I Discovered My Wife ABANDONING Our Child When She Goes Out To Shop r/Relationships

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[@jenspycole7646]

Leaving a baby in a running car is infuriating. I ran with a rough crowd as a teenager. A girl I knew stole a running car not knowing there were toddlers in the backseat. When she realized she left the car with the kids in the middle of nowhere. The children weren’t harmed, but this happened in the heat of summer. She left the kids in the car with the windows up and it was pure luck that someone came across the vehicle and children. She went to prison for a very long time for this.

[@cyndyghost784]

Very good punishment

[@kristinwiebold2433]

Dont know if her jail time would have been less had she left them in a safer place. Probably leave them with fire fighters or something so help would be there but of course would be caught

[@Amy-oq7gh]

*:33333

[@Mouthymensch]

Literally the universe working in mysterious ways. Hopefully your friend reformed after serving their sentence and those kids were saved from suffocating in the car!

[@miriam3848]

I hope the parents got punished too. For leaving the kids in the car

[@squiddiot5477]

For anyone wondering about what the dude in the tampon story’s issue was, it turns out his mother was pushed off of a cliff by a sentient box of tampons

[@rgmwfo7]

She should be physically uncomfortable so he doesn't have to be emotionally uncomfortable. 😬

[@Memento_Mori_Morals]

I like the idea that his 🍆 is more of a 🌶 and that's why he is so offended.

[@patty-pat-pat]

you know that's the reason! @@Memento_Mori_Morals

[@user-meepmoop]

Lmaooooo😂😂😂😂😂​@@Memento_Mori_Morals

[@needscaffeinern]

How many likes???? *sticker by NCT plays distantly*

[@83gemm]

“Is his penis smaller than the tampon and he feels threatened by it?” Holy hell that might be the hardest I’ve ever laughed at one of these. Seriously, though, WTF is that guys problem? Tampons are way less messy than pads, so it can’t be that. It truly HAS to be that he doesn’t want something inserted. Which…. Oh, man, the flags here are redder than…. no, I’m not gonna make the joke. 😂

[@SkyLarkCrow]

Yeah. Unless she's wearing the tampon while they are having sex, I don't understand how it has any impact on him at all, aside from seeing a 'smaller' bloodied item in the trash.

[@katieb.1184]

my mom used to ban them except for swimming because of this logic... but in more conservative terms.

[@emilybarclay8831]

I can guarantee he fell down one of those manopshere rabbit holes that tell men that tampon use makes it ‘loose’ and shows she’s happy to put other things up there… a lot of very odd incel types basically think tampons are like dicks but made of cotton and using them makes you impure

[@D-me-dream-smp]

He likely has some kind of insane religious, puritanical hang up that that part of a woman is “his domain and it’s sole purpose is providing for his satisfaction only” (and maybe pop out a baby if necessary) plus he probably also harbours that weird mentality that, unless he is having sex, it’s gross and dirty.

[@carlrood4457]

The insertion thing is the only thing I could come up with. Weird. My wife prefers pads, but my daughter prefers tampons. I've bought both because I do most of the shopping. It's needed and buy what they each find works best. I'll admit I have an "Ick" moment about them, but I'd never tell them which to use as its really none of my business outside of when I had to teach my daughter she couldn't flush them down the toilet unless she wanted to be in charge of the plunger.

[@beastshawnee]

I was living in Atlanta and was a single mom myself and never not once left my kid in the car for a moment. I hated when I saw someone doing that. I was leaving a gas station one day (my child was at daycare and I was on my way home) and I saw a woman get out and head into the station leaving a small baby alone in her car. I don’t know what came over me but I started shouting “free baby! free baby! Who wants a free baby!” LOL- she had just been reaching for the door and she got a look of horror on her face and turned around and ran back to her car to get the baby. I hoped that taught her a lesson. idk. LOL. But honestly it was a crappy neighborhood and there were multiple vagrant males standing around and she just left that baby!

[@llcdrdndgrbd]

It gets hot where you are (hell, I live in Maine and it was 90 degrees up here yesterday) so I hope that stuck with her and she never leaves a small child alone again

[@pamelalaub6204]

He said the car was running and the AC was on. She left the door unlocked. She was fortunate it was her husband was the one who took the baby out of the car.

[@jaggirl]

She was really lucky it was her husband who had the baby. I hope she learnt a valuable lesson from that. You can't leave a child for even 1 minute these days.

[@tommyhaukedalhansson2797]

Would be more worried about vagrant females,for obvious reasons

[@katwiltz1134]

Lol

[@johnf.kennedy7683]

Story 1: NTA. "No mother should experience the fear you put me through." And no parent should have their child kidnapped because the other parent was irresponsible lol.

[@SakuraMoonflower]

RIGHT?! When I heard she said that, I was like, "YOU PUT YOURSELF THROUGH THAT HELL BY LYING TO YOUR HUSBAND AND CREATING AN OPPORTUNITY FOR YOUR KID TO GET KIDNAPPED OR KILLED, JFC!"

[@D-me-dream-smp]

I know, I feel like she’s still viewing this situation with completely the wrong mindset as in rather than being grateful she was fortunate she experienced the potential, very possible consequences of her actions in a “safe” manner she is simply focusing on her own feelings. While she may be using anger to cover embarrassment or shame it’s alarming this is her main focus but I’m glad the husband suggested that it was part of a wider issue and she is getting help.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

Just a note: did you see that news story about a guy that stole a car (from a convenience store parking lot, I think), and realized that there was a baby/car seat in the car. He drove back, gave baby /car seat to the mother, SCOLDED HER, then took the car again. The cops did catch him, but man! When a car thief is lecturing you about your own kid and safety……😂

[@danacarter9147]

Exactly. If OP's wife keeps that crap up, she'll not only wind up in jail, she'll also lose their baby to foster care, and then, to adoptive parents.⚠️

[@zebnemma]

I have a pretty good feeling this isn't about some mental health issue, I think she's just a shitty person. Her being lazy and not wanting to unstrap the baby and bring him/her with her is more important to her than her babies safety. That to me shows she's not a good person. If I was OP I would file for single custody and try to ban this selfish woman from ever being in the kids life ever again. It has only been 2 months since the baby was born and she has already proved how unfit she is as a mother. Not just unfit but right down dangerous and putting her child at active risk DAILY. It's only a matter of time before that kid gets kidnapped for real with a mother that does that daily. It's just a numbers game of chance. "I've been doing it for 2 months and so far it has been no problem" bitch are you dense as a rock or are you a psychopath, pick one!! She's just as dense as my ex that walked in front of cars daily with the attitude of "well they are suppose to stop for me so..." Yes but what if one day a driver comes that doesn't stop because people look at their phones or something!! BTW I later discovered my ex to be a raging narcist so I think the woman in the story is very similar to my ex. Now people that don't give a shit about anything, and downplay all the risks is a red flag to me. It might be a sign they are too self absorbed/pridefull to not give a shit about anything. "If that car hits me it's the cars fault", refusing to admit his behavior is putting himself at risk. He rather get run over by a car than admit he was wrong...

