Why you should NEVER make conversation with "the woman"

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[@ytuser392]

"If you don't respect intimacy, you're going to abuse somebody." So true, thank you for saying it as it is

[@PublishWithEmissary]

I love how quickly you answered the splendidly shallow "Isn't that sexist?" question our sick culture always throws at this. No hesitation! "Yes. If respecting the differences is sexist, absolutely."

[@Wahhhhhhhh-hhh]

Yes but it's about shaking hands not menstrual pads.

[@dejiolajide_]

I can listen to him talk all day long…

[@dato260]

Brilliant!

[@allybally0021]

Good technique.....he answererd to the point then qualified it with a precise definition.

[@supermalavox]

As a blind person, I can safely say that I feel at home when a person shakes my hand, being that person a man or a woman. It's like a substitute for the eye contact sighted people have.

[@neptunedoug]

As i remember, right here in America, there was a time that men did not shake a women's hand. If a man and women approached, you shook the man's, and nodded and acknowledged the woman. This seems to have gone away this century.

[@daleweiss9507]

I will shake a woman's hand only if she offers hers first.

[@redken5988]

I love touching beautiful women. I force it

[@PraiseJesusChristOurSavior]

welcome to equality

[@GG-mx9fj]

There is no need to hug and kiss a woman on greeting them “it’s friendly” maybe. It’s also a breach of personal space, you’ve read the old poems…it can only take the whiff of her hair and the man has romantic notions. 😂 save yourself. Just say hello, don’t offer your hand but receive hers. Hand on your heart, respect. Should I be kissing and hugging another man’s or my brothers wife. Obviously not. Boundaries.

[@Kitiwake]

In France it's normal for a man to kiss your wife in front of you on both sides of her face.

[@xano2834]

"You make conversation when you have nothing to say" Wow, I felt that.

[@Potencyfunction]

That is totally correct. It is about chemistry ad levels. Shut the fuck up when you are so stupid and find people to disscus when you are their level.

[@michaeldamato9466]

Wow...... do you really believe that? Just think about it for a while..... that means some of my best conversations with family, and friends, were meaningless....

[@davidfriend1919]

@@michaeldamato9466 actually he didn't say anything , but that was the spin I got out of it .... meaning just not sexual ...

[@bramstokes7156]

​@@michaeldamato9466 context

[@nomorecensoringme]

@@michaeldamato9466 you 'make' conversation with family and friends? Interesting.

[@metsrus]

as a person who view small talk as painful as getting your teeth pulled, I agree with this man.

[@archangelliii2536]

I used to engage in small talks, especially with the ladies not because I wanted but rather because I sort of felt obligated. Same with the hand shaking but now, especially after recent experiences, over the last couple of years I decided to stop doing that. I have my reasons. And I'm 56 years old so I guess you never really stop growing. Of course I've gained a lot of enemies who think I'm rude or what not but... couldn't care less. My few true friends (I probably have no more than four!) are okay with it. That's good enough for me!!!! 😉

[@zeeeeroin9981]

I despise small talk.

[@metsrus]

@@archangelliii2536 curious why do you feel more obligated to make small talk with a woman than a man? does gender really matter?

[@archangelliii2536]

@@metsrus Every time I see or hear a statement starting with "curious" that means you have a problem with it. Don't... that's my business! I guess with guys is different because psst...women and men ARE different. It's how GOD meant it to be. I don't give three rats what anybody else, especially freaking feminists, think. And THANK GOD for that! I don't want to be equals with women and vice versa... I hate it when women try to be equals with men! Never happens no matter how much libs have tried to change nature (that includes men pretending to be "women" and vice versa)...a woman is a woman will ALWAYS be a woman no matter what and the same with men. No freaking sex mutilation operation or mental illness or simply stupidity will ever change that.

[@mdc2461]

@@archangelliii2536 “you’ll have to forgive me if I don’t shake hands” -doc holiday in tombstone film

[@flybutterfly4636]

The more the world becomes crazy more of us who never care about G-d are now caring. As an ex atheist I never though that I would ever listen to a Rabbi in my life. And here I am.

[@Dre2Dee2]

"God uses the foolish to confound the wise." The world runs out of answers, and it brings you here: to God! Welcome.

[@the2ndcoming135]

🥇

[@nomorecensoringme]

That's wonderful.

