My Sister Invited My Ex To Her Wedding Because She Wants Us To Get Back Together r/Relationships

[@jakemarie828]

Ffs, if you're gonna construct a romcom side plot for your wedding, at least ask the actors if they want to participate.

[@LunaP1]

Sister is cracked in the head for doing this insane crap to begin with.

[@rickrollrizal]

This was my first idea seeing the title. Sister watched too many romcoms in the lifetime/hallmark channel

[@tamarasmith9060]

My 1st thought was bride to be sis was trying to get them back together, like so many reddit stories we've heard of that backfired. (Still can't get over the one where the MOH was the only one not allowed to bring a plus one cause they were trying to set her up, despite her being in a serious relationship!) But after the story & how the bride didn't seem to do anything to fix it (uninviting the ex despite it being embarrassing, doing everything possible to ensure OP felt wanted, tell her if she wants a "shield" to bring a friend to hang with, etc) then I ended up feeling like it was the opposite problem. Sis didn't really want her at the wedding for some reason. Maybe she's secretly jealous of something in OP's life & didn't want to hear family & friends talking about it on "her day". She made sure OP "found out her plan" so that OP would get mad & not come.

[@sazzaxeight3124]

Sounds more like sis is jealous of op and needed a way for op to uninvite themselves from the wedding, so she can be in spotlight

[@weltonvillegal6258]

How about just don’t?

[@biologyboggs3885]

Story 2: Just a reminder: tampons are NOT supposed to be flushed because they continue absorbing & can block & mess up your pipes. ❤

[@rubystone9074]

Yeah lol Ops dad is in for a very rude awakening when he has to call a plumber, AND when the bill tells him why his toilet needs to be replaced 😂

[@BloodShed4REAL]

And if they get into the larger sewage pipe they can form massive fatbergs.

[@catherinecox573]

Yeah, my dad would have blown his top if any of us flushed anything but waste & paper and messed up his septic tank 😅 why don't the adults know they don't get flushed????

[@mbyerly9680]

I look forward to the day the city fines him massively for the giant clog. Three adult women with a younger sister. Those poor pipes don't stand a chance.

[@sonialinsey8083]

They probably live in a rental so when that stuff happens it’s not his problem. Also the dad: Why did my rent go up 300 dollars in one year?

[@CloverField83]

Story 2: It wouldn't matter either way, since you dispose of tampons the exact same way you dispose of pads. Stop using one, and the dog will just start eating the other. Dad's a numpty.

[@fangybyte]

I was thinking the exact same thing. Does dad think that tampons get flushed? No. It all goes in the trash can. Period. Having had to participate in the dog/pad merry-go-round, I feel her pain. Best solution here would be to train the dog and figure out a way to make the bathroom trash inaccessible.

[@aquadraws5833]

Context to dad thinking that tampons are a magical solution: both the mom and sister flush their tampons 🤦‍♀️

[@fangybyte]

@@aquadraws5833 what in the everliving hell...

[@PaintSplashProductions]

​@@aquadraws5833Those two are idiots. That toilet is going to explode one day and they're going to be all shocked pikachu face when it happens

[@madgevanness4011]

Oh, yeah, and when the plumber gets called for the flushed tampons….

[@sarahberry1517]

Story 1 - after the update, it feels like the sister didn't really want OP at the wedding but knew it would look bad if she didn't invite her, so she invited OPs ex and spoke about it within earshot. OP takes the bait and the blame, and the sister gets to look like the slightly nosey but well meaning big sister to her friends and family.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Yeah that makes complete sense the sister just twisted it around to where Op is the a-hole and not the sister

[@chelseamadisetty350]

I’d ask for a plus one, and bring one of the sisters exes

[@ronhall5395]

Sure seems like that. She was happy when OP said she was not going to attend. I suspect she us jealous of OP for some reason. Maybe OP is younger and better looking and sister wants the spot light all on her and nor her hot single sister.

[@pippo17173]

Ya this sounds like a ploy to not have her there. For what exactly? I don't know and I guess we never will.

[@hugoumero9723]

@@ronhall5395 well BIL is going to in rude awakening because OP Sister will cheat on him with OP Ex

[@DarkDesertRose]

Story 2: Train the fucking dog. Why is that such a non idea here? Also, she's also going to eat the tampons, dude, it's the smell they're attracted to

[@nightmarefanatic1819]

After the update it's because everyone but OP is a dipshit and thinks flushing tampons is ok. I cannot wait for douchebag dad to have to pay out his ass for plumbing repairs because all those flushed tampons ruined his pipes.

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

Story 2 can be avoided so easily with just a lid or the father "growing the hell up" and train the dog to just not do that. Tampons aren't even flushable ffs

[@Ax-xo4ux]

And it’s not hard to train the dog- I’m a trainer and teaching a dog the “leave it” cue- it so fucking easy. Also- put the trash under the sink, on a shelf, in a drawer, etc etc. get a lid even

[@Allantitan]

@@Ax-xo4uxhell when I watch my brothers dogs I just keep the bathroom door closed when I’m not in there doing laundry. If only cause I’m only there for a day or 2 and his one dog is just now growing out of the puppy stage and is starting to settle down a tiny bit

[@Mia-dt3gl]

I’m inclined to believe that OP’s sister didn’t want OP to be there to begin with, which is why she invited OP’s ex and loudly talked about inviting the ex where OP would be within earshot. She banked on OP pulling out at that point, so _OP_ would look like the AH and not the sister. Funny how sister became completely chill with OP sitting out the wedding, but couldn’t revoke the ex’s invite.