[@jenih3815]

The tampon one killed me. Especially the way he was saying they should keep each other’s comfort in mind but then… threw her tampons away… which will make her super uncomfortable………. Cuz she doesn’t have a tampon…………….

[@lynnw7155]

Maybe she should just bleed all over his stuff. Why is she with this man?

[@angeleyesgreen1586]

No mother should have to experience that? No parent should act like she's been acting. She's going to get their child kidnapped, or killed. She's so neglectful, ffs

[@ruthhenderson5413]

And that's to say nothing of the fact that carbon monoxide accumulates inside a closed car with the motor left running. Some people use that method to commit suicide, so there was more than one way a baby could get killed in that scenario. Six minutes might have been enough, since the lethal dose for a tiny body would be much less than for an adult.

[@SavvyGirl751]

@@ruthhenderson5413 that only happens in a garage, if you run tubing into the car from the exhaust pipe, or if you clogged the tailpipe. Just sitting in a running car will not put Co2 into the vehicle. Mom was incredibly irresponsible, but car jacking, kidnapping, heatstroke, are most likely.

[@ruthhenderson5413]

@@SavvyGirl751: It only happens if there is an exhaust leak, which you wouldn't know about if you had one, since CO has no perceptible odor [we are talking about carbon monoxide here, not CO2 carbon dioxide]. But it's one more avoidable risk factor.

[@ronnieferguson9337]

Sounds like OP’s young boyfriend has been parentified, manipulated, brainwashed and/or etc by a drug addicted/alcoholic parent/narcissistic parent.

[@andrewi.crocker8675]

Story 2: The update actually made me a little angry. So, the classmate basically just blew OP off the whole time, even snapping at them when they tried to get them to do their work. And then the Professor sent out that email telling people they would be graded individually, and all of a sudden she "comes to her senses?!" No, she was counting on the rest of the group to pull her weight for her, and when she saw that wasn't gonna happen she started freaking out and even got OP to help her on her portion. I would have let that classmate drown, "oh, im sorry, but I can't help you because I gotta go out drinking with friends"

[@musamaka9848]

Exactly I know way to many people that have pulled shit like this. It's all a scam, unfortunately most of my teachers didn't even care

[@HealthyObbsession]

Something similar happened to a friend last semester only it was a guy who blew her off for the big project The teacher talked with him and them Messaged my friend and her other group members that class would be online for the foreseeable future She told my friend that they guy apparently threatened the class if he got dropped or got a bad grade She was scared he would hurt her and the class It's insane to me how entitled people can be to threaten violence because you were too lazy to do the work

[@Gr3nadgr3gory]

Yeah, can't help you study I've got some really important cookies to click.

[@lynnw7155]

I hate group projects for this reason. I'm the one that ends up doing the work. Why in the world did OP fix Ms. Lazy's part of the project? Taught her an important lesson...go out drinking and let others fix up your work.

[@brendahammond8570]

“Imposing Culture” story had an update for anyone curious! He had gotten bored of the relationship and got nervous when his mom mentioned marriage, so he lied to his parents and said they were in a giant fight, and he had this “mastermind” plan that he’d make the fight with her in a way he could try to make it her fault, he texted from the dads phone and blocked her, then decided that the only way he’d “forgive” her would be to open the relationship so he could sleep around. He begged her to not leave and she kicked him out and went to his parents to tell them the truth

[@ebagentj]

Bonus: the parents said they didn't want to see him for a while, but she was more than welcome to keep coming by for dinner. I'm sure that'll change once she starts seeing other people since it'll be awkward if she clings to her ex's parents, but it's a nice sentiment. (And I like the fact that she did go to the parents and straightened it out with them, since one of the things he said when begging her to stay was for her to pretend that they were strained so his story about them fighting looks true. And theoretically to get them to stop asking about marriage.)

[@greatauntlizbethg9137]

Thanks guys

[@J_Isak]

Thanks I really wanted an update on this one

[@WhitneyDahlin]

Was there an update on the tampon story! I want to know what that guy's problem was!

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

@@J_Isak I remember this one. Markee did include the “gift” update, and I was waiting for it, but I guess it was in either a different compilation, or in one of his stand-alone short narrations.

[@jdd9993]

OP's boyfriend's father has some nerve asking the boy for money to replace a girlfriend's stolen jewelry. Her boyfriend needs professional help. The father is terribly irresponsible.

[@pamelalaub6204]

They did get him professional counseling.

[@wordforger]

I get the feeling father is a drug addict because that sounds like exactly the sort of BS excuse one would come up with to get money for their fix. Boyfriend's issues very likely stem from his father's effect on the family.

[@jeaniebee3657]

my ex husband thought that i got some sort of sexual please out of using tampons , i was like wtf are you talking about omg then i asked his mom to talk some damn sense into him

[@Memento_Mori_Morals]

He's your ex so I'm guessing that talk wasnt very fruitful.

[@jeaniebee3657]

@@Memento_Mori_Morals lol he also refused to let me breast feed our sons because "thems my titties" omg he was a peach...and yes he said thems and his joke with his buddies about watching the birth of our kids was" i sure hated watching my play pretty be stretched out" he is the reason people make jokes about southern people.

[@Memento_Mori_Morals]

@@jeaniebee3657 I thought they made fun of southerners for crap like my family has dabbled in, incest, no plumbing, no electricity, no common sense... oh and someone distant to me living in a school bus, but not in a bus-turned into a house-way no... very much a bus still.

[@Memento_Mori_Morals]

@@jeaniebee3657 I'm happy for you he's an ex.

[@jeaniebee3657]

@@Memento_Mori_Morals me too lol and my sons didn't turn out like him thank the gods lol

[@MsMookalate]

He don’t have a hero complex. He’s suffering from paranoia from life with high anxiety. Edit: I figured it was mental issues/home abuse

[@D-me-dream-smp]

Yes it came across to me that it sounded more like he had high level anxiety with a background of unstable home life and he needed professional mental health support beyond what a partner could provide. Breaking up was best for both since it was too much for OP and the ex needs the space to work on himself.

[@mtreuil]

@@D-me-dream-smp agreed

[@MorbidKat]

Me too. I have alot of similar issues but they don't present in the same way, pretty similarly though. I've worked through it mostly and my next issue to tackle is food insecurity (long story obviously lol) I hope the ex can work through it, the younger you start the better!! And Op just needs to live her life. I wish them both the best and hopefully others can learn from it too 🤍

[@windigowhispers]

I watch too much house... I immediately jumped to brain tumor

[@MsMookalate]

@@windigowhispers 😂😂😂 to be fair that was one conclusion I had too

[@jonwuddup5410]

If was a man, he be punished as a example. That mother is horrendously unstable and needs a reality check. Glad op did what he did to show her.

