My Mother Is Claiming That I Put Her In A Sticky Situation After I Bailed On Holiday r/Relationships

Relationship Reddit Stories, OP refuses to go on yet another family holiday with his mother and uncle after the last time...
#redditupdate #redditrelationship #redditstories

[@Frazzled_Chameleon]

Story 2, the pre-teen smelled OPs bullshit and was having none of it. Her home life was just fine.

[@brianaschmidt910]

This is an older story. Dude was actually in love with his wife and never led op on. Her delusions did that.

[@HealthyObbsession]

@@brianaschmidt910nd? @leilapereira9394 didn’t refute anything they clearly were talking about K’s kid being able to read OP for what she was/is. and for all, we know the OP wasn't honest about how she treated those kids. given how delusional they clearly are she probably said something along the lines of how the kids would feel about having a stepmother

[@gcarr1089]

Agree that pre- teen saw through OP. Bet she has overheard parents talking about OP, with mum warning dad what OP might be up to, and dad telling mum her pregnancy hormones are making her delusional. This guy is too nice for his own good.

[@kellyalves756]

@@HealthyObbsession The big tell was when she tried to forbid middle child from playing games that were “ loud and messy “ And she only had praise for the docile child. You’re the babysitter, lady, it’s their house, and unless they are planning an indoor paintball game, let them play what they want. My guess is “loud and messy meant “ Playing Uno with three decks.”

[@theerectus2004]

Op probably told the kids to call her mom, three minutes after the guy headed out.

[@jonnys8853]

Story 2 in a nutshell: "Hey Reddit, I've built up a relationship in my mind with a happily married neighbor who talks to me sometimes. I'm convinced he's in love with me because I want him to be in love with me. I want to wreck his home by getting him to leave his pregnant wife, but I don't like his kids, so I want to wreck his home even more by getting them out of the picture. AITA?"

[@jakemarie828]

And she justifies all of it by assuming the man is tortured because (she thinks) she is more attractive than his wife. I wouldn't be surprised if she couldn't stop herself from smack-talking the wife in front of the kids and that's why they kicked her out.

[@glenpersinger3390]

Well said, she is a loony tune. She is obviously mentally devoid of sound reason. 🙄

[@glenpersinger3390]

Addict. It's not about you. Do something for someone else for once. You sound like a weak cry baby. 😢 me me me I I I. Man up and give love ❤. You wanted love right????but you won't give any. You wanted forgiveness but you won't give it. You are a weak person. Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. God will forgive you the way you forgive others.

[@denises3630]

I never saw the last update where K found the post 😂 im so happy he did! Bestie should kick OP out definitely

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

And she didn’t even know him! She doesn’t know what he likes or any bad habits. She sees him with his wife and he’s a nice person and she wants what the wife has, she’s jealous of the wife, she doesn’t love the husband. She’s like a friend who steals your husband cause she wants a one-up on her friend, some women just want to be better and can’t stand when another woman has more then her. This man was never a real person to her, he was the prize giving his wife the life she wanted

[@heatherdickau5335]

Story 2, can you imagine the horror this man felt after seeing her post. Thinking he left his kids with a Psychopath. I do wonder what really happened with the children. Was she telling them she was their new mummy?

[@lucyann1573]

I can't stop laughing at the thought of someone saying "I'm protecting our beans!" I thought of it in the Granny voice from Bluey "I won't jeopardize the beans, Rita!"

[@jgw5491]

The hill of beans was the one OP chose to die on! 🥫

[@velentr]

​​​@@jgw5491_Respectfully_ , OP's hill to die on was more so; not being willing to put up with unhinged Doomsday Prepping.

[@jgw5491]

@@velentr Sorry that you didn't like my bit of humor. I admit it wasn't great. You didn't need to be "respectful"; I can take it. 😿

[@velentr]

@@jgw5491 Naah, no apologies needed. I was going for a dry, cynical, but humorous remark and it didn't quite land. That's on _me_ , hopefully you won't steal my beans over it ;)

[@OhCyrus]

😂😂😂

[@britnicox3929]

Losing my mind at “is it normal for girlfriends to bury beans?” Burying beans - you know, ✨just girly things✨ For real is this a joke? Pls tell me it’s a joke

[@josephmckee3605]

The gf has lost her mind and should seek professional help

[@rebeccamcmanus4718]

The question we need to be asking is: did she bury any other canned goods? Are there peaches out there? Sweet corn?

[@llcdrdndgrbd]

April 2020 was a wild time but this seems like a joke still

[@trashotaku]

I get the feeling she was having a mental health crisis tbh

[@suewilkinson5855]

I have a feeling it's creative writing.

[@gototheend1139]

Can we all acknowledge how much of a mood whiplash story 3 & 4 are On this very special episode, we have the tragic tale of addiction that has ruined this family, and now it is too late to reconcile MY GIRLFRIEND STOLE MY BEANS AND NOW THERE IN THE WOODS TO HIDE FROM BANDITS

[@pequenaesposa3286]

Lmfao ikr I actually cracked up

[@ondank]

I have heard the Neighbour K story so many times, and every time the sheer psychopathy of it shines through in a new way.

[@HealthyObbsession]

What other things did you learn from the other times?

[@jbrennan381]

I doubt it's psychopathy, but yes she's nuts regardless

[@thegayestgoth]

​@@jbrennan381Oh? Then what is it?

[@jbrennan381]

@@thegayestgoth I don't know. But calling someone a psychopath without having a good look at their psyche is not ideal. And diagnosing someone as such from a Reddit story isn't a good way to do so

[@crazyweirdgirl115]

@@thegayestgothwhy are you asking him, as if he has conducted an in-person psychiatric evaluation of this woman? We don’t know. For now, she’s just a nasty asshole.

