411]

You’re right!!!

[@LadyAstarionAncunin]

The only compliments that ever matter to me are from myself, women, and gay men.

[@mikiyapeoples5386]

I love to see women express themselves through the art of fashion, no competition just admiration for the individuality ❤

[@Bodytheliz]

No I don’t dress for or compete with any female and I don’t dress for a man I dress for me work or the gym

[@awsambdaman]

I agree that with expensive bags and nails and stuff that is is for competition with other women. But you gotta admit that the ways women dress themselves or get surgeries often are exactly the body parts that men find attractive. Is it just a coincidence that women get boobs and butt surgery and men just happen to be attracted to those body parts? Like women aren’t getting arm surgery or height surgery cause men don’t care about that

[@yujuy.1329]

That’s almost last guy pissed me off. Yes she’s a reflection of you. If she has her shit together and then y’all date and you break her then she no longer has it together she reflected your poor treatment. Two things are true.

[@dharma6481]

How true! I had a dear friend since we were like 8/9 yo. When we got older he would go around saying to everyone “I love her” “she the only girl for me” so another chick, who was always trying to compete with me, was walking around hugging and kissing on him and told me “he’s my boyfriend now, he loves me”. I told her I was so happy for them both! (He was gay, and had known since we were like 14/15) I still miss Jimmy, he was a true friend (passed from AIDS in his 20s) To this day I can not understand why this girl would try to get with someone she didn’t know or like just to stick it to someone else. It made me sad for her.

[@B_Millie]

iFeel you and similarI was friends with the boys who's secrets I knew: THAT was our bond. One caught a std once and we would cacoon ourselves during vreaks just talking, when my own cousin and other classmates started "throwing it at him". HE eventually called them out because he already established he didnt care for girls attention😂

[@wonderwalledit]

That one girl sounds ridiculous and jealous 🙄. I'm sorry for your loss🕊️💕.

[@TEWMUCH]

Yes, it blew my mind too, but I saw my mom do this to my dad when he moved on to be with another woman. Then she went and tried to steal him back because the other woman was actually nice to him and he became happy. My mom didn't show any affection or interest in my dad for two decades!! As soon as his life gets better, she has to prove a point that he's hers. Personally I think it's evil. I told her she is childish.

[@blossom1290]

​@@wonderwallediti never understand why some women would embarrass themselves like that , over someone who don't care about them

[@killyhearty4160]

@@TEWMUCHhow da hell he never left even though he knew she never cared about him

[@ashleytheseeker8480]

Happened in marriage. I kid you not, once i divorced him and contacted her to tell her she can finally have him all to herself, SHE told me she actually didnt want HIM anymore. 😂 then she died.

[@ellah2303]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@sheriharris7635]

Yep! That’s why they always try to come back once she leaves. They realize they’re not all that. Men always try to come back. Every time!

[@aminahhadi6536]

He’s right though

[@Aliensanonymous_]

I thought everyone knew this

[@highheeledfagin]

Nah, their ego can't allow that 😂🖤💜

[@rosevan7845]

Oh, they can be told this when looking for a job. EveryonE knows its easier to get a new job while you already have one. It just gets tricky when you start looking at things like this across other situations. You spend more time at work so I guess it makes sense to be sure of having something solid before looking for something better. It used to be the rest of you life for marriage but so many are actually living now so how long do you think it will take to learn this. Some learn surprisingly early and others are rather dim. Some make good money and others make a pretty face.

[@AndthefuturelookedBlack-hq7hy]

ANY man that doesn't understand what this man is saying, agree and act accordingly WILL STAY LO$ING! PERIOD!

[@msinna6433]

LMAO any man that listens to this man is WEAK and has no spine 😂

[@mrs.g.r.n]

It's worse when you marry the young boy, that doesn't wash his arse, face, clothes, and doesn't dress right. He doesn't iron his clothes or wear cologne. He doesn't have ambition, a vision, goals, or a life plan. You give all of that to him and fix him up. Now all of sudden he is the man that looks good, smells good, neat, clean, and a good dresser. You shopped for him and picked out his outfits. Now all of the women in the street want him. They are in love with his wife, not him. You did all of the work now they think they can take your place.

[@p_tiffanii]

I don't believe a Woman should EVER do this much, for a Man. It's too close to mothering. How can a Woman be sexually attracted to a guy she's essentially treating like her child? He'll also begin to view her as a mother figure. He'll keep her for her nurturing ways. But, will go sleep with another woman he's sexually attracted to. This is a lose-lose for women.

