4 Surprising Reasons Men Love Dating Older Women

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@maureenkam9212]

Does it apply to all men when you say man prefers older woman? I'm 51 and he is 39. I look like I'm in my 30s and he thinks I am one. We do not feel any age gap though.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

beautiful sounds like you have a wonderful connection :) enjoy it and allow yourself to receive

[@anitakleinhans8047]

@@Mat_Shaffer please connect me with someone , I'm single looking for someone I will spend the rest of my life with

[@kadejahybarley6716]

Hi I want friend only

[@anitakleinhans8047]

@@kadejahybarley6716 hi dear how are you? Where your from?

[@lavenderlock7568]

My grandma was 41 when she married my grandfather. He was 25. It was his first marriage and he was her fourth. Her marriages to other (older) men didn't last long but she and my grandfather lasted a lifetime.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you for sharing such an amazing story!

[@jpmnky]

That is awesome. The most honest relationship I had in my life was with a 37-39 year old when I was 21-23. Twenty years later and I think about her everyday. It was my fault that it ended. I went back to my ex girlfriend before her. But, I was a wild 23 year old. And that’s a story for another day.

[@rosehiver6262]

@@jpmnky Today is another day. I want to know more… 😃 Do you know how she went on with her life ? Did you hear something about her ? She must be nearly 60 now. And you, did you stay with your ex ?

[@freespirit5234]

Wow!! Incredible, beautiful story 🥰🥰

[@Ame-vo4pc]

I love that xx

[@richmolonlabe2824]

I’ve been talking to an older woman I’m 35 and she’s in her late 40s but our chemistry and the vibes are so amazing! I can’t get enough of her she’s such a great person I’m definitely falling for her in every way!

[@assiabenslimane2589]

💓💓

[@malinsotta3898]

U guys need to be real, see what u want from this relationship if it happens. Find out what she wants, then go from there , but u have to be honest from the start to avoid bitterness and regret later on .. good luck

[@Fearless.cat1209]

I'm surprised bc I thought guys preferred younger women. Wow

[@ladybird491]

What is this talking to business? Sounds like just kicking it and screwing around.

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

@@malinsotta3898 I like u I m alone

[@fredaayres9339]

My man is 18 years younger than me, and we’ve been together for 18 years. He makes me laugh every day.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

BEAUTIFUL these are exactly the type of shares that I love!!! so happy for you!!

[@gabrielapetre3009]

Great Freda, happy for you! :)

[@tsegaberhane2238]

Awesome

[@andjelkovicjasmin2954]

Holy crap, 18 years? That's amazing, I wish you all the best and much love.🙏

[@adimana1588]

Wow,amazing life,lucky you👌❤️👍

[@marygoodman9530]

Age is just a number, it's all about character, chemistry and trust,

[@Mat_Shaffer]

well said!

[@marygoodman9530]

@@Mat_Shaffer thank you

[@ibrahimhamada5751]

Yes you are true and i believe as you are open minded and smart woman yes age is just a number 😍🌹❤️🇪🇬👍

[@PrettyBlue53]

Amen to this! I found my best friend, soul mate, & partner all wrapped into one. We have a 19 year age difference and not once did he ever tell me it was an issue or concern but like the rest of these comments, it's all about the love and connection one has with their partner. I can't imagine life without my best friend.

[@shadowthefoxpolasik7671]

Yes 😏😏😏

[@cindyc.1572]

I’m 10 years older than my husband. We’ve been married 28 years. It’s never been a problem 😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESSS thats exactly what im talking about!

[@thankgod7312]

Happy for you god blessed you

[@concernedcitizen4824]

How old were you guys when you met?

[@Fearless.cat1209]

I'm surprised bc I thought guys preferred younger women. Wow.

[@sophiawambui1225]

Am very happy and motivated that it works despite all the hate and shaming involved. Those who make a choice to be happy always make it

[@normaescobar2252]

I am 53 and my husband is 35 been married for 10 years, hes awesome and very mature, no complaints at all, his the best!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

yessss LOVE hearing about the age gap working!!

[@thankgod7312]

Happy for you god bless you and you husband

[@clarissemonte5352]

wow..am glad i run to these comments💞, am 16 years younger than my bf now,we are just weeks old.

