I Turned Down A Surprise Invitation To My Ex-Fiancee and Cousin's Wedding r/Relationships

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: So op’s ex was definitely cheating.

[@alexanderhenby1362]

Shot gun wedding Why is everyone dead set on ex cheated. It's pretty easy to get someone pregnant while having unprotected sex. If they ended up in bed 4 months after he left, they slept with each other for 3 to 4 months, she is in her second trimester in a year. And she comes from a "traditional, family first," family It's a shot gun wedding. There is a term for this kind of marrige, it's a shot gun wedding.

[@jimdob6528]

@@alexanderhenby1362also I know plenty of people who got married within 6 months of dating someone. Most of them are still happily married over a decade later too.

[@thehoogard]

Not enough data.

[@anotherone1532]

Yeah I think that’s pretty much in agreement

[@millertms7]

I would have liked to come to the wedding dressing like the cousin does. Robe and such.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

“I can’t keep holding on to my hatred and resentment forever,” what are they talking about? OP didn’t hold it on for forever, she barely found out about it. She’s upset and angry because this information they hid from her just hit her out of nowhere. They might have had ample time to digest and be content with fact that OP’s ex cheated on her with her cousin, but for OP all this is new. Crap parents.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

While they are "crap parents" that isn't the driving force behind this all. This is in fact, a scenario that we often see in many countries with chaotic cultures with outdated and often, perverted traditions. It also can transfer to new countries they moved to where their culture and traditions are not prevalent or agreed with. What we are seeing in this story is basically a family caste situation. Different couples/families in a larger family group are clamoring to "climb the social ladder" in their larger family structure. The OP's parents are obviously "Beta" type people who are much more concerned about how they appear to the other families in their larger family group then how they actually are. Thus, they have no problem throwing their offspring under the bus, so to speak, in order to not look poorly by the other families. This is something that seems to be a very common trait in many stories on Reddit, especially those from Eastern and Middle Eastern Nations. The children are educated with more of a common "Western Society" approach and beliefs and those end up clashing with the older societal and family beliefs and traditions. This stuff makes for some AWESOME Reddit and eventually, KZbin stories that creators such as Markee, Lost Genre, and Mark Narrations, end up turning into videos for us.

[@KE-hr4sb]

Lol I literally just commented the same thing!

[@lorifiedler13]

OP, Tell the family you'll go to her next wedding.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@lorifiedler13 LOL. I told one of my sisters at her wedding that the band she hired was awesome and she should make sure she saved their business card so she could hire them for her next wedding. This was her 3rd marriage and she told me, "Great idea, Bro" and the look on her new husband's face was priceless lol.

[@squash6497]

Even if ex and cousin had been upfront and told OP about being together, and more time had passed, I still wouldn't have faulted OP for not going, since it would be a majorly awkward situation for everyone involved, even if there wasn't resentment. Parents definitely only want OP to go so that they can show off their big happy family.

[@Adamskyize]

Story 2 - OP's parents seem to have succeeded in making OP bitter and resentful. That usually takes quite a lot of mistreatment

[@elizabethescalante8114]

Meh, he'll eventually cheat on the stupid cousin or vice versa. The fact that they had a shotgun wedding is pretty much a guarantee that it will crumble and fail.

[@alexanderhenby1362]

I'm glad someone else thought "shot gun" Like dude didn't need to cheat for this wedding to be happening this fast.

[@salomerodriguez5145]

She's such a free spirit that she immediately marries as soon as she gets pregnant 😂😂😂

[@Ma5jay5dontxdoxthat]

​@salomerodriguez5145 Shes probably a free spirit because mommy and daddy pays for everything and probably threatened to cut her off if she didnt married. High chances thats the case why a free spirit doesnt mind getting tied down to someone shes known for a year and probably doesnt have the same life style as her.

[@wickedamoeba8719]

Story 2: NTA. If it had been one hundred or two hundred dollars, I could have understood. But charging your kid $750 per month while they’re paying for a car, school, and food is messed up. If the family was struggling, I would understand but this was not the case. This was just cruel.

[@Lordofthelosers01]

$750 plus OP had to pay for his own education and living expenses is nuts. Most would drop out of post secondary and just work their way up. I don't blame OP for all the bitterness he feels, especially when this treatment isn't going to be passed to his other siblings.

