My Dad Won't Walk Me Down The Aisle Unless His Affair Partner Comes With Him r/Relationships

[@carlrood4457]

Dad: "My wife and kids are more important.." OP: "I'M YOUR KID!!!"

[@kentario1610]

The whole time he was saying "I have to keep both sides happy" I was just ?????? How?

[@shebakoby]

@@kentario1610and when he means "both sides" he means his wife and Other Daughter.

[@coreymartin6486]

When is a father allowed to ONLY walk 1 daughter down the asle? That's such hogwash, and the father knows it. He's preferred his new family for 18 years and is still doing it, even when they are clearly in the wrong.

[@lina9535]

Where I live, and this is totally redundant info that nobody asked for, but I want to share it anyway, it's actually not allowed to walk your daughter down the aisle 😂 The churches herr view it as a remnant of the "I'm transfering 'ownership' of my daughter to this man" from ye olden days. You'd have to argue a lot to get them to allow that, and it's highly unlikely.

[@untitled-gv3qp]

​@@lina9535 The dad in this story is allowed to do it, he just doesn't care enough about his first daughter. It's not about the practice.

[@lina9535]

​@@untitled-gv3qp I know that. Otherwise I don't think OP would have brought it up. For me it's just a cultural difference, which was mainly the point.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

RIGHT?! Why did these kids have this much power? Why is he even with someone who hates his daughter?!

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

S1: why does the new stepmom think everyone is gonna be as spineless as OPs dad? Like, she feels betrayed? She decided she had beef with a _toddler!_ That’s absolutely unhinged!

[@shadleyryklief3539]

S1. My take on what happened. Dad was cheating before the pregnancy. He promised to leave but wife fell pregnant hence the abuse. Stepmom hates Op for keeping him in the marriage and being the first child. Dad became abusive to get out of marriage and married a year after OP was born.

[@EnDB]

He's making sure both sides were happy by treating his first daughter like crap. Yeah, that totally makes sense.

[@Mew_Mokuba_Akari]

No someone in a comment thread above clarified what he probably meant. Both sides doesn't mean OP vs New Family. It meant keeping Wife and Second daughter happy.

[@CaitlinKelly-mo1ld]

🤯 whoa.... ​@@Mew_Mokuba_Akari

[@BUGt95.]

What your boyfriend did is actually illegal. It's called food tampering and you can press charges

[@KadeStringer2.0]

Actually it’s not really a crime

[@aduckofsomesort]

@@KadeStringer2.0resources found by a google search say otherwise

[@spookyjones6577]

@@KadeStringer2.0food tampering is a crime.

[@kichikitsu]

@@KadeStringer2.0food tampering is absolutely a crime. and a felony crime, at that.

[@rubymeaddle]

​@@KadeStringer2.0 Google is your friend, food tampering is absolutely a crime

[@coreymartin6486]

Update- Lol how does a parent blame the child(past) why he couldn't be present in their life?

[@immortalsofar5314]

Reminds of of the line from Fierce Creatures: "You ruined my childhood!" "How could I have? I wasn't even there!"

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

Story 2: Do 👏 not 👏trick 👏people👏 into👏 eating things👏 they👏 don't 👏want 👏to👏 eat. It's also recognized as battery in some places.

[@Frostfern94]

Food tampering

[@alana.dyer.author]

Food tampering/poisoning in some cases

[@elizabethcox5911]

I'm a meat eater and I think the boyfriend was a jerk. Not only did he violate her trust, but I've heard that having meat after not eating it for a long period of time can cause digestive issues, so he was risking her health too.

[@devilsgirl5092]

Yeah idk she weighs more than I do and I’m only 10 lbs away healthy weight for my hight haha my doc only wants me to grow some more muscle while I gain that weight bc it’s more dense and I already have a healthy fat distribution

[@devilsgirl5092]

I’d definitely leave haha also veggie and vegan options taste so good😅 idk what he’s on about

[@untitled-gv3qp]

Not just meat, lard or bacon grease. Even if you aren't vegan or vegetarian eating pure grease can make you sick. And he did it specifically to embarrass her in front of his friends.

[@funtimegenshin6973]

Hes a real btch for doing it and she needs to leave him so fast and hard

[@toxicginger9936]

Also... it's assault.

