My Husband Drunkenly Said He Loves My Sister r/Relationships

[@Metonymy1979]

I was a bartender for 15 years. He loves her sister. This marriage is over.

[@damien678]

Oh you probably have some interesting stories from that line of work 👀

[@bobfg3130]

Not really. If he chooses her or loves her more, it will last.

[@jakemarie828]

I have been so drunk that a tp dispenser seemed like a good pillow. I have never been so drunk that reciting a love poem about my BIL to my SO seemed like a good idea.

[@sarahprager7323]

Agreed. Those were his represssed feelings, not a drunken mishap.

[@actuallynotsteve]

Yeah, I've literally woken up spooning a traffic cone. But I've never once been unsure of who I loved or was attracted to.

[@huldren3]

I have woken up with sore and bleeding feet only to realise I walked the 6-7 miles home after ditching my shoes at a party. What I have never done is harbour feelings for anyone except my SO or consider cheating.

[@Kris-wo4pj]

I was drunk enough to say i should have just slept with my ex bf just to get him to stop harrassing me about it and cuz i thought he was being really pathetic and clingy about it. After he ruined a date. My roommates thought it be a good idea to tell him this after taking my phone so i didnt tell him that. So yeah repressed thoughts i wouldnt tell him to his face or really anyone. Now i'd just call him pathetic sober and break up with him. I did break up with him later that week.

[@sonialinsey8083]

They say small children, yoga pants, and drunk people never lie.

[@lovinglifebutnotonearth3909]

Do not ignore the words of a drunk person. They have no filter at all. And the sex was the sex he wants with the sister.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

Ikr. Alcohol doesn't make you say false things, unless you regularly say false things and alcohol makes you increase. It literally just inhibits the part of your brain that enables you to not act out intrusive thoughts

[@eddieisfiction442]

False that’s a wive’s tale and you shouldn’t be repeating this. That’s disgusting.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

@@eddieisfiction442 it's actually exactly how alcohol affects the body. It removes your inhibitions. It can't make you do or say things that weren't true when you were sober. You were just more able to hide it.

[@nanoglitch6693]

"Drunk words are sober thoughts" is one of the most toddler-brained things I've ever heard. It's a hyper-simplification with the singular intent to villainize someone. People who treat this as a truism aren't even worth engaging because they're just being close-minded and only want justification for a decision they've already made. Alcohol is *NOT* a "magical truth serum" it creates an unreliable narrator. This is why it's called "being under the influence" and why you can't give sworn testimony in court if you are intoxicated.

[@Icalasari]

@@eddieisfiction442 Yeah, exactly. People forget that there is something called invasive thoughts. Thoughts that are not you that makes a neurotypical person in a normal state of mind go wtf

[@MaryTheresa1986]

Story 1: OP needs to file for divorce and tell her sister and BIL what's happening. Things could get ugly once OP's husband realizes he's losing access to the object of his obsession.

[@hothotheat3000]

He’s got the sister built up in his head as the better option. She needs to know.

[@dream6562]

It's not divorce worthy, he has never acted on the feelings regardless this does need therapy, I swear yall want to recommend divorce for the slightest trouble

[@johnbradbury8610]

Op is a dumbass for thinking that keeping her husband away from her sister will solve the problem. The same with counseling, Ops husband will cheat if he hasn't already

[@kumikor3392]

​@@dream6562her husband is in love with her sister, and he has been... for YEARS. That IS grounds for divorce. You would never be able to live with your spouse being in love with your sibling.

[@johnbradbury8610]

@@dream6562 yeah, he just really wants to sleep with OPs sister, which of course means there is no way he will cheat with someone else.

[@madambutterfly1997]

Nothing is more disgustingly tone deaf than jumping into bed with a new person days after breaking up with your ex and then conversing with your ex in detail about your dating this new person

[@ashassassin]

Story 1. Ops husband didn't answer her questions! He dodged them skillfully. He is in love with her sister and ops confidence will take the hit the longer this goes on...

[@bunnyslippers5183]

Story one: “it’s natural to be curious and notice the opposite sex” what patronising secondary school sex education lesson did OP’s husband take that from? She’s his wife! He shouldn’t be talking to her like a child and using “it’s natural to notice” as a deflection from his frankly appalling behaviour and confession. Editing to add: I’m glad they’re getting counselling but I’m not sure that’s something I could ever move past.