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Story 2 - NTA. The easiest solution is to get a trash can with a lid, changing products isn’t going to do shit because tampons are not supposed to be flushed and would still go in the trash anyways. Dad is an idiot.

[@starbird3939]

This! Despite the products claiming to be flushable-we are learning more and mire products are actually nightmares for pipes-tampons and wipes.

[@jenniferlacey6974]

I did that when I got my kittens. I have a locking trash can in the kitchen.

[@kichikitsu]

actually, the easiest solution is to simply shut the bathroom door... but alas that requires dad to put in the tiniest amount of effort which we know he won't do lmao

[@ruthhenderson5413]

@@starbird3939 The maintenance man of my apartment building says there is no such thing as a flushable product. Some products just take a little longer to stack up enough to completely block the pipe. He says even Charmin toilet paper is too thick to biodegrade, and will eventually stop up the plumbing.

[@Ax-xo4ux]

Put the trash can up on a shelf- or under the sink in the cabinate. It’s what my family do

[@cuzican1902]

Story 3: I don't like his wife either. How someone treats waitstaff is a good indicator of what type of person they are. My mom is like that which is why no one will go out to eat with her and she is a demanding, selfish and rude person.

[@francinetitherington4060]

It wouldn't matter if we were 15 or 59. If we were ever rude to waitstaff, my Mum would be told to go sit in the car immediately by our Mum and Dad.

[@livingnightmare969]

I'm proud of the 16 y/o OP for standing up for herself

[@JK-sh8rc]

Good for OP! Can't she keep the bathroom door closed? Or put the wastebasket on the counter? When I was a teenager years ago we had a male dog that would always do that. And he would invariably wait until someone's date (I had 3 sisters) would show up and then run around with a used pad in his mouth. It was so humiliating then but I can laugh about it now lol.

[@ladyv5655]

​@JK-sh8rc , I had to share a bathroom with my brothers and while I took precautions, inevitably, one of them would leave the door open. It isn't OP's fault. The main problem is that her father is a tool.

[@johnbradbury8610]

It sucks that she has to stay for two more years. Her mother is just as bad. Op tells her what happened and she gets a new trashcan.

[@Lili-ib2rh]

What father tells his daughter, grows up and uses tampon? The only thing my dad ever told me about my (and my sister's) sanitary products was: Write me exactly what you want because I don't want to talk about how your uterus and vagina work with the drugstore clerk and then still come back with the wrong product. Also, he should have a trash can with a lid anyway. Yes, dogs do this with sanitary towels and tampons, but also with anything with blood. Don't make it a girl's problem!

[@rubymeaddle]

​@@JK-sh8rc she probably does but there's 4 other people in the house

[@bopbopanna]

Story 1: The sister is awful. She'd rather have the ex at the wedding than her own sister. I would never forget it and go low contact.

[@Ospyro3em]

Story 1- that update was weird. Sister was really disappointed that OP didn't go, but it didn't occur to her to uninvite the ex so that OP would go?

[@DominosAndHearts]

My thoughts exactly

[@juliearmfield2634]

I don't think she really wanted the sister to come.

[@BW022]

Her just being fine with OP not attending would have gotten a more serious response from me. I'd be sending an email to my future BIL and his parents. "I won't be attending your wedding as my sister has invited my ex in some hopes that we would get back together, even knowing that I loath him. I'd told my sister and she seems fine with me not attending and still having my ex there. AFAIK he is nothing to her, neither a friend, coworker, family friend, etc. I have no idea why she is even in contact with him. However, I consider this a betrayal and will be regrettably distancing myself from her, and hence you. I wish you to best in your marriage and hope she'll show you more loyalty than her sister of 24 years."

[@pippo17173]

Ya I'm inclined to believe she never want her there. I don't know what the main reason would be but if I had to guess, probably op is pretty then her.

[@Iflie]

That's always what they say "Oh my wife is such a nice person!" No, you means she's nice to YOU, someone she thinks of as worth the trouble, she is taking out her frustrations on waitstaff because they can't fight back. That's who she really is. There is no way she thinks there is a perfect amount of ice that should be in her drink across all restaurants, she's having a powertrip.

[@twit3537]

legit the update for that one had the wife's response sounded like a passive-aggressive jab at the servers/workers with how she 'always tries to go above and beyond but she guesses not everyone else does' or whatever. I cringed at that because it sounds dismissive and that she gives off entitlement vibes or thinks what she did wasn't wrong at all. She also compared her (unnamed job) with waiting tables and such and how 'she goes above and beyond' at her job but doesn't realize the struggles and demanding nature of this job. Her job could be an office job where she doesn't have to deal with customers in person, one on one, and sit down most of the time, so its totally different. The 'above and beyond' she thinks is excessive and there is 'above and beyond' but there is still reasonable limits!

