Many Women are Losing Out on Legitimately Good Men

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@jaws2003 7 ай бұрын

I told my older sister something similar to this recently. She always used to say I would start pulling women when I got older. That's turning out to be true, but I told her, "I don't like them circling back now after their trauma and them bringing baggage." She said that "those women weren't ready when they were younger and they wanted to have fun and they needed to mature." Then I said, "So my fun and happiness had to take a backseat to that?". She couldn't say anything after that.

@mg123451 7 ай бұрын

If they didn't come around the first time. They didn't like you 🤷🏾‍♂️. So leave them alone.

@jaws2003 7 ай бұрын

@@mg123451 exactly!!!! I can't stand that ish.

@Ben-js7kj 7 ай бұрын

You don’t think women experience the same thing

@BlackSantana 7 ай бұрын

They like to prep u to be the fallback guy. Don't do it. If you're not getting her between 21 to 28 (im being generous with the 28).....you're most likely the fallback

@Faevaaplayboi 7 ай бұрын

funny thing your sister knows the truth. women in general have that girl code that they would even do their own family wrong thats just how theyre

@GTPLAYBOY 7 ай бұрын

Denzel Washington’s wife was with him before the fame and money, and they’re still together today.

@landonprice5656 7 ай бұрын

Denied his proposal 3Xs so must be a balance

@jude9876 7 ай бұрын

Don't mean none.

@DialloMoore503 7 ай бұрын

@@jude9876 Please explain.

@NoreLyne 7 ай бұрын

@@landonprice5656really ? I love Denzel 😢

@thecurrentmoment 7 ай бұрын

@@landonprice5656 staying with him and providing support....but denying his proposal, maybe until he could financially support a family....could be a fair balance balance, perhaps. Made me think, thanks

@insanebeatjunkie 7 ай бұрын

they watch too much tv or social media and or listen to Stingy women for advice 😂

@abryepenez124 7 ай бұрын

A real woman won't even mess up a chance with an official good man and she'll do whatever it takes to avoid ruining her chance with that official good man. Like the Bible scripture says, a wicked foolish woman ruins a good home.

@DJ_BROBOT 6 ай бұрын

That's false. I know a litany of good women who have gotten caught up with pookies and got preggo. You got alot of good women who think how they were not favored when they were younger by the pookies but once they get resources (when they older) they run back . I got a few cousin who trapped teachers with degrees outta nowhere because they (those sistas) were simpin. They chose the cleanup men on their next dude after my cousins got at em.

@maravilloso002 7 ай бұрын

A lot of women honestly care more about how they appear to others more than the ppl who're in their lives. Charleston White said something on a clip that "God can't trust a woman to lead. A real man ain't liked. He's missed and appreciated when he is gone. But while he's here, he ain't like he is tolerated." Ppl will mess up good things b/c they''re unhappy and will use many different avenues to cover up the turmoil and aggression while presenting a Holly outward appearance to the the world.

@user-qn7ui7sb1q 7 ай бұрын

That’s the truth.

@mg123451 7 ай бұрын

He's only missed because they realized how useful he is and they want him to do his duty not because they actually want him for him.

@danaparfitt2491 3 ай бұрын

@@mg123451so what's he want to be wanted for , having the best hair?

@OmegaSp008 7 ай бұрын

This is so true ... being characterized as the nerd in school, not a jock, not a dope boy, didn't drive the best car, didn't wear the latest fashion .... no attention, talk to the hand attitude. Fast forward 10, 15, 20 yrs later after leveling up, military career, college degree, living life and making the right choices .... ohhh, what do we have here, as Big Ron said "hey, big head, you're looking good, how are you?", blah, blah, blah ..... Naw, I'm good!!

@professorfinesser8289 7 ай бұрын

Their energy always come off as fake and desperate

@armonbrown213 7 ай бұрын

@@professorfinesser8289💯

@OmegaSp008 6 ай бұрын

@LsvgsBaibee Oh, we've healed, or at least I have. It's just taken longer as it was something we had to grow and mature into. Even still, if that same nerdy or geeky girl looked good enough or dressed a certain way, those same guys I mentioned earlier could have still gotten her. That's the one up girls or women had back then and even today. This topic has levels, but my comment was based on the topic ... Forgive but not forget .. Life goes on. Be blessed 🙏🏽

@basemanawakens6089 6 ай бұрын

@LsvgsBaibee so in other words lets just deflect and blame men?

@RandyBaker87 7 ай бұрын

Rom, you are 1000% correct. They lose out on good guys for undesirable dudes and regret it later on when they have 2 or more kids, have been through multiple bad relationships, and their lives completely go rock bottom.

