I Want A Divorce Even Though My Wife Has Done So Much For Me After Her Infidelity r/Relationships

[@valgardener7656]

If your parents are forcing your cousin to stay in an abusive relationship, you should be disowning THEM.

[@thanos8077]

Fr why would he still be around them after finding that out

[@starlaaster523]

Right that's the part I'm most upset about. Op should call her and be like "guess what? I got divorced so now you can get divorced and not be the first."

[@purpledragon2442]

I remember this story. She 100% cheated and got caught. She’s on damage control and doesn’t want to lose her marriage. Dude deserves a real woman.

[@uncle0eric]

An emotional affair IS cheating. Too many people think it's only cheating if it's physical. No. Infidelity is defined by betrayal of trust. Not by the nature of the actions that betray the trust.

[@KCohere33]

She is a real piece of work. I hope her affair partner was worth it. His parents are crap too. Being married above all odds is not always a good thing, especially if it’s just to protect the family image.

[@DomSte128]

Yeah, the wife's effort doesn't come out of love, but desesperation and guity.

[@jasonrustmann7535]

Unfortunately this *is* a real woman. This is the new norm. Loyal ones are the rarity these days.

[@poohbear4515]

Actually, dude needs a real brain, real eyes, real self respect for himself, and a real family.

[@betheguy_posts]

"Right to Privacy" does *not* equal "Right to Secrecy". You dont get to do terrible things to/against your partner only to turn around and claim privacy when confronted for evidence.

[@DzznuttsEniomouf]

"If you don't trust me, we might as well call it quits here." Easiest choice ever!!

[@ShiroTheTraveler]

"No one in this family has ever gotten a divorce", why doe that sound like a shitty Family Tradition? Sure, if the relationship between the two partners is peachy then I can see why no divorce has happened. But that's obviously not the case (the relationship being healthy, I mean).

[@frequentuser360]

It's not a family tradition, it is how the belligerently religious are able to maintain rule with an iron fist. Shame and fear are powerful motivators.

[@ShiroTheTraveler]

@@frequentuser360 Yeah, I get that which is why I said that it SOUNDS like a tradition, not that it is one 😁

[@Ars-Nova258]

“I didn’t shoplift, boss! Yes I deleted the camera footage and there’s stuff missing since my shift but YOU should believe me because trust me bro! Well if you don’t then I guess you should fire me-wait no don’t do that!”

[@EluneAnzu]

I'm going to love if there's a future update where OP's lawyer subpoenas the phone records so she can't trickle truth OP anymore, there's no way it was "just a kiss" if she's STILL unwilling to provide them herself, the kiss is just what she's willing to admit (currently).

[@uncle0eric]

Recovery from infidelity is mainly dependent on the ability of the betrayed partner to trust the betraying partner again. Sometimes, despite sincere efforts, the betrayal just can't be erased and trust can't be restored. In that case, even if the betraying partner deserves another chance, the betrayed partner still can't be faulted for being unable to trust again. In this case, the relationship is best ended.

[@TheRockinDonkey]

If someone doesn’t want to remain in a relationship, they can’t be faulted for it. They don’t need a reason, they can, however, be faulted for not meeting any responsibilities they owe the former partner and any children they have.

[@mythogenesis4788]

For families that say “No one in this family has ever…!” I always want to tell them, “Guess that means my family aren’t your family anymore. Say goodbye to me and my kids.”

[@podunk_woman]

Ok. That pronunciation of Lynyrd Skynyrd tells me you you need to look him up and listen. Classic. Absolutely classic.

[@josettee4416]

I was looking for this comment 😂

[@poetryqn]

I straight up cringed...but I forgive him. He lives on the other side of the planet.😁

[@HeiwaTori]

@@poetryqn Im Australian, I know lynyrd skynyrd, not the 1st time Ive heard a weird ass markee pronunciation lmao

[@kateemma22]

Learn-ed Skur-ned. I died.

[@podunk_woman]

@@kateemma22 I heard lie-nerd sky-nerd 🤣🤣🤣

[@veezopolis]

"Marriage is built on trust! That's why i lied and cheated on you and refuse to do the one thing that might make you trust me again"

[@alexanderhenby1362]

Oh boy, the comments DID NOT prepare me for that pronunciation. AHHHHH Lynyrd Skynyrd. Boy that was rough.

[@11darkraven11]

Markee your pronunciation of Lynyrd Skynyrd was hilarious 😂

[@tashabeck4121]

Oh truly great 😂 I cackled pls never change my dude

[@GaskyChan]

Am I the only one who can’t get over the fact he a lot but still takes care of everything? What did she even do besides cheating?

