Stop Trying to Understand Her

[@nickbyrne2437]

This message needs to be shared more widely. We need more men who are brave enough to honestly examine ourselves as men, and then make the tough decisions, changes and actions that come about from this introspection.

[@tarap2825]

Wow. This was incredible. I pray someday I can meet a man who could effectively communicate who he becomes and thinks in response to being around me. I think that in turn would help me understand myself and my place in a man’s life.

[@jackdeniston6150]

Why wait? Do it now.

[@realBeltalowda]

Definitely been experiencing this. The woman I’ve been dating has been bringing out all kinds of learning and lessons for me

[@nico3641]

When Roger Sterling, from Mad Men was asked, what do women want, he answered: “who cares!”

[@mmendoza1190]

it sounds better; Who gives a fuuuuu!!! 💪🏻

[@Himmiefan]

Real men do. Good, strong men do. Weak, little men don't. Women today can leave the weak, little men to their video games and whining on the Internet. We've got lives to lead instead.

[@TheSmark666]

@@Himmiefan lmao serious simp energy

[@wideningcarrot6]

@@Himmiefanyou must get pegged

[@mycroidalmycroidal]

WOMEN RUN ON A PRETTY SIMPLE BIOLOGICAL SCRIPT SO THEY ARE QUITE EASY TO UNDERSTAND COMPARED TO MEN WHO ARE MORE COMPLEX!

[@suzake2]

I didn't realize how different i was around her until my wife left for 5 days and i took care of the kids by myself, i was more motivated patient happy and involved with my kids. Its hard to know what to do with this information, i think she makes me a better person in the long run but worse when she's around

[@TheNotoriousFonzy]

This channel is criminally underrated. Really thought-inspiring video. Never thought to ask myself these kinds of questions when I'm around women but I think I'm getting there!

[@Campion565sc]

I became very insecure around a previous gf (a DA) then I became a f’n stud around the next one (a secure).

[@loulouober62]

yes you ae explaining it correctly--curiosity and caring

[@chrisrae00]

Awesome thought provoking question

[@kuya24]

Thank you for providing balanced valid content unlike other dating and pickup coaching influencers.

[@Firerose101]

I have been around the world and found that men have the same experiences with women regardless of race, language, culture. There is a human nature element that transcends all of that. So yes, there is a congruent framework that, in general, can be applied to all women.

[@Himmiefan]

And can be applied to all men. Don't fall into the trap of blaming all women for your issues and looking down on all women. Society lets men get away with this even if the men aren't aware of it. Man up and take responsibility for your own actions and your own emotional life. Reject male-entitlement and see women as full human beings who are not less than you but have good point, bad point, hopes, dreams, and traumas just like you. Sit with that: women are people and are not over-emotional less than people, but are people. Period.

[@Firerose101]

@Himmiefan interesting angle there. There was no blame for anything in my statement. I only stated an observation. Yes it definitely be applied to men as there is a masculine framework for men too. Not sure where you see me blaming them for something?

[@mycroidalmycroidal]

WOMEN RUN ON A PRETTY SIMPLE BIOLOGICAL SCRIPT SO THEY ARE QUITE EASY TO UNDERSTAND COMPARED TO MEN WHO ARE MORE COMPLEX!!

[@omartrachen6794]

I agree with the core message... You shift the focus on you, and then face your shadow, i loke it... I become needy and clingy around women

[@user-xv2ir1qe9r]

I've dated a bit this year but the person I'm currently dating has had me questioning a lot of things about myself - in a good/ productive way. It's made me breakdown why I feel the way I do and also recognise that with who she is, she's not going to be able to meet my needs. Before I would've just gone with the flow and ended up in a relationship and find this out quite far down the line. At least now I'm able to fail fast(er) and find someone who I resonate wit, with the fundamentals

[@HuberLawn]

I don’t even know how I came across this channel. But I have to say it is the best actual life application lessons. I keep watching video after video. People need to hear this stuff. It pertains to men and women. The other stuff with push pull mentality is messing people up. God bless you dude.

[@BanditsandBusiness]

Great message. Lots to ponder here!

[@williamgarcia-medina9989]

Finally, a video that explains and explores the psyche of a man being with a woman. Excellent analysis and breakdown.

[@aalvarez305]

Thank you for such a profound lesson.

[@brianhoyt3780]

I disagree and here's why. It helps to understand how they are because I don't take what they say personally. It helps to understand when they are attempting to shame me for something I did or did not do or when I express how I am feeling about a situation. I'm 64 years old. I was with my wife for 20+ years. I don't need that experience again. I am tired when I come home from work. I don't need another battle.

[@mindfulmagician7550]

Then you kind of missed the point. You kind of said it so I’ll attempt to transcribe it for you: you become a person who becomes emotional unstable when your ex wife used to provoke you and have difficulty sharing your perspective about things because you were affected by her reactions. You’re unable to, at the time, to be able to lead the interaction to a resolution because you felt that the only way to do so was to understand her. Read his book, this topic totally reveals the things we’re avoiding and not wanting to admit or confront within ourselves. It sounds like the relationships is done and you’re probably at peace already, but it’s still great to walkthrough and see how things could’ve been different if you knew how to influence the right things in your control.

