My Mom Decided To Suddenly Get Married To Her New BF 1 Week Before My Wedding r/Relationships

[@sergeipohkerova7211]

Probably she's the kind of mom who makes tiktoks whining about how her daughter went no contact "for no reason" despite her being a "perfect mom who loves her soooo much" 🙄

[@ACAB.forcutie]

Missing missing reasons

[@petitmains]

@@thecrowuknow hey...uh was she Blonde and in her 60's and giving off a low-key cock hungry vibe? I...just never know where my mom is gonna show up

[@weltonvillegal6258]

More like the type of 50 year old mom who thinks she’s 18. Mutton dressed as lamb on TikTok, thinking she’s trendy.

[@SCP01986]

@@thecrowuknow omg who? What video??

[@onepieceisking5493]

​@@thecrowuknowshows the stupidity of them thinking they'll get sympathy but shocked Pikachu face when they get torn apart because people know their true colors.

[@JoJoGranum]

I think 15 is definitely old enough to decide whether they are vegan or not. And parents didn’t insist on their teen eating vegan they just “assumed” without asking him.

[@jerrystauffer2351]

He a free thinker and he'd better think like them!

[@tully6648]

Story 2: I hate when people say they're raising their children to be "free thinkers," then turn around and get angry at them for making their own choices. Kiddo there is not a vegan by choice or necessity, and OP isn't TA for realizing that this wasn't a 'can't eat' situation. I hope the kid enjoyed himself while he could.

[@merrick1588]

likely almost gave himself Acute Bacon Poisoning that week lol

[@ScooterBond1970]

Ooooo, that sounds sickeningly delightful! 😋 As for the whole "free thinner but only if you agree with me" thing, it's something I hear about all the time over social media, from people on all sorts of issues on all sides with strong opinions. It's one reason I avoid social media (except KZbin, and even that can be sketch).

[@ALeXZVaMpYRoCkZ]

Free thinkers while controlling every choice they can for other people. Sounds a lot like my parents.

[@thisishowitends]

Thing is, though, I feel like that often happens with "free-range" parents. There's often one issue that they feel strongly about that they push on their kids. In the cases where those free range parents are also vegan, veganism tends to be the thing they push. I feel like OP should've picked up on that.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I don't understand how you can be jealous and in competion with your daughter. This is embarrassing and unhinged

[@paulastiles5507]

My dad once straight-up told me he was jealous of me and that he had always felt we were in competition with each other. I'd pretty much figured out that was how he felt years before, but what got me was how he seemed to think that was a perfectly normal attitude on his part.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@chryssesandchaos]

Maybe because some parents sees their kids are having the life that they wish they had? So they see their kids as competition or something.

[@paulastiles5507]

@@chryssesandchaosWell, that and my dad ticked every box on the malignant narcissist checklist years before that was a popular internet diagnosis.

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Aging mothers feeling jealous of their younger, attractive, successful daughters is not as uncommon as we'd like to think. In the earliest versions of Snow White, the wicked queen was Snow White's actual mother, not her stepmother. Yes, I know that was a fairy tale, but it says something about human nature.

[@SpiderRiderKya]

Second story: OP did give a sort of, small update in the comments as of a few hours ago. The update: Bennett and I have been texting since last night. I asked if he was okay and told him I wasn’t trying to rat him out with the Facebook post. He said not to worry about it and confirmed what many here suspect - that he’s been sneaking meat, eggs, dairy, and seafood for years. He indicated it was only “a matter of time” before his parents found out. I told him it wasn’t okay to lie to adults … but admitted I would’ve done the same thing if I were in his position. I asked him if there was anything I could do or say to make things easier for him. He said no. Although his parents were upset, they’re not going to punish him or anything like that. Looks like everyone just needs to cool down and the situation will resolve itself.

[@rebelks88]

Thanks for the “update”!

[@Callimo]

Pfft, it absolutely is ok to lie to an adult to keep yourself safe. Sometimes, not everyone needs to know and not every adult is safe :/

[@OmniscientlyMe]

If adults don't create a safe environment for the truth, lies is what they'll get.

[@ec4145]

Marrying someone you literally can't talk to is WILD. This old lady sounds like a total coocoo outside that, but that really blew me away. I guess as long as your cultural values roughly align and you can't argue about what doesn't...but, jeez, you can't even warn each other if there is a fire. Edit: spelling

[@juliearmfield2634]

Oh this old woman's way past cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs

[@MemristerBoogieDown]

The Benny Hill theme started playing in my head at "can't even warn each other if there's a fire". LOL!