[@andrius2274]

I am 30 and went out on a date with a 44 year old woman, and had the best time ever. We already set plans to go out again, really looking forward to. She is really awesome and so much fun to talk to and be with.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YES love it!!! this is exactly what im talking about!!

[@PeaceDayCortez]

Vic T I’m 55 and met a 43 year old guy 2 months ago. He’s been pursuing me every since he said hello to me. At first it was awkward as I thought he was not really serious. But he makes a point to contact me daily and plans dates. Honestly, while I’m enjoying the the attention, I know he can find a woman closer to his age. I can’t figure out why he’s interested in a woman 12 years his senior, but I’m rolling with it.

[@mochi008_8]

@@Mat_Shaffer uú

[@papoopa5800]

Vic T Don’t make it serious with her man. You’re only doing injustice to yourself.

[@alibaba-tt5vv]

@@papoopa5800 let's hear why he'd be doing an injustice . I have guys in their 20s that hit on me all the time. I'm in way better shape than little girls half my age , am not a gold digger , and dont need a man. I've taught the younger generation for years , and quite frankly , I dont blame younger guys one bit for dating older women. Arm candy means nothing to a real man , and let's face it, with today's technology it's easy to look great at ALL ages. No one can believe my age .

[@motherearth7820]

I am 52 & my boyfriend is 30! Our connection is unbelievable. He takes from me & I take from him. We are both old souls...

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations!

[@kresivarivkah612]

I like that. ;)

[@LS-iq7gz]

Same

[@Oldfashionflamingo]

Same here but not dating… yet. I don’t know how I feel about it… but we are planning a serious conversation… I know I am physically attracted but I don’t know… 22 years younger might be a lot… maybe not… I don’t know! It’s a first for me… 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@tyrandyb4103]

I love this video. I have been with my husband for 32 years, married for over 30. He is 53 and I am 67. He is the best husband, friend, and lover. He was just 21 and I was celebrating my 34 th birthday when we met. We have been together pretty much every day since then. We have 1 son. This is the most sincere, loving and happiest relationship I have ever had.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

i'm so happy to hear this! i'm sure it will be this way for years to come!

[@tyrandyb4103]

I sure hope so Mat. Thank You.

[@hiannahgus574]

I am so happy for hlu. May you have many more to together!

[@paulagraham5343]

I am 74 my new husband is 59 and we are so happy.

[@victoriamokhosi2001]

I am 53 and my man is 29.We have been together for 5years and we are still going on strong.Introduced me to his parents on our second week of dating!Planning to get married soon.

[@CPBNJAHKA]

Are u married now with him?

[@ЭстебанПантера]

Hi. That is wonderful. Sorry for asking but how did his family react?

[@jonutnut]

I have met someone who has the same age gap as you. We're still early in the relationship. I need to learn more from your experience.

[@kelso1286]

@@jonutnut age doesn't matter. The person does. Assess them like you would anyone else. They are just as likely as a man your own age to ghost you or just use you.

[@lorettatripodi7531]

Congratulations. I am 63 and I met a 23 year old young man who loves me and I tell him that the age difference scares me, but he tells me he finds me so attractive and even sexy. He wants to marry me and refers to me as his wife already. What advice do you have for us if you you be so kind

[@robeardobarker8011]

I’m 23, gf is 46, twice my age! Never been more happy

[@s.elizabeth1753]

Oh wow! Where's you meet

[@s.p.777]

That's wild 😂😭

[@ProdavackaDivu]

That’s inspiring, I’m 32 and worried about going out with the 20 yo I’ve been talking to, but I feel like it’s just society stressing me out haha. He grew up on a farm and actually has more life skills than me in certain areas 😂

[@fajri8843]

You need motherly love,the reason

[@meggylita4093]

@@ProdavackaDivu I'm now 32 yrs old and my love² is 20 yrs old we're both happy but we still keep our relationship to his family because they don't like our age gap

[@ZKanzi]

I’m 8 yrs older than my boyfriend, I never felt the age difference between us, as matter of fact he’s more mature than I am.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Exactly!! Age truly is just a number 🙏🙏✨

[@tj87889]

Same thing with me. He is more mature then me.