[@thebigmystery7841]

​@@thatjeff7550probably because it wasnt part time? He never said it was. Theres plenty of people who work full time and still do school. It just means, like him, you dont really live. Every waking hour is either work or school. Ive known people with two full time jobs that were the same. Literally nothing but work, school, sleep. And truck services do pay a good chunk if money especially overtime. He mightve also had some scholarship money or finacial aid that couldve helped with school. I got aid but still had to pay a partial amount for classes. All my supplies had to be out of pocket tho. Basically its very possible. Its just not living and is a miserable existence.

[@francinetitherington4060]

We charged our Son $50 a month "Rent" once he got back from the Air Force and got a job. We saved it to use when helping him furnish his 1st. apartment, bought cookwear, dishes, glasswear, utensils, 2 sets sheets and pillow cases, pillows, two sets of bath and kitchen towells and a bathmat - even TP, cleaning supplies, a crockpot, coffee maker, filled his fridge and pantry, a TV, and lamps. He bought his own bed and got a 2nd hand couch - coffee table - dinette set and chairs. And Voila, he was in business as an independent adult.

[@spibow]

​​@@thatjeff7550"province" could imply Canada I think, which is not much better. 1 Canadian dollar is ~75% of 1 US dollar... Federal min wage here is, I believe, $15/hour. OP would have had to work full time on top of school, likely, to make anywhere close. It also depends on where they went to school and how much they actually made per hour. I know people who are doing it and it is god awful to the mental and physical health.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

I heard the second story yesterday and I’m still baffled on what sort of twisted beliefs the parents were trying to instill in their children. OP got a job to pay for his own things, showing how driven and responsible he was, and the parents punished him for it by extorting money from him for years. Meanwhile sister dearest doesn’t have a job, doesn’t pay rent, but she gets pampered by the parents. Good job to show who the favorites are. If they were trying to teach OP independence, self reliance, and that he can only trust himself then congratulations, they’ve succeeded and now OP wants nothing to do with them. And of course, his parents don’t take accountability for what they did, it’s somehow OP’s fault for not saying he didn’t like being extorted.

[@jaccat4336]

Exactly! It’d be bad enough if they just had these weird life values and did this to all the kids. It’s the fact that they’re only doing this to one kid that’s infuriating. Makes me think are you really all about working hard or are you just AHs.

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

​@@jaccat4336 They are worse. They are *parasites.*

[@owl7072]

"You can't keep holding on to hatred and resentment forever!" Op literally just _broke up_ with this guy _one (1)_ year ago because he "didn't want to get married" and now not only is he in a new relationship already and _getting married,_ but the person in question is _her cousin_ and he _invited her to watch._ Op literally just found out about this. _They_ had time to process it, she did not. Either the parents are delusional and think he wasn't cheating, or they know fully well he did and are condoning it 💀

[@kateajurors8640]

I couldn't even find the timeline and I repeated it multiple times the only way I can assume less than 1 year is because of holidays and family events

[@fireknight0146]

I think they believe OP would make less fuss for the family than the cousin would, so they are trying to steamroll/force OP to be the bigger person so as not not to blow up the family. Which is a very messed up wat of thinking.

[@mikef2811]

I find it funny that people think that they can influence a person based on pressure.... I would tell them all to go to H......and I can sleep well at night. F them all, including my own parents.

[@mikef2811]

I would have told my family to get lost. That free spirit cousin, will be cheating soon.

[@amandarose4469]

Story 1: How tempting would it be to trash the wedding and then apolagise later with "I'm sorry I guess I follow my own rules, forgive me, family is family. "😊

[@franciebelcher4594]

That would be absolutely beautiful 😂

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 1: Depending on how much of a "free spirit" the cousin is I can definitely see the ex coming back to the OP with his tail between his legs when the cousin dips because the baby is too much work and she dumped said baby solely on the ex.

[@bloxnirogaming5269]

Story 1: do people Not realize others may noy be holding grudges, but just don't want to associate with bad guys.

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

“You can’t hold on to your hatred and anger forever” WATCH ME. If everyone knows and is not only actively supporting it, but also hiding it from me, AND expecting me to just be fine with it, I’M DRINKING THE HATERADE AND I’M DONE WITH ALL OF YA.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 1. NTA! Out of all of OPs family, her parent should 100% support her. My little sister went through the same thing with our cousin. The day my aunt found out her daughter broke up my sister's 5 year relationship, she lost it. My cousin swore they did start dating until after th3 break up, but we all knew she was lying. My aunt yelled at her daughter and told her she would never accept their relationship, and what she did was one of the worst things any family member could do to the other, whether the relationship started before or after the break up. FYI, my cousin broke up with him 5 months later when she caught him cheating on her.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

“My extended family has been blowing up my phone since then” Why do so many of these stories have families that are capable of blowing up phones? How is it possible that 70% of people in these stories are explosive experts that can detonate a phone at a moment’s notice?

