My Wife Is CONVINCED She's Pregnant Even After Multiple NEGATIVE TESTS r/Relationships

[@Beka_Rex]

The first woman is clearly suffering from pseudocyesis. It’s extremely difficult, and even faced with negative tests it’s almost impossible to accept it’s not really happening, as you are so convinced that it can cause actual physical symptoms of pregnancy. Thankfully I was able to stay rational about it and it didn’t go as far as the woman in this story has, but it easily can. She needs help

[@undeadladybug7723]

I haven't heard of a case that bad since Mary Tudor.

[@Beka_Rex]

@@undeadladybug7723 doesn’t usually get as bad. Normally women can keep hold of some semblance of rationality throughout. But when they don’t, wow it can get tough.

[@MrsGump]

I remember there was a couple of women who went on Dr Phil saying that they were pregnant. One claimed something like 2 years! She was adamant it wasn't a "pseudo pregnancy" as it wasn't her body tricking her, she really was pregnant. She couldn't explain it but was very matter of fact that it was what it was. In fact beside that she came across quite balanced (iirc). Then there was another girl who was about 18ish & was convinced she was pregnant with Jesus. She ended up getting help & coming back, it was so good to see her better. As someone who was told I couldn't have kids (I have 2, naturally done no medical help) I get the feeling of desperately wanting a child, so I can see how you could end up there, esp with other stressors etc going on in life. I'm just glad she's doing better, how scary for them both!!

[@Beka_Rex]

@@MrsGump yeah the women who are more likely to suffer with it are those who desperately want a child, or quite the opposite and have a bear fear of it. Although that Jesus girl I didn’t buy for a second. I think she was just out for attention

[@annegrey6447]

@@undeadladybug7723 I watched a documentary that went through ideas of what could’ve caused the phantom symptoms, it didn’t mention this but one of the theories was a tumor.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: I remember this story, I’m glad that their working on their marriage and getting therapy. Glad that op and his wife are willing to work things out.

[@KE-hr4sb]

S2: So let me see if I understood this right: Gf got her daughter 300 dollars in clothes and makeup, plus got daughter a drink and cake pops, and here's the part that gets me, bought *herself* a drink too? What did gf do to "deserve" a drink? And why is she getting herself, an adult, a drink when there is a child going without? Your dad deserves to know exactly what kind of person he is dating. NTA. ETA: Agree with that one commenter that Dad did almost perfect, now he just needs to drop the leech and her baby leech; I mean, gf and her entitled daughter.

[@cyreneB]

I had a very nasty thought, about why GF thought she deserved it

[@MeetTheALFFam]

Just for "passing" a math test

[@Boe-Temeraire]

I’m glad the woman in the first story has such a strong support network. I really hope that she’s able to get better and that they get to have a family if it’s ever possible for them. I’m glad her husband is so supportive of her and helped her get the help she needs.

[@kelseybordeaux9206]

Unfortunately they will never be qualified to adopt a child with a forced psychward stay on their records. Extreme health issues whether physical or mental disqualify couple's from adoption agencies because they want "capable and safe" people for the children.

[@Boe-Temeraire]

@@kelseybordeaux9206 yeah, I guess I’m just being overly optimistic in that. It’s just a shame she’s going through this.

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

I like your ace flag icon 💜

[@Boe-Temeraire]

@@NotAFanOfHandles thank you!!

[@addicted2mako]

I’m really hoping that wifey avoids that cryptic pregnancy FB group like the plague. A lot of the members there sound like they’ve completely detached themselves from reality and are more than eager to drag other unsuspecting people down with them. And if wifey tries to tell them about her recovery, they’ll probably try to convince her that she’s been brainwashed by OP and the doctors and make her file abuse charges or something.

[@lifewithlee6298]

me too

[@shadowkissed2370]

or somehow they made her abort without her knowing it or medicated and stole her babies. I have seen this type of situation play out and it is scary.

[@DiscoTimelordASD]

Of course they will - it's a conspiracy group.😔 When the internet became a thing some people decided to take their "X-Files" theories worldwide and unfortunately they've been reused and recycled for decades, long after the original post or Web page is gone. Compared to "Elvis is still alive and working in KFC", phantom pregnancies may not seem harmful but any theory can be when twisted by the wrong people.

[@DocBree13]

I agree!