[@ruthsaunders9507]

#2. What a sick twisted woman. Openly going after a married man and dreaming of being a mother to his kids... What the hell?

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

Right 🤢

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

This lady sounds like grade-A bunny boiler material. How deep into the shitter does your mind have to be to think that being a homewrecker and parasitizing someone else's kids is something to aspire to? What self-respecting woman wants that for herself?

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

I love how all the commenters dragged her to the point that she deleted everything and ran!

[@JT-lp9ng]

@@MorganVsTheInternetI hope K filed a restraining order against her because she was definitely psycho.

[@diamondmx3076]

I got strong troll vibes from that OP. Felt like even if she believed what she was saying, she'd know how bad it sounded and would have tried to downplay it.

[@renaeodonnell4558]

Story 2 is always a delight to listen to do to the sheer delusion op had thinking he would have a perfect love story with her neighbour she had a crush on. Not everyone is a scum bag that will have an affair or leave a good marriage for someone who is the poster image of the crazy lady that men stick their dingaling in.

[@untitled-gv3qp]

She's just so self centered, I don't know why she'd make that post. All of her responses were just pure cringe. Like if a 12 y/o girl told you about how her and some random celebrity are going to get married and run away together but more creepy than cute. I wonder if her roommates found out that she was creeping on their married neighbor? I know I wouldn't wanna have someone in my house that stirred up drama like that. I wouldn't ever be able to look my neighbor in the eyes after he learned that I was housing his obsessive fangirl.

[@fandomfan2800]

@@untitled-gv3qp NO LOL

[@paulinadeboer3604]

I am worried for the neighbour. She shows stalker trades.. this is a potential dangerous situation.

[@thecoolgrandma7208]

Wow.... Fatal Attraction?! 🤔 OP read what you wrote about K's personality and traits. He is a good honest man, fair, loving, kind, generous etc..... he was just being nice and kind to you....NOT interested in you!!! His wife is currently pregnant so they have a loving intimate relationship. Opposites attract. Glad the update proved my instinct.

[@jbrennan381]

Gee I wonder why her last relationship went down the toilet.

[@Aelitagurl]

"I'll never jeopardize the beans!!" Was her war cry.

[@czechlivingabroad6718]

What a sad story. He lost a girlfriend and beans... Or did he get it back?

[@jackiehuff7736]

I wonder how she buried them? If just buried in the can, they are probably ruined.

[@SashkaSiberia]

First story: my mother did this to me. She asked me twice if her friends could join a mother daughter trip. Twice I said no. She did it anyways with the excuse that her friends invited themselves along. The trip sucked because 3 older women automatically treated me like a child (I was 30). She knows if she ever does this again, we never travel together again.

[@llcdrdndgrbd]

This is so dumb because 50-60 year old women and 30 year old women definitely have a lot in common and can relate as friends.

[@CrystalRuizEnriquez]

Then you should've acted like a child, asked for anything you wanted, made them go to places you wanted to go, do things you wanted to do, not pay for anything, etc.

[@thegayestgoth]

​@@llcdrdndgrbdnot really

[@holyek7892]

The first story. I'm pretty sure the mother will absolutely destroy OP into submission. He better just start browsing for new places to travel by himself

[@doityourselfdiva6001]

Bean guy should have bought more beans and followed her when she attempted to bury them. Get a good metal detector and split up the area into a grid pattern. Same thing the guy with the gun stash should do. Add some friends and make a game of it. Find the beans and win a prize! Lol

[@taylorslade961]

Destroyed Mini: The stepsister needs to have her license revoked. She is a terrible driver and will end up killing someone if she's allowed to continue to operate heavy machinery. Edit: Oh, wah, stepdad isn't talking to OP. Nothing of value was lost.

[@SunnyBurnsAll]

That girl is going to kill herself, and the dad is responsible.

[@invisigoth510]

Gay story: At my niece’s graduation from boot camp (marines), my father asked my niece when she was going to introduce her girlfriend to them She stammered & asked what are you talking about. & he said “ honey, I’ve known you your entire life & you’ve never had a crush on a boy, all the posters on your wall when you were a teen were of actresses & female musicians that you liked. You were always hanging out with other girls & most of them were openly gay. And you’ve been going on about this little gal like she’s the best thing since sliced bread, so I figure she must be pretty important to you” She introduced the girlfriend to them. 3 years later they’re married & expecting their first child

[@mimilapin]

this is so sweet and cute

[@mynights85]

She's not in love with the man, she's infatuated. Big difference.

[@britvica]

She is 34. Limerance. She has to look into her cptsd.

[@jbrennan381]

​@@britvicaUnless I missed something, she doesn't mention she has cptsd and it isn't a good idea to diagnose someone over the internet.

[@jimbobjones9330]

You don't know! She loves him!!! She carved his name in all her furniture!!! That's True Love!!!!

[@Human-kb6xc]

If I remember correctly on story 2, K had responded and said he was incredibly uncomfortable about everything. Edit: now that I finished that story, K did indeed respond to her 😂

[@blackpandacat2222]

Plot-twist: she ate all the beans 🫘 That's why she can't tell him where they are..😂

[@vanessashimoni6548]

😂😂😂

[@MisterNightfish]

"He invited himself and I couldn't say no". Yes she could have said no, she just chose not to.

[@michaelplunkett8059]

Go. But insist on own stateroom. On a cruise, you do your thing, uncle does his, meet at meals to compare notes. Ships are huge. No luggage to haul, many activities.