[@kirinblirin]

It’s giving 90 day fiancée

[@lj0608]

Wait what parts that in!!! I didn't hear that at all I'm less than 5 minutes in

[@Wolfiechrm]

They probably won't last long if she can't be bothered to learn her SO's language

[@MysticMae21]

The kid said himself. Hes not vegan. His parents are. Yes, theres no nonvegan food in their house, so thats what he eats, but hes 15. He can decide if he wants to continue eating animal products away from his family when they arent there to police him.

[@LadyQuotes]

seriously, like, the kid is old enough to decide for himself.

[@HaliaStone]

I saw a comment on the post that had a good point - if he actually had been vegan, he’d’ve gotten sick from the sudden animal products after so long of not eating it. Since OP didn’t mention the kid got sick, he’s got to be eating that sort of stuff already behind his parent’s backs.

[@lux0rd01]

​@@HaliaStone this is why I'm gonna say with everyone sucks except the kid. Clearly the kid isn't against it but op feeding him meat could have made him sick if he's been vegan (his choice or not) for so long as body's can actually change to be unable to process meat.

[@mgaus]

​@@lux0rd01let me see if I follow your logic. OP is an a-hole for feeding the 15 year old what the 15 year old asked to eat.

[@ZombieMinion1992]

@@lux0rd01 I still wouldn’t say that OP is an asshole he asked the kid what he wanted. The kids said he could eat meat in the end the kids 15 and you can make it on choices end OP, as someone is not vegan, isn’t fully informed on how that works. Not knowing certain things doesn’t make someone an asshole. Op let a teenager make his own choices. If the kid is hiding his diet from his parents either he is an Ashoka or his parents are. Not op, who was just hosting and giving his guest what he said he wanted to eat.

[@DrownedInExile]

S1: Awww too bad OP didn't reverse mom's script. When she announced her shotgun wedding, answer with the most dry monotone Congratulations. I hope OP has learned her lesson, and makes that NC permanent. Toxic people don't change, they just get better at fooling you.

[@tully6648]

"And I'm sure I'm the last to hear about it" would've been a perfect starter.

[@adak5805]

This reminds of that say yes to the dress episode in which the mother of the bride decided to try dress while her daughter was in changing room.

[@poohbear4515]

I saw a clip of a bride trying on a dress and I think a jealous sister decided to put a dress on and was showing off to the family only for the bride to come out and see her moment completely destroyed. Can’t believe there’s people that can be such selfish assholes towards others that don’t deserve it.

[@spookyprizm8162]

I remember that one! I felt so bad for that bride…

[@adak5805]

@@poohbear4515 I rember that one too, it made me so mad. It was clear the family played favorites.

[@mbyerly9680]

It's often the future MIL who does this. She's busy getting wet at the idea of bedding her son while she's doing it.

[@christinesinclair6938]

S1: That mom's a narc. OP needs to keep their child far far away from her. S2: Militant Veganism isn't a religion. That's a false equivalency. The kid has a right to not be vegan.

[@simonO712]

S2: I would actually argue that certain forms of veganism _can_ be pretty religious in nature, but still side with OP. As in, if the parents had been muslims/jews and the kid not I would still have supported giving him pork or shrimps if he asked for it.

[@kateemma22]

Militant Veganism is definitely a cult.

[@SilverMKI]

The kid also has the right to their own religious beliefs and is certainly old enough to make that choice for themselves so even that argument doesn't hold up.

[@jaimedritt4622]

Story 2: NTA. I think it's pretty clear that Bennett has a habit of eating meat and dairy when he's away from his parents. Otherwise, he would have gotten really sick at OP's house. Your body needs to get used to processing meat and dairy. Bennett's parents encourage their son to be free-thinking but only as long as he thinks like them. What hypocrites. It's their lifestyle, not their son's. At 15 years old, he has the right to decide what he puts in his own body.

[@RiverWoods111]

I am sure he is not sticking to the vegan diet when he is with his friends, but you will get really sick if you just start eating meat thing is kind of a myth. I was vegan and before that vegetarian for a long time. I got really sick and went back to the standard American Diet with meat, then my doctor put me on Keto, and then we realized that vegetables were making me horribly sick, and when I went veggie free my fibromyalgia went away. I never got sick when going back to meat. Also, there are a ton of ex-vegans that got really sick and went on a carnivore diet and actually healed and didn't have any problems with eating meat after not eating it for a long time. I met vegans who had been vegan for 12 years and realized it was killing them, and switched to carnivore just like that! I now will throw up from eating vegetables, but they were making me horrifically sick before I switched which is why I don't eat them. Oh by the way, my cholesterol & triglycerides and all my blood work got so much better when I went to Carnivore and started eating tons of bacon and ribeyes and red meats + lots of shellfish too. As a matter of fact at the time that I went carnivore some of the biggest Vegan KZbinrs were doing the same thing because they were so horribly sick eating vegetables.