[@tegantalks9612]

Story 1 hits close to home for me. At the beginning of the pandemic my husband stopped sleeping properly and had a massive mental breakdown due to stress. He started talking crazy and it was so scary. We had 2 small children and our dog at that time and I packed them up and ran to his sister’s house 3 hours away because he was starting to get dangerous. He posted weird ramblings on Facebook and my mom actually reached out to me and asked what was going on with him and if he was okay. I ended up having to go to court and get him court ordered into a psychiatric facility. He was in there for 2 weeks and with the help of some meds was able to get back to sleeping normally and able to control his anxiety and stress. He was also not too thrilled with me and I was wondering if our relationship would survive but now he’s doing way better. When I tell him about some of the things that happened in his psychosis, he will be the first to admit I was right to send him there.

[@SakuraMoonflower]

You are the best wife, Tegan, bless you. You absolutely did the right things, from getting him the mental help he needed when he was a danger to himself and to others along with taking your vows to heart. You're a goddess among women.

[@AIBot929]

It's gross that people would suggest that he abandon her when she clearly needs help. She is having a "phantom pregnancy" that is fueled by dillusion and also tragedy or trauma. The symptoms can become so convincing that their belly actually starts to grow and they will go into pseudo labor. She needs a psychologist and she is going to need some time as well.

[@MargaritaOnTheRox]

I think some people just thrive on causing distress to others and deliberately troll with that specific intention.

[@mindyschocolate]

She has to be willing to accept help though. You can’t force her.

[@shadowkissed2370]

@@mindyschocolate you are right, however, dropping her and running won't help her see she needs help.

[@liviwaslost]

@@mindyschocolate dropping her will only make it worse.

[@LucyLerma]

There are studies that say that it's likely that most men will leave their spouses when they suffer horrible and/or terminal illnesses, so unfortunately I was not surprised

[@valzeppelin5153]

Honestly, I met someone that was pregnant, but the doctors told her she wasn't. They told her that she had a really bad hernia and needed surgery. She started having contractions, while I was in the waiting room. She told me all of her symptoms and I was like, "It sounds like you are pregnant and are in labor." Oh buddy were the doctors surprised when she gave birth to a full-term baby, a few hours later. Her boyfriend brought me McDonald's after I gave birth, just to thank me. Apparently me mentioning her being pregnant had mentally prepared them just enough to not freak them out too much when a super-cute baby popped out. 😆 So yes, Doctors can be wrong about a full-term pregnancy.

[@shadowkissed2370]

Especially if the person has a double uterus. I have seen that happen. One uterus was in front of the other and she got pregnant in the one in the back so no baby ever showed in the ultrasounds and she didn't show physically because she was carrying the baby towards the back.

[@undeadladybug7723]

I was born in a military hospital, the doctor thought I was two weeks premature. He also didn't believe my mom was in labor, I guess because she wasn't screaming in pain like they always do on TV. The nurses weren't much better; the AC was broken and they kept swaddling me after my mom unwrapped me since I was crying so much from overheating. I was born in the midwest US in the middle of freaking June.

[@samalvarez8776]

Story 2, I'm really happy to see a father actually stand up to his new girlfriend. A lot of the times the father ignores it, but this makes me happy

[@manxiefeathermoon9888]

Story one: unfortunately, I don't think any adoption agency will give them a child. The psych stay will disqualify them

[@CocoCece08]

Especially with the wife being a Froot Loop short of a bowl of cereal.

[@groofromtheup5719]

This is as it should be. Adoption needs to be for the child, not for the adult.

[@DrawciaGleam02]

A commenter mentioned that.

[@hagnat]

1st story reminded me of a friend who once had a case of "phantom pregnancy". This kind of messed her life up.

[@mothertrucker936]

Holy crap. There are sites for women who encourage their delusions of pregnancy....24 months of gestation!!! These sites should be systematically shut down and the women told to get help. How horrible to be stuck in that whirlwind of feeding each other’s mental illness and constantly spiralling downwards. So happy that op cried out for help and that someone was aware of this info. All the best to them both. So beautiful to hear of a true In sickness and in health

[@mothertrucker936]

@@HondaBrandy true. The refusal to recognize truth and logic is very strong and much easier to accept, apparently

[@strawberrysangria1474]

I'm often the person on Reddit who says it's not worth it, but this is one of the rare occasions a problem can be fixed. I don't understand why so many people were saying "she's crazy, run off!",. Why that? Then she's mentally unstable and abandoned while feeling unloved. I'm glad she's getting the help she needs now and that OP has stood strong with her. I hope he's getting help with therapy and counselling for himself too. What a difficult time for them both to go through.