[@GlucoseGuy]

Kidney story - When the sister called OP petty yet still used a slur, the first thing in my head (other than slam the door and call the cops) was, " Obviously everyone's attitudes haven't changed, so why should mine?" Toxic family begone!

[@owl7072]

36:58 "It's your body so I'll let you decide however I'm going to throw away all your tampons without telling you thus leaving you incapable of not bleeding all over the place as well as wasting a ton of money" Edit: 37:38 let him _sob_

[@a.a131]

YES!!!! LMAOOOO He has a tampon problem??? He really dumb

[@Keyonne88]

Sob, cry, seethe, and cope my dude. I'm gonna use tampons. We can divorce over it, idc; fucking psycho. omg

[@littlegreycat]

I love the engineer story. She did a fabulous job standing up for herself. I hope she got a great new job.

[@katwiltz1134]

Then you're not a good employee. And you wouldn't be a bonus to any company being voluntold and not objecting is agreeing if she just stood up for herself like an adult instead of sabotage at the job site is unprofessional and likes maturity. It can't be so scared that you lose your job talking to them about things that aren't in your job scope that you literally tank your job

[@NickanM]

WTF?!? _The wife DIDN'T EVEN LOCK THE DOORS?!???_ There's a lot of monsters walking around in our society, and they look exactly like ordinary humans.

[@datumzinememories]

First story im shocked that cps or the cops has not been involved. What if the child had a medical emergency what if someone stole the car. What if the heat kills the kid because its not a quick in and out....your wife has issues and shouldn't be left alone with that baby and likely need parenting classes.

[@MmmKayHuuNay]

He's neglectful AF for not taking this seriously. I was livid OP is a fucking child!!!!

[@theanoneya8288]

Cps and cops will see it as, AC is on, mom ran in probably not gonna take more than a minute 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♂️oh well.

[@danganryanne9499]

@@MmmKayHuuNay You mean OP's wife? SHE was the one to leave the baby in the car

[@jbrennan381]

@@MmmKayHuuNay he's not neglectful. He isn't letting her take their son go with his wife alone, at all. Calling CPS on your own wife is not always very efficient, and can often lead to more issues or just make the current one worse. He's not being neglectful, he's require her to go to therapy and not have their son on her own until she is mentally better. If the issue persists or things get worse and he doesn't do anything about it, then sure that would be neglectful. But no, in no way is he being neglectful

[@neil999ish]

Unless the child is in a parked car for a while, the authorities are not called, hell yes i know they should be called even it is "Only for a minute" bs. I can remember in my country when i was a child of 7-8 years, there was a car fire caused by a child playing with a cigerete lighter after being left "for a minute", end result from what i remember two children died.

[@jdd9993]

The mother in the stealing story is at fault for condoning her daughter's stealing. Let her pay for the Sweet 16 party. OP's sister needs counselling therapy; she may have kleptomania.

[@annkline5222]

I think sis has cameras!!

[@your_local_questerian]

the mother is an enabler and the sister is/was a karma houdini. until that point, if i remembered correctly, until her sweet 16 got cancelled, she never got called out for it

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

@@annkline5222 Wow! Good call! But yeah, the girl is not just a thief; she’s got some mental problems, and her mom enabling her isn’t helping.

[@pamelalaub6204]

It wasn't just about her sister stealing an iPad. It was a gift from her boyfriend. Shame on the mother for not supporting the daughter whose iPad and other things were stolen by her younger sister. I'm glad the thief returned evetything. She probably thought she'd get to have her party.

[@D-me-dream-smp]

I’m wondering if the mom’s reaction is partly due to being jealous that the older daughter is getting all these expensive nice gifts from her boyfriend and enjoys seeing her get her things destroyed. Regardless she’s a lousy mother to both kids b

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

@@D-me-dream-smp That daughter clearly has some mental problems. She’s a compulsive thief. I’m not saying that her mother also doesn’t spoil her and enables her, I’m just thinking that she has problems in addition to being a spoiled thief.

[@carlrood4457]

When someone says, "I got a bonus, let's all go out an celebrate!" and isn't implying they're going to be the one paying WITH that bonus?

[@inkbottle6609]

The husband locked out of the room still had access to food, water and a bathroom. She hadn't, thanks to him. Fuck him being late she could have died if she had any kind of medical condition. This is literally a CRIME for fucks sake

[@littlegreycat]

In the US you cannot lock another adult in a room. It’s called false imprisonment or is labeled a type of kidnapping. If anyone does this, they are more than likely a dangerous person.

[@SkyEcho751]

I'm re-listening to the Pet story(around 1 hour and 30 minutes in) and WOW those people were cruel. They were intentionally messing with OP, trying to get OP to not come so they could say "We offered to return her, but the original Owner wasn't willing to get her back.".

[@MsMookalate]

Yeah the pup knew where home really was

[@inkbottle6609]

Yeah. I felt this exactly. Why was the other family going back on their word all the time? I'm sure they gad something planned i just cant understand what or why (like posting to milk some likes idk) but it was so so weird that I changed my mind about who should have the puppy and im glad OP got her back. They clearly didn't wanted the dog purely bc they loved them.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

Ya know who else was cruel? The YTA commenters. What part of her being a service member do they not understand? She had NO control over where/when she could be. I wanted to reach out and strangle them right through my phone. Plus, this IS a Service Dog. Her husband needs to get a grip. Maybe she could have an outside professional ( trainer of SDs) sit down and explain to him exactly what that is, and tell him that he needs to get over himself (in a professional manner, of course).

[@amandarose4469]

OMG you should never leave a kid in a car. I remember a child dying over a decade ago. Never forgot.

[@MsMookalate]

That’s literally every year here in America.

[@gryphenicedancer8796]

@@MsMookalate Yep, ever since it was decreed that the backseat was "safer" More babies have died every year than ever died from being in the front.

[@MmmKayHuuNay]

OP is immature to not care as much as he should, it should end in divorce or long-term therapy she has the mind of a teen...so does op for being okay with it.

[@MsMookalate]

@@MmmKayHuuNay I think you comment under the wrong comment because your not making sense.

[@omnipossum92]

In her defence, the AC was on, but at the same time, unlocked?? Not on!

[@knitwit9447]

Holy shit the update to the story about imposing culture is wild! Apparently the boyfriend crafted some harebrained plan to get the parents off his back about marriage. He lied to the parents about being in a fight with OP, texted her from the father's phone, and wanted to coerce her into an open relationship. She kicked his ass to the curb and the parents said she can keep coming to dinner but he isn't welcome.

[@riku1344]

I think that the guy who hates that his wife uses tampons is because he only wants one ☝️ thing to enter into his wife’s blank and that he’s jealous of the tampons

[@beastshawnee]

Tampon box…In college I found out that many men think that a tampon is a sexual device that we can “feel” them up there because we can “feel” their penis during sex. When I pointed out that it’s more that we feel the motion and pressure in the deeper parts-and tampons have neither motion not pressure unless they fit poorly or are too dry…well they were shocked! Men are just not well educated on women’s bodies. I said the specific outer areas are more sensitive than the insides but that all women are a bit different however that is the general way of it-Once the tampon is in place and damp it feels like it disappears and we can even forget one is in. Same for the cups.

