Mastering the Paradox of Acceptance and Change With Anxiety- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

[@AMcDub0708]

Acceptance is not Resignation. This changed my perspective.

[@kimraethridge6124]

The best advice I ever had on this subject is just to observe the emotion without judgement. Like watching a wave roll in and saying oh I recognize that it is sadness again with no judgement and no attempts to repress, no one ever died of a feeling so don't fight it just let it happen without judgement. I was surprised to find out most feelings get processed and peace and acceptance follow.

[@DivineDianne]

This is so helpful. Thank you. Like a wave in the ocean washes over the shore and recedes again, so too emotions come and go. This is an excellent imagery.

[@aneelaaamir4941]

I'll try this thing

[@peterkhew7414]

It's zen meditation.

[@ruecumbers]

This took me a long time to master but it makes such a big difference to be able to seperate yourself from the feeling like this as it happens. I also feel much more in tune and understanding of my body with the fact that most of the problems; the anxiety and the depression, are my brain fumbling the brain chemicals, not me.

[@vidhiagrawal3]

This is what exactly Buddhist doctrine is!😊

[@tonjo575]

This makes SOOO much sense! Last week at school I felt a bit dizzy. I was like "you're just anxious, just use a skill you know" . So I used slow breathing. When I noticed that my dizziness didn't get better, I started feeling more and more anxious. And before I knew it, I was stuck in a loop of fighting with my emotions. Eventually, I calmed down (after 1 hour or so). But now I know that I should have just said to myself "this is temporary, it'll go away" Thanks to the people that read that far :-)

[@trusound170]

GAH! I do that too! It can be so maddening, I just commented on my anxiety and panic getting turned on when I'm dizzy. Any idea what causes yours? If you are dehydrated and well rested it can be your neck causing it. This is a video I use to help this. It always works wonders. Being at student I assume you find your self sitting with a rigid neck for long periods, which is why I think this could help. I hope Dr. Emma doesn't mind me sharing this link. kzbin.info/www/bejne/rZzad6GCoc2Whqc

[@donnabolt5847]

I think it is GREAT that you recognized and truly acknowledged your dizziness So many times we just blow everything off and keep trucking full speed ahead. Our bodies are sensitive to that and just by recognizing it really helps! 👏

[@Joey007ist]

As someone who’s had this battle for a year now. I can tell you the way it gets better is hard to explain. Slow breathing is all well and good. But if you practice that but in your head you’re telling yourself “please please please go away” it won’t go anywhere. It feels like you have to get to a point to where when it comes up, you no longer fear it. Especially when you realize it gets worse when you worry about it. Once you see yourself accomplish making it go away, your brain remembers that in the future.

[@marsireid]

I just listened to a podcast about stoicism and the quote, “we retain the ability to choose and to change,” has a strong connection to your message in this video. I love the way you succinctly and intuitively assimilate the information. Thank you and keep up the good work! I am now telling myself, “I feel anxious about my first mental health presentation as an AMFT to a group of teens!!” I got this! 🙏🏼😅

[@nildajusino7470]

@@trusound170 Yes. Me too. In graduate school for 3 years and have developed neck pains that I never suffered with before. It is a cycle.

[@jamessawyer9018]

I love to hear how therapist struggle with the same issues that we have. I think it makes us or me feel better that these emotions and struggles are normal. And there are many ways to not let them control your life . Thanks Emma for sharing your experiences. I loved how you said to your self " silly emma".LOL. I say that to myself sometimes too. Your the best keep making this good content. 👍

[@noneofyourbuizness]

Empathetic therapist are rare 😌

[@aloevera7422]

Even therapists do have therapists.

[@nazekb3756]

I think it’s so wise of you to think that way, a lot of people wont take what a therapist says unless the therapist seems to have it all figured out or if they seem mysterious enough and not relatable.

[@maryboswell6089]

Love this! Giving myself permission to feel my feelings/emotions makes all the difference in the world...I needed to hear this today...Thank you Emma! I'm going to recommend to family and friends that they watch your helpful you-tube videos...

[@julienguyen604]

@@noneofyourbuiznessi’m kiio

[@Youdothedishes]

9:58 - "Acceptance doesn't mean that you always win, but it means that you get to play." Idk, I just found that quote really profound.

[@octohex2908]

self reminder: its because now you know that feeling uncomfortable and stressed out doesnt mean you cant take part in your values or have no self control. you can try them despite feeling anxious or stressed. if i got to play everyday and not be serious about it i would love to learn how to play the game and might as well enjoy it for the rest of my life. so i accept that i wont feel great everyday but still be able to do the things i have to do and not think about the anxiety that comes with activities that i have to do and want to do. and i'd just want to know why anxiety occurs from a neuroscience point of view.