[@leannesampson3199]

i think there has been such ignorance and misunderstanding - by non-Jews - about the teachings of the Torah, when they are explained by someone as wise and eloquent as Rabbi Friedman these teachings and wisdoms are so beautiful that they make instant sense to so many that hear them and know them to be true

[@weeklydaily4775]

If I may ask. What convinced you to become ex atheist?

[@mirroryog4918]

it's been a long time since i've seen someone of any religion have an authentic connection to deep wisdom. thank you for devoting so much time and love to others!

[@bryansans2564]

I am Protestant by parental design and i never grasped the views and translations the same way that Rabbi Manis translates the world and how we are. I've gotten more out of his lessons with 10 videos than i ever did in church. Thank you.

[@benyameenyitzhak1036]

Orthodox Church is the original church.

[@styroreality]

Protestant or any of the churchianity spinoffs are going to leave you devoid. Orthodox Christian or Traditional Catholic (which I am) are authentically Christian. The wisdom of the church is based upon the OT / Torah.

[@bryansans2564]

@@styroreality it's very evident!

[@Kitiwake]

​@@benyameenyitzhak1036 it's a breakaway from authority like a runaway child. Now fatherless.

[@nacktepoesie6194]

I find long time married couples holding hands the sweetest thing, also there is a way of saying something without saying anything by sending flowers.

[@nomorecensoringme]

There are many gestures, men and women, can make to show caring and affection.

[@aqua6613]

Lol, naked poetry 👌 I suppose nakedness in itself can be poetic and not just speaking in the physical sense. How many people can say they have been emotionally naked?

[@joshhoodrat451]

“How naked go the sometimes nude” It’s a poem

[@jackdeniston59]

What can you say to a man

[@KD400_]

Well that's how humans are. We need marriage we need family. Too many women being single these days. And like the rabbi said sexual liberation hasn't worked out well for society

[@dudesayingthings]

"you make conversation when you have nothing to say". Spot on. Beautiful talk 👍

[@billbadson7598]

_"Is that sexist?"_ _"Yes."_ Rabbi Chad Friedman

[@secretagent4610]

Lol

[@hotice8885]

I LOVED the silence and eye contact he gave after saying that. Just let it sit there and BURN

[@sardonyxsky]

@@hotice8885 burn? you sound invested in hurting women. maybe Rabbi will find a lesson next time for the boys

[@hotice8885]

@sardonyx Your reasoning skills have betrayed you. You are wrong both about whether the Rabbi was attacking girls AND about whether I was interested in _burning_ girls.

[@hotice8885]

@@sardonyxsky By the way, this _entire lesson_ was "for the boys."

[@westensanchez9483]

I never thought I'd be listening to a rabbi giving such practical wisdom

[@billiebickers....]

So glad for him. Wish it had been many years ago.

[@corielake828]

I work in an office with lots of new professional clients coming in. They always reach out to shake hands. As a Muslim women who wears head scarf, I politely decline, but I also put my palm under my collar bone and say " nice to meet you". And I find people are very accepting of this alternative gesture.

[@finchman1]

I appreciate you clarifying this. I attended an after work social last month, and one of my Muslim colleagues invited his wife and kids to the event. Upon their departure, I reached out to his wife to shake hands, and she respectfully declined saying that she does not shake hands.

[@lazy-gaga]

The social norm is for a man to wait for a woman to shake his hand.

[@aqua6613]

A guy approached me with his fist for a fist bump 😆 I reciprocated, but I'm also not "married". Everybody has different comfort levels. I've seen a lot of Muslims hugging and cheek air kissing...I was told you don't kiss the cheek, but kiss past the cheek and any of that would be too close or uncomfortable for me if that person is not a close friend or relative...but that's not how I interact with friends or relatives. I guess interactions are what you agree to communicate based on your cultural background. I wouldn't be offended of a rabbi not shaking my hand or making conversatio . Plenty of other people available to engage in that manner. It's his preference and I can respect that.

[@nsbd90now]

@@lazy-gaga In the 1950s.

[@darbyheavey406]

Shaking hands is not meaningless. Professional relationships are based on trust. I agree with the comment on free love- it never worked. Hippie guys used it to get laid.

