My Parents GHOSTED ME 5 Years Ago After My Wedding & Now Reached Out...Help! r/Relationships

[@DaniS398]

If I thought one of my kids married someone I believed was taking advantage of them, the LAST thing I would do would be abandon my child. I would make sure our relationship was tight just in case I was right about their partner.

[@TheNormExperience]

“But they were here for me despite their issues with him.” …So they BLOCKED her on everything for FIVE YEARS? I don’t think so.

[@sleepingkirby]

10:49

[@JK-sh8rc]

I don't really understand why OP is fixated on the fact that her husband was once her boss. Why mention it to her parents at all? She should've just said that they met at work.

[@alexrussell6399]

@@JK-sh8rc Because that’s literally the only thing a sane human would have problem with their relationship, but given what the real problem was it’s clear this parents weren’t in the right headspace to have kids in the first place.

[@donnaxoffdonnaxoff8901]

qp

[@amberlexicon]

OP with the crazy first date handled that perfectly in my opinion. They got ganged up on like getting surrounded by a pack of wolves or some shit. It's a first date. That'd freak me the fuck out. I'd have ran for the hills. Plus, that being their family dynamic to someone they don't even know is super concerning because once they grow closer and maybe have a normal relationship struggle, to what degree of interrogation etc is the family going to intervene? Nope. Nope.

[@jbrennan381]

I completely agree with you. Quite a few people said he may have gone a bit overboard, or shared those things in private with her, but I disagree. It was just her that was the issue, it was the entire family acting like they had been dating for a few months. That was insane.

[@kmbaldwin5325]

Yep. I have no idea what this girl was thinking ambushing OP like that with what was literally her ENTIRE family. Who does that to someone on a first date? She humiliated not only OP, but also herself. Seriously, what was she thinking?!?!?! 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

[@ilbercgross4736]

I think they were just playing around. Some folks are like that. I do not remember OP stating once that their joking made him uncomfortable. Huge red flag on his part. Maybe OP has social anxiety. If so, he needs meds. If so, he needs to always be on the end of a bench as to not get trapped. All his statements about not being able to shut are queues on SA. He was uncomfortable with the people, they started joking, he got more uncomfortable, I am guessing with the people on both sides and the talking he just freaked out. He needs to call and apologize to the girl. Some families like to embarrass siblings and adult children. Siblings like to embarrass siblings. As someone with SA, I know how he feels. I started to get help five years ago. After we figured out what was wrong, I finally understood the "Why's" in my life and how to deal with them.

[@kateboarman8674]

@@ilbercgross4736 respectfully, their whole family dynamic with a first date being dragged there with no warning is not normal. He tried to express himself in a way where he wouldn’t insult anyone, but the vast majority of people would be wilded out and ghost in this scenario. I personally would probably have just walked out without saying anything when the dad demanded a response seriously. He doesn’t owe a bunch of strangers anything even if he DID initially have great first date chemistry with her. The fact that she dragged him into this without asking him if he’d be comfortable with meeting a huge amount of her relatives all of a sudden is massively disrespectful on her part.

[@kylemendoza8860]

I was thinking it was a culture thing. It was like okay family approves we date for a year to see if we're marriage compatible.

[@rubymeaddle]

First date from hell: OP is absolutely right about her not being able to set boundaries with her family, the entire date was a red flag.

[@kirksnowden8023]

He could have handled that so much better. He sounds like an entitled spoiled child. “ I was robbed “ please. How bout this. Well sir I think your daughter is a wonder person, full of energy as well surprises, but we have only touched the surface of getting to know each other, but things are going good and I hope to have a better answer in the future. Everybody is semi happy. When the night is over and I’m alone with her she better explain herself damn well ( as I don’t want to kick her to the curb till then, which I’m sure I gonna do anyway ). I’m a man not a child so I don’t throw tantrums when I feel uncomfortable and manipulated. This come later after I calm down. His so called high horse honesty only made the situation more awkward with no good exit strategy. Why the drama.

[@hilaryc3203]

@@kirksnowden8023 But he did not have the opportunity to collect his thoughts and give an eloquent reaction. And why should he suffer through an entire evening just to wait to speak to her when the night was over? No, he does not need to throw himself on that sword. He was blindsided. I disagree that he sounded like an entitled spoiled child; he went out for a quiet, pleasant evening and basically got tossed into coliseum with a pack of hungry lions without warning.They came at him, non stop, from the moment he got there. He was clearly reeling from their audacity, and he was trying to get himself out of the room to speak to her, but she pushed back and told him to speak in front of her family. He was rattled by all their behaviour so I'd say she and the family got exactly what they deserved. Whilst I would hope they learned something from it.

[@christinaburney5935]

He probably did her a favor by calling out her families behavior like that. Hopefully they won't behave like that again.

[@EffRocco4evaElmo]

Who has family a relatives meet a blind date on a FIRST DATE?! Is homegirl that down bad for a man?! Damn

[@InDeathWeLove]

@@kirksnowden8023 The only ones causing drama were her and her family. Nothing about this was normal. If you think this is normal go see a therapist and get some help regarding healthy boundaries.

[@aislebasile]

If they're going to call your husband a racial slur, then they're going to eventually do the same to your children considering they share half of HIS DNA. cut them off! They don't deserve to meet your kids!

[@streamerssaymyname]

Definitely, I've had to draw a hard line with my mom because while she would never say it with her own mouth, she shared her much more outspokenly racist friends posts on Facebook. She refuses to unfriend her, but she now doesn't get to see my kids even in pictures because she didn't think what her friend said was harmful to her mixed grandkids. Oh and she of course claims to be "colorblind"

[@aislebasile]

@@streamerssaymyname I would do the same thing as you. Parents should support the love their child has for someone else. Grandbabies should never have to witness something like that, especially if it's towards themselves or their own parent. That's just not okay.

[@ruthhenderson5413]

The grandparents probably wanted to literally "see" the grandchildren to see how black they were. They apparently wanted to know whether any of them were "white" enough to accept, and they must have hoped that it would be the little girl. A second chance to have a replacement kid to fill in for the daughter who died. OP doesn't bring up the religion issue, but I'll bet that's also a consideration. They may have harbored hopes of indoctrinating the child[ren] in their own.

[@actuallynotsteve]

It was super obvious that it was because they're racist right from that initial reveal, it was never about the boss. OP married a black dude and her parents are racists, that's GG.