[@julias2855]

Husbands daughter is vegan. She is a stay at home wife after getting degree in engineering and in field few years. She was vegan during pregnancies. Babies healthy. Some allergies but nothing serious. More of an intolerance. Kids were vegan too. They wanted more chickens meat. She makes it for them “if they crave it their bodies must need it”. That’s awesome. We eat whatever they serve. It’s usually yummy. She mostly eats vegan. Kids and her husband eat more eat. They are all healthy and very active

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

“But he wanted to be able to lie on his death bed and know I would have someone to take care of me” Take care of? OP isn’t a child or handicapped or anything, she’s a fully capable adult that’s more than able to take care of herself. I feel terrible for OP that she has a father that thinks so little of her.

[@kaykay8855]

Playing devils advocate, I get that the dad just wants to happy and safe, a typical parent wish, but parents need to understand that their kids will find their own ways to be happy.

[@tamarasmith9060]

Plus getting married is in no way even a likely guarantee she will have a husband or children to take care of her. Marriages break up. Typically husbands die 1st, not even by like 1 year but average is 8-15 years before the wife. No guarantee she will have kids, & even if she does no guarantee that they will be able to physically or financially support her in old age. Having a good head on her shoulders & knowing that she shouldn't compromise on a partner that will make her miserable in the future is far better for her. Too many people are still under the false assumption that everyone needs a spouse to be happy. It's far better to be single than have a spouse that's abusive, controlling/gaslighting, only wanting a housemaid &/or heir factory, a cheater, etc. No spouse is far better than the wrong spouse for both your mental & physical health (because stress can contribute to so many health issues beyond just depression).

[@MrJpaynebb]

They live in a rural community. He dad is probably a conservative and has many old fashion values which means daughters get married, crank out some kids and have a husband to care and protect them.

[@invisigoth510]

Story 2: he disrespects you. Disrespect should always be a dealbreaker & it’s never a little thing

[@belrevan1986]

As a meat eater, I would never mess with someone else's food. I love vegetarians, that just means more meat for me

[@juliearmfield2634]

There ya go that's looking at the bright side. 😂

[@konety5008]

As a vegetarian, can def. appreciate meat eating friends lol. Idky but some of the most considerate of my food boundaries have been our omnivores ❤

[@catsncrows]

S1 that last email from her father was "I need to stay in contact with you for appearances but I refuse to admit I'm wrong so you have to be😭😡"

[@kellyalves756]

F***er better hope he never needs a bone marrow donor.

[@sunnykitten815]

Story 2. I am an unwilling vegan. I have a lot of health conditions but after my pregnancy with my 2nd I haven't been able to eat meat or I puke. I went and I got some vegan meals for myself and someone screamed this is Texas go back to California. My hubby had to step in cause I was crying. I want a steak. I want a chicken breast but it makes me violently sick and I have 3 kids I have to take care of so I have to eat it. I don't have a choice

[@lina9535]

I wonder if you have whatever an old friend of mine had, or something similar. Haven't talked to them for a decade though, hope they're ok. Anyway, they developed a ton of allergies, almost out of thin air. When I first started talking to them, they had like 11 allergies. Last time I talked to them, it was up to 23 (the most recent ones back then was chicken, grass, and I think fish). Really bizarre and scary.

[@sunnykitten815]

@@lina9535 yeah so I can eat pork and fish but I get nauseous from the smell of cooking fish and I have always hated pork unless it's mixed in with other stuff. Like eggs rolls are ok but pork chops are not

[@lina9535]

@@sunnykitten815 that's very interesting. Reminds me a bit about a certain dish where I live (I don't even think it has a name in English), that I actually like, even though the things in it I'd never be able to eat on their own. It's almost like "gruel" (I think that's the name for oats mixed/cooked in water), but it has bits of liver and heart in it, and some other things. I did the mistake of curiosity to look up what was in it while I ate it once, and just pushed the plate away from me. 15 minutes later, I was back to eating it 😅 I think that's why mom thinks I'd like haggis (which just seems really gross to me 🤣 as I like to eat this other gross food)

[@meghaffer]

I wonder if you got bitten by a Lonestar tick. That can cause a meat allergy. Whatever the case, I'm sorry people are so cruel. I'll never understand why people can't stay out of others' business

[@immortalsofar5314]

I was vegetarian for a couple of years due to the conditions animals were kept in but I couldn't metabolise enough vegetable protein to keep my (already low) weight. These past few years, I've been keeping my own animals and giving them the best life I possibly can until they are quickly and painlessly dispatched in the way I would want to be to become food. The chickens are so free range they practically need a driving licence, I only take the excess honey from the bees, the goats get taken for walks in the woods and the pigs have a comfortable shed, fresh pasture and treats.

