Many Christians Are Wrong About Marriage VS. Singleness (1 Corinthians

[@gersonemmanuelsantosfernan9237]

I want to get married but before that what I want most is to be totally satisfied in Christ, thank you for this word!

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen

[@nathanielbyerly8653]

"Discipline is understanding the difference between what you want now and what you want most." In the type of society we live in now where we have most certainly become lovers of self, it is no longer wise to believe marriage is the option to strive for. Marriage is to be viewed as sanctification through the church. As a man our marriage to a woman should be viewed in the same manner as Jesus Christ's sanctification with the church. Too many people get married never understanding this. 1st Corinthians 7:32. Your goal should be to praise God and do God's will. I'm in love with someone and I mean TRULY in love with someone... Which I have only ever loved one woman before this. However, now I feel very differently about making such a commitment to someone without knowing their true motives which takes time. If you want to marry, if you found "the one", or even if you believe it is required of you... Take it slow but before all else, be sure you are of sound mind and spirit. If not you will fall short everytime.

[@shawnshelt3824]

Single, but prefer not to be. Nevertheless I hope and trust in God even with this.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless Shawn!

[@cuprunnethover2509]

May you find the right person for you!

[@shawnshelt3824]

@@cuprunnethover2509 thank you.

[@daryll3493]

I've just finished this passage of the bible and I'm so thankful to God that I didn't take it out of context. Indeed, this chapter is all about focusing on God whether you are single or married. In my temporary singleness, I will praise him. And someday when I get married, I will praise him even more!

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen!

[@bradandrews777]

Daryll, don't put too high an expectation on marrying and staying married today. No firm Biblical promise on that and society/churches are very messed up in that area. I pray you do find the right match, but it is most unlikely to happen and or last given unrealistic expectations today of many women. Some men have them too, but men are generally much more adaptable, after a certain individual standard. Try to get connected to some older Godly men you can really learn from, though that is another challenging almost impossible task today.

[@Strive1324L]

It's been tough for me to accept my singleness, but what we need to remember is how God sees us. Society places a huge emphasis on dating and marriage, and that if you don't achieve that then there's something wrong. But these scriptures say that marriage and singleness are both valuable, and whether you're married or not does not determine your value to God.

[@rrnn6472]

The church also emphasizes that. My pastor once asked me what's wrong with guys (that I'm not married etc.). I told him that I was still in the oven baking and not fully done. He couldn't respond and gave a look as if he needed to process that a bit. It's like they expect me to show up each Sunday like "woe is me I'm so lonely and bored". Instead I'm there smiling and talking, looking for more strategies to survive Monday through Friday! People always have a timetable by which we should accomplish certain "mildstones", but God is the Master Scheduler!

[@cuprunnethover2509]

People act like singleness is a disease but it is not! There is nothing wrong with being single!

[@cuprunnethover2509]

Did God tell you Strive that you are not getting married? If God told you that ok but if you told yourself that, then that is a problem...

[@Strive1324L]

@@cuprunnethover2509 How? If things don't work out that way, isn't that some sort of a message? I don't see a problem here.There is no problem with being single. I've prayed to God for years about this, and it didn't happen, so that to me is a message from Him.

[@cuprunnethover2509]

@@Strive1324L there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single! Stop! Breathe! Read what i am saying...all i am saying if God did not tell you that you are going to be single then you should not tell yourself that. I had planned on being single as well. Not married, no children! My Mom was in the ICU dying. I was 45 single no children! She prophesied that I would marry amongst other things. I am 49 and still not married. But i know that delayed does not = DENIED!! if God told you No ok! But if God did not tell you No then stop professing it. I prayed last night about being single. God said to me Its not good for man to be alone. So I'm just saying to pray about your situation one more time.... Is that so hard to do me that one favor? I know you don't know me but do me a harmless favor and pray one more time.... Thank you!!

[@geieffect]

Thank you God. At the same time on a human level, it hurts to be lonely.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Yes, loneliness is painful

[@geieffect]

@Pinard.J Palladin I have a lot of friends especially in church as well. But a spouse companion is what is missing.

[@geieffect]

@Pinard.J Palladin Thank you!!! I don't want to be alone forever either it's terrying to think about but I am blessed to have God with me and I need to get up and get moving forward with my life pray that he brings me a husband one day. I am a woman by the way I have gotten too comfortable of staying single. God bless to you and your wife. God wanted you to keep your banner held high and you did. 🙏

[@geieffect]

@Pinard.J Palladin Bless your heart for your dedication to the church and looking out for others as well 🙏 you have a good heart too and God always has great plans for us we just have to be patient with joy. It was a learning process for me to fully understand. He' never lets us down and allow us to let our guard down. Thank you brother have a wonderful weekend and many blessings to you and your family.

[@cuprunnethover2509]

Its all about what you focus on. If you focus on being alone or not having children, then yes you are going to feel lonely. However, if you focus on other things, you won't even realize you are alone. The only time, i started to feel lonely was when someone else pointed out that I was single without children. Other than that that, I personally was good to go!

[@emma-my8bn]

I was married 26 years and have 2 grown children. I'm only 45. I've been divorced going on 2 years. Never dated. I'm happy to be single. Whatever God's will is for my life.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless Emma

[@nicolcacola]

Did yall divorce over adultery?