[@seraphiccandy21]

The story from 1:50:00 had an update. Turns out it WAS the boyfriend gaslighting her. The parents were super nice and liked the gifts.

[@ailoriarayne5086]

OP needs to dump that monster and keep his parents

[@iguessso1790]

If i remember correctly she was still allowed to go over for dinner but the son wasn't anymore for the while being

[@AshleeWynn]

"No mother should experience the fear I put her through" then don't put you or your child in an entirely avoidable situation. Absolutely NTA and honestly, I'd reconsidered my marriage, I'd demand couples and personal counseling and if refused I would divorce and file for full custody. There's a far deeper issue here and it's that she is unwilling to accept blame for her actions, that she is far too selfish and too self absorbed to properly parent and care for a child. You never leave a child alone outside of the home. Ever.

[@Because-rt8qs]

If they get divorce she'll have the kid when he won't be there to supervise.

[@jazminehollister3967]

UPDATE: AITA for "imposing my culture" even though I thought I was just being nice? UPDATE First of all I just want to thank everyone for the overwhelming support and replies on my first post. I'm looking forward to going over to everyone's houses for dinner and I'll be sure to bring all the things you said you liked :-) many flower lovers out there! I'm now also apparently the DIL to a lot of hopeful parents that replied as well so I hope I can deliver on expectations! --- After my last update I told my bf I was sick and tired of him dancing around the issue with his parents and I was going to go over to their house whether he liked it or not. At this point I think he realized that whatever he was doing had backfired so he sat down all angry and told me he'd explain. I sat and he told me that he'd done something very spur of the moment and that he'd texted me from his dad's phone then blocked the number but begged me to listen. That he just needed to get his parents off me for a while and to not leave. Apparently his parents had started hinting at him about marriage since my bf and I talked a lot about it. I fully expected to marry him as I said in another comment, and was honestly expecting a proposal in late spring since that's when we met. Four years dating didn't bother me but I was getting excited to settle down. However, my bf apparently realized that he absolutely didn't want to commit to anything and wanted to experiment and have fun since I "wasn't being fun anymore". Honestly that just made me cry since we were each other's firsts for everything and usually very good at communicating our needs. His grand plan was to get him mad at me so I would beg for forgiveness and then he'd only accept an open relationship as an answer. Absolutely brilliant plan I know. He'd made up his parents getting mad but didn't expect me to blow off dinner completely and it's like "hitting a jackpot", his words not mine. He went over for dinner, hid the flowers and said we'd gotten into a huge fight but he was "going to fix it" but I needed space. After he confessed all this he said he was very sorry but really didn't want to miss out on new experiences when he was still young and would I consider an open relationship but pretend ours was strained with his parents so they wouldn't get suspicious? And.....I laughed. I laughed his ass right out the door and told him absolutely not and to leave me alone while I packed because I wanted to have some new experiences too!!! He never stopped begging me to stay but I left to sleep at a friend's. After calming down for a few days I cemented the breakup and finally, actually went over to his parent's. My ex-bf's dad never even noticed the phone missing but still apologized and his mom was a mess. I did and still love them and will eat dinner there without him as often as I can. I won't lie that I'm sad about four years down the drain, but that's life. And if that was my ex's best possible plan then I dodged the bullet by a mile.

[@luvondarox]

800$? That is a whole month's rent in some states. Promising to "pay it back" when he doesn't even have a job is just... holy crap.

[@Shinukuro]

For the wife who didn’t want her husband in the delivery room I really wonder if she was cheating on him and was worried the baby is not his………

[@HeoBaby24]

Time stamp?

[@MsMookalate]

He probably made a joke or comment or she researched the birthing process and didn’t like the outcome. It’s different from research and watching others do it than actually witnessing yourself.

[@SherriLyle80s]

@@HeoBaby24 32:00

[@davidrooks3274]

when were having our first child I was kicked out of the room by my wife because everything I was doing was bugging her, I went to the cafeteria and got her mom to go be with her, her mom talked to her, got her settled down and came back and got me, then we both went back, watching my kids being born was the best feeling in the world, and I would have stayed even if she would have had to have a C-section

[@venesa5802]

I was coming to the comments to say this.... gonna assume in case baby didn't come out the shade he was supposed to. That was my first reaction before even hearing the rest of the story, and I still stand by that now

[@blackice7023]

This is a real possiblilty....my dad left his keys in the car without it running so he could fill tires with air. As he did so a guy jumped i to the car and almost ran my dad over as he took the car. Another day someone stole a car with sleeping kid in the car. When that person realized there was a kid in the car, they dumped it on the side of a side street. It was several hours before the car and child was found. TGIF the kid was OK. Never leave a child in the car for any reason. That can be considered child neglect. Which is illeagal.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

Did you see the news story that happened in the last year. Some guy stole a car from some parking lot; it might have been a convenience store. The woman left the baby in the car seat and went inside. The thief noticed the baby in the car AFTER he stole it, returned the baby, and LECTURED THE MOM. 😂Then he went off with the car again. He was caught, but ya know you’re an idiot when a car thief returns just to give you back your baby and tell you what a moron you are.

[@cynthiathompson6427]

Our dog would always come back to us. I just know . Once I was in the hospital for 11 days and he sat by the door waiting for me the whole time and spent some time with my sister who he can smell is my sister and like me. He loves my husband too but it’s different -ish. They have their own special bond and things they do. Anyway one time an elderly person who moved slow was at my house while we were at work . He got out at some point because of them being slow. We drove all over and couldn’t find him. Finally I called animal control and they took my number . I soon received a call from a woman who had found the dog but kept him rather than take him in . I went to her art studio. She had bathed him and he had been sitting by the door greeting her students all day long. She said that she knew he was ours because before we even came through the door he jumped up wagging and he had sat there depressed all day long looking sad and wondering what kind of trouble he had gotten himself into. If you ever find a dog, as long as it is well fed ( I don’t say clean because some dogs will dirty themselves as soon as they can after baths) anyway always look for the owner . They will be so depressed when removed from those they love.

[@danisonice.]

We really need to get over this whole notion of "the second hair is off your head, it's unhygienic" it's dead either way! It's literally on your head 24/7. It doesn't get oily or dirty once you cut it off 🤣

[@rebecca4480]

People find the thought of real hair teddy bears weird but People use real hair to make wings and wear them 🤔

[@kristinwiebold2433]

Story around 1:04:43. OP NTA. Your sister is a thief and your mom shouldnt be enabling her and yelling at you. She should be punishing your sister just like your dad. If your dad divorced your mom and let her keep your sister while keeping you, I wonder if your mom's attitude would change once your sister was stealing from her and not you. But OP being given the money that is intended for sisters bday is fair. Since sister had no right to take what she did and was responsible for it. It being stolen again is the sister's fault not OP's and sister needs the pay the consequences.