[@Iflie]

@@twit3537 Yeah she's not that stupid, she knows what she's doing is wrong, she just hadn't expected him to object to her little hobby of pretending she has a personal assistant to abuse. People show their true nature to those under their power. Plus I think the U.S culture of the customer is always right creates worse karens, they get encouraged to disregard common rules of decency whenever they interact with staff. They even get free food out of it, rewarding terrible behaviour. Basically americans get the spoiled rotten treatment. Maybe they'd never have been that bad if they were raised with dutch staff, they will just kick you out if you are rude. They belong to the establishment so their status is higher than yours as a customer.

[@skylarfulton1314]

@@twit3537I agree. Her comment was pretty back handed considering one of the things he wrote was “sent food back, was exactly what she asked for”.

[@kimbarnes9809]

@@Iflie I know this is an old post but I so love this one. I had a friend couple that did this when we went out - she or he would create a scene and then the manager would comp their meals. I found out after a couple of times doing this that they did it for that reason and that they "liked to lord it over the insignificant people". I slapped her when she said that. I would go to the side and insist on paying for their meals and tipping the servers. But after that I flat out refused to be anywhere near them. I put myself through College as a server. Maybe we can gather all the tips together and bring over some Dutch staff to show the "entitled" customers some manners.

[@Iflie]

@@kimbarnes9809 It would certainly benefit the entire population when throwing a hissy fit doesn't get rewarded all the time and when they have to respect all other people.

[@valgardener7656]

Story 3: Ha! Wife's response that she behaves this way because SHE doesn't think twice about meeting expectations at HER job, but she understand how not everyone feels that way. That was custom made to confirm Markee's doubts about her being a wonderful person. LOL

[@jimbobjones9330]

The facepalm for that one left a welt on my forehead. So, if she's, say, a receptionist... does her boss ask her to do something, and then change what he asks her to do in 20 different ways every single time they ask for something, and then tell her she did it wrong several times? Because I guarantee if they did that, for SURE she would have an issue with it. That comment smelled of "I don't like my job, so I'm going to take that out on anyone I have power over". It wasn't the explanation she thought it was.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

‼️ several studies have been done and shows those who treat waitstaff and servers badly are the people who cheat and have affairs. Because it's the exact same personality flaw causing the behavior. If I was him I'd be keeping a very close eye on my wife. On second thought I would have never married her to begin with. But I just want everyone to know that if your partner does this it is a huge Red flag for not only cheating but for abuse as well. Anyone who's interested should do some more research on it themselves but it is really interesting.

[@mbyerly9680]

Just call it a bitch tax and be done with it.

[@sgm8265]

Exactly. So dismissive and condescending. Says so much more about her than she realizes.

[@josephmckee3605]

There is no way her restaurant behaviour is isolated to restaurants, op might love hrr and overlook her behaviour but i'm guessing most people tend to avoid her unless necessary

[@star3catcherSEQUEL]

Story 2: I've had my fill with "sensitive" fathers who throw big manbaby tantrums, especially at their daughters. People really need to start divorcing their losers stat instead of tip-toeing around them. God strike me down if I even consider putting up with this behavior from a man.

[@sonialinsey8083]

@r8343 There are some places where women don’t have the opportunity to leave but here in the US with all our resources there’s not a great excuse for staying. I’m not a huge activist but my way of fighting the patriarchy was to never even give men like this the time of day.

[@Ax-xo4ux]

@@sonialinsey8083it’s true that some places it’s harder or impossible for women to get divorces- however they can do thing to mitigate, and hopefully all places will have access to no fault separations for the safety of everyone

[@Lili-ib2rh]

This! What father tells his daughter, grows up and uses tampon? The only thing my dad ever told me about my (and my sister's) sanitary products was: Write me exactly what you want because I don't want to talk about how your uterus and vagina work with the drugstore clerk and then still come back with the wrong product. Also, he should have a trash can with a lid anyway. Yes, dogs do this with sanitary towels and tampons, but also with anything with blood. Don't make it a girl's problem!

[@LOLtz1]

Story 3: if the wife is so picky about food why doesn't she take responsibility and cook her own meals the way she wants it.

[@diamcole]

24:38 She honestly still doesn't seem to fully get it, it's not about people feeling differently about going above and beyond the norm to meet a demand. There's particular and then there's just flat out wasteful. The food that goes back is going to get tossed, I'd be boiling on the inside if she were a customer in my restaurant. Like girl, lol you've clearly never experienced genuine hunger before.

[@xelectrix]

Also, what is going above and beyond when they bring you want you ordered but now you've changed your mind? That's just straight up AH behavior and I can't help but feel that her "please and thank you's" are probably said in a condescending way.