[@drryan3562]

What happen if you don’t mind me asking

[@Anthony-yy3kc]

Emma, I am there too. Separated but not divorced, but neither of us want to remarry, so we both will become eunuchs for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven! Matthew 19:12-14

[@conartist267]

Emma, I like you for your beautiful attitude. Would you marry me? ❤

[@yolandakonzaphi8112]

God i want your will to be done for my life and if i meant to stay single then let your will be done and i pray that you will help me be satisfied with you and help me live a fufiling life to you amen

[@ronaldbala9958]

Thank you Mark! The church culture here in my country Bangladesh is the total opposite. They believe that marriage is God's will for each and every Christian and loosely explain away this passage of Scripture. Its hard for SSA Christians like me who are constantly under a social and spiritual pressure from leaders/church people to pursue marriage and are indirectly treated as not spiritually mature enough or as being in rebellion against God for not doing so. Prayers appreciated! So grateful for your ministry! Blessings! 🙏🇧🇩

[@blairjohnson6785]

So grateful for this breakdown this is great, needed this because I’ve been confused about this passage after a few conversations about it with my brothers in Christ!

[@jlex1049]

Singleness is better. For God and for us. Marriage has all but been destroyed by man's stupidity, so i personally consider it better to be "married," if you will, to God. Earthly marriage is too troublesome.

[@msliberated3899]

Amen! I enjoyed singleness with God and now married 17 years in a nightmare. From experience single and doing Gods will trumps marriage.

[@EbonySoldier77]

I 100% agree.

[@joostvanwijk3842]

@@msliberated3899 Thank you for sharing honestly.

[@ButhuLionessOfGod]

I have the same view ! Agreed 👍

[@oreally8605]

I don't mind being on my own. If I get married and its The Lord's will so be it.

[@desireew4613]

Same.

[@jaydimoreno2060]

How you break down God’s word is such an awesome revelation! We all go through seasons where we stay single for a while, but that doesn’t mean you’re going to stay single on the contrary he prepares you during that season. I am grateful to God how much revelation he gives you during that season. So when you do get married. You are better equipped for you marriage.

[@cynax7757]

When I was a teenager, I had a dream where I heard God said "Respect the marriage bed." I didn't understand what that meant until I was in my twenties.

[@KalistoMoOn]

This is more than helpful Mark!, thank you so much, you're helping me to navigate and understand the word of God through the bible to make life important choices like to marry someone or not, you have been so important in my life. God bless you and your loving family.

[@sunshinesunflowerz1647]

Take God out of the box. God’s Word is saying that “Put me first…” whether single or married but both submit to each other, and love each other as Christ loves the church.

[@DavidMarmolejo]

I've been speculating this topic for so long now. I am glad this video was made to help me clarify my own perspective. Ty! God bless.

[@camryncothran8058]

GREAT MESSAGE MARK!!! can you break down all the verses in the Bible like this?? 😂

[@maryngugi8155]

My Love he just left me without a word 2weeks ago and just the other day I was just thinking of remaining single and just work on my relationship with God I believe this is a great sign God bless you for letting Him use you as a vessel to reach out to people

[@ferrymalikioli9857]

Man of God you really interpretated this topic well by the Holy Spirit. This is how the Lord revealed to me also. You are blessed mightly. Thank you for obeying.

[@preachingpoet]

I used to believe that I was a preferred eunuch… because of a New Testament scripture. That’s why it’s important to do what you say in “rightly dividing” the WORD. It’s like eating steak without cutting it properly. If you don’t “divide it rightly” you WILL CHOKE! God PREFERS me to have the desires of my heart, HE PROMISES TO USE ME FOR HIS WILL EITHER WAY. (Psalm 37:4) Thank you for this blessing Pastor Mark!

[@joshgreen4521]

Thanks for the video! It really blessed me. I know that I am called to marriage and getting the revelation of living with undivided devotion to the Lord really spoke to me. God bless!

[@tiannaannenicole]

Amen , I appreciate this message , when I do get married and always , I will put the Lord first ❤

[@nicolcacola]

"She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. - Proverbs 31:25-30 Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court. - Psalm 127:3-5 Grandchildren are the crown of the aged, and the glory of children is their fathers. Psalm 17:6 So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander. - 1 Tim. 5:14 Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table. Behold, thus shall the man be blessed who fears the Lord. - Psalm 128:3-4

[@Pedro-of4tn]

Blessed be the Lord! Luke 7:35 King James Version 35 But wisdom is justified of all her children.

[@RayAnthonyMorales]

That was an awesome Biblical dissection! I daresay I feel more at ease. 😅

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

So glad it was useful!

[@333HealthyMe]

This was sooo clear & affirmative . Thank you so much ❤️

[@shingtome2179]

Dear God, can I best serve you in marriage or in singleness? I am not sure, because I adapt very well when I set my mind to something 😢 Sometimes I think I want marriage for selfish reasons, but in the end I end up acting selfish in my singleness. Dear Lord, all I can do is thank you and praise you and pray to you for whom you are and all you do. I am trusting you, as you said you will provide for me and needn’t worry. It is hard when the road is in darkness, but I will await your guiding light to shine on my path and for your strength to follow it. When I look at my life, I want to see you in every part, every part, YOU. God bless the people in the chat, in Jesus Christ name, amen!

[@EbonySoldier77]

I prefer to be single because I just don't want to share my home with anyone. I was married once before and I was so weak and my then husband was not a Christian.