[@ibrahimhamada5751]

Definitely beacuse you are open minded and attractive waman and i believe your boyfrind is very lucky 😍❤️🌹👍🇪🇬

[@thankgod7312]

Happy for you

[@vivaeuropa]

How old were you and your bf when you met each other?

[@roxanneaustin408]

I'm almost 59 and I am with a man who is 36. We communicate well and laugh so much. It's truly a great situation!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Amazing! love hearing that!

[@AutumnGold0706]

If you can laugh together you know the sex will be great. No awkward games.

[@Verdisoprano]

I’m in my 40’s and get chased by men in their 20’s all the time. It’s really nice. I love the younger guys.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESSS why do you love them? :)

[@Verdisoprano]

I enjoy their open minds and hearts. Older men are really closed off and afraid.

[@amandamorcan3330]

Julianna Milin ,,, I am so glad I watched this video and read the comments!! I am 46 and get chased by guys as young as their early 20’s all the time 😳 a few months ago I actually found out that a 19 year old friend of the family was interested in me 😱 I’d never heard of this, so very glad you are in the same situation 👍🏼

[@Verdisoprano]

Amanda morcan haha yeah makes no sense but it happens so often I just roll with it.

[@amandamorcan3330]

Julianna Milin I will take your advice and just roll with it too ☺️ before this video I used to literally be feeling ‘why me, when I’m old enough to be your mother’... but I need to learn to just be flattered and accept it 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@janetkealy3685]

There are 14 years between my partner and me, we have been together for just over 38 years...still going strong, even though I am 70 years young now ....

[@Mat_Shaffer]

WOW so inspiring, thank you for sharing your beautiful story Janet! truly touching

[@19dulce68]

Wow! Beautiful 😀🙏🙏👏👏

[@masoumehlashgari1833]

Janet Kealy wow ! Amazing I wish you more love! ❤️

[@merladyneptune3908]

WOW

[@thankgod7312]

😍God blessed you

[@cassandrazenzo]

17 years between us , he is amazing , younger yes, but its the connection that counts. 🌹

[@Mat_Shaffer]

BOOM love it! so many stories like this

[@cassandrazenzo]

@@Mat_Shaffer 🌹🤗👌🏼

[@parthzala7593]

@@cassandrazenzo Are you guys still together?

[@cassandrazenzo]

@@parthzala7593 YES we are 💞

[@parthzala7593]

@@cassandrazenzo I am really happy for you. Hope you get whatever you wish for ! ❤️

[@kelly51757]

I’m happily married to a man 8 yrs younger than me. He’s the most loving and caring husband and I love him very much😍

[@Mat_Shaffer]

that's wonderful Kelly! keep that love flowing

[@neomamartin2696]

What attracts men is Confidence! In a healthy relationship, a man does not want to babysit his lady! Be confident in your feminine energy. I like that Matt😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YES you got it!! ❤️🤗

[@beebuzz959]

I'm curious as to what Matt says shut this, because some of us have worked really hard, but still lack confidence.

[@Alex861697]

A man has to be the man and not a pathetic toy-boy

[@deedeesheppard2202]

Fantastic,I'm 12 years older than my husband and we've been married 25 years and going strong.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

beautiful love hearing that!! :) Whats your favorite part of being married to a younger guy?

[@bridgetjones103]

I’m 52 and the love of my life just turned 40

[@luise-lottefidan5786]

Nice thanks starting one right now... Was kinda embarrassed with the age difference but Amen to this testimony 🙏

[@thankgod7312]

Very happy for you

[@nita_alva]

This video makes me jealous. I want a much younger guy. 😩

[@omarcavazos4239]

Im 26 PhD student. Met the love of my life she is 39 and PhD student too. We look physically like we are in our early 30s. We are mentally and physically attracted to each other and have similar life goals.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! 🙏❤️

[@elainebmack]

I love your comment about older women letting a man show his masculinity without feeling threatened by his woman. I love it when men hold a door open for me, carry something heavy, or protect me in some way - just plain act like a man. Too often, young women these days get insulted if a man makes even the smallest masculine gesture. These women turn everything into a feminist manifesto about how she doesn't need this or that from her man. It's one of the reasons why so many.men get turned off from relationships.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@raquelninofranco7824]

Im 35 and my boyfriend is 27.. We love each other so much.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

thats lovely!! congrats !