[@cchastant8251]

6:34 Group Projects Actually had my first taste of this in high school in a chemistry class. We were divided into groups of three, and were to take turns at a) doing the physical experiment with the others watching/helping b) recording the data c) making the data/conclusions look pretty It only took one round of this for my group to put the artist (me) in charge of writing up our group report in the proper format, which both of the other two had issues with doing. They chose this, and after seeing how... how awful both of their reports looked, I wasn't about to argue with them over that. I could do the other parts okay, but they couldn't switch up to make the reports look as nice as I did, and we all were graded on each of the three parts. Meaning, even though we were to switch up who did what for the group, we shared whatever grade was earned on each part, which were then averaged into the final grade for the project. My reports using our data always got A's. They were beautiful, clear, easy to read, and for the extra plus, I used a colorful array of highlighters to color parts of the experiment. This was in the dark days before everyone, EVERYONE having a home computer, if not a laptop for school work. The teacher had to know that we only rotated all the duties once, and likely understood that we, wanting the best grades possible, let the ones best at each portion take that up (if we so chose, I didn't pay attention to the others' dynamics). A second group project, also in that same high school, was in Economics. We split into groups of 4-5, and each week gained one more aspect of control over creating our own "wigets." Didn't actually =make= anything, and this is more than 30 years ago. But we got to play with how much money we put into R&D, into advertising, and several other things we got to change up aspects of. Like I said, 30+ years ago. We had a social butterfly. He never did anything to help in all the assigned parts of the task. What he DID do, was find out what everyone else was up to, and since he was ALWAYS a social butterfly, no one seemed to think twice about his part in wandering around. The rest of our group, not really thinking much of his wandering around at first, sighed, shrugged, rolled our eyes, and buckled down to do the work without him. When things reached a point (after the first few weeks) of his information being able to HELP, we were grateful we'd not gotten nasty about his not helping with the assigned work. He was a good-hearted kid, never claimed credit for himself that others did the work on, but... I think he felt he was doing his part in spying on the rest. And his spying DID help. The third group project saw me paired with the social butterfly a second time, which is when I found out for certain he didn't even try claiming credit for the work of others, but was quite willing to own up to "...who painted these 3-of-4 BEAUTIFULLY done sunny hillsides...? (for the play, "Brigadoon") Mind, I was currently painting the 3rd one to the butterfly's first rolling hillside. And the butterfly, not being an artist, was painting the way our special advisor recommended, and followed those instructions faithfully. Which was, we had three shades of green for the hills: bright spring, medium green, and a blah army green. Take a paint brush loaded with one color, and another loaded with a different green, hold them together and paint. That was it. If you've painted before, you know that just blends the two shades together. I did =try= it the advisor's way, as this was different paint from what I usually used, and there was SOME chance it was different enough that the rules for working it might also be different. Not that different. So. Having tried the advisor's way, I covered mine completely with the army green for a base, then switched off between the other two colors for sunny hilltops and slope definition, with occasional touches of added army green. Butterfly's work ended up being all army-ish green. So when the advisor walked up to the butterfly's still in progress FIRST panel to my third, and asked the butterfly why his didn't look like the rest, he readily gave me the credit, and freely admitted mine looked better, while I was keeping my head down and painting my third... because I was not following his instructions, which our teacher had told us to follow. I expected to get yelled at for bucking orders, but instead, got assigned more of the painting work for the set design, which I was okay with. He had no issues with my being better at knowing how to paint than he, the advisor. I still wonder why I was expecting him to change tune on how good my work was, in spite of the evidence. And yes, I got to repaint the fourth panel of hillside to match the other three. The BAR backdrop (near the end of the play) The well, especially the rocks Trees, and the bits of "trees" that softened up either upper corner of the stage Shrubs It was a lot of painting, but with everyone else doing the construction, having those best at painting focusing on painting made a lot of sense.

[@mothertrucker936]

BF stole $800: NTA and run. This guy is a bundle of nothing. He’ll have you as paranoid as he is eventually and who says he hasn’t already stolen from you to quote help, someone else. He’s NOT a good guy. He’s got a hero complex and doesn’t care how he gets the accolades

[@marleybee1946]

Wife would be in much worse shape if someone had called the police and had CPS involved.

[@MmmKayHuuNay]

HUSBAND SHOULD DIVORCE, wtf this woman is neglecting his baby regularly she should never be able to watch him again, he needs to divorce and get full custody!!! He's playing. games with his baby's life. She's proven herself untrustworthy TWICE wtf CPS would intervene if they knew about it just the once. OP is immature af and thinks only his wife would be responsible when he knows she regularly does this. They'd both go to jail. It's not a "talking to" needed it's never trusted again psycho!

[@danganryanne9499]

@@MmmKayHuuNay OP said that they'll be getting help, and she isn't allowed to be alone with the baby

[@valzeppelin5153]

Letting mother die: They kicked you out, then they didn't attempt any contact until they needed an organ. The mother could wait a year on dialysis for the sister to heal up, since sister is the one that decided to get you kicked out. The sister might only be saying she is 3 months, so she doesn't have to actually donate her organ. Nope. You are not a free on-call organ store.

[@neil999ish]

The only "I only left them alone for a minute" has become the cry for some of the most heartbreaking child death's, kidnapping's etc. Perhap's op should have "searched" online for news stories etc about this subject and shown his wife. I will not call him an ah for doing what he did. Wondering if he could enlist "family" to help him get through to his wife about the "danger" of leaving children alone for a "minute" and possible consequences. Even at home leaving a child alone for a "minute" can be dangerous.

[@lucasdieugenio507]

In my experience parents not worried about outside abuse are usually abusive themselves. Very scared for story 1

[@fleurpouvior2967]

Op with the weird tampon hubby, should start refering to them as blood diapers, and leaving the used ones openly all over the place. By the sink, on the side of the toilet, stuck to his pants when he walks out the door, etc. Also, cudfle at night and bleed on him. He wants oads, he can be welcomed to first hand experience as to why many women prefer tampons. That said, I recommend cups personally. They're safer and leak less

[@Krisna_K]

Long time kidney failure patient here: Kidney failure sucks but it doesn’t mean you’ll die tomorrow! I should know! Mine failed in 1979 when I was just seven years old! I’ve had four kidney transplants which have all failed by now! In September 2022 it will be 20 years since I went back on hemodialysis! There are several choices for dialysis treatments including ones you can do at home! Hemodialysis (the kind I do) involves needles in an access placed by a surgeon! Peritoneal Dialysis is another type and I don’t know anything about because I was never a candidate! Just doing the testing for a transplant will take time and there’s no guarantee any family member will be a viable match or that the recipient would be allowed to have a transplant! I wouldn’t get tested for my parent either if they treated me like that (and I were healthy)! They disowned OP and then come begging! Dialysis sucks but it beats the alternative!