[@00Snake77]

Story 1 has several updates that state op started talking with her half-siblings and their relationship improved, her father left his wife and op's stepmonster went crazy and everyone sees how much of a narcissistic she really is.

[@lifewithlee6298]

Story 1 , sounds like an narcissistic dad markerd a narcissist wife 😅 that’s karma in itself

[@Sherwoody]

Dad and ESM, (Evil Step Mom), were definitely having an affair while he was married to OP’s mom. Did dad tell EVS that he and OP’s mom were broken up? If so, she may have it in her mind that OP should be treated as an affair child, and that OP’s mom tried to baby trap him.

[@CircusoftheMoon]

Some folks truly get into a relationship with anyone that will have them and then expect that person to completely change to fit their preferences. If you want a wife to be a SAHM that makes you meat and potatoes every day that’s great! Find someone that also wants that future! Same thing if you want to be a SAHM find a man that wants to be that kinda man. Also my dad raised his daughters so that when he was on his death bed he knew we would be able to take care of ourselves no matter if we have a partner or not.

[@clockwork3494]

I was going to mention what the father said until I found your comment. It's odd to me people glossed over that, if he's so concerned about OP not having anyone to "take care" of her, then why didn't he teach her himself? I don't see why OP should need a man to do that for her, and I honestly can't even begin to imagine the father's reaction if OP turned out to be a lesbian/bi. (Not saying the father is homophobic, just genuinely curious how he'd feel about OP having a woman to protect her instead of the man he clearly envisions her with, y"know?)

[@SurrealInfection]

Story 2: A lot of people don't realize that sneaking meat based products into a long term vegetarian/vegan's food is dangerous to their digestive health. Over time the body cannot break down the particular proteins and enzymes. The body can even reject it as though it were dangerous via nausea, diarrhea, vomiting, acid reflux, stomach pain, and so on. In some very rare cases, a person can become something akin to allergic to it. I know a guy that has been vegan for years that decided to try changing his diet. After digesting some steak he was ill for a week, and wound up in the ER from severe dehydration because his gastric health was so compromised. On another note, the BF's actions aren't horrible just because of the possible medical repercussions, but because he broke her trust. Few things will break trust like Tampering With Food, slow burn bullying about the ops diet, and manipulative controlling behavior.

[@juliearmfield2634]

That's a very good point.

[@psyolytesaille]

Wouldn't even start with beef if I ever changed back to eating meat. Any red meat unless it was bison. Probably best to start easing in with a bone broth.

[@kellyalves756]

Dear OP 1: You were incredibly gracious, and you got a kick in the teeth. Graciously send him a note saying you understand how conflicted he must be and therefore you’re going to make things real easy for him and uninvite him.

[@kellyalves756]

Alternatively: invite him, keep him OUT of the family pew, and for the reception seat him where the caterers are going to be busiest.

[@bbureau12]

Growing up in the rural Midwest, I've known quite a few "good old boys." It doesn't surprise me that one would think your dietary choice is a joke. It doesn't surprise me that one would just assume his girlfriend would want to be a tradwife or think that a pregnant woman couldn't be a vegetarian. This is where dating a person that lacks the critical thinking skills typically engendered in higher education can be a detriment. I'd suggest ditching him and looking for someone with a few more folds in their temporal lobes.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

S1: why does the new stepmom think everyone is gonna be as spineless as OPs dad? Like, she feels betrayed? She decided she had beef with a _toddler!_ That’s absolutely unhinged!

[@Jessidafennecfox]

The power of Delulu

[@crawdaddy2004]

18:14 He mixed in lard for extra flavor, but he didn’t think she’d notice? It’s one or the other - either she notices the added flavor OR it doesn’t make a difference (in which case, there’s no point to do it). LEAVE THIS DUDE!

[@crawdaddy2004]

36:06 I will never understand why there are places that have laws saying the law can’t do anything until there’s actual violence. Like, isn’t the point of a restraining/protective order of PREVENTING violence?

