Seven Proven Secrets to Make a Man Fall DEEPLY in Love with You!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@stephniebenzinger4798]

Z❤yyes

[@TonyaGrant-s4h]

My guy amazes me. I don't think we would be where we are without your videos and advice. I give him space and freedom. He loves that about me. I'm very playful with him, and he is very responsive. Just recently he has started to open his heart.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

This is so beautiful to hear! 😊 Giving him space and bringing playfulness into the relationship are such powerful ways to build trust. I’m thrilled to know the videos have helped you both grow closer. Here’s to even more heart-opening moments together! ❤✨

[@CatherineSantos-lv8ec]

By giving him alone time doing his hobbies like camping with friends, visiting his family and watching hia favorite games. I don't want him to think that I want to change the things he love to do before we became together. But of course I trust him that he knows how to divide his time between us and his alone time. The same goes with me. Thanks Matt and hoping to see more of your inspiring videos. Great job!!😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You’re making my heart smile with your kind words! Keep being amazing. 💖

[@tanya11877]

Exactly the kind of person I want. I really need my space and alone time whether that is reading, writing or spending time with my friends or volunteering. I need someone is also interested in their own activities and passions and when we come together, we have plenty to talk about.

[@lindadeise4575]

thank you Mat. I forgot to keep my independence and my own interests, I needed to hear this again.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

so glad it helped you!!

[@zenmaiden1]

Matt, all these points are true! I see how being playful, interest , supportive in good times and bad, mysterious unfolding over time, giving space to create desire, all based on being unapologetically myself are such authentic and true. Not everyone will fall for us.. but that’s ok. ❤ if it’s not for you.. in the end move forward, leave it and let them.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

amen sister you get it!!!

[@catherineottilio3273]

Great°!!!

[@emilygomez4748]

Please post more often. Your videos are very educative

[@Mat_Shaffer]

absolutely I will be posting weekly moving forward :)

[@Cantetinza17]

A funny t hing happened the other day. I had ask a guy I'm seeing what's his favorite genre of movie. He made sure to point out , not horribly romantic movies as if I was thinking about subjecting him to one. I was silently tickled. He said action. I found out real quick that my guy likes to be touched because he loves to cuddle, so I make sure to always touch him in some way even if it's just my hand on his thigh. Although I was scared to tell him that I loved him cause I wasn't sure if he felt the same, so I tested the waters and said, "You know other than my parents you're my favorite person." He confirmed that I was his, and THEN I said, "I love you".

[@Mat_Shaffer]

BOOM CONGRATS!!! what a sweet story I absolutely love it!!

[@KatrinaRNewman]

This speak facts but I can’t let go of my ex, It’s been a few weeks since the breakup, what if he is my soulmate and I just lost him

[@CeciliaDeangelis-l8i]

when my partner left me. I couldn’t eat or sleep I just kept hoping he would come back.

[@KatrinaRNewman]

That’s exactly how I feel. I don’t know how to move on. I still want him back, but it feels impossible.

[@CeciliaDeangelis-l8i]

Don’t lose hope. I felt the same way, and then I found Father Akabu. He helped me reconcile with my partner. He is powerful and I’m sure he can help you too.

[@KatrinaRNewman]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive

[@zensvlognotapro]

Behind every man is a little boy and behind every woman is a little girl 😊.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@Rebecca-m3s]

These 'secrets ' are still important even after 30 years together. Maybe not #4...we just dont have secrets anymore but we are ever growing so theres always something new to discover.

[@MetalBere]

Glad you're back, Mat 😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you so much! ❤

[@krissica8630]

I've done the things in my last relationship. Sadly he was a narcissist. It will be hard to get back out there, and be able to trust.

[@elizabethmccoy6115]

Teasing, Absolutely the best thing to cultivate. I'm a big time tease and lasting or not every man I've been with loves Teasing. For me, it's the most fun! Great job with this video.😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Your comment made my day! Keep shining and being fabulous. ✨

[@elizabethmccoy6115]

@@Mat_Shaffer Thanks Matt 🙃

[@elizabethmccoy6115]

Hey Matt...how about a video on the art of teasing a man? Not hard to master. And there is no higher compliment then sending a few texts that result in him admitting he's shaking with antidmcipation. Almost too fun😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Great idea!! It's on my list!