[@ceeshnia]

​@@RiverWoods111 Eating meat may cause some digestive issues when you go from no meat to meat, but how much depends on the person; it landed my mom into the hospital because of the severity, but, she's not the norm in this. That aside, science is not on your side in the "meat is best" take; "Research over many years has linked plant-based diets to lower rates of heart disease, type 2 diabetes, and some cancers (as compared with diets high in meat and other animal products)." (Schmerling, Harvard Health Publications, 2019) "According to a joint Food and Agriculture Organization of the United Nations (FAO) and World Health Organization (WHO) expert consultation from the year 2004, “households across all regions should select predominantly plant-based diets rich in a variety of vegetables and fruits, pulses or legumes, and minimally processed starchy staple foods. The evidence that such diets will prevent or delay a significant proportion of non-communicable chronic diseases is consistent.”" (Sobiecki, Appleby, Bradbury, Key, National Library of Medicine, 2016) In the next study they also found that in a group that has a large percentage of vegetarians (about 50%, Seventh-Day Adventists), eating meat even once a week increased the chances of diabetes by 29%; 38% if the meat was processed. "The benefits of all types of vegetarian diets in the prevention and treatment of diabetes have been well established. Clinicians and healthcare providers should feel confident in recommending a vegetarian diet to their patients who have pre-diabetes or T2DM. However, the type of foods that should be consumed while following this diet is critical to achieve the therapeutic effects.(Olfert, Wattick, National Library of Medicine, 2018)(the last sentence has to do with not eating a lot of highly processed foods; chips, ice cream, cookies, etc. are often vegetarian, and instead focusing on whole grains, legumes, vegetables, fruits, etc.) Some doctors prescribe vegetarian diets to manage overall health. All of that said, vegetarianism is generally suggested over veganism, as vegans are more likely to be lacking nutrients and a lot of people cannot live as vegans without increasing their chances of injury or nutrient deficiency. Vegetarians also have to be cautious with a few nutrients that are often derived from meat, but is doable and it isn't as many. But, as research has found, vegetarianism decreases your chances of several major health conditions. They did find a slight increase in chances of hemorrhagic stroke, amounting to an additional 3 people in every 1000, but considering heart disease and cancer are the two biggest killers in the US, killing over 1,300,000 combined in the year 2021 alone (CDC), it does have an overall large decrease in possible health conditions. I say this as a general meat eater who is working their way to being a pescatarian, so I'm not on a soapbox and I certainly eat things I shouldn't. But, please be cautious about suggesting to someone to eat a bunch of meat when it can, in fact, cause them harm.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

@@RiverWoods111 Interesting data. Any particular vegetables that set you off? I'd imagine there may have been pesticides.

[@technicaldifficulties368]

@@ceeshnia The research is still new and I sincerely doubt that veganism is better for you in the long run.

[@simonO712]

​@@RiverWoods111Your case sounds like an exception though, most people don't get sick from eating vegetables. Not to say your experiences aren't valid or anything, exceptions are just as real as the norm and meat certainly does sound more gealthy for you in particular, but I wouldn't draw too broad conclusions from them.

[@roowyrm9576]

I can never understand these mothers (and fathers) who behave so badly towards their adult children, to the point that the children go no contact. I respect my adult children, Individuals within their own rights. I am happy that we have a good relationship together as a family.

[@user-blob]

S1: mother is a shocking narcissist and extraordinarily immature. Good on OP for throwing her away 👏

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Yeah. OP's better off without her.

[@whitneybennett4857]

Not to mention OP's mom and the bf are gross and distasteful af. I don't mind couples showing a little PDA sometimes (Heck, my own husband and I hold hands walking into the grocery store and that sort of thing), but really? Making out and feeling each other up like that at someone's wedding?! I'd be beyond embarrassed to have a mother that acted that way in public.

[@aaronzegas5270]

Yeah, like, I've worked with teenagers for 17 years and this adult woman, soon to be grandmother is less mature than almost all of the teens I've worked with.

[@trickstergods]

Title is giving cringe. I hate it when parents start trying to compete with their kids in extremely unhealthy ways

[@Swnsasy]

Ughh... This is mirror image of my BFF'S mom since we were kids.. She would be at my house and her mouth dropped watching the dynamic with my family.. Getting older, it got 200% worse. When I mean older, I mean 16,HS... The dad left because she would CONSTANTLY bring up that he's spending too much time with his daughter and attacked her trying to rip off her shorts and undies saying, "I know how my husband smells, let me smell to see if you're dad's tongue has been there!" I promise on everything I was recording her and I already and through shock, scared, all of it was on recording on my camcorder.. Her dad yanked us... I will never ever forget her face.. She tried to have a relationship when we were like 20 maybe.. All fine and well for 3mths,dinner over, shopping etc, and the mask fell WORSE than what she did that day.. My family, she's MY SISTER... Her father actually married my aunt so😂Her mom is all alone...