[@DrawciaGleam02]

I think it's because they think the wife would only learn her lesson about not accepting reality once the husband left.

[@groofromtheup5719]

@@DrawciaGleam02 nah. She was too far gone and the other crazies suggested that he would leave her.

[@DrawciaGleam02]

@@groofromtheup5719 I get it, though sometimes when that happens it's the best choice. Here though, the wife needs to get away from that facebook group. Heck, the hubby should have screenshotted the crazy stuff in case he got backlash from the wife's family after she was committed.

[@groofromtheup5719]

@@DrawciaGleam02 screenshots of her posts were what got the stay extended.

[@DrawciaGleam02]

@@groofromtheup5719 Oops, don't remember reading that!

[@nightdweller6446]

1st. That wife is having a mental health issue and is in desperate need of expert help asap. I really hope OP is trying to get her that help. She also may be going through perimenopause. 38 is not that early for initial symptoms. She is in desperate need of help Edit: OP is completely correct in his actions. Involuntary psych commitment for assessment was the best decision. Those 72 hours can be critical and the patients response of anger is typical, OP needs to hang in there for treatment his wife desperately needs. update: best outcome possible for a ongoing work in progress. 2nd NTA NTA NTA. but gf and daughter? yeesh, there's trash that needed to be put out on the curb weeks ago. Dad needs to rethink that pos. Being annoyed is the least of the emotions OP should be feeling. Speaking up was the best decision

[@angeleyesgreen1586]

I'm sorry but OP's father, THEIR father, gave $300 to be spent in all three of them. It's gross that the girlfriend spent not one single penny of OP's father's money on OP. Tf is that?!

[@hothotheat3000]

She is in hardcore denial. Look at her age. She knows the clock is running out and she is delusional.

[@davidfence6939]

You can't speak truth here.

[@JSainte17]

I didn't think my face could get more "Wtf?" but then he said, "our twins". So it's not even one imaginary baby, it's two? This should be quite the story. Reminds of me of the woman who went on Doctor Phil claiming she was definitely pregnant and had been for years. He asked her if there was any certain test, or number of tests his doctor team could do to prove to her that she isn't pregnant, and she said no. He was like, "Ok, then I can't help you."

[@devchekhov7512]

Props to the husband--I hope to meet someone like that one day...

[@SakuraMoonflower]

Same

[@ashh4929]

There is literally no way twist concrete statements like "You didn't do anything to deserve anything." 🙄

[@OuchingTigerLimpingDragon]

I remember my pregnancy. I didn't end up carrying to term, and because I have a bunch of weird health issues my hcg levels were wonky so it took longer than usual to get the positive test. Probably had a lot to do with why I lost it, too. Anyway, during that time of uncertainty of "my body is acting like I'm pregnant but the tests say I'm not", I did some googling and ran into a bunch of forums for trying to conceive moms as well as a few of those cryptic pregnancy groups. All of them seemed rather obsessive to me, but the cryptic pregnancy ladies made me feel sad. It was a weird place, and very much an echo chamber. That said, it kinda seemed like just a more intense, more desperate version of the regular "trying to conceive" groups to me. Had never encountered the like before.

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

Society places too much pressure on women to have children, and some women become so obsessed with it that their whole identity becomes about having a child. It's horrible that people are going online telling others that they can be pregnant for two years or longer! They need help.

[@damien678]

​@@hodgeelmwood8677 as a trans person, it strikes me as even more desperate for gender euphoria than we can get. like they aren't women if they don't have their own babies and it hurts for them to not see themselves as 'woman enough'. gender roles and expectations are so cruel, honestly, and my heart goes out to all of them

[@wren4741]

Dont directly challenge delusions with facts... they will always get more complex to compesate... suggesting you don't agree without trying to convince and getting your loved one help

[@magicmiya7545]

If someone invites you out, and then keeps you out all day, yeah I do think you’re entitled to a drink.

[@twentyfiveyears5010]

Wait, she got a $300 shopping spree for passing a math test?