[@ZombieSazza]

Joke response: they maybe watched a tutorial online, maybe a WikiHow article like “How can I successfully create a phone bomb” Serious response: Honestly when I cut contact with my bio mother and brother my mothers sisters harassed TF out of me with messages, as did a bunch of my mothers questionable friends. I didn’t respond to any of them for days and they just kept messaging me how ungrateful I was, that I was spiteful, a horrible daughter, disgusting etc etc. I only ever responded once to each of them and it was with a novel length post I’d made (with receipts going back years showcasing their abuse) explaining my extremely depressing and violent childhood, how it led to both my PTSD and permanent nerve damage that’s left me with mobility problems, and friends commented backing up my lengthy post with their own experiences with my mother and brother (mother neglectful narcissist who “partied” with men, brother violent alcoholic who sent me to hospital many a time and R*ped several woman). I asked them why I would want to respond to her flying monkeys, and why I would want to even be in contact with such horrible people. They either: Sent more abuse Told me I should “get over it” because “she’s your mother” Only 3 apologised and wished me well in life Always wondered why so many of us have to deal with the flying monkeys but I think over the years I’ve realised that it’s because birds of a feather flock together, they’ve all accepted that behaviour as “normal” and grown up around it so harass anyone who tries standing up for themselves against abuse/harassment, because they expect the family punching bag to accept being harassed into oblivion.

[@carolroberts4614]

It would be nice if there was a device like that! I know a few I'd be calling....

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

I mean tbf the people who don't have drama in their lives & who don't have people who would send any flying monkeys in their lives for a disagreement like me aren't going to need reddit for that so...there's that.

[@Kris-wo4pj]

My family tried that one time with only 3 people texting and calling me. I talked to my mom. Said my piece. Read the other text messages and deleted them after telling them to leave me alone im not interested. It was about attending some family thing i didnt care about going to and told everyone i was working. I dont remmeber if i even was i just remembered being annoyed cuz i was having a conversation with my buddy and thoight he had texted me back.

[@grangerweasley]

I couldn’t stop laughing every time Markee’s avatar changed clothes 😂

[@EnDB]

Support for what? I wouldn't go either. I can hold on to whatever I want for as long as I want.

[@untitled-gv3qp]

YoU'rE a BaD pErSoN iF yOu DoN't AtTeNd 🤡 How is the OP the bad person in a situation where the couple cheated on her? Tight knit and traditional but not when it comes to the OPs feelings. Traditional would be shaming the cousin and cheating ex instead of going along with everything and hiding the affair.

[@debbiehenderson7830]

The last story’s “girlfriend “ sound like the most honest and respectful relationship op has. Apart from his grandfather who sounds awesome

[@maurer3d]

Story 1: NTA, “I can’t keep holding on to my hatred and resentment forever.”, You literally just found out that your Ex and her were having an affair, a few hours ago. But even if you had known all along, it has only been a year, which is barely any time at all. Story 1 (update): "Midlife Crisis", what? He was 33 not 40-50.

[@Kris-wo4pj]

​@@thatjeff7550people think its hatred, rensentment and anger if ya ignore them and refuse to talk to them. No its not its me not caring if ya exist anymore its apathy

[@hvymax]

Where was such a "Tight Family" for OP???

[@robinronin]

They locked him in a carnival costume closet this time 😭

[@vanguardangel6912]

I’ve been watching it this whole time 🤣

[@mbyerly9680]

Can we hope for some Wagnerian opera now?

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1: So...by "not following society's rules," I guess that includes not following the rules of "don't cheat with your cousin's bf." OP also didn't "hold on to her resentment" when they've all been lying about it for a year; she's only just found out. A year is not an unreasonable amount of time to still have some lingering feelings, be they of resentment, hurt, love, anger, etc. "My family is tight-knit and traditional, and my parents raised me to believe that family comes before everything else." Except when it comes to you, apparently. They all knew your cousin was cheating with your ex, but never demanded she stop hurting YOU? Was not surprised about the baby, tbh. That's the only reason this cat came out of the bag.