[@sallysierraratigan9500]

#7 is extremely important. Thank you for bringing that to our attention. ❤

[@carolb6581]

🤩 So uplifting and inspiring! Thanks Mat! 👏🤗😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

you are SO WELCOME!

[@mmmclain1]

I know right. We love to be seen and acknowledged

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Yes, exactly! 👏 Everyone thrives when they feel seen and appreciated. It’s such a simple thing, but it makes a world of difference!

[@donnagreear173]

I understand the feeling of loss, there's no other emotion that Matches it.

[@angelinpdx2297]

Beyond all of these tips … Knowing your own Attachment Style as well as your partner’s Attachment Style is so important. And if your partner resists taking the quiz to find out his style, move on right then. He doesn’t have a growth mindset like you do and it will lead to future misalignments. ✨✨✨ These tips did not work with my Avoidant exboyfriend. Protect your energy and move on.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts! So happy this hit the spot for you. 😉

[@petitcoeur-q6r]

Agreed these tips do not work with Avoidants - they run away and discard. Avoid them at all costs.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m happy this resonated with you!

[@jeanettethoretz779]

Can you do a video relating to long distance relationships!?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

yes absolutely! great idea :)

[@jennimcdonald7115]

Yes might top things off

[@spiritualBaddi]

Great idea tehehe just met a handsome stranger on a plane 🙈

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@anishavlog8153]

Yes please 🙏 ​@@Mat_Shaffer

[@Cat-jn7hg]

Good to see you again! Thank you for all your advice. Appreciate you!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You’re making my heart smile with your kind words! Keep being amazing. 💖

[@Cat-jn7hg]

You too!!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much my dear! 💖

[@valeriegeorge1627]

You are amazing, simple and authentic. Thank you. First time here.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

perfect that is exactly what I was going for :)

[@Marissa-x1u]

It’s crazy I’ve been doing all of this unintentionally with my crush 😅

[@Ursin101]

Thank you for teaching me 🙏🏽❤

[@Ttwcountrygirl]

Yep continue to live your own life continue with your own hobbies and stuff just work around some of that to spend some time with him if that's what he wants but not all the time and let him do what he would normally do on a regular basis simply make time for each other in between your own lives . Yeah let him know that you don't need them in your life all the time. And vice versa gentleman.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You’ve got such great insight! Thanks for sharing and making this community awesome. 😘

[@Starlink-X-K65]

So well said!!! I have done most of what you suggest we should do and you are right! It makes him interested in me and eventually realize that he loves me for how I treat him, freedom being the most important thing and oh yes, be super interested in his work!! Thanks Mat.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You’re making my heart smile with your kind words! Keep being amazing. 💖

[@em7937]

Sound like a lot of babysitting fust to keep someone around!!! What excatly does he bring to your life?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Good point! It’s important to think about what he brings to your life. Relationships should be mutual!

[@chefrio2642]

I had a 6 month LDR , and two days ago we decided to part ways because its not working, we enjoyed and click together but his financial problems are too big for him to make things happen for us. I am deeply hurt but I think it's all for the best.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Your pain is real, and your feelings matter. Thank you for sharing with us. We’re here to support you. 🌼

[@chefrio2642]

@@Mat_Shaffer aww thank you, 🙏🏻 it was hard to let go.. with God’s grace I can find peace and strength.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You're welcome. I'm glad you’re finding peace and strength. Sending positive thoughts your way.

[@LaneNamoca]

Thank you so much because I want to learn how to make him love me more...I want to give him my best ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

So happy this resonated with you! 😊 Giving your best in love is a beautiful thing-when it’s genuine, it shines through. Wishing you all the best in creating a deeper connection! ❤✨

[@mariedunkley]

This is Brilliant!!!! I do I think All of these with my honey he’s just so Amazing!!! You’re the Best!! These tips are Genius!!! ✅✅😘

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You’re making my heart smile with your kind words! Keep being amazing. 💖

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[@marywarrior47]

I would love to hear a video on long distance Relationships.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Noted! Thanks for the idea! 😉

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@mariavelasquez5857]

Great advice! You have an awesome spirit! ✨😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

aw thank you appreciate that

[@AngelinaRomero]

I am loving everything you are sharing here. I am in a new relationship and for the first time allowing myself to be playful and WOW we are connecting in such amazing ways because I have opened up the 'silly' side of my personality and he absolutely loves that side of me. As for the 'touch' yes, I have always been very touchy feely and he just melts.