[@SilverMKI]

Something doesn't add up 😜

[@OmgPandamonium]

Just show you know, you can have periods and still be pregnant. It does happen sometimes.

[@shadowkissed2370]

They are not really periods per se, but most women think they are.

[@mygodisthemoon]

Sometimes the best decision isn't always easy to make. I hope everything works out okay for the first op and his wife. She may be mad at first but this was the best option

[@Heartana]

Story 1: while it is possible for a pregnancy test to come up negative if your hCG hormones are to high obgyn tests are usually spot on this woman is in complete denial and needs help

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

Yes, she got help, as the updates said.

[@Heartana]

@@hodgeelmwood8677 yea, I posted that comment before I heard the updates as I didn’t have time to listen to them and after I thought about removing the comment altogether but decided against it

[@daedubois9428]

Story 1- so glad the lady got help. Story 2- $300 breaks down to $100 per person, not one person holding all the cash, so... Also, why can't the 17 yr old stay at her home? She's grown!

[@christellemoon1319]

Involuntary hold can be a good thing and bad. When trying to find a therapist to talk to I was being too honest and got myself committed for over a month in high school. To this day, over 10 years later, I still don't trust doctors and feel I can't tell them how I really feel about anything.

[@DocBree13]

I feel you on that one

[@SilverMKI]

Sometimes once you are in it can be a nightmare to get out again. There is a story about a woman's husband who was sectioned because of a conflict in his medication making him go loopy and who really struggled to get him out again as they kept him medicated as he "refused to see he was unwell and deny that reality".

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

Story one: After listening to that title, I'm worried if this is related to a condition that makes her believe she's pregnant. Hell, I don't remember the name, but, apparently, the one suffering from it would get actual traits from pregnancy! 😨 Story one/after updates: Frick! It was even worse! The fact that there's a FB group composed of women with this same delusion and feeding it amongst each other is sad and disturbing. Those spouses couldn't handle the deterioration of their minds. But I am glad that OP and his wife are recovering from this. 😨

[@BenKonosky]

Oh wow, that last comment really hit home. That described how my ex was, pulled me away from my hobbies that I had been doing for years before her.

[@SamanthaTotimeh]

Ah I remember this story. Such a whirlwind

[@suehirsch6545]

Re woman who thinks she's pregnant: OP you're doing what you have to for the health and safety of your wife, who seems to have had a mental break down. You're a wonderful husband to do that and to stick with the marriage even though it's hit a rough patch. Please continue to take good care of your wife, but also remember to take good care of YOURSELF. Go get a massage or chill with some buds over football and brews to relax for a day or so, as soon as you can. You're going through something really traumatic, and you need to be clearheaded in order to be able to handle it sensibly. The only way you can do that is to take at least a few hours each week, for yourself to recharge by letting things go for a short while. Your wife will thank you for it later, when she realizes that you did it as much for her as for yourself and you can then set a good example for her, as you walk through life, together once this storm blows over. People who are telling you to leave your wife are the AH here, not you or your wife. Your wife didn't CHOOSE to become mentally/emotionally unstable. These things happen, and I can only hope that if it ever happens to me, that my husband will be kind and loving enough to get me the medical help that I need, as you've done for your wife. There's no shame in getting that kind of professional help and getting it for someone you love that really needs it is an HONORABLE AND LOVING thing to do. Kudos. Every woman should be so lucky as to find a husband like you. Re update: Was really pleased for you and the wife that she got back home to you and you're both mostly happy and well again and handling your mental/emotional health issues well. Best to both of you.

[@michellegill-scott1437]

I have to involuntary commit my son, I had a friend help me bring him in, my son was so mad at me when I took him in. After he got treatment, longer then a 72 hr he was and is thankful

[@justine8387]

I am so glad that you and your son are doing better now. It must be a very brave thing to do, knowing you are risking your whole relationship

[@michellegill-scott1437]

@@justine8387 it was very hard bit I had to believe that fighting to keep him from hurting himself was the best thing I could do, and I believed that even if he never spoke to me again he would still be out there making the world a better place

[@sersvati]

I had a friend lose her first child to SIDS when she was in high school. A while later, she told me she was pregnant again but didn’t have the positive test result yet. A few weeks later, the topic came up again. She said she kept having negative tests, so she went to the hospital for them to give her a test, and it came back negative. She told me it was because the nurse hated her and wanted her to suffer. She ended up not being pregnant, but once she got out of high school, she became the mother of a beautiful boy. Unfortunately, I can only see him through her Snapchat stories in between promotions for her OnlyFans. Sweet girl, quite histrionic. Felt really bad for her during her pseudocyesis, and looking back on that time still pains me. I like watching her stories because seeing her with a healthy baby makes me so happy. I just wish I didn’t have to see her naked body as well.