[@cheerbeerification]

This is why it's important to schedule meditation, and not only do it when you feel anxious. The meditation will take a cumulative effect over time and it won't turn into a struggle against anxiety.

[@BigBossMan538]

Meditation doesn’t work for me. Feels like it’s just getting rid of thoughts. At least I don’t like guided meditation, too distracting much of the time

[@gogogolyra1340]

U cant stop ur thoughts from running across ur brain. The meditation is to help you refocus and bring your attention to the present moment instead of your mind

[@aikiguy]

Meditation isn’t getting rid of thoughts or feelings, it’s learning to observe them and their coming and going.

[@leoren2685]

Meditation isn't everyone's cup of tea.

[@indigoziona]

There are different ways to meditate! Being really in the flow of an absorbing activity, journalling, taking a walk and taking the time to look at and appreciate your surroundings, taking a quiet moment to direct your thoughts to your values and to reflect and check in with yourself. Taking time for quiet and self-compassion. I also like to think of how many years ago, a colleague told me he liked to visit a golf driving range with his friends and he'd spend the entire time cursing his lack of success and getting annoyed. "So why do you do it?" I asked. "Because it's so relaxing," he said. "For the couple of hours I'm there, I only think about golf."

[@AS-kf1ol]

"this too shall pass" - my grandmother's most impactful saying for anxiety and negative emotions. It's not who you are, it's just how you feel.

[@tiannaannenicole]

Amen

[@samdovels1234]

I love your comment, but the point here is to rather focus on the present moment even as uncomfortable it is, and not think about the future when it will be over.

[@tonjo575]

A willingness skill that I've made myself is imagining my emotions (mostly negative ones) as cute little characters. Then I imagine welcoming these characters in my head. It may sound weird, but it has worked for me so I wanted to share it with others 😅

[@Quetzalcoatl-Dragon_97]

Thomas Sanders, is that you?!

[@azgirl215]

This is funny, which already helps. I’m going to try it. Thanks!

[@menandi5795]

Omg I just started doing this! I think of them as emojis.

[@MyMichellePL]

Possibly this works because it connects with your inner child

[@alixnorman7389]

I do this! (Pretty sure I learnt it from Emma’s Emotion Processing Course!) So now I have a wibbly wobbly Ms Anxiety, who is just trying her absolute best to protect me, but sometimes goes over the top. (I imagine giving her a long hug, I thank her for trying to protect me, and she calms right down!) There’s Monkey, who constantly brings up a million thoughts and worries (so I gave him the concrete task of noticing when unhelpful thoughts arise and tossing them out of my head - a trick I learnt from Zen Buddhism. He’s getting very good at it now, and loves being useful!) And a couple of other characters too - I won’t bore you with the lot! Once upon a time, I would have thought this was completely mad. Now I recognise how truly helpful it is!

[@amandakaras356]

I have been letting my anxiety run my life to the point that I have no life. I have been avoiding leaving my house because I am afraid of having a panic attack in front of people, and they will think I am crazy and not worth helping. I have been wanting to change this pattern because it is not me. Thank you for showing me how I can take baby steps to become the person I want to be.

[@sweetmelodies2545]

Words ain't enough to thank you,I've watched many of your anxiety videos and they brought me back from a dark place,I couldn't afford a therapy session and I didn't want to bother anyone and God sent me an angel, thank u Emma

[@kacheongho5115]

So so lonely, just like being trapped in a dark hole and cannot ask for help, or don't know what you can do while time flies

[@linaborbujo346]

She is an angel ❤

[@egnieto]

​@@kacheongho5115 I feel you. I hope you're feeling better, I've been struggling too. Let us know how you are🙏 maybe sharing may help.

[@oopsydaisy40]

I have had panic disorder for 40 years. My panic attacks were terrifying because every time I thought I was dying. It got so bad I considered suicide. Then I realized I wanted to die because I was so afraid of dying! That was a turning point. Even with meds I still occasionally have severe attacks but now I tell myself well, if I die, so what. It will happen to all of us. That mindset takes the edge off and helps a lot.

[@hatsjkedee]

To me the two moments of true acceptance I've experienced in my life in the face of fear, didnt per se feel like walking away from the dragon, but more like putting down my shield and weapons to accept/welcome my deadly fate and being left with the direct realization that the dragon I fought wasn't even real. The mind is a miraculous thing.

[@PizzaHandhelds]

This is the way to conquer anxiety. It worked for me 100%. BRING IT ON!!

[@whatsupchannel3047]

Anxiety is something I have learnt to live with , I cope by sitting down and allowing it to pass . I have done this for many years only by accident not because I knew what to do . In my heart I knew that they are feelings that pass but they can be very life limiting and take away freedom to be and enjoy . My anxiety started at the age of around 4 years old and still continues but much much less 50 years on .