[@paulinadeboer3604]

Her hubby is with her for greencard. That is why so fast to get married. When he has it he will dump her ass so fast.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

I see you're acquainted with my stepmom. I'm curious. How expensive was the séance?

[@jaimedritt4622]

@@Swnsasy From what you wrote, it sounds like the dad was your BFF's actual dad. It is awful that your friend's mother would accuse her of having a sexual relationship with her own father. It also sounds like her mother was sexually molesting her in order to find "proof" of an inappropriate relationship. Her mother sounds completely unhinged and dangerous to your friend. I'm glad your friend had you and your family to see what a healthy family dynamic is. I can't wrap my head around a mother having such disgusting thoughts and actions toward her own daughter. Why would that even come into her brain?

[@Swnsasy]

@@jaimedritt4622 Yes my apologies if I wrote in a confusing way. Yes, it was Courtney's dad. I remember my parents having me go to therapy because they thought that traumatized me but, it wasn't that part of it as my parents thought. I was so traumatized that I didn't protect her, I hated myself so, so damn much. She needed me and I froze, I was stuck and her dad came home like, maybe 2mins in. I didn't help her and I hated myself, I still do at times. I was 16, ran track, was in color guard, I had the muscle strength but I froze. She hits me up side my head though, lol. We are 46yrs old and I remember it second by second. She's the most beautiful person in the world and I feel as if I failed her. Oh, her mom has NOT changed at all!!

[@jeanproctor3663]

Story 1 - God, OP's mother is a hideous baggage isn't she? I really do feel sorry for OP and her fiancé and it's so obvious the mother's engineered it to make OP's wedding all about herself.

[@fcold9402]

So he is a "free range" child who is "encouraged to think for himself".....unless the he disagrees with their dietary choices. LOL.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Wow, what a wonderful mom (/s). I guess it's good her mom didn't decide to get married on the same day as OP. SMH. This mother definitely doesn't deserve the "Mother of the Year" award. I would tell mother she is no longer invited. Also, I am Puerto Rican, and Latin people would NOT behave the way the mother's husband did in public. Yes, we tend to hug, and be affectionate, but making out, and putting hands up a dress in public, yeah no that would never happen.

[@ladyofthelake93]

Sounds like Bennet had an amazing time with his uncle and was thrilled to habe easy access to the food he's been sneaking all along.

[@bessieburnet9816]

All this over a guy she's barely known for 30 days and can barely talk to without an unreliable translation app? 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@mbyerly9680]

He wants a green card and her money, and she's stupid enough to believe this young stud wants to marry her. I really worry about her younger kids, though. This is not a safe place for them.

[@ScooterBond1970]

It's not like she doesn't get anything out of it herself, tho, she's using him and this wedding to upstage her daughter. If it wasn't this guy she can't communicate with it would be someone else, or if she couldn't find a patsy-ahem, HUSBAND, she'd just pitch a pity party for herself.

[@kayemckeeth2301]

I don't know why but this reminded me of my own waffle. My in laws tried to do something like this during our reception (Made a huge scene during it saying they were going to get food and made it a whole gesture.) I.told them they wouldn't be missed. They stayed.

[@daisymay6505]

Umm, I think you accidentally made a typo, you said waffle instead of wedding, just wanted to let you know, kindly before anyone else says something 😅❤️

[@heathermiller5765]

​@@daisymay6505probably some kind of Freudian slip lol

[@GBunnyG]

Anyone else feel like listening to these stories makes them a better parent? Current or future? I feel like being a better tortoise mum just listening to these.

[@mbyerly9680]

Most of these parents are mentally ill to the point they can't be fixed so it's like reading about monsters, not people.

[@heathermiller5765]

Just don't start competing with him lol

[@strawberrysangria1474]

Story 2: "Would you serve pork to a Muslim or Jewish kid?" If they don't believe in that religion and want some, yeah! It's selfish to push your beliefs onto others, and expect them not to make these choices for themselves. 15 is old enough to decide what he wants to eat. I'd also cook vegan dishes for a vegan teen if his parents were adamant that he eats meat. People ought to be more respectful and less controlling of their family and partners. It achieves nothing but separation.

[@rickraber1249]

1st story: Mom wants to be the center of attention. OP said things were better between them til she met her fiance. At that point the mother felt she needed to be back in the spotlight she felt her daughter was stealing from her. NC is the only way to treat this woman. Congratulations to OP and her husband on their wedding and baby!