[@AngelinaRomero]

Oh, an wear your hair, etc. however you want. I don't think anyone here should be making those remarks. You B U!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Your comment made my day! Keep shining and being fabulous. ✨

[@GailFlynn-e4i]

Very helpful and timely video Matt - keep them coming!!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You’re making my heart happy! Thanks for the sweet comment. 💕

[@Debbie-pq4xr]

Just found your channel ,great information ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

welcome so glad you enjoyed it! :)

[@lovinglife58]

I hated for this video to end! Very very good tips! 👍

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Awesome, thank you!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@marciacristinaghirardello3]

Thanks for the tips. I guess I'm on the right path 😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Your comment made my day! Keep shining and being fabulous. ✨

[@jackieburns694]

So glad you're back giving all this useful information!! So beneficial!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You’ve got such great insight! Thanks for sharing and making this community awesome. 😘

[@astridvanlienden6102]

You look so much like my brother Raymond incredible resemblance 😮

[@Shanieceflordi]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him

[@AnitaJason-s4d]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.

[@Shanieceflordi]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?

[@AnitaJason-s4d]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@AnitaJason-s4d]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@Shanieceflordi]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive

[@Sunny08me]

Thank you. Very helpful information.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

so glad you enjoyed it!! :)

[@lillaperendy]

Mat, I love your sweet, loving and educative language so much and you being so natural and friendly like when you say "Buttercup" 😄🥰

[@JuliyaTeletzke]

The guy I'm with now was actually my first everything and I was his first we were both 17 when we started dating, we dated on and off until 2 years ago and we started dating again. Lately I have been worried that maybe he doesn't love me or that I'm being used and I'm worried cuz I don't want my past trauma to self sabotage this relationship that means so so so much to me. I love him and I have loved him for over 20 years and honestly I'm just ready to get married and have a family. He says that he's always loved me and that he feels the same way I do and I have no reason to not believe him. But he's also a very shy guy and I don't mean shy shy I mean like he doesn't show allot in his actions. He's not touchy,he won't go in for a kiss, he won't really be the one to go in for anything. And I would do anything to help him to open up and do things more.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I can feel how much you love him, and it’s clear that you really want this relationship to grow. Sometimes, people express love differently, and if he’s shy, he might need a bit of gentle encouragement to step out of his comfort zone. Try open communication-sharing your feelings without pressure-and celebrate the little moments when he does make an effort. That way, he’ll feel more secure about showing his affection in ways that are meaningful to you.

[@247pray69]

I loved this video! Thanks Matt

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Aw, I’m so glad you enjoyed it! 😊 There’s plenty more where that came from! If you’d like to explore more tips and insights, I’m doing a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ ✨

[@sadiqua7]

What about avoidant men? I gave my ex all the space..over time he pulled back because of his insecurities. It was disregulating because he pursued me for 2 years. Introduced pet names like hon and love early on. A false pregnancy scared the bajesus out of him and he ran. Then came back but only as a fwb. Today I ended it for good, it feels like he was putting me on layaway until he gets his finances together, but not opening up emotionally about feelings for me. Only way I could move on was to completely end it. I love him so much. But love isn’t enough.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m deeply sorry you’re experiencing this pain. Remember, you’re not alone. 💖

[@jazzqueen1]

This was a helpful video

[@Mat_Shaffer]

im so glad you enjoyed it!

[@joandavis3348]

Thank you!! I love the information and it works!!! Confirmation is what I’m looking for!! Again thanks 🙏🏻

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You’re making my heart smile with your kind words! Keep being amazing. 💖

[@HuyenNguyen-ch7gf]

I really like 7 points you shared.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.