[@nylakhan5658]

4 years old that’s only a child near to a toddler I didn’t even think children can get anxiety

[@whatsupchannel3047]

@@nylakhan5658 sadly grief can be experienced very young , and early memories of hurt and abuse also. I would never have known what anxiety was at the time , but in later life you realise what bad feelings are .

[@kulsoomahsan4440]

@@nylakhan5658 Yes, a child can have anxiety, depression, fear, stress, grief. I know people who have been experienced depression starting in near infancy.

[@nylakhan5658]

The main question is what help and support is there when you are suffering with these symptoms not even the doctors know or give you the right treatment.

[@nylakhan5658]

@@kulsoomahsan4440 I didn’t know that an infancy is way too small how do you find out what symptoms they are going through being that young ?

[@brianwatts5482]

This is a great lesson I learned from my therapist. After my wife passed away several years ago I had a lot of anxiety and depression over being alone. Thinking I would be alone for the rest of my life was really really scary. Once I accepted this reality, I no longer feel anxious. I still hope to meet someone new but no longer feel desperate. Thanks Kati.

[@rajzakku8829]

This reminds me of when I started having panic attacks 2 years ago and even if I wasn't fully aware of the concept of acceptance I learned by trial and error that it was the best approach. The thing that was affecting me the most during a panic attack was the fear of it getting worse, the impending insomnia and the desperation of not having a technique to stop that horrible feeling immediately. Only when I started visualizing the panic as a storm in the sea I had to weather somehow I stopped trying to fight it and it subsided eventually. No expectations, no fears of it getting worse, just ride through it experiencing all its feelings and keeping in mind that it would pass and I would have time to recover when I woke up the next morning.

[@iamsongforsomeone994]

That metaphor that you used helped me a lot. Sailors don’t just get to magically fix the storm and make it go away, they continue working in spite of it so that the boat doesn’t sink.

[@prajaktagodbole]

I am immensely grateful for your videos. Thank you very much for the thoughtfulness and generosity. I listen to you everyday. You give so much practical advice. I have done therapy before, but found it to be waste of my time. I used to get triggered each time just explaining my issues, without learning much from the therapist. You are truly a blessing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! ❤

[@marmaz57]

Gosh, Emma - you have a true gift for teaching and coaching. "The Default Setting - Accepting my Emotions". A clear goal. Thanks!

[@fabiennerivet4968]

My therapist told me the same things. I was expecting her to give me tools and skills and stuff to DO. Whereas she just told me to BE. It's hard to put in practice when you've been stuck in a certain pattern for years but I'm trying :) thanks for the reminder Emma!

[@kacheongho5115]

Emma introduced a book before "Get out of your mind, and into your life " by Steven C. Hayes. I read through the whole book and there are many exercises inside the book teaching you how to be "To be "

[@nschilling3]

“What you resist persists.” 🙏🏻

[@missyh3]

I struggle with understanding what acceptance of my emotions really means, and this video is explaining it in a new way that is starting to make sense to me. Thank you!

[@Michele-rn5bf]

Welcome the emotion. That’s acceptance.

[@kimihime9901]

Thank you so much Emma, you have no idea how much you are impacting my life in a positive way and helping me learn how to cope with anxiety and depression. I was experiencing a lot of anxiety this morning before work and I caught myself doing exactly what you said in here, trying to use the skills I know to calm me down (deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, etc) and was getting more anxious and frustrated when I realized it wasn’t working. It all makes sense now, acceptance is the key. And as you said, to accept what we feel in the present, not as “I’m always going to be like this so I have to accept that”. Btw I am a psychiatrist, in Brazil, and it’s comforting to know that fellow mental health professionals also experience and deal with anxiety, and I appreciate your openness and courage to speak out about this. We are all human, it doesn’t make us flawed or less capable. Your video was the turning point in my day. Thank you with all my heart, you are amazing and a great inspiration for me. ❤️❤️🥰 I’m sending lots of love your way

[@professorstarlight2268]

MAN this video was timely. Between analyzing my habits, and staying mindful, and thinking about where I'm at in the physiological process, I'm realizing I forgot one of the first lessons - back to name it to tame it all over again.

[@di_kid00]

It's nice to know that there is a choice: to accept my feelings and support myself, or to beat myself up and freeze/escape. I like the first option better. While the second option, being stuck in inaction, will never lead to success. And this acceptance has what helped me withstand all the trauma that still lives within me. Some days will be full-on replays of horrifying flashbacks of had happened, and some days, peace. So to be able to accept and support myself through days like that has been so life-changing.