[@davidbigd9047]

I didn't even know or heard about this quote from 2000 yrs ago, yet, I'm blessed to be a more quiet and reserved man who only speaks when I have something to say with deep meaning behind it. Everyone tries to shame me for not engaging in small talk "just to conversate or make friends" while not understanding you don't have to fill the silence with noise at all times and the deeper conversational topics are what helps you learn more about someone else.

[@marshalljackson3461]

I like this man already before the 1:00 minute time stamp. That honest “yes” was powerful.

[@AFO_AnalyRics]

I swear, the amount of things I've always known by intuition without ever having been told, taught, but, still doubted...only for some wise Rabbi to so solemnly confirm after all these years.

[@sephirothcloud3953]

The difference with savvy and ignorants is the ability to explain complex concepts

[@nomorecensoringme]

'Wizened'?

[@AFO_AnalyRics]

@@nomorecensoringme Bro, what if I told you that was some silly choice of words on my part? For some reason, I always associated the word 'wizened' with 'wisdom from experience or old age'. Your asking made me check the dictionary just to spot the unintended meaning. Thanks.

[@sheikhrayan9538]

It's the fitrah that God has put inside you If you're interested in what it means, it means that Allah has put some inherent morals onto you, but it can be corrupted over time by the environment and cultures you're living in/with. It's a Muslim belief, if you're interested in this concept then you will have no hardships understanding Islam and it's fundamentals

[@dinushblau4247]

I love this topic. You made it so clear.

[@nomorecensoringme]

Yes he did.

[@nomorecensoringme]

I think, Rabbi Friedman, you gave the group a more comprehensive talk than they thought you might. It's refreshing, no matter how many talks I see you giving.

[@ptschaumkel]

“You can’t fool Mother Nature” 🎯💯✊🏽

[@ChaplainChristineMercy]

If you have to shake hands remember this: there is shaking hands appropriately (that’s 3 seconds) and there’s the inappropriate shaking of hands (more than 3 seconds) that is too intimate and bordering on sexual contact. The tone in your voice and the eye contact is also important.

[@smokingcrab2290]

My wife never talks to me. Sandbags every conversation. She's left me 4 times. Making initial conversation with her was the biggest mistake of my entire life.

[@ernestmallais5601]

Fantastic clarity. I had to re-watch this one because for some reason my guitar keeps ringing every time the Rabbi was talking. That's never happened before, but watching the video the second time I realized that this truth and understanding is what is lacking in our modern culture. I feel it and live in it. I hope we can get it back.

[@miroslavblagojevic2402]

Rabbi and truth in the same sentence is hilarious.

[@bettyjames4192]

Devil don't want you listening to this

[@cb1623]

This is Torah wisdom, been around for thousands of years, well articulated by the Rabbi.

[@Treviscoe]

This guy's very straightforward and honest.

[@curious_one1156]

nonetheless, he is incorrect.

[@tlrlutz]

It all makes sense to me now. I go to this yoga studio and have shaken hands with a couple of girls and wonder why there is this invisible field of animosity between me and them. I am always learning. The handshake was less than a second long. I thought I had the right intentions but now I know better. I should completely respect the opposite sexes space. Thank you for your insight!

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Personally, I don't initiate hand shaking with either gender. They have to initiate. A nod is fine.

[@SeamHead33]

Extending a hand for a shake isn't disrespecting someone's "space", they don't have to put their hand out if they don't want to. If someone shakes your hand then its done willingly

[@tlrlutz]

@@SeamHead33 That’s a fair point

[@simpinainteasy680]

Sounds like they belong to the Hate group that's called Feminism

[@simpinainteasy680]

Used as an opportunity to make you feel uncomfortable 😊

[@nihao7051]

Me as a Latin American 🤭 where in our culture we tend to greet male and females with kisses on the cheek 💋 In our culture it could be considered rude not to. Love the Rabbi tho

[@archangelliii2536]

And as another Latino I tell you that's a bunch of bull. I couldn't agree more with the Rabbi. I hate hugs, handshakes and especially kisses. Although I agree the Latino culture tend to be like that, there are a few exceptions. I'm one of'em. I guess that's why I'm viewed as a "bicho raro" or weirdo where I grew up and even among family members although the latter got used to it a long time ago.(I'm 56!). Guess that's why I don't have too many friends. So be it. The four or so I have is all I want. PD Males don't kiss each other where I grew up though...unless they were gay! (or Muslims 😅). Now kissing your dad is different of course.

