My Girlfriend Of 10 Months Is Mad That I Won't Put Her Name On The Deed r/Relationships

[@0michelleki020]

1. she's a GF, keep money separate. 2. she's a GF, keep her off the deed to the house. 3. she's a GF, keep her off the cars registration papers. 4. she's a GF, not a wife.

[@immasnakeee6460]

@@jackchop1576 man what?

[@elisejackson2854]

She should be an ex.

[@oreolover9321]

Fr!! He needs to watch judge judy 😅

[@renharris6504]

Like, I can see it if you’re together for multiple years and just have no intentions of getting married. But 10 months seems way too soon.

[@robertx8020]

sounds like sollid advice

[@Its_like_the_T-Rex]

First story... less then a year dating!!! Wtf?! Fun fact - most people can fake their personality for about 9 months. 10 months later she's showing her true gold digger intentions.

[@pippo17173]

The title should tell you straight up that it's another gold digger story with op just needed a budge to do the obvious.

[@Batman-lg2zj]

@@pippo17173 she isn’t a gold digger but she is crazy.

[@chasefrost1401]

1 month of dating to move in? That's Wally West fast..

[@Tekniq182]

If OP had to borrow 130k for his parents to afford 20% down then he definitely cannot afford the house but that aside. NEVER PUT YOUR GF ON THE DEED TO YOUR HOME. EVER!

[@fangybyte]

That's at least $6000/month mortgage (not including property tax or insurance). If he had to borrow the majority of the down payment from family, how tf is he going to make mortgage payments? I personally think a person can do whatever they want in regards to deeds. My boyfriend and I may move in together eventually. If I'm on the deed or not, I want to be paying my share.

[@lrock48]

​I think it might be a panic purchase if it was recent, due to the rate hikes. Originally there was no end in sight on the rate hikes and I know some people who were screwed because they were on variable rate mortgages.

[@trillionbones89]

Especially not before the first anniversary lol

[@charondusk5608]

@@fangybyte It's possible that he does indeed make enough monthly to be able to afford the mortgage payments, he just didn't have enough to make the down payment then and there. From what I've read, the average monthly salary for a physician in the US is between $9k - $13k, so not that far out of the realm of possibility, if he falls within that salary bracket, assuming he's not specialised which could mean more. Although, going off the golddigging behaviour of the GF and her mother, it's very likely that he was pressured into choosing a much more expensive home by them.

[@maiqtheliar789]

If you are buying a house and she is contributing nothing towards it then there is no reason to put anyone else's name on the deed. If you choose to marry her make sure to get a prenup sounds like she might be a gold digger.

[@Batman-lg2zj]

It doesn’t seem like she is a gold digger.

[@freya2093]

@@Batman-lg2zjit doesn’t

[@sorachitheeggo4440]

@@Batman-lg2zj trying to buy a mil dollar house she can't contribute to on op's dime doesn't sound like gold digging?🤨

[@fiyahquacker2835]

@@sorachitheeggo4440 to be fair even if she is one it kinda sounds more like she's unknowingly being a bit of a gold digger and more so is being manipulated by her insane parents.

[@tinycrimester]

"she said i was very selfish and cold-blooded" I for one have never considered "cold-blooded" an insult. we all do what we have to do.

[@carlrood4457]

I saw this one before. She's not a gold digger, she's a con artist. Also, OP isn't very bright. Living together after one month? Buying a house at 10 months? That's immature and naïve beyond belief. He's also buying a house he clearly can't afford yet.

[@theresaschuebel5151]

The story about the mom not letting her step son hold his brother but git pissed off for her husband not letting her sister hold the baby. My oldest daughter Danielle was an actual toddler when she first held her sister within 10 minutes of her birth. My oldest absolutely adores her sister. They are 27 and 24. My oldest is extremely protective of her beloved baby sister

[@maureenfitzgerald3498]

That first story is at least a second generation "professional wife" situation, and the mother has her patter DOWN. "Don't listen to your parents. They don't have your best interests at heart. Listen to me, the mother of your 30-year-old girlfriend of less than a year, who works at Burger King, because I absolutely do. Also? do you have anything with your signature on it that I could borrow? No reason. I'm ... making a collage!"