[@parthzala7593]

ARE YOU GUYS STILL TOGETHER?

[@polarbear_4.045]

There’s a women I’m talking to. She’s 36 I’m 23. I’ve known her thru my best friend I work with for only about a year. But I’m so comfortable around her, I can talk to her about anything and everything. She was my first kiss that literally happened 2 months ago. And she was the one that asked me if I’ve ever had my first kiss. She’s an amazing women. Very attractive, and has her shit together. I’ve dropped hints, but she’s told me I’m a great guy but it’s definitely not like that between me and her. She’s been screwed over by so many guys that don’t see her worth and her beauty like I do. And she doesn’t realize I don’t think. I asked her out on a “teaching/learning” date to let me know of the do’s and dont’s, but she doesn’t know I’ve told her a little fib, cuz I know that’s the only way I could get her and I alone, it’s actually a real date between me and her and I’m just gonna be open to her about the way I feel. And see where it goes! 💕

[@polarbear_4.045]

It didn’t go good at all! She didn’t talk to me for nearly 2 weeks. We are just now back to talking as friends and have let her know it took me too long to realize our friendship meant more than for me to keep trying and eventually push her so far away we aren’t friends anymore. It is what it is I guess! 🤷‍♂️

[@DallasJayCook]

@@polarbear_4.045 oh she’s not into young men I guess. She kissed you, because she wanna know what it feels like kissing you or feel your kiss but that’s it. That kiss absolutely means nothing to her.

[@augustanna8386]

@@polarbear_4.045 Oh no! I'm so sorry! She should have been more upfront before she kissed you. I hope you find someone who treats you right. 🤗

[@Reflexwoman]

I love reading so many comments I can relate to. My sweetie is just shy of 15 years younger then me and we love each other dearly. He is extremely kind, patient and tender. He is a great listener and we laugh together more then we don't.

[@isabelspiegel9342]

I’m 61 and seeing a 44 year old. Electrifying!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESS love it!! whats the best part of that??

[@isabelspiegel9342]

Mat Shaffer , I’m learning to live in the moment and enjoy it without hoping, wondering, pushing about a “future “. I fully support his space. One more , “best part”. It’s effortless, comfortable and it flows. It has to feel natural and when it does, it’s magical. Thank you for the video. ❤️

[@isabelspiegel9342]

One more thing. I’m not a sugar momma, for those that might be wondering. I would too . Lol

[@alibaba-tt5vv]

There's nothing wrong with this at all. The biggest age difference for me has been 23 yrs . It didn't bother either of us .

[@ninahndz5880]

I'm 60 n my fella is 35 😊yessss!!!! people think I'm in my late 40s - I guess that's a plus for me

[@xbacongrizzler6929]

Older women are the greatest! I never understood why I loved them more than my own age(I'm 25) but this explains it all ✊🏻 let the cougars come!

[@shuyung1]

Ok now tell me honestly…would you be with a woman who’s THIRTY years older??? Because I have feelings for a man who’s 19 when I’m 49..please be honest and justify

[@xbacongrizzler6929]

@@shuyung1 yes I would and I actually have been before. Dated my mom's friend when I was 18 and she was 47. I love older women so much, they have a different appeal than women my that just gets me going 😊

[@bm-ub6zc]

best comment xDDD

[@bm-ub6zc]

@@shuyung1 yeah Im 35 now and I wouldnt date a 65 year old although I had a holiday affair with a 63 year old when I was 28, so probably yes, but don't count on it to last very long (although I sometimes miss her). but ok she was really good looking and in good shape, not some average granny, for that age she was a 9 out of 10

[@2jsu104]

@@xbacongrizzler6929 I’m 21 with a 33 year old

[@macadamia668]

As younger man engaged with someone who is 11 years older than I am, This is SPOT ON! The connection and the companionship is all there and it's Easy! Never have I had an easier time with women around my age. Communication just happens. No need for weird mental mind tricks or the suspenseful guess game. It feels rather secure as you've mentioned.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I'm happy this resonated with you

[@anoukc6928]

My dad is 5 years younger than my mom. They're been married for 35+ years.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

beautiful it totally works! :)

[@anitakleinhans8047]

@@Mat_Shaffer hi Mat pls help me to find a good dissent loving respectful, nd loyal man, I have been single for 6 years Anita South Africa

[@19dulce68]

Beautiful! 👏🙏😀

[@parthzala7593]

@@anitakleinhans8047 Are you okay with long distance friendship? We can be friends if you want. But let's take things slowly!