[@SN-qd9qw]

I was almost crying when I heard the last story. How do u make your child work through college and pay his fees when u can afford it? That is wickedness. How was he supposed to graduate? They didn’t help him out in any way. This child has to buy his own food!!! My heart goes out to that boy yet somehow his parents couldn’t have a heart for him. I bet u his parents never had to do what he did and finance themselves through college. Hypocrites.

[@MusicGirl881]

Story 1: After the clusterfuck of a wedding OP’s parents and extended family are going to once again blow up OP’s phone when the baby is born expecting her to have a part in the kid’s life and/or when OP gets with and marries a man who is deserving of her the parents and their flying monkeys are going to come whining for an invite so they can play happy family and ignore what they did.

[@YuToobVideos]

Story 1: For better or worse, I'm the type of person who couldn't care less if my family or friends ever talked to me again. If someone wrongs me once, I'll never speak to them again. I've done it plenty of times and NEVER regretted it.

[@janedoe885]

Markee, I usually listen to your youtube videos like podcasts while doing other stuff in the background. I absentmindedly glanced over at the screen only to see you in a top hat and mustache, then looked back to spot the previous hat lol. Gave me a good laugh so ty dude.

[@psychickumquat]

11:52. Nope, their logic makes perfect sense. They never told OP because they didn't want to deal with her pesky emotions. And when those two decided to get married, the parents needed OP to be there to look like one big happy family to their church and friends. They put her on the spot hoping OP would go along with this farce "for family", and if she refused they could make her the bad guy. All perfectly logical manipulations.

[@alexanderhenby1362]

Yeah, when those too "decided" not cousin's daddy with a twelve gage.

[@catsncrows]

S1 I've known more than one free spirit. They were all emotional roller coasters😒 Oh the Viking helmet! I appreciate!

[@loganjoh1]

Story 1: the amount of reddit stories where OP’s SO cheats on them with a family member and most if not all the rest of OP’s “family” just expects them to be cool with it is wild if I would go no contact if anyone from my family did that to someone else especially since OP’s cousin and ex had the audacity to invite her to the wedding

[@sophdog2564]

Alternate video title: Markee fashion show 2024

[@hagnat]

having a midlife crisis at 33 is kinda early in life, mah man that was a poor excuse for a cheat

[@macylouwho1187]

I thought that I heard an update on this story on another channel where the traditional old school grandparents found out that the cousin stole the man from OP and then proceeded to give her college funds to OP instead because they disapproved. Maybe it was a similar story but man I thought it was this one with the manic pixie art student girl. It rings a bell.

[@Protagonistinfluence]

Why is he having a midlife crisis at 33? Might not be lying about meeting her after but it's still weird to hook up with a relative of your ex. Seems he's still not wanting to be married. That relationship is going to crash and burn and op should be happy to be rid of him and her family.

[@CC-bn2ws]

Women have midlife crisis when they are turning 30, mostly when not married, but even when married....... For men it's usually 40-50.

[@TheRockinDonkey]

Here’s a tip: if you don’t want to attend a wedding, you don’t need a reason. Period. You also don’t owe a gift if you aren’t attending. Also, it’s badass that he took the money from his parents and blocked them after the money was in his account in the second story. I heard this read on another channel and people were judging him poorly for it, so it was good to hear there were people with actual brains that supported him for it. Some people are too hung up on being polite.

[@jonescity]

Off topic: You and these damn hats Markee! lol LOVE IT!!!!

[@sgm8265]

"Who are these people that blow up phones?" LOL. I would like to know too.

[@dorothyj1304]

1sst story - sounds like golden - favourite child syndrome with parents - grandparents generation. So one set of children from the golden Aunt - Uncle is more highly valued . Ie - she gets to be a wild child because it is so cute 😍 Op - sorry but we expect high standards and strong family values from you and of course you will "punished " if you do not comply .

[@TheDarwinProject1]

Nice that others have found friends with benefit relationships that were more mentoring relationships than anything else & ended amicably!

[@sleepingkirby]

Story 1: I'd like to point out the line "...can't keep holding on to my hatred and resentment forever." At that point, she LITERALLY JUST FOUND OUT SHE WAS CHEATED ON A FEW SECONDS AGO. Her hatred and resentment is literally only A FEW SECONDS OLD. Like, can you imagine saying that in any other situation? Walk up to someone, punch them in the face and immediately go "Why are you still angry? You can't hold on to that anger forever." Also, If I was OP in that story, I'd phone up Taylor to get her side of the story. If she's a free spirit, she'd tell the truth because she doesn't care. Then OP would get her questions answered/closure. Edit: Glad someone else finally pointed that out.