[@marciofonseca1859]

Covid mudou esse costume, de shake hands, na minha opiniao.

[@angelicamartinez613]

That's true! Hugging and kissing on the cheeks is considered normal or common greetings and part of our Hispanic culture

[@depressedphilosopherbitch7581]

@@archangelliii2536 I can't imagine life without hugs or kisses. You are strange, indeed. At least imo.

[@bassoon6997]

​@@archangelliii2536 I know!!! I am mexican and I totally hate hugs and kisses... Unless is my mother or girlfriend... But that's It.

[@asianeleven6050]

So much truth in this short video! Thank you for the thought provoking content!

[@ChucksNoblet]

I love the wisdom of this man. Free love is free of significance. Starting in the 60s. Thank you for your insight in this and the honesty about men and women. There is a beauty in conservative ideals.

[@richard-b8h2z]

You are always so on point. The subject is the mitzvah of marriage, engagement rings, the wedding night and Jewish babies. The subject is not the super bowl, apple sauce , yoga times and all other manner of small talk. Peace and love to you Rabbi Manis !

[@richard-b8h2z]

Well there will always be small talk between people but the important milestones in a Torah lifestyle are far more exciting than some give them credit.

[@RooniP]

two women might make conversation because they feel more comfortable with each other...and maybe two men will too...I would feel uncomfortable conversing with a man...but what the Rabbi says is so true...flirting can get people into trouble and misunderstandings happen...and someone gets hurt...

[@nomorecensoringme]

I agree. Simple conversation, not even 'flirting', can be misunderstood and problematic.

[@JohnCFee]

The 😅

[@RooniP]

@@JohnCFee lol

[@GG-mx9fj]

I’d rather read the bs in flight magazine or stare at the seat in front of me than speak to anyone next to me. 🥱 people are draining

[@Peakfreud]

Irony is: Don't make conversation Me: Immediately scrolls down to post a comment in the conversation. What he says doesn't just apply to intimacy It also applies to intimate thoughts and protecting mental health. Hence the Echochambers & Gaslighting Marathons & depression.

[@sardonyxsky]

another layer to the irony is that strangers can obligate themselves to small talk when face to face, potentially even so-called friends, but still never know the depth of a person's psyche as conveyed in a comment

[@sardonyxsky]

and it's all so impersonal ...

[@jeffreyrwilliams9345]

Thank you

[@sofiavega4817]

So true, as a Christian girl born in Spain, I felt so many times as "violated" in so many different context even church by people who likes to touch or make small talks by simpathy or formalism. I always felt as if I was the weird one but now I realize that was the opposite.

[@cultofthevoid5677]

I'm not a Jew but most of what he's saying is correct.

[@nicolasreyesscaiano7045]

As a former hardcore atheist myself I'm so eager to see how the world responds to when religious leaders and wise man like mr Friedman here start to take advantage of the Internet and remind us all why we use to care about these traditions or, in other words, "how we got here". I'm not saying not change anything. But before you do, look at, and understand what your ancestors built. That's why I'm trying to learn with an open mind from all the major religions as much as I can.

[@Not_A_Tourist]

I deliberately shake hands too long. I love the awkwardness it creates. There's a hint of innocence that resides in that moment.

[@njugunandirangu5924]

The animal impulse

[@nomorecensoringme]

All the more reason not to shake your hand, man or woman.

[@Not_A_Tourist]

@@nomorecensoringme yeah, in the end it doesn't really matter.

[@willwalker6894]

😂

[@Not_A_Tourist]

@@Nomad1025 sounds like you were raised to assume that everyone knew beforehand how long a handshake should take. And anyone that differed was "slow"? Hahaha, intellectual insecurity in a nutshell.

[@yonah9983]

I want to know how you have these conversations and people remain so calm

[@nomorecensoringme]

For all of these talks I've watched, even the ones with classes of boys and classes of girls, who get animated, Rabbi Friedman is calm, humorous, and interesting. He also doesn't shout as some do it seems for effect, or to grab attention. Rabbi Friedman, I find, grabs my attention by the content of his talks.

