How to Stop a Toddler from Throwing Things and Hitting | Solving Problem Behaviors

[@pic5637]

I sent this video to my wife and we both watched it. We started doing these tips and after 3 days, my two year old has improved a lot. Actually, my wife and I have improved a lot. We’re not stressed out, we’re not feeling frustrated, if anything, as soon as our two year does something we look at each other and try to remember what your video suggests to do. We’re on day 5 and we’re so grateful. Thanks for sharing.

[@marybarbera]

I'm so happy this video helped you! If you're looking for more resources, visit MaryBarbera.com/links-yt

[@andreasMou123]

28:20 is what you came here for.

[@mrym.a6640]

Thanks

[@Gigi.973]

Thank you!!!

[@T0US8687]

Where’s the hitting part

[@epic_rshutterbug9226]

Fukn he'll thank you!!@

[@angelinepolanco4940]

Omg thank you 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 I was starting to think they wouldnt really ever talk about it

[@lanabear2707]

1. Be in control of the extra items in the area so they don’t become accessible objects to throw. 2. Ignore the behaviour you don’t want 3. Don’t use threats or bribes - don’t use “I’m sorry” 4. Use a clear slate - don’t revisit the poor behaviour by talking about it 5. Social stories are to much focus on negative situations 6. When the kids are calm - sit them down and set new ground rules - we can’t hit people and we can’t throw things. If you do this then we will remind you once not to hit or throw. If you throw we will take the items out of your hands. We won’t talk to you again until you stop the behaviour. (It only takes a few minutes for them to calm down) As soon as they relax - the slate is clean and the energy is positive and vibrant.

[@mariagassner7845]

This was so fantastic. I am sharing with my staff this September and my clients' families as well! Thank you. I love that you start with, "you are a good mom!"

[@marybarbera]

Thank you so much for listening/watching and for your support! I'm happy that you found this helpful.

[@angelicaromero1674]

Wow thank you so much! My twins both have cerebral palsy with behavioral issues. This is really great information. We do have a behavioral therapist that we’ve just started with. This is so simplified. Thank you, thank you, thank you! ❤

[@marybarbera]

You are so welcome!

[@aneesahthequeen]

😍😍❤️❤️💙💙My daughter always hit when she doesn’t get her way right away! If she don’t hit us she will slam and throw things down!?? So thanks for sharing advice!❤️

[@melisaoffice7194]

same here!

[@angelawatkins6772]

Sameeee it's miserable no peace rarely :/

[@nadirrasvan4594]

Just wanted to thank you for those precious words I just started implementing this with my 2 yo kid and I have seen an immediate improvement and this actually made me so much excited to continue following this and first time to see my wife after implementing this too is a stress free really thank you so much 🙏🙏

[@marybarbera]

Great! To learn more attend a 💻 free workshop to help young children increase talking, decrease tantrums, and improve picky eating, sleeping, potty training and more: bit.ly/3GZjn7m

[@alessiomonti5634]

Nice video :) Looks like a good technique when you have language, but what about younger toddlers? Do you have any tipa on that? :)

[@annamaru7577]

My grandson hits with open hand when he gets exited ( usually while watching kids videos on his iPad) he throws toys only while playing not on an aggressive way. He throws tantrums or wines when he wants something or gets frustrated. I will definitely will implement this technique.

[@marybarbera]

Good luck! Also make sure to check out the turn tantrums around mini courses at turntantrumsaround.com

[@kathymills9572]

Thanks, Mary. Shared with my daughter who has 3 daughters under four. Great info for all parents!❤️

[@marybarbera]

Thank you so much for watching and sharing!

[@Kristin_MommyBreakdown]

My friend is having trouble with this. Sending it to her. Thanks!!

[@marybarbera]

She's lucky to have you!

[@audreyduggan5567]

I so appreciate this video, its so honest and real and I think we have all had moments like this with our kiddies. Rachels willingness to share is so helpful. We don't get it right all the time but with reflection can do better the next time.

[@marybarbera]

Very well said! Thank you :)

[@The_Mim]

Our 4 year old definitely likes throwing stuff. Especially if he's angry or upset.

[@marybarbera]

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[@vzlanoxvida]

My 2 1/2 year old is hitting (us) when he doesn’t get his way. In this case, what do we do immediately, or “take way”, since he doesn’t technically have an object on his hands? What is the immediate consequence? Thanks in advance

[@speechspot3758]

Thanks so much for sharing this info, I am an SLP who works in a classroom full of preschoolers. Do you have suggestions for this behavior in this environment particularly throwing when there are toys that are being played with everywhere around the room and it is difficult to eliminate those opportunities for throwing.