[@eldeano9964]

Hmmmm, Mid 20s 'free spirit' that has to get married within a year of officially being in a relationship?... nah, sounds completely stable. Shotgun wedding? Update: HA, called it. Otherwise the family getting behing this clownshow, would be down to everyone just being surprised that the cousin would ever get married. 'But family..'. Translation: We're desperate to not look bad to others, please attend to make a public display that youre ok with this.

[@NinjaNanya]

Markee first thing in the morning! Always a good start to the day

[@michaeldowson6988]

Travis is like a bad infection running riot. Cousin can't demand your presence if she's claiming to be such a 'free spirit'.

[@evees1346]

it is so funny that every time they say "family comes first" is always a one road way comment, they want you to respect others but they dont respect you

[@salomerodriguez5145]

I'm never getting over how the most traditional families never reject cheaters but actually protect them!! And this "traditional" family is standing behind the untraditional cousin too. Gah!

[@BriannaWeldon]

$750 a month?! At home?!

[@dragonrider1549]

Story 1 - wow, that family is so toxic it’s one rat and four baby turtles away from real life TMNT.

[@notevenlistening6072]

Yay! You did the viking helmet! 🎉

[@parislouise1579]

I love when the notification for these videos come out! 😊

[@taz598]

Story 1 NTA and after what the ex told OP I'd just reply to my parents and family ...I see no reason to go a celebrate a wedding when the groom told me himself he doesn't love her and is only marrying her because she is pregnant....if you throw a divorce party I might attend that because its obvious that is how this marriage will end.

[@bug-in-a-rug]

Markee’s fashion show was better than the Met Gala

[@ZombieSazza]

Lmao support for what? I wouldn’t be going to that wedding and would be angry at everyone who’s stabbed me in the back. Barely ONE YEAR after OP was dumped by her ex and he cancelled their wedding, and he’s already gunna marry another woman who is her cousin, her COUSIN. OP has been backstabbed, heartbroken and betrayed by everyone who’s meant to love and care about her! Also what “hatred and resentment”, OP JUST found out! This doesn’t make OP a bad person either, she’s been let down by her entire family, her WHOLE FAMILY stabbed her in the heart and expect her to smile and deal with it. OP as someone who’s no contact with my own bio relatives (child abuse survivor) the best advice I can give is foster those relationships with your close friends, create your own family, choose who you want in your life, it sounds like you already have really close friends who are ride-or-die so just let them know how much you love and appreciate them, that you think of them as your family, let it go from there. My childhood best friend is my sister, her family took me on, Mammy Jo accepted me as her 4th daughter and they’ve been my family for the past couple of decades where I’m the very proud auntie of 4 wonderful children, my chosen family have always had my back and I feel pure love with them, and I hope you can choose a family out of those closest to you so you can feel the same OP. Also if you wanna be petty get the cheapest and nastiest looking dollar store card with “congratulations on your wedding, apologies I couldn’t make it, I’ll be there for your next one”

[@LadyPinkmonsta]

Markee king of wardrobe changes

[@jenniferdaniels701]

Story 1- This isn't necessarily just the (possibly) cheating ex. This is about keeping her out of the loop about what was going on in their (especially cousin's) lives.

[@tijgeke87]

story 1: so they want them to attend and explain he was cheating on you with your cousin breaking up YOUR engagement :p

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Just noticed the new hats, nice! 👍

[@boogitywoogity248]

Bro story 2, he needed one male friend to stop him from these actions. Friends with benefits rejects him rather coldly, tells him under no circumstances can he have feelings for her, he’s just a convenient D to ride, but accepts the 4300$ check? She’s a horrible person. “You can’t have feelings for me, but I will take the 4 grand check that’s clearly a part of your feelings for me.” Disgusting.

[@wildblue0]

Story 1: My RSVP would be “Are you psychotic you cheating B? You and your Fbuddy can FO out of my life cuz I don’t have time to waste on Ws.” Block. Story 2: “Gifting” the gf a check and then bouncing feels a lot like payment for services. That’s all kinds of ick.

[@MMM-zc3oq]

Oh! she wore a white robe, she must have questionable morals To be clear, not condoning cheating, just found it funny that op mentioned that

[@TryniaMerin]

Being the bigger person shouldn't make you sacrifice your self respect.