[@AnnCross77]

This is an excellent teaching on marriage and singleness! Thanks so much! ❤

[@scopeway]

👍I like what Doug Wilson has to say in this matter also. "Singleness is an affliction if it was not chosen freely and voluntarily for the sake of kingdom work, and the person concerned is of a marriageable age, and would very much like to be married".

[@Arcanon10]

Facts.

[@bradandrews777]

Naïve. Many men today have no options due to the way things are skewed. Tough to find a godly spouse if you have committed the sin of not being hot enough. We are long past the days of making a marriage work and well into those of freely splitting up because we had challenges. Very few can have a godly marriage in that atmosphere. Some can of course, but the exceptions prove the rule as the saying goes.

[@scopeway]

@@bradandrews777 Doug Wilson naive? Far from it. Imo and experience a decent haircut, exercise along with a healthy diet, dressing yourself better and generally taking care of yourself will fix being 'hot enough'. As for things being skewed I agree, but that's a much more complex subject.

[@bradandrews777]

@@scopeway Don't be short, or have other "not looking good" traits. Yes, I could look better (for example) but my selection would always be far more limited than those who are "hot" by default. That is more of a trend since modern media exposes "hot" to everyone. Normal men have a much harder challenge. You are likely not a normal man if you have not experienced this. I am too old now though, so I am not seeking to find someone even though I didn't plan on being single at this age. Life happens. God can use me as He wishes, but finding 30+ of marriage is highly unlikely at my age especially since i doubt I have that many years left! We are long past my grandparent's generation....

[@bradandrews777]

@@stephenmcdonaldjr You miss the point. 80-90% of the men are passed over today. It is not being passed over due to being way outside the norm. I did have a wife who "settled for me" (according to her God told her to not pass me up) but she ultimately bailed after a long term relationship with no qualms and full support from Christians. That is the norm for far too many men today, including in the church. Ignoring that will cause even more of the existing failure, but no one in the mainstream church is addressing this. I am old enough that it is quite unlikely I could find someone that would be attracted to me who I would also be attracted to. That is the way it is. I would also wonder why that woman was available anyway, since a faithful one would be snapped up a long time ago. This is why Proverbs says that finding such a woman is very hard! Most have forgotten that.

[@rrnn6472]

🎯👏Excellent exposition. This reminded me of Elizabeth Elliot's outlook after her husband and his team mates were killed.

[@SpenceCurry]

Happy asexual here. No stress and drama. No debts. Retired to bellingham wa.

[@REA873]

Thank you for this video now I understand it better

[@marvinbenjamin3015]

All I believe being remain single is serving people in a much greater way I could be wrong.

[@kevinestrada977]

In Jeremiah 16:2, God commanded the prophet Jeremiah to be single and childless. In Hosea 1:2, God commanded the prophet Hosea to marry.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

amen

[@bepreparedforwhatscoming4975]

Hosea had to marry a prostitute though!

[@taylorpegues5871]

I think to me what's most important, is to focus on God more and have fun in single season. 😊 Its like I want marriage but I'm not super focused or desperate about it. I'm looking forward to going back to school and doing something fun and worthy in my life because I have a purpose!

[@zuzu_1]

Great explanation, I was just wondering about this today !

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Glad it was helpful!

[@JaniceB1217]

Thank you so much for this I use the verse when people attempt to make me feel like something is wrong with me for not having a spouse.

[@leonardwilliams7772]

I have NEVER seen one preacher, or leader that was single. NOT ONE. HOW ARE THERE NONE ? I have that gift.

[@jgtheman84]

Because women are attracted to that kind of a man and it can be hard for the men to resist temptation with all of that attention and options around him. I also feel that I have the gift of singleness from God and I prefer to be that way.

[@rich-manpoor-mancomics5814]

I don’t want to be single anymore!?.. 😔 I wanna be married, I wanna be a father. 🤞🏻🙏🏻😇💕❤️

[@Fabreezecat101]

“When the time is right the Lord will make it happen.”

[@nicolcacola]

Just prayed for you brother 🙏

[@rich-manpoor-mancomics5814]

Thank you ☺️

[@cuprunnethover2509]

You will be! You can have a bus load of babies if you want Richy Rich..🤣🤣🤣 Lord... Rich wants to be a daddy so make it happen for him in the Name of Jesus! Thank you Jesus! Amen!

[@rich-manpoor-mancomics5814]

@@cuprunnethover2509 thanks buddy ☺️👍🏻

[@krishnasaikia6132]

I don't want to divide love for God like apostle paul. I prefer not to

[@smartwork2560]

Thank you for this. Video... I was in need of this explanation ❤️

[@derekroberts6654]

In my experience.. it is very possible for YOU to want to marry BUT God may be calling you to be single all your life. You may not want that… i know i didn’t want to be single but God intervened in my life in a way no one would understand… I REALLY wanted to marry someday but no woman was ever attracted to me in that way at all. Simply because i can not live independently on my own. i’ve been living with family my whole life because i was unable to hold a job and live independently… therefore God wanted me to stay single. Not very many people believe me. That makes my situation harder.

[@babs0970]

These are lies of the devil from a pit of hell, he is a liar, if you have a desire to be married beleive God for that

[@Apheres]

Yes it was helpful. Thank you.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Glad it was helpful!