[@BlondeEyes7]

My daughter was vocally, unabashedly "bi" (always said without the "sexual") in elementary school. She was quieter and less open about romantic and sexual topics by middle school (which is developmentally appropriate), and then she came out to me as bisexual in 8th grade. I didn't know how to respond to her deep breath and heavy tone. I was like, "Um... okay? Thanks for telling me. I love you. Do you remember that you used to tell me you were bi all the time in elementary school?" She was a mixture of confused and relieved. I've often wondered how I could have done better. I wish I had made it a fully positive experience and not at all confusing or possibly embarrassing.

[@carolsimpson4422]

Young teens tend to be mortified by discussing anything to do with sex with their parents. I wouldn't overthink it, or blame yourself for her discomfort. It's just her age, getting all blushy and heavy breathed when the topic comes up. She wasnt worried about your judgment, she's just overwhelmed by hormones.

[@skyelindsey687]

How TF did Paula pass her test when she confuses the drive and reverse. They literally are 2 completely different letters D for drive and R for reverse.

[@francinetitherington4060]

Probably thought "R" meant race.

[@EluneAnzu]

Second story is always hilarious to me, the OP lives in their own rom com fantasy world

[@brianaschmidt910]

It's even better when you realize that the dude she's 'crushing on' isn't interested in the slightest. (I think he read her post and told her off)

[@lorifiedler13]

She sounds like a bunny boiler .

[@kellyalves756]

And she jacked her own carpool situation. How is any man worth that hassle?

[@kitarrah1422]

​@@kellyalves756It's not carpool. They are on the same transit route.

[@sachicocoa9013]

The girlfriend and the bean store would actually made me pretty mad. My theory is that she was lying and actually just stole them for herself, or she's just an unhinged weirdo and she just decided to find an exit to break up with him.

[@JO_Artificial]

I have an addicted older brother and I tell you, its addicts that have to ask for forgiveness, not the other way round, my educated brother gambled his career away on drugs and he now often tries to starve himself to death while blaming all his doings on others.

[@thegayestgoth]

👋🏾

[@jimbobjones9330]

The OP in that story pissed me off to no end. What an arrogant, self-righteous asshole. "I gave them two chances, and they didn't accept them, so now I'm done with them!" He doesn't think about how many HUNDREDS of chances they gave him. But he's two and done. I really dislike that OP. (And I know addiction. My ex-step-father was a bottom of the barrel alcoholic. We're talking "looking through dumpsters for dregs of booze bottles" alcoholic. He drained all of our money, got us evicted from several homes, and unfortunately my mother didn't divorce him until after I'd headed off to college (which I paid for myself through working my ass off)).

[@Qyshawn]

Addiction story: OP state he gave them 2 chances and they scorned him. OP you said you were a bad addict FOR 6 YEARS. 2 failed rehabs, stealing, hurting physical. How many times were you given, man? 14 years sober is great, but when you "gave them two chances" you were still early on. Your excusing your actions and tried to force a relationship with people YOU SCORNED.

[@josephmbimbi]

Yeah right ?!! I was quite triggered by this story. I was addicted to alcohol for about 11 years, i quit last September. Never did any hard drugs, so my insight is probably very limited, but If my addiction taught me anything, it's that substance abuse doesn't fundamentally changes who you are. If you are entitled, self-centered, narcissistic, lying, deceiving, violent or lazy, alcohol may amplify it, but that's fundamentally who you are, and the roots of these behaviour won't stop after you quit, and integrity commands that you face it and where it is coming from, with self-compassion, but look at it straight, with courage. Although the parents were harsh, OP presents himself as mainly the wronged one, and show a lot of bitterness with little acknowledgement of his own wrongdoing, the self-centeredness and entitlement is still pretty strong, years after he quit the substances. In his head, someone had to be blamed, and it will not be him. If he deserves forgiveness for his wrongdoings after paying his dues (and did he ?), so do his parents. Big yikes

[@taylorslade961]

Stoic Husband: THAT is an acts of service love language. Its not being waited on hand and foot, its doing things for the person you love because you love them.

[@MM-zg4bc]

When I suspected my daughter was gay I just came right out with “are you gay?”. She confirmed she is gay and then complained that I ruined her big plan to tell us. Hehe! FYI my children have always been told that it doesn’t matter, as long as they are happy and are being treated right.

[@everlasting9292]

I am so thankful I was raised by parents who made it very clear to me that no one person is better than anyone else, no life is worth more than another, everyone is different and that is absolutely okay, necessary even. Well, barring murderers and pedos and the like.

[@Ax-xo4ux]

@@everlasting9292as someone from the queer community- exactly. If you murder (barring circumstances like self defense) or rape or are a pedo you’re an asshole not a person

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

Whole relationship down the drain because of beans… damn 2020 was some wild ass

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

"My uncle invited himself again and she couldn't say no." OP doesn't have a relative problem. He has a mother problem. Look at it this way: She could have said no, she knew she should, but she ultimately chose not to. The reasons are irrelevant. By -not being able to- refusing to say no, she prioritized the uncle over OP and effectively showed OP that he matters less than his uncle's feelings.

[@Davtwan]

Or, more accurately, OP matters less than her family dynamic.

[@lisasteel6817]

Ain’t no straight jacket strong enough to hold all that crazy. Run k.

[@thegayestgoth]

Theres plenty. She needs to be locked up

[@michaelwoods3651]

Story 2- another delusional woman. Leave the poor guy alone. She would absolutely be the typical evil stepmom.

[@MusketeerGweneth]

If your partner is burying food in the woods like a squirrel, play along and admit you were wrong and their idea is great and ask them to go and get two cans of something. Then you can follow and or track their phone to the secret bean location and hide it elsewhere like a lockbox or something so you can have the beans that YOU bought for shared use, not to be controlled by a weirdo . . . if you'll take advice from a Slytherin who finds the situation hilarious. Not sure who the butthole was in that story but i'm docking house points from both of them. I've been playing Hogwarts Legacy a lot lately.