[@maureenfitzgerald3498]

Also, I wonder what evidence he has that she had a high-paying job "in the beginning?" ETA: OOp! There it is. She was "working for" the older, wealthy doctor. This is actually heartbreaking. Once she figured she had this poor kid locked down, she couldn't even be bothered buying him his damn Snickers bars anymore.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍

[@crichtonbruce4329]

Story 1: I would love to see this story played out in some alternate universe where the mother was not involved. She seems to be the negative driving force in all this. Also: OP is extremally lucky they did not baby trap him! Story 2: OP's son is the 3rd most important person in the new baby's life right now, and will be for many years to come. The parents should be doing all they can to encourage the best relationship possible between them.

[@oreolover9321]

I agree!!! The gf is a huge red flag, and he keeps saying she is emotional mature but is still called his friends stupid. This dude is a pushover and easily manipulated, but im glad he left the relationship. The fact she was talking about family and wanted him to put her name on the deed was too soon it felt like she was trying to trap him

[@Batman-lg2zj]

No he isn’t naive .

[@fiyahquacker2835]

@@Batman-lg2zj are you just making up the most bs level of opposites you can cause honestly nothing you said in any of your comments have correct at all.

[@thesewinggeekmiri9029]

I've heard 2 arguments for the speed of a relationship (where at least one person is uncomfortable with the speed set by the other): Person 1: it's smart to go slow and take your time getting to know one another, make sure that this is THE long-term relationship that you want to commit to. Person 2: There's limited time on this earth, why shouldn't we start as soon as possible? If it's good, and you both feel a connection, why wait? And I've realized that this is probably the best answer to Person #2's argument: why wait: because I want to. Because I don't feel comfortable moving this fast. Because building trust takes longer for me. *Any* of these answers should be enough, if they respect you and your boundaries. And if they counter with "are you saying that you don't trust me?" then the best answer is "not with my future," (or something to that affect). Because you're not saying that you don't trust them *entirely*, you just haven't known them long enough to say with 100% certainty that you trust them.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 1. NTA. not only is the girlfriend a gold digger her mom is too. I guarantee he would not only be supporting the girlfriend's luxurious lifestyle that her mom's as well

[@garyanthony2440]

Run. Run fast. The moment you put her name on the deed you are screwed.

[@Khaisz.]

First story: listen to the final thing she said. "She hoped in the future I would trust my heart and not let others make decisions" as he is currently sitting in front of her and basically pouring out all his worries in his heart about what's going on, and she just dismisses it and says "I'll wait if you change your mind" She did not give a flying fuck about him at all, if not everything else already was a red flag, that definitely was the biggest red flag that she is just rolling with her mom and trying to get easy money. Buy house, get married, divorce, get half house cost + spousal payment or get full house + spousal payment.

[@heatheraucoin5832]

S1- I’d check her previous relationships and see if any ex’s were swindled or swimming with the fishes

[@jenniferhill248]

First story: OP is very young/ naive for buying this house.. why do you need a house that cost so much right now.. girlfriend and her mom knows exactly what they are doing.. if they wanted to, they would have and a $1.1 mil house is just showing the huge red flag

[@Letha-AnnCooper]

OP has a grifter for a girlfriend and a future mother-in-law

[@skyetan86]

How did OP's ex gf STILL MISS THE POINT at the end? It isn't his friends and family making the decision for him. He's following his gut on the blatant SCAM in front of him.

[@AIBot929]

I get the feeling that the mother has drilled into this girl that she will marry a dr... by any means neccessary... because 10 months is not long enough to know anything about her

[@jlyo1991]

That boy is so incredibly naïve to a childish level.