[@mht5875]

I'm a Catholic woman and do not shake hands with men either. Makes my husband happy :)

[@beccamcdonald9846]

I'm Catholic as well, but I was taught the opposite. Shaking hands is merely showing RESPECT for another human being. It's only intimate if you ALLOW the encounter to be intimate. I was taught to always put my hand out first to initiate the RESPECTFUL gesture. If someone interacts with me and doesn't shake my hand I take that as an insult and very disrespectful.

[@leonaheraty3760]

​@@beccamcdonald9846 I'm a Catholic woman and was taught the same thing. 😊

[@beccamcdonald9846]

@@leonaheraty3760 I was just raised with old fashioned morals and values

[@leonaheraty3760]

@@beccamcdonald9846 Same here. I thank God every day for parents who are in Heaven and were from the Greatest Generation. 🥰

[@beccamcdonald9846]

@@leonaheraty3760 Amen to that 🙏🏻

[@iamtheiconoclast3]

Some deep wisdom here. I really enjoyed this.

[@darrengosine7000]

Thank you Rabbi.

[@SnakeWasRight]

What is intimate about shaking hands? Dude just admitted to being intimate with men. Shaking hands does NOT indicate closeness, it's a greeting of people who DONT know each other. Not very complex.

[@malachi405]

A healthy, straight, man showers with other men. Nothing intimate there. Showering with women is different.

[@SnakeWasRight]

@@malachi405 hahahahaha yes, showering with other men is disgustingly homoerotic and intimate. You're just in denial. Especially since there are homosexuals out there. Showering in a communal shower with anyone is going to be a little weird, but there is nothing different about doing it with men or women. Some people will be perverts and look, others will be polite. How about you don't be a weirdo, and just go home and shower by yourself?

[@SnakeWasRight]

@@malachi405 plus, you didn't respond to any facts I mentioned about shaking hands.

[@michaelreilly5888]

Thank you for the enlightening message of wisdom Rabbi. Shalom!

[@bryansans2564]

Hi five! that will set the tone professionally. Clear the air with childhood practices. We never truly lose our inner child so why waste it when everyone is already misinterpreting a simple handshake?

[@thomasgorecki1321]

Very wise.

[@dgfunds5893]

Thank you for that audio. As a Christian I can say that never has a priest in my faith so eloquently laid out a simple matter of inter relationships. It is clear now that the Jewish faith and practicing followers will be immune to the moral collapse of the west and the insane alphabet peoples prognostications. Subscribed and will listen more. Thanks again. My morning is better for having listened. DG

[@shalizalacombe6330]

Agreed...through the palms of the hand there is energy transference...sharing feeling of intimacy, attraction...even repulsion Muslim woman are taught against shaking of hands...form of protection It can cause 'problems' for one or both parties

[@nomorecensoringme]

It's good that Muslims have that practice.

[@helenhighwater5313]

It's OK for Muslim women to shake hands with one another but not with men, based on my observation.

[@davidfriend1919]

hmmm , um yeah I don't think anybody can say that across the board , You know if that is how you feel then that is how you feel . But just know not everybody gets that . Not everybody has 'problems' just from handshaking .

[@shalizalacombe6330]

@@davidfriend1919 men & women especially those who are married...shouldn't be touching unless there are good reasons...every time human beings touch there is an exchange of energy...that ultimately can lead to infidelity

[@davidfriend1919]

@@shalizalacombe6330 With all due respect . That sounds like a personal problem . Again , you can say that YOU feel that way and that is why YOU don't want to touch in even a casual way , you don't speak for the entire human race though . I certainly don't feel that way ,

[@Zackadamchaussette5228]

True so true.. thanks for your wise words Hope WE all Learn so WE Can stop hurting the ones WE should Love and respect

[@oscarl.3563]

I don't need to know Rabbi Manis to be his friend. I like his beard and his funny hat, and I find it enjoyable to listen to him so this is more than enough for me. Rabbi, this is the first time I come across you. We don't have to be friends but let's be friendly!

[@cathrinrobitaille7719]

I asked about it the man that shook the hand of my husband but not mine about this, he said because the rabbi told us. I found that hurting because to me not shaking my hand it meant "you are not worth my recognition as a human being". I shake hands as I was taught as a sign of friendship and trust, "I see you as another human being." Also all we can learn in a business setting from a handshake! I would prefer to see if someone is creepy to avoid it through a handshake than to come closer and be in big trouble. I never thought that this gesture could be seen as something sexual at all. Thanks for sharing. It brings some understanding.

