Managing Intrusive Thoughts After an Affair

[@toadman5184]

Problem is that once the trust has gone, it doesn't come back. I might stay with a betraying spouse out of convenience, but I would never actually trust or respect them ever again. Some things can't be repaired or put back to what they were.

[@perrobravoperocastrado2286]

I agree about the trust being gone, but don’t freaking stay in a marriage just because it’s convenient. Just end it! Move on!

[@moonafarms1621]

A lot of great points in the book "Not Just Friends," however if there are children in the marriage I cannot fathom how painful and stress that would be!!!!! Thanks for sharing this.

[@L.RaeHoldt]

They should feel shame. I'm not coddling these creeps.

[@NykoleParks]

Thank you for speaking to this. Emotional affairs are just as bad.

[@mimihoward4459]

You are speaking to the cheater, i thought this was focused on the betrayed

[@Ash.Crow.Goddess]

All these videos I click on sound like they will help me, the betrayed, stop ruminating. But they are all for the betrayer. Annoying.

[@Gotoworkkk]

@@Ash.Crow.Goddess because the cheaters are in pain… Their wives usually treat them terribly and depriving them of intimacy… that’s how it all starts

[@cyrusfreeman9972]

Watch it again. There is stuff here for both, and knowing what to ask, your unfaithful partner for is incredibly important. I say this, as someone who has been through this twice already, and as someone who did a lot of things wrong because I didn’t know any better.

[@L.RaeHoldt]

What bothers me is they betray you and expect is to "get over it." Forget the up and down emotions of dealing with this bs.

[@Gotoworkkk]

Did he get caught? If so, he never wanted to get found out.

[@L.RaeHoldt]

​I caught him.

[@MaryJoRapini]

No partner should ever expect the betrayed partner to just get over it! That is a red flag of a toxic partner.

[@Gotoworkkk]

@@L.RaeHoldt ok… I’m sorry

[@abeso7896]

How do I stop feeling like I’m the second choice? Just because my husband’s lover didn’t want to continue the affair now he wants to work on our marriage😢

[@Gotoworkkk]

Until the next girl comes along…

[@L.RaeHoldt]

I feel you. 😢

[@MaryJoRapini]

Make sure that is the only reason if that’s what you’re telling yourself.

[@lisafarmen9367]

This is the most amazing video !! Thank you sooo much for it

[@donaldgarrity2496]

If she buys any other male a gift or give him money. Crossed the betrayal line. Time for the divorce papers.

[@MaryJoRapini]

I think establishing boundaries is one of the most important things you should do early in the relationship!

[@DianePersaud-f7t]

after 45 and of marriage my spouse is in an emotional affair..

[@DianePersaud-f7t]

I am reliving what I get to know of it for the pass 11months..daily..can't seem 🤔 to get it out of my head 🙃

[@cyrusfreeman9972]

Read “Not just friends” now and get your spouse to read it as soon as you’re done. Make it non negotiable.

[@ImanalwaniLIFETV]

😊

[@RobertDybowicz]

Thank you. 💐

[@keciaduke3494]

How do I reach you for assistance?

[@Dachshundcrazy]

Not sorry im mot going to baby their feelings when they choose to cheat on me. I have a right to call out their shitty behavior im not going to be a cool girl and be nice about it. Because im not the person who fucked up. If they feel shame for being called out fir the choices THEY MADE, thats a them issue. Not mine. You cannot hurt someone and expect them not to react or call you out. It's unrealistic and unhealthy

[@lak1294]

Agree with you 💯. I just called someone out for hurting my feelings at the start of an emotional affair that they were clueless about and denied. Just awful.

[@Gotoworkkk]

If you’re married, it’s for better or for worse. That’s why they put that clause stating that lol

[@L.RaeHoldt]

They should feel shame, they betrayed the trust of the person who trusted them with their heart.😢 "Restore their credibility."😂

[@christopherlundberg976]

The cheater has crossed the Rubicon.

[@christopherlundberg976]

I believe all these female contributors have had affairs in their past.

[@L.RaeHoldt]

I didn't

[@Odani_Fam]

How is your skin so gorgeous? Please!

[@MaryJoRapini]

Thank you! Honestly, I think it is genetic and great lighting! I do wear sunscreen everyday!

[@jerry-mind-sky]

After affair soul ties are created and last forever.