@Mike-y1q3v 6 ай бұрын

And herpes....

@kingleo393 7 ай бұрын

They think it’s a flex to leave a good man they end up single mothers and struggling seen this with my own eyes in real life

@notyet2345 6 ай бұрын

If she left, he obviously wasn’t a good man. Women are willing to risk going in the poverty to get away from their husbands.

@FrozeZone 6 ай бұрын

@@notyet2345 It's obvious you don't know what you are talking about about

@notyet2345 6 ай бұрын

@@FrozeZone do your research. Married women with children who divorced their husbands or more likely to end up in poverty, then the husband. Only about 40% of parents actually receive child support and only 10% of spouses receive alimony If women are willing to risk going into poverty, they must really hate their fucking husbands

@BigDiscussions76 7 ай бұрын

I think the fear of settling is huge and them feeling like the man should work for them are huge. I'm seeing that churches are havens for perpetually single women.

@FredTechSc 7 ай бұрын

Facts, my dad's a preacher and he keeps asking where are the men my age 37 ! At bc we not in church. I told him point black that churches have slowly been demonizing biys and men from coming. Only married men come to church. Single men .. we know were not welcomed!

@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485 7 ай бұрын

Good observation about church

@lutherjacob 7 ай бұрын

My wife was with me when I didn't have much. Now I'm 45, body, experience and money on point I enjoy rewarding her loyalty. But I'm always ready.

@Greentunic84 7 ай бұрын

I'll tell you a brief story..I'm a select man. 6' 1 205 lbs, good shape. University education handsome. Make 100k+ a year. When I was 31 I fell in love with a girl that was 21. She dropped out high school. She was a prettt girl 7/10. I made her feel like an 8 or 9. Supported her to get her high school and pushed her to become a Registered Nurse over the next 6 years. 1 year before she graduates she dumps me because she doesn't know what she wants in he life now. We had a great relationship and I loved her dearly. Broke my heart. She comes back every few months to test and see if im still around. I had to go no contact. I learned a valuable lesson. Woman that have that little girl mentality you should stay away from.

@marcusj97 7 ай бұрын

Ummm...there are a lot of valuable lessons here..lol. What you failed to realize is even with your credentials in the sexual marketplace, you have only a fraction of the options she does. We as men have only ourselves to blame here, but nonetheless she's in that range to where shes teetering on the upper tier in looks. Even if you had the chad/tyrome looks to go with what you listed, you wont get a 1/3 of the attention she will. At her age back then, she would have had to have a strong religious background or a very solid father figure presences of some sorts to stick with just you for the long haul. She was in her prime. They hit the wall later in life when their superpower fades (their looks). She checks in on you the same way you do when you go through a dry spell and text girls from the past. She probably got kicked to the curb by another Chad/Tyrome.

@duckyh9712 7 ай бұрын

Never hit her up again. She got bored and wanted to get piped by somebody else.

@brandonjackson3641 7 ай бұрын

@@marcusj97exactly I agree with you

@curtisgraham6987 7 ай бұрын

@@natashadickson4819that’s when yall become bored n hate life n end up divorced reasoning being the divorce rate is so high. One thing fa sho 2 things fa certain we all get what we deserve in the end. Amen

@NobodyXSomebody 7 ай бұрын

Similar story to my neighbour. So basically we moved to a new place a few years back. Had a neighbour in his late 30s to early 40s maybe. He was in a relationship with a woman who was probably in her mid 20s I think. He was putting her through school. The two years we've been there everything seemed good between them. The woman was a bit distant from us though and she always had this judgemental look on her face every time she saw us. One day I'm chilling in my room and I suddenly hear a lot of yelling and banging on the walls and breaking of furniture. Apparently they got into a fight, that she started, suspiciously around the time she was about to graduate. Lots of his furniture was broken in the commotion because ol' girl was playing whack-a-mole with it. She also took (actually stole) some money (it was actually a lot) that the guy kept at his place while he wasn't there right about the time she was about to exit from his life. Dudes ego was crushed. She moved back to her parents home hours away from where the guy was. I wouldn't put it past her to have been cheating the entire time because a lot of her behaviours and attitudes just left question marks in my mind. Man I hope you bounce back from this and start dating women of a higher league physically and mentally as well. My thinking is dating will always have some level of uncertainty because you never truly know what another person is capable and willing to do to you should opportunity present itself but I will aim for someone as close to what I consider ideal as I possibly can physically, psychologically, sexually and culturally because as Rom always says, the culture she was raised by matters. In fact Rom from time to time will point out how we rarely talk about class whenever we talk about game and man-gets-woman.