[@anitakleinhans8047]

@@parthzala7593 hi Parth hope you doing well, where you from dear?

[@tinkershell1856]

Thank you!!! I’m 53 and I’ve been telling my friends these things for years! From now on, I’m sharing this video ❤️❤️

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YES love it!!

[@starchildgoddess_3335]

You’re so right. My boyfriend of almost 3 years is almost 10 years younger. He’s actually very mature and on a mental level he surpasses me... not by much though but this is very true!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

BEAUTIFUL love it!!!

[@dianaeastwood7838]

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[@thankgod7312]

God blessed you

[@marincuculic1020]

Starchild goddess are you still dating him?

[@CodiKMiller]

So true! I’m 43 & for many years there’s been significant attraction between myself and various younger men. The main issue I’ve run into with the few that I’ve dated is that it can be difficult to relate to the level of life experiences that I’ve had and sometimes that can create a barrier. I know there are younger men who are grown enough mentally and emotionally that it wouldn’t be an issue and remain open to the possibilities without restricting myself with various age differences ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing your experiences

[@margarettrancucci4240]

👍

[@marincuculic1020]

Codi are you single maybe? you look so charming :)

[@julianacg2434]

I’m in love with someone who is 28...I’m 35 and was kind of feeling bad and hopeless but watching your video made my day! Thank you

[@Mat_Shaffer]

wonderful so glad it supported you :)

[@masoumehlashgari1833]

Me too

[@rhondat5337]

I just turned 41 & he just turned 28! It's been an awesome 6 months thus far lol. I have a son that's 22 & a daughter 17. It's definitely odd for me but I'm happier then I've ever been when I'm with him! 🥰

[@roelacasse7482]

Totally agree Mat. I dated a man 20 years younger than me for years and the age difference was never an issue. Unfortunately the cultural differences were.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

ahh yes thats a much bigger thing for sure!

[@nanthini5591]

So do I. What can I say.....

[@alibaba-tt5vv]

I know exactly what you're talking about . Lived thru it twice . If only men could stand up to their families .....

[@monicanath4859]

I do date someone 19 years younger than me and it works well, however you need to give it time and effort too.

[@parthzala7593]

@@nanthini5591 So how was the experience?

[@MJYouAreNotAlone1]

I am 57 years old and my husband is 45 years old. We have been together for 18 years. When I first met him I was very concerned that the age might be a problem at some point, however, as of today our age has never been a problem. I have six children from a previous marriage that my husband has always consider them all his very own. He is an incredibly amazing man. He was 26 years old when I met him and I was 38 with six children. Age really is just a number.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

it truly is just a number !! great share!

[@rosecoleman9090]

I’m 8 years older than my Soulmate he’s 49 and I’m 57 we are STRONGER than ever!!!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

BOOM yes its a beautiful thing! :)

[@rosecoleman9090]

@Marin Cuculic YES WE ARE!!! STILL GOING STRONG 💪🏾

[@cjlawlor95]

I first figured out I wanted an older partner when I was a freshman and sophomore in high school, 10 years ago. I was 15 at the time and a teacher of mine was 23 or so. That age gap was huge, too huge for me but it showed me how secure she was and how comfortable I could feel around her, we connected almost immediately as friends not just as student and teacher. Not to mention she's good looking, I'll remember her as someone I looked up to, especially while dealing with struggles both of those years. Unfortunately we of course had to cut ties once I graduated but those memories will always be with me.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much for your feedback!

[@anuragtumane5227]

There can be several reasons why younger men date older women: straightforwardness, not playing games or cheating, narrating stories and tales, confidence and motherliness are some of them.

[@KGG2]

Narrating stories and tales? Wtf haha

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

[@fredaayres9339]

I don’t know who asked, but I’m 75 now, and me darling is 57. Now count 18 years back. I am very lucky.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AMAZING love your share!!! what do you love about dating a younger guy??