[@user-wh8qx1xi3k]

@@xelectrix Was about to comment this. A better parallel would be treating people like your slaves and exerting your power over them because they’re doing their job. Idk what the wife’s job is, but I’m sure one could come up with a better comparison than she did. If she’s a doctor, then it’s like having a patient who expects you to feed them their pills, write whatever prescriptions they want, and then hold their hand has you walk them out the door. If she’s a lawyer, it’s like having a client ask you to re-write the same thing 80 times even though the last edit says the same thing as the first one. If she’s an artist, it’s like having someone commission a piece, only for them to make her do it a ton of times over even though there are no issues and it’s exactly what they asked for. And even then those examples aren’t accurate because artists can make someone pay more for redraws, lawyers are paid hourly, and you can’t force doctors to write your prescriptions or come into the office every time you take a pill because coming into the office is itself expensive. So she’s doing all that, and they get NO EXTRA PAY- that is, unless the husband continues with the itemised bills.

[@dulcilass]

As a somewhat picky eater, I've learned how to make adjustments to the taste of my food at the table. At an Italian restaurant I'll taste the red sauce and then frequently have to reach for sugar. Then I can take the taste of the tomato sauce. I really like when an Italian restaurant has Cacio e Pepe on the menu. It's like an Italian mac & cheese. At a steak house I ordered a steak well done which seemed to horrify the waitress. When it was served I ask if the had a steak sauce and was told the they didn't serve sauce with THEIR meat. Fortunately the salad dressings were still on the table. I scooped up some Thousand Island dressing and improved the taste of my steak. I thought the waitress was going to have a heart attack. She trotted over to the grill to tell the grill chef how I desecrated the meat. Generally, my approach to restaurant food was if I order it, but I don't like it, I'll eat it anyway and never order it again. And nowadays, I don't eat out due to health concerns.

[@Riomy13]

Story 3: I really need to know what kind of job she has. Because I get the strong impression that it's not a job with direct customer interaction. She comes across as really condescending. Like "I am capable of this so why can't others do the same."

[@cindykq8086]

Complaining is their love language? Their marriage is s dumpster fire.

[@jackiehuff7736]

The wife's defense is weird too. Who cares if she likes to go above and beyond? The way she worded it made it sound like the servers were lazy. There's a difference between asking a server to get you multiple plates of food, and asking something like can you make a product with egg substitute. She sounds like an entitled woman

[@kateemma22]

Oh lordie... the dad in story 2 is peak cringe. Some men will do anything to blame women for problems that come into their lives.

[@catandrobbyflores]

This is the time "no uterus, no opinion," will be used appropriately.

[@Ax-xo4ux]

@@catandrobbyfloresindeed

[@johnbradbury8610]

The mother is just as bad. After OP told her what happened her solution was to get a pretty trashcan. She is the one whos married to this AH.

[@shadowdemon2272]

Story 2: get a trash can with a lid?!? You can get a sturdy stainless steel one with a stepper thing for like $30...

[@Hiraeth_Nightshade]

That might not stop a dog though. A dog I had learned how to use a door handle to let herself out in the garden. I wouldn't be surprised if a dog learned how to use a stepper.

[@emsmith.]

Yeah but neither will tampons they still go in the trash lmao

[@valgardener7656]

Story 1 -- NTA. OP's sister is using her wedding to bully and blackmail OP into something that has NOTHING to do with her wedding or with her own wedding related needs. OP does not owe it to her to submit to such abusive and manipulative behavior. I don't think she even owes her a chance to back down and uninvite him at this point. Just block her and schedule something else for that day. Update: Weird.

[@mikeremski2102]

Story 3: I'm guessing they don't go out to eat very often. Going out 3 times a week it would be unbearable, going out 3 times a year gives you a teaching moment.

[@betheguy_posts]

(S2): Thank you for calling out OP on the defense of his wife at the end. Its really annoying when people defend the person they literally just spent an entire post ragging on. It makes some stories especially frustrating, like the one post where the OP had her ex stolen from her by her entitled sister only for OP to let him knock her up 3 posts later. You just know when they jump to the "y'all are too harsh, they're not that bad" speech, chances are OP isn't gonna heed any advice and keep digging their lil hole.

[@mandykawaii1646]

Yeah, I remember that post. I did comment something similar. Bout how you can’t be mad nor upset that people are dragging your ass bc u did EXACTLY what people warned u NOT to do, than, come back and be like “woe is me! what do I do now? Help me, again” ffs. It’s exhausting.

[@maureenfitzgerald3498]

"She doesn't think twice about meeting expectations in her line of work." I'm guessing that might also be a reflection of the fact that she's probably BEING PAID for her work.

[@RSARYR]

Story 2: My dog used to tear up mine and my sister's pads. We stopped it by making sure that the bathroom door is always closed and having a gate toward the stairs so that he cannot be able to get into that bathroom and tore up other hygienic products. And please I cannot stress this enough, DO NOT FLUSH AWAY TAMPONS OR PADS IN A TOILET!!! THEY WERE NOT MADE TO FLUSH DOWN TOILETS BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT BIODEGRADABLE IN ANY WAY!

[@abubarrie88]

Story 2;;OP tell your dad to grow tf up and train his dog

[@rachaelclark8465]

Story 2) So your dad thought it better to yell at you than TRAIN THE DOG. How ridiculous 🙄 🤦‍♀️

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

THIS! 💯🎯

[@thebigmystery7841]

Because he can verbally abuse his daughter and get some change he wants rather than take the time to train the dog. That guy is a genuine POS...