@busyrand 7 ай бұрын

Gone are the days where it used to be enough to be a good man who had a job... Nope... It's viewed as a deficiency if you don't already have the things you'd purchase to house a family and children already as a single man... The reality is, the typical lovely lady does not have an appetite for her match in men. Brothers can sense the lack of genuine interest and see no incentive to do things differently.

@ohmainzte 7 ай бұрын

Agreed. 7 months post-breakup, been working on myself, starting to recognize the confidence I had when/before we met. I truly believe it's only a short matter of time until everything in my plans fully take off, and while I feel it would be a shame if she didn't try rectify the situation before then, I have come to terms with and accepted the possibility or likelihood of that outcome. No matter what, I am making things happen in this reality.

@cboy-ou2hr 7 ай бұрын

Amen brother keep going know thyself understand your worth

@kidbu916 7 ай бұрын

After 7 months post break-up I could never trust her again. That's a long time and I don't believe a woman is sitting around working on herself to spin the block as a better woman. Often it's because they can't find somebody who is better than you in all areas and so they want to come back around. As much as it hurts, I would make her stay gone, allow her to be on a rotation, or if she does want to cone back she won't be the only one. The ego alone just won't allow it for me.

@DickButkiss-tc2cu 7 ай бұрын

If she's not willing to work on herself while you're together, chances are she will not work on herself when you're broken up. Women don't HAVE to improve themselves to get laid, but, if she doesn't work on herself (truly work on herself) then she ain't even worth considering for more than a casual fun time here and there. If she's drama it's not worth it

@ohmainzte 7 ай бұрын

@@DickButkiss-tc2cu the thing is, she had paused working on herself before she met me, but when we were together, just being around me forced her to work on herself and some of her insecure ways, just by my nature of being honest, open, and calling out bs when I see it. There were at least 3 times I can remember when I had to get real and say something I knew she might have a hard time hearing, and was actually VERY surprised to see that her reaction was like a light bulb had got turned on in her head, and she seemed genuinely oblivious to and grateful for my perspective. It blew me away, each time. I think thinking outside of herself just doesn't come as naturally as it does for me. I think if we had more time she would have healed and probably see the ring I'd bought. She really had all the pieces, she was just broken. But aren't they all. She is distracted with devoting to her job, so I agree that it's unlikely that she's doing the inner work. But my sense is she is starting to notice me engaging with her less lately, and I'm expecting to either just move on as planned or have to tell her why I don't want to hear from her. The only drama was when she was playing with ghosting me right before we split, and triggered my anxious core wounds of abandonment and loss. I'd lost my investment, and that really sent me for a while. I was really not myself. It has become my belief that giving any woman "casual fun time" is a validation and contributing to both my personal and the meta issue. I've since decided to reserve that for only a single potential candidate during any given period. It's not for them, it's for me, and hopefully society. It's taken some time, but I've been able to thin down most of who had access to me to just a couple of hotwives who may only get one more night or two with me after I tell them.

@ohmainzte 7 ай бұрын

@@kidbu916 we have a physical distance now, and I feel the 7 months isn't as much of a factor in comparison, honestly it's longer than we were together, yet she still comes around. Her relocation was the driving factor or at least the main excuse. She's pretty occupied with the job.. but I'm not completely naive, I agree it's probable anyone she's met just isn't measuring up to me for her. For a time, my plan was to relocate with her, and I don't want to take that away for myself just because we're not together. I feel where you're coming from. I've already decided in my head that if/when she does want to come back, I won't even take her unless she addresses and agrees to work on some things with me. Whether I'm called anxious or secure, I will not be with someone who can just check out when they feel like it and pretend it's all good. Also, I'm no longer doing rotations or half-relationships. Many women's egos have been inflated because I gave them access, and I know I'm not alone. Last year I had a pig straight up beg for me and eventually later flake on me and not even try to be considerate. I've never blocked someone faster.

@dirtyflex100 7 ай бұрын

Uncle rom jazz is so comforting 😂

@cboy-ou2hr 7 ай бұрын

That elevator jazz

@DionWynn 6 ай бұрын

You ain't lying man, they too busy chasing a fantasy of a relationship.

@DRLEWIS 7 ай бұрын

Truth about we don't pick right when we are young.