[@rosannarichardson7951]

Yep. With my ex, I knew everyone he dates next will technically be dating me for the first 6 months but these guys can’t keep it up forever.

[@lacheregriffin-denton9946]

The only problem I have with this is that they're blaming the females. Ultimately it's up to the male to have enough discipline not to engage them. Plus I wouldn't stop being on social media or anything like that because at the end of the day you get to see this man's real character too. Because like she said at the end these women wouldn't be doing that unless he's indicating to them. It's acceptable for them to do so. Ultimately it is still the man's fault.

[@wonderwalledit]

I wholeheartedly agree 💯. Both parties are at fault.

[@intentionalparenting2605]

It’s both for sure. I “knew”women that bragged about only dating married men. That men’s you have Ill intent and also at fault.

[@LadyAstarionAncunin]

Stop calling women "females."

[@lacheregriffin-denton9946]

@@intentionalparenting2605 Yeah but in the end what someone Intentions are don't matter because we all have free will. The intent may have been hers but the Actions were his!

[@socol76]

You can’t dismiss the women either. Both parties are despicable when they act this way.

[@relaxx..idareyou9952]

And that's why I will let the other woman build him up.

[@Egh0127]

Every woman needs to stop building up a male. That's his parents job. To teach him how to behave and act in the grown up world. As soon as every woman stops it'll force males to man up and act right.

[@TimelesssSpacess-jw9xf]

Who out here coveting another woman’s man?! 🥴 That’s a major turn off for me, if I know a man has a girlfriend or if I find out that he has a partner/multiple women are after him… I turn the other way or gracefully bow out. I never liked competing against anyone. Even in school I hated dance competitions because it carried this air of having to prove myself (ourselves). Naww, I’m good, call me a sore loser. Thats cool. Lol

[@bres.4806]

Actually I prefer it that way. Bc if a man is used to getting alot of attention and has his pick when he chooses you he won't be easily dissuaded by other women bc he's used to it. Men who are lonely losers never know how to act when they get feminine attention and their ego gets big and stupid. At the end of the day I learned to value myself above all so IDC what a man chooses either way. I just know wherever I go it's nothing to have all the attention and get another man. Its a blessing knowing my worth and being beautiful bc men mean absolutely nothing to me.💅🏾

[@chaosspy6723]

Ariana grande

[@TimelesssSpacess-jw9xf]

@@bres.4806 I love this! You made some valid points. And yes, there’s nothing like knowing yourself and the power YOU possess outside of anyone else. ✨💕

[@leluseven]

@@bres.4806 gurl! You almost lost me in that first half, but then it came back to self-love. I love to see young women decentering men and valuing themselves more. I wish I'd wised up earlier.

[@bres.4806]

@@TimelesssSpacess-jw9xf Exactly. I feel the best I've ever felt in my life. Self Love really is unlimited power.

[@Thereasonyoudontlikeme]

I honestly can’t disagree with him! 🤷🏽‍♀️ This happened with my boyfriend in high school. He was quiet and unpopular and as soon as I started dating him every girl started wanting him and he actually ended up dumping me for the girl who only wanted him because he was with me just to find out as soon as she got him that she said he was boring and even cheated on him. I also learned just how toxic their relationship is. She along with the rest pursued him just to feel like she took something from me. I always look back and see just how stupid and weak he was.

[@rn2787]

People who use others to feel better about themselves are pathetic and they truly hate themselves. If you are like this, just know that if you act like that when you're an adult, nobody will trust or like you. People lose their jobs over this type of thing. No adult with integrity will respect you and they will think you are cruel and immature. Please get some therapy because nobody deserves to be drug into your self-hatred.

[@77kc_77]

Facts I can't stand people like this it shows they have low self-esteem

[@p_tiffanii]

💯‼

[@77kc_77]

I can't stand people like this either and avoid them

[@DeeperThanMyThoughts]

That's most men. They actively seek out insecure women so they can feel better about themselves by belittling or controlling them. Pathetic is just one of the many words one could use.

[@shaolinqueen3684]

What these other chicks don't realize is that they are not his womam. So when he gets the other chicks. He will treat them like sht.

[@LadyAstarionAncunin]

This is absolutely TRUE! This happens when insecure, basic men get with a woman out of his league. Other women think, "Hmm. Must be something about him. I wonder what..."

[@victoriousspirit8955]

You can tell them to find their own man, but they never will! Story of my Life! These dudes think they are special once with me…. I just stopped dating all together! I am over it!