[@Davtwan]

Even more, they didn’t want “their daughter” (read: deceased older sister who always followed mommy and daddy) to marry a black man. 😬

[@Louise-ls4jv]

Hi, sorry, what does GG mean in this context?

[@actuallynotsteve]

@@Louise-ls4jv literally it's "good game" but it's used in the context of saying game over in video games. Once something is basically a wrap people will type GG

[@Louise-ls4jv]

@@actuallynotsteve Ah, alright! I've only heard it being used after a literal round in a game, so I was a bit confused since my native language isn't English

[@micsca]

Exactly

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 2. HOLY CRAP!! When OP started his update with love and marriage, I started yelling at my phone "Nooooo."

[@ajzephyros7454]

then he was like "psyche" and we all heaved a sigh of relief

[@throwawayaccount9150]

I was circling the kitchen groaning at the sky until he said sike and I just leaned against the wall from there in relief 😂😂😂

[@fred_derf]

He got me on that one for about half a paragraph...

[@kamiwatts9435]

I seriously thought I was the only one named for my dead sister and married to my old boss but my parents didn’t come to my wedding. Are there more of us? Is there a club??

[@jojoa694]

There’s no way this happened to you as well😂

[@mayamorabito1669]

Someone wrote your biography and put it on Reddit! 😂

[@spikesgirl9371]

Yes we also have a secret hand shake.

[@laurahonaker2805]

That club must have one hell of a name lol

[@pequenaesposa3286]

Dude same but my boss is a woman lol it's crazy

[@AwksoMePlus]

2nd Story: crazy ass first date. But I think OP should start as friends then meet her friends to better judge the date's character

[@___o1799]

1:29:20 He's cheating on her. His guilt, due to her affectionate nature, is so immense that he's on the verge of confessing his affair every time she hugs him. Instead of being a decent person, he's decided that he'll be the only one who can initiate contact so that he won't confess. The abuse allegations are just the pressure of his guilt making him lash out at his victim. Edit, 1:32:28 Apollo has cursed me with the gift of prophecy

[@throwawayaccount9150]

Called it too when I first heard those terms. I was feeling like an AH for maybe downplaying his teams but nope! It was cheating after all 😤

[@a.n4031]

Oh man, I'm only 1 hour in and I so badly want to skip ahead!

[@MsMookalate]

We all saw it

[@arain764niara]

That story where the husband lied about his trauma, I would've taken him to court for EVERYTHING. Not only was he lying about his trauma, starting a false narrative and threatening to lie to her job, he was also friggin cheating

[@Opinionatedboo]

Story 1: “we were going to send you the letter but you sent your letter before we could” that is a lie as she sent the email AFTER she found herself blocked on all avenues except email! Dad wanted to walk ‘a daughter’ down the aisle and they always planned to leave and ghost her. If she changed her mind about marrying they would have helped her ghost her husband. On a zoom call the dad can’t keep himself from saying a racial slur and daughter is supposed to believe he will in front of the children. They do not deserve access to the children. It is better for them not to know they have grandparents like that

[@thomasjoseph5876]

If you ever suspect people of being "racist" or bigoted, get them mad at you LOL. I don't mean just regular mad, get them so they are completely infuriated with you. At that point, nearly all of them will devolve into and use the racist language that sits in their minds. Being 2/3 of American Indian (Ojibwe) heritage and 1/3 European White heritage, I have used this technique plenty of times to "out" racists and bigots. It works even better if you are 100% in the right while debating with them and have facts to back it up that you can visually show them. I did this quite often during the 2016 Presidental Election when I would debate with people on the candidate they supported. I was an Independent voter and hadn't made up my mind yet on who to vote for so I would debate with both Hillary and Trump supporters as to why I should vote for the candidate they supported. It was a very eye-opening experience and basically reinforced something I sadly knew to be true several years prior to 2016 about WHO the racist people really are. I found that when one group of people who supported one of the candidates was questioned extensively and if I corrected them on facts they had wrong, they would become so angry with me that they would insult me and walk away. It wasn't just ANY insult, it usually had to do with my Ojibwe heritage and the color of my skin. Probably the worst and most racist comment said to me was a white woman calling me a "Reservation N*gger". Once that remark came out of her mouth, SHE KNEW SHE F*CKED UP. Before literally running away from all of us that were sitting at this table, she proceeded to BLAME ME for making her so upset that she HAD TO call me that. This woman was a friend of a friend who I had seen often enough to know her name, job, where she lived, her family, etc. but she wasn't what I would call a friend or even an acquaintance. Then after she got up and literally ran out of the restaurant, a few other people actually stood up for her and told me that as an American Indian, I should ALWAYS be in support of Democrats and never question them because Trump is Racist!!!! HUH???? I just told them that Trump never called me a Reservation N*gger but that woman did and these people were supporting her claims it was my fault I was called that LOLOLOL.

[@katyc.1402]

@@thomasjoseph5876 Well, Trump never called you anything because you never had the chance to make him mad like that. That lady was completely in the wrong to call you that (being racist, sexist, homophobic etc is not 100% a partisan thing), but that doesn't make Trump or any other person not a racist.

[@SvarogAristaeusAllen]

@@thomasjoseph5876 Ah, I knew the moment you started detailing your race you were going to pull the "I'm [race] and even I believe [racist thing]", except you spun it into democrats bad and just reinforced the trump cult narrative about how you're definitely not the racists, guys. Your people think Jesus is Woke, come on now.

[@Briellaxmichelle]

As soon as he put that crazy no touch rule after being intimate very well for so long my immediate thought was “he’s having an affair”

[@MsMookalate]

We saw this

[@lasagnewolf]

I thought the same thing.

[@kbf9644]

Uh, one date, intro to entire family, blows up, meet for apology, not interested, need time away from dating it was so bad, then suddenly she simply must be introduced to his yoga instructor so she can attend a class he attends regularly? 🤔 I don’t think Reddit was wrong about her potential crazy.

[@kbf9644]

Nobody hates being called a racist more than a racist. Didn’t take long for Dad to rip his mask off. Bet MommyRacist was piiiiissed he let the truth out after all these years of their ridiculous cover story.

[@michaelplunkett8059]

If they contact again, say you are going to think for 5 years before calling them - like they did.