[@psyolytesaille]

They want you to not die the first time 🤞👍

[@xxKillgorxx]

No, it's to stop violence. Unless there's proof of violence towards the person requesting it, then nothing can be done. I don't necessarily agree with how it is, but we live in a world where people will abuse the system and ruin it for the people who really need these.

[@marygilbert6105]

About the vegetarian's dad wanting her to have someone to take care of her: I *have* someone to take care of me: me!! Honestly, most heterosexual relationships seem to have most of the caretaking done by the woman. I am currently very happy with only myself to take care of, thank you very much. Signed, a 50+ onc-divorced, once-widpwed, happily single woman living in a Southern US state.

[@sarahkelly4026]

“Most heterosexual relationships seem to have most of the caretaking done by the woman” this was my first thought when reading when OP’s dad said that. A financially independent woman is usually going to have to sacrifice time given to self care to have a relationship, then give up even more to have a family. The only way a woman can reclaim that time is to become financially dependent on someone. Sad that dad doesn’t understand this.

[@mousem7071]

Also life expectancy goes up for a married man and down for a married woman. So she can take care of herself. I'm glad she didn't stay with him.

[@sabrinasugar2819]

Thanks for “bothering” to post pretty much daily. 🤣 love the videos and the work you put into them!

[@Ivanabelle]

Story 2: poor OP. I really empathise with her. I eat a vegan diet and my mum asks me all the time, "How will you find a husband if you eat like this?" I've been eating this way for 3 years. It's been 3 years of these questions. Even when I had a bf. It's so annoying because it seems to be such a genuine concern for her but it's so bizarre and unfounder imo. But the excess pity and having to prove you're okay and seeing them worry over effectively nothing is so exhausting. Her talk with her dad reminded me of my mum. Sending OP love.

[@twentyfiveyears5010]

Story 2, your boyfriend thinks you need meat products for your health so he sneaks it into your food. Some people think drinking urine is good for their health, so maybe slip some in your boyfriend's (and his friends') drinks? You know, cuz it's no big deal?

[@CaitlinKelly-mo1ld]

Winning idea!! I vote for this response!

[@bjcollins7871]

Hey - for the boyfriend who messed with the salad dressing for his girlfriend, and her Dad who said "it's just a joke, it's no big deal" - fix them food and put dog food in it. Tell them "Hey, it's just a joke"!

[@diamcole]

27:32 I can't imagine trying to trick my partner into eating meat/animal byproducts. He's been plant based for years and well, I eat almost everything lol but we deeply respect one another and if anything this has given me an opportunity to learn how to cook delicious, well rounded, plant based meals - being upset that he doesn't eat what I do hasn't even cross my mind.

[@Zurround]

its a deal breaker. If a person is vegan or vegetarian it is a COMMITMENT that is very PERSONAL to them. Its similar to a religion. This is no better than sneaking liquor into the drink of someone who because of alcoholism decided never to drink again. And I mean an ABSOLUTE DEAL BREAKER as in GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE.

[@babytone54]

Story 2. I was vegan for a while (health reasons) it was tuff for a few months. But I live in the midwest so this isn't as BAD as if I were in the south. Sis, MOVE and you will be fine if you want to find love. ❤

[@anonymousyoutuber1405]

So weird people don't believe she was going to kill the chicken in story 2. My uncle did that too.

[@francas277]

Everyone who grew up on the country side has experienced this fr

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

Why is father in story 1 with someone who doesn’t like their kid? Why is he letting his other daughter demand that he can’t walk OP down the aisle, only her. That is absolutely ridiculous! Why is he letting them have this much power?!

[@WobblesandBean]

OP 2 needs to get the hell out of that area. She's never going to find even a halfway decent man in THAT town.

[@TaterKakez]

Yay! Thank you for making this a little longer :) I love the 35-45 mins episodes

[@Dream_Weaver_Cosplay]

“Everyone’s attitude here is that I need to get a sense of humor.” Basically: “Everyone wants me suck it up and not get upset when they do terrible things for the sake of their own amusement.”

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 2. Nta. No way is it ok to ever mess with someone elses food. I myself am a meat eater and there are some i refuse to eat and I know how upset I would be if someone tricked me into eating them. The boyfreind definitely betrayed Op and she will not be able to trust him with food again.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 2: NTA. When will people learn to not tamper with other people’s food?