[@judymarkel8029]

This is good. I must have watched your willingness video a dozen times. When my Dr. asked what I was doing to help with my anxiety I told her "Willingness" Thank you for all you do to help

[@donnabolt5847]

This was great! We, as a society, have adopted toxic positivity mindset. It's almost as if we are trained that if we are not happy 24/7 that that is negative and not acceptable. Something is wrong. If you are grieving- please feel your grief!! Grief isn't just about death of a lost one. Grief is a way your body honors what you once had/cherished. Grieving doesn't mean you are ungrateful. We were given every emotion for a reason! Jesus himself experienced every emotion- even anger. It's just how you handle the anger or emotion. Just try to remember when you are emotional that it's ok. Emotions are forever flowing. Just feel them. Thanks Emma!!

[@indigoziona]

You're so right! I remember an acquaintance doing a "100 happy days" challenge and she clearly loved it and said it changed her life, but it made me uncomfortable because she was so judgemental to her "old self" before the challenge, not to mention that there are days where you don't always feel happy and why should you have to? A different friend did the challenge too but she also did a humorous 100 Grumpy Days running alongside it where she had a funny moan about something petty that happened in the day! I do believe we can choose to be grateful, by looking honestly at the genuine positive things that happened to us or that we saw in our day. But we can't just be happy all the time unless we're somehow living an utterly perfect life.

[@Peanuts76]

I might still grieving state, as my depression are pretty bad.... But i guess it was right, we can't keep denying our feeling and avoiding, sometimes i repress all my emotions deep inside just to conform to some social cues, it might the reason why i still have anxiety and mental issues, until i accept the things that i can never change, like people attitude around me, opinions and even negative feedback from people around, it's pretty paradox yet it's true, acceptance.....

[@planktosbazaar]

Thank you for this. I worked myself into an emotional frenzy last night. I too have a lot of “skills” to work through emotions and realized that no matter what I did, I was feeling worse. And the last thing I hadn’t tried was accepting what was in that moment. I started to fight and refuse and saw it as “giving up”, but I just continued to accept everything that was in this moment. Can’t tell you what a freeing release that’s been. 🙏 I loved this video and it will further strengthen my process

[@beldr.]

Thank you!! Acceptance became a huge part of my psychotherapy focus because deep down I knew I had to learn to accept instead of deny, deflect, distract, or ignore and pretend i magically felt nothing. Acceptance and commitment therapy became my chosen starting point just because “fighting it” or “getting rid of anxiety” didn’t feel aligned even though in my habits it was certainly what I was trying to do. I can also relate to the experience of trying things to get rid of anxiety, especially when a stressful process is happening, and sometimes yes it takes awhile to be willing to pause, open up and accept whats actually going in. But once I do, I at least know what’s actually going on with me instead of just racing without awareness into more and more anxiousness. And yes sometimes the emotions need more time to process and be felt and that’s totally a normal part of human experience! Thanks for sharing!

[@ksy4747]

This is excellent and ground zero advice for anything really. Accept where you are at the moment, embrace it, let it feel how it feels and see if anything shifts first on its own before you try to shift it yourself.

[@donhabel1590]

Great topic God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change courage the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference 👍👍

[@Tommy_Stewart]

Love what you said about the goal not just being to change how we feel, but to get better at feeling. That really hit.

[@cherylredmond2060]

OMGoodness. My struggle is anxiety but also PTSD. It hits me and I feel like crawling into a closet to scream and cry for hour or more! I hate feeling this emotion. Perhaps I can sit, cry and just accept what I’m feeling and know that feeling this is OK. Thank you Emma. Is nice to know you are human too and can struggle like all humans 😁

[@peteypickles3262]

Sometimes, I just recognize anxiety like it's a separate entity - I'll say to myself, "Hey look, anxiety is coming along for the ride. That's fine! I know it's going to tell me not to do something, but I'm just going to do it anyway. If anxiety wants to come along, that's OK"

[@GratefulDeb270]

Great video! I sometimes use a timer (it feels safer) and say “bring it on” in meditation, journaling or doing art therapy. When the timer goes off, that’s enough for today. If I need to, I will do it again the next day and the next. This helps me with fear, grief and so many emotions. 💕🌷🧘‍♀️

[@nightcat569]

Dealing with anxiety for the first time (been few months ) I learned that when I accept my feelings my anxiety or symptoms decrease or sometimes go away it's hard in the moment but it's worth it I'm enthusiastic for a full recovery

[@taranextstop]

When I acknowledged my emotions for the first time, those emotions gradually went away. For the first time in so many mornings I woke up with such fear and nervousness, I felt free. From then on, I always acknowledge and affirm my emotions. I feel them and not forcefully do things to make myself okay. I am not also hundred percent okay but I am looking for better days.

[@kimcreate1]

This was very helpful. I need to practice acceptance so I can left go of scary thoughts and feelings.

[@DM-jt9io]

I feel like I've begun to be set free from fighting with emotions. I am so grateful to you for sharing this!!