[@LuhRen]

Im.glad this is being talked about. I believe the enemy loves to make ppl feel like they need to be in a relationship to be whole, when really we need to be in relationship with Jesus. I feel God wants me to live a like a singleness. I could also just be jaded from past relationship. But I do disagree with you, I believe it is better for us to be single, but not in a settling way but in a we can put all our focus on God. Whereas our focus becomes divided when we're married with kids. I personally find more happiness in being single than I do being in a relationship I also don't know if I want to have kids either. They truly annoy me and just be in the way.

[@TahaniGold]

Relationships are a distraction. Help people, build beneficial bonds,do God's work, but keep that boundary up. God made us all unique and has a different plan for all of us. Many relationships are successful, great, but many aren't. They take you out of your true character. It's the Masculine and Feminine nature of us as humans. My point is, being single, you just have that clear devotion to God. You don't have to mess with the outter world. God should always be number 1. In a relationship, you have different opinions, different views, debates come up, etc. And then, in flesh, many of us feed into that through our reactions. But now, step back, single, devoted to our Lord Jesus Christ, believe me that is not happening. You are free, no chains to follow God's path that is intended for you. No I'm not saying then life is perfect, come on, you know there will be obstacles, that is promised in the word. We must persevere. We wouldnt be here if we were perfect, and I know I'm far from it. However this world is a dark place, a relationship with God is the most important. Accept Lord Jesus Christ as your Savior. Bottom line, you're not going to be judged by your partner when we cross over. We will be judged by God Almighty, the Maker and Creator of Heaven and Earth. The King of King and Lord of Lords. And when I get there, I just want him to see, that I did my absolute best to keep him number ONE. Forgive me Heavenly Father, moments I haven't. You, and I are God's children. Let's SATISFY our Heavenly Father even if that means being single. And those who are in successful relationships, teach others the ropes. Its really hard, the battle of spirit and flesh. I try my best. I love you Lord Jesus Christ. Thank you for being my Savior. I'd be nothing without you. Amen. Hallelujah to the LAMB OF GOD! 🙌 🙏✝️

[@eabbcc642]

- God is love -

[@RoamingnomadRN]

Honestly when i was single, I was so focused on the lord. Then it came to the point i found out about something complex i stepped away. Within later that year God showed me my now wife. Even though Im not as dedicated as I was, im able to refocus something that I steoped away from. It helped alot of things that i was struggling with. Both has its benefits but at the end of the day, God always has his perfect timing.

[@carltonpiercey9220]

Im looking into this again. I was told by a Christian counselor that I'm not a spring chicken and I need to find a lady and get married. Indeed I'm a 41 y/o virgin because I decided to not have sex unless and until marriage. I am disabled and struggle to take care of myself and I believe in being able to provide for a wife and family if I am going to marry. Ive had romance but just not sex or cohabitation. But I think I don't have to look. I think if it's intended God will put her in my path in His time and let me know. I just want to serve God as best I can now. Have mercy I struggle. But I definitely believe in seeking God first and I'm not lonely. Ive friends in church and AA. And other Godly friends who are positive influences.

[@Amanda-dg7re]

Hi Mark, thanks for this video. It's very helpful. I have a question. This passage seems to say that if you can control your sexual desire, then you should remain single. I would say that I have done this - I have set good boundaries when dating and have not succumbed to sexual temptation. My sexual drive is very much dormant and I've not awakened it. It's not that I don't have one at all, but it's not a cause of temptation for me. I do desire to be married, but feel like I'm not "burning with passion". Does this mean that God wants me to remain single, or that I should choose to stay single since it's not a struggle for me? I'm really wrestling with this. Thank you.

[@crystalbrooks2684]

I thought I was asexual, bought into worldly labels and was ready to sit my mom down and tell her she's never getting grandchildren from me. That's how much I could NOT CARE LESS about being in a relationship. Boy was I ever happy on my own, just me and God! And then you kn8w what happened? My co-worker got saved and in an instant my heart was opened up to him. It was an absolute miracle and I developed strong feelings for him and a genuine love. I developed a true sexual desire for the f7rst time in my life, and God gavr us so many confirmations that this was His will. 10 months later we're engaged! Not saying this applies to you, but you never know. God can do anything, we simply must believe He's good! Don't worry or overthink would be my best advice, whatever God's plan is for you, it's a hope and a future beyond what we could "ask or imagine" You can trust Jesus 😊

[@Amanda-dg7re]

@@crystalbrooks2684 Thank you so much, Crystal! This was very encouraging

[@miguelinclan2521]

I have the gift of singleness and celibate.

[@laltanchhana316]

I really want to get married and have children. I believe that this will complete me and there's nothing else i want more to do with my life than this. But my main issue is I feared that i won't be able to find a virgin wife, these days you just can't tell and you can't trust anyone, it's like most people want to lose their virginity before marriage badly. But it could just be me being selfish, being virgin myself and my partner not being a virgin is really hard to comprehend.

[@nicolcacola]

Look for a Godly woman. Not all women are virgins when they get saved.

[@cuprunnethover2509]

@@nicolcacola he can have whatever he wants. If he wants his wife to be a virgin, there is nothing wrong with that at all! I don't want a man that's not a virgin either! Never did.... Why should i have to wait and he doesn't? That's not fair to me! He gets my virginity and i get nothing? I get used goods? That's not fair to me? What's good for the goose is good for the gander....