[@Zurround]

I posted above that trying to force a vegan or vegetarian to eat meat is on a par with sneaking liquor into the drink of someone who has sworn off alcohol. It is a deal breaking boundary violation and grounds for divorce.

[@toxicginger9936]

​@@ZurroundNot to mention it is also a form of assault, and/or battery.

[@leonievanheerden7090]

Nearing the 100 thousand... much appreciation for your stories and engaging narration 💐⭐⭐💐

[@laurenjones9924]

Hotels and airlines have a 24-48 hr cancelation policy. Ops father wouldn’t be out any money. He could easily get hood money back for the plane ticket and the hotel problem only has the reservation and not actually charged him yet. If take back there invite. I’d be so completely heartbroken and scorned of my father said some crap like that. Southerner here- bacon grease does not belong in salad dressing. Sour cream is a given but not bacon grease. And also, can you make a vegetarian sick by feeding them meat products?

[@WyntheRogue]

I'd probably be petty and put him on full blast, exposing him as an abuser [mum mentioned he was abusive to her] cheater, [he was clearly cheating while OP's mum was pregnant] and a deadbeat [ Chose side pieces family over her] and screenshot those emails as a nice little icing on the petty cake.

[@Nina-Kat]

I've seen enough true crime documentary to know that food tampering is just a step away from poisoning someone.

[@thehoogard]

Story 3. Just plant some contraband on his property and then call the police.

[@carlrood4457]

For the wedding, just do what you feel is best for you. If it's easier to avoid the drama on the wedding day and just go NC later, then do that. You'll be busy enough at the wedding that you can just ignore him most of the time.

[@littlegreycat]

Oh man i feel so bad for the future bride. After hearing the ending Im proud of her for making her life and sticking to her boundaries.

[@momop1848]

Story 3: I can somewhat relate. A former friend became mentally unstable and resorted to harassing me and my SO via Facebook and text messages. Their SO briefly joined in on the harassment too. I got a message a couple of months ago from another target of this person's harassment that the harasser died. I'm relieved that I don't have to keep wondering when or how this person will pop up in my life again. Honestly, I'm more upset that they passed on my birthday.

[@victoriamiranda-stotelmyre4382]

I a non-vegetarian person often wonders WHY do people completely disregard that all the “Blue Zones” in the world are basically Vegetarian Communities where the health is the one of the main focus’s from childhood to elderlyhood where they have the highest number of 100 year olds that are physically active in their communities. Loma Linda University Children’s Hospital in Loma Linda, California has people from all over the world come to be treated. Health, longevity and humanity is the focus of Vegetarians and they have been doing it very well for hundreds of years.

[@keishaizawesome2836]

Karma will kick dad's ass later on down the road. OP is better off without him

[@Zurround]

I explained above that his wife does not love him. If she truly loved him she would WANT him to have a relationship with the OP. He will be a very lonely man soon when their marriage collapses and he will wish that he had not fully alienated the OP.

[@KadeStringer2.0]

The marriage isn’t going to fall apart

[@carlrood4457]

I'd guess OP spent more time supporting her mom than her mom supporting her.

[@DrewLSsix]

If they support you privately and mock you publicly they are not supporting you.

[@milaskundric]

it is also SO dangerous for someone who hasnt eaten meat in years to eat it not knowing cuz it can be potentially deadly. u have to slowly reintroduce it if you want to start eating it so this wasnt only disgusting, boundary crossing and so much more it was also dangerous

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Hey Markee!!! Have a wonderful night 👍 Have a great day/night everyone 👋🤗

[@sarahkelly4026]

Story 3 - the neighbor is a danger to himself and others. Call adult protective services. Update - Yup, the system completely failed.

[@lina9535]

When it comes to food, in many places it's seen as a crime to mess with someone's food, even if you're cooking it yourself. Though I'm not sure if that's the case for where OP lives. It doesn't even have to be adding things that are harmful, it can be adding whatever (for example, the dude that added sawdust to his gf's food, or the girl that put veggies into her bf's food)

[@littlegreycat]

26:39 "it's time for you to grow up and compromise" when he decides what your future is going to be???? That's not compromising.

[@theresaschuebel5151]

My sister in law is vegetarian and is allergic to Gluten and she carried two healthy kids. Nobody in my husband's family and her own husband's families ever complained about it

[@SarahFisher-o3t]

😆 "whenever I'm bothered to."