[@MINGIRL1979]

At least my Dad was more sympathetic, empathetic, compassionate, and supportive of me during my monthlies! He even knew what type of pads I used as well as what type of Mitol I used and would get me what I needed when I was in pain! He would do what he could to try to make me feel better, especially if I was curled up with the heating pad, tears flowing down my cheeks because I was in so much pain! He’d rub my back or just sit there with me and try to distract me from my pain by watching tv with me. I know he’ll never know what it felt like to be in such pain from cramping but, I LOVE him for the fact that he was there for me during those times!

[@muhname6052]

Last story: did the wife just blame the waitstaff for her being rude? Because she "goes above and beyond" but apparently the waitstaff don't feel the same? Anybody else catch that

[@SnowyWolborg]

So instead of acting like a typical bridezilla, she wants to use her wedding as an opportunity to play matchmaker for people who had a messy breakup. Another fine example of how some of these people are _genuinely_ stupid for thinking schemes like this would work.

[@piiinkDeluxe]

Period Story (before update): - Why not just buy a trash can that your dog can't get into!? - her dad is so stupid, the dog could rip apart tampons too! - ofc NTA, I know many women who prefer pads, myself often included.

[@jakemarie828]

Same and I'm nearly 30. I even have some cloth pads and period underwear. I have a sensitive cervix so pads are just easier. It's not about adulthood, it's about comfort.

[@piiinkDeluxe]

@@jakemarie828 exactly! Omg yes, period panties are a godsent! 😄 I bleed heavily, and at night it leaks sometimes, even with pad AND tampon. But my period panties don't leak and they don't feel like diapers (unlike pads). 😊

[@Rose-yt5hi]

Story 3: I can guarantee the wife would hate it if her manager kept turning work back to her with nitpicks notes over and over again for no good reason. Her workplace may be exacting, but they are not being needlessly nitpicky.

[@oetgaol]

Story 2. I am worried about OP saying she is in so much pain from menstruation. That might be a serious medical issue. How can that dad be this clueless. Is he only home one day of the year?

[@dscheaffer]

S1 - Well, it’s clear who’s relationship OP’s sister values and it’s not OP. If I were OP, I’d go LC with the sister and move on with her life, without the sister included, as OP would be a fool to keep a relationship with someone who doesn’t love or respect them.

[@maurer3d]

Last Story (OP's comments and update): She's not a bad person, she just has the bodies of dozens of local children buried in the basement.

[@sweaterweatherlady]

Story 2: NTA. I am a grown woman, and I HATE tampons. If someone told me it those or nothing, I'd be a free bleeder.

[@red0421]

Not to mention the risk of septic shock if you don't change them in time 😨

[@sonialinsey8083]

S3: I’m glad that Markee responded as strongly to this story as I did. We have two friends like this, both are legitimately neurodivergent (one seriously so, as in on meds, had brain surgery) so I understand why they’re the way they are but holy crap it’s embarrassing. Yikes.

[@aurorarowley7310]

For the period story: that father is completely out of line. I'm in my 30s and only JUST now started using a combination of tampons and pads in the last few months. And yeah emerald fire is right. The dog would eat the tampons too!

[@mayaroseakennasferu5814]

😂 Markee getting so mad is my favorite part of this. Wife sounds like a nightmare.

[@KashyaCharsi]

"On your first date, watch how he treats the waiter."

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

S2: first of all, OP is right - this is not his lane. Second of all, tampons present an increased risk. Third of all, it won’t change anything because they still have to bbe thrown out. By my count, NTA. He needs to get a damn garbage can with a lid instead of blaming OP for things beyond he control. ETA: SENSITIVE?! It sounds like he’s borderline abusive! This poor girl! ETA: um, are the twin and mom going to stop flushing the tampons tho?

[@Emi_TheWinged]

They will stop after their whole system break up and they will need to throw shit ton of money to fix it (for stupid tampons)

[@Mellow9795]

Story 2 is so sad for me to hear. She's definitely been emotionally abused, she talks like how I did back when I lived with my father. But my father was bad enough that when he tried to physically harm my sister he twisted what happened so much it was my fault he tried to hurt her. As for the dog, op never wanted one and just tolerates it, why is cleaning up after it her responsibility? That should be up to whoever wanted the dog.

[@jodieisnotokay]

you're being an armchair psychologist over one instance. Nothing about this screams emotional abuse. Also if it's her pad being ripped up she should pick it up, there's so many solutions that weren't being thought of, she could put it in the bin in her room, tell her parents to get a bin with a lid or shut the bathroom door. Not one person in that house used their brain to find a solution

[@CloverField83]

Chef here. I've only ever seen someone mess with a customer's food once. They got fired on the spot.

[@doloresreynolds8145]

Story 2: OP, tell your parents to get a trash bin with a lid that the dog cannot open. If needed, keep it in your room rather than the bathroom. Also, when I used to use organic cotton tampons, I regularly flushed them. My plumber never complained, they used to dissolve very well in water. That being said, the dog can and should be trained to stay tf out of the trash can.

[@judyjohnson9610]

Story 1 - while I am all on board with the sister inviting an ex of the bride, the final solution was more dignified

[@smyl665]

Markee was pretty Snarky with that last story. The last line, I laughed so loud I scared my cat!