[@owl6218]

I too grew up in a culture where we dont talk too freely with the opposite sex. I always thought of it as a respectful cultural aspect. If there 8s something important to be said, it is different

[@dichosarealidaddanielrosta9410]

Very interesting. Thank you for making me see it from another angle. Regards from Tenerife, Canary Islands, Spain, Daniel.

[@yearofthegarden]

I really appreciate this perspective, as my new room mates girlfriend made sure to shake my hand when she met me, and I could not look and talk to her because she was sending signals of attraction to me afterwards which was uncomfortable, especially when I looked at my room mate and he had squated down making himself look small when she talked to me. I am in the belief that men of business or practical matter cannot have intellectual conversations when in the presence of a woman. Not that she isn't capable of intellectual thought, but that unless she is of age where attraction is void, the men would be influenced by emotion, and there is no room for emotion in business

[@curious_one1156]

"Sending signals of attraction". That is corruption in your head. You belong in one of the middle eastern countries. An animal who is aroused by mere presence of the opposite gender.

[@jntj3007]

He speaks out of common sense. It's very refreshing.

[@shannonnefra9738]

👏🏾❤️Respect Intimacy.

[@thatsmydogbuddy]

This is the most common sense advice that I have heard in years- miss you, Jeff Nachman-

[@Malkiel1968]

Atleast now I don't have to worry about not being able to talk to girls.

[@nomorecensoringme]

Good for you. I'm sure when you meet the girl you'll marry, you'll talk fine.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

No. You need to learn to talk to girls. Then you'll have the freedom to ignore the ones you aren't interested in.

[@shivadasa]

I never offer my hand to a woman to shake, but if she offers her hand to me I will shake it. I prefer to not shake hands with anyone; I spent time in a Buddhist monastery in Nepal and got used to bowing slightly with my hands together at the center of my chest, as the common greeting. That’s the way I greet people, and usually they seem to think I’m at least slightly weird.

[@richardvass1462]

I got used to paying for everything using my right hand because that's the way it is in India. The ironic thing is I'm left-handed.

[@leannesampson3199]

Physical contact is intimate, even the shaking of hands. Thank you for acknowledging this Rabbi Friedman. You have spoken previous about the reality/materiality (?) of even thoughts and words, where even another person's thoughts can be experience as being intimate and intrusive of the integrity of ones personal space - i.e. as communicated with a look or even verbally (i.e. compliments, can be uncomfortably intimate and instrusive). If one expresses such discomforts one is labelled "frigid", which is not true, but i do feel uncomfortable when people do not acknowledge & respect my personal physical boundaries. Shalom ♡

[@nomorecensoringme]

Thanks for sharing.

[@bettyjames4192]

Thank you so much. You've taught me a lot how to understand men

[@tti4919]

Much respect from your Muslim brother...... WOW this hit me hard

[@nomorecensoringme]

We don't have 'Muslim brothers'. People are not one big family, happy or otherwise. It's disingenuous to the way G-d created all of us uniquely. Separately.

[@Wise__guy]

@@nomorecensoringmewhat are you saying

[@nomorecensoringme]

@@Wise__guy we are individuals within a group. The group is whatever it is, within another group and another. Separate. The one "uniting group" is humanity, though separate.

[@curiouscat5229]

@@nomorecensoringme Thanks for making that clear. I was thinking otherwise.

[@virgiecasano8142]

I glad to thank God there is someone wisdom with right teaching It's true that's the reality.

[@natantataii8195]

Mr. Friedman this was very good. I always think I am smart, and I know I am :) because I feel I already knew this. However thank you for clarifying and articulate it. The knowledge has now moved from my unconscious to the conscious part of my brain. Great insight. You Rabbis Rock. Cheers

[@nomorecensoringme]

Shabbat Shalom to all, including your family and friends, who will enjoy being "intimate" with Hashem on this Yom tov.

[@nocturnaljoe9543]

Shalom!

[@landsknecht8654]

This guy is on point!

[@brittybee6615]

Omg “if sexist means recognizing the differences between sexes,” I’ve said that myself!!