[@kateajurors8640]

Why is there no timelime like?How long after they broke up?Were these marriage invitations sent out?She's acting like it was same day.I literally can't tell whether or not she's even had time to get over it or if her family was hiding the affair behind her back in which case she should cut them all off but I was thinking that anyway

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 2: Honestly good on OP, with how hard he was working during that between working full time AND university the same time it's a wonder he didn't burn out, can't say I blame him for snapping at his parents for charging all that money, it's not like they were desperate for all that either.

[@Zeus1701E]

Story 1: Woman dodged a huge bullet, cheating trash will always be cheating trash.

[@WPFLAWLESS]

Story 1: im willing to bet that cousin had a crush on op's fiancee and had been not so subtly flirting with him ( why i think she never interacted with him in front of op! She didn't want her finding out) the "hook up" was absolutely planned, if not them on a date she purposely sought him out and he was 100% DTF

[@NoRegretsHomestuck]

“WAIT! DON'T BE FOOLED! He’s just the regular Markee with a stupid cheap hat! He still embodies all the awful opinions he did before!” “BUT HE’S GOT A NEW HAT!!!” :D

[@SCUBASUEReynard]

When they ask you why you’re not attending you should say …. If they ask for objections or toasts? What do you think I will not get up and say. Let me be . I have been wounded deeply. I knew he was cheating. But not with her. Leave me alone. I am enjoying it.

[@AnemoneEnemy]

Story 2: Did he not voice his opinions to his parents the entire four years? This seems like something that would be straghtened out if he just sat them down and told them how he was feeling

[@stephjovi]

Cousin steals her fiance but she's the bad person if she doesn't attend the wedding? Great family

[@sketchbook8725]

So he did want to get married just not to op. Ouch

[@starlaaster523]

I'm with the guy that tore up the check. If parents could afford to let him stay for free they should have. Networking and unpaid internships would have set him up for life but instead he is graduating with nothing to help his career. That puts him way behind his peers.

[@Ospyro3em]

Yooo Markee found a box of hats! 😂

[@avencree]

Family is important and is above anything else. Unless appearances are at stake, then the family that’s been wronged should just shut up. Classy.

[@annanas9122]

8:51 eh, being petty in such situation is way better than "dignified and classy".

[@CC-bn2ws]

One of my exs had a shot gun wedding. We were on a "break" just after Christmas, they got together within a month of that, less than 6 months later she was noticeably pregnant, and gave birth I believe that November. She died the January after of stage 4 cancer. I found out a few years later about all of that. Did feel bad, her dream was to be a stay at home mom(that couldn't cook or clean) of 4+ kids. She finally gets her first kid and dies. Very religious family, pastor parents and all.

[@threeducks157]

lol I just fired someone like the cousin, cause you know that’s not how the world works.

[@rebecca7697]

Sounds like the Cousin be the Golden Child of the Family...She might have the rule of not living by society's rules due to always being given everything (or is that the Family are enablers encouraging the cousins' Entitlement to anything she wants...?) So of course the Family wouldn't tell OP about what happened till its too close to the wedding ... That part is about Appearances... The Family wants her there so that everyone in the Family's Community will see that She (OP/ex-fiance) Is Okay with her cousin marring her ex-fiance. About the Ex Fiance... He completely cheated with the cousin... it was not a Mid-life anything ... Sounds like he was engaged to Op... got to know her family, saw that the cousin was the Family Favorite and behind OP's back got with the Cousin... and the Family knew before OP and the Ex broke up... but I could be wrong... OP should go on a trip with her Ride-or-Die friends during this wedding and go Low to No Contact with her "FaMily".

[@WaitingxInxSilence]

Grandpa’s a real one! 👍

[@TheScaletIbisNW]

The stuff with the "gf" weirds me out. I could never sleep with an 18 year old. Seems like a kid to me. Felt that way at 25. I also would have felt super weird if a fwb sent me 4 grand.

[@Longingtobesomeone]

I'm waiting for cat ears! 😸

[@mamaturca2077]

GET THIS MAN TO 100K

[@syrliawarrior]

Story2: I've told my kids when they start working I'll charge 1 weeks pay for rent and thats going into a savings account they will get when they move out. That "rent" covers food and housing for them so all they would be spending would be car stuff ie gas and fun stuff for them. Anyone who treats their kids like a bank is Fed in the head. Just because I struggled doesn't mean they have to.

[@andrewmildenberg4210]

An entire weeks paycheck is still fucked up. You don't sound too much better than the shitty parents.