[@ACAB.forcutie]

I sent back food _once._ And I didn't even send it back, my friends did because I wasn't eating my food cuz I didn't like it. I was like "it's okay, I'll bring it home and give it to my partner" and they were like "you shouldn't pay for something you don't like". I felt terrible, but the waiter was really nice and brought me another meal.

[@morganssmashingpearls3329]

Story 3: I’ve seen somebody put eyedrops in a drink at a very nice establishment and yes, I reported it to management. Food absolutely gets tampered with in some places.

[@mayaya1613]

So glad you posted early, now I can clean with something funny to listen to!!

[@starbird3939]

Story 2: How to keep Dog Out of Trash 1) Train dog not to go to bathroom 2) Buy a trash can with a lid. 3) Close the bathroom door 4) Train dog not to go into the trash

[@avaphynx]

Story 3 I've actually seen people mess with someones food before. The person ended up getting charged for it.

[@lynngrant533]

There’s another relatively easy solution for the wrapped up sanitary pad story. Get a shaker of cayenne pepper and every time you throw a pad in the garbage, sprinkle it with cayenne. Just about guaranteed that the dog will leave it alone because he will not like cayenne getting in his nose. Tell your dad that buying some cayenne pepper will save his plumbing. It really does work!

[@Letha-AnnCooper]

OP get a ziplock bag for the pads. Most people keep their bathroom door closed until the dog is trained

[@ruthhenderson5413]

Dogs can smell through a ziplock bag and tear it open easily. She still needs a covered container and a medical appointment, and the dog needs some serious, probably professional training.

[@michaelwoods3651]

Story 3- your wife doesn’t realize that the staff more than likely is spitting on her food.

[@Kris-wo4pj]

Just train the dog i had dogs growing up we trained them not to get into the trash and kept the door closed not always cuz everyone forgets to close it completely. It pretty easy cuz ya should be training the dog anyways to do other things. Also hope the dad enjoys that big ass plumbing bill when a pipe explodes from all those tampons in them. And basically needs a whole new system.

[@user-mp1is6ys7m]

Flushing tampons is a horrible idea. That's going to backfire at some point

[@carlrood4457]

I have six siblings and it's never occurred to me that I should take an interest of who they are or aren't dating past, "Is he/she treating you well?" If they deem them important enough to meet family, I meet them. If they stop dating, I don't pry. I always assume that meddlers must be the type of people who must do it to ignore their own lives and problems because who has the time to get wrapped up in someone else's?

[@DemonAngel]

When I was pregnant with my first, my Dad took me to TGIF and I got these deep fried chicken nugget things. They smelled so good and sounded so good. Took a bite and I instantly felt nauseous. I spit the bite into my napkin and just said "guess not". Well the waitress comes over and asks the whole "how is everything?" And before I can say "fine" my dad says that the food made me nauseous. I was like "Dad no! I'm pregnant its fine!" With my little mini freak out. The waitress was so sweet and was like "omg we will get you something else" I'm like "no come back please I'm pregnant it's all good" 😅😅

[@HC_Productions_UK]

1st story - Op should turn up to the wedding with her sisters ex..lol

[@moonspider55]

2nd story: I went through this with my inlaws and ex. We went to visit them for a few days. I was on my period and did the same as OP. They have 3 dogs. One got into the trash and ripped it all over the house. My in laws got so upset with me and started to yell. My ex sent me to our room and dealt with them. Then came back to me and blamed me for it. So I felt awful and cried for the rest of the time there.

[@carolroberts4614]

Glad he's an ex!

[@JMac7395]

STORY 1: I have two theories. #1 the sister never wanted OP at the wedding. So she used the ex bf as a deterrent. #2 the sister has always had a crush on the ex bf & possibly slept with him w/out OP knowing

[@pippo17173]

Inviting your sister ex who probably cheated on to your wedding doesn't sounds logical but then again, cheaters introduce their affair partners like this in situations to avoid the attentions.

[@bdhu2001]

Markee, this is the first time I thought you were brutal “that’s great OP, but I still don’t like your wife.” You made me laugh. That comment was too cute. Thanks for helping me start my day with a smile.

[@theconfusedvampire]

Did Markee just try to sound like Mark Narrations? Lol I love it when these two mention eachother. 😂

[@marlieshilgersom]

Im proper wafflin innit? 😂

[@bluexwings]

Story 2: Something that bothers me is that OP mentions "nearly unbearable pain". That's not normal period pain. I wonder if she may have endometriosis. It would be good for her to get a diagnosis early and treatment now, so she doesn't have decades of suffering ahead of her. I thought it was normal for me to have to crawl to the bathroom at 14 bc I was hurting so badly, which it obviously is not. But I'd never been told otherwise. I just got diagnosed with endo earlier this year at 32 (after a cancer scare bc there was so much endometrial tissue my Dr thought it was a uterine mass). I'm currently recovering from a hysterectomy bc my ovaries, fallopian tubes, and uterus were all fused together, and fused to my bowel. The pain in the years leading up to that was constant and debilitating. -1000/10 If you have a suspicion, I highly suggest you do your best to pursue a diagnosis sooner than later!