[@shadowkissed2370]

I kind of had the opposite. For a month with urine and blood tests, it kept coming back that I was pregnant, each day the blood test showed the HCG levels building as they should for a normal pregnancy. However, the ultrasound showed there was nothing in my uterus and I was bleeding because I had miscarried at the beginning of the month. I don't know if after a month I still came back positive for pregnancy because by then all my veins were blown and it was hard to get blood out of me so I stopped going to the doctor's office even though I bled for 3 months straight.

[@sersvati]

@@shadowkissed2370 and you weren’t pregnant???

[@shadowkissed2370]

@@sersvati no, I wasn't pregnant while all the tests were being taken. I had already passed the baby and before the miscarriage, I would have been maybe a couple weeks pregnant.

[@juanjomtz4606]

@@shadowkissed2370 I'm sorry for your loss and that you had that awful experience, virtual hugs from an internet stranger.

[@DocKrazy]

Look. I am very quick aboard the "divorce/break-up" train usually, but damn. This woman needs help, love and support. Still at the first update, but I hope he doesn't leave her in this difficult time and she got better after her hospital stay.

[@miatfitz]

Poor lady... She obviously feels the pressure of being asked "pregnant yet?" I hope she gets help.

[@melissaharris3890]

This is what you are supposed to do if you love someone. Get them help. It took weeks/months to get my uncle to go to detox. He is a severe alcoholic that slipped into old habits. It's not easy. And he was in denial still. Thought he was at the hospital for a kidney/bladder infection (which he did have) for the first week or two. Those that said to divorce her, have never had to deal with much.

[@Kimmie_78]

Story 2, thats a great dad

[@cestbonne7827]

The first story almost moved me the tears.

[@tricorvus2673]

This is the episode of Two Really Fantastic, Wonderful Men, Who Had Their Family's Backs.

[@jenniferbrotherton8286]

S1 I applaud OP for not choosing divorce. Its an easy out and for some people the right choice but sticking in it can be amazing and the bond stronger.

[@damien678]

its sad how 'uneventful' happiness seems to be... also, I'd personally like to post to a subreddit about nice and happy times and hear about others'

[@untiedshoelaces2588]

Story 2: Damn! If that's her behavior as a gf - can you imagine what will happen when she becomes a wife? I am still disappointed that the father is still willing to keep the gf around. The force of the vajayjay is probably strong with that one.

[@hilarymurray8741]

If adoption of a child is problematic - a dog perhaps? This lady has so much love to give to a protegee, a dog or other pet might help.

[@melissareid640]

She needs help man. Wow. These are the people who steal others children. To make their a delusional dream come true. 💝🙏💝

[@tracylw]

I remember an episode of Dr phil where 3 women believed they were pregnant and had been for years. They called it cryptic pregnancy. It was odd. One has a cryptic fb group but she hasn't posted in a year. I wonder what happened to them all

[@crimsonhaberdash]

Valium isn't an over the counter drug.

[@belle.seattle5041]

Story 1 … “In sickness and in health.” Last story … Cold, cold heart.

[@TheYear-dm9op]

"Valium and Baldrian are no sedatives" is like saying "lamborghini and toyota are no car companies".