[@CircusoftheMoon]

She should moan one of his friend’s or brother’s name in bed and let’s see if he maintains the same energy.

[@jillimi]

I couldn’t. And I’m pretty sure this is gonna affect the sisters relationship, too, is she continues her relationship with her husband.

[@bunnyslippers5183]

@@jillimi Yes, it’s just a mess all around.

[@amandab8433]

That would be a really hard NOPE! He told her his truth, and she needs to wise up. That "Best Sex Ever" was him thinking about the sister. Sure get counseling, as long as it's "We're getting a Divorce and want it to be amicable" type of counseling.

[@Ashbrash1998]

Let alone that its her SISTER, not some random person.

[@AndyyWithAY]

A sister would never go for her sister's ex? Ma'am, clearly you have never seen a soap opera or spent 5 minutes on Reddit. That update was horrid. All he had to do was say of course I choose you. But, he couldn't because that's not true. He loves the idea of the sister. He doesnt know her and doesn't love her. Anything other than divorce is a bandaid on a gaping wound

[@jakemarie828]

Same. I'm not happy with that first update at all. He didn't apologize for long and got defensive quickly. He didn't just say "your sis is hot" he professed his love for her essence and probably pretended OP was her during intimacy. I hope OP doesn't waste time gaslighting herself and get out.

[@BruinPhD2009]

That whole thing was just painful to listen to. If I were on the receiving end of something like that, I’d be devastated. Likewise, I couldn’t ever consider hurting someone like that.

[@persephoneszeliga]

Well said.

[@chinaking918]

Ikr. The fact he wasn’t even shocked he said those words to his wife means he’s definitely been having impure thoughts about her. I bet most of the answers to her questions was yes, that’s why he was dodging those questions like Neo in the matrix. I wouldn’t be able to stay with him therapy or not. I would always have those thoughts in my head whenever they’re interacting. Not against my sister but towards him. I would never be able to trust him after this. Never, if he ever got the opportunity to be with the sister he would jump at it. 🥴

[@jenniferbailey1580]

Given that OP says her sister is her best friend, they live minutes apart, and regularly do things as a trio… my mom and aunt were like that as young adults, before life landed them in distant states. Mom and Dad met because Auntie met my now-uncle and as Mom and A were roommates and Dad was rooming with his friend, Uncle, timeline where Dad’s stationed elsewhere Uncle would still know Mom well. Heck, my grandparents adopted both well before Dad’s position left “part of our (college graduate) daughters’ friend group” She says keeping them apart would be changing several habits

[@DerekScottBland]

Story 2 - I just wouldn't want the guy staying at my place because he's doing online hookups with random women, so who knows who he's going to bring into the house while he's there?

[@logirl1975]

Story 1 after the update: Did the husband ever actually deny anything? Or did he just play it off as being absurd games of "what if?" I feel like the drunken confessions were way too detailed to be just random confused thoughts. And there was way too much sober evasion. eta after the end of the story. Yeah that's pretty much what I thought. So that leaves the question, does therapy and marriage counseling actually fix this? How can OP ever be certain?

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

No, he did that thing people do where they try to convince their partner that they love them by citing the roles the partner plays in their life (wife, mother of his children), rather than loving them themselves. It seems like he had to be pressed to say that he loves OP in the end.

[@clarissagafoor5222]

1st story - OP needs to move on. The moment husband told her he was in love with her sister OP must have known that she has no real relationship with her husband. If she doesn't get husband out of her life she'll lose her pove for her sister.

[@Russman67]

Oh man. He said he loves OP's sister. Romantic loves her, not "I hope she's having a good life" loves her. There is the relationship tipping point. Seriously if counseling doesn't work, this one's a wrap. Isolating him from the sister is going to get weird.

[@ElleD308]

He even have sex with OP thinking it was her sister..... OP needs to leave.

[@TheGelasiaBlythe]

Story 2: If being upset that my newly minted ex is showing me pictures of the woman he began dating the minute we broke up (so, they were most likely dating *long* before that), detailing their dates, and telling me how hot she is; and some internet stranger says that not cheering him on, wanting to remove myself from situations where I'd be exposed to my ex and his shenanigans, and not smiling through every moment of my life after all of the BS I'd put up with from said ex makes me "salty," well, then I guess I'd put the Dead Sea to shame.

[@tully6648]

Story 2: Like with most things, don't go ahead with something if you're getting bad vibes. As this story unfolded, I kept seeing flag after flag being planted, and thought 'Just tell him no already.' I'm glad they did.