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[@annmoore8696]

Where have you been!?

[@missiejin]

This is jesus speaking to me

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Amazing!🤗

[@AtoyoSelina]

😂

[@Olivia-eh2fq]

True😂😂😂

[@nicoleta7146]

Thank you!!!!❤ From România.

[@katestaana5733]

Hahaha I like the number 4 😂 that was exactly me 😂 no wonder why boys always gets bored & lose interest in me 🤦

[@Conscious59]

so good...thank you Mat

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@susanwalker3454]

Thanks matt 😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you enjoyed it! By the way, if you're interested, I’ll be part of a FREE live coaching love + relationship course starting next month. It’s the perfect time to join the beta launch! You can learn more and sign up here: masteryofconnection.com/ 💖✨

[@angelatillman4323]

#1 What if you or your partner despise what you like? I mean they don't complain but they don't want to participate.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Great question! 😊 It’s all about balance - respect each other’s interests and find something new to enjoy together. And hey, check out my channel for more tips on navigating differences in relationships! 💖✨

[@Ttwcountrygirl]

Thank you for this information

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@Terispoken2uwisdom-tt6wc-e8d]

Well understood ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts! So happy this hit the spot for you. 😉

[@galitf100]

Hi Mat. I am an open book and I knew I am guilty at over sharing. What topics can I share that will give him some information but not too much.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Hey there! 😊 Being an open book is awesome, but a little mystery can be fun too! Try sharing stories about your passions, hobbies, or favorite places - just enough to pique his interest and keep him curious. Keep him wanting more! 😉✨

[@galitf100]

@@Mat_Shaffer Thank u.🙂

[@Mat_Shaffer]

you are so welcome! ❤

[@kimmydichoso5643]

I proper love Mat, he gives such good energy. Him and Matt Boggs... Wouls be so cool if they collabed xx

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I so appreciate you saying that that was so sweet of you!

[@puterishehnaz]

Love your energy

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You’re making my heart smile with your kind words! Keep being amazing. 💖

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[@lisalove1491]

I would love for you to do a video on a topic Ive nver seen anyone do, that I am highly interested in. How long should we wait to move in with a man? What if he isnt brining up the topic, but we want it. How do we talk to him about it in a way that is feminine and healthy? Ive been in an 8months relationship and its been really good. But he never talks about moving in together. Most men Ive dated have asked me by now. Please help with this topic. Never seen a video about by any dating coach.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

yes absolutely! great idea :)

[@lisalove1491]

@@Mat_Shaffer yay! thank you

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!

[@kc17131]

It’s so hard to switch off when women have an equally challenging career :( all those are great tips but too demanding of us :(

[@Mat_Shaffer]

its possible I promise! Do you have any practices you're currently using to help you switch your energy after you get done with work?

[@kc17131]

@@Mat_Shaffer Actually the guy I was dating said we could code together but left me when I asked if I could assist. But to answer your question- no I mean I feel like men could just accept us no? I don’t mind femininity in men like empathy, kindness etc. sounds like a lot of work is required to please men

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Your feelings are valid, and I’m here to support you. 💔

[@moonlightsadness]

I agree with this 100% This seems like a lot when you’re equally the breadwinner.

[@kc17131]

@@Mat_Shaffer I need security, acceptance support with my work and I can be a fun when I am not snowed under

[@mariehaugland9996]

Your on point 😍

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you! 🤗

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[@snowwpea]

I’m very affectionate by nature, I love to cuddle, caress their arms or hair. One time a guy broke up with me and told me I’m too much, so now I’m scared to show my affectionate side. What should I do?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@snowwpea]

@@Mat_Shaffer thank you!

[@shaylasoulfire7777]

Sounds like he wasn't for you. You don't have to water yourself down for others. ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!

[@snowwpea]

@@shaylasoulfire7777 true! Thank you 😊

[@AmieFaal-ek6th]

Very important❤❤❤❤❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@sacredcowbbq1326]

You are right!