[@JasperCatProductions]

Story 2 how about dad be proud that his daughter is self sufficient and can take care of herself. Good lord people so nuts over vegetables. If everyone just let people eat what they want and mind their business the world would be better. Don’t people have enough problems in their on life to just let the vegetarian and vegans be? If you eat all meat ok, nothing but veg…cool.

[@nonamenoface3654]

But but small town south means women should only have babies no other goal. - town likely Op better off moving away from that town.

[@zomputerxero6256]

“HE DOESNT VIEW YOU AS HIS DUHDUH” lol okay mate

[@EllieC130]

The last comment on the last story hit home... that shit is terrifying.

[@katwiltz1134]

Look your heart is still warm and overflowing from the fact that he actually stood up to anybody and said he was going to the wedding so you decide how important it is to be walked down the aisle

[@jimbobjones9330]

The dad in that second story pisses me off so bad. "I just want to know you're with someone when I'm on my deathbed!" I'd have clapped back with "So you'd love to know, on your deathbed, that I'm with an abusive, boundary-stomping asshole, rather than me be alone and happy? What type of fucked-up morals do you have?"

[@selinesbeau]

I live in a rural, agricultural area. Whenever I ask people over, I ask if they gave any dietary restrictions or allergies. I make something they can enjoy. I can about THEM, not what they eat. The only time I consider vegan an issue is if their having medical issues that could connect to not getting something you need in your diet. Some people don't manage it right.

[@selinesbeau]

Care, not can autocorrect.

[@elysiamathias6476]

I'm 45 and have never eaten meat. My grandmother (and therefore my mom, my grandfather, and my aunts and uncle) became vegetarian when my mom was ten. She has never eaten meat since, even while pregnant. I had a coworker joke about when she fed meat to her friend. Everyone at the table was horrified. I simply stated that if one of my friends did this to me, I would never speak to them again. Oh, and my husband is a hunter and fisherman. He has never given me a hard time about not eating meat. My friends all check out the menu of restaurants beforehand to make sure there is something I can eat.

[@moodycrab77]

The first story is heartbreaking 💔

[@kurotsuki7427]

As a meat eater i can say beacon grease and lard are not easy animal products to digest. So ya, im horrified at the boyfriend sneaking *that* of all things into her food.

[@JRMAV1]

Vegetarian here (Dietary, Not ethical), I grew up a meat eater, Bacon Grease is thick as hell and always gave me acid reflux.

[@jadadallas5891]

​@@JRMAV1 my son is an omnivore and bacon grease makes him sick to his stomach. It is just too much (rich? heavy?) for his stomach. So wow. I can't imagine using it in salad dressing for someone who is a vegetarian.

[@crawdaddy2004]

My now-spouse and I once had to make a vegan, lactose free and gluten free meal for a group of friends. We actually found a lasagna recipe that accommodated all of these restrictions. It was all right - note that none of those diet restrictions were mine.

[@Akemi.24-45]

Good night, Markee! Hope you're great. ♥️🤗 It's my birthday today. Yaaaaaay! 🥳🎂

[@TheScaletIbisNW]

If your neighbor gets a restraining order he will be forced to move.

[@SilverDomainShrine7]

I’m a vegetarian. Been one since I was a teenager. It’s really not that big of a deal as others make it out to be. What the now ex bf did was beyond messed up. He’s just a whole piece of crap and deserved to get his ass dumped. You did the right thing, OP. You’ll find someone who accepts for who you are

[@carbonn5998]

is that a jotaro grumpy cat pfp 😭😭

[@SilverDomainShrine7]

@@carbonn5998 yes lmao been my profile pic since forever

[@MoonlightBelladonna]

Yeah I really don't understand the people who get butthurt over how someone lives their life. Honestly feel really bad for the op, she doesn't deserve to be around that punk.

[@139139mimi]

OMG the thing about pregnancy triggered me!! I'm a hard core meat eater and was unable to stomach the smell of anything non-vegetarian related all throughout my pregnancy, even eggs. It was not a big deal and my doc could suggest dietary replacements that did the job! So no, you do not need to eat meat for your fetus to develop properly!!

[@paulineisme]

There was a time for which I was vegetarian (turned out to not be it for me) and a "friend" at the time had said something to the extent of "what if I chop up steak and sneak it into your pizza sauce?" as if it was some big gotcha. I calmly responded that "then I would have probably eaten some steak without realising it". I wasn't going around bragging how "meat is disgusting and I'd throw up if ut came near me" or anything. I simply decided to not eat it. The convo came up after someone had offered a dish with meat and I declined it, even though I used to really like it, and then I mentioned I decided to no longer eat meat.