[@dominikaprochazkova843]

Amazing. Acceptance is my topic in so many areas of my life. I went through acceptance of my anxiety by myself a couple of months ago and i felt huge relieve just from that.

[@LlamaM2288]

Over these past few weeks, I have been struggling with severe anxiety more so than I ever have before in my life. I already knew about your channel before so I watched your other various vids about how to deal with anxiety and they have honestly been a life changer so far! Thank you so much for the help and all that you do to help people with mental health issues. I wish you and your family the best in life ❤ thank you!!

[@azgirl215]

This was so helpful. I was right in middle of a panic attack that I was stuck in because I didn’t want to feel it. I feel a little better now. Thank you 🙏

[@andrereloaded1425]

I needed reminding of this right now. The more you fight back against anxiety/anger/fear - the more it hardens or pushes back. It's a horrible loop and acceptance is the biggest door out of it. Thank you, I love your output - God knows how many people you've helped.

[@JannicaSeraypheap-wp5mb]

Something that’s been helping me with acceptance is when I notice a thought or emotion comes in, I say in my head, “this is not a bad thought/emotion or a good thought/emotion. It is something I am experiencing. And now, I will decide where that thought or emotion will lay in terms of my values and actions.” I get the give myself the choice of what I want to do with that thought or emotion but the key is that I take some action with it. I used to get so wrapped up in thinking “I’m so stupid” or “i don’t want to do this, what if this happens?!” So now I finally have the power and understanding of choosing what I want to do :)

[@krishnagiridhar3692]

You are not struggling or fighting. Its putting the sword down and choosing to walk away.....great profound truth🙏

[@colebarmettler7143]

Hello Emma, I just watched this series you did of 32 skills to process emotions. I bought a note book, and watched one video a day. I took time to write down some notes from each one, and then try and find a scriptural principle that supported each lesson. I want to thank you for making this available, and for the time, energy and care you put into helping people. I think the way I feel any emotion is forever changed for the better because of your hard work. This series was life changing for me. THANK YOU!!

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

That's awesome! I'd love to see your list of scriptures that apply to each lesson - [e-mail]

[@roberhtmatthews]

Every time I watch one of your videos, I want to give you a high five! Thank you so much for this life-changing advice. :-)

[@llscksa]

It is my birthday today i wake up early and went out to the beach for walking i found your video I would like to thank you sooo much from Jeddah saudia arabia

[@mpath2197]

Wow this is great, ACCEPTANCE IS KEY

[@kayrmet]

I can't even express how happy, relieved, validated, hopeful I've felt since finding your Channel! I was an anxious kid/ young adult but worked thru it. Was ok for decades! But now 55 I've found myself anxious a lot and have been struggling. You have brought me back to what I had learned before. I bought your workbook and will be going thru the 30 video course you generously made free on KZbin!

[@indigoziona]

I've been watching your "How to process your emotions" course and this video couldn't have come at a better time! I think I'm very inclined to decide I can think away my emotions if I only think long and hard enough and though sometimes it does work, at times it has the very opposite effect of getting stuck in my brain as a mental loop. Your videos are really encouraging me to have compassion for myself and to accept my emotions, even trying some counter-intuitive strategies like letting myself be more aware of my surroundings when in a stressful environment rather than blocking it all out... essentially going "yeah, it's noisy and cramped and uncomfortable but I'm ok". I think I see acceptance like this: when arriving in a dark place, it's easy to hide or to run in any direction to get out. But the smart move is to look at a map and see where we really want to go... When we look at a map, we don't just look at the destination... We find where we are first of all. We can't just act like we're at the destination, but a map shows us that the journey is possible.

[@twentyonepotheads]

Whenever I am having a panic attack, I turn on your videos and fall asleep. You have such a soothing voice and whenever I wake up I feel instantly healed! Thank you for doing the things you do! Now to rewatch them all while Im awake so I can actually hear the message! LOL.

[@tthotpham]

I found your channel last week.. and my goodness you have taught me so much already! Also, helped become more calm with my thoughts, more mentally honest with myself, & less emotionally reactive. Thank you!

[@shodack5124]

Thank you. I have been working on accepting myself and my emotions for a few years now, and it has really made such a difference in my life. I'm starting to bring some of these ideas into my 9 year old daughter's life. It's tough, getting her to accept that her hard and painful feelings aren't something to hide from...

[@hannaapache1025]

Thank you so much for this. You helped me to better manage my anxiety. I love you. Blessings sent your way.

[@eringee6052]

I love your work! This level of content is a gift- thank you! From my experience, I have found that before I can accept my anxiety, I have to first honor it as a signal. Loved your positive self talk- "Bring it on anxiety!" Sometimes I just need to admit that I need to drop something so my stress/cortisol can lower instead of staying in the high stress situation.