@DialloMoore503 7 ай бұрын

The first video I watched from you since you’ve been back, brother Rom. This is something I’ve been talking about for a while now. Women in the 70s, 80s, and even 90s didn’t let good men pass them by. Quality men back then weren’t invisible. Most women today are just far too brainwashed by media and their peers. But that’s going to backfire on them. I’m not rich yet, but I will be. Most women I come across don’t recognize my potential and ambition. It’s their loss. It’s not my fault if they can’t see that I’m a prize. They’re truly missing out, because they don’t know how to assess people in their presence. Like you said, just talk to us for a little bit. But they’d rather not. They’d rather just look at a man and assume that he’s not going anywhere in life. Big mistake! Glad you’re recovering, Rom. Catch you later!

@LoneWolfe_XX 7 ай бұрын

What happened to Rom? I noticed you said you wish him best recovery

@DialloMoore503 7 ай бұрын

@@LoneWolfe_XX He had a stroke a few months back.

@LoneWolfe_XX 7 ай бұрын

@@DialloMoore503 man I hate that for him

@shifty8948 7 ай бұрын

Uncle Rom back with the truth!!! Glad to see you’re recovering well

@sid2daknee 7 ай бұрын

He's getting stronger! Good stuff Uncle Rom.

@sid2daknee 6 ай бұрын

@@leontaecoleman3644 To make it clear I was talking about Rom's health.

@sid2daknee 6 ай бұрын

@@leontaecoleman3644 To be clear, I was about his health.

@rastafit23 7 ай бұрын

He a good guy but he a player 😂 .unc rom playing that Jazz ! 🙏🏾

@322Mermaid 7 ай бұрын

Hey Rom. You look good ....glad to see you on the channel. I'm a married woman and mother but I like your channel topics. Your wise. I'm with my husband.....we have had our ups and downs but him ans and I are still together. My husband has never gave me a reason to leave....we separated once but he didn't leave me even then. He is a great man.....

@basemanawakens6089 6 ай бұрын

So you attempted to leave him?

@Mr.O.Cardenas 7 ай бұрын

Great game I can tell you getting a lot better by your voice Keep pushing Much love

@pimpgodnation2590 7 ай бұрын

GREAT BREAKDOWN, BIG BROTHER...

@RomWills 7 ай бұрын

Thank you, honorable brother.

@pimpgodnation2590 7 ай бұрын

@@RomWills Always. ...

@Michaelrojas24 7 ай бұрын

This man doesn’t miss 🎯

@courtneyphillips7837 7 ай бұрын

💯 facts

@hpeezy58 6 ай бұрын

Salute to you Rom…much respect for your work 💪🏾💯

@bladerunner27x 7 ай бұрын

Thank you and Salute!! Exactly, I’ve said that many times. A lot of wm missed their window of opportunity, you could have had that kind of guy many years ago but you chose poorly. 🙏🏿✌🏾✊🏿💯

@DanielJWalkes 7 ай бұрын

Uncle Rom, your content has helped to change my life. Thank you for telling it how it is.

@MsJoyce31202 7 ай бұрын

She could be meeting them on the way to the retreat and passing them by. Oops. But I had a conversation with a friend about changing things, yes, he could let the barber bless him more but will he? I personally am not changing my style of dress or whatever, so maybe he won't either and that isn't necessarily a bad thing.

@TrillBill 7 ай бұрын

0:38 Honestly, I would argue it's even less than that. Maybe 5%

@BLESSBRAND 7 ай бұрын

Glad to see you back in good health 🤝🏾

@cboy-ou2hr 7 ай бұрын

I love you Rom

@tyree9834 7 ай бұрын

Yesterday I was watching videos of guy who was providing for women he did everything for her but she used him she had kids the guy was been nice guy why she text 2am guy he started crying and he kicked out car

@christopherjameswright9614 6 ай бұрын

Yo send me the link lol😂😂😂

@Quincy82AAC 7 ай бұрын

Excellent video Uncle Rom. I fully agree with you bro. 👍

@MoveInSilence23 6 ай бұрын

Great video Rom. This is a story as old as time in this "boy meets girl" thing. It's not going to change. The heart wants what it wants. It's never been enough to just be "good" as a man.

@Blaqmench 7 ай бұрын

Hypergamy = No 💵, No H🍑ney

@patrickmccane3708 7 ай бұрын

Glad u recovered, good to have you back

@EmperorAJ93 6 ай бұрын

May god bless you and keep you Mr wills❤ #getting healthier every day 💪

@Rellz_yt 6 ай бұрын

This one is going straight to the Archives. Straight facts. These chicks have a certain timeframe/window before I make it. I’m gonna get real picky after

@Mar-le8pq 6 ай бұрын

Glad you're making content ‼️ Thank you 🙏🏾. This is my first time watching in a while. 😂 this helps me a lot navigate this thing at 24. I got a plan but i got sidetracked a bit mentally.