[@WTC-1990]

"That's a violation of my privacy." 😅😅😅😅😅😅 Did she really think that would fly when she's trying to make him believe her

[@Safaridor]

“A relationship needs to have trust” Trust is the building frame of the relationship. You can put up the walls of your house without it, but they won’t be able to take any weight.

[@mikeremski2102]

Going back to everything he did for the family and her, I have to ask "What the heck did she actually do besides go to her work and let him do everything else?"

[@artgaignard8817]

"Learnerd Skernerd" lol

[@Nerdbookworm]

14:48 my ex literally was sitting next to me on our roommates couch sending money to her to make her not tell me she was pregnant with his kid. I kicked him out that day on 11/24/2020.

[@catsncrows]

Omg never bring up divorce or separation unless you mean it. If someone did that to me I'd start quietly start on an exit plan. Also wonderful parents just ignoring their grandchildren. Ridiculous people.

[@arleneclark6369]

OP the next time your relatives say Nobody in this family has ever divorced, tell them well There's a first time for everything, then go save your cousin from her toxic marriage. OP if u pay the phone bill u can have the phone company give u all the records.

[@trillionbones89]

What other than cheating would she trying to hide? Leave.

[@nondisclosure3920]

How is the guy in the first story working 18 hour days and doing all the childcare, cooking and cleaning? I don't think this is real, that math doesn't math

[@jakemarie828]

The dude's weight is irrelevant here.

[@sgtjarhead99]

Let's hope to hear a final update from OP in a year after the divorce finalizes.

[@ringluvr]

Op is full of shit. No way he was working 18 to 19 hours a day....and doing all the childcare, cooking and cleaning. He is a liar too. They do need to divorce.

[@alexanderhenby1362]

I cant find a state that infidelity jad any bearing on custody and parental rights.

[@ajzephyros7454]

Anyone else hear G'day-G'day guys at the beginning or just me

[@emo7636]

I can't be the only one who absolutely loved the way he said 'Lernard Skernard'. That must be Australian for 'Lynyrd Skynyrd' lol.

[@tartlynerdy]

Get a divorce. Op's family is more scared of the fact that if op successfully divorces that'll inspire other unhappily married people in the family to finally get a divorce. "She's put in so much effort into our relationship" yeah, because she got caught. She fully knows what she's going to lose. (lol she f*cked a guy she supervises. She can kiss her job good bye if that gets out). It won't help knowing she has op's family in his ear telling him not to divorce. Op sounds like he was already doing the work of a single parent prior to filing for a separation. Op doesn't need her. She doesn't care about the kids but she will weaponize them against op if she gets any inkling from them they really want her approval.

[@Tristan_Hitchens]

Op needs a divorce and to GO HELP HIS COUSIN

[@KE-hr4sb]

Ah, yes, the "marriage is forever no matter what" bullshit. In a perfect world, sure. But I stayed way too long in an abusive marriage because I was afraid: afraid of the unknown, afraid of not being able to do it on my own, afraid of my family's disappointment; my mother was one of the loudest voices against divorce. The irony? She was on her second marriage. It took me way too long to realize a theme with her was "different rules for me than for thee."

[@vickimoss1943]

Good morning, all. It’s so very comforting to hear a familiar voice like Markee’s just after waking up from a nightmare.

[@celestialoversight]

I'm sorry but that was the funniest way I've ever heard someone pronounce lynard skynyrd

[@ostlandr]

Am I the only one who has noticed that (unless she was taking public transit/taxi/Uber) that the wife was driving drunk all night?

[@lalvarez5151]

Story 1- the Op treated her like a queen and she threw it all away for an obsese fling

[@jasonrustmann7535]

Another example of treating your woman too good. Treat her like a queen, she'll treat you like a peasant.

[@milworks]

For married people and children privacy is a courtesy not a right. In both those situations the other party can take actions that you will be legally liable for. So your spouse and child does not get the “right” to privacy and you checking is not an invasion. But in all things be respectful.

[@dm9078]

The time to show effort in the relationship is before you start an affair. The wife is not doing anything for him or the marriage she is doing it for her! And of course NTA!

[@driversuz44]

Tactic to get her friends to turn on her: Threaten to tell *their* SOs that they approve so heartily of infidelity, that they are helping his wife cover up her affair.

[@driversuz44]

This is why you never stay with a cheater, except when *absolutely* necessary.

[@katysmith4554]

Larnard skarnard I am dying!!😂

[@azuill1126]

Obsessed with how markee says "learnard skernard"

[@masterq134]

Who the fuck confronts their wife about cheating over text. Thats a dumb ass move.

[@Ace_AloneWolf]

😂😂😂 that foil hat sends me😂😂😂❤

[@LovesGaming37]

What state takes away parental rights because of cheating?