[@CarolSharac-cl7mp]

Great advice…let the “bad” emotion/feeling just happen. Like the old adage, face your fear and it will disappear. Once I did that (didn’t happen overnight and it took some practice), I no longer have that dreadful emotion. That was 50 years ago so I’m living proof! I love your common sense outlook Emma. Thank you!

[@cassieoz1702]

I was trained in CBT and trauma focused therapy but ACT has become where I sit most comfortably. Dr Russ Harris was my first intro to ACT and the role of mindfulness as a tool.

[@TheRealAntonioSoprano]

You’ve helped me so much. Took a while to understand this message, because I constantly wanted a “fast answer” or quick solution. But by accepting my anxiety, understanding I wasn’t in danger, and not trying to challenge/associate with the thoughts/feelings (etc.) I am slowly breaking that cycle of intense anxiety and panic attacks.

[@tobelieve627]

It’s so hard, but it’s the magic, accept the emotion. It’s super helpful, the really hard part is to truly accept, be honest for yourself. I think God created humans that way, it’s a way to tell yourself that something needs attention. Be grateful, and accept. Thank you for sharing.

[@glennodell4003]

This particular class , is the single most important , and has made the greatest change in my life .

[@carolbenavidez2228]

Omg! Struggled with this question for years! I need to "accept" but need to believe I'm changed "right now" and things are changed "right now." Only made me more defeated and depressed. Thank you so much for this explanation! 💖

[@themutterer4503]

Your advice is always sound, and hugely helpful. Reassurance in a world often devoid of it. Thank you for overcoming your own anxieties about running a KZbin channel that is a massive help to others. Your courage, culminating in aid to others, is an inspiration to everyone who sometimes prioritise other people's expectations over their own. There is nothing more noble than a desire to help others.

[@johnholme783]

Acceptance is not resignation! What you resist persist’s. when stress management methods are done out of fear, they act like rituals which are defence mechanisms designed to keep anxiety under control! Thank you for producing these videos, they are giving people insight into their problems! ,

[@pattytweedle140]

I’m so glad I found your channel. At 58, I’ve tried to “deal” with not only childhood trauma but an 86% burn injury from 24 years ago. Had a bad emotional “break” a week ago. The anxiety and lashing out made me feel like I was trapped in a beehive. Think of yourself as the smoke! 😂. I’m anxious to learn more each day with your help. Thank you ❤️

[@evelynteles88]

Hello to you who are reading this message, I want to leave this verse for you ❤️ For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11 May God bless you and your family 🙏

[@maxineboxer9714]

@@evelynteles88 God bless you and yours too.

[@carstenbredahlgjelsten8331]

Thank you ♥️ Greetings from Copenhagen, Denmark🇩🇰

[@brittneygilchrist2744]

I practiced this in Court today! Instead of being upset over my 10 year case still continuing when I could end it if a Justice would listen to me… usually super frustrating and I end up in an anxiety attack.. I accepted how it was going to go.. and I even giggled to myself when the date of my documents was 4/20 😏 I love when I’m on track with what you teach just naturally.. you are an amazing teacher and I owe my amazing outlook on life to you!! ✌🏻💕

[@DivineDianne]

Good luck with your case.

[@brittneygilchrist2744]

@@DivineDianne thank you so very much 🥰 I hope you have a wonderful day Dianne!

[@sarahblunden4372]

I have a court hearing on Monday for a week. I'm really bricking it but I need to accept my feelings

[@brittneygilchrist2744]

@@sarahblunden4372 I wish you all of the best for Monday. It’s hard, but it’s worth the work for acceptance 💕

[@basabroy3758]

Thank you so much for such a great video. I am facing the challenge of this paradox since last one year. I tried to make changes of my emotions resorting all technique available and have lost everything of life. Nothing worked with me. Finally I accept my present moment and feeling much better. If I lost one day sleep, I was worried and lost sleep for next one week. Believe me I tried everything like deep breathing, meditation, yoga nidra and what not ? But nothing worked. What is more important is that you accept whatever you are and engage with work you love. Stop watching too much videos on KZbin and it will make you more confused. Please bear in mind that nobody will help you unless you help yourself. Believe that you were fine , you are fine and will be fine.

[@carmellasidwell3809]

I've been to so many therapists and never received this advice. I have always tried to fight anxiety and it has never worked. This is a game changer.!!!