[@fvckfascists]

i wish racists would just own it proudly, just so we can all stay away from their hate. but nah, they all present in the way that these parents do. passive aggressive, never saying it out loud, and freaking out if they get called out for who they are. fucking cowards.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Actually the date from hell might be fixed IN TIME. Now that OP and his date are just being friends and going to yoga, they will be able to have no pressure. That way, OP can learn about his date's true character. I'm thinking she's a bit naive when it comes to dating and she's been sheltered too much in her life. By her getting out and doing things for herself, maybe she'll grow and through the friendship OP's attraction to her will grow.

[@rubymeaddle]

Girl sounds like she comes from a conservative immigrant family

[@ludmilamaiolini6811]

@@rubymeaddle sounds like she might have codependency issues too. I don’t think her pushing the relationship so far so soon was one lapse of bad judgement

[@staylor3483]

Married 35 years here.. for 33 of those years my husband never wore his wedding ring. Yes it bothered me but I knew by his actions that he loved me & would never cheat on me. Finally, when he retired, he had his ring resized (bigger) so he could wear it. He didn't wear it all those years because his job was very physical & it could have gotten hooked on equipment or such. Point being, if you know deep down your other half loves you, a ring isn't going to change that.. let it be!! OP has issues that preclude him from wearing the ring, wife needs to accept this. She can't change who she married.

[@foreignbentley173]

Amen I’m a woman I’m an electrician as well as my dad he takes his ring off at work so he doesn’t get shocked lol. If I ever got married I wouldn’t wear my ring because I find jewelery hard to put on lol. I always lay out jewelry when I leave the house yet forget to put it on every time plus something between my fingers annoy the heck out of me lol

[@ADADEL1]

Degloving is absolutely disgusting if you have the misfortune to see it. The smart ones wear their ring around their neck with a small chain.

[@jacquelines.2027]

Story#2, NTA their first date shouldn't have included the entire family without warning.

[@arianebolt1575]

They shouldn't have demanded social interaction. The lack of respect for boundaries was honestly infuriating.

[@Standinthegap4ever]

I once had a teacher who always cautioned us to read through all the questions on a test first, then proceed with the test. Out of 25 students only one of us did this, (lol, not me). The last question on the test was something along the lines of: “Put your name and the date on the first page & turn in your test. Do not do the test.” 🤣😂 lesson learned!

[@fred_derf]

+Standinthegap4ever, writes _"The last question on the test was something along the lines of: “Put your name and the date on the first page & turn in your test. Do not do the test”. Yah, right. That story first appeared the day after the first teacher gave their class their first test.

[@Standinthegap4ever]

@@fred_derf It was high school marketing. His name was Mr. Dougherty. I might have the spelling of his name wrong. We were his first school & year teaching after he graduated from college/uni. We had to give word for word answers (definitions) in a complete sentence, for whatever words he gave us & would put on the tests. IE “What is a bear market?” “A bear market is….” “What caused the stock market to crash in the year 1929? What is the day famously known as? “The stock market crash on Thursday, October 29, 1929 because ….” “Thursday, October 29, 1929 is often referred to as Black Thursday” He often boasted that he could write a true or false question that no one could answer because it would be worded so ambiguously. If you did not have your full name, correct date (had to be written out) & class period on the upper right hand corner of any test or paper he would flunk you. He never gave multiple choice questions. I had a marketing professor in college who gave us an automatic 3 points if we had our correct, name & date on the upper LEFT. He would occasionally try to be funny by throwing in a “freebie” type question. One December test question was something along the lines of “Name the man who dresses in red & rides in a sleigh pulled by eight flying reindeer” All his questions had to be answered in a complete sentence.

[@Tree-House69]

The husband having an affair against someone who loved him so, SO much just is mind boggling, DEEPLY mind boggling. I feel so sorry for her, I know she had some relief with the context. Just, I hope she finds someone else who would never do something like this after that good lord.

[@Human-kb6xc]

TBH in the adoption story, it sounds like the adopted sister has been "brainwashed" into hating the parents that raised her and loved her for her entire life. Like this goes way beyond clinging on to her biological family. She turned into a spiteful, horrible person after meeting her bio family.

[@corlenajames1381]

I think there's more to this story that OP is leaving out, though not on purpose... POC kids who have been adopted into or even born into predominantly Yt families don't always get their cultural needs met, & that can have an unhealthy impact on them, like the adopted sister in this case. Some Bi-racial🟤 kids who were born to a ⚪ parent have spoken of their experiences when their mom⚪ or dad⚪ eventually met & then married⚪⚪ a person of their own race, then had⚪⚪ babies who look like both parent & step-parent, & they move their blended family⚪⚪⚪⚪🟤 to a predominantly ⚪area with little to no diversity. (Think of what it would mean for a little girl who's only lived with her dad & her 6 older brothers... She will likely crave the companionship, the knowledge & the understanding of another female, & this need would amplify once she started her cycle & hit puberty. Her dad may be empathetic to her needs, but he could never fully articulate the intricacies of womanhood for her like one who's living it.) Some kids report noticing differences about themselves from the rest of their predominantly ⚪ families, such as complexion, hair colors & textures, phenotypes, etc. They may also face issues from others in their community, from the innocent questions coming from their peers like, "How come you're the only different person in your family?⚪⚪⚪⚪🟤", to much harsher reactions as they age. Without being connected to a diverse support system which includes people who look like them🧑🏻‍🦳👩🏾‍🦱🙎🏼‍♀️👨🏻🧑🏼👩🏽🧔🏿‍♂️👴👦🏿, who knows how to navigate their experiences, & who can at least help the kid to know that their 'differences' don't make them 'less than' & there's nothing to be ashamed of, then they may begin to internalize some self-hatred & resentment for those around them who don't have the same issues, aka their ⚪family & peers. Sometimes, POC kids have reported talking to their ⚪families about their feelings, but not always having their concerns addressed properly because they simply aren't always equipped to do so. But some ⚪ parents of POC kids have addressed this head on by moving to a diverse area from the start & making sure their POC kid has people like them in their support network, etc. I don't think the adopted daughter has been brainwashed by anyone, I think she has been bottling up the frustration of being 'othered' while her 'loving' adoptive family failed to address how it was affecting her & she grew resentful of them for not acknowledging her pain or her experiences. I think her bio-family were convenient scapegoats for her to finally gain the courage to express her frustrations at her adoptive family (whether or not they truly deserved it, we'll never know without hearing all sides, not just OP's). And TBH, OP sounds pretty oblivious to what her sister went through over the years & doesn't understand why it seems like her sister flipped on a dime.