[@emeraldfire413]

Completely agree, though in the US good luck with that honestly. Especially if she's so young. Doctors are getting better about it, but still seem less likely to listen to kids. Even then from my understanding, testing doesn't always find it the furst time around. I've been tested multiple times as I suffer from heavy and painful periods. Every time they've told me that they didn't see endo but that it may still be growing and not detectable with ultrasound yet. Though have gotten a PCOS diagnosis out of it which can cause heavy and painful periods. Also skipping periods but that didn't start till my 20s and was, up to that point, regular with my cycle even if it was unusually heavy and painful.

[@Bozpot]

Yes, I picked up on that as well. I think a lot of women have been led to believe that extremely painful periods are the norm and we just have to put up with them. We do not, and plenty of women don't suffer in that way. Nobody should have to put up with extreme pain.

[@jake8748]

Story 3 - the way you treat service people is very telling because most think of them as below them. So yeah she's a nice and kind person to those she deems worthy or equal to her, but not the peasants below her. Also the last line really made me annoyed. She didnt think it was bad because she always meets expectations in her job. As if the wait stafd and kitchen staff aren't at expected levels? This isn't typing an email or letter up. No one knows that you only want 3 cubes of ice not 4 in your drink. Or you wanted 60% seasoning not 75%. Plus OP clearly stated she sent food back that was exactly as ordered so it was at expected level yet still not to her standards. Nah shes a snobby AH.

[@adriennewaterhouse5174]

Perfect indeed! My fingers were just getting ansty looking for something to tide me over until u post at 4 ( my time ). Thnx for posting early!!!

[@stuffedninja1337]

The Mark Narrations Shade Though

[@ginger_snapped_]

Stories like #2 remind me how glad I am my dad is super chill

[@lizzyvue8850]

20:10 I love your spot on MarkNarrations impression 😂 Please do a collab for us!

[@jay2thaudy]

Yes!! I wanted to see if anyone else caught it! 🤣

[@KayteeTX1]

Sounded more like mocking.....

[@tonyblake7569]

Story 2 nta, and I'm pretty sure ops dad knew he was one before he even talked to op, that's why he waited until ops mom wasn't there. He knew it was wrong and hoped he could force op into doing it without his wife knowing.

[@ljh5141]

Crop Dusting? 😂 Love it! Definitely stealing that one😅

[@embluvya]

Period story: using tampons won't stop the dog eating them. The dog will just swallow the tampons and then die when the tampon inflates and blocks its intestines. Discipline the damn dog and bar its access from the bathroom instead of shaming your daughter. Properly trained dogs don't go rooting around for food or trash when you're not looking. Also, if your daughter is uncomfortable with you talking about her period, then it is inappropriate to continue to do so. ALSO, not using tampons is not a matter of 'growing the f up.' Plenty of grown women don't use tampons because it either hurts or gives them infections. Dad needs to shut his mouth on things he knows nothing about. Never let anyone make you think you're somehow immature or childish for not using tampons. God that makes me mad.

[@gilles111]

At story 1, sister can remember her boundary stomping every time she's going to watch the pictures/videos of the wedding and see her sister isn't there. Good for sis to be remembered for the rest of her life what the consequences of disrespect the boundaries of other people are.

[@athrun_zala88]

Story 2: And dad thinks what, you can flush tampons down the toilet? As a plumbers I can say tampons don't flush well and have pulled more of them then I can count out of sewers. Dad's an idiot, good on OP for bringing her mom in on the situation.

[@rosarioa.kanashiro]

I am starting to think the idiot is the mother and the sister who flush tampons in the toilet, and the dad just thinks this is normal

[@athrun_zala88]

Yeah after hearing the update, the whole family besides OP sounds a little slow in the head, like the kind of customers I walk into clear their clogged sewer and they call me 2 weeks later screaming about being backed up again and I have to warranty the work I did even though I say I can't guarantee the job due to tampons and "flushable wipes" being flushed down the toilet.

[@rosarioa.kanashiro]

@@athrun_zala88 Thats life, all kinds of people living in this crazy world

[@rachaelclark8465]

Last story) The comments you made on the update, well said! Couldn't agree more. Markee

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Story 3 - I don’t understand how in the update the wife thinks because she goes above and beyond at her place of employment that it means making modifications to a dish you already ordered after it’s been brought to you over and over and being completely unreasonable is comparable or okay. Undercooked would be one thing, especially when it comes to poultry or fish, but she sounds like she’s trying to test the waitstaff’s patience for literally no reason.

[@nancyortiz5277]

Loved the Mark Narrations reference in the restaurant story. XD

[@notevenlistening6072]

In my 20s, in the 90's, I was a cook at The Olde Spaghetti Factory. My family came to my restaurant. My managers offered to discount the table, super nice. My (actually lovely) sister-in-law sent back her dish because it was "too cheesy". It was the Three Cheese Manicotti 😅

[@debc6260]

3rd OPs wife is terrible. I don't care how 'nice someone normally is', if they treat waitstaff/people they think are 'lesser than them' like crap - they're not good people. They're bullies and not good people. EDIT - I totally agree with Markee. He said everything I was feeling.