[@BriannaWeldon]

I walked down the aisle by myself. Never crossed my mind to recruit someone other than my dad. What is the thinking behind it?

[@madgevanness4011]

Well, those long dresses can trip you; if you’re not used to wearing heels, you could stumble… an extra support is nice!

[@kellyalves756]

19:27 The hell? Tell Dad he can marry BF if he likes him so much.

[@taylorslade961]

Last Story: ...call adult protective services.

[@filliaa3661]

Markee your cartoon profile pic looks exactly like you. Good to see you 😁

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 1 update: was the commenter the OP mentioned suggesting OP didn't know if the dad was a bad dad because he wasn't around? Because if so, yes, yes he was BECAUSE he wasn't around; the mom wasn't keeping it out of OP's life, that was all his doing, either directly by his own doing or indirectly by the dad's wife not wanting him to visit OP and him choosing placating her over having a relationship with OP.

[@nilianstroy]

story 1.. i'm petty, i would find their church and tell everyone the entire truth...

[@flamelily2086]

Fathers can walk all their daughters down the aisle! I have three sisters, and our father walked all of us down the aisle. The stepmother sounds like a vindictive witch the way she has turned OP's father against her. I think OP should rescind the invitation. She reached out to him to ask him to walk her down the aisle, but he had rejected her again the way he had all her life.

[@KJ-sp9jq]

S2: You don't mess with peoples food. Period! Being a vegetarian isn't for me, but it's not my place or anyone else's to dictate what someone eats. Just leave peoples food alone.

[@spongebobonmolly]

stepmom was literally beefing with an infant

[@neilfelsbourg170]

I am a beef farmer so I don't understand vegans or vegetarians at all but one of my sons was vegetarian about 10 years ago when he was in high school. I figured it was because some girl or some teacher told him it was the right thing to do so I prepared separate meals for him. He grew out of that phase but now another one of my sons has now been vegetarian for about a year. It has never even crossed my mind to "slip" meat into their food. They are old enough to make their own decisions and as a parent I don't have to agree or even understand their decisions to respect them.

[@nikispade1350]

Story 2) Its really sad that no one in OP's life respects her. Not one person respects her choice on what goes in her body. They don't support her or her happiness.

[@WobblesandBean]

Oh look, the cops refuse to do anything about a man who is a clear and obvious danger to everyone around him. Must be a Tuesday.

[@thebhome]

I only mess with my husband's food to add in veggies in a texture level he wont taste. With his family, its to increase their spice level intake. Everyone knows I do this when I cook (mexican in a white family) and the spice level increase was a request by grandparents because they love mexican food. However, I would not add tomatoes or even steamed veggies to my husbands food because he told me he doesnt like them. Dude is only trying to please his mommy.

[@ellisdee1879]

When I was little we lived across the street from a slaughterhouse. I was 3 and asked where the cows went cuz I liked feeding them. Father said they were in my plate. Que a decade long conflict between my father and I with him screaming at me most meals because I would not eat meat. It was so bad that my mom banned anyone from telling me where eggs and milk came from. When I was 13 I suddenly wanted to eat a piece of fried chicken my mom had made. Sometimes you grow out of it, sometimes you don’t. But I’m still no contact with my father to this day. Just let people eat what they want (within moderation).

[@MamieBabi]

If he can slip bacon fat into your food, what else could he slip in there? I can't believe the amount of stories I've heard of people tricking someone else into either eating meat or allergen. Absolutely not acceptable and she's not over reacting. Run run for your life cause it litterally could depend on it.

[@nousernamesarevalid]

Ask the anti veg haters how they would feel if they found out a friend fed them dog meat.

[@Zurround]

Wonderful idea!! Everyone is vulnerable in that area. It reminds me of a friend of mine who refused to eat something I really like but almost everyone else thinks is bizarre. I like to have ghost pepper salt as a dessert ingredient. However, I hate mayonnaise so much that I won't even eat something that has TOUCHED it. If an inconsiderate person puts a knife in the mustard jar that had just been used to spread mayo without washing it first I consider the entire jar contaminated. She told me that if I sneak ghost pepper salt into any dessert she eats that she will find a way to sneak mayo into something I eat.