[@candyxoxo19]

I was literally thinking about that couple. Taylor Swift could pick any man she wants and she goes for him off the heals of his relationship with a black woman and maybe when they take a man from bw it is like a validation.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Im with you💯

[@RielleGPT]

Tf? They were broken up for a while before Swift happened. @@candyxoxo19

[@NamasteInYourLane]

Bro, how do people not know this? Lol Even men will say once they get in a relationship they start getting more attention from other women. A man could go out with a wedding ring on his finger and not even be married and women will flock to him because it's all about competing with another woman.

[@LM-zk4rm]

I have a childhood friend that did this to another woman and now she's separated from the guy because she realized he wasn't all she thought he was

[@cocoace7587]

That's exactly what happened with Janet & Jermaine Dupree. He said that when he got with Janet , that's when he started getting "cookies" from everywhere, thrown at him . He said it was too many to resist. 😢

[@wonderwalledit]

What a douchebag 🙄

[@VioletFlame-Ivy]

This is very true! The guy I'm dating is unattractive, I mean I chose him cuz I thought he was a good person, but other women often made fun of him. He has a bad hygiene, no money, nothing much.... Now all of a sudden after dating me, all these weird attractive women keep checking him out. Even his nasty ex came back. Women are just jealous of each other and love going for taken men. Before that they were ignoring him like crazy

[@christinec2625]

Dump him then

[@shawnni3014]

So basically you build him right up

[@VioletFlame-Ivy]

@@shawnni3014 Kind of, yes. He's still the same, but he wasn't getting any recognition before

[@tarrylove6519]

Bruh don’t get bv messing with bad hygiene dude throw your ph balance off

[@alexajay6896]

Bad hygiene is wild

[@vladimirazubcekova7727]

I had a guy I rejected then he started to date another girl got engaged and...I still wasnt interested.

[@kreativesolutions7.0]

Lol😅😂😂

[@angelr5694]

I think it's funny how triggered people are by what he said, but by the same token, it's part of male culture. That's their whole spiel you need a hot chick, or Instagram chick who's not out there like that or at least looks like she's an Instagram model and now suddenly your boys are dapping them up and stuff like that like men have always treated women like accessories. I don't know why what he saying is so pressing.

[@monicawitherspoon6627]

He spoke the truth. The only people mad at the truth is a liar.

[@tiffmoore8831]

The man basically described my ex -- when we split his "lore and shine" faded off and he just looked grey and dusty

[@Andromedastarseed444]

Facts

[@angelbeauty8]

💯 right. My neighbour is a total loser. Sits at home for years. Scared the crap out of me the first time I met him. I don't talk to him. I wanted to live quietly, but ever since I moved next door people from the neighborhood started talking to him. Lots of men and their worried girlfriends hoovering around all of a sudden. I always always had this effect. Please women know you powers! Go to those that treat you good. And genuinely care for you.

[@awsambdaman]

You moved next to a guy and women started to want him? I honestly don’t even understand how that would work unless you were talking to him regularly

[@vertanishock7900]

This is truest statement made today

[@LoveLokks]

EVERY WOMAN has had to explain this to an ex before 😂😂 Its called "The Forbidden fruit Spirit"😂😂😂

[@ThandoNdlovu-zr3ld]

A thousand percent. A thousand percent.

[@anastasiawortham8833]

My husband commented on this shit when we were dating because it made him uncomfortable that he suddenly got checked out and flirted with when we were dating. He was single with zero attention from women for years before he even met me. Then when I decided I wanted him after getting to know him as a friend other women suddenly started acting like he was cute. He was digusted by it because it made him feel like a piece of meat. Haha guess why I married him. He won't even go out without me or our daughter as a buffer because he hates when other women look at him.

[@NoName-oe4gm]

Women do Upgrade dudes! Plus, A Good Woman juju, energy, blessing can Transfer to Your man as well! Beware Ladies….😏

[@Ladynilow]

Never heard this theory before 😂😂 for me I don’t look at someone’s man and want him 😂 actually the biggest reason to not want a guy is because he is taken but each to their own

[@tasha4400]

Exactly. Those who do this and who agree are just shallow people who think they’re special. In reality they’re just insecure

[@chiobabe2180]

@@tasha4400don’t be oblivious. If you are an attractive woman other women will scope your man . Because they wonder why YOU are with him

[@tasha4400]

@@chiobabe2180 nope, I don’t want what others have. In fact I think it’s disgusting considering stds/hiv is a thing and I’m not about to share anyone. And only slovenly/jealous women pursue/want taken men.