[@juanvilas8509]

Story 1 : I guess her mom is a narcissist. She just can't let anybody have their own day. She just can't physically do that, it MUST be about her all the time.

[@kathyniebylski6735]

The nephew in #2 definitely used this chance to enjoy some delicious food.

[@LadyBern]

Someone notify me when op reports that her mom's accessory I mean husband leaves her. A relationship like that with a woman like that will likely end from insecurity, jealousy, and or cheating.

[@wildwikedwanderer1208]

Story 2: that boy was desperate for a good meal. NTA

[@nairbvel]

1st story: Mamma needs to be put on a contact diet... like, a starvation diet... :-) 2nd story: The nephew is being brought up to think for himself and is more than old enough to understand what he's doing & what's going on. His folks need to reconcile their diametrically-opposed expectations (thinks for himself vs. just goes along with their philosphy). NTA.

[@megannason3649]

This poor kid is totally sneaking meat every chance he gets. A teenage boy needs all the protein and calcium he can get and he was probably craving it. Also his mom's reaction means he was afraid his aunt would make him eat vegan too if she knew he was hiding it or wasn't supposed to eat meat at all

[@heathermiller5765]

I think OP was actually his uncle...

[@AndyyWithAY]

I was at Wal-mart today and I'd gone back to the Halloween clearance to get a few things. I had a few boxes in my hand and I guess I looked like I was really doing things. This older white lady walks over to me and asks where the salsa is. I do NOT work here, but I don't mind helping people find things. This isn't my usual Walmart, so I wasn't certain where anything was, but I looked up and saw tortilla on the sign. She asked if it was on that same aisle and I said it sure was. I realized I was wearing a little blue dress and some plaid ballet flats. They do wear blue at Wal-mart, she may have thought I was the manager or something. Wal-mart uniform, but make it business casual. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 💙💙💙 I got home and said hmmm maybe I'll make some of these Nightmare Before Christmas cookies I got on clearance. The ingredients called for heavy cream. In a boxed cookie? What kind've uncalled for bougie nonsense is this! No heavy cream, so no cookies.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Nice Halloween stashes are fun

[@TraceyBoyland]

Good thing you didn't get REEEEEEEE!!! From the lady. Lol!!

[@terramarini6880]

You can make heavy cream by melting butter (warm, not smoking hot) and blending it into whole milk. Mrs Shi did it on her you tube shorts.

[@enjolireyes643]

Story 1 - Mom has a main character complex! If it’s not about her, she isn’t happy! Story 2 - The nephew is not vegan , he just eats vegan at home because that is all his parents buy. OP isn’t the AH and 15 is more than old enough to decide what you want to eat.

[@MsAnpassad]

I've studied nutrition at University, are a former vegan and even if you can raise your kids vegan, it can so easily go wrong, so it's not what I recommend. I don't even think you should be fully vegan during pregnancy or whilst breastfeeding, both for your sake and the baby. A better approach is to give the kids vegan food at home, but non vegan everywhere else, like in school, with babysitters etc. Then the kid is used to vegan food, yet gets animal protein etc and you don't have to handle meat. A friend took this approach and she has no issues with getting her kids grandparents to babysit, as "We need to make sure the baby gets what she needs". 😄 So there are purks to it too. A 15 year old can definetly decide and cook for themselves, it's no longer the parents choice.

[@Yourlocaltrashgoblin]

Ur vids have been a lifeline while being sick I’m enjoying laying down and just listening :)

[@spockezri]

me too! hope you feel better soon :)

[@Yourlocaltrashgoblin]

@@spockezri you too :D also 🏳️‍⚧️ me too :D

[@leannecanty8821]

Uninvite that Mom.

[@teresajohnson6157]

Some older women are jealous of their daughters they see their youth slipping away and lose their minds

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

It happens to everyone. Aging is inevitable. And besides, it's not you're guaranteed to get uglier with age. I've seen a lot of beautiful middle women and even beautiful old women who aged like a fine wine. And just because you're no longer young doesn't mean you can't live well and enjoy life. I swear watching people be this jealous and spiteful is so stupid and exhausting. 😒

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Good lord. OP's mother(and I use that term loosely)is so toxic, narcissistic and just exhausting. (⁠٥⁠↼⁠_⁠↼⁠) I swear, these women who are jealous of their daughters have this Snow White Complex. I'm so happy OP is cutting ties with her narcissistic birth giver. 😊 Good riddance. And I don't see that marriage lasting(birth giver's anyway). And I can't help but feel sorry for her baby sister and baby brother. They're still stuck with that jealous hag. I can only hope that they can escape one day.

[@spikeoramathon]

This is not "we don't get along well", this is an ABUSIVE relationship! I can't stand when the rational person on the receiving end of abuse is forced to frame it as "you just don't get along." For years, I had to put up with abusive crap from a co-worker and get told "I know you two just don't get along, but we need you to be the bigger person here..." No. More. This long-suffering daughter should read a few stories in R/raisedbyNarcissists.