[@tonyblake7569]

1 "I couldn't think of a reason not to" isn't a reason to get married. It's a reason to give someone a ride. Ex I'm going to the mall and my brother asked if I could take him there so he can meet his friends. I couldn't think of a reason not to so I gave him a ride. 2 they think op should treat her the same as when he lived with her family rent free. Fine, did they put his name on their deed? No? Ok, he'll follow their example and not put her name on his. 3 another reason to do the "I couldn't think of a reason not to" is sign a pre nup. They say op is planning on their marriage failing and she thinks it won't? Great. If the only reason it would affect them is if they got divorced then I can't think of a reason not to.

[@sockmonkeyjg]

First story RUN DUDE RUN, they want you to buy them a house

[@Ecclectic_citcelccE]

1st op almost found himself in a surprise wedding for himself😮

[@thesewinggeekmiri9029]

5:39 dear god I wanna bundle OP in a blanket and have a team of people help him and his stuff move out of there. how beaten-down is he that he feels like he *has* to stay? Anything is better than this (being abducted by ALIENS would be better than this), it sounds like he has no escape from these people (and the fact that I'm using the word 'escape' about him and his GF who he loves, should tell you something). GF and her mom sound hella entitled. My skin is crawling in disgust and repulsion and *anger* at these 2 entitled witches, believing that it's their *right* to financially and emotionally abuse this man, just because 'he's a man and the man MUST take care of his wife' (completely ignoring the fact that they are NOT married), and because he made the mistake of starting a relationship with this woman.

[@notconvincedgranny6573]

He's a physician, but living with her mom...hmmm...

[@tamarasmith9060]

Woah, woah, WOAH!!! OP just slid in there that she had said before that she doesn't like kids, but because he wanted kids she would have them! That is so wrong!! A woman who doesn't want kids & only goes through all the suffering & risk of health/death just to please the husband will not be a good mom. She will resent the kids for her health & any weight changes after birth, the stretch marks, the lack of sleep, etc. Also since she clearly already doesn't like cleaning she will either be resentful of all the cleaning you have to do for kids, or she will refuse to do any & insist they hire a maid to do all the cleaning, which would be another regular expense. The fact that she already has excuses for going from a full time to part time job is concerning also. If what she said about previous boss is true, she still should've been able to find a different full time job by now. He's most likely got student debt to pay off & he needs to build up a reputation as a good doctor or he's not gonna be able to even open his own practice, so she's not gonna be his office personnel any time soon. Why is she trying to push that? He should be discussing things like that with fellow doctors to get a realistic view of what that's like cause operating costs & malpractice insurance & such are higher per patient in a small practice compared to a hospital. There's more red flags than just her wanting to marry so soon.

[@ruthsaunders9507]

That's an awfully extreme description for having babies but I agree she shouldn't have them if she doesn't want them. She'll just end up using them as a weapon.

[@emilybarclay8831]

S1: OP is the hills of California and GF and her mum are digging to their hearts content. How does he not see that he’s food stamps to these people?

[@oreolover9321]

Love is blind

[@Batman-lg2zj]

Not true

[@jman12g73]

I was waiting for an update with the last story lol 😂

[@untiedshoelaces2588]

Story 1: She gave him the advice to never let friends and family make decisions for him - But she was fine with letting her mother make decisions for them both? Make it make sense!

[@mgaus]

Scam scam bacon eggs refried beans and scam

[@thesewinggeekmiri9029]

10:57 haven't heard the rest, throwing out my prediction now: she was *dating* that wealthy doctor/ flirting with him, until she met OP, and ditched him for OP. (It kinda sounds like she used her previous employer/ took advantage of his feelings for her.) I dunno, something about that scenario set off an alarm in my head. Let's see if I was right!