[@maykim6145]

Thanks for your tips to deal with anxiety,. Bring it on! Just feel the feeling as it arises. Try not to avoid it! That is real acceptance. You are right! The feelings don't hurt me at all. I will keep it mind ,

[@wildzpirit8239]

You are so amazing and your videos are the best! Whenever I feel anxious and I don't know how to handle it I search for you and you always have the exact video to help me understand myself better. I'm so grateful for you and I want to thank you very much for doing this. ❤️

[@Asujera]

I struggled a lot with accepting my emotions in situations where I considered them as 'not appropriate'. Like, feeling anxious and upset but already being late for dinner with someone who doesn't know about my anxiety. Those situations were the worst. I was torn apart between being true to myself and how I feel, and not wanting to be considered 'weird' or 'overly emotional'. Thanks to this course and my therapist, I learned to notice and name my feelings and then evaluate if I'm feeling SAVE enough to process through the emotion right now, or if I prefer coming back to it later to protect myself. Acceptance does not mean that you're obligated to process through it right away. That lesson was a true gamechanger.

[@maryboswell6089]

I love how Therapist Emma McAdam defines Acceptance with feeling emotions as a temporary situation instead of a permanent situation! Very inspiring, and hope filled! Thank you Therapist Emma McAdam 🤗

[@brettneuberger6466]

Thank you so much for this. Truly one of the best explanations of acceptance I’ve heard. You’re incredibly good at what you do. Accepting that I don’t want to work on acceptance anymore seems to be the last step to take before I actually experience real peace. It takes a while to get there but eventually it comes, my mind goes still, and I drop into quietude.

[@dustypink4802]

I watched this as a way to help remind myself of what acceptance really is. I'm having a bit of a tough moment and feeling the anxiety feels. But as soon as you said you had a little cry, I burst into tears. It lasted a few minutes and it actually really helped. I let myself feel sad for a moment. It was a relief. Thanks Emma. I'm getting gradually better at allowing myself to feel my emotions. ❤

[@tempesnyder6243]

I’m a follower of Eckhart Tolle. After I read Power of Now, I decided to follow it as closely as possible; t made a world of difference for me. However, I read it rather quickly; and so, when I decided to follow it I didn’t remember tons of it. I decided to accept the present moment, and never try to change things. And I REALLY did it, ALL of the time. It was quite miraculous for me, it changed some very difficult things for me.

[@Phantom.1]

You’re a GREAT therapist! I will even overlook when you end your sentences with “at” when referring to location. :)

[@PartanBree]

This is very helpful. I actually find things like breathing exercises make me quite anxious (even when I do them at a calm time!) and have had better results acknowledging the anxiety and waiting for it to go away on its own. My challenge is that I can hold onto it for a very long time, like hours!

[@simon3057]

Thank you so much for these videos. After nearly 20 years battling this condition I think I finally understood whats going on and the best way to respond to it. These videos are life changing and made a massive impact to me. I am grateful to find your channel and learn from these videos.

[@CorpoClimb]

You literally defined me. When you said, I can't go to school, I can't face my boss, I hate this work. I have to leave. And multiply these thoughts zillions times 24/7. You get me. After years oftrying I haven't found practical way to stop these thoughts and take rational decision, as these don't stop till I have to choose what they says to me.

[@adilahaz]

When I sense my anxiety is brewing, I try to focus on the area of 'pain'.. feels the pain as it is what it is..and like you mention.. I can handle negative emotions.. I am not defined by my shortcomings, losses or failure.. I would imagine my grandmother's face as my centre of calmness and acceptance.. her serenity in facing life challenges lift me up when I'm feeling down... Tqvm for sharing

[@DihelsonMendonca]

"This life was not made to please you. It was made to challenge you. Don't consider challenges as problems. Just accept the present moment as it is, as if you have chosen it. When life challenges you, your consciousness gets stronger. Just watch your feelings come and go, and notice how thought creates negative emotions that doesn't exist in the real world. When we root in the present moment, we begin to grow and discover our real self". Eckhart Tolle

[@jimrose71]

as a person in recovery i know the power of acceptance. thisis very helpful. im on the verge of retiring and am very nervous/scared to death!!! gratitude? thank god im not drinking over this.so i will listen to this and work my -program

[@sandyweaver1378]

This video is a new seed for me. Thank you.

[@JordanSmith-pk2br]

This is so amazing, exactly what I needed to learn! Thank you so much! Hope everyone is learning everyday!

[@fergusfitzgerald977]

I will have to listen to this many many times - very interesting very insightful - needs more time to asimulate !

[@tesskambie0393]

When I see your videos, I appreciate the time & energy you put into your content. Thank you for elaborating on ‘here and now’ practices.

[@middleagedteenager1874]

This video is so useful. I’ve been struggling with acceptance but the focus on present moment acceptance makes so much sense to me. Thank you!

[@Liza3-i8u]

I never thought I would ever be facing anxiety and it scares me to think I am, this is all so new to me it’s only been a month, but I’m just grateful for God, these videos, and I just pray I can recover and for this storm to pass and be my happy self again. It’s scary to accept that I have anxiety but I’m here and yes I have it and it’s okay, little by little i will get through it.