[@Artemis_-yy1nt]

Urgh I hate parents forcing THEIR dietary choices on their kids. Especially when the kid is older and able to think about that. I understand not cooking or even buying animal products for the family, fine. But at least if the kid is a guest somewhere else and wants to eat meat there, they should be allowed to! I'm vegetarian (more like ovo-vegetarian) and I wouldn't want to cook meat for my imaginary family😂 If the kid is old enough, they can just make meaty snacks or dinners for themselves, I don't care! I would buy the stuff, okay. I'd still cook vegetarian for anybody who wants it. And if my imaginary small child really likes meat I think I'd make exeptions and sometimes make meat for them. I would never "withhold" that from my kids. And let's say my current boyfriend will be the father of my future children (we're really young, so who knows), he can cook the meaty dinners (I don't see him ever giving up meat xD). He'd definitely have to cook meat if he wants that😂😂 I imagine it like with my parents. My mom, sister and me became vegetarian late in life, like when when my sister was 18, I 20 and my mom in her fifties. My brother and father continued eating meat. We used to have dinner with meat max. once a week before anyways, so it wasn't that hard to cook with extra options once a week. Works great, everybody is happy :)

[@oakenshadow6763]

There was a couple who met because of Star Trek. They could only speak in Klingon, because their first languages were different. They still learned eachother language before getting married. In Klingon. Make sure you can genuinly communicate.

[@jackiehuff7736]

I'm always against posting pictures of minors without their parents and, depending on age, their permission.

[@marecort3697]

Wait. A. Minute! OP’s parents don’t like Chinese food? Who doesn’t like Chinese food?!?!? Okay, I’m not Chinese (or even Asian), but Chinese food is comfort food to me.

[@raptoress6131]

Story 2: NTA, the nephew said he doesn't share his parents' ideas. Agree that he shouldn't have "outed" his nephew as a meat eater. Most likely it's healthier for the teenager to eat some animal products, because vegan diets can be lacking in iron, long chain omega-3s and B-vitamins among other things.

[@terramarini6880]

His growing brain, neurons and nerves NEED the cholesterol found in animal products, it's a major component in those structures. His growing muscles and bones NEED the protein and calcium that is truly bio available in meat, not so much in beans and veg without careful pairings and supplements (parents sound a little flighty for that kind of homework). Vegan is just not good enough for a developing child imo. He can choose it for himself when fully grown if he wishes.

[@NerdilyDone]

Last story: NTA. Kids are developing, and they need the iron in meat, especially beef.

[@UnChannelDuVulpineX]

8:28 When did so many people become incapable of using 'losing' instead of 'loosing'? It's driving me nuts.

[@YoYo-gt5iq]

People who say that they have a high protein diet and only mean meat do not know that much about food

[@MysticMae21]

S2: im waiting for something like this to happen with my cousins. Theyve been raised vegan. But their dad is a meat eater. They may keep it up, but i can definitely see the youngest giving up on it when she has the choice. Shes already tried to sneak some of her dads food before. The oldest is the golden child of her mom, so she may keep at it for longer.

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark stay safe please, peace.

[@Kumo5980]

1:24 If you can’t speak his language literally than it wasn’t going to work out to begin with

[@TheMimiSard]

Story 2, 19:20 - This commenter says what I think. I grew up [mostly] vegetarian. I say mostly because I realise my parents' allowance of meat-bearing takeaway, sans anything pork (religious clean meat beliefs). I also think the same kinda of liberal allowance and issues with Mum being a single parent and struggling with Depression also meant she never fought hard on such things, but she was always very "Do what you want, within reason", and understanding of coming into our own mindsets. This said, a 17-yr-old is definitely old enough to make his own choices in food. If his parents aren't careful, he will up and leave and refuse to associate with them much.

[@sailorjupiter4]

blood relation is so important to some people that they’re willing to damage their emotional and mental well-being, which in turn will negatively affect their physical health…

[@sianchild]

Story 2 - my parents brought me up veggie, but by the age of fifteen if I'd said I wanted to eat meat they'd have let me. It's disrespectful to not allow him any agency at that age.

[@DisneyChar]

S1. She should have been LC/NC a long time ago. Upside her marriage is probably gonna fail. There is another popular story at the moment where someone threw a huge birthday party 5yr old, the day after aunts wedding and blaming the party family for scheduling so close to the wedding... S2 nta. Non medical, he wanted it, not like it was a tattoo. Theyll get over it the next time they want free babysitting. Info: hes a free range kid, they pride themselves on that, now theyre just mad their free thinker thought freely.