[@thesewinggeekmiri9029]

update: well, I'm relieved that this (as far as we know) wasn't the case. I don't like thinking the absolute worst of people :/

[@thesewinggeekmiri9029]

(I'm practically reacting in real time here) 1:04 wait, only 5 months in and GF and her mom start pushing marriage and a house? And then scout for properties on their own?? 1:39 wait, the house is worth HOW MUCH?! and you're building something *NEW* ?!? emergency brake, emergency brake, where is the emergency brake, we are stopping this ride here and NOW-- he's borrowing over 100k from his parents, *and* paying for the entire down payment himself. What. 2:49 dude, why AREN'T you questioning the future of your relationship?? (especially in the wake of all these red flags) It hasn't even been a YEAR yet, omfg... also why is the mom *still* in the house with them? Either she lives with OP and the GF, or OP brought this up with his GF while her mom was still in their home (why wouldn't you discuss this in *private* ?). Either way, not good. It also sounds like the mom eavesdropped on you guys too, fantastic. "don't listen to your parents or friends b/c they don't have your best interests at heart and only want to break your relationship up." lol, I'm sorry, I've heard that phrase dropped too many times in these stories by abusive partners, to even consider it being true. Sounds kinda like reflection... also, why is GF's mom SO INVESTED in this relationship? "didn't have enough love in my heart that I was thinking in such calculating ways," who writes her dialogue, a fired soap-opera writer? I'm sorry, when did trying to be practical and careful equal a lack of love? I know that she *means* that he seems to care more about the cost of the house than about his GF/ their relationship, but well...why *shouldn't* he? They don't NEED to buy a new house, they can rent, or buy an *existing* house (money doesn't sound like an issue with his income), for less money. Why jump into such a huge investment now, when--once the market goes up again--nobody will be able to afford the finished home if OP and his GF want to sell? So yeah, he's caring a lot about whose name the title is in, and hesitating to put your name on the deed, because you made the cost of the house his sole responsibility. Ugh, twisting the conversation from an "I want to talk about this because this is an important decision," conversation into an "oh, so you don't LOVE ME, why are you being so cruel???" convo is so gross. Especially when you know (you just *know* ) that she (and her mother) are manipulating the argument that way that because they know that they'd lose the argument. ok, how lonely was this guy before he met his GF? Because he's accepting/ putting up with a LOT in this relationship

[@carlrood4457]

Another red flag is that she's older. She's looking for someone younger and immature that she can manipulate.

[@Elvenpath]

Yay a new video. Hopefully this will make me feel less like I died and went to hell. Heatwave is making allergies really bad today. No energy to do anything but sneeze and feel awful.

[@tinycrimester]

whoa whoa whoa! he lived in their house for months and they didn't put his name on the deed?! WTH????? /j

[@Twilight.Knight]

20:55 if you let one person be the exception then everyone will think they are too

[@sequoyasierra5671]

Oh, heck no. It's only been 10 months. I am categorically against putting a SO's name on the deed of any property without being married. It is just a prescription for disaster, especially if the relationship breaks up. I think these people are gold diggers, especially the mother and the SO seems to always listen to the mother.

[@bluexwings]

"Why not?" Isn't a good enough reason to get married. There should be an enthusiastic "yes" from both parties, and there should be many talks about it leading up to getting engaged.

[@russelldupont2801]

It is called the long con.

[@telinhajp]