[@paden1865able]

Yeah, he would have moved in and been extremely difficult to get out once they return home.

[@stellamccoy5259]

I have been drunk quite a few times and never told my husband that I loved someone else. OPs husband spoke his truth in that time. If my husband told me that he loved someone else, I would leave him because I deserve someone to love only me.

[@hi_stranger9156]

Story 1: In my country there is a saying - *what you have in your mind while sober you say out loud when you drunk.*

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

Latin: In vino veritas.

[@nataliereeves3594]

Sounds accurate

[@diamcole]

Story 1: I don’t know how you come back from that.

[@botanicalitus4194]

I could never recover from what OP's husband said. To me it seems like the reason why he never acted on it it because sister is already married, so if he acted on it then it would ruin his marriage and his ability to be near sister. OP deserves better, choosing someone because they are yourone and onIy is not the same as choosing them because "we're already married and have kids so" So awfuI

[@RiverWoods111]

The minute Jill told me that Jack and the kids would be staying and she would only be staying on weekends, I would have said, a hard "NO". When they broke up, it would have been sorry Jack, but I don't feel comfortable letting you stay, this was an invitation to Jill.

[@paulinadeboer3604]

the last thing you want is an 41 year old with midlife crisis in your house.

[@audraverela3663]

Jack is being disgusting. Like absolutely vile behavior! He’s showing his ex how YOUNG the ppl he’s trying to fuck are, that’s a huge red flag. He’s cheated on Jill, is showing disturbing thoughts and actions, and Jill warned OP he was spiteful. Never let a spiteful, disgusting person live in your home. OP and husband should dump Jack, bc otherwise they’re condoning his behavior.

[@jennakhrysavek8443]

This. "sorry jack, the invitation was for my friend Jill and you were her plus-1. You're no longer her plus-1, so why would you expect to stay in my house without her?'

[@ArcaneNim]

Reading the title: Maybe he just loves her like a sister? 3 minutes in: Never mind, this is lust. The hope I had is gone. 😅

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

“I want to taste her lips”.👄 … I hope he doesn’t love her like a sister. 😂

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

That was my thought when I first looked at this story. 😅

[@heatheraucoin5832]

When it comes to Reddit, it’s automatically he’s attracted to sister.

[@ArcaneNim]

@@heatheraucoin5832 I know, but I'm desperate for the rare Reddit story where things turn out to be a misunderstanding and everything ends up okay. Which is strange because I'm a pessimist.

[@Ashbrash1998]

​@@ArcaneNimThey do exit, it's just lost in the trash. I knw a good one where OP was told his gf was seen going into a store with a guy buying stuff amd they were having a good time. OP comes home after work and sees gf & the guy hanging out. Turns out, the guy was her cousin that OP had met a couple times. But the guy went through puberty like a train and had bulked up and csme in town for a visit. They went to a store to vuy something for OP's upcoming birthday.

[@TwiggyHetfield27]

Story 1: While alcohol isn't a truth potion, it let's go of most inhibitions. Not only did he say he was in love with the sister but OP said the sex was different, more passionate. I wouldn't be able to look at my spouse the same. Thinking that the entire time he's with me he actually wants to be with my sister. Hard no. After Update: "he said it is normal that people are curious about the opposite sex." What the hell is that even supposed to mean?! It's such a non answer. I feel like OP didn't tell him everything that happened. How he thought the sister was brilliant, how the sex was different. Why didn't she bring that up? Okay so he denied it, then admits to having a crush for years THEN says he's in love with her?!? I couldn't & wouldn't be able to continue the relationship. The people saying it's "like a school boy crush" No. A school boy usually doesn't know the girl he's crushing on. This man has known the sister for YEARS. Has gotten to know her. It's not innocent. For me, that's a relationship ender.

[@BrianLiamson]

Story 1. You should take this seriously when he said he loves your sister. He's infatuated with her. This is something you both will have to work in counseling.

[@manub.3847]

Saying while drunk or sober: "I think person "X" is hot and sexy and I could imagine a hot night with this person" when you don't know this person (actor, singer, model, etc.) is partly already bad enough. This statement alone eats away at the self-image of the partner and the partnership, but can possibly be cured over time. However, making such statements about a person from your close family or circle of friends means that you are only sticking with the relationship out of "convenience" and/or because the other person apparently is no longer available.