[@tgbedini]

I got a bit annoyed at her glib justification, "she goes above and beyond at work and didn't understand other people don't feel that way." If you don't understand the difference between how your job works, and how a public restaurant has to function, you aren't paying attention. And sending a drink back for too many ice cubes isn't demanding excellence from your server, it's being a jerk. Her justifications, and his defense of her, don't make it for me.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

​@@tgbedinithis. How is too many ice cubes such a big deal? Just fish out some and put them aside. It's just a power trip.

[@ajillofmanytrades8638]

Story 3: wife is vile. I worked in restaurants for 14 years. Cooks and servers would have messed with her food. I would have avoided serving her like the plague

[@carlrood4457]

I saw it as more of an apology to the wait staff. He put it on the receipt with the why's and wherefores. He was telling them, "I know she made your life harder. Here's something extra for your trouble." He wanted them to know it wasn't him and he sympathized. It didn't seem like he planned on telling his wife.

[@peonpleyamanaka2845]

For the second story on the update, why are the mother and sister flushing the tampons. Thats so bad for your plumbing. lts like flushing "flushable" wipes, its not ment to be flshed down the toilet.

[@thePhoenixQueen]

If tampons make you feel uncomfortable, you're not pushing them up far enough. You're not supposed to feel it. Also, screw off, Dad

[@deballen7031]

Hi. Great array of posts and I do enjoy your interjections, they're very amusing..😂

[@Lqtech00]

Dog Story: My dog has the same issue. Simple solution was to close the bathroom door. Stopped it from happening.

[@thesewinggeekmiri9029]

story 2: OP's plumbing system is a ticking timebomb, considering that her mom AND SISTER have been consistently flushing their tampons down the toilet for *years* . I'm amazed they haven't had flooding or a major blockage or a *broken pipe* yet.

[@fleurpouvior2967]

Story 2: could menstral cups be a good compromise? Or a depo? Because disposable one use feminin products are not made to be flushed

[@Tsuki_Itsubi]

Having worked at a McDonalds before and dealt with these nightmare clients in reluctant to send things back. If i dont enjoy it i just dont come back. The only exceptions were at an expensive steak house where this "tender" steak i ordered was so tough i literally couldnt chew it, i was pressured to speak up and they replaced it immedately. The other time was i asked for mushrooms to be added to a pasta dish i ordered, but they forgot, and all i asked was for the waitress to remove the mushrooms from my bill so i didnt have to pay for something i never got. Instead they just gave me an entire second order of the pasta, with mushrooms and garlic bread, in a to go container free of charge

[@starbird3939]

Story 1 & Update Yeah, I would not go to the wedding if the sister is that bad about my boundaries. Where are the parents in all of this?!

[@elliotwarren1090]

Morning Markee and everyone :) hope you have a good day!

[@lolalapesada]

Tampon as a solution would probably be worse. The dog would probably still eat it and increase the chances of needing to surgically remove it from the dog's stomach

[@shadesofjade]

9:34 tampons are going to have the same problem, if not worse?!?! Wtf?!? Does he expect you to flush the tampons? That’ll ruin your septic system!

[@impandagrl3974]

I love that the dad in story two didn't realize that the dog would just start eating her tampon trash as well. I can tell you from experience our trash digging dog did not discriminate. We ... learned to close the f-ing bathroom door ... in fact it's become so much ingrained that even though that sweet pupper passed away last year, the bathroom doors are kept closed at my parent's house out of habit.

[@sugardonut2296]

Lol your comments on the 3rd story 😂😂😂😂💀 forking hilarious

[@carlrood4457]

I know someone who's like that with hotel rooms. There's no point in unpacking because you know that you'll be switching rooms.

[@kixi8033]

S2: I'm glad the mom more than likely chewed her husband out. If my husband ever talked to my daughter that way, that would be the first and last time and he'd be in there begging for her forgiveness. I'd like to know how using pads is "childish". I'm a 36 year old woman and I only use pads myself.

[@carlrood4457]

Not just novels, but romcoms and Hallmark movies as well.

[@shadowkissed2370]

I am with the commenter I have worked food service for many years and not once has anyone commented on or done something to someone's food. I have asked for substitutes and sent food back. Mainly when I ask for a rare steak and it comes out as cardboard, or if I ask for no ketchup and it still has ketchup. The last time I had to send something back it was mac n cheese and there was melted plastic in it from a label, the cook actually came out and profusely apologized and manager comped the meal even though we said we would rather pay.

[@emilycolbert2852]

The pad/tampon one pisses me off. The thing Dad doesn't know is that you still should use pads even if using tampons in the day. Don't risk toxic shock to appease a manplainer. Plenty of women wear pads at all ages. And tampons are just as easy to grab from the trash. Just keeping the bathroom door closed is such a simple fix. Why can't he do something so simple?

[@emilycolbert2852]

I'm still shocked no comment posted in the video even touched on toxic shock. That could kill op. I think that would be important to a father

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

If I have to shout "SHUT THE BATHROOM DOOR" at my phone one more time, my head is going to explode lol