[@barneydi2783]

Great feedback - Learning to know how you project yourself

[@shatzoren1]

That's true if she has her shadows figured out. Otherwise, what you will see is a reflction of your shadows through the mirror of hers. That does not make your shadows clearer but rather the opposite. For example, if she constantly gaslights you unknowingly to her, you will falsely identify your shadow as being a gaslighter yourself. The only worthy reflection in such case is whether you two fit together or should break apart, but without a qualified counselor it would be hard to tell who has to do most self work, especially if both partners are insecure.

[@jakobmyrhoej134]

spot on! well explained wisdom to live by.

[@mattemenheiser6911]

Haha... Where do i get one of those sharpening stone???? Great helpful insightful video!!!

[@theimaginarium]

Another incredible gem. Who do I become. Excellent question.

[@Lance54689]

In my experience when a woman says "You just don't understand", I found what she is really meaning is "You don't agree with me." There have been times I've been able to summarize her thoughts very well but she isn't happy. "I understand what is going on with you, and I disagree" never works, which means the the understanding isn't the important part, the agreement is. Maybe I'm taking it too literal, and for her understanding and agreement are much the same thing?

[@Himmiefan]

Do you understand? Do you truly listen? Do you truly care, or are you just wanting her to do what you want to do? I don't know the answer, but I throw these questions out for you to really consider. Don't automatically reject them, but really think this out. Each partner has to work to understand the other since none of us are mindreaders.

[@nohasamir3134]

She probably means that you cannot empathise or validate her feelings .. she doesn't need a mechanical logical understanding devoid of emotional support... you can give her that even (especially) when you disagree.

[@necromortis9010]

From the mouth of a woman: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rn-wdGhtpsxkoKcsi=8_K4kezDV8FfzkGw

[@alequ83]

Great idea with connecting shadow to womans roll.

[@nilehawkins7878]

Great perspective

[@PhilipTheHunter]

Is a partner that brings out all the things you don't want to see, not just bad partners? I feel whenever I need therapy when I'm in a relationship, it's because they were unstable and/or they wanted me to be someone I wasn't.

[@emiliodiaz3927]

Same man I'm struggling with that thought

[@basantidevi2305]

Nope. You need to deepen buddy. There’s is self exploration. You’re afraid of knowing yourself deeper and she’s showing you this. You’re not evolved enough for a woman like this.

[@donovanw.2943]

Thanks for the helpful info. I have the perfect way to understand women, just be a certified mind reader 😊

[@madhatter5147]

I think it's great advice for the whole human race, not just for man.

[@egeayvala1799]

i am myself i dont act like someone i am not around women ? i am cold and emotionless around women i never show any weakness. and i never let her disprespect me.

[@isanivelasquez6043]

Well said!

[@SS-vu4yu]

Great video...

[@jamesmartin2814]

Good stuff.

[@brianalonso9188]

What a great video

[@williamsandbach2203]

Commonsensically Brilliant !!

[@Hammockrider]

" Don't try to understand women. Women understand women and they can't stand each other!" ........Al Bundy

[@cw9515]

No Ma’am proud.

[@sitbytheocean5998]

So, does the 2nd half of your video negate the first half... or are you still telling men to get curious and ask their woman what is happening for them? (while still doing the 2nd part- to look at how she reveals your shadow when you are with her?)

[@urbanart7325]

What about her shadow

[@ramia317]

Don’t know how to let go brother

[@cnbrauns]

Awesome

[@danielwilberforce7400]

What a reframe. "who do I become" and not "who are you"...

[@Ray_Midge]

"Don't try to understand women, son. Women understand women, and they hate each other." Al Bundy (via H.L. Mencken)

[@Himmiefan]

Honey, you've got issues if you quote Al Bundy. I hate to tell you little boys, but this quote isn't true. Be a man, grow up, and show women respect. You might just get it in return.

[@Stratton218]

5:19

[@johnsmith-rd3zx]

i learned in life what i think or what others think doesnt matter the only thing that matters is what the bible thinks for example some people glorify and defend sex workers while the bible makes fun of prostitutes in proverbs 7. God makes fun of prostitutes because he knows they corrupt men instead of it being an innocent relationship

[@Himmiefan]

Are the men being forced to patronize the prostitutes? Are the men just helpless victims?

[@WilliamMartinez-vq2bn]

I dont care what they think that will change everyday with the weather!!!! They are like cats they like glitterycthings!!!!

[@RobertM-dg6le]

Pump and dump that’s all

[@nohasamir3134]

Understanding your partner is as important as who you become in their presence. You have very subjective and unscientific views, and that's not the first video I watch for you... probably the last.

[@Himmiefan]

He does tend to fall into the "blame the women for all of men's issues" false trope.

[@lionsoftruthministries3126]

Hahaha man if you do what the advice is in this video you will be divorced eventually. Married Red pill has the answers

[@davi721]

Too much wheat waffle, maybe?

[@lionsoftruthministries3126]

@@davi721 yeh…

[@VR-oy3fu]

@@davi721 wheat waffle isnt redpill