[@andrewpierre3260]

I am 30. Single. As I get older still, I am intrigued by older women still. My first actual experience with an older woman was when I was 25 and she was 43. Best experience ever!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@LisaGemini]

So...most of this comes down to being WISER and having life experiences that younger women do not. Also, older women are more confident in who they are, they love themselves and don't feel the need to twist themselves into someone they are NOT to impress a man, any man.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

absolutely!! all so so powerful :)

[@DallasJayCook]

@Marin Cuculic u everywhere wtf

[@davidethan5571]

Yes that's true!

[@ladycherielindsey2618]

Love that you dispelled that myth! I have always dated younger men. (Just the way it always works out.) Plus, they never believe me when I DO tell them how old I am. Lol.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

BOOM love it! I bet you have awesome energy 🤗

[@patriciaearley4177]

Same

[@vivaeuropa]

How old are you lol?

[@ladycherielindsey2618]

@@vivaeuropa almost 44

[@parthzala7593]

@@ladycherielindsey2618 Honestly you looked like 30 something to me. Nice to meet you.. are you on Instagram??

[@cd2612]

I'm 9 years older than my hubby. We were great friends for about 20 years and throughout our friendship had no clue that we would be husband and wife. Funny how some of our friends knew we would have gotten married

[@Mat_Shaffer]

amazing story thank you for sharing!! :)

[@marah3298]

This is true. My mom gets hit on more than I do. Lol.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

HA thats great love it!!! shes your wing woman! :)

[@bonitaohyea9258]

Yep I have been called a cougar for many years. Last boyfriend was 16 years younger.

[@africanborn2025]

Nice

[@marah3298]

Bonita Oh Yea lol I love that!

[@africanborn2025]

@@marah3298 how old are you?? Can we be friends ??

[@ExoticalT369]

I’m a woman of a certain age and I primarily attract younger men… it’s a good thing as long as we’re both “on the same page” about things. ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@dawnpettet4245]

Yesss. At last its recognised. I love a man half my age. I keep asking him why ? He says it's his choice. Thank you.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

LOVE it thanks for sharing!!

[@Conservative_carnivore]

Only choice*. If he could get a 22 year old bangin' college grad, you know he would.

[@dawnpettet4245]

@@Conservative_carnivore Not all men are the same. He has proved himself to me in the weeks since i posted that. In fact Natty Patty, we are getting married!!

[@Brendac549]

Hi Matt. I’m 51 and my best friend is 35 . And honestly I get along pretty much better with him than with a friend I have of my age in all aspects of a relationship. It flows naturally and he loves how passionate I am and to hear my stories . We can talk for hours . Thanks for your advise. Much love

[@Mat_Shaffer]

beautiful I love hearing about connections like this! age truly is just a number

[@marincuculic1020]

Brenda Marie you look so charming :) Are you single maybe?

[@ivanford3695]

Brenda Marie you look do beautiful ❤️❤️🌹🌹 I’ll be glad to know you

[@TERRIEARM1]

I love your thinking but i recently rejected a 39 yr old man because as i am in my early 50’s i am concerned that even though he is smitten with me now, later on when he craves to have his own children, i wont be able to give him that. Heartbreak down the road. I cant get past that thinking. I have my adult kids. I have satisfied that need but when his mid life crisis hits, he will grow to despise me when he misses out on that wonderful part of life

[@Mat_Shaffer]

mmhm if kids are important to him I can see where you're coming from, but be careful not to project down the road and disqualify yourself from a potentially powerful connection with someone

[@genevalivingstone1929]

I loved this Matt. Finally someone mentioned the masculine/feminine pull. It's very very true. I see it with my lion!! We 100% have this romantic dance...but it took me at least 7 months to stop being afraid of him. The idea of cougar, sugar mommas and mommy issues play a massive role in our society. But for me it was if he ends up loving me and I cannot give him children that would break my heart!! As you already know from my bazillion comments He leads I follow and it's still exciting even after a year...it's better actually!!! Ahhhh his masculinity needs my femininity!!