[@carlahaiduk1878]

No counseling can fix that

[@Enriquez2222]

I’m not even her and I can’t forgive him lol…. My heart hurts for her

[@Acatandanomad]

Hey Mark, me and my cat listen to you every day! Your stories help me feel not so lonely, so thank you for posting. My cat meows back every time you say "hey waffle gang!"

[@Akiku2]

That’s adorable!

[@MarkNarrations]

Hello to you both and thanks for joining! Meow meow Meeeeoooww :)

[@catlovercami717]

​@@MarkNarrationsshe's a part of the waffle gang

[@hmspretender]

Awe!

[@Frostfern94]

That’s is so freaking cute omfg

[@listenquitely2888]

S1: Truth always comes out when people are drunk. Her husband is absolutely into her sister. This is sad. He is trying to do damage control. He is with her to be close to the sister. Thats super sad.

[@satansecretary665]

its so disturbing to me that there are so many stories of people getting with their SO just to stay in orbit of their siblings or other family members cause they're attracted to them. not only is it a case of "well, i cant have them so you'll do for now" but it also seems like they're doing it so that when the family members own SO dies or they break up, that they can swoop in and claim the prize they really wanted. i also 100% believe that while making love he was pretending she was her sister, the words he said during it and then after to describe her sister in his lil confession and that satisfied dreamy look of his, i would be done with him the very next day and contact a lawyer as soon as possible. theres no coming back from this, it was over before it began, he doesnt love OP, he loves her sister and is just waiting for his opportunity to make that move.

[@--.UNKNOWN.--]

Story 1: I haaaaaaate when people use being drunk as an excuse to get out of situations. Being drunk doesn't make you become a different person, it loosens you up and makes you act on things you wouldn't do when sober. OP's husband admitted that he was *in love* with OP's sister, that he wondered what it would be like to kiss her. The fact he couldn't answer OP's hypothetical and dodged the question, on top of that, speaks volumes. I would divorce him. If my partner ever admitted they were in love with someone else, drunk or not, divorce. You shouldn't be in love with someone else, you shouldn't think about what it would be like to kiss anyone else when you are married.

[@mbyerly9680]

On the Jack story, when OP decides on having a contract with him, I laughed because of how well THAT works in situations like this in other Reddit stories. Jack is being so agreeable I would not be surprised if he doesn't try to break in. Maybe, he already has a copy of the key.

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

Yes, my first thought when she said he didn't argue about it was, 'does he already have a key?' Put the cameras up for sure, and if there's a relative or other friend they can trust, have them check on the house once or twice a week.

[@kaneki18-d1t4]

About the first story if I was OP I would've handed my husband divorce papers the next day. I wouldn't put up with crap like this

[@stoneman8387]

Story 1: One thing always amazes me and that is that so many people don't understand that alcohol brings out the true side of a person. No more filters, just pure unfiltered statements and actions.

[@karendaniel620]

Story 1: Even if i could get past the words, the difference in lovemaking would be a deal breaker for me.

[@itsjustmaddisen]

Story 2: it’s okay to not want to be a part of your friends drama when you’re uncomfortable.

[@heatheraucoin5832]

S2- sounds like Jack is having a midlife crisis. But hey it’s his life but it sounds like Jill found out his texts or dating apps and just didn’t want to hold him back and let him go. Not worth fighting over. I hope Jill finds happiness soon

[@jeneden3492]

S1: oh no, he was thinking of the sister while being with OP...."you are brilliant" and afterwards he says "she's brilliant" .....😐 10:38 how the hell can he say he loves her and then say he's in love with the sister. You know what, that ass wipe deserves all the pain he has coming his way, cause he's not get the sister and he's about to lose his wife, his kids, the house and all of this life. If he knew he'd been feeling like this for years, then you make yourself scarce and do whatever to kill the feelings you have for a woman that's not your wife, not keep feeding the beast!! he's an absolute ass

[@kevinclark495]

he says he's in love with ops sister and she thinks counselling will sort that? she need to stop being so spineless and end it

[@Deedoof]

It can get very involved and ugly especially if kids are involved. Counseling also helps you mentally prepare if/when a divorce happens.