[@elizabethbooth5446]

Thank you rabbi

[@PDM1967]

Umm, the Rabbi neglected to complete the rest of the mishna from pirkei avos he quoted: don’t engage in too much conversation with a woman, this is said with regard to one’s own wife, how much more so with another man’s wife. So the mishna is not addressing pritzus (improper sexual behavior) per se - otherwise why would it reference one’s own wife? And is is specifically referring to married women. And two men may very well strike up a conversation - its polite, you may learn something. Why would you make conversation with a woman? Because she is a human being? His whole argument is silly.

[@nomorecensoringme]

To everyone not enjoying Shabbat, have a spectacular Saturday, with family and friends.

[@arcelesp7878]

My dad allway told anybody that Saturday was the day off, he didnt understand y people change lt to Sunday.

[@nomorecensoringme]

@@arcelesp7878 interesting. Sabbath does not have to be Saturday, which is for Jews. It's fine for non-Jews to have Sunday.

[@nomorecensoringme]

@@user-ky2xo2ls4m non-Jews are not bound by the Ten Commandments. They have the 7 Noahide Laws: Not to worship idols. Not to curse God. Not to commit murder. Not to commit adultery or sexual immorality. Not to steal. Not to eat flesh torn from a living animal. To establish courts of justice. No sabbath there. Interesting to note, Christians used to be as strict about what not to do on Sunday as Jews are told to be. At some point making money, time and a half, became more important in the US.

[@heightsofsagarmatha]

Saturday is the 7th day

[@nomorecensoringme]

@@user-ky2xo2ls4m 'should'? Not according to the Torah, which is from G-d.

[@DJPTEXAS]

Spot on....

[@purpleflame334]

Thank you, Rabbi for words of wisdom

[@maydavies888]

Many years ago, I was on a plane sitting next to a man on my left who was studying law. We talked about his journey through learning logic, and now I find that this is extremely relevant in my life, having been deprived of justice for so long. B'ezrat HaShem, I can get the legal help I need.

[@Tornado63727]

The majority of people don’t even wash their hands after the bathroom and then they are on their sweaty phones all day so that’s why I don’t shake hands anymore.

[@kingmaafa120]

Facts

[@kingmaafa120]

Nasty ppl

[@kerripendragon4888]

They're also touching their hair, face, buttocks, tables, phones, clothes ..etc all day !!!

[@maureensheppard3613]

Pretty grotty to not wash ones hands adter visiting the can! Surely covid sorted that?

[@Garrett8098]

​@@maureensheppard3613Nope... I work retail and half the dudes don't wash their hands after taking a piss. Some don't even wash after number 2.

[@AX-fx7ng]

Not Jewish, don’t agree completely, but very respectable & articulated thought process on intimacy & what it means not just casual open contact.

[@sumof8952]

I thought the main reason men didn't women hands in the 'Rabbi's world' is because the women could be menstruating and that is seen as unclean as well as women being seen as property of men ? I've had plenty of conversations with women and no harm has come to me or them, in fact talking to both genders has been pleasant and on some rare occasions enlightening.

[@truthteller816]

"If you don't respect intimacy, you're going to abuse somebody, purposely, accidentally..." Wow 😲 that's profound ❣️

[@stereotypespecialist]

People used to shake hands because it meant something. Now its done because people think thats how they get something.

[@shawnstephens6795]

Shaking hands means...I come in peace, and I have nothing in my hands...I am unarmed. If someone refuses to shake your hand...they are on the defense...and should be viewed as a potential threat. This is basic primitive unspoken human communication.

[@sardonyxsky]

including women? a handshake now is either a power play or a meaningless nicety. your sentiment is out of date.

[@ronashman8463]

​@@sardonyxsky nope.

[@sardonyxsky]

@@ronashman8463 including women? surely you have to have something interesting to say to give insight other than 'nope' fkn cope out

[@sardonyxsky]

personally as a women, i have always hated having to shake hands bcuz i was told i had to live in a man's world. so i stopped and instead give a nice smile and greeting. you guys aren't answering my basic question. including women or not??? if you think people are always approaching in peace when they shake hands with you, then i guess you must be stupid. look at every salesman in the world that just wants your money 😂

[@sardonyxsky]

Rabbi really needs to teach this crowd of boys here how to respectfully treat women, if he even knows. and you can't even answer a simple question to your dumb comment.

[@guzmanme21]

That's why I hate shaking hands with people I don't know that well.

[@SeniorAdrian]

In the era of loneliness, a handshake feels like a hug.