[@realtalk675]

7:18 to behonest as a woman i have that too i think a man even more but sometimes man close off when they going through stuff

[@mmmclain1]

Most of this goes both ways.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Absolutely, it’s so true! 😊

[@CleopatriaRamos]

For me to have some help...i always seek utube like this..and it helps me a lot...i dont know what to do...he told me to block me..but he didnt block me...i ask to myself what is this...why he didnt block me😥😥

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[@alexbap1202]

What if he lies to me?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

thats a big red flag!

[@Ttwcountrygirl]

Yeah I think that women are touched they feel as if the woman that's touching them is Desiring them and that is attractive. I know that if a man reached out and wanted to hold my hand to walk beside me then I know or feel that he was also attracted to me

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You’ve got the best energy! Thanks for lighting up the comments. 💫

[@verarobinson6759]

U look good ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

haha thank you

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[@WendyBush-rn5yy]

The guy I am with doesn't like anything that you are talking about so I guess he must be damaged because I have done everything you have said and he is distant about it all

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you for your honest feedback. It’s important to hear different perspectives, and I appreciate you sharing yours.

[@lillaperendy]

Try to give him and yourself room to breath as Mat said. Maybe in 30 days you would realise you don't need him but somone who can show up for you. Or maybe in 30 days he would realise what he lost. Either way space and time could give you the clarity that you need :)

[@pantheresque6658]

First question - what if like me I hate sport on tv it’s boring as hell ? IE she would then be faking interest ?! Surely it should be summat you’re both keen on ?.. I get asking the odd question like oh that’s nice how often do you play .. but sitting through matches on telly and faking interest is false behaviour.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I’m here to listen and support you. 💕

[@zemzemibrahim4620]

I think I have to be relationship councilor by myself cause all the points I already had knew and use most of them

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@verarobinson6759]

My boyfriend don’t like to be touched to much

[@Mat_Shaffer]

thats normal!

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[@catherineottilio3273]

Great!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you so much! 😊

[@sandraknapska5138]

How to create freedom?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Freedom is all about living true to yourself and setting boundaries that protect your joy. Want more tips? Check out my videos on creating a life you love! 💫✨

[@sunshineonmyshouldersmakes8331]

Sweet hair and beard

[@Mat_Shaffer]

thanks so much :)

[@viktorijak6298]

Please come back to your privious image, but your voice is ok as always

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Haha, noted! 😊 I’ll see what I can do about the image, but I’m glad the voice is still winning you over! 😜 Thanks for the feedback! 💖✨

[@lillaperendy]

You remind me of Jesus. If that is the look you were going for then you succeeded! 😁 It is surely a way of self expression and I too was wondering what you wanted to express with you new look with respect and love :)

[@BeautynBrainz2]

😆 Mat you are the greatest. You always crack me up with your voices & analogies! You always brighten up my day! Thank you for the great advice. Feel free to come pick me up in Canada 🇨🇦 & I will run my nails over the back of your neck all the way back to the U.S. 😉 😝

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You got me blushing over here! 😊 So glad I can bring some laughter to your day - and that neck scratch offer? Tempting! 😜 Keep shining bright in Canada! 💖✨

[@zensvlognotapro]

Hey!!! Mat how are you? Glad you have content again 😊👍. Why you're different now your face? Keep making content on relationship . Can I make a request can you have a collab with Dr. Orion Taraban about relationship, dating and mating? Thanks in advance 😊🙏 Stay blessed over there in Texas.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I'm find thank you! great idea :)

[@zensvlognotapro]

@@Mat_Shaffer good to hear different point of views 👍😚

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I love hearing from you! Your words light up my screen. ✨

[@zensvlognotapro]

@@Mat_Shaffer thanks and bless you more 🙏

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome! 💕

[@margaretmiller4718]

I like the grizzly Adams look ❣️ However no way could I pretend to like tennis for a guy, that's silly. Your shared experiences can be on common ground, I mean seriously is he going to make an effort to go crafting with me? It's so overdone 🤯 be yourself, be nice, unless you're a B 🤷 because in spite of what you say a lot of men simply want what they can't have.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Totally agree! Be yourself and find shared interests. No need to pretend being genuine always wins! 😊 And by the way, if you're interested, I’ll be part of a FREE live coaching love + relationship course starting next month. It’s a great opportunity to join the beta launch! You can learn more and sign up here: masteryofconnection.com/

[@JenniferMarino-rs3fw]

All of this great by do woanan have to do this for a man man don't do the same for woman

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

[@juliefinley6254]

Keep the long hair...just dont part it down the middle❤​@@Mat_Shaffer

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I so appreciate you saying that that was so sweet of you!