Good night, Markee! Wishing you a wonderful Wednesday. おやすみ！❤️😴

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1 OP: “We moved in together after one month of dating…” 🚩 Also OP: “We have been together for about ten months now, but my parents disapprove because they think *they* are after my money.” 🚩🚩 Also OP: “About five months ago gf and her parents started looking for a house for us because they thought we were ready to get married.” 🚩 😱 Hold up, OP. So many red flags already, and I’m exactly one minute in! Moving in after one month?! Too soon! Then gf and her mother (not you!) decide you’re “ready to get married” after five months??! WAY too soon, and none of MIL’s business! I understand her wanting you out of her house as soon as feasible, but she has zero say in when you’re ready to get married or what house you buy! Especially when, let’s be real, it’s unlikely either she or gf will be financially contributing. Is she expecting to move in too? Step 1: Stop letting your gf (and her mother) decide how fast your relationship progresses! It should be a natural thing that just evolves; not something that is marched along. Step 2: Get an airtight prenup, *with* an infidelity clause (on BOTH sides, so if you cheat it invalidates the prenup too. It needs to be fair so remember that and don’t cheat). House stays with you as a premarital asset, period. But if she lasts, say ten years married she’s entitled to x percent of your marital assets (not your premarital ones, and not 50%). If she refuses to sign, tell her it’s prenup or breakup. Step 3: Stick to your boundaries and don’t back down UNLESS she can come up with a suitable compromise you’re both happy with. Just as long as one of the compromises isn’t “throw out the prenup.” You need that to CYA. But honestly, I kinda agree with your parents: sounds like she (and her parents) are after your money, and I’m not sure this is a relationship worth putting more time (and money!) into. AND it a one MILLION dollar house?! Why do you need that much house for just the two of you?? Considering you took a loan from your parents for the majority of it, it’s technically THEIR house. I’d be tempted to tell gf that, your parents own it and you can’t put her on the title - but she’s just pressure you to pay them off before you’re ready and THEN put her on the title. I’d be real surprised if she offered any financial help at all. Listen to your parents, OP. She’s love bombing, guilt tripping, and manipulating the heck out of you. S2: ESH. You’re playing tit for tat, which is petty and doesn’t belong in a mature, healthy relationship. There is also a huge difference between feeling comfortable having a (I’m presuming) grown adult (SIL) holding your fragile newborn than having a young teen hold the baby. However, your son is old enough to understand how to be gentle and if he’s supervised I don’t see a problem. Your wife sucks for saying her family is “a special case,” when your son, the child’s brother, isn’t? She’s playing favorites, and I’d call her on her bs. I let my four-year-old son hold his baby brother: I sat him on the couch, placed the baby in his lap, and hovered like a helicopter mom.

[@AudreyWilliamsMusic]

He should pay back rent and back expenses to his girlfriend's parents, and then move out of their house.

[@Andbit365]

It took me a year to fully know what kind of person my ex was and here they are, not even a year in and already doing all those. That should’ve been the first sign of not to rush things. Tbh I kinda understand both side. Sounds like this is more of a cultural clash.

[@joycec8]

Question the future. Don't put her name on house if she didn't put money towards it.

[@AlyssaAllen.a]

Story 1: *OP* I couldn't think of a reason not to marry her. Gf: Awk...here you go.

[@Star_Joker]

As depressing as Reddit is sometimes, Markee helps make my day better.

[@jameslyons6655]

Story one. They were playing this dude like a violin. Thankfully some of his people managed to get it through his thick head. He saw red flags, knew they were red flags but was willing to blow by them anyway. Holy smokes. He still seems like he doesn’t really get it.

[@josephmckee3605]

How many red flags do you need? That family are waving so many they started the running of the bulls

[@VidGirl88]

Giant marinara flags. Gaslighting and steamrolling like its an art form. Run man!

[@EchoJ]

Damn, OP is such a mark🤨🤦🏾‍♀️ This chick and her mama saw him coming from a mile away. I hope he isn't in the US, because the housing market here is thought to be on its way to another crash in the not-too-distant future, so he's better off to get his $$ back and ditch ideas of building then selling.

[@thesewinggeekmiri9029]

5:12 GF's mom said that OP "won't ever find someone better." Ok, 1, honey, a literal pack of sewer rats that nest in the subway tunnels and feast on corpses is better than you and your daughter. And 2, aaaand *that's* when you end the relationship, cancel the house, move back in with your parents/ crash on a friend's couch, block GF and her mom, and change your number. Just freakin', take a scalpel. and cut that toxicity out of your life. This is not salvageable. I haven't even finished listening to the story yet and I'm already pinching the bridge of my nose between thumb and forefinger, and going "jfc, OP, fucking RUN!"

[@nightdweller6446]

S1. Nta and oh, hell no on the deed in both names. OPs parents are very smart. Listen to them. She's just a gold digger. RUN asap S2. Nta. OP is being consistent, just like wifey wants. There needs to a conversation about EVERYTHING especially regarding her attitude towards the son

[@malinbergvall]

About the common law marriage in the first story. For it to count as a common law marriage both parties have to make themselves out to be married, and live as married. So unless you tell others that you are married it doesn't count.