[@Chantal_P-v4x]

Story 2 - NTA. I'm absoltuely with others on this one. And yeah, a fifteen year old should be more than old enough to decide for himself what he wishes to eat or not eat. I am just a bit concerned over the social media post though. I wonder if the nephew knew it was going to be posted? If not, maybe OP should have run it by him first. The kid would after all, likely known better than anyone, what his parents might have thought about the matter.

[@jomc6734]

Story 2: The way Bennett reacted to what OP said he ate, I think it's obvious that Bennett ate meat frequently when he wasn't at home.

[@jacearmor5274]

S2: NTA. The kid doesn't want to eat, vegan, so the parents should stop.

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

Hey everyone! Weather wise it has been a wee bit dreary, but this time of day spending time with Mark and the rest of the waffle gang, is like someone just turned on the sun. Much love ❤️

[@heathermiller5765]

"Here comes the sun..." 🌞

[@zombbae]

I would uninvite my mother if she treated me like this

[@kp2223]

S2. The kid obviously eats animal products when he's not around his family. Otherwise he wouldn't thought he'd sick by eating that Many animal products.

[@alsatful]

Don't know how to tell a vegan from an omnivore ? Don't worry they will tell you

[@paulclay4229]

Story 2: poor bennet. Mark is totally right about the earache Bennet is going to get.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you, take a deep breath let it out slowly, and lower your shoulders. Know that you are important to someone even if you feel like no one loves you, guess what I do. I'm so proud of you being here. Thank you. Now make sure you take care of yourself and drink some water, eat something and take a stretch break.💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@persephoneszeliga]

You are so very kind🙂❤️

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@persephoneszeliga 💜💜🤗🤗

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@thecrowuknow 🤗🤗💜💜🧇🧇

[@pezlover1974]

Nah. Nobody loves me, and that’s not a pity party.

[@ILJ68]

Ooh! 1st in! Great channel. You are one of my favourite readers. Keep up the great work!

[@plurpball3958]

19:48 that’s a good point, my mom isn’t vegetarian or vegan, but she doesn’t eat much meat anymore, and she was sick all night after having a steak after not having eaten any meat in quite a while.

[@cpaul9269]

S2 - NTA - the kid's 15 freakin' years old. He's old enough to decide what he wants to eat. Unbelievable.

[@paperkay]

Blimey, this lady sure goes on and on about her mother. Like, dude, seriously, we get it. Crap mom. Move on.

[@PuppyKatt]

Story 1: I am so very sorry that your mother feels the need to compete with you. Uninvite her from your wedding, otherwise she will make sure that it is, indeed, all about her. Congratulations on both your wedding and your upcoming motherhood. Good Luck.

[@jimmyjohnjuan]

Story 2) I felt "I eat whatever they put in front of me" lol

[@ReyK_47]

Reddit makes me forever grateful that my mom is a wonderful lady.

[@browniewin4121]

1) OMG this is a totally toxic mother and why OP hasn't gone NC before this is beyond me. She brings nothing but grief and should be cut off totally now and forever. After comments: I do hope OP will have a friend run interference to keep mother at bay and inline so they can manage to have a lovely wedding despite the awful mother being there. After update: I'm sorry OP's family was such a pain at her wedding but despite that she enjoyed it and I wish them well with their coming baby. After next update: I'm happy to hear OP is going NC and planning on getting therapy. 2) At 15 I think the nephew is old enough to make food choices of his own. NTA. I really doubt this is the first time he has eaten meat, he probably has done it before with friends or out on his own.

[@SusieBlup]

Wedding stories and the issue about not getting all the attention are so weird

[@RoseKoneko]

Hey waffles, hope you’re having a day that’s not too horrible.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hope you are too🤗🤗💜💜

[@RoseKoneko]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 Kitten time has made it better, thank you hun.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@RoseKoneko that's good kitten are great 💜💜🤗🤗

[@anthonym6119]

Op is the only one trying to keep her relationship with her mother alive

[@Beach12323]

NTA on the vegan story. My ex SIL tried to charge me for assault and neglect 5 years ago with this similar issue. Her and my brother were going through a messy divorce and still living with each other so my nephews came to live with me for 7 months. She’s Vegan my brother is not. Both boys were teens at the time and wanted McDonald’s, steak, seafood and dairy. 4 months in my nephew posted a pic of us at an all you can eat bbq. Next week CPS is at my door and I get served.

[@suitov]

Going no contact for a little while? Good move. I suggest "during your wedding".

[@skipmage]

Story 2: These people are like the damn vegans who force their cat/dog to go vegan and then try to convince people that it the animals choice. Their child is old enough to choose who they want to live with in a divorce, old enough to opt out of religion. He should be allowed to eat a steak.