[@josephmckee3605]

That stepdad 100% made his daughters homeless to manipulate op into letting him keep the master bedroom, op wasn't even going to kick them out originally and said "well get out then" out of frustration, stepdad took that ball and ran with it, getting family involved to try and get his own way nta op and i wouldn't let him back in

[@adrianmcbride1666]

Yeah, the person who started commenting about the op being the jerk there sounded like they had started taking crazy pills.

[@happilyevernever4289]

We don't know that. Stop assuming the worst all the time.

[@valerysamantha3646]

Not t me falling asleep to this video for the 10th day in a row 👀 Markee you know what you are doing man, thank you for the best adhd friendly lullabies haha 🙏

[@ten5h1]

Story 2: if OP and the girl get together permanently, this is gonna be one HECK of a story to tell their kids.

[@CatherineMcClain]

Let the story about house evictions be a warning to those who just want to play house without marriage. My former neighbors growing up were never married, and when the guy died, his kids kicked the woman out of the house. She was a lovely woman too. They just wanted her out for some reason. I miss her.

[@lorelaimatthews5550]

This depends where you live and various other circumstances. If the house was purchased while they were in a common law relationship, in some countries, the same laws that apply to married couples applies to defacto relationships also. Marriage also doesn’t protect the spouses living arrangements either, if there’s no will, it doesn’t automatically go to the spouse or the kids in some countries.

[@arianebolt1575]

I can't fathom moving in and not being on the deed. It's just too risky.

[@omegasobsessions]

Marriage may not have changed anything. If the house was owned prior to marriage and it was willed to kid then that is that. Marriage doesn’t entitle you to property upon death unless there is no Will.

[@AleV69692]

My mother is an absolute gem to strangers or to any guest that stays over at her house. She's mentally and physically and emotionally abused her kids for their entire lives and alienated herself from the whole family due to her own decisions. Maybe it's a shot in the dark to say that the dad was the only one who they respected and he defended his wife even if she might've been abusive behind closed doors all these years.

[@justanotherchannelfornow2846]

First time I've heard your narration and thank you, very correctly stated and accurate and as close as I have seen to the captioning as can be expected.

[@ghislainedefeligonde5166]

I just wanted to give people my perspective: It is indeed possible to be married (and stay married without rings. Our officiant was abit pouty about it because we also kept our names but we are still happy with that decision more than 25 years later. Why on earth are rings the be all end all to marriage (do not get me started on proposals I have another TED talk for those)? On a positive note: I loved the "recovering doormat" moniker a few stories later.

[@skyelindsey687]

The financially abusive husband one: that prenup is null and void if she didn’t also have a lawyer to look over it.

[@MyUniqueBeauty]

"I don't think my parents are racist" You don't think they are or you don't want to believe they are?

[@InDeathWeLove]

If your partner suddenly doesn't want to touch you anymore it's almost guaranteed they are cheating.

[@lmweathers]

That first story could definitely be a movie!!!

[@mindimerritt490]

Bro that 2nd one gave me whiplash lol

[@seraglioborneo2803]

S1: After 5 years Strange voice: Hi, OP, how are you? OP: Who is this? SV: Oh come on, OP, don't you recognize the voice of your papa? OP: Don't joke with me please on such a sensitive matter. My parents are dead. They died 5 years ago. RIP. Click and block.

[@Jrskeetpro]

The yta for the “kicking the family out of the house story” is beyond screwed 😂 like it’s her house, obviously she’s getting the master bedroom

[@jeanetteporter8114]

STORY 1, THEY WANT TO SEE IF YOUR CHILDREN ARE DARKER OR LIGHTER SKIN, IF THEY ARE DARKER THEN PARENT WILL LEAVE AGAIN, DONT DONT LET THEM BACK IN,

[@dre1978]

I have hope for the "first date from hell" story. They seem like a good match and it seems like the date just made a REALLY big bad call. I feel like since they're talking in a casual setting now that it'll end good

[@jeffdaviscapt.cabbage]

I worked for a Transport company in a Australia that a had a blanket ban on all jewellery as an OH&S issue, sadly one of our local drivers got his wedding ring caught behind a piece of metal & stripped his finger to bare bone, a lot of the wives were unhappy until shown the photo of the damage after the finger had been removed, not the skinless photo

[@virtualatheist]

"The student even spat on me..." That would have been his/her first, last, ONLY mistake.

[@lizcarroll8180]

Follow your heart, because you survived the really weird first date and seemed to be working on your relationship. I wish you the best outcome.

[@mariethedicedragon5977]

On the "meet all the family on the first date" story: My first date with my partner of 5 years now was only after months of flirting & dates that were postponed because of my work being crazy busy & his grandmother passing away. Our actually first date was our D&D group (how we met) all said they were going to the Canada day fireworks & then only the 2 of us showed up 😂 Anyway, the next day, I'm playing D&D with a different group during a live stream, when I get a text along the lines of "don't freak out but my foot was crushed by an idiot new guy on equipment he was not supposed to be using" & promptly not only met his family the day after that, but he only told his mom about me literally as I was walking around the corner of the hallway. The day after that (he was not able to have surgery right away so was sent home for a couple of days) his mom picked me up to drive me the 40 ish minutes to the lac, where he was staying with his other grandparents so they could help him because he was supposed to be moving that week. It was wild, not nearly the very purposefully set up of this story, but still meets everyone fast. Luckily they all liked me 😂

[@ritakelsey4606]

The son who inherited his Mom's house did nothing wrong! The step dad caused the problem because he didn't want to switch rooms when the owner of the house wanted to move in. Life sucks but he's a parent and he put his own girls in danger because of his pride, you don't have that luxury when you have kids. Dad needs to grow up1 Nobody owes him anything

[@pamelalaub6204]

The young man who inherited the house gave him his mother's entire savings. There was enough for him to buy an apartment. It must have been a substantial amount. I think it was for the step sisters' safety and future.

[@mikilacunningham6259]

Crazy 1st date NTA Dude this was a serious crazy meetcutie It seems like u both felt a spark & she over did it cause she was too happy about how he made her feel... So happy to hear they'll be trying....