[@brianaschmidt910]

I'm still mad about the store bull.

[@paulinadeboer3604]

I wonder if she was in an accident. That would explain her behavior cause you must have braindamage to be like this.

[@MusketeerGweneth]

​@@paulinadeboer3604 Perhaps they were dropped on their head, who knows? 🤔 But I've heard if you encounter someone who you think is . . . "a few sandwiches short of a picnic" or that maybe they have "a few screws loose" it is best to play along until you're away from them.

[@paulinadeboer3604]

@@MusketeerGweneth true

[@kitarrah1422]

Hello, fellow HP fan! 🦁🐍🦡🦅

[@actuallynotsteve]

I've seen the second one before and it's one of the most awkward stories of all time on Reddit. Imagine being married and having kids and stumbling on to that post about you, where some crazy broad next door is posting about the family you're going to have once you're married or whatever. That chick needs help, it's clear that she doesn't really see herself as being in the wrong. She literally calls HIM dumb, and says his wife's looks are "yikes." She's getting what she deserves, and still has a karma invoice coming. Even knowing how it plays out I still cracked up. On the fuck around find out scale, I'd say she caught a 9.5.

[@mortisrat]

Addiction story: By the sounds of this it took the OP years, and many terrible offences against the family, over and over, before his family cut contact for their own protection. OP gave them 2 chances to forgive him for what he'd done, and now acts like he's hard done by. Until he's spent as much time and effort trying to get back into his family's good books as he did on hurting them in the first place he has no right acting like they're even APPROACHING equal status.

[@that.ll_do_pig]

They didn't just cut him off, they said they _didn't_ _love_ him. He has _every_ right to decide he isn't interested in reconciling.

[@that.ll_do_pig]

You made a similar comment to somebody else's narration of the addict story three months ago. Sounds like you have personal experience with addicts that prevents an objective opinion. Saying he was acting "righteous" is ridiculous.

[@mortisrat]

@@that.ll_do_pig As they've tried to get into contact again, their statement about not loving him seems more just a statement borne of frustration - as a direct result of his repeated and sustained actions toward them. Considering he expected so much forgiveness for his actions, not giving any is pretty hypocritical. "But they said a bad thing one time, just because I massively abused them" is not a thought process I can get sympathise with.

[@austinbuscaglia8705]

As a man who came out to my parents in highschool, I don't understand how ops daughter was so upset at her parents already knowing. My coming out was emotional with my dad, with my mom and step dad they already knew 🤷 I wasn't hurt, I was relieved

[@midnightserenity9797]

The addiction story; I have absolutely nothing against addicts. However, I do hold a grudge against my meth-addicted older half sister. She was a horrible person long before she started the drugs, even as a child. Mind you, we were raised the same exact way, with emotionally and physically available parents. We had a mom who worked two jobs while going to school and still made it home to have dinner on the table every night, and my dad (her stepdad) was a stay at home dad. My parents tried everything to change her behavior, from physical labor to extensive therapy, and nothing worked. My half sister started popping out babies that she refused to raise at 18, instead pawning them off on her husband, who had a job (she didn't work,) on me, or on our elderly great grandma. Well, multiple people called dhs on her multiple times. Two of her kids were taken by dhs and placed in foster care, but she managed to fool the system into letting her back. My ex brother in law finally divorced her, but she refused to follow the custody agreement, and she wouldn't let the kids see or talk to their father. He stopped paying child support after she used one of the payments to bail her alcoholic boyfriend out of jail after receiving a DUI. As soon as my infant nephew was diagnosed with covid, she dropped him off at our house and disappeared for over a week and we weren't able to contact her. She stole money from our great-grandma for freaking doordash orders, and she'd eat all of my groceries that would have lasted two weeks in the span of days. Mind you, this was before the drugs. We called dhs, I even called the cops after my niece told me "Mommy beat (middle brother) with the handle of a flyswatter" and he had marks to match. The cops refused to do anything and closed the case because they couldn't get a statement out of him, since he's autistic and mostly non-verbal. My niece's school called dhs multiple times because my niece was constantly missing school, having severe behavioral issues, and showing up absolutely filthy with matted hair, as well as having accidents several times a day. It took my niece's dance instructor calling the cops after my sister failed to pick my niece up from school, and the dance instructor saw the state of the house when she dropped niece off. My half sister was passed out, high, in her bedroom. The boys, 3 and 1, were eating moldy pizza of the floor, which was covered in human and dog urine and feces. There was no food in the fridge, and the food in the freezer had rotted and gone bad because the house had no power. The place was trashed. The children didn't have a single item of clean clothing in the house, but my half sister had a closet full of clean, high-quality clothes. The baby had the worst diaper rash I'd ever seen, horrible cradle cap, and he had burns from my half sister letting him play with a hot curling iron, which my mom and I found in the children's bedroom when we cleaned the house for the landlord. As soon as my ex brother in law was informed, he immediately caught a flight to our state and filed for emergency custody of his two kids, and it was granted. They're now living their best lives being able to go to the beach, spend time with their dad, and getting to bond with their new baby sister. The baby is with me as my foster son. When we had the two older kids, I had to inform my niece's school that her mom was not allowed to show up to the school, not allowed to contact my niece through the school, was not allowed to get any information on my niece, nor was she allowed, under any circumstances, to try and pick my niece up from school. She was just kicked out of her second halfway home, and she's pregnant with a planned baby, her 8th child. She got pregnant while on meth, and she intended to get pregnant. I'm pretty sure she was trying to baby-trap her ex boyfriend (the alcoholic.) Even now, she ignores her son when he tries to get her attention on the phone, so he wants nothing to do with her during visitation. He calls ME 'Mom" because he never got a chance to bond with her. He was basically raised by me and my great-grandma since he was a newborn. We're all he's ever known. Even now, my half sister blames me specifically for her drug usage. She even threatened to call the cops on me the one time I brought her kids home after she TOLD, not asked, my great grandmother that we were keeping the kids for spring break. She wanted to go on an uninterrupted bender, as I later found out. She still won't accept responsibility for any of her actions. She would leave all three of her kids home alone (all kids are ages 6 and under) so she could go buy cigarettes or drugs. She once cried because our mother refused to leave work to bring her cigarettes. She also cried on the phone and snapped at my nephew to "Shut the hell up" because my great grandma refused to give her anymore money while she was in rehab. I'm no contact with her, and I might have to change my phone number because she keeps getting new phones to contact me. The last time she contacted me, she called my five times in a row after I hung up on her. She still tries to claim that she's a good mom and did everything she could for her kids, but she couldn't even make sure they were bathed, had clean clothes, or fed. My niece would hoard food at my house to take home for her and her brothers. My half sister also withheld my niece's toys and ADHD medication, saying she had to earn them through doing chores she had no idea how to do. I found multiple bottles of my niece's medication sitting, unopened, in my sister's bedroom. As well as my oldest nephew's inhalers and nebulizers that my she refused to give him, despite him desperately needing them. Moral of this essay, some drug addicts aren't worth it. My half sister lost any chance she had to call me her sister, or have a relationship with me in any way. I also stole the dog she left locked in a crate to starve when she went to rehab, and she's not getting that dog back. Next time she tries to call me, I'm simply going to respond "I don't associate myself with meth-addicted child and animal abusers. Never contact this number again." I also recently found out that she had been inside my home while I wasn't there, and nobody else was home. Things of hers that she left behind when I kicked her out (another story for another time) were missing, and my great grandmother's credit card number had been used and hundreds of dollars were missing from her account when that happened, and that was a new credit card after the first time my sister got her card information. No idea how she managed to get into the house, since we lock all of our doors, and the windows can't be opened from the outside since they automatically lock when the windows close, and we don't open them at all. The kids are much happier away from their mom, and the dog is finally learning to be a dog. She had no idea what dog toys were, would cower and stop eating if I went to touch her after putting her food down, and she's still terrified to have a collar put on her. My sister had a shock collar on her and would shock her for fun, as well as to keep her in the crate when the door was open. That poor dog was traumatized, and I have no idea why someone would shock her like that considering she's incredibly well-behaved and listens to verbal commands easily, and has picked up on new tricks quickly.