[@spaghettiradgetti]

Damn 9 mins I didn't know I was that early. I'm making slippers for my baby!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Awww

[@hanoh2904]

That's the most angsty teenage middle aged mother I've heard of

[@MGP2210]

16:42 OP, you idiot! You blew the kid's cover!

[@TheHellsHobbit]

Uninvite mom and her boyfriend

[@YoYo-gt5iq]

Dude, the open make-out at the wedding is so funny.

[@heatherweir8726]

If brides want to stick it people who wear white to weddings. They can do what one bride did. She told her future inlaws not to wear white knowing they would anyway. She told other female guest that they could wear their wedding dresses if they wanted too most did. The bride wore a brightly coloured dress ( can't remember what colour.) So the inlaws blended in with rest of the guests while the bride stood out among the sea of white in her dress.

[@theprodigaltrue]

You know i listen to alot of reddit stories and i kinda have a different view. I blame op for keeping her mom in her life this long and expecting her mom to stop being her and doing the same shit she always does. She knows who her mom is and how she behaves, so why is she expecting her to suddenly become decent.

[@soapsvonsoaps2206]

Why didn't she grow some balls and uninvite her mother? She brought this on herself.

[@slothdance2020]

The last story, the only thing I would say was a little not ok, would be to post a photo of your nephew with out checking with him. Not because you should have assumed he would get in trouble, but personally I like control over what images of me are shared on social media. I don't like it when people post photos of me with out my consent. A persons social media image and presence should be up to them. Even more so when they are a minor. That is it though.

[@sinakirainine1719]

1st story: Yeesh OP needs a new family, that entire family is just a load of drama. I hope her in laws are a lot better to her.

[@greendiamondglow]

Bennet should've clued his uncle in on his shenanigans. OP isn't TA for any of this

[@tiduswordplayer]

I’m halfway through the first story and I had to double back to beginning to make sure I heard right when she said it was her “Mom” cause currently she sounds like a child

[@pasalking7760]

Ops mom is the mom in competition with her daughter. She has to get married first, she has to feel jealous of her kid. She's the worst.

[@fhuber7507]

by 4:30 OP should have uninvited "Mommy Dearest" super narcissist) from the wedding and blocked her from their life forever.

[@WoodlandT]

Bennett is most definitely the name of a child who was forced to be vegan by his parents, poor kid

[@faeriefire78]

I can happily say that, even though I wasn't 100% perfect (who is?) my adult daughter and I are best friends. I can't imagine throwing that kind of special relationship away because I couldn't stop one-upping her. All these narc parents out here, just ruining lives willy nilly. It's sad.

[@jameslyons6655]

When you can rattle off a list of toxic behaviors that is longer than your arm in reference to a person that is in your life the problem is not that person it’s you. You are either stuck in the “because family” fallacy, expecting a leopard to change their spots or are addicted to the drama. It took my a long time to learn so I get it, but at this stage in my life I recognize toxic behavior early and have no tolerance for it. I don’t waste any emotional currency on it I just cut ties and contact and let that energy go wherever it’s going to go.

[@Whatsername4224]

2nd story ~ the only AH thing is telling his sister veganism is not a religion. As if deeply held beliefs require an organized religion to be legitimate. Other than that ~ NTA. The kid clearly does not hold the same beliefs as his parents regarding animal product consumption and is old enough to make those decisions on his own.

[@alexisgrunden1556]

I didn't even need to hear the update to know that OP's egg-donor is...well, I'd _call_ her a C-U-Next-Tuesday, but that implies depth and warmth!

[@erikahammer4337]

Story 2: OP did nothing wrong. The nephew is 15 and definitely old enough to make his own decisions about his diet.

[@sandyberger-r9j]

If Bennett were10 OP would have been in the wrong, but a 15 year-old should decide what he eats except if there were any medical/ health reasons, like allergies or does he eat healthy enough to get all the vitamins and nutrients he needs.

[@utha5034]

Story 1: get a friend to pick up your brother from wherever he’s lodging. Send an uber for your mom, but have them bring her to the wrong place… problem solved. Hehe.

[@Carehuea]

Story 1. Why does OP sound so surprised? ! I mean, she grew up with a horrible, narcissistic mother from hell, and OP still acts, like from one day to the other this narcissistic monster is gonna change and start acting properly and treater with empathy and respect… It’s so funny how everybody is against abuse of any type and in any form, except it seems when that abuse comes from one parent …

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey can you take care of yourself? Just do one small thing that will make yourself happy. And if you feel like you can do more, please stretch, drink some water, and eat something. You matter so much. I send all the virtual love. 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@IrisAsuras]

Story 1: Raised by narcissists...sad OP for you.