[@NickanM]

Well, he was in shock and had / has no clue about medications, so let's give him a break! 😉

[@MrsGump]

I find it so sad tht so many people were telling op to leave his "crazy" wife. I've been with hub since I was 14 (I'm now 43) married at 20. We've been thru a lot, I had a breakdown at 23, then got really sick at 25 & ended up in & out of hospital/docs for about 3 years until I was finally dx with an autoimmune disease. I'm still very sick & cannot work, meds & illness have made me put on 50kg (bout 100lbs) then he had issues with his lungs & was off work for 9 months without pay (I was sick so not working, thanks mum n dad for keeping us & the kids alive!!). Then he had a brain tumor, which he had removed & is good now. Our daughter got sick at 13 with a brain Illness (she's now 18) n was bullied so badly at school (who didn't give 2 flying fucks) she tried to kill herself. We've been thru some shit. BUT not once did we ever give up on each other. Not once did I ever think about leaving (running away for a holiday maybe lol) I was engaged at 17 n married at 20 - very young? Yes. But I meant my vows & still do. Plus, the older he gets the hotter he gets & I now have myself a sexy, silver fox - wooooohoooo for me!! 🤤

[@NickanM]

😁👍

[@jessicawolfe5861]

Sounds like you have been thru a lot! I’m glad you are both still here

[@jessicawolfe5861]

Wow, I’m sad the commenters were so harsh about the first OP. She’s experiencing a delusion. It’s not a reason to abandon her.

[@delmaplain5358]

This lady needs therapy!

[@scarysara9364]

The first story sounds like one of those "phantom pregnancy" cases.

[@hilarymurray8741]

This lady is very keen to have children. Perhaps pursuing the adoption option is a good idea. Btw, when food goes through the intestines, the muscle round the intestines moves the food through with a motion (peristalsis) that really does feel like a baby (babies) kicking, although there are no nerves in the intestines themselves. This may be what she is feeling. I have given birth six times. I know.

[@cindykq8086]

RN here, can confirm. My husband thinks I'm nutty when I feel gas in my gut, smile, and tell him it feels like a baby moving inside. Just enjoying a happy reminder/memory.

[@FoxgloveWanderer]

Last story, dad was kind of a butt, too. The daughter was being taken out to celebrate an achievement with her mum, and it sounds like the dad took it upon himself to invite OP on their mother/daughter outing. Good on him for the update, though.

[@faeriefire78]

I worked with a girl who overshared and lied about a lot of things. I was pretty new to the job and didn't know her yet beyond a very weird introduction where she cornered me and trauma dumped on me (probably lies.) So oblivious me listened to her a few days later when she told me she was pregnant, congratulating her happily until I saw two co-workers behind her gesturing that she was full of it. She's a medical marvel because she ended up being "pregnant" for almost 20 months before she quit. In her case she was just a sloppy liar though. She never bothered with making her stories make sense. I think she just wanted to see who would buy it for her own amusement.

[@bonnierasmussen2837]

Wow, I suffer from infertility. I was depressed and crying a lot. I think the closet to that I ever came was when I would dream. Everyone the doctor, my friends, husband kept telling me I was pregnant. I n my dream I felt like the tests and ultrasound are wrong and I'm not. We ended up adopting 17 years ago. I still have that dream once in a while.

[@kateemma22]

This is all so sad. Infertility can really eff with a person thanks to society constantly telling us that our soul purpose in life is to create a new generation. I hope all the women in that FB group get help too because unfortunately it seems not all of them have someone as wonderful as OP in their lives. He's the dream partner. I wish them the best of luck in therapy, their marriage, and a future with or without kids.

[@TheRuneTail]

"They were freaking crazy" yea just like Op's insane wife

[@saratronus]

in the Second Story I feel like all the adults are kind of the ass here. the Dad for pushing Op to hang out with stepmom who clearly wanted a day with your daughter and stepmom for obvious reasons. you can't force people to hang out you can't push them to hang out they has to be natural and want IOM

[@saratronus]

and to add the dead should have given the money directly to his daughter instead of a third party

[@LeowithoneO]

i kind of want to know more about that lady who was “pregnant” for almost 2 years. it sounds really sad

[@sedalionthunder6295]

I’m glad OP in the first story is sticking by their wife, hopefully she does mend in time.

[@arianebolt1575]

There was a case maybe a decade ago when doctors performed a would-be c-section on a woman with a phantom pregnancy.

[@shannonlee5967]

I remember watching this animated video about this guy who thought he was pregnant after a car accident. It lasted until his wife fell pregnant and he soon snapped out it.

[@83gemm]

I have a running joke with myself about how anti-abortion people can make ANY topic about abortion. I’ve actually cracked up in public when I hear it happen and not been able to explain that I literally have an inside joke with myself. I’d love to hear how the one guy used this horrible scary event to somehow push “his anti-abortion agenda.” I absolutely believe it, but I just want the deets so I can giggle.