[@immortalsofar5314]

Regarding throwing away tampons, send him out to buy you another box! If OP is feeling petty, she could mention the cup and the leave a 40oz big-gulp in the bathroom "for those extra heavy days". Seriously, if the guy thinks this is acceptable behaviour after 2 months of marriage then he needs dumping and if he as a problem with rotten cotton, I can recommend a movie for him: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fIvEpIh3fMlkY7M

[@sigisig3941]

I think that he belifes there "stimulate" here, I read that some dudes think there like little vibrators. It is so dump and funny. I would bleed on everyhing he loves.

[@MsMookalate]

The disrespect step-daughter and mother need to go to counseling. Also, she can have the photos in her room. Anyone saying saying that mini Karen in the making is alright shows their entitlement.

[@ReddMaryJ]

I agree the photos can be in her room. It is his house and she has to respect that and she isn't showing any respect. They need counseling but never give the child the power. Kids do not know what to do with power and always abuse it. I call my house my house when i am putting my foot down(not that i had to much) it's normal but mostly i say our home meaning my kids and me. It's a slip we all do such as my kid and so on. My daughter's rooms are thier rooms. As long as they are clean I am good. Rest of the house as they are adult now they get a say and we like doing stuff together so it works out well. Logic and reason is best way to be.

[@melaniescribbles]

//sees the title on that period story Well, that's an NTA if I've ever seen one. After hearing it all, I do have to say that OP shouldn't have tried to 'keep the peace' on this one. Your body your choice indeed, normal men don't touch period products out of the blue like that, and it's a big ' ol red flag that he calls THIS emotional abuse. Like, a red flag with neon signs around it. Look, I'm a survivor of that myself, believe me or not, because I know that abuse targets are not really taken seriously to begin with (gotta wonder where my C-PTSD comes from if I'm supposedly lying about that, though). But it got to a point where I can now pinpoint the early signs of one like nobody's business. So from that perspective, I can safely say: this is not emotional abuse, OP is not an abuser. And given how this is sort of a pattern: I'm worried about her.

[@inkbottle6609]

All those storys about recently divorced parents and their children being in a new relationship always forgive some absurd behaviours. The picture frame story, yes OP could have handled things better, but lets not forget that the daughter was also in the wrong. Doesn't matter that she is hurt, is understandable but not instantly forgivable, the same as mental illness lashouts. OP should have the right to chose what photos are disposed in the house where they live. Its his house bc she doesn't consider it as hers as well. For the love of God is he supposed to stay there and be stepped on by a 14yo? He has the right to stand his ground, the only right he DOESN'T have is to disrespect (te same way she is doing to him) and/or overrule her mother. She is a minor but she already have the thinking ability to see she's being kinda unreasonable as well. Just sit down and talk please

[@kierstenfish9324]

my husband has a picture of the exact box of tampons I use stored in his phone so if I need some he knows which ones to get. yeah your so can be uncomfortable about it but it ultimately isn't their choice to make decisions based on an item only you use and need.

[@jaheje7079]

I feel so bad for not doing my parts of groups assignments. I just really didn't care about school because as foster kid, all the court and custody crap so way too overwhelming to care about learning French or completing that group book. Sorry, Ashley. That book was great, I still have it a decade later 😭

[@cass973]

The mom that wants OPs kidney only wants OPs and not the sisters because it would put the sister in danger and not because she is pregnant.

[@sonderhaven7399]

Story 2: having a baby involves a lot more vulnerable bodily functions than people expect, like involuntary pooping and tearing, and people who are pregnant can change agreements to protect their body autonomy. The birth isn’t about his experience and entertainment. He couldn’t sit bored for a day to be support if needed? His response shows a defensiveness and selfishness that would make sense to feel vulnerable around if someone was in a vulnerable position. She may have been afraid that he would be grossed out by the birthing process and change his opinion of her and her body.

[@jasonstrong9974]

or she was not sure it would come out the right color

[@batsnghostz]

She didn’t discuss it with him on purpose. Mom is the asshole, no matter her reasoning for not wanting the father there.

[@slackz5790]

I was literally just saying “oh man I watched all of his videos I’m bored” and he posts ha!

[@callmema14]

Same! I listen at work and this came right on time.

[@carlrood4457]

1. Who has a bedroom that locks from the outside? 2. I'm pretty sure this qualifies as wrongful imprisonment.

[@TalaPedro]

I'm not even pregnant and I've told my partner I don't want him in the room because I don't want him to see me like that

[@NickanM]

You have the choice, just like I had when I had our two sons. The problem here is that she NEVER told him that outright to his face. It is assumed that the dad will be present, so of course he believed that he would be present to welcome his son to the world.

[@stuartfaulds1580]

Aye, HR is there to Shaft you and ignore workplace bullying.

[@inthewindago]

My daughter had a hard time when I went back to work. She was still little and had been used to me always being there. So I made a Mommy Doll. I made essential a voodoo doll of myself. Giving the doll my hair for it’s head. This way, she could always have me close to her. I told her that if she held it and sent her love to me. I would feel it. It brought her comfort and ease. No creeper feeling were even mentioned.

[@heleneclark563]

About the gift giving: Nothing wrong with giving a hostess gift. Definitely talk to the parents yourself. Explain to them how it’s apart of your culture.

[@carlrood4457]

I'm white and my family has been here for generations and as far as I know, it's common practice to bring wine or dessert when invited to dinner.

[@carlrood4457]

It's a pretty standard exchange. Guest brings a small gift. Host says, "Thank you, that wasn't necessary." Hell, in JAWS, when Hooper comes to the Brody's for dinner, he brought two bottles of wine, one red one white because he didn't know what meal they were serving. That came out in 1975.

[@LadyMaverick823]

Dude I was raised Latter-Day Saint (Mormons) but out in Texas way outside the Utah bubble, and these parents aren't the normal ones. While I've met a few nut bags like these.. This is absolutely crazy. We never had purity rings and this blatant racism was not common. My brother married a lovely Laotian woman and they have two awesome kids. While I'm not active and have steered more into Omnism , these people give actual good members of the faith really bad names. NTA, they threw you out and disowned you.

[@rhondasisco-cleveland2665]

Children need boundaries and consequences. It’s unhealthy to allow disrespect. Period

[@MoostachedSaiyanPrince]

OP from the first story absolutely is not the a-hole. His wife left her child alone in a running car. Any random person could've come along and stolen the car and/or kidnapped the child. Worst still, if they took the car without realizing the child was there, they could end up abandoning the child someace even more dangerous if they didn't want to look like a kidnapper. On top of that, her initial reaction to OP's "trick" shows that she hadn't learned her lesson from it. The update indicates that she's finally getting some help, and hopefully for everyone involved, she manages to turn things around.

[@tinawrenn8026]

Omg, I was barely 23, and I had a 2 and a half year old and a new born being married and I took both of my children every where I went. They were glued to my side. I could never have left them in a car by themselves. Infact they were preteens before I did that. I always thought 'what if'.......