[@Kalossupremacy3356]

I just “👏WOMAN, YOU CAN EASILY FIND SOMEONE THATLL CHOOSE YOU OVER ANYONE👏”

[@MarkNarrations]

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

💜💜🤗🤗🧇🧇

[@Colorbrush21]

All the couples counseling in the world won't help if OP's husband is really in love with her sister. OP will have to decide if it's worth it to stay with him. What an empty hollow feeling to be married to a man who is in love with someone else. I've heard many women say "I can be miserable by myself." 😢

[@amandarose4469]

Story 2, why didn't Jack communicate with them about staying in the apartment, renegotiate the situation. A lot more could have been resolved if he had taken control of his family situation, instead of relying on the expartner. He should have been in contact with OP from the word go. At least he took it well.

[@TheVeggiekat]

He’s probably using the text as an excuse to move into his new partner’s place.

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

“Curious about the opposite sex”?! What is he, a gay guy getting a crush on a woman?!

[@Capturedbeauty777]

My God, im getting so teary eyed in the first story 😢. I feel horrible for OP, I do think she should get individual counseling, I would make the sister aware but OP husband's would be crazy to think this will not change the dynamic of their marriage. I honestly couldn't remain married. There is so much life to live and to live it miserably.... I think when she is ready she should at least separate because she can find a person whonwill love her for her alone. What her husband did was incredibly selfish and I hope OP knows that she is deserving of a wonderfulnl loving life and I hope she has the support to get through this. I don't wish for marriages to end but this is such a bitter reality to live in, I wish her well.

[@nkoistrash]

Ive been black out drunk a few times. Not once was i ever violent, mean, or confessed my love towards someone. Im usually telling everyone how much i appreciate them or talking about animals. He's very much in love with the sister and thought she was her during their intimate moment. Its so fucked up. I hope OP leaves tbh.

[@tonyblake7569]

Not only did he say that when he was drunk but he couldn't even answer ops hypothetical question. How hard is it to say he'd still chose op? Like is he afraid he'll get a chance with her sister and he'd look like a liar if he got with her?

[@TiBunCosplay]

S1. I vaguely remember a very similar story from a few years back. Husband drunkenly confesses feelings for his wife's older sister and brushed it off as just a drunk ramble that meant nothing. Well that only lasted until he made a move on the sister, who was horrified at being put into that situation. She of course told her sister/his wife and together they cut him out of their lives. She moved in with her sister and divorced the guy and he spent the entire time stalking/begging the sister to forgive him and give him a chance. Didn't even spare a thought for the wife he hurt.

[@HC_Productions_UK]

A friend of mine married a guy..this guy married my friends sister so he could stay close to her. Years later my friend got divorced from her husband and ended up marrying the brother-in-laws brother! And just for clarification... we're in the UK.

[@Anime_._Fan]

drunk words are sober thoughts, never ignore it

[@NoviLeigh]

Counseling only has a chance of working if you’re honest. Husband is trickle truthing. “She’s hot”, then “a crush”, then “on and off in love for years.” That’s what makes me believe they won’t/can’t work it out.

[@lovethesweetrosesofreality4418]

If I had a husband like that I would divorce him immediately like I don't want to even have the conversation do you love my sister or me

[@hothotheat3000]

Dude admitted in the update that he is in LOVE with the sister. Nope nope nope. This is grounds for divorce. You can restrict his access to her, but that’ll only make him pine for her even more, and resent you even more. He’s going to picture her as he is intimate with you. It’s a matter of time before he moans her name in bed.

[@GonnaCrime]

I misread the title as “HIS SISTER” and I was like WHATTTT

[@justine8387]

I was like it can't get worse... yep, it has.

[@eldeano9964]

Story 1: heard a similar story where the husband became unhinged and it escalated. He was stalking since before he married op and only did so to get closer to the sis. Who was married to an ex marine.

[@madambutterfly1997]

Apparently he doesn't love you enough to ignore this Crush for your sister. For me if I were married I would be saying my spouse is my crush

[@moshigal156]

Bruh Jack would be sleeping in OP’s bed?? OP you DO realize that if he’s already going on dates, he’s gonna be bringing chicks back to your place and then fuck in YOUR bed, right?? I would rescind the offer for that reason alone, never mind the fact the Jack appears to be incredibly spiteful and petty given his behavior towards Jill and he would LIKELY be just as petty and spiteful if OP ended up having to kick him out for whatever reason.

[@gimmeabreak6844]

Wouldn't it be funny if those young women were only fascinated in the mansion Jack's undoubtedly bragging about living in for 4 months? Wonder what they think of him now that he's couch surfing and homeless with kids?