[@davidfence6939]

okay, groomer.

[@sleepwalking3345]

@@davidfence6939 👁👄👁 what

[@judymetzger3253]

She needs therapy she has what's called and hysterical pregnancy. She will have all the symptoms and her body will react like she is pregnant but the only help you can get for her at this point is therapy. You you need a professional.

[@pansprayers]

It's *called* pseudocyesis. That's the medical term. There's no such thing as a 'hysterical pregnancy' per medical definition. Calling it a 'hysterical pregnancy' only lends not only misinterpretation of the actual symptoms, it also continues a very terrible, mysogonistic projection from a millennia ago that every legitimate medical condition a woman has is directly related to her uterus. This is important, because even in 2022, you can turn up at an ER having a stroke, and there's an ungodly high chance that the attending physician is going to blame it on your damn period. Words are important. Please use them correctly, because women have literally died because of this out dated and often flat out incorrect language.

[@natsukifan8736]

Tbh that group should be investigated because those people don't sound good in the head and coul be a danger to those that tell them and prove them otherwise

[@davidponseigo8811]

It pisses me off that someone would try and make this poor guy and his obviously mentally struggling wife's problems worse with those comments. It's no different than people claiming Post Pardon depression isn't real and won't get the mother help. It disgusts me that other men out there do this and give us decent guys who care about our partners well being.

[@davidfence6939]

Enjoy the cheating and messy divorce

[@sleepwalking3345]

Exactly! The demonisation of post partum is awful :((

[@LilySaintSin]

Yikes! Yet again Reddit shows it's full of broken people.

[@callmema14]

He needs to get her therapy asap!

[@alicianieto2822]

Yeah...that first doctor dude...he fucked up spectacularly

[@wmdkitty]

Wife needs inpatient eval and treatment.

[@amandasunshine2]

Lmao Valium is not over the counter and it is definitely a sedative

[@NickanM]

And he was in shock, and had / has no knowledge at all about different medications, so let's give him a break! 😉

[@STB-jh7od]

Cray Cray- DTMA, RUN RUN DUDE

[@dawnliddle2046]

My 3 child I knew I was pregnant. I took every test they were neg. I went to My gyno he checked me took blood and told me I was not pregnant I had him do a sonomram and.... There was My 5 month along Baby boy. The Dr. was I didn't give up.

[@helenasmith4286]

felt lik I was pregnant had fertility issues

[@rozbudell]

Gal is having a psychotic break. She could become dangerous. Please be careful.

[@thatoneguy9816]

he sounds annoying

[@JSainte17]

I feel for OP, but he has some nerve to slam the commenters "calling her crazy" when he himself, after seeing stories of women on the cryptic pregnancy forum, called them "f*cking insane". Guess what, buddy? Your wife is one of them. Those women you so callously called insane, are someone else's wives, daughters, etc. The hypocrisy. Especially since he drones on about how he'll stick by her because she's sick, but has no empathy for the women who's partners didn't.

[@SnowyWolborg]

Exactly. OP needs to drop the sanctimony. It's transparent AF. He cannot accuse people of being unempathetic when his own comments show him to be the same. Just because he's a loyal husband doesn't mean he's not a total poser. Both he and his wife are delusional, but for different reasons. It's understandable if he only has time and energy for his wife's condition. But don't act like she's different from the Facebook women, because she isn't.

[@WiseWordsbyWiki]

How did someone twist story one into an anti abortion tale?

[@slimeinabox]

When men snap we get violent, when women snap they get… this…

[@sweaterweatherlady]

Specify, please. Some women snap and go straight to murder. "This" needs clarification.

[@telinhajp]

Hi Markee! おやすみ！❤️😴

[@zen1124]

Hey man can u make some r/Aita content?

[@MONKEYDZETS]

Do people not know what Reddit is Jesus stop arguing with randoms lol

[@dannyells]

What a good husband

[@WobblesandBean]

OP 1 would have stayed with her even to the point where she murdered him. You just can't talk sense to some people. Gee, I wonder why she's estranged from her family. 🙄

[@SnowyWolborg]

I only take issue with one thing in the story. OP is a colossal hypocrite, but trying to act like the good guy. He accuses people of being unempathetic, but is guilty of the same thing. The women in the Facebook groups are "insane" by his own words, but his wife is "sick." He can't judge them differently when they are acting the exact same way. He and his wife are both delusional, but for different reasons. Just stand by your wife and drop the sanctimonious judgments.