[@bantubrat343]

“A rug that can pulled from under you if they don’t like what you’re doing.” Wow. That hits me so hard

[@trashcan2748]

As someone who’s on the spectrum, I’m talking to my boyfriend about getting a special necklace or earring thing when we get engaged because rings kind of freak me out when I wear them. I’m currently looking into getting rings to try wearing that can have a part cut out of them because I’m also very scared of getting a ring stuck on one of my fingers, so that silicone band or whatever might also be a wise idea lol 2:13:04

[@Justaperson354]

I’m on the spectrum too and I have a few rings that I take on and off when I’m overwhelmed with it! I recommend a silicone ring like the grove ring (I think it’s called that) it’s thin and I’ve grown used to playing with it . I also have some stimulating rings like fidget rings as I can take it off and have a covert way to keep my anxiety down. I also have a watch I wear that has my wedding date engraved as well as my wife’s name!

[@therealmickey8213]

You can always get a ring and just put the ring on a necklace chain technically you’re still wearing it and it’s comfortable for you

[@lorifiedler13]

If husband can do what he wants with his money, why can't OP? He's an idiot for not realizing that marriage is a partnership. It involves collaboration not compromise.

[@raeishimura]

Yeah, those parents are definitely racist. They didn't apologize for saying it. They didn't try to make amends. They said "We wouldn't say it in front of the kids" which means they WOULD say it when the kids are not around. Seriously, when people are this specific of "I wouldn't do this thing if 'blank' is around" or "I wouldn't have said/done this if I knew you were 'blank' " It means that the person is not sorry they did something wrong. It means that they would absolutely still do it, just under different conditions that won't hurt them. That's a big red flag there.

[@madgevanness4011]

Tombstone: most cemeteries close at dusk.

[@lianabaddley8217]

For the 1st date story. I have 6 siblings, married + kids. A SIL has connections to a band. She got tickets for any of us who wanted to go. All in the same section. My oldest nephew brought a 1 date to the concert. He talked to his aunt and she got them tickets close but in another section. We each went to the edge of each section and met, gave hugs. After i gave him a hug, i asked him quietly, jokingly if We like her. He smiled, said Yes We like her. I said and said Ok. It was just between the 3 of us. After he said hello, we all went back to our seats, enjoyed the Awesome concert. We did not see them after. Years later they are married and have a baby. He's still right. We Do Like her. They are still just so cute and perfect for each other.

[@jamesrkrau2481]

I use to take my ring off when I went to the gym. In the top shelf in the locker there was a piece of trim that made it hard to see above my head. I forgot it, and no one ever turned it in. It wasn’t expensive $72 from a pawnshop. The spot price of gold that day.

[@TsunamiJuri]

First date from hell: just wow, I know I used to move too fast in relationships (mostly because I had very low self-esteem and just latched on to any guy that liked me lol) but even I would have done something like that lol, just wow.

[@lina9535]

One thing that stood out to me, regarding the story with the adopted sibling being uninvited from OP's wedding, was the words "baby snatchers". That is from my understanding very popular in the anti-adoption circles, where adoption is "wrong" and "unethical", even if the bio parents wanted to adopt out their kid for whatever reason.

[@abstract1dea]

You can forgive without exposing yourself or your family to additional opportunities which you will have to forgive again. Nobody ever got hit by a bus they saw coming. Zoom call was a test that they failed. Date from hell sounded like he was overwhelmed. When my wife met my family she was overwhelmed by the attention and had to back off for a bit to process it. She loves it now but it took some adjustment. That initial spark and the connection was remarkable too. Don't give up because of a silly mistake and take those 30 dates w/o family. I knew the moment I met my wife that she was the one. It took three more months to determine if she was crazy and married her 3 more months after that. 36 years later, it's the best/hardest thing I've ever done and totally worth it. Her mother was a nightmare but I handled her pretty well with humor. Those 30 dates you may have missed can become a real long lasting relationship. Don't reject that time as it could be magical or nuts. Give it a shot. Sometimes, you only get one.

[@gailwarnock2764]

OP you said the right thing and you did well their behaviour is disgusting wow you didn’t even know her and she takes you there ? You had a lucky escape . Don’t feel bad and move on and good luck .

[@michealwatts7469]

If Markee posts have taught me anything its that Reddit is heavy on the drama seeking... They shoot for some of the worst outcomes of any given situation. I see some decent takes but jeez a lot of it is "Get out quick, goto therapy, take your baby to therapy!" like dude... Mental Health is Important but sometimes therapy isn't the answer to the problem and getting out at the first sign of a bad relationship is probably not a good idea. Its like Failure is unacceptable to some of these folks.

[@jbee02]

Therapy might not always be the answer but it can't hurt though. I believe anyone can benefit from therapy even if they don't need it.

[@michealwatts7469]

@@jbee02 I disagree but to each their own.

[@Callimo]

@@michealwatts7469 I want to ask, why exactly do you think therapy wouldn't be helpful? Is it the cost? Or access (or lack thereof)?

[@michealwatts7469]

@@Callimo I didnt say It wouldnt be helpful, but its not always the solution to every issue you have. Sometimes a friend, a hobby, various other things that you need to do or have will help you out. Its like the folks who when they have a fever or they are constipated for 2 days or maybe its a string of things you cant explain so you go on WebMD and see the worst result possible and stress, the stress makes it worse so you goto the doctor and you pay money for no reason because every test etc comes up “normal”. Sometimes its not a matter that requires therapy. Sometimes it is.

[@Nevertoleave]

Everyone should have therapy, there’s a lot of generational trauma that most people don’t really know. Particularly in America. One generation had untreated ptsd from the war, the next was repeatedly shown videos about how to behave that was basically, look good, never talk about anything if it’s bad or shut up. A lot of society was broken and passing down their screwups and unprocessed traumas

[@lina9535]

Ahhh, I love it when people who have ASD with sensory issues are more or less forced to comply with their SO's wishes, despite the fact that it will be upsetting/triggering for the one with ASD. I have ASD, thankfully without any sensory issues, but if I had any, like OP in this case with rings and such, I'd frankly tell the SO "I have an issue, you know this, why do you want me to put myself in a bad mental situation just to apease you?", and wouldn't have worn any ring until I'd managed to work through it with a professional. Not everyone is able to get to a manageable place for their issues either. As for the finger tattoo, maybe it's because I do a lot of things at the computer (working, writing and drawing), but I see the undersides of my fingers a lot.

[@jestersreign7530]

I think I remember hearing this story before I hope there's another update

[@lkayh]

First date from hell story: shades of My Big Fat Greek Wedding! The only thing missing is OP getting a standing ovation from the family when he finally lost it and told them off. If this is actually true, I can’t even begin to give advice, because while the family is incredibly overbearing and the girl is obviously not able to set boundaries, I still see possibilities if the two of them could come to some kind of meeting of minds about the importance of keeping some distance and some privacy. And maybe not get with the family again until the first Christmas following their actual engagement (if they get that far).