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Wtf is up with the first comment of the service dog post? They voted NTA and then proceeded to tear into OP and chastise her, basically calling her an AH. So which is it, is she the AH or not?

[@MsMookalate]

I think it was a typo

[@delmaplain5358]

NTA! She got a much needed lesson! The whole time she was away from the car, your son was at risk, and if someone had seen this, called the cops, they would have involved CPS. Her negligence could have caused you to lose your child!

[@cheallaigh]

i'm first gen canuck... having scots/irish parents... and gee, oddly enough i was taught the gift routine as well. like really, you go to a dinner or a party and you bring a small gift to compliment the host.

[@NickanM]

Swedish person here. I usually give a bottle of wine when invited to a dinner etc. It is common sense.

[@cheallaigh]

@@NickanM that bf was just a dick period and an ignorant one.

[@carlrood4457]

Yeah, it's not an unusual custom here in the US, either. Can't tell you how many last minute liquor store trips my wife made me take, because I tend to put it off.

[@ronnieferguson9337]

I’m quite sure that OP has already brought up ALL of those issues MULTIPLE times and absolutely NOTHING was done! 🙄 SHE SAID, WHAT SHE SAID! Malicious compliance! AND?!?

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

OP is NTA and he needs to get to the bottom of this. She must have PPD and needs help.

[@morgantrias3103]

"I said she shouldn't go to a wedding with an abuser, then" hilarious. Perfect. When people throw abuse descriptors over trivial shit, this is the response I will think of.

[@batsnghostz]

Iconic of him honestly

[@sleepingkirby]

37:50 "We, as a couple, should talk about our discomfort..." If I was her. "Yes, we should. Let me start. I'M BLEEDING BLOOD CLOTS INTO MY UNDERWEAR BECAUSE YOU, WITHOUT NOTIFYING ME, THREW AWAY MY TAMPONS!!! DO YOU KNOW HOW UNCOMFORTABLE IT IS TO WALK AROUND WITH AN UNDERWEAR SOAKED IN BLOOD AND BLOOD CLOTS?!?" Him: "Well, you can use pads." Her: "Let's continue talking about discomfort. DO YOU KNOW HOW UNCOMFORTABLE IT IS TO HAVE WEAR, WHAT'S ESSENTIALLY A SMALLER, BLOOD-SOAKED DIAPER STICKIED INTO THE INSIDE OF YOUR UNDERWEAR ALL DAY?!? Or did you just want to talk about your emotional discomfort at the cost of my physical comfort?" Like, I'm a man. I've never had a period and even I know this sh*t. I paused the video at this time stamp so I haven't heard the update. But I'm willing to bet he's uncomfortable because he feels his d*ck is the only thing that should go inside her and/or he feels that tampons will be larger than his d*ck and he's insecure that tampons will "make her looser", because that's what Christian s*x ed makes you think for male insecurity reasons.

[@lalalovengun]

I remembered Story 1: and how many called the father the asshole for traumatizing his wife and should have done things differently instead of scaring her. While I agree that traumatizing someone to teach them a lesson isn’t good, it came across like the mother’s feelings were more important than the baby’s safety. Her defending her actions floored me!! Just because she felt that way won’t deter child predators from snatching that baby for her to never see again. How would her feelings matter then? -> “I was manipulated by your silent treatment to agree that what you did is no big deal and to not hold you accountable for the safety of our son. Now I’ve lost my son and my wife that fateful day, for the guilt will eat at both of us.”

[@RaspberryHugs]

"I'm so glad she realised what she did was wrong" No. She. DIDN'T. When everyone was getting a group grade she wasn't taking it seriously and wouldn't do her side of the work because she wanted to go out club hopping and to bars instead. The moment it became known that each person was being graded individually THAT is when she suddenly got her act together. She learnt nothing. She was planning to coast by on everyone else's work and the moment she realised that wasn't going to happen she panicked. Guarantee she'd do this again if it was a group grade

[@MsMookalate]

That whole ex being family vs actually family (even though they not married yet but continuing the bloodline thanks to the sacrifice of op) is very disrespectful and the family knows this no matter what. This is something that needs to be addressed because me and my kids’s father had this issue he steps in when he feels like it but goes behind my back to contradict his own words. So, I lost respect for him for that also.

[@Mathilde1469]

‘No one likes group projects’. Guess what happens when someone meets the workplace.

[@katx9697]

I'm British and that's how we do it, always bring wine to a party.

[@melvinyoung3474]

When 1 student will affect the grade of any other, inform someone in authority.

[@dead_vibes]

Id absolutely divorce this woman. "No mother should ever go through that" Correct no mother WOULD ever put her child through that.

[@coyoteodinkar5548]

Okay, before the update on the father who went home because he was excluded. Very much not the asshole and I'm going to go one step further and say the reason why he was excluded is because the baby could have come out not looking like him in the slightest to the point of a different skin color, and she wanted the two people who know about her affair to be there to support her in that case.

[@juliearaiza3465]

Group grades: my sister had Group projects for every class she had in college. Every time there was one person that did absolutely nothing or such a poor job that my sister not only did her portion of the project, the conclusion, compiled all the sections of project and the missing section. The slacker got the same grade as everyone else. First couple of times she alerted the teacher and was told that if any section was missing the entire group would lose the points equally. Such b.s.

[@carlrood4457]

When I read the mom said "accidents happen", it pissed me off. One of the things it's important to teach my kids is that just because something's and accident or unintentional doesn't mean you're not responsible for the outcome. Accidents do happen, but you have to atone for your mistakes.

[@kristinwiebold2433]

"No mother should go through that" OP'S wife should be glad that it was her husband and not some random people who took the baby. Heck with the doors not locked someone could have stolen the car and not noticed a baby in back babies and toddlers have no way to call cops so she truly needed an waking.

[@mattiekarwin3667]

I love the story about the guy leaving the hospital. You can see the YTAs building, and then right before terminal velocity OP clicks the ball with the back of his golfclub in the comments and it shoots into NTA as mach 10.

[@valzeppelin5153]

Running Sweat : So Will thinks that the wife sweats too much while running? 1st, everyone sweats while running. 2nd, if he is making all those gains without sweat, then he is using steroids. 3rd, If he was noticing her sweat, then he was paying entirely too much attention to her while running. He was supposed to be next to her, and he clearly wasn't because he fell behind and watched her the whole run. So either he only wanted her to run with him, so he could enjoy the show, or he only wanted her to run with him so he could out run her and brag. Honestly, he probably made sexual comments about her body while she was running, and she probably told him to knock it off. So he got mad and is trying to put her down in the only way he could. That's probably why she wasn't phased by his comments. OP needs to ask his wife what actually happened, because OP doesn't have the full story.

