Marriage Advice Podcast | Can a Separation Help Save a Marriage | Relationship Advice

[@AverageAufa]

I wish my husband showed an ounce of emotion. We’re still separated (same house, no kids) and I’m on the fence of divorce because of his lack of emotions. During marriage counselling, the counsellor has to prompt him to pass me tissues when I was bawling. I need to be told I love you, I need affection like kisses, hugs and holding hands, but I have to prompt him for all of that. It feels like a better life when I’m single. I also had to beg him to go individual counselling, and my mum was the one who convinced him.

[@Melz66574]

I love your honesty and vunerablity. Thank you for sharing

[@decodingcouples]

always!

[@H1ya2u2]

Marriage is rough. It needs acceptance in humility and courage to admit and brave to do the change

[@robdawg3957]

Im going through this right now with my wife of 15 years and this story is unbelievably similar to ours. I was constantly putting up walls when things got too hard emotionally, i ignored her cries for help and dismissed her feelings as being overly dramatic or misplaced. In reality it was a problem. I was just being avoidant. She left about 3 weeks ago, and thats what it took me to see the problems as they were. I immediately knew i had to fix myself if I wanted her back. I've got into therapy, and I am working on myself as hard as I can right now. I'm trying to give her space while still showing her the work I'm doing, its hard, it tears me up every day, all day long but hopefully there is light at the end of the tunnel.

[@kiraeggers9096]

What an amazing interview and sharing of their experience ! Thank you so much. This helped me so much !!!!

[@austinhanks7835]

Way to go Gianni! Thanks for coming on the show. From what I heard, it sounds like the separation doesn't really save the marriage. To me, the separation helped Rachel clearly express how discontent she was which opened conversation for repair. They did the necessary work (through therapy) to take responsibility, empathize, and learn to repair. Then coming together (in COVID) facilitated the conversation for recovery. (Please let me know if I'm misreading this.) COVID helped our marriage too. Saving 5-10 hours a week of commuting time and being very accessible working from home, greatly enhanced our communication - especially during times when she was burnt out and not feeling seen.

[@decodingcouples]

appreciate your thoughts!

[@rayvangobel1]

Wholly frack. Ty for this. Day 4 full separation 2nd marriage. Working on myself so so hard. Stupid victim mindset is being broken no lie. Thanks Jiaon for your truth

[@verolebaq3918]

Thank you for sharing this! Loved it

[@decodingcouples]

thank you!

[@l.9819]

Thanks for this valuable insight 😍

[@decodingcouples]

thanks for listening!

[@JonS-wb5wq]

Just found this and have so many questions

[@anjonsarker2374]

Nice video dear

[@decodingcouples]

Thank you 😊