[@sandyberger-r9j]

Story 1:28: Hubby is a narcissist, he just wants to control OP. Cue: issues from childhood emotional abandonment. OP did nothing, absolutely nothing wrong- this is all made up by him.

[@concernedemployee5406]

1:52:42. Im glad op seeked couseling. I was thinking that she needed to charge him for house keeping and child care. I'm glad he was made to work from home to see her side

[@TheBlekkis]

That date was waaay too much, completely agree that it was a meet for much later. Maybe a quick hello would have sufficed if anything, not an interrogation from the entire family. The girl should have known better, the family as well. It literally sounds like a realistic nightmare, glad to hear that her mom ripped everyone apart as they deserved. Hopefully they can at least keep being friends, they seem to be doing well.

[@never-endingquestions3314]

Trying to get your wife arrested because she hugged you out of excitement? She needs to be the one to file for divorce.

[@agnesmetanomski6730]

Adopted sister story: while I do not approve of the adopted sister's behaviour, I think we lack a lot of details, in particular concerning how interactions with the neighbourhood and other kids were for the sister. And regarding the sister accusing her adoptive parents of "baby snatching", in particular, the fact that her bio-family is in the same country is for now the only reason I think it might be some exaggerated story or a total lie that she's getting fed b her bio-parents. But I lived a few years in Colombia, and saw a couple of documentaries on TV showing there is, and has been for a long time, a market for kids/babies for adoption (as it's easier to adopt in such countries than it is in the US or Europe), and the supply is maintained by snatching kids deemed appropriate. The adopting parents are told the bio-parents gave the kid out for adoption, so they have no idea there's kidnapping involved, but it's not unheard of at all. If that happens in Colombia, I suspect it happens in other Latin-American countries as well. So the story could actually be true, even though OP's parents adopted her sister in good faith.

[@lauragarza7585]

Yea like there’s definitely a lot missing from the story. And it really could go either way to being misplaced anger at being put up for adoption, not necessarily being adopted. As well as being raised in a family of a different culture, she definitely had life experiences that they didn’t understand. And even with the best intentions can still get hurt.

[@kathleengenieve3804]

The 19-year-old young man who inherited his mother's home and ousted his mother's boyfriend and two kids should not feel any remorse for doing so. He is 19 years old and the mother's boyfriend is a full grown-up ass man. He has two 14-year-old daughters or whatever age they are and he needs to blow in his thumbs and grow a pair of balls to support his children. When you are a parent you do not have the luxury to dig a hole and hide. He needs to get a job. Not a career but a J O B to in order to support himself. The boyfriend is the one who is legally responsible for the two minor girls, not the mother's 19-year-old son. By not supporting his children. He is preventing this young man from starting his own life. He has put him on pause so that he can get his shit together. During the time he was with this young man's mother, he never pulled himself together. So now he's going to wallow in the excuse of her death in order to prevent himself from other ever pulling himself together. Talk about making someone else's problem. Your problem is OUTRAGEOUS. It's time to grow up, boyfriend of dead mother! What time is it boyfriend of the dead mother . IT'S TIME TO BE A MAN ! The boyfriend of the dead mother is trying to push his responsibilities as a parent onto a 19-year-old young man. That's called parentalizing. The person who in this video lectured the young man for being a bad person and having mental issues because he had the audacity to actually toss his mother's boyfriend out of the house with his kids should stop it. The 19-year-old did not drive any pleasure from the creation of these two children during the lifetime of the mother, the entitled lazy ass boyfriend did ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to support HIS children. If the mother didn't leave a will then everything goes to her son. That's too bad and the fact that all of a sudden mother's boyfriend does get off his ass. It's too. Sue, his dead girlfriend's son. He is a grifter. He is a scammer. He is a deadbeat and that's what deadbeats do best. The only time they do anything is to see if they can get something for nothing or more of something from nothing. He's teaching his daughters. How to be grifters? How to be scammers? How to wait for other people to take care of them. Those two girls should be taken away from him and adopted out to a family that really wants children. He doesn't want anything but a "Life of Riley." This is the typical attitude of an entitled narcissist gaslighting and switching the blame to anybody they can attach it to but never take responsibility for themselves and any poor unfortunates who have either attached themselves to the narcissist or who unfortunately comes under their care. If you can even call that care. The only person the boyfriend cares about is himself. Where he sleeps. He wants the best bed in the house. What he eats. He wants the best food. He wants the best shelter. He probably even wants this 19-year-old young man to pay for his daughter's education too and his retirement. By the way, do you start a 401k plan for me? 19-year-old boy, if you didn't you better get to it. I'm not getting any younger. You know time for me to retire. I have to say what is a retiring from and the day came out of his mother. He was retired. He ought to hang his head in shame. Someone said that Josh just made the mother happy, really, REALLY HE MUST HAVE ONE MAGIC COCK. THAT'S ALL I GOT TO SAY BECAUSE HE SURE DIDN'T WORK A DAY IN HIS LIFE. He got this young man to give him money that he The boyfriend of the dead mother didn't earn, that he bought an apartment with my my. Isn't that interesting. I think the young man should call child protective services on his dead mother's boyfriend and report him for neglect because he did neglect his daughters and he is going to continue to neglect them and I wouldn't be surprised if he came knocking on the young man's door for another hand out. Not too far down the road. I guess to the boyfriend WORK is just another four letter word.

[@carls1959]

OP should get an explanation as to why they ghosted her in the first place. Go from there and ask how your children would feel forming a relationship only to be ghosted. Back to edit. You've discovered their true character and I'm glad you made the best decision.

[@cass973]

Worst first date story- Yes she was really stupid for not leaving the second restaurant when they walked in and seen her fam there. I think he should give her a chance but watching closely for red flags. A lot of families joke with a new person but NOT all at once for hours. It happens over 30 dates like he said.

[@ashleyduckworthyt3224]

Let’s not forget she told him she’s in love with him 😂 YIKES

[@jamesmyles4540]

​@ashleyduckworthyt3224 no she didnt. That was part of the "we met up to talk, she confessed her love and we ran away and got married" joke update.

[@Chris-vm3ym]

It's not her responsibility to take care of her mother's step kids period. It's the father's responsibility to take care of his kids'end of story.

[@ElisaSarah]

Last story had me laughing.