[@eph2vv89only1way]

Op who wanted his son to hold the new baby is nta. If the baby's own brother can't hold him why should the aunt? At 14 he can legally babysit the baby! And letting him hold the baby can help them bond and influence their relationship for the rest of their lives!

[@allytaylor7058]

My boyfriend bought a house 5 years in i have no thought to be put on the property because im with him ether way and have no thought of his property not being our home together These women plan the exit not the future

[@MrsKatieninja]

Im scared cuz my bf is alot like a fist one in some ways... nothing seems wrong, loveing all time, offers me money if im short, always happy (like 95% of the time) etc.....

[@CLUBPERRICO]

Imagine sitting there for two hours

[@cornbread12987]

10 months? Dude

[@dcg590]

So mom needed a place to live too. Where is her husband. They have an awful ,out of reasons why op should fund their lives. Op, run. You deserve better. They are coniving. Her mother didn’t feel anything except getting her hands on your money. Get married when you’re ready? Even get a job? Gee, what a sport. Do not marry her. This is just the beginning. They only want your money. She will never have or give you 300k?

[@lalayastill610]

just cause she has financial difficulties doesn't mean she's gold digging. The fact that she's pressuring you into giving her half a mil and to quickly marry her and not think about what's equitable and to rely on your hormones, that's what makes her a gold digger. So I'd say that I don't like either side's take on the matter. If he'd said that he told the parents about how she's pressuring him to move way to fast and to give her things and that that's why they think is a gold digger, i would have said they're not to blame for anything, but to start off by saying that she could be in it for the money cause she's poor is just bigoted. And yes, in this case they turned out to be right, but not for their analysis of poor people's general intentions

[@charondusk5608]

Story 2 - Only a few seconds in and I'm gonna hazard a wild guess that the older son isn't the son of the wife and that's the real reason she didn't want him to hold the baby. Edit: Called it. The baby has only just been born and the wife is already showing favouritism. This is only going to get worse.

[@pippo17173]

Honestly I'm wondering if this is signs of affairs coming in. 🤔

[@mgaus]

​@@pippo17173either way, that kind of control is already abū$e. Not might be in the future. Already totally crossed the line

[@karaleetdrenduringdragon8961]

I was curious when the mother mentioned in their culture, the man buys a house for the wife... sounded suspicious, so I googled it. And yes, there is a tradition for that, even a special word for that kind of house (Hunfang in Chinese) so... yeah, it sounded like they got hung up on cultural differences from that angle... that said, the relationship went very fast, so there were red flags imo.

[@etherealnine]

He's taking out loans for the down payment? What? That doesn't make any financial sense unless the loans interest rate is less than the house loan.

[@kazzuo32]

Nope. People out there, never give your accets to people that haven't contributed to your success. #2. Nta. Sure she doesn't want to let the 14y/o hold the baby lets see how long it takes for her to demand the son to watch over the baby.

[@carlrood4457]

The post ONLY mentions the son's age, not the SIL's. Nor does it mention if sister is already a parent or has experience in childcare. We can presume OP is at least in his mid 30's given the son's age, but there's nothing about wife and sister. If sister is in her 30's and has been raising kids, then her being an "exception" would be legitimate. It's really the wife's wording that's suspect. If she'd said she doesn't want non-adults to hold the baby or someone who'd never held one before, then there's a real distinction. The fact that OP left out any of that information makes me wonder if he's trying to stir up trouble.

[@fen_scrawl04]

Nah, that condescending and disrespectful attitude is her real self. She's just hiding behind the lovebombing to manipulate Op so he lowers his guard. They'll isolate him from his support network and drain him out of money and his will to life. If anything happens, she'll be gone faster than light. Once they get married, she twill show her true self and Op will get screwed over in the divorce.

[@S.U1399]

prenups are a thing...

[@quartzskull8772]

Do you truly think that would go over any better plus if her name is on the house she'd still get half which was the issue

[@taz598]

Wow those two had OP's whole life planned out for him......marriage house and new practice all that his wife and mother managed he just has to be the ATM....he friends and family were dead on with they only wanted his money. Good thing he broke up because a woman who is only having kids because OP wanted them would not make a good mother.