[@fred_derf]

Don't rescind your father's invite, but change the seating chart and seat him by the kitchen or bathrooms. And don't have him in any _Family Photos._

[@amyjames7760]

S2 The boyfriend in the second story was still justifying what he did deliberately because accidentally something similar happened. He wanted to mock his girlfriend in front of his friends and regardless of what the food restrictions were or whatever, that is the part that you should hold on to when somebody tries to justify horrific behavior towards you

[@babybookworm003]

Last story it’s sad that the mental health system failed the ops neighbour sounds like he should have been baker acted and no one in authority would do it

[@jessilyngray1223]

Second story...I keep kosher (or I try) I dated a guy in college who slipped bacon in my food because and I quote "bacon is life" so yeah. I was upset he did that but we went our separate ways a short time later for other reasons. Food is a necessary part of life and it's wrong when people mess with it

[@boogitywoogity248]

The funniest part about the vegetarian story is letting a chicken make you a vegetarian lmao, if you know things about chickens, you’d know they’re one of the most cannibalistic species out there. And will willingly, happily eat eachother. So, you not being able to eat a chicken, when the chicken would definitely eat a chicken, is really funny.

[@WobblesandBean]

37:30 And nothing of value was lost.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

S2: this was not a “joke”, this was incredibly dangerous. OP shouldn’t have to explain what goes in their own body! How does OP being a vegetarian or vegan affect anyone else?! Why does OP have to compromise?! For what?!

[@gigicat3943]

S2 - Just save everyone a lot of trouble and find someone who has your eating habits.

[@kaykay8855]

It’s not like op shoves her eating habits in people’s faces, it’s people like bf who shoves their eating habits in her face.

[@gigicat3943]

@@kaykay8855 Everyone else was eating the way the boyfriend does. The OP is the one who is different. So, of course, she has to explain her diet and what she will and won't eat. Those kind of people are so annoying. Just find someone who enjoys the same diet/lifestyle and everyone is happy. Unless she just wants the attention.

[@kaykay8855]

@@gigicat3943 telling people your food restrictions isn’t annoying, it’s food safety. Some people can’t eat meat for health reasons, putting meat in a long term vegetarian meal will shock their system because they don’t have the enzymes in their stomach to break down meat anymore. It’s like when someone asks if the food being served has peanuts, you say no and you sneak peanuts into their meal and they go into shock. Op isn’t shoving her eating habits into people’s faces.

[@gigicat3943]

@@kaykay8855 If it's that life threatening, then bring your own food or stay home. No one wants to hear about your enzymes or stance on meat. Like I said - just find other like minded people and go on about your life. And before you get all affronted - I have an illness that keeps me on a restrictive diet . .. but very few people know about it because I take responsibility for myself and don't try to make other people accommodate me.

[@kaykay8855]

@@gigicat3943 you sound like those people who scoff at allergies of any kind. Most people still respect other people’s food restrictions, Op’s ex should have respected her food restrictions especially since they don’t impact him. When you host, you still have to be considerate of others diets. Maybe instead of trying to paint op as some crazy vegan, how about you hold the ex to the same standards.

[@brandi5126]

Making someone violate their own personal values and beliefs is not a prank, it is degrading and humiliating. Also, I agree with the comment that there is someone out there for you but they are probably not going to be in your southern agricultural town. It's nice to go somewhere where you can just be without all the push back.

[@brandyanderson3522]

I worked with a girl who was vegetarian because she had developed an allergy to meat. She couldn't have any of it. She ended up in the hospital as a teen because of a situation, just like Story 2. Her parents called the cops.

[@GBunnyG]

Story 2: Please for the love of god stop telling your children they need to be paired up to be happy in life.

[@Davtwan]

You either go all the way when it comes to lending a relationship you destroyed, or you don’t. In-betweens will _not_ cut it here.

[@carolgordon3056]

Was listening to a video recently which refuted the widely used fiction that 70-80% of male children of single mothers end up in jail, so the mothers who stay are the problem, not the fathers who leave...this is of course not reflected in reliable data. What is? That fathers who have children with a new partner are more likely to disappear from the lives of their existing kids, as we see here.

[@Amelia073]

Last story: glad he’s gone. He wasn’t able/willing to seek help and made peoples’ lives fearful and miserable.