[@actuallynotsteve]

Sorry you went through this. I've had problems in the past, but never ever made it anyone's problem but my own. My friends knew, and hoped I'd stop, but they never saw me using, I never stole, and never ever thought it'd be OK to have my addiction bring down anyone else, because only my own choices led to it existing. Sure, I was tricked into using what I got addicted to, but I put myself in a place where that was a possibility. Your sister sounds awful and I'm sure it's been traumatic. Far too many people use addiction, especially with stimulants (coke/meth), to justify, rationalize, and play down their awful behavior. She's doing that. I'm not saying I'm some bastion of morality, but what I can say is that I'm proof you can keep your own addiction to yourself, and simply work harder to account for it. There's no reason to bring others down because of YOUR own issue, and you'd only do that if you were already a shitty person. Being an addict doesn't make it OK to harm others, in any way. You made the decision, that's on you.

[@Sammythat_B]

I'm sorry that you've/had to deal with that. She's sounds awful. My bio-mom isn't far off from your ex half sister. Let's just say, that I wouldn't be alive if it hadn't been for my big brother (7 yr age difference) I wouldn't be alive now. Im adopted & I was a terrible child, but not because of my own doing, just because of trauma my mom out me through. I have struggled with my own addictions. Since being a mom& nearly dying the one time. I've since cleaned up my act& actively improving my life& my kids.

[@midnightserenity9797]

@@actuallynotsteve unfortunately, she was a horrible person long before the drugs. She made her poor ex husband miserable, and put our mom and my dad through hell. She even lied that our parents were brutally abusing the both of us, which never happened, and got the cops called on my parents. Luckily nothing happened, but she bragged about it. She was pissed that she'd gotten grounded for stealing the rent money and that was how she retaliated. The drugs just made it worse. She even claimed her dead child on food stamps for two years. And when she had a stillborn child a couple years later, I called her and asked her how she was feeling, and her exact response was "Eh, I don't care. I'll just make another one." I hope your recovery is going well, and don't be afraid to seek support from the people who love you

[@midnightserenity9797]

@@Sammythat_B I'm glad you're bettering yourself for the sake of your children, and I'm so sorry you had to go through such horrible abuse at the sake of your own mother. I wish more people had parents like mine. I genuinely wish you well in your journey in recovering, and I'm sure your children love you very much

[@ItsYaBoiV]

I can empathize with this. My eldest sister died from an overdose after years and years battling addiction. It was hard because when she was sober, she was one of the most loving, fun people to be around. But as soon as she got back off the wagon, she would steal from us, start fights when we wouldn't support her, all kinds of crap. I feel like I mourned the loss of who she was decades ago, and when she died, I wasn't even upset. I was just glad she was gone. Near the end, she tried to steal a lot of money from my father, who had late stage Alzheimers, and I will never forgive her for that. He was the only one who genuinely believed in her.