[@MizTameRumors]

'I couldn't think of a reason not to marry her' yeah except the reason you parents mentioned about her only being after your money. Her and her family found a 1million house for You to put 200K down for and share with her? You shouldn't listen to your friends or your parents but you should listen to them? Dude, come on...

[@rhondasisco-cleveland2665]

Sounds like OP was targeted.

[@harveyweaver9372]

That last story had no update? Why include it in the video??

[@debc6260]

Nope the heck out of that relationship, 1st OP.

[@Batman-lg2zj]

Quit telling him to break up.

[@kevinclark495]

he did nope the hell out of it

[@kevinclark495]

​@@Batman-lg2zj you seem to be taking it personally 😂😂

[@owl7072]

Story 2: Her _sister_ is a special case but her _son_ isn't? Edit: And there it is

[@kevinclark495]

story 2 the parents seem a bit paranoid about letting family hold the baby, loads of new mums let family hold the baby

[@MrJpaynebb]

No that's not it. The wife didn't want OP's son, her stepson who is 14 to hold her child. Notice she was ok with her sister holding her child but not his son. He's 14 and not 4 so unless the teenager has some physical disabilities he can hold a baby especially his own sister. OP is just following the precedent his wife set and if it's a little on the malicious compliance side then so be it.

[@BloodShed4REAL]

@@MrJpaynebb It feels like OP's wife is low key an evil step mother. It really begs the question. What other things has she done to OP's son?

[@comradekitty3759]

Gf definitely love bombed him till the papers signed. End the last story my sil during covid wouldn't let anyone in to hold her baby. I was fine with it but my mother pitched a fit cus "im the grammy" nta

[@Frazzled_Chameleon]

Story 1, run bro, run. The family sees you as a cash cow and already feels entitled to your money. Cultural issues aside, things won't get better, only worse. In Chinese culture, there's pressure for a woman to be married before she's 25. Or they become "Christmas Cake Girls", no good after the 25th, and it's a shameful thing for her parents. So mom is pimping daughter out hard. Wouldn't be surprised if she ends up pregnant soon.

[@threeducks157]

You know this mother daughter pair remind me of a Kanye... All the "she is so nice and caring" or her sweet talk is rendered meaningless by ops part of the story where he mentioned she was hooking up with a doctor before lol.

[@chasefrost1401]

Red flag 1: china's flag. It is red.

[@thesewinggeekmiri9029]

story 1: you moved in after *1 month* of dating? ...are you sure you're not lesbians? joking aside, you've been dating only 10 months, and she wants to put her name on the lease too--*yikes* . Do you see driving at 60mph as crawling too??

[@queenwilco3723]

Poor op, "some of you said it's love bombing but it's been consistent". Uh, yea, 10 months in while they are pushing to become financially attached and dependant of course it's going to be consistent. Shoot 10 months in is still early enough for the consistent love bombing without the financial being brought into it. You are a cash cow, the sucking up will continue until they get what they want. That's exactly what love bombing is. Except when they are working towards something they put more effort in for longer periods of time. That's exactly why they are rushing you, so they can get what they want BEFORE the mask slips. 10 months is nothing when there is a benefit for them. Good grief. Of course it's consistent, because it's still ONLY been 10 months. Luckily for you, they got too greedy too quick and couldn't hide the agenda very well. Even with the flag blowing right in your face you still can't see it though. Poor guy. He's going to get played horribly by someone

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

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[@willy4453]

P r o m o S M 🌹

[@taylorslade961]

Story 2: I'm confused as to why OP is so insistent on his 14 year old son holding the baby. Is the teenage boy excited to to hold the baby? Probably not. What's the deal here?

[@juliearmfield2634]

Because he was excited about holding his little brother. Just because he's a boy and were only half brother doesn't mean that he doesn't love him

[@ronbeyak9886]

When people show you who they are believe it and they have

[@Spyrodelta]

Ten months.... That's all I got to say