[@batsnghostz]

Before the issue was said I assumed he sexually harassed her and I’m still convinced he did

[@missflowerpower8724]

Story about the thieving sister… Our son had the sticky, five-finger discount disease. It was AWFUL! He is a responsible adult now and would be horrified if one of his kids did the things he did. In addition to changing the safe’s lock code, change the bedroom lock with a HOUSE, LOCKING doorknob with key only access. We did this to our bedroom door and it helped A LOT!! Also, older sis and her BF have the only keys WHICH THEY WEAR 24/7/365 since neither sis nor mom can be trusted!! Consequences must be meted out or life lessons are never learned!!

[@sarahhannah4418]

The story about the tampon hating husband had me rolling in my seat. I've seen a few other people in the comments mention it already, and I agree; his 'discomfort' is absolutely rooted in him not wanting her to use an item that requires insertion. He's most likely one of those people who perceives insertion as something that is ALWAYS sexual in nature, hence why he's deemed it inappropriate. There's also likely an element of control he feels that he's entitled to over her body because she's his wife, and therefore he thinks he 'owns' her sexuality. Yuck...

[@sleepingkirby]

42:45 "Many of you may balk at the door..." If by "balk" you mean "amazed and a little jealous" then, yes. I "balk" at this. This sounds AMAZING. Also, at one point in my life, I lived next to my cousins. Like our backyard was next each other. So my grandfather (who owned the houses), made a stair way from on back yard to the other and knocked out part of the fence to connect the two backyards. This worked out great. It was literally the best of both worlds.

[@BloodyMoon1]

So the story about the tampons....how small you gotta be to be insecure about tampons?

[@carlrood4457]

I didn't really think the kid was a bad guy until the stealing. It sounds like he experienced some trauma and feels guilt, probably for something he was too young to have actually done anything about. To keep with the superhero theme as an extreme example. It's like a 10 year old watches his parents killed and be grows up to be Batman. Most likely, he blames himself for his parents' divorce and/or that his father doesn't care about him and thinks if he's perfect, he'll get that love. It's probably his dad's approval that made him willing to steal, which seems opposite to the rest of his actions.

[@jdd9993]

Will is an insensitive jerk and deserved to get kicked out. Irene is a very gracious person.

[@jaggirl]

I think that was a good lesson learnt by his wife. No, this dad is not an ahole..

[@brat8360]

the one with the 10yr old getting her hair done & ears pierced, hair grows back, holes grow over, but tattoos are forever! a few piercings are really not that big of a deal!

[@wordforger]

Hero Complex BF: I really think that this guy has some kind of issues around his parents. Since you mention Dad's GF, it sounds like the parents are separated. My guess? Dad abandoned family and is a bit of a deadbeat. Eight hundred dollars sounds like a bit of a drug habit or something because who else asks their jobless son for money, especially for something as stupid as lost jewelry? Son is either trying to gain approval/affection from Dad because dad is bad at giving it. Further, I think Dad likely says all kinds of things about the BF's mom to excuse his own failings. Likely the kid thinks it is his fault if things go wrong around him, so he does all he can to keep bad things from happening. This kid needs therapy to help him recognize this in himself because right now he's in a toxic headspace that will cause him even worse trouble further down the line if there's no intervention. ETA: Ah, yeah, parentification sounds about right too. But that likely stems from the other with Mom relying on him to take care of the kids while she does other stuff.

[@ec9833]

I’m a mama, youngest still at home is a young teen…my eldest daughter, turning 20 in a couple months, she still knows the drill. If we’re driving around together & I leave her in the car, taking the keys, I knock twice as I’m walking away which reminds her to lock herself in. Which is to say…I would never leave the BABIES/TODDLERS in the car, and still would never leave my teens in the car without them locking it = NTA 1st story dad. Nope. Wanna give him an award and the mama some therapy sessions or something. Edited to say…wow…I felt badly for leaving the therapy comment, thinking someone might take it the wrong way. But…boom. Mama needs therapy.

[@suehirsch6545]

Re hubby throwing away tampons: NTA!!(10000000000000000) He's clearly a controlling narcissist who doubled down by returning home to play the victim and crying crocodile tears saying that you don't take his "discomfort" into account. Projection much? Did he take your MEDICAL CONDITION AND PAIN INTO ACCT. BEFORE CHUCKING OUT YOUR TAMPONS? Did he take into account that you would be too uncomfortable to go buy more, when you had your next period? His throwing away your tampons was in fact, STEALING, btw, because you paid MONEY for them. He needs to replace them and get himself help for his narcissism and control issues. While he's out doing his first counseling session, you need to change the locks, and hide a bunch of his important belongings that he will miss. When he gets back let him in, but don't give him the key. Tell him that for each month that he DOESN'T touch your stuff, you'll give him back ONE of his precious belongings, and at the end of the year, you'll give him his own key to the house and whatever is left of his stuff that you still have. Precious belongings you could take: Family heirlooms. Whatever he uses to take papers to work outside the home. TV remotes. His favorite tv watching chair. His favorite mug. Pillows. His bowling ball and or other sports equipment. His razors and other personal hygiene stuff. All but one or 2 outfits and one pair of shoes. Favorite slippers and sleepwear. Fave art objects. Fave cooking implements. Books. Stop his fave mag subscriptions. If he doesn't like the idea of being made UNCOMFORTABLE by not having his creature comforts for a while, then tell him that the alternative is separation/divorce or his signing and dating a contract that he will never touch your stuff AGAIN. Make sure that the word "again" makes it into that contract along with his confession of chucking your tampons. He'd be laughed out of any court for the argument that your tampons made HIM uncomfortable, and he be shamed in court for having made you feel that you had to HIDE them.

[@TheIronwil]

Story 1: People like OP’s wife absolutely infuriate me. She blows off an obvious danger because it’s inconvenient for her to take her child out of the car seat. I cannot believe a grown adult would leave a baby in an unlocked, unattended car. That’s so incredibly stupid that I lack the words to describe it.

[@staylor3483]

Sister-Thief: tell mom & Sis they have 2 choices: 1. Party $$ to you to replace what was stolen, or 2. You file charges for theft & sue for the value of the iPad. See how fast they agree to losing the party. If someone doesn't stop her thieving now, it will continue until she is arrested & has to do serious time. Stick to your confictions OP & get out of that house asap. NTA

[@juliearaiza3465]

Nta: can't you put the hair into another enclosure that is a barrier so the hair can't get out of the bear. That way your daughter can have the bear and your wife knows that the hair can't get out

[@snarky4lyfe144]

the entitled boyfriend demanding the title of "father " is wrong . i am also an extra "parent figure" in my Fiancée's kids' lives , i do not ask them to call me anything but what they are comfortable with , they can call me by my first name or mom , its whatever they want , though they have all told me they wish i was their birth mother , i call them my extra kids , and his youngest daughter gets upset and tells me to just call them all "my kids" so now i do . My children love me as if i gave them life myself . my own kid has disowned me so having my fiancées kids wanting to fill my heart makes me warm and feel loved , and i hope i make them feel the same way ! i would never try to take the title of mother from their actual birth giver ( she is no mother , but i do not talk crap about her to the children , who are 13 and 16 )