[@tammyderusha6354]

The ring doesn't keep someone from cheating

[@Rae4Real]

S2: HE WAS COMPLETELY CORRECT!!!!

[@dorianleakey]

That second story sounds like the plot of a horror movie but they don't try to eat him at the end. Even her not having a dating profile, it's like she was removing the method of tracing his movements and who he was with.

[@geeney3dgil389]

Person at 21:45 is completely right about this being a thousand *RED FLAGS*.

[@sandraliberty1355]

My daughter's father (bf) and I were 50/50 when I had 1 full time job and 1 part time and he had 1 full time job. We earned around the same amount. Then I got pregnant, had our daughter who was born with severe medical issues and then became a fulltime caregiver. I run the household like a hospital and have a ton of responsibility. I also do all of the cooking and cleaning on top of the extensive care for our daughter.It's by no means a normal lifestyle. I had to give up working to be 24/7 mom/ medical caregiver. In the 5 years since my pregnancy, I helped him overcome his addiction issues, start eating healthier and living a more normal lifestyle compared to what he had before we met.(he was a mess back then) he has gotten a promotion and a few raises.He still makes me split everything..I have to use my child tax benefit and our daughter's disability money to pay all my half of the bills. I am left with 0$ every month. Not even a dollar..My aunt started doing our taxes last year and was appalled with our arrangement. My aunt and I both tried to talk to him about what's typically fair when splitting costs and he is not at all on board. I also frequently have to pay for laundry, diapers and groceries. He somehow cannot manage money at all and has turned down every offer I have made to do some budgeting plan together. We do not have a joint account, aren't married been together for 6 years and our daughter is nearly 5. Thank God there's no threat of a second child, since we have had a sexless relationship for the past 5 years.😅 heh yay..That one story resonated with me a bit..

[@VictoriaMorganawesometori]

The first date guy was completely justified.

[@angeleyesgreen1586]

That relationship is so f*ck'd She didn't deserve to be cheated on. He doesn't deserve to die a little bit every day until he becomes suicidal, because this will happen eventually. Their kids do not deserve to see their parents not in a stable relationship. They NEED to separate. Now

[@dramuckus]

Ok so the mum may have been trying to screw over the son and spare the partner and the twins I did a little googling to see who pays if the defendant is dead and from the little research I did(which is only a little, I could be wrong) it was if exceeding the policy either the estate or if the estate has already been paid out it becomes the beneficiary who would be responsible. So maybe as one last f u to the son she saddled him with the debt

[@cypressk3838]

First date from hell story: she 100% knew her family would be there, everyone but her was in the restaurant already

[@charliesangel1]

Jus a short term lurker on Markee here but this story about the wife being compared to the dead wife. Stay in therapy talk to a therapist about giving it a second chance. I had trauma from a blood disorder at age 12, long story short butterfly needles, and a very bad nurse. I can't look at them or see them being used as a nurse used one on my husband I had to turn my head and cry and ialso found out a few months ago due to having Ulcertive Colitis I have an iron deficiency so I had to have iron infusions the moment my first infusion started I had an anxiety/panic attack and bawled my eyes out. I explained it to my husband once before but I again told Jim about it. My husband is very understanding and the nurse poor nurse who had to do the infusion I explained to her she was mortified about such a thing happening to someone so young and was very sad that that nurse did that to me. She was very understanding. Trauma is very real and I agree that suppressing things like that can come back and bite you in the a**.

[@lina9535]

I really feel bad for a lot of teachers. Luckily where I live, they don't seem to have to put up with as much as say in the US. When I was still in school (graduated 2012), we'd sometimes get a "lesson plan" on paper sent home with us so the parents knew what we were doing, or they'd sometimes be emails. Usually this was more for if students asked for it, or they needed extra help, or it was requested by the parents. During 7th-9th grade we had a period that was like a "study time", where we could work on whatever subject we needed. Had unfinished Spanish homework? Do it then. Got a work sheet from history? Do it then. And so on.

[@randomaccount-dq1jq]

2:27:00 This woman is getting "The high road" mixed up with "Being the doormat", Hopefully she's able to realise letting someone smash your boundaries constantly and still giving them no real consequences is not "taking the high road" its subjecting yourself to abuse.

[@pelgervampireduck]

that nightmare of a first date was a huge red flag showing how that crazy family behaves. that wasn't normal. the positive thing about it is OP found out before getting serious with her. better to find out the family is crazy sooner than later.

[@michaelplunkett8059]

Crossed signals with no malicious intent on any side. Send flowers with apology note. Move on with clear conscience.

[@skyelindsey687]

I will never understand the people who are so happy they found their “real”, read bio, family where they cut out their adoptive family and become down right hostile towards them that they completely forget that their “real” family didn’t want them and if not for their adoptive family they would’ve aged out of the system and had only whatever god or gods they believe in know what would happen to them.

[@blacksheep4265]

The young man that got the house you did right the boyfriend did not try to find a better job to support his kids. so if he didn't want to move to the next room to keep a roof over his kid's head or get a better job he should have moved out.

[@SingingMermaid4]

That first date story tho... Dang. I met my in-laws pretty early on, but I got a first date with him at least

[@mysteriousnova58]

The ring story has the easiest solution 😅 get it tattooed. A little bit of discomfort for the inking is an excellent trade for wearing a ring. I hate rings too cuz I’m afraid of being degloved (don’t look it up) and am seriously considering getting a cute design to replace my ring 2:12:37

[@ISIIN15]

I don't need to look it up. I know what you mean from the context lol. I'm always afraid of them getting stuck XD

[@shirokusanagi3901]

2nd story... Holy shit. And he's actually considering dating her?

[@animatorstanley]

Story 1: So am I the only one that finds it weird that she's not only named after her dead sister but she named her daughter also after her dead sister? I mean the parents are obviously kooky doodles but why did SHE also name her daughter after the dead sister, and herself?

[@ajzephyros7454]

Maybe the daughter is named after her, not her sister, but since OP is named after the sister OP naming her daughter after herself links back to her being named after the sister. I mean men name their kids after them all the time how many Jr. are out there? Why can't a woman do the same and have say a "Beth Jr"

[@animatorstanley]

@@ajzephyros7454 yeah I think its weird when men do it too, lol. A bit narcissistic IMO. But not my kids.