[@mikukurisaki3413]

"You should forgive her because she is your sister and it was an accident" ...yeah, who actually believes it was an accident and not a vindictive crash because she told sis no?

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

Coming out: Daughter sounds like she wanted something dramatic.

[@JT-lp9ng]

Dang, three videos today? I feel spoiled.

[@FirstnameLastname-qv6zz]

Bros pumping them out

[@Jennifer-tx6dj]

These are old.... He's already posted these exact same ones a few years ago

[@FirstnameLastname-qv6zz]

@@Jennifer-tx6dj aw man

[@Sensansenkai]

Markee... I need to know about the beans. Where are the beans? You gotta do some sleuthing for us. Also I laughed so hard at the coming out story. When I came out to my parents, realistically I knew they'd be fine with it but it was even before gay marriage was legal here in the US, and of course kids at school were terrible. So I told them and they just kinda looked at each other and smiled and said "Okay." And then the Jehovah's witnesses rang the doorbell and I burst out into tears. I'm sure that kid and her parents will look back and laugh about it just like we do one day.

[@One.DeSanctis.]

Story #2 - OP is a nutter if she actually believes love is possile between strangers. Putting someone on a pedestal and creating an idealized fantasy life is not love. OP has an exciting fanatical obsession with the object of her crush. OP puts to mind one of those bunny boilers. Don't do it OP!

[@chinavaughan6383]

Story 1: NTA. The fact that your mother doesn’t have a backbone is not your problem. She knew that you didn’t want to go on vacation again with the uncle and yet there he was again😒 Let mom know that if the same thing happens with the July trip, you’ll be bowing out again😠 Story 2: Oh wow, this sounds like a script for one of those creepy Lifetime movies!😟

[@LordGertz]

I'd rather be swept up in the love of a couple joining their lives together then be reminded of the Bride's sex life. Double standard much, "It's different with guys."

[@M_IAWIA]

Op2 isn't in love with her neighbour, she is obsessing over him

[@maryfrancesobrien2420]

cans of beans will rust in the dirt

[@kellyalves756]

I was gonna say. Dirt isn’t very kind to aluminum.

[@Blck_Ch3rry]

I was wondering this too. Like did she put them in a tub with a lid then burried it? Or did she just throw cans in the soil and burried it. Cause tetanus is one hell of a way to go when "survivng the worst".

[@jasonreynolds423]

Story 2: lady has jumped off into the deep end

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

💯 agree

[@bessevaraven859]

Wayyyyyyy beyond...like skydiving from the spacestation

[@SunnyBurnsAll]

A compromise would be that OP plans the trip and mother gets to be surprised. No one can invite themselves.

[@0therun1t21]

50:18 -Remember, HR is not your friend, it's the company's friend. Complaints should be put in a way that make someone's bad behavior bad for the company, or else you will be punished, not the problem person.

[@redglasses33]

"Respect my authori- tay!!!" Hahahaha😂

[@bermudabeachbum3582]

The bean’s story the OP didn’t have a girlfriend issue, he had an issue with himself if he needed advice on what to do about his insane girlfriend. He is upset when he showed some backbone and she left? Seems to me it was the perfect outcome.

[@felix0-014]

For the story where the step sister crashed OPs car and tried to frame her she deserves to go to prison for a long time. OPs egg donor is a failure at being a mother for not intervening at all

[@alexishenry4434]

The addiction story : No idiots here. Everyone has a right to feel how they feel. Both sides have valid reasons to be hurt

[@bbjjbb61]

Yes, except mom and dad. I literally cannot fathom telling a child I carried, raised, and saw through all their years that I no longer love them because of drugs. I could say I don't like you right now, I can't be around you right now, I'm very angry with you, etc. but I do not love you? No. Loving others is a choice and not a feeling. People choose not to love someone. They choose not to stand by their kid/spouse/friend. They say shit like, "I'm not in love with you anymore" when what they really mean is, "I choose not to love you anymore". Not knowing the difference is the hallmark of emotional immaturity.

[@lianabaddley8217]

Yep. I told my kids there are some things you just can Not say. I Hate You, and I don't Love You. They can just cut the Heart and can damage the relationship you have with them. Luckily my girls are still best friends even after moving out and living separately lives now. Edit: oops. autocorrect

[@trippinggauntlet4520]

Nope. Tell me you have no experience of dealing with the toxic sh!t addicts do without telling me you have no experience. Then pontificate on others that have.

[@lianabaddley8217]

@@trippinggauntlet4520 I guess I should have added that a parent should know how bad saying something like that can cut the Heart directly.? My hubby has the most subtle of toxic moms. It took me years of dealing with her before he finally saw how bad she was. We have cut out his whole side because of her. He has been having flashes of remembering his childhood. As a Mother to 3 Happy healthy well adjusted kids it hurts my heart hearing what he and his sister went through.

[@trippinggauntlet4520]

@@lianabaddley8217 Do you know what's really bad, telling a daughter at the funeral of her only child, that the family addict who she had explicitly told the mother not to bring after addicts behaviour when daughter lost her husband, brings him. Then when the daughter ignores the addict because the day wasn't about the addict, mother chastises daughter and demands daughter go and comfort addict because they are upset. Yeah think I know quite a bit about addicts and toxic mothers.

[@thebhome]

1:38:45 I know how this feels lol, not with my partner but with other people in my life. My bff NEVER says "I love you" just because. Her bf of 7 years has heard it maybe 20 times, but she doesn't say it because she is indifferent. For her, the emotions that come with "I love you" are so strong, they kind of scare her? So when she can muster the courage to say it, it's obviously like a meteor smashing to earth. Ironically I didn't know this until her bf pointed it out (playful arguing at this point) that she said "I love you too" back to me before I left the state for school, but he hardly ever hears it. Then, with my fiance's grandpa: he is a stone-cold man who commanded his family with a flick of his wrist. He was very reserved with his feelings, but the moment I met him, I was told I love you within months, whereas my fiance has only heard him say it twice EVER.