[@mikef2811]

S1: Never stay with someone who cheats. I do not care. His mistake was confronting her before the evidence. You can't win..You work too much...Lowers the work hours...You don't make enough money....You can't win.

[@Lordofthelosers01]

She 100% had a physical affair and it's probably somewhere in the texts confirming it. Like OP said if it was "just 1 kiss" there'd be no problem showing the texts. If it was an emotional affair there would be some hesitation but since divorce is on the table most people would show the texts.

[@mothra5712]

That Lynyrd Skynyrd pronunciation killed me. 😂 No shade I just thought it was funny

[@jeremyposey23]

Not done yet but story one sounds like the wife is messing with drugs.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Wrong title/post, Markee.

[@DominosAndHearts]

Huh??

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

@@DominosAndHeartsThe thumbnail is right but the title of the video is for an entirely different post.

[@radfordra]

He has the title for Yesterday's video ​@@DominosAndHearts

[@Markee]

oops

[@Markee]

Fixed it!!

[@fruitylooney348]

I feel bad for these partners who are conflicted about staying with their cheating partners because they "did so much to improve!!" Like not only their partner cheated which broke that fundemantal trust, but then got violent towards them also?? Im sorry but I'd leave and never come back with no regrets. A broken heart and sore feelings? Sure, but no regret. OP deserves a real, loving, loyal woman for him and his kids.

[@nicknitro86]

Well she hasn't because she already cheated. And it's not effort, it's overcompensating.

[@alexshone3869]

I can't understand how these people are thinking. If you cheat and your husband finds out, just use sex and it will shut up the husband and will make them stop divorce as well as gaslighting and victim blaming. If you cheat on your wife, gaslighting and use violence to make her scared and confused and then blame them for everything they have done wrong to the wife. If that didn't work, they will promise everything in the book to fix it but still cheat on them. 😐😑😮‍💨

[@starlaaster523]

Dying father messed up. Wtf didn't he set up a trust. Op is probably not going to get anything and I hope the brother goes bankrupt. Dad with cheating wife please talk to your cousin that was forced to stay married because nobody has been divorced before. Tell her you got divorced so she should too. As for the wife, she sounds like she was never a good wife or mother. Let her go party and sleep around. She doesn't care about anyone except herself.

[@sc-bj2fs]

Story 1:Hold up, if you're working 18-19 hrs daily, who has the kids ? There are only 24hrs in a day. There's no way for you to present at home if youre working. It doesn't add up. Does she work too? You're not telling the full story. Loosing custody of the kids might actually give her a break. Divorce ,& get full custody. Let her have the life she wants. She wants freedom. You want freedom. Providing for you family isn't just financial.

[@ringluvr]

I'm glad I wasn't the only one calling BS on the Op saying he works 18 to 19 hours per day AND does all the child care, cooking and cleaning. They really do need to divorce.

[@kristy1653]

I also call BS on how he says infidelity basically makes you lose all rights to your kids in his state. Um, that’s not true in ANY state!

[@kateemma22]

Markee, I love you mate, but you DID NOT just pronounce Lynyrd Skynyrd like that.

[@marchyatt9158]

Love the tin foil hat. I have one.

[@wheezinwizzard]

If you want to be with someone else, JUST BREAK UP. Yeah you'll be seen as an asshole screwing someone soon after the breakup but it's the better option. I know there are multiple situations where this isn't as easy. My point is DONT CHEAT, look at your options & life realistically & go from there. Now THAT is easy.

[@holyek7892]

Hilarious story! The soon to be ex wife needs to remember the actions that landed her in hot water might be the new source of income. She better start now so she can earn child support.

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Hey Markee 👋 Have a great night 👍 Have a great day/night everyone 👋🤗

[@Shangori]

Yeah.. time to find a better life and a better wife. I'm sorry, I know a lot of people are focused on privacy, but if you have suspicions to the extent as this guy should have, I feel you need to do what's needed to protect yourself. STDs, your social circle, your support group, your kids, not to mention almost half your money, are all at stake. Privacy is one thing, but secrecy is another.

[@legendarybushidobrown560]

Love you Aussie Daddy 🫶🏾

[@davidghahe6372]

Ngl why would you take any advice from your parents in this situation these are the same parents that told your cousin to stay in an abusive relationship because they think no one in their family having divorced is a personality trait

[@tashabeck4121]

If he thinks a good chunk of people would know him from his side huddle I’m gonna guess he might have a KZbin or TikTok for his business. Again might. I don’t actually know it’s speculation

[@jkman9828]

Really? Having to be separated for a year before a divorce? What kind of old-school backward shit is that?