[@elizabethsepulveda9743]

​​@@tasha4400I think that is what she was referring to that jealous/envious women tend to do that..I don't think she meant every woman does this.

[@KhadijahsMamma]

That’s because you’re not toxic and insecure

[@TheDenali3322]

No lies detected

[@beth_9214]

Sister you're 100000% right!!! 👍👍👍 ... When I met my man he was poor, well now that we've been together for almost 4 years we're less poor - for instance, both of us didn't even have a car, now we do - but that's not the point... the point is when he was single, he told me that he was collecting rejections... we'd met and one month had passed and some of those women, who were rejecting him because he was poor, all of suddenly started sending him "funny" videos about relationship, but those videos were not funny at all because they only highlighted the negative aspects of relationships (such as arguments, dominance, etc)... slowly but surely all of them disappeared, thank God!!! And all that negativity didn't even make a scratch on the surface of our relationship, matter of fact, until today we both laugh really hard when talk about those days!!! 😁😁😁 So ladies always remember, just pay them no mind!!! Much love from Brasil 🇧🇷😘

[@joelle8201]

Sadly there are a lot of women who would chase after a married man but it’s not because he is handsome or special. It’s because it’s a challenge. They see you in a nice house, nice car, nice clothes and they don’t see that you have gone to work and helped pay for it. They think it’s all his and she is going to take your husband, your house, your car, your clothes etc from you. If they do manage to steal your husband chances are once they have him and find out it’s not the bed of roses they thought it would be they try to give him back….

[@Shaiyino.thebraveone]

“ they wasn’t checking for you before your chick “ 😂 you so goofyyyy 😂😂😂😂

[@truffaut650truffaut6]

My X had everything with me ... a house, children, money, big car .. but one day he started to love online porn ... I left. He hit rock bottom.

[@thesacredbombshell]

That man had a word!

[@KCRoyale]

Facts. By the time they get dat part…. Their Queen is longgg gone!

[@Bubblez914]

I once dated this Puerto Rican guy, when I tell you NOBODY was after him until he and I got together. Suddenly SO MANY WOMEN were coming out the wood works talking about, "Oh I see you got a girlfriend now you forgot about me." and "Oh I guess I missed my chance." And this dummy sitting there replying to em, "Oh so you saying we could've been something??" Man these women weren't even LOOKING at you! You went after them and they flat out ignored you or laughed in your face! Needless to say, we are no longer together.

[@zooweellama]

The first woman with the floral robe, I see this as a common theme. Women will do things in the relationship to prevent their man from cheating (she said she won’t post her man because she knows women will be all over him) but they never look at WHY your man feels the need to cheat. It shouldnt matter how many chicks hes getting attention from, he shouldn’t even THINK about doing that. Why are women dating men that they know will cheat on them when given the opportunity? I thought we were suppose to get into relationships with confidence that our partner would never cheat on us. Now we have to prevent people from knowing we are with a man because the attention he gets will cause him to cheat. How does she not see the issue with this? I don’t trust any male so I won’t be entertaining any of them, ever. I’m not gonna date them with the mindset of “oh hes gonna cheat on me if he gets attention so let me just make sure that doesn’t happen.” It’s so weird.

[@kayjeffs3741]

Nobody goes into a relationship with the thoughts that the other person is going to cheat. People pretend well

[@chanmit4930]

🎉my ex couldve won an Oscar. Seriously!!

[@Egh0127]

Every relationship I've been in I gave him 100% trust and all that. Every single one of them cheated. All males cheat.

[@EmyN]

To be fair, maybe she just doesn’t like the prospect of it, of a bunch of women hitting on her partner, but Idk

[@EmyN]

To be fair, maybe she just doesn’t like the prospect of it, of a bunch of women hitting on her partner, but Idk

[@irene1185]

Of course men add value as well. It's just most times it's a guy no one was checking for with a woman people were always looking at. A boyfriend once asked me why people kept starring at us. Alone, I'm use to it, but he was just so puzzled by this. I just shrugged and said that's what happens when you have two attractive people. Back when I had male friends, people were constantly "trying to figure us out". Another time, me and a male friend were out just sitting and talking and this photographer wanted to take a picture of us. With that being said, some people genuinely like seeing two people enjoying each other's company. While others will try and take your place not realizing you were the main attraction.

[@coolcat3452]

They know he’s right; but will never admit it lol!!!….my ex got respect in his neighbourhood because of me coming in taking care of him & making him look more than he is only for him to start feeling entitled & treating me like am desperate!!