[@ailoriarayne5086]

About the beans story, OP could get a metal detector and look for them

[@sarahmiller2431]

My parents reacted the same way when I came out to them, although my coming out was ruined. I had scheduled to take my parents out on a Friday to their favorite hibachi restaurant. However, my girlfriend at the time decided Wednesday was the perfect time to come out, despite us both knowing that her dad would freak out. So basically her dad was going to call my parents so I had to call my mom crying on the phone to tell her because I didn't want someone else to give her the info first. She was out running errands and casually said "oh I already knew honey, and your father and I both love and accept you and your gf already" We still went and got hibachi lol and my parents went to a pride parade without me that year and got us some rainbow pins because I was stuck at work :)

[@Gerilyn2003]

Tell your boss to supply combination locks. He can keep a list of the combos for safety's sake. But he needs to allow your valuables to be secure, or he needs to be made responsible for stolen items. The commenter with the little sister that kept rear ending cars: Get her eyes checked. Maybe she has a problem with her depth perception.

[@TJDious]

OP3: Dude, they get to decide when and how to forgive you. You have no standing to feel sleighted after all you did.

[@standinthegsp6858]

I think the teen is more angry that the “drama” of coming out has been stolen from her. She (a part of her anyway) was probably hoping that her parents would flip out so she could cry to everyone how mean her parents were.

[@dragonstooth4223]

story 2: imagine posting on reddit about how you have a crush on a married man then being like "omg his kids killed my feelings for him" and thinking that's okay ...

[@lisadgingersnaps9843]

Oh my, cray cray neighbor. Run K!

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

He needs to run fast

[@paperkay]

Story 2: Take a piece of Reddit advice before you post lady - get therapy. Story 3: "I thought of relapsing out of spite." GREAT plan. That'll show them. Why is it that all junkies eternally suffer from the "me me me" syndrome?

[@carolinaazevedo2088]

The dog story: teaching dogs to eat from strangers is a step towards them being poisoned, it happens all the time in my country, teach your dogs to not accept food from strangers

[@jameseustice7144]

Finally, we found it... The spiritual successor to "She Bake All My Beans"!

[@naturalPaths]

Re: bride/white dress … OP OFF white, OFF white.. first choice? Dump him.

[@nightdweller6446]

S1 NTA. Surprise room mates absolutely suck especially on vacay when you suddenly become both translator and pack mule. I wouldn't go either

[@dm9078]

Story 2 That chick was delusional AF. Is it any wonder she is broken up from her ex. Jebus!

[@glenpersinger3390]

You said he is good honest guy. If he went with you he would be a sneaky liar, no longer honest and good.

[@skyelindsey687]

Reddit once again with the toxic family double standards. OP’s family doesn’t want to risk him relapsing and hurting their grandchild(ren). So of course they’re TA for not wanting to reconcile and say that the love they held for him before he hurt his brother is no longer there. And by what OP told us they were following the brother’s lead since he was the one physically injured by OP. If this was a story of a junkie parent that turned their life around but the children still didn’t want anything to do with them Reddit would’ve 100% told them to shut up, sit down, and leave their children alone to heal at their own pace and the parent is not entitled to their hurt feelings.

[@tinycrimester]

about the wedding dress story... it's extra dumb because the groom's slept with her too. or would he really have preferred to date for 6 years without sex? this guy's emotions are a gordian knot.

[@tobiDS.]

😂😂 not the Cartman “respect my authoritaee” Markee!

[@reneesjewelerydesign]

The delusional neighbor is a horrible person

[@melvinmelvin9606]

Bean napper......they are worried bout beans, but they live in an apt building, in a city. If sh!t goes bad and u live in a city ur chances of survival are low at best

[@geminigenu]

I was so worried OP’s mom would fail OP. I’m glad she’s finally taking steps of leaving her husband. Paula is a danger to herself and others. And the father is an enabler and overall sucks.

[@supergeeky7529]

I came out in the 90s and would've LOVED my mother's reaction to be same as OP's.

[@deballen7031]

Fantastic, I laughed so much when the the title of the beans story was read out! It was great to hear that one again.🤣🤣🤣

[@tinak2576]

Coming out story: my friend and her husband knew their daughter is gay since she was little. She had a huge crush on a female teacher etc. they knew. No big dramatic coming out. Daughters wife is one of their kids. Not sure why the daughter reacted that way. Yes coming out is a journey, but saying ‘I know’ wasn’t a bad answer. Saying ‘I hate you. Get out.’ Is bad.

[@HeavyMetalMomma]

I don't think it's about knowing, it's about the person coming out having come to a HUGE revelation about themselves, worrying about being harassed or perhaps even made homeless & then someone sort of making a whimper out of your huge explosive news. Sadly I made this mistake with a friend. I was soooo busy patting myself on the back for NOT making a big deal about it as EVERYONE knew except them, when actually they wanted us to celebrate them having a life-changing realisation about themselves. It sadly ended our friendship. It's one of my only life regrets. I should have been a better friend 😢

[@tinak2576]

@@HeavyMetalMomma I’m so sorry you lost your friend.