[@kristy1653]

There are some states like that. They do that because they are hoping that you reconcile in that time period and decide not to go through with the divorce. It’s crazy.

[@Kinta02]

how fake do you want it? yes

[@xamara81203]

DONT FORGET TO CHANGE THE TITLE MARKEE

[@Markee]

it should be good!!

[@potatoempress5731]

So... who exactly is OP?

[@NinjaNanya]

10:30 tinfoil hat beautiful. Please make a tonfoil cowboy hat for next Livestream

[@Markee]

That’s a lot of work 😂

[@skarac3224]

he should have chosen better

[@Mr.andMrs.Smith_0420]

Wow Markee, you really butchered Lynyrd Skynyrd lol

[@boogitywoogity248]

What state is the guy in story 2 from, copy paste those laws all over the nation.

[@nightdweller6446]

Loving the tin foil hat.

[@SillyTeaSeal]

Do you have fave tea markee? :D

[@maxsupernova]

The spilled kind, obviously. I mean, it's the bread and butter of his channel!

[@Markee]

Twinings Irish Breakfast is the best ever

[@SillyTeaSeal]

@@Markee oo, interesting! I drink all kids of tea lmao, but from tea types oolong rules!

[@zephirin]

Now I have a new Twinings tea to try! I'm in the US so may have to import this one 😉

[@Akemi.24-45]

​@@SillyTeaSealI love camomile, matcha and green tea, but can't stand oolong tea.

[@GLoLChibs]

Is that....a tinfoil hat?

[@Akemi.24-45]

こんばんは～、Markee! Hope you're doing great! ♥️🤗

[@moodycrab77]

It's funny how OP is just so great! Works 18 hours a day. Blah blah blah blah blah blah. And Hey, his wife was just supposed to be there. I have a wiff of b*******. Abusers are very good with their words.That's why it's so hard for people who are beaten and broke down to actually escape. Maybe this is not the case, but I've been there.I was nothing for almost 20 years. And it wasn't the physical violence.It was the words. And Because I was broken and found kindness; intimacy that didn't hurt. When you're crying during sex, but you get yelled at, because you're not enjoy it... . Like I said, I could be wrong, but this happens more than most people are comfortable with acknowledging.

[@kristy1653]

I smell a fake story. So many things do not line up and are physically impossible. Like he works 18-19 hours a day, but does ALL the childcare and cleaning. Complete bullshit. And he acts like he’s only the “breadwinner”? Um, she’s a manager somewhere with a bunch of people under her according to him, including her affair partner. That’s no minimum wage job. And he also says that in his state, cheating makes you lose custody of your kids. That’s completely untrue! This guy needs to work on his creative writing a little more.

[@jas6940]

10:22 😂😂😂😂😂 I just wanted to hear what you had to say but why are you a textbook movie mental patient

[@moodycrab77]

Jimini cricket, it seems like y'all got married wayyy too young. And it doesn't seem to me that there is any love in this relationship. Edit my speech to text is crap

[@Iflie]

How can he say everyone will know who he is when he's from some place where cheating loses you custody of the kids in a divorce. That just makes no sense. That sounds more like some sort of religigious country. Not exactly known for famous people on reddit. Plus wife never went to work eventhough they financially needed her to go.

[@josephmbimbi]

Wife is obviously the AH, nothing to add here. I would like to point out that OP seems to dodge how he may have contributed to that (dont' overriding the main responsability on the wife). But "i have been working 80-90h a week just to provide for my family and offer them the dream life" is often a big cop out to not carry any responsibility of the relationship. First, you worked that much FOR YOU, don't hide behind your kids. And did you make this decision to work that much as a couple unilaterally ? He claims she never expressed her discontent, i call cap on that. I bet she expressed it, he dismissed her, she gave up after a few times, he didn't care enough to remember basically. Wife saw all that, and was willing to give herself to anybody who would give her attention, even a morbidly obese guy. None of that invalidating the responsibility of the cheating, the lying, the deception and "gaslighting" of the wife obviously, who should have put MORE energy into communicating and risking entering conflict

[@kiraalexandraruizburgos1236]

🦐

[@uranus5479]

Early gang 😎🎉

[@hewhoisnowhere]

early gang lmao

[@mochamadefendi7964]

What wrong with your Civilization Culture ? New Year eve is big moments, every body will try celebrate it with Families, why she choose to celebrate it as girl night out... that it self is fishy

[@KadeStringer2.0]

To be honest why should the ex wife hand over the text messages ? Op should have just moved on and left.

[@jake8748]

If she wants to rebuild trust and have a chance she has to take ownership and responsibility and part of that is proper disclosure such as restoring the messages for the truth.