[@claudeyaz]

Seriously we need to stop telling girls they can have the full career...and have kids after. Too many women wait too long to have kids.. After age 35 the likelihood of birth issues raises so high... This woman obviously wanted a family..and for some reason didn't realize she needed to do that earlier in life. =/ So sick of this...they even talk about 40 year olds having kids..but that is SO RARE!

[@kmadon6828]

What the hell? You know some women have mechanical issues becoming pregnant, right? Or are you one of those delusional redpillers that think women just get pregnant on demand? Pregnancy is an extremely complex process that is also very dangerous. Many, many things can go wrong, and often times the body is like "screw this, evict it. It's not working." Over 30% of pregnancies terminate in a natural abortion. It's very likely they tried and failed to have kids- most women who want children don't wait. We aren't friggen stupid. EVERYONE knows there's a time crunch. But thanks for adding your worthless two cents lol, I'm sure it was super enlightening to precisely no one. We never EVER hear we can afford to wait. Literally EVERYONE tells us to start working on kids immediately after marriage. You are so delusional.

[@emilybarclay8831]

The rate goes from 1% to 2% you wet towel. Just say you have a breeder fetish and go

[@kelseybordeaux9206]

Unfortunately they will never be qualified to adopt a child with a forced psychward stay on their records. Extreme health issues whether physical or mental disqualify couple's from adoption agencies because they want "capable and safe" people for the children.

[@mindyschocolate]

It’s no longer as rare as you would like to believe, thanks to fertility clinics. People no longer die in their 60’s and of grandparents can raise their grandkids, who are we to judge if a woman has a kid in her 30’s or beyond? It’s not a big deal. Plenty of younger women have kids with birth defects, or die young due to tragedy. Nothing is guaranteed.

[@sopadumacacoumadelicia5]

Ok incel lmao

[@claudeyaz]

We worked so hard to stop teen pregnancies. That now we are preventing women from having kids in the 20s..when they should biologically. We have shamed women who have kids during college..but by the time that is done..they are in a "critical career time," and they keep putting it off! It is actually a disaster for women..and for our country! We are not even at replacement levels of population! Which can cause our civilization to fail =/

[@emilybarclay8831]

Children aren’t fucking goldfish that you can just pop out when you feel like it. People these days cannot afford kids in their 20s, so they do the responsible adult thing and wait until they’re secure enough to bring an entire new being into the world

[@claudeyaz]

@ღ𝕄𝕖𝕥𝕫𝕥𝕝𝕚ღ you haven't seen the dirty looks and snide comments women get for having a kid in college, or early on in her career? It is a huge problem...can even effect their future career because of negative reactions by people. There is a reason so many people hold off on having kids...besides purely financial ones. My entire high school had a huge fear against teen pregnancy...The whole class was pushed onto birth control for one reason or another. It was weird. They just ignored any potential hormonal side effects...and wanted to keep teen or young adult pregnancies down

[@claudeyaz]

@ღ𝕄𝕖𝕥𝕫𝕥𝕝𝕚ღ plus, after age 35..the likelihood of birth effects increases exponentially...and average IQ levels drop etc. Women can work and have kids.. but it is hard..yet there is a large social push to just sleep putting it off.

[@mindyschocolate]

Lol, give me a break, who’s stopping women from having kids in their 20’s, and you honestly think teenagers aren’t still having kids? You’re as delusional as the phantom pregnancy woman. I’m focusing on my career. I don’t want kids. Don’t like them, and it’s too expensive to raise them, and I sure as hell don’t owe you a kid. If you want them, you have them. I don’t care if it’s “a disaster for this country” and I’m not having a kid so it can go hungry during a mass formula shortage. It’s not a disaster for us because it’s our lives and we make choices for us, not you.

[@sopadumacacoumadelicia5]

Incel moment

[@lilydurango3960]

not saying your wife is right. but I tested at 1month then about 2 months then at 2.5-3 months pregnant all negative. TWO of those test (1& 2.5/3month) at the doctor's who the doctors said I wasn't pregnant and I could start my birth control. then I didn't test until 5.5/6 months pregnant and finally got a Positive 🥲