[@breannashell3799]

Story 2: guy dodged a bullet from hell. They encouraged him to speak his mind, so that's exactly what he did. They insulted him first by saying this or that about him then saying "OP.. we approve" right in front of him... Shame on the family and good on OP for standing up for himself being that uncomfortable because let's face it... That date turned into a nightmare.

[@lunagames8133]

Mum died house story - OP was the AH but not for the reasons everyone says, he didn't kick them out, he told the Bf that if he didn't like it: he could leave. As a father he should have just got on with it for the sake of his daughters. Also OP gave him a time line for which he will need to be out of the bedroom with the mums stuff

[@mikehilbert9349]

Story 2: NTA, she was absolutely desperate and as soon as you got along so well for 30 minutes, she believed this was the next obvious step. Huge red flag, glad you saw what you were in for.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

‼️For the adoption story 1:46:00 OP blocked everyone who mentioned that it's possible the bio family didn't give her up willingly. So I KNOW that's the case. I bet for some reason or other the state removed her from the bioparents and OPs family stepped in and adopted her. BUT it's also possible she was adopted from another country. If that is the case and that's where the vast majority of American adoptions come from is overseas children. Her parents might really be baby snatchers! Maybe they used a third party to "find" a baby for them which they took back to the US. Whatever happened the bio family did not give sister up for adoption out of their own free will because OP has blocked anyone who said otherwise. And if there wasn't some truth to the adopted sister statements OP would have just clarified it because she got so many comments about it. But she just blocked any mention instead. Plus OP never said to her sister they're the ones who gave you up for adoption etc etc. Which proves that's not the case. We are missing a lot of context for this adoption story the parents did something to acquire that kid and I believe whatever they did was incredibly shady

[@lindah3803]

Even if your snatching theory is possible, it's unlikely. Yes,today it is very common for over sea's adoption. Due to the fact that the USAs adoption process is past screwed up. The government turns down couple's for ridiculous reason's/law's,so those couple's resort to over sea's adoption,which is cheaper from most other countries. So the child from which ever country, comes here to the state's and is raised in a loving family. Meanwhile children born right here are left in the system. Many live a life of abuse or neglect. Of course the couple that had been interested in loving that child don't qualify. I digress,with the timing of this story,back when OPs sister was adopted,over sea's adoption was something that influential/rich families were able to do. Regular everyday people didn't have that kind of an option. Due to the "quick" change in the sisters attitude, I am of the opinion that she was removed from her bio parents by force by the state. The bio parents have given her a story of how they were treated badly and punished by the state and that the adoptive parents were some how involved in it. There will come a time when sister discovers all the bio's lies. She will then realize exactly what she has burnt to the ground. I hope when she tries to return to the family,they turn her down and tell her exactly how she is nothing but a stupid,ignorant, trashxss,brain-dead biiitsh.

[@Justaperson354]

The rate of international adoptions in the US has been in steady decline since 2016 while foster care/domestic adoption has been in a steady incline. The vast majority of public adoptions in the US actually comes from foster care as it is faster (sometimes only taking 3 months to get matched and 1 year to get finalized) whereas overseas adoptions can take years and much more money and stricter rules such as only heterosexual couples and no single parents.

[@tennesseedogpack]

Hate to be the one to say it because it’ll hurt your feels. The adopted sister is black/Hispanic which means she was most likely taken by the state.

[@jjulloa96]

That first story was wild

[@tennesseedogpack]

Final update on the guy cheating with step mom and step sis. Ex-SIL is in deep doodoo as the results for the dna tests came back and zero out of three is his! Ex-BIL is distraught. She doesn’t even know who else could be the father? Heifer, how many men have you been bedding, beside your husband and mine?! (Don’t worry I’ll find out) Like I knew she was a trifling old bag of bones but I never knew she was this cold! BIL has decided to cut ties for his own sanity as he feared he might act in a way that is outside his character. Now I feel bad for those babies but I understand why he had to leave. Did we (ex-bil and I) give a copy of the dna results to everyone she knows? Yes we did. Did I personally go out of my way to darken the steps of a church and make my testimony and hand out a copies of the dna results? I sure did! Ex-MIL and her daughter have cut ties and are silently hating each other but they are image obsessed so they kept things cute and silent. BUT a heathen like myself prefers to be cute and audible, and I haven’t forgotten dear mother! So I went and gave my testimony in front her beloved peers and read out a couple of the vilest text messages she and my ex-husband exchanged. There were a lot of gasps and screaming but I kept reading for as long as I could. I sure f*cking did! Unfortunately I couldn’t read more before I was dragged out and then attacked by ex-mil and ex-sil but I handled that and they never again lunged at me or threatened me with physical violence again. Over the years Robert has moved as shady in his legal business as his personal life and as a law-abiding citizen I felt compelled to inform the taxman of his dealings, as well as informing his former business partners and current ones. I also did some legally ambiguous things to Robert that I don’t want to put into writing but he’s no longer slinging dick like his life depended on it. That testicular fortitude he once had is slipping away. He just doesn’t have that pep in his step anymore. It’s hard to remain so casual when there are a couple of men hoping to catch you and a ex-wife who still has him on find my beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep. Roberts life is in tatters and well I love that,love that for him.

[@user-ooop]

I feel like there could be more to the adoption story. Wish we got her sisters perspective

[@beirirangu]

The parents in that first story literally make NEGATIVE sense: They're terrified that their child is being abused, and their solution is to abandon them; to isolate their child from their support network; to refuse to hear even POTENTIAL cries for help (THEY BLOCKED HER, after all) ... literally the ONLY way they could've done a worse job is if they said it was her fault she's being abused

[@julietaestamo8880]

Story 1. Parents had to read a "letter" so they could get their statement in order, but father slipped up with outburst. Its spontaneous, unrehearsed and therefore his true colors.

[@muhname6052]

Mom dating ex: I feel like OP missed the Jerry Springer joke?

[@binxbear103111]

I once told a guy my c section scar wasn't from having children. It was from having a change of life, i.e getting a s change. He didn't care and still harassed me. That was when I lost it and went off on him and swung

[@pagee7452]

I think your husband is having an affair dump him that marriage is not worth saving and tell your boss your husband has gone off the deep end and he's unstable. Divorce him not worth saving

[@JayeEllis]

Yeah... Your "intentions' toward his daughter were to get the fuck out of dodge! I don't know how you lasted as long as you did. I would have been gone the moment I realized I got brought to a family event.

[@anitakyota9922]

Or yes, find out what it would cost him for a nanny, housekeeper etc and send him a monthly bill