[@paulinadeboer3604]

The girl has anxiety. My daughter has anxiety too so when she was younger 15 year old i talked with her about variations in dating, hetero, lesbian, bi, pan etc you get my drift. I thought i make it easy for her if she ever wants to Come out to me. Last month i heard her talk to my youngest now 16 about how i accept every relation. My youngest has a friendgroup that container a lot of diffrence. A nonbinairy, a transgirl, a lesbian. Is no problem for me. And my oldest made sure my youngest knew it.

[@toshi9742]

Story 1 mother is literally weaponised incompetence

[@mert828]

This lady is delusional. He's married. Why would you even start with this fantasy?

[@standinthegsp6858]

Op, if you lust after someone in your heart you’ve already committed adultery!! Even though you may not do it physically. You need to move & go to another state. You need to not stalk his social media. Op does need intensive therapy

[@rhondasisco-cleveland2665]

OP should have followed the gf when she left. She may have gone straight to the stash! …😂 of BEANS!

[@kittycait1485]

The beans story is too freaking funny, what was going on?? Were they high?? I keep laughing louder everytime I hear the word beans 🤣🤣🤣

[@franciebelcher4594]

😂😂this is ridiculous! OP, YOU DON'T HAVE A RELATIONSHIP! He's married. With 2 kids and 1 on the way. He is off limits! Period.

[@morganleanderblake678]

1:34:33 this is the best story on this entire video. Like damn, orange chicken for the win.

[@beck3149]

For the lesbian daughter story When I came out as bi to a few friends… their response was “me too”… really took the wind out of my sails. And I was like “why did you never say anything?”

[@helenconnor3714]

The last story, I'm so sorry for the OP. Many young marriages don't last. If you find the right one, it will. Now that doest mean that there won't be disagreements, but you will find ways to resolve them. Finding the person that is your friend, companion and the one you love is so much more important that just settling. My husband postponed our wedding until after I turned 20, as he wouldn't marry a teenager. Thankfully. Our marriage is still going strong after 40 years and I wouldn't change anything. Good luck and have a great future with your future love. Note: Not all marriages are successful and I totally realize this. Two of children went through divorces and came out the other side stronger and more confident in their own abilities, both went on to get further education to support their families and have children that they are raising to be confident, successful young adults. The other 2 have strong marriages, that I hope will last, as we never know what the future may through at us. I am proud of all 4, but will never step into, offer advice (unless specifically asked), but always be there as a sounding board.

[@standinthegsp6858]

I wonder if the mom was encouraging the daughter to go through the purses to see if anyone had cash

[@DanniSoRude]

Imagine STRIVING to break up a happy home 🙄 Those kids know you're trying to steal their Dad! Good for them 😂

[@JustWatchingSomeStuff]

Why the hell do you have spare keys where anyone you DON'T want to drive your car has access to? My spare keys are in my bag I carry with me at all times and another set locked in a safe in my room. Why is she able to get ahold of them??? After the first time, she should of NEVER been able to get ahold of them again!

[@carolsimpson4422]

Op really scared his family. It's not up to him to decide when they'll feel safe around him again. He should be glad he's getting a second chance to know the people he hurt so badly.

[@hilarymurray8741]

First story : Absolutely NTA OP. Your mother is a push over and can't say 'No', and that is what has put her in a difficult position, not your refusal to be the servant for her entitled siblings. The only way you can have a holiday with your mother alone is if you do all the arranging, in your name and paid for, initially, by yourself and you keep secret the details of were you are going, staying etc. The risk you run is that your mother may decide not to pay her share or may bail on you at the last minute because her siblings want the free servant as well. Then you would have to invite a friend, but, at least, you would not be a manservant on your holiday.

[@bonnieschwegerl6536]

If she treated my daughter that way, we would be done!

[@vanessashimoni6548]

Thank you for the bean story… I’m dying here 😂😂😂 Where are the beans?!!!🫘 The girl is unhinged. 😂 This guy dodged a bullet. 😂

[@standinthegsp6858]

Op you might look into hiring a P.I. to see if they are in financial need or need bone marrow or another body part. They could genuinely want reconciliation & have forgiven you. Don’t think the don’t know about your son.... someone you know could have told them. You could have the attitude “trust but verify”

[@dianecheney4141]

Gosh if Paula had ever been given consequences, this might not have gotten to a level her father can't fix

[@kathleengenieve3804]

The woman who finds herself smitten like a kitten with her married next door neighbor and tests. His kids is in la la Land. HIS WIFE IS PREGNANT WITH A FOURTH CHILD. WHAT DOES THAT TELL YOU!?! She should move as far away as she can get from this man. I think she's delusional. I just think he thinks she's a nice person but has no interest in her romantically whatsoever. She needs to get a grip on herself. Maybe she should join a dating website. The fact that the woman who posted this asking for advice becomes irate when others reading her situation, basically caller delusional speaks directly to the issue. IF YOU DON'T LIKE THE ANSWER, DON'T ASK THE QUESTION.

[@brandonshelp4682]

Every time someone calls an adult dating another adult a creep, I laugh.

[@standinthegsp6858]

What about one of those underground fences? You can put it three feet inside the solid fence, this will stop the dogs from getting close to the fence. The dogs might eventually be trained out of habit not to get close to the fence. You can eventually uninstall it once they learn. The neighbor can volunteer at an animal shelter if he needs a puppy fix... they’d be more than happy to have the help.

[@arnoldnellis6120]

The Boy Ryan Is Practicing Some Double Standard BS On OP!

[@catte.]

I forgot about the bean story, by god this brings back so many memories lmao.

[@lynsthoughts3576]

Story 2. WHAT THE HELL??!!! K is a good HONEST MARRIED MAN WITH A LOVING FAMILY..... AND YOU WANT HIM???? Getting into a relationship with you makes HIM AND YOU CHEATERS!!!!.. WHAT THE HELL!!