[@denisecorzette1676]

Just want to say that some parents have it all together for the older children and pretty much forget about the youngest. I'm a youngest child who ended up raising myself by the age of 10. No one really cared about me.

[@Jasonfallen71]

Record conversations like the one of OP with her ex, you got powerful ammunition to destroy all of it whenever you feel like it. But yeah, she’s lucky to be rid of Travis the dunce.

[@LadyBern]

Story one: "Travis". They're using Taylor Swift aren't they?. A few moments later, "My cousin, Taylor.". Yep, I don't know if they are a Swifty or out to piss them off.

[@darthbiscuit]

S2: my guess is the father had to take responsibility as a kid for his family and thought it was a good learning experience. Problem is the son did all the work but with no responsibility or respect which feels more like slavery. Now the dad knows how terrible of an outcome the experience was and doesn't want to put the other children what he made the oldest go through. That's rough. Not sure how OP can deal with that

[@SurrealInfection]

"Im only marrying her because she's pregnant." My petty arse. "You sure the kid is yours?" Then I would just leave, letting that hang in the air. A cheater, and the kind of selfish person he is, that thought will drive him nuts.

[@TaterKakez]

Love the new hat 🤘🏼

[@charlie-hart]

really enjoying the fashion show today 😉

[@Takisan111]

Nice hat, Markee. Very stylish.

[@utatanepiko7087]

No Markee, go back to the cowboy hat. Only keep the cowboy hat. Only cowboy hat

[@sleepingkirby]

Story 2: I hope that, whatever happens, he stays friends with his "girlfriend". Even if they never get together, she's going to be a good life mentor to him.

[@blackrex828]

You sure about that, she only wants one thing from OP and willingly took money from her booty call, OP.

[@InvasionAnimation]

story 2 op seems like a brat. and rather tiresome. Edit they made him pay rent and pay for college. Yeah I changed my mind they suck.

[@NoRegretsHomestuck]

Not even just that, but the rent was 750 bucks YIKES I didn’t know how to feel at first because this is a sort of common parent technique which I actually can be on board with depending on the situation but it’s usually like 100-300 bucks, but he also had to pay his way for literally everything else including college but the worst part they didn’t follow up with the younger ones, that’s just a smack to the face!

[@jas6940]

S2 OP one thing for sure his parents made sure he’s able to do well in the world on his own

[@Adamskyize]

While making sure he got all the bitterness associated with feeling overworked, invalidated, overlooked, unappreciated, and frustrated for four years.

[@meiimacca4054]

Oh yeah, thats a good thing to teach, dont rely on the people who should love you most.

[@jusaminit]

Is that Monopoly Markee I see? 😊

[@thomasjoseph5876]

While these are some seriously "crap parents" that isn't the driving force behind this all. This is in fact, a scenario that we often see in many countries with chaotic cultures with outdated and often, perverted traditions. It also can transfer to new countries they moved to where their culture and traditions are not prevalent or agreed with. What we are seeing in this story is basically a family caste situation. Different couples/families in a larger family group are clamoring to "climb the social ladder" in their larger family structure. The OP's parents are obviously "Beta" type people who are much more concerned about how they appear to the other families in their larger family group then how they actually are. Thus, they have no problem throwing their offspring under the bus, so to speak, in order to not look poorly by the other families. This is something that seems to be a very common trait in many stories on Reddit, especially those from Eastern and Middle Eastern Nations. The children are educated with more of a common "Western Society" approach and beliefs and those end up clashing with the older societal and family beliefs and traditions. This stuff makes for some AWESOME Reddit and eventually, KZbin stories that creators such as Markee, Lost Genre, and Mark Narrations, end up turning into videos for us.

[@annamarczuk2030]

Nice hats :)

[@lynsthoughts3576]

Free Spirit, my butt, that's NOT his baby. She cheated on him too

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

23:48 so then she doesn't deserve your money

[@axepagode4321]

Why do ALL of these stories around exactly the same? Every family is full of people that get in everyone else's business. The parents are the worst as they spread the news to everyone and encourage distant family members to get involved and pressure someone or complain about something. Inevitably that person's phone blows up with complaints. It's every story and it's every time.