[@coleman6203]

Thank you so much for this video! I am so grateful that you overcame your stress and were able to bring this channel to the world. You are amazing!

[@marieakerfeldt9643]

Im so so grateful for this video 🙏🏼 Have Struggled with anxiety for many years and still each time I get it it is like my whole system never knows what to do but trying to avoid it/fight it/push down the emotions. 🤯 Next time I will stay where I am, welcome it and say ”Bring it on anxiety, I can handle it”! ❤👊🏼

[@patrickdallaire5972]

To me, self-acceptance is like providing the emotional validation that I didn't get from my familly and peers growing up. I experienced a lot of (often unintentional) emotional neglect. So much that I've grown accustomed to neglecting myself. I'm still in the middle of recovery but I realise now, in this moment at least, that true healing, for me, often starts with saying what I wished other people told me instead of criticizing me: "it's ok. I'm proud of you". F***, I'm crying just writting this down. What a relief. Thank you for this video. I really needed to go down this introspection.

[@angelarichens7863]

Thank you for these videos. I have been following online courses from my dr for general Anxiety, health anxiety and depression and find these videos very good as they so often confirm what the online courses teach. After many months i was discharged but then my dog died and i was for the first time ever on my own. I just could not stop crying and feeling sad, Then it came to be that crying and grieving is normal and its okay not to be okay. I was so surprised that just allowing myself some time to cry was really helping. I arranged a memorial service for my beautiful dog and also shared my thoughts on a Christian page I had set up on Facebook. Tonight I listened to this talk and it clicked, I was right to accept my emotions at the loss of Charlie. When my husbad died of covid in 2020 I prided myself on keeping it all together and being strong and ended up with panic attacks and all kinds of physical and mental problems. I think when my dog died I was crying for both of them and giving up the strong person that held emotions in check. Thank you for confirming that it can be right to accept emotions,

[@ladylucke09]

this was so helpful. I am in an IOP now working on a lot of this and you really help put this into perspective because you worded it so simply.Thank you!

[@susanwale8887]

Love your teachings, you are so clear in your coaching. I have had high blood pressure but it’s not all the time, I feel anxious and sometimes my whole body feels electrified. I know I need to let go of stressful thoughts but although I meditate, I am starting to practice Qi Gong and done yoga I still have that feeling of anxiety and knee pains. I will stop now and feel my feelings, I will continue to listen to your very helpful videos. They make me feel hopeful 🙏🏻🦋❤️🌷

[@gswvera6853]

Thank you for this. It has helped me tremendously esp these parts: 0:35-1:20 4:30-5:57 7:02 9:45 10:57

[@maxineboxer9714]

This is wonderful, true advice. Never add second fear to first fear. If you try to float through it, or accept it as a temporary, uncomfortable feeling. It will pass. These strong emotions can’t last too long if you don’t become afraid of them, and add second fear. A great book is Peace from Nervous Suffering, by Dr. Claire Weekes. And old book but excellent, especially for Agoraphobia.

[@honeybeerozy]

Hi Emma, I just want to say how thankful I am that I found your channel. I first discovered you shortly after the pandemic started as I was listening to Joey Remenyi’s podcast where she interviewed you. You have helped me so much in my journey and to learn how to process my feelings and anxiety. I now have a daily meditation routine and I check in with my inner self frequently. Keep up the good work and thanks for all you do for others.

[@dee5356]

Excellent video.It was very helpful.Thank you for sharing your story and for all that you do!You are definitely doing an immense amount of good in the world and it is all very much appreciated!

[@miguelsaavedra2022]

Youve changed my Life with your videos

[@AchievedDreamsPH]

I finally found someone who understands me. I thought I was going crazy. I once had a panic attack then for 5 months I always have panic attack. Always afraid that I'm really gonna die. I've been in different hospitals, cost all my savings because I am always at emergency room whenever i'm having panic attack and trouble breathing. Im afraid that I might be having a heart attack. When I feel a simple tingling in my hands and head I got too afraid and thinking it might be a worst medical condition. Everytime I feel shortness of breathe I think I'm going to die. A simple physical feeling makes me think about the worst case scenario that it might be a worst medical condition. Ms. Emma you made me see that I wasn't the only one. Thank you. I'll keep watching all your videos.

[@AchievedDreamsPH]

Because of my anxiety I even come to the point that I think I'm seeing supernatural things like ghost, black smokes, something whispering and more ... because of my anxiety I even think that this might be my karma for all the sins I did in the past. i also think that someone is angry at me and doing some witchcraft in me. But when I watched this video I really feel relieved . thank you ... I always wants to escape the feeling when Im having a panic attack, but I'll try to accept it and see if it works for me . Thank you

[@DanielleFerreira-kt7ix]

Bring it on, anxiety. Thank you, so much.