[@Dorothy-xb8hs]

I agree 114

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m happy this resonated with you!

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[@xemielou22]

Well maybe shouldn’t have watched this 😢 suppose cause it’s I’m trying to win him back. Was together for 11 years. We was amazing together then my depression caused me to show less affection towards him and he kept asking for affection and I couldn’t just got mad. Then he friends zoned me. We started again fresh in June and was great like dating again and a month later he ended it. He still live with me and the past weeks or so Monday been the last we have made out passionately and same Sunday both nearly lead somewhere but stopped when we was about to have sex and said don’t want to mess with your head. Yet kissing we was doing tongue play and said love when you do that should do it more often. We played video games the next day can’t sand cod but was laughing. Is it lost hope really want to win him back

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You’ve been through so much together, and it sounds like he still values those moments with you. 😊 Keep creating those positive, lighthearted memories and showing up authentically. With time and patience, he may remember what made your connection so special. Sending you lots of strength! ❤🌱

[@Ttwcountrygirl]

Yeah don't just open up and tell him everything about yourself if he's interested in you he will ask questions

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts! So happy this hit the spot for you. 😉

[@rainbowgoddess777]

Sooo true!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@rainbowgoddess777]

​@@Mat_Shaffer Thank you! ✨

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@Ttwcountrygirl]

That was funny the way you pretended to be a bad first date as a woman

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much for your feedback!

[@jennng3744]

Here's all the ways to do all of the work to try to please a man. Honestly why is it always on us to do all this work and try super hard? I'm over it. F dudes!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

It shouldn't be one-sided. Relationships should be about mutual effort, not just one person trying to please the other.

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[@pixel_mage]

I don't want to play with a gay and activate competitive action. ugh

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Thanks for sharing!

[@affry_]

❤

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[@JFheart]

❤

[@MindyPullins]

😊

[@windstennotsukai]

You have very strong feminine energy, as a man. I can sense a more masculine woman would be better for ya! ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@verarobinson6759]

U look like Jesus

[@Mat_Shaffer]

haha Ive gotten that before! :)

[@deborahwilliams69]

Have you seen Jesus?

[@martapaweek3188]

How old are you Man?🤣 Still looking for THE PERFECT ONE??? 🤦‍♀️

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Haha! 🤣 Let’s just say I’ve been around long enough to know the perfect one doesn’t exist-but the right one does! 😉 It’s all about finding someone whose imperfections you wouldn’t mind dancing through life with. 💃✨

[@mar50]

Pffffff

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[@Mint-kj9kw]

You used to be good looking... I usually love longer hair on men,,,,but it does NOT look good on you.

[@fionadale1011]

Rude I don't think anyone asked ?

[@StacyAdellMT]

What is wrong with you saying something like this to anyone.

[@mariavelasquez5857]

I think he looks good! Hopefully you check your heart 🙏🏼

[@Mat_Shaffer]

aww maybe my long hair will grow on you... it definitely has on me ;) hahahaha

[@snowwpea]

What a rude and unnecessary comment. He still looks good. Did that comment make you feel better about yourself?

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[@geraldinehughes4490]

Boom

[@jackieburns694]

Being uncondionally supportive of his work even in the hard times!

[@lindadeise4575]

Are you really offering the masteryofconnection course again?

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[@MeHe-ys7gf]

Hmmm. Do do do for him. LMAO. What is it he does? Suck every bit of life out of you while you do what he wants.

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him

[@Shanieceflordi]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?

[@Shanieceflordi]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Shanieceflordi]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

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Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive

[@mmmclain1]

Most of this goes both ways.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Absolutely! 😊 Relationships thrive on mutual effort-everything here applies to both sides. It’s all about showing up for each other. ❤✨