[@AndthefuturelookedBlack-hq7hy]

Women are the CREATORS!

[@purplelove3666]

No they are the creation ,God is the creator,chill out.

[@AndthefuturelookedBlack-hq7hy]

@@purplelove3666 YOU "Chill out" and READ a SCIENCE and Biology book for a change. Smh...

[@Antisympathy]

That guy is in his feelings talking about men bring the value in the relationship because they treating her right, she isn’t that good and he can pull whenever. I bet he the type that believes that she should be grateful he’s with her and gracing her with his presence. That’s what he sounds like to me. 12:36

[@Nique0920]

Cosplayed Mr Biles like rent was due

[@Egh0127]

If men think that men are the prize or that they are the ones bringing value then they would be dating other men. 😂they know it's not true. Women are the prize

[@tinahilliard4447]

This is so true! My first husband only wanted me when he thought some other guy wanted me too.

[@DeeDaKang1]

Exactly.....Your woman is your biggest commercial advertisement......Why do you think men on Married To Medicine, Atlanta House Wives, Basketball Wives etc. that were considered lame, oldheads, or boring before they happened to spend 30 seconds on television 📺 all of a sudden happen to have so many options???

[@KK-rj7ij]

This is so true and fits into every single experience that I have made with dating men and relationships, incl what happened to the men after it was over. I do agree that an abusive man will "kill your vibe" and make you age quicker, and men too follow the "preselection" rule, but the influence of women in men's lives is so obvious, whereas women fourish anyway within a relationship and often without one even more.

[@nikanikasavina]

Behind every great man is a greater woman, who carries him in her arms and helps at every step of his life, whether he realises it or not.

[@princessmimithepug6719]

This is true, I'm also that girl that other woman have always hated, somehow I have always ended up with the type of guy they want and watching them guys treat me like a queen absolutely killed them and that made them try to persuade those guys to leave me and be with them. I'm thankful that none of them cheated on me and put those women in their place. But as soon as we broke up they were back around him like a bad smell 😂

[@bellabong8862]

All this underscores why we must never forget how immensely valuable and powerful we are as feminine beings and never allow any man to treat us as anything less than his treasure. WE WILL NOT GRACE THE LIVES OF UNWORTHY MALES WITH OUR PRESENCE because we really are the PRIZE! Period. Always be loving ourselves first and bestow our love upon them only when they've earned it over time.

[@DivineIshma]

1:24 I told men all the time that if I'm with you do not even look at a woman. Because she's going to think she's better than me and that she won all because you looked at her. I have had family members do this to me I have had friends who tried to flirt and flaunt themselves around men I was dating and they listened to me 😊. We would sit and text each other privately like dogging them out while they were doing it 😂 9:07 these women will date your man while you with him and as soon as he leaves you, she will dump him because all she wanted to do is up one on you, to feel better than you and it's ridiculous

[@prettyloubey8411]

💯💯💯

[@Mithreniel]

Yeah it's sad. They're willing to sacrifice their reputation, health, social status, or their own home just to one up/stick it to another woman and it's pathetic. It's sad really, in another universe they could have been friends.

[@Roro99999]

Most men need to hear thissssss!

[@lizzyav2555]

this is definitely true. which is why i dont build up men, i dont stroke egos, i definitely don’t go outta my way to help men.

[@lcavit]

Seen this in action when a guy was getting ZERO attention from a group of women, so he pulled out pictures of his girlfriend. Naturally, they wondered what was so special about this guy that she wanted him? He had their full attention that point on.

[@stunningbeaute1037]

I was in relationship where I was building him up while he was tearing me down. Tried my very best to make it work. I pour my soul, energy, and mind into it. At the end of this relationship, he had glow up so much…whereas I looked like a grandma who had lived 3 lives before this one. It hit me when I looked at my before and after photos 😭😭😭😭😭😭.

[@ItsWorkingTogetherForMyGood]

You are still THAT woman but wiser!

[@Babes94-nx5lq]

He's not lying and some dudes choose women based off how other women treat and act towards her...just immature af and ppl cannot think for themselves.