[@kaylalaster1038]

S1 Call me petty but I would go to the wedding is a smoking hot red dress with a hot date and act like Ive moved on and be completely unbothered bc I know the ex would blow a gasket, the cousin would be pissed, and my the family would be mad BUT Im here like you demanded.🤷🏾‍♀️

[@boogitywoogity248]

Story 1 is super explainable, cousin is the type of “doesn’t follow societies rules” person, who’s entire being is based on being different and getting attention, she cheated with her cousins fiancé, and her family basically said, “well she loses interest quick, this is a problem that’ll fix itself. Let’s not tell OP because it’s needles stress.” There’s where the “nothing good can come from you knowing about this.” Comes from, if it was A temporary problem, it would’ve fixed itself and op would be non the wiser. Instead she gets pregnant, and then the family immediately switches to, protect the baby mode. It’s more important for the baby’s mom to not be a whor’davor then it is for op to be treated with respect. If OP shuts up and attends, everyone will be quiet and accept babe narrative that nothing shady happened. If Op doesn’t attend, no unbiased attendee is going to believe the narrative.

[@aoi8653]

S2: I found OP's list of college regrets, which were in his responses. It's not as bad as I remembered but I still don't think it's good. "F my parents, they stole 4 years of my life. I could have gone to parties. Meet women. Make friends and connections. Go on vacation. Go on spring break. Puke in the parking lot of a club. Sleep with the entirely wrong woman. Have my heart broken. Meet the love of my life. Break my finger playing flag football. Play intramural coed sports. Take a class that was interesting but not relevant to my profession. Experiment with my sexuality. Pass out on a beach. Take a year off to travel. Eat questionable food made in dorms by idiots. Make memories besides loading trucks, studying, and sleeping.... "I swear my parents better hope I am not in any way involved with their care when they are old. I will find the shadiest, most 60 Minutes, most Happy Gilmore retirement home I can find for them." Edit: from his comments OP claims to have ADHD and be on the spectrum. I could be wrong but I'm under the impression you are supposed to raise children like that by providing structure for them. This may have been their method, because it appears he wanted to go hog wild.

[@satansecretary665]

they took the best years of his life from him and he will never get that back. when you're young you're supposed to find yourself, OP was working himself to death.

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

In short, he wanted to enjoy life, date, make friends, make mistakes, advance his career and invest his money for his future. Which his parents kept him from doing for *four years* by making him pay $750 per month for "rent". When budgeting, it's usually 50/30/20. 50% for needs. 30% for wants. 20% for savings. The "rent" was made seen by the parents as *needs,* when it was, in fact, *savings.* *That's not a good way to teach your child about financial responsibility. But it does seem like a way to financially abuse someone, even if one doesn't use the money.*

[@aoi8653]

@@user-fg4tn8ot6b To be honest I don't think it was about fiscal responsibility, (I suspect it's about his ADHD and whether he would tank college in a sea of alcohol) but that's neither here nor there. I'm just hesitant to completely demonize his parents and their effects on him. OP is objectively still a young man in the best years of his life. There is nothing stopping him from doing most of the items on his list of regrets, especially since one of them was "take a year off." (And he speedran three items already: meet the wrong girl, fall in love, have his heart broken all in a single relationship) Reddit has no shortage of stories of people well into their middle ages living like complete idiots, and thanks to him having a sob story to tell his grandfather, he now has a sizable nest egg in which to do so.

[@meagancall5005]

What don't you think was good? He's expressing his regret for not having experienced college like most people experience college... do you think he's literally got a checklist that includes *breaking his finger* playing flag football? He's making a point, not literally saying these are all the exact things he wanted to do. That's not evidence that he wanted to go hog wild, it's him understanding that that period of your life is when people explore and make mistakes. I don't entirely disagree that his parents may have had good intentions, but they went way way overboard. At some point in those four years they probably should have realized that their demands were severely impacting his social and emotional growth (and considering all the stuff he was expected to pay for on top of an already unreasonably high rent, I'm surprised he even graduated).

[@aoi8653]

@@meagancall5005 I wrote a reply earlier which got deleted so I'm going to kind of repeat it a bit. I agree that his parents over did it, but I am hesitant to demonize them or catastrophize the effects of their actions. OP is still objectively a young man who is free to still make mistakes and learn more about himself. One of the items he wanted to do was take a year off, and because he had a sob story to tell his grandfather he now has a significant nest egg in which to do so. And he would be no further behind in his career than if he took that year off during college.

[@vickimoss1943]

Good morning, everyone!

[@yukineko5613]

Good afternoon, Sir!

[@lalamarmotte0735]

Good afternon / Morning to you too ❤

[@carolroberts4614]

Good afternoon from England!