[@cuprunnethover2509]

No Lal, you are being selfish at all! We are still out there. Just pray and ask God for what you want and stick to your guns! I never did want a man that wasn't a virgin either.... I totally understand. Virgins are a rare breed! But they exist still...believe it or not!!

[@laltanchhana316]

@@nicolcacola i don't know what it's like outside of my home, my people but here it's very difficult to find a godly woman or man too of my age or younger, they go to church and all but their life outside the church is pretty messed up, for example they participate in church activities but they are super lazy at their home. And of course somewhere there will be the good ones but I'll probably never met them or won't have the chance to talk to them because of the way dating works in our culture.

[@laltanchhana316]

@@cuprunnethover2509 If I'm getting married i want to do it before 30 now I'm 28,people get married earlier in our culture mostly before 30 ,after 30 you'll get forced to marry with someone available not someone good, also we love children, we want to be not too old when our children grow up and having a lot of children is pretty good for my people because we're very less racial group. The older people are very fine in terms of their faith because they weren't bothered much the modern internet world but they're bit old for me

[@TsukuyomiPlayz]

Very good! Thank you

[@pinkroses135]

When I was younger (and before some theological shifts) I really wanted to be a religious sister. As I prayed I was getting the opposite message that marriage is part of my plan so there's that. You may have a call(s) that's tied in with them somehow.

[@mnbassintv2849]

Well said. I had the same interpretation

[@jacobliddiard158]

Thank you brother, Do yoh think Mathew 19: 3-19 could be also interpreted as that not everybody could receive the elevated challenge of marriage? Even in greek it is is not clear whether what Jesus said refers to celibacy or about marriage. God bless

[@jamesfarmer6004]

On Sunday, February 6th, 2022 I married Cindy K. Page (then aged 60) and myself to her (James A. "Jim" Farmer: then aged 65). Unfortunately, Cindy died last year on Monday, August 12th, 2023. Cindy and I had a year and a half of marriage, which was the best time of our life. And no, I don not consider myself single, but widowed. No, I am not angry with God that he took Cindy home. Afterall, II Corinthians 5:8 states, "to be absent from the body, is to be present with the Lord." Do I miss Cindy? Oh absolutely! I am now 67 and will turn 68 next month in November 2024. Now.....I will be honestly and graphically blunt here! Two Bible scriptures are often taken out of context and utilized "weaponized" against people in the church, including single Christians! These are Hebrews 10:25 and 1 Corinthians Chapter 7 are the top two scriptures taken out of context and often used as a weapon to lay a damning guilt trip onto people! For instance, Hebrews 10:25 is often weaponized against people who are not consistent in their church attendance. This is especially projected by self righteous condescending people in church leadership who are self righteous, condescending, and often over bearing! No, we attend church "not because we haft to, but we get too." The worst perpetrators of this verse tend to be non-instrumental Churches of Christ who are sectarian and legalistic, and Judaizers! As far as 1 Corinthians Chapter 7 is concerned, it too has been distorted, taken out of context, and weaponized, "Paul was remained single, and should remain single!" That too is damnable, odious, and vile! I am the dissident who coined the graphic term, "I hate singleness as bad as the Russians hated the Nazis and Fascists during World War II (1939-1945)!" That was my comeback to religious criticism and church abuse in regards to 1 Corinthians Chapter 7! Never mind the fact both Hitler and Stalin were originally Axis partners starting with the August 1939 Ribbentrop/Molotov Pact or "Nazi/Soviet Pact and both the murderous Nazi SS and Soviet NKVD also being Axis collaborators, prior to June 22, 1941, prior to Nazi Germany invading and attacking the Soviet Union, during Operation Barbarossa! But I have digressed here. My point: I have a zero tolerance policy against both religious criticism and church abuse, which I rightly believe has not place within the Christian Community/Body of Christ! And also to be honest our churches have both the best and worse of people. Too, I never did like so called "Christian Singles Groups" as a number of people who attended them, played dishonest religious games! And example would be "I'm married to Jesus" or "Paul was single" and then turn around and get married the first chance they got. Yes, I say this "don't do as I do, but do as I say" hypocrisy! And yes, I am involved with a local non-denominational congregation in Klamath Falls, Oregon: Shasta Way Christian Church, which is be far the best church I have attended. Now having stating this, there are four local Klamath Falls churches I simply refuse to set foot inside, and never ever will! Conclusion: Moral and intellectual honesty, sees father than does religious and political correctness. ---James A. "Jim" Farmer Klamath County, Oregon

[@LifeWithJuan]

In the context of 1 Corinthians 7, what does 'anxious' mean? Does it simply mean, 'concerned about', or does it mean something more specific/nuanced? Thanks again for a great video!

[@Lazarusrizing]

Thank you. I thought you gave such clarity about marriage and singleness according to the text. Praise God for it. But I did wonder who were the people, who because of gifts, desires and variables, ought to get married as you begin to explain @2:30. I wondered if they were people in entertainment for example. I wish there were some description as to who that is.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

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[@engineer4god470]

I feel like I would serve God best if I’m married but he has allowed me to remain single at age 33 and I m discouraged. Being single, I am isolated and I think it could increase my selfishness over time. I’m begging God to send the right woman into my life but every door that opens, just slams shut again. I’m trying to figure out why God is allowing this.