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Yes! A bunch of strangers in your home with access to all your stuff and bringing whatever STDs, fleas, scabies, bedbugs, etc. to your bed. That's a solid HELL NO!!!!!! Not to mention the damage they could do to your place.

[@MizTameRumors]

No it's not just a drunk thing, my husband when drunk, blabbers on about how much he loves ME.

[@tobiasschumacher8602]

We have a saying in Germany which basically translates to "Drunk people and children always speak the truth."

[@kaneki18-d1t4]

About the second story Jack seems like a freeloader who takes advantage of anyone and anything. He doesn't deserve respect or any other kind of favors

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

"Oh, OP shouldn't be judgemental toward Jack!" Uh, this is the same guy that's sitting on the couch next to his ex and scrolling dating appts. The same guy who boasts about dating younger women. The same guy who dates new people while still living with his ex and then describes how the date went to his ex. Spare me the "don't be judgey" crap. He is as Jill said: Immature and spiteful.

[@DextrorseTANK]

Bartender here, drunk words are sober thoughts

[@FlyingPurplePplEatr]

Note how he never answered her questions. OP needs to separate from him and ask him to leave.

[@fuzzylittlespider]

Story 1: after getting only excuses from the husband I would’ve told my sister about the crush. Just in case the husband tried to make a move on her and put sister’s marriage at risk as well.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

The sister's husband should know too.

[@mercedeseales]

Story 1 I've been in the same situation as op. I stayed and did the couples' councillor thing it didn't really help because it still ate away at me. It's been 5 years now and it still niggles in the background. I hope op can move past it 🙏

[@poetryqn]

Story 1: This just screams therapy - both for OP alone and for them as a couple. There is no way for us to know if OP is a reliable narrator - did her husband confess to marrying her to stay close to her sister? Or, like Jimmy Carter, did he only lust in his heart for a good looking confident woman? The only 'lesson' I can draw from this entire story is to drink responsibly. I'm not comfortable falling back on platitudes like vino veritas, or getting tangled in the weeds of hypotheticals. Humans are complicated and there are no pat answers. Do they want to save the marriage? Try therapy. No guarantees they will stay together, but at least they'll have more clarity.

[@Because-rt8qs]

There's no way I'd do therapy if I were OP. She didn't do anything she needs therapy for. What would her therapy goal be? There's nothing she can do about her husband's feelings, that's not a goal. Maybe therapy to help her through the divorce. 😂 (It was Jimmy Swaggart. Don't say that about Jimmy Carter 😉)

[@paulastiles5507]

Story 2: OP went through entirely too much dithering over whether or not to let a near-stranger who just happened to be part of a friend's life for a while before ditching her for a newer model live in OP's house. Glad they finally said no.

[@simoneperkins4419]

Hope your doing well Mark, originally read the title as "Husband is in love with HIS sister." and started singing sweet home alabama.

[@PardonSylver]

Not wanting to talk about hypotheticals and that comment about "people getting worked up about things that aren't real" was the real nail in that coffin. You would think that your first reaction to something so damning would be to assure your SO, not essentially tell them they're being stupid.

[@natnuss98]

You know what happens when I'm drunk (which isn't too often because i don't like not being in control completely, much less the hangover) I start bragging about how lucky I am to be with my partner, how amazing he is and how happy he makes me. I couldn't bare the thought of playing second fiddle to the person whos supposed to love me the most of all (romantically & sexuallly, not necessarily platonically).

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

I would never get over S1 situation, screw the marriage and F them kids. I love myself enough to not stand such humiliating situation.

[@lucariomew365]

I began reading the comments on Story 1, and wow, some of OP's replies are troubling, especially regarding the moment when OP's husband confessed to having been in love with her sister (who is married/unavailable and lives just 2 miles away) on and off for years. One of OP's kids is a toddler, but the other is old enough to notice the tension between mom and dad. It seems that OP's husband was initially non-committal until she got pregnant, suggesting that he might not have stayed if she hadn't had kids, given his interest in her sister (who continued to be unavailable for as long as he knew her). Despite his denial, she uncovered this through persistent questioning and not accepting vague answers. But he doesn't want OP to leave him🙄.

[@MsTemptation]

S2: NTA. It should have been a simple case of saying no. Especially since the friend and Jack were supposed to be a package deal. Once the two broke up then so did the agreement regarding allowing the boyfriend to stay. I swear that first world problems tend to be so easily resolved.