[@MasterTheSelf]

Thank you for your guidance 🙏🏻 Please create an Audiobook on Audible also, it would be of great help.

[@JD-lt7uv]

I love how religious people are able to twist the plain meaning of things like, "Don't make conversation with the woman" to mean "don’t objectify women." What a stretch!

[@archangelliii2536]

Interesting. I'm a Christian who shares a lot of what you said. Well in my belief Christianity is the perfect continuation and fulfilment of the Judaism of Abraham, Isaac, Jacob and Moses and all the other Jewish prophets in between so there could be a connection there. Funny thing is that most of my fellow Christians don't share that with me. Although another more Orthodox group does. But I'm like that inside and outside the Church temple, but especially inside.

[@nomorecensoringme]

Judaism is complete within itself. Your ideas to rationalize your religion do not constitute fact or truth. It's insulting to us, if we take it that way. The only 'temples' were destroyed thousands of years ago. The Third Temple will be built by Moshiach.

[@nomorecensoringme]

You're 'complete' yet here you are. Won't find us on a Christian channel. What does that tell you?

[@element720]

Problem is what if no one has anything to say.. No one would make conversation with anyone else, ever

[@virginiatierney408]

You are talking about shaking a woman's hand. Why is the click bait title "don't converse with the woman?" Is conversing always intimate?

[@mht5875]

Conversation can lead to intimacy. Unless the woman speaks up about being married, of course. And men need to talk to their wives, not other women.

[@virginiatierney408]

@M H T Men and women can have fruitful philosophical discussions and they might as well both have paper bags over their faces and call each other comrade for all their gender comes into it.

[@elmalanmalan2175]

In a professional set you can exchange business card . I live in Japan and here people don't shake hands.

[@nomorecensoringme]

That creates too much garbage-waste, cards thrown away. If people want to contact each other, in this age of cell phones and computers, it's not necessary to create waste.

[@bettyjames4192]

I love his wisdom

[@botanicalbiohacking6065]

Billie Crystal has aged well and became wise.

[@stevesyncox9893]

Gratitude. Shalom.

[@te7406]

Thank you! I had wondered why.

[@yoshuaselan]

Thanks Rabbi

[@henrykemka2164]

I like you very much Rabbi. You are intellectually too advance for most of us with simple minds. Love your teleological, transcendental cognizance of the nature of existence phenomenologically known as being.

[@mider9996]

Both orthodox Jewish men and woman usually keep this law and don't touch anyone of the opposite sex unless they're very very close relatives or in certain circumstances where the Torah may look bad. On a kqbbalistic level, the touch is suppose to transfer energy

[@burnttoast1076]

I'm a woman. I find shaking a man's hand makes him see me more as a person and we are able to have a conversation without awkwardness. Not all men are even attracted to women anyway.

[@wait4tues]

This is why it's a good idea to have respect for religious traditions. For those with little or no self-control or discipline, these ideas would be beneficial to practice. They're all-encompassing and keep you out of trouble. But if you're capable of recognizing and maintaining boundaries on your own and keeping your impulses under control, then you don't need all these stringent restrictions on yourself. It takes patience, understanding, and intelligence but it's perfectly within reason for people to adapt their behavior to any situation based on the circumstances around them. But these ideas are still good ones to follow as a general rule of thumb.

[@mendelhalsband5579]

Respectfully, in modern times, we don't like to admit to our vulnerabilities and weaknesses (especially the idea of temptation I think). As a male, I understand the fear to not be seen as a creep or an animal specifically in a sexual situation. Because there's an element of truth to it, I am not an animal, but I do have an extremely powerful one in me that I must harness. If you need somewhat of proof, consider how many modern males cannot stop themselves from consuming this content. (To make ourselves feel better, we pretend that it's a good thing, or a necessary thing, but if you take uncompromising steps to stop it, without worrying what the world will think, you can.

[@TruthbBeTold]

Touching someone even in an innocent way can send signals that can be distorted. The body holds memory for a lifetime

[@TimTheMusicMan]

He is very good and soooo right.

[@wittandwittier]

Even as a Christian the Rabbi resonated!

[@MarcoSilesio]

"instó that sexist, YES" lmfao I love this guy

[@DairiesofaDarkSkinBeauty]

The head title is hilarious