[@Thepilgram52]

Mark could you look at something I heard although it was speculative that Paul was married had to be married because he was part of the Sanhedrin and one of the requirements of the Sanhedrin was to be married

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

He wasn't married at the time of writing his letters. He could have been married in the past. We don't know and there's no way to know :)

[@antoniohaley1171]

Thank you 🙏🏾 Lord amen 🙏🏾

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God is good!

[@busker153]

Actually, verse 38 is great support for the foundation laid in verse one, where God tells us it is good for a man never to touch a woman, right? You are right that verse 38 should not be an end all doctrinally. But, after verse one, it is on us to interpret the rest in this context.

[@hippidieblooblah]

I have a question. Is it ansin to pirposefully stay single if you are not in full time ministry? I ask this because whenever i seem to find a girl i like, i tend to move too fast and i oversell myself so as to bring up my ego. I also tend to be argumentative at times. This has prevented me from having successful relationships. Im great when it comes to having relationships with friends and families but for some reason i cant get it right when it comes to being in a relationship with a woman. My intentions are never to hurt anyone ever. But somehow i manage to do that at times and i ened up wasting both of our precious time. The other issue i have is that i believe my standards when it comes to looks are way too high. But at the same time i cannot help who im physically attracted to. Ive prayed hundreds of times that God would change my heart and allow me to fall in love with someone im not really attracted to. I get rhat everything i just said sounds terrible. For that im ashamed. Butnhinestly im getting to the point where i think it might be best that i remain single and be able to live my life as i please. But unless im in full time ministry i feel like people would tell me im selfish and living for myself, when in reality its just that im terrible at dating and my standards are too high. I do love God and i do my best to love everyone and witness to people when thenopportunity presents itself. But i feel like i could be somewhat content with staying single. Im just terrified of being judged for it.

[@atlasdm]

Shame. You used the word "context" probably 20 times in the video, but you chopped up the chapter and avoided verse 6 "But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment." Everything in this chapter is Paul's preference, and not God's commandment. You should have started with that from the beginning of the video.

[@1stJohn3.9-10]

I'm 57 and have never been married. But I wear an engagement ring to remind me to be a Wise Virgin. I don't know how people can keep from having lustful thoughts days weeks months before their honeymoon.

[@Anthony-yy3kc]

What I want to know is how did Greek and Roman culture deal with marriage? Was it just a "justice of the peace" type of ceremony or did the churches develop the traditional marriage ceremony we now see so often? My understanding was that often marriages were arranged by the fathers and the concept of romantic love was not the norm. Paul simply says if you don't have self control it's better to marry than to burn with passion. Or the father's giving away their daughters. I somehow doubt that there was romantic love involved and all of the hassles that we witness today.

[@maryzupo7176]

I never choose to be single. It's a difficult life alone. Yes I have God, but here on earth I have only myself to rely on. Face the facts here that a husband and wife are partners who compliment and support each other. As in Biblical terms. It's me, myself and I. In the times of Paul, it was a Patriarchal society. Paul was most likely speaking of MEN being single. and NOT A WOMAN REMAINING SINGLE, never to be married. How would she have supported herself. She couldn't own property! Women were married off, and married to dead husbands next male kin when widowed. In my family I'm a failure. But I'd never marry for silver, to just settle for the sake of being married. What a lie. Only for the Best, Gold, because I'm worth far more than Rubies. I'm 58 and still single and probably will remain single. I know this life is temporary and isn't guaranteed happiness. I have my strong faith and I'm Saved. Keeping the Faith. Sharing the Word of Jesus Christ. That's my purpose.

[@Jwet1100]

As an atheist I take the Bible at face value. It says it’s better to remain single. Other verses state it’s better to not bare children into the world. While other verses are clearly not even pro family.

[@janne2olof301]

1 Cor 7:37-38 (in the KJV) speaks of a father giving his unmarried (older/post menopausal?) daughter in marriage to a man and that he who does this does well, but he that keeps her does better. 1Co 7:37 Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well. 1Co 7:38 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.

[@infinitiigracii4785]

Thank you jesus

[@lindavo6173]

Thank you

[@cttofl8822]

First 🙏

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Nice :)

[@illuminatinglight5486]

I do not know which one is meant for me. I always wanted to find “the one”. Knowing that you won’t be able to keep them though honestly disappoints me :(

[@cuprunnethover2509]

Huh? Keep them? Where are they going?

[@SimplyLivingInFaith]

How do you know if you will serve God better as a single person or married person ?

[@trizanzor]

Matthew 6:10 King James Version 10 Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. John 4:34 English Standard Version 34 Jesus said to them, “My food is to do the will of him who sent me and to accomplish his work. Luke 20:34-36 King James Version 34 And Jesus answering said unto them, The children of this world marry, and are given in marriage: 35 But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage: 36 Neither can they die any more: for they are equal unto the angels; and are the children of God, being the children of the resurrection. John 15:19 King James Version 19 If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

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[@cuprunnethover2509]

Ask Him! He is not keeping His plans for your life an undercover secret!

[@finkejdf101]

@@cuprunnethover2509 Yes he is.