[@SingingMermaid4]

She should tell her sister, the fixation isn't healthy for either of them, and since she lives close by it might become worse. We all get crushes, OP's husband is, imma say it, unhinged and a user.

[@suem8591]

Story 1: How is counselling going to sort this out, from more of the comments she made he apparently did admit that he is in love with the sister.

[@suem8591]

@@holographicwing Agreed ..she's never going to fully trust him.

[@loganjoh1]

Story 1: yeah if someone says something while drunk that is what they think sober. Story 2: Jack was incredibly immature and disrespectful as hell. Like cool you can date after a breakup but do it discreetly when living with Jill and his comments were really rude. But he seemed to be genuinely understanding when OP and her husband told him he can’t house sit anymore like he expected it so guess he isn’t a complete jerk.

[@Lillypop93]

Exactly if you gotta monkey bar from one to the next the least you can do is be mindful of the person you supposedly cared about. Understand that they're going to be hurting and not shove new partners in their face. It seems very intentional and abusive. No way he didn't realize he was purposely hurting his* quiet recent ex

[@k3upikachu]

​@@Lillypop93especially bragging about landing a woman in her 20s like it's some achievement. It's like he's trying to make the woman he once loved feel worthless 🙄

[@gimmeabreak6844]

Who was babysitting while Jack was out carousing? Jill? If he had no other reason to cool it until he was in his own place, his kids having a roof was it. I think Jill was letting the kids stay and he came with the package. So how messed up was he treating her for her to finally say, "nah, the kids and you can go couch surf"?

[@browniewin4121]

1) Wow, that is so sad and distressing. Drunk does not make a person lie, it makes them reveal truth they wouldn't otherwise say. OP will need to not let herself be lied to when she confronts him about this. This topic definitely needs discussion plus couples, and individual therapy if there is any hope for their relationship to continue, but if he used OP to get near the sister then what came out most likely is the death blow to this marriage. After update: If I were OP I would have a very hard time coming back from what happened that drunk night. If she stays with her husband or not, she will need therapy to deal with her feelings. After comments: The truth is out now, her husband didn't play the hypothetical game but it's clear how it would go. I feel sorry for OP knowing she comes in 2nd best and her husband is longing for and fantasizing about her sister. I'm not sure how this marriage will work with that in mind. 2) NTA to not want to have the same arrangement when it will no longer be the same circumstances, but I think OP should have notified him as soon as she had qualms to either tell him the deal is off, or if not, make a contract to assure it is legally understood how long he can stay, what the rules will be about additional guests, and when he needs to move out so there will be no issues about this. After update: This guy sounds like an immature AH. I'm thinking OP will not want someone who behaves like this staying them in their home and remaining part of the friend group. I'm glad to hear that in the end this was resolved well.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Letting someone who's immature and spiteful live in your home is never a good idea. They WILL turn on you.

[@macylouwho1187]

Crap, I just finished the story. It’s madness that she would even think about staying with him now. Why? Because even if she keeps him completely away from her sister-this weakness for falling for other women and comparing his wife to them unfavorably will always be looming in her future when he happens upon someone else he’d rather be sleeping with over his wife. This is who he really is. She should believe him and want more love than that for herself. He literally told her how he felt when sober, how could she not believe him and think this is fixable? She’s nuts to even try. This sort of desperation is never a good look on a partner. Now she looks pathetic, desperately clinging on to a man who spends all of his time fantasizing about anyone else BUT her. So sad that she can’t recognize her worth and act accordingly. If you can’t even prove that “you” know your worth-don’t expect anyone else to see it if YOU can’t. She will diminish even further in his eyes now. There will come a day when he doesn’t notice her or care at all beyond “what’s for dinner, or hey I need this task done-will you do it?” Sex will be boring with her in his mind. If he’s already pretending that she’s someone else in order to feel real passion-that is not a good sign.

[@bhart3321]

Story 2: As someone with significantly younger gfs people like Jack piss me off. They're the reason people have such gross ideas about age gap relationships. He wants a younger woman so he can prey in her naivety, probably because women his own age are like Jill & see through their lack of maturity. What an ahole to rub it in her face, that was just plain vindictive. He's a 41yo child, pathetic.