[@marybarbera]

When we have problem behaviors like this, it's important to assess the whole picture of what's going on with the child. I can help you with this in my online Toddler course. For more information, join me for a free online workshop at www.marybarbera.com/workshops.

[@florentinac.2651]

Hi. About throwing..can it be also caused by VISUAL stimming or AUDITORY stimming? How should a kindergarden teacher react to a verbal child of 5 years old autistic,who is throwing things ,as a play game,during activities? When can we speak about this kind of behavior as one of oppositional one-adhd type??If he do not stop after a long time? Thank you so much.Blessings !

[@marybarbera]

I would suggest joining a course to help: MaryBarbera.com/courses

[@T0US8687]

My 18 month old has been hitting a lot in playful matters, but he also hits or throw things when his bigger brother or sister stops him from doing something

[@marybarbera]

We want to do what we can to keep the child safe. It is the safest to prevent these behaviors. Looking into pain and potential medical causes as I discuss here may help as well marybarbera.com/problem-behaviors-related-to-pain-four-functions-of-behavior/

[@queenmonty4779]

So basically tell them that if they throw hit bite whatever you’re going to take their toys away when they do it take the toys and just walk away and when they stop crying and come up to you be your regular happy responsive self and keep doing it until They understand

[@moneyparhar]

We have our 3 year old turning 4 in November. He is in pre K. He hit other kids in class. We r tired of that. We keep telling him not to do. He says he will not do it again but he does it again. Teacher says he just hit random. Sometimes for no reason. We feel helpless. Can u pls help.

[@marybarbera]

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[@krisadivine4252]

Same here.

[@lauracurry9274]

This is the video I needed to watch today I hope this works x

[@marybarbera]

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[@SiphokuhleMakhamba]

My toddler broke my TV recently, he throws things and hits people when he is angry, I am listening to this hoping to learn a few things.

[@marybarbera]

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[@dougwilson1247]

The Wifey here….. let’s remember to thumbs up, this helps tremendously

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for watching!

[@ashleyengelhardt1859]

My 4 year old Autistic son is super sweet boy but lately he’s been bitting pushing pinches, and has been throwing down his baby brother. I feel so hopeless right now. He gets better the reverses back

[@marybarbera]

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[@queenmonty4779]

I do have a question about classroom wise if they throw toys and I take them they just get more toys and throw different ones my job also doesn’t allow to block off toys from the children also with hitting we can’t do time out we do redirecting so how fo I not give hitting attention

[@marybarbera]

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[@Researchonly88]

But if I take what’s in his hand he’ll just grab something else… literally anything. Should I hold his hands?

[@marybarbera]

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[@73viji]

Thanks ❤

[@marybarbera]

You are welcome!

[@dods016]

thats my problem with my 3 year old son.. start throwing things when he is 1year old.. many cellphone and tv are damaged since then..

[@marybarbera]

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[@olive1162]

I believe my son he’s 22 months he throws and smashes things and hurts us when he upset or frustrated and can’t express them selves ?

[@marybarbera]

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[@kaylah1507]

What about when your 3 year old will go around the house throwing every thing in sight while angry? I can’t just pin him down… what do I do? I can’t just ignore him while he destroys the house…

[@marybarbera]

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[@CallMeZrix]

My brother throws away every phones in our house. How to stop this.

[@marybarbera]

First step is to keep all phones out of reach to prevent the behavior. I can teach you how to prevent problem behaviors like this effectively. Join a free workshop to learn more: MaryBarbera.com/workshop or join my online course and community today: MaryBarbera.com/courses

[@CallMeZrix]

@@marybarbera thats not even possible. Where we hide. The kid finds it everywhere and wont stop crying if he doesn’t get any phones. More likely. It will start hitting us with metal sticks. His zodiac sign is scorpio btw.

[@CallMeZrix]

@@marybarbera more likely. He smashed every phones 13 times that our total cost is 520 dollars.

[@ellalicanda9382]

But my toddler just 2yrs old now do hitting and throwing and i have 4months baby. We are talking to him a night before but he's just listening

[@marybarbera]

This can help: marybarbera.com/autism-and-hitting-resolving-autism-aggression/

[@anumabid8937]

I have a question..what if the child doesnt have anything in his hands to throw..but finds other things to throw..for instance, he throws the vase on the table..or anything thing in this vision area..child is non_verbal.

[@marybarbera]

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[@cyn4201]

does he have autism?

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[@tamarasmith3588]

What about when a 3 year old hits, biting, scratching his mom?

[@marybarbera]

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