[@CarolFleming-d4u]

I would suggest that all persons who are going to marry a Christian should read 1st Corinthians ch.7 .... Believe in the Cross

[@AndersonChao-vs3zf]

I don’t understand why some people don’t believe 10 commandment even know adultery is included

[@adamnanney4952]

But what if you have been single for your whole life, yet, you struggle with strong temptations and you know for a fact you can't control them, and initially, you didn't want to be married but over time out of nowhere, you have a intense desire to be married? Is that the Holy spirit changing your perception? And going back to my main question, you also have not met anyone and you are not content being single? Because this is exactly what I am struggling with. I am not joyful being single, I struggle with temptation and I know for a fact I can't control these urges, I have had a change in heart when it comes to marriage, at first I didn't care, but now, I have a immense desire, but also, i have yet to meet anyone mutual and I have been single my whole life. I don't want to be single anymore. I am afraid of giving in to my lustful desire and committing sin outside of marriage. So why would I do that when I know it's wrong? Why would I deliberately sin? But I know in my heart I can't control my urges.

[@Charles-e4x]

As someone who's going through the same struggles, all I can really say is that God loves you no matter what. We are all sinners by nature and are in need of Jesus as our Lord and Savior. Just turn to him and trust in him no matter what happens. Our lives are unmanageable without him. But don't feel bad about feeling bad either. God loves to comfort those who are hurting.

[@andrewcommodari6536]

The very sad thing is how there is still not enough people that have a desire to do God’s kingdom work. With this being said, from a social hierarchical perspective, the one thing that breaks my heart is the fact that if God is saying there is still not enough people, then this means it is obvious that there is not enough “Godly” women. Instead there is a lot of “mean girls” especially when you think about what goes on in the world of relationships and dating in high school.

[@cuprunnethover2509]

In high school, your focus should be getting an education. Everything has its perfect order.

[@999babydoll]

What happens if i still have the desire that i wanna get married? I am enjoying my single time right now but still im just curious, because i feel like im destined to be married to the person God has for me, so idk

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

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[@cuprunnethover2509]

God will bring you the right person at the right time! He will give you grace for singleness until he sends someone to you. Ask God, He is not keeping His plans for your life an undercover secret!

[@conartist267]

I understand but I’d have to disagree this time. I’ve been married and now single. I can say unequivocally that I agree wholeheartedly with what Paul is saying at face value… not in the broader context. It’s so simple. Marriage does compromise our relationship with God, even if it’s 5%. Unless you are superhuman, marriage requires effort and we do worry how to please our spouse -unless you’re a narcissist- therefore taking our eyes off Jesus even for a moment a day. Marriage and singleness are not equal. Paul is saying, it is better to marry if you are desiring or lusting after the flesh, because it should stop you having sex with non believers or multiple sex partners. Singleness is pure devotion to God without interruption. We haven’t even mention children yet…

[@kotymccallister5150]

If it were true that he preferred us single, he wouldn't have made us the way he did. He made us with our sex drive, and he made us in a way that requires sex to procreate. He made our offspring require years of parental care, and made our offspring need that care from both parents, necessitating the need for a relationship and commitment. Marriage doesn't always take you away from God. Use marriage as a way to serve the lord.

[@ralpha4957]

so is it possible for marriage to occur in heaven or the new earth like adam before sin came into the picture?

[@Arcanon10]

I desperately pray so ...

[@Fabreezecat101]

The Bible tells us, “At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven” (Matthew 22:30). This was Jesus’ answer in response to a question concerning a woman who had been married multiple times in her life -whom would she be married to in heaven

[@bepreparedforwhatscoming4975]

@@Fabreezecat101 that’s not necessarily talking about the new earth. That could be the millennial reign

[@cuprunnethover2509]

There won't be anyone marrying in heaven. We are there to worship God!

[@Mr.Rogers143]

I guess I agree with most of what you're saying here. I still have issues with this, man lol. Paul does say about three areas in 1 Corinthians 7 that what he is saying is his opinion (Someone who has never been married mind you). I see a little bit of contradiction when Paul says if you don't have self control, go ahead and marry. But he told the Galatians, "Walk in the Spirit and you will not fulfill the lusts of the flesh". Shouldn't he have used that with the Corinthians? And isn't self control a fruit of the Spirit? Maybe he was thinking of practical ways to avoid temptation until the fruit of the Spirit was mature in them 🤷‍♂. Also, is Paul implying that spending time with your spouse something God tolerates? Can married people not please the Lord as much as a single person could? From what Paul teaches in this chapter, we need to scratch out verses like "It is not good for man to be alone", and "He who finds a wife has found a good thing and obtain favor from the Lord" lol (No don't do that). This is very unpopular but I think the majority of 1 Corinthians 7 is Paul's opinion. Paul had no clue what his devotion to the Lord would be like if he were married, because he never married. We can estimate how we might feel if a hypothetical scenario happened to us, but until that thing happens, you really don't know how you will feel. For married people, part of your devotion to the Lord is loving your spouse well. If you can see it, that is a form of worship because you're doing it as unto the Lord.

[@LongWalker730]

Why did God even create Eve if Man and Women are meant to remain single? I love God but some things I am so conflicted over. It seems almost impossible to pursue God while married. It's so conflicting that the one partner God made was woman for man and man for woman, but marriage is the biggest pitfall to seeking God. I feel like it's a curse from the fall of Adam.