[@chinaking918]

Story 1: I would move on. I wouldn’t be able to trust him again after that. The fact that he admitted to being in love with her sister for YEARS not just some drunk felting moment/thoughts but years of him wanting the sister smh. Disgusting make me wonder how often have he thought of the sister while doing the deed with her imagining she was her. I wouldn’t be able to get those thoughts out of my mind. I would be trying to recall every moment they had, driving myself crazy. All I can see is op starting to comparing herself to her sister if things don’t work out in therapy. Which will cause a strain on their (her and her sister) relationship especially if she plan on staying with the husband. I just hope she don’t start taking this nonsense out on her sister who’s an unwilling participant in his weird fantasies.

[@Rukiah1]

Story 1: there is so fixing that dumpster fire. Counseling is just gonna be a waste of time and money. Hopefully OP won't waste too much of either before she finally ends it. Personally I would've already been preparing for divorce after the first confession and calling lawyers after the second.

[@Shoujin1]

Story 1: if your partner is going all out of confessing their feelings for another person especially ur own sibling it’s best you talk to them and their partner about it and warn them about it and then proceed to divorce/breakup with them because there’s no solution to this! This is toxic and disgusting and it will never change

[@sugarshamrock]

Being drunk makes you brave and more honest than being sober.

[@quartzskull8772]

I don't think I'd use the word brave

[@kaneki18-d1t4]

I just saw the title and immeadetly thought "Let the shit show begin" 🤣

[@maryh-w8647]

I’ve never been drunk. I DON’T DRINK never have, never will that’s one major reason why, among many others. I’m a person that needs to always be in control of myself and my actions. I could never be with him again under any circumstances.

[@ChristopherClyde12]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@ChristopherClyde12]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?

[@ChristopherClyde12]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

[@jennilynne1977]

Hey Mark and Waffle Gang! Just got up, getting my Mark fix before taking my hubby to the hospital again. Thank you everyone for the support you all have given me. I love you all. I hope everyone is having a great day/afternoon/night! Peace ☮️, hugs 🤗 and love 😘!

[@phtevlin]

#1 Roman adage "In Vino, Veritas". In wine, truth.

[@FlamesofJagger]

Goooood moooorrrnnniiinnggg Waffle Gang!🎉💯🎉💯

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey hey hey!!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

🧇🧇🤗🤗💜💜

[@veraguindos]

Story 1 there's no coming back from your SO saying he loves another person, let alone your sister...

[@bonnielovely]

the passionate love making is him trying to make it up to her bc he feels bad. i hope she leaves him. she won’t ever forget (or forgive) him saying that.

[@stirlingarcher7972]

When I first read the title of this one earlier on Reddit I thought he was talking about his own sister 🤢😬😂

[@debipearson8762]

I'm a firm believer that if it's not in there it can't come out. Alcohol only loosens the inhibitions and allows it to come out freely.

[@clover1593ify]

I needed this video right now. This is making my work day better

[@idkkkk7588]

Probably the earliest I've ever been (17 seconds) haha

[@MarkNarrations]

Flying in and love to see it!

[@hanast.claire2546]

A drunk man's words are his sober thoughts. Run op

[@maryh-w8647]

He’s just sleeping at the new girls place now so he doesn’t need a place to lay his inconsiderate head😠

[@chamab.6800]

Story 2: Jack is disrespectful. My gut says no.

[@GuardianHalberd]

guy on story 2 lost the perfect chance to answer "understandable, have a nice day"

[@TheThyckVixen]

I was always told alcohol is like truth serum. When you have no inhibitions you say what you really want to or confess your deepest feelings and desires. She needs to leave and move on. Sorry for her.

[@adriane8565]

I've been blackout drunk and the worst thing I did was sit there dancing to the tunes playing on the gambling machines, what he said had nothing to do with alcohol. His words were his hidden thoughts. I feel sorry for the op.

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark stay safe please, peace.

[@hiroshock]

Story 1: I can't move pass it at all and would ask for divorce so that person can't access my sibling.

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

Are people this weak? “Can I say no to some jerk to whom I’m in no way obligated?” Argh

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 Jack is disrespectful AF. But, Jill has the spine of a jealous way. I'm never letting a man move into my house, but if I did I'm putting him out if he disrespects me by searching for dates while living in my house. That's just so incredibly rude and inappropriate. I would be done with Jack completely. Jealous way?? Jellyfish 🪼 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@bhart3321]

Yeah as someone with a significant age gap between my gfs people like Jack piss me off. They're part of the reason why so many people have gross ideas about age gaps. This "man" has the maturity of a scone. What an absolute 🤡

[@c16621]

Well, you know what they say - “in vino veritas”.