[@Therealone88]

I literally went through that in high school, like the one girl said.I was a freshman and dated a senior.he wasn’t super popular but people knew him.and I never saw woman on him like that, which is why I liked him.. soon as we got together, the hate was so heavy, then he was feeling himself and we broke up after 2-3 months of him trying to sleep with me and got mad because I wouldn’t.so he was over it.next thing you know all theses woman was on him, even the ones who hated me for no reason.they would ask him, why you with her she’s not even cute, which was a lie.. Fast forward , we did reconnect after high school ..he apologized about everything and appeared to have changed for a little bit.but he was so arrogant and was doing his thing at that point in life then fell off. This msn till this day kept coming back finding me on social media after almost 2 decades even asked to marry him after he’s all washed up and doing bad.😂😂so pathetic

[@ravnidara]

lolz he hit the wall

[@JessicaA777]

It looks like everyone is too damn concerned with what everyone else has, except for loving themselves and be confident and ready for a REAL relationship. So let's all take a break and actually learn about love. Love God, yourself, and family, then when you get it internally then you pray on it.

[@DeeDaKang1]

90% of women don't want your man, why that's way to much responsibility.....She'll rent him like a blockbuster 📼 video though and send him home after he pays a bill, buys a bag, or some shoes though.

[@RedDeadReverie]

Couldn’t have said it better! These people know the truth! 🙌🏻

[@cassiedeehoo]

So much truth to this. I’m sure there are some exceptions, but usually was happening is a toxic type woman sees a man with his woman and it’s kind of like a competition can I get her man to look at me etc. is the competition with the woman. And then the dude thinks he’s all that.

[@ninaj.4885]

And this is why these dudes are ready to un-alive these women when they leave them.

[@SaWilliam]

Chris Rock said “some women would look at a relationship and say I want a man like that. Then other women say, I want him”

[@jahsdiary]

That’s why I’m not dating men they get too much clout by my presence alone

[@EmyN]

The man “disproving” this, he just described being loved and appreciated in a relationship lol, and when he described a woman being down, it’s because she’s not appreciated or even being abused, the saying is about treating your partner right, not that we need men too lol. What a fool

[@carolallison9685]

Well, firstly, i just don't get these men. But more than that, i dont get the women. I would never go after a man who was taken. Mate poaching is the worst. And it's not just women. I've had so many men try me since I've been married, and the funny thing is im not the least bit interested. It's like oh look those people are happy. How can i f* that up for them? The reason why i hate mate poachers so much is because most people being poached don't actually cheat, but in many cases, a mate poacher will still cause problems in the relationship, even if cheating never occurs. It's just gross. All of us, men and women of society, need to just promise each other that we will find our own people. Can we all do that? Here, I'll start. Ladies, i promise you i will never go after your man, ever.

[@treid1369]

7:33 I must be broken as a woman because I don’t do that. I don’t scope out another woman’s man, I don’t check anyone’s IG. I just don’t care what other folks have going on.😂

[@AlexisLorde]

Bro with the green hoodie spitting it’s literally psychology.

[@bubblesactivated]

Yep my ex was like this. Not saying I’m the finest thing walking but his mom was even put off from me dating him because she said i was too pretty to be dating her son. But i thought he was cool and he was smart and could keep up in a conversation (im a sapiosexual). Time I decided to make him my boyfriend once he asked, he started cheating on me with girls who wouldn’t look his way without my help. I started helping him get his wardrobe together and basically building this mf up. He got arrogant and that was my last mf time I ever build any man up or was a ride or die or being patient…chyyyyy you ain’t got it by now, you just ain’t got it…

[@NoSoupForYou-zu9dj]

That guy in the beginning is completely right. I’m really short, like 4’11, and back in high school no one would even pay attention to the guy that ended up being my boyfriend at the time. All the girls in his life friend zoned him. He was also a very short guy like 5’1 or 5’2. Then when he started walking with me hand in hand, and we were looking happy, all the girls that friend zoned him before, started being flirtatious with him, even while I was there. He was an idiot though, he fell for it. Same thing happened with my now husband, except he put an end to that real quick and cut them out of his life on the spot. He was smart, and never gave me any problems. What I think it also is, is that women that have orbiters that they’ve friend zoned, hate it when their orbiters find someone else that reciprocates their feelings, because they lose someone that’s always validating them. They don’t actually want them. I do agree though, that having a woman gives them more status, especially if they perceive her as attractive.

[@KisameOwnsYouAll]

The second lady reminds me of a story where some fake friend decided to go after OP's boyfriend and took him away... except he wasn't OP's boyfriend, he was her stalker.

[@traceylennon1204]

Ooooooh that man better PREACH!!!!

[@characterchange6793]

Didn't Fantasia and Kelly sing this song, "Where would you be without me?" Check out their video.

[@wolfgang8225]

Somebody should've said this to Wendy Williams husband 😂😂