[@Romans219]

I love being alone and intimate with Jesus Christ as much as possible. I never get lonely. I have never been married or had kids and have never committed adultery or infidelity. I'm going straight to heaven when I die in the loving name of Jesus Christ. Christianity is a relationship not a religion. Eternal life is a promise and a gift from God to those who accept Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. The price has already been paid.

[@goosehammy4837]

marriage is worldy, in heaven we are whole in Christ, as awell as we are on earth. But on earth we have human nature, marriage is good but singleness is better in Christ,

[@David-ul4l]

See video, "Marriage Licenses, Divorce Courts: Let My People Go: Forbidding to Marry & Buy/Sell"

[@wgw808]

I find it convenient for you to omit scriptures that Jesus says it is better to remain single. Then only use 1 Cor. 7 to talk about singleness. Then use the entire Bible to back marriage. I’ve literally had my senior pastor says remaining is like the gold medal and getting married is the silver.

[@gemofGod184]

This conversation makes me sad, going through a divorce now of only 3 years barely. Would God desire for people to be single parents?

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Originally God designed parents to be together. But, as we know, the world is not perfect anymore

[@jeremyrothchild4894]

How do you focus on god if you have adhd?

[@briankim1098]

The key is not to think quantity over quality, but the other way around. God knows you and ADHD doesn’t make you less valuable in His eyes. I’d say do your best to maximize the time you give to Him and always come back when you’re ready to do it again. God’s office doors are always open 😊

[@trizanzor]

1 Samuel 16:7 English Standard Version 7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”

[@bns1776]

I was diagnosed with ADD when I was 8. The best thing I can recommend is get active at church and serve/ volunteer . That's if you aren't already of course.

[@jeremyrothchild4894]

@@bns1776 I’m in new state by myself and if I have any flaws it’s social anxiety going to church

[@bns1776]

@@jeremyrothchild4894 that can be very understandable. A new church can be very intimidating with the volume of people. Sometimes the bigger churches can make you feel potentially even lonlier. But in serving in an area. You have the oppurtunity to build a relationship with a smaller group of people inside that church.

[@modestomadness9355]

What’s the point of getting married now if Jesus is coming back soon anyway..?

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

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[@AndersonChao-vs3zf]

I might be wrong and If I do you can correct me if you are look at 1 Corinthians 7 for over all you may have a chance to remarries again after divorce but if you could it would be better remain single that is the best way but I didn’t say you are free to remarries again after divorce unless your wife or husband death I said you may have chance we all know that God hate divorce always remember that : Matthew 5:31-32

[@H5691j]

You’re free to exercise your own freedom and self-determination, God can work with you no matter your life choices. A few words to the wise: If you’ve never been married, know then that you don’t know what you don’t know about marriage. Marriage is a legally binding contract, NEVER get married without a prenup. Common law marriage is also binding, know the laws in your state. Marry within or as close to your own socioeconomic status. Your spouse is NOT responsible for your happiness. Wait at least a year before having children to see if the marriage works, if it doesn’t, get out quickly because once children arrive, it is exponentially more difficult. Assuming a divorce rate of 50%, what percentage of those who remain married for various social, political, religious and/or financial reasons do you think are truly happy? The answer is much, much less than you’d think, meaning you ultimately have only a 10%-20% chance of being truly happy with someone. Don’t get married in an attempt to live up to your family’s or friend’s expectations, it’s YOUR life, make yourself happy! God bless!

[@tinman7001]

From the start to this day women separates man from God, family and himself in a specific but also a general sense. If the goal is Jesus why distract oneself with a woman.

[@ryem1685]

This is an amazing video. All you would have had to do is read the whole chapter and it would have been clear that you are wrong. Instead you chopped it up in order to manipulate. Why did you skip the first verse and also skim past verse 7 where it says "ALL". Instead of reading what it says you are adding what you want it to say. I came here because i am honestly looking for understanding on this subject. i have only seen your dishonesty.

[@user-nsj5csgwk]

I cannot accept my singlness. A sick person needs a medicine. If someone is lonely, he or she needs somebody else.

[@cuprunnethover2509]

Well the sooner you become at peace with it, the sooner your life will change. Has marriage become an idol for you? May you find peace with every state you find yourself in until it's your season!

[@user-nsj5csgwk]

@@cuprunnethover2509 would you say the same information to a terminal cancer patient? "Has your cure of cancer become an idol? May you find peace with your state.."

[@user-nsj5csgwk]

@@cuprunnethover2509 for someone with a lot of pain, the cure of the disease itself would be the only soothening thing.

[@cuprunnethover2509]

@@user-nsj5csgwk My sincerest apologies! I know God is a healer. We have people in my church who are now cancer free! I will send up prayers on your behalf! May all your dreams come true and some unexpected ones too! 🙏🙏🙏

[@martynobs6970]

If you're lonely before marriage, you will be even more lonely after marriage....correct the problem primarily

[@Mike-bk5yc]

Mark how did you know God wanted you to marry?

[@jeremyrothchild4894]

How you focus 100% on god but not ignore partner? .

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

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[@DemonDavisK]

I think we all will be single till we perish lol it's not that suprising

[@Level4Bio]

No. What he is saying is if you stay single you have more time to spend with Christ. It does not take a genius to figure out if you spend all of your time with Christ of course he would bless you more and allow more time with him to advance his kingdom. After all that is the entire point right? To praise the Lord and spread his word!!!!

[@KarenPerez-g5o]

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