[@Sweetgirl420]

Geneva Livingstone I have a luv a lot older than myself. I cry I won’t be able to give him children. He said I have all the time later for that. Now... all I want is YOU!!!😀

[@genevalivingstone1929]

@@Sweetgirl420 beautiful!!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YES you got it!! love it!

[@mirabellebarim9997]

🤗 i like this

[@justyoutubing4285]

Geneva Livingstone Yes, true. I'm very spiritual and new age too; and I really liked when Matt mentioned this. I stumbled on Matt's video and channel today - Liked and Subscribed!☺

[@theadviser123]

You say men get tired of having the carry the relationship with younger women. As an older woman, well even as a younger one, I've almost always felt I had to carry the conversations with most men. That's one of the many reasons I've pretty much given up on men. The vast majority have difficulty leading. I'm a dominant women, but I'd much rather the man lead. But, if he doesn't, I will. That just ruins for me. I want a secure, masculine man. So hard to find. I'm open to younger men because they're the ones that hit on me, but most, even those over 40 still have a lot of growing up to do. Sadly.

[@beastybeauty7014]

So trut. Why cant everything just flows..conversations spark connection n everything else. Why do we have to try hard to carry it forward? Relationship are Very complicated

[@marincuculic1020]

Elizabeth you look so charming :) Are you single maybe?

[@violetrose5788]

I was eight years older then my husband together for thirty years 💕

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Love it! ❤️❤️

[@CircyPhèdre]

Thanks Matt for talking about this topic❣ I've always dated men younger than me and I still do, it just happened that way. Somehow they are drawn to me and I'm drawn to them. I often feel that they are more emancipated, more fun, more open-minded and more alive than men older than me. I also asked some of them why they like dating older woman and they pretty much said the same things as you Matt😊😉And ladies, take it from me, dating a younger guy is the best anti-aging treatment!!!😀🥰

[@Mat_Shaffer]

[@Melinda.S.]

Right💞

[@neshmalifestyletv2737]

Lucky.

[@masoumehlashgari1833]

Thanks for your video you really made my day! I’m 52 in age but feel 25 in heart, however because of my age I thought finding a soul mate could be very hard but now you and the comments proved it that there could be so many potential soul mates out there for me 😊. All I need to do is just to open my heart ❣so God will send a man- even younger- who deserves my love.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

amazing share! YES you are exactly right!

[@PreciousLuna1988]

Are you still looking I'm 34

[@deannas8451]

This really did help. Sometimes when I’m in public, I observe people when sitting somewhere and looking around. I’ve noticed that most masculine macho guys are with older women. Not just average slim men, but a very much of a manly man with an older woman.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

yes because theyre confident and know what they want!!

[@justyoutubing4285]

Deanna S Oh thanks for sharing. It helps me gain some clarity I needed :) ...

[@neomamartin2696]

Thank you Matt!👌 I'm dating a gorgeous man 5 years than myself....we have an "electrical" connection! 😊 U are "spot on".

[@Mat_Shaffer]

BOOM love it!! :)

[@parthzala7593]

YOU GUYS STILL TOGETHER?

[@lizm5303]

Believe it or not, not every older woman has more life experience than a younger man. I may not know everything that I want, but I know certain things that I don't want, and I definitely don't want a man who won't respect me for who I am.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

and that strength of self awareness and boundaries is also attractive to men! :)

[@MotoMiles]

Date older women they’ll always remind you on a daily basis how old you are..:-/ personal experience. The more experience thing in bed is debatable.”Because they already know what they want” there’s so many things they won’t do or are not open to doing.But in the most obvious on his perspective ..they are the best partners. Because nine times out of 10 they are not into the superficial perspectives of the world and more humble.

[@YoNeener]

I'm 50 and he's 37. I've never in my life been so happy in a relationship. 🥰

[@marincuculic1020]

Jennine are you still dating?

[@YoNeener]

@@marincuculic1020 Yes we are! We have been together for almost 2 years. ❤️🙏

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy to hear that!

[@edithliggayumaniago6006]

Oh Mat! How I love this video! I am older than the man I love and now I feel more secured and happy . Thank you so much. More Power!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

fantastic so glad you liked it!!

[@vanassiafields4630]

This is helping me lose the doughts!

[@littlemisslondon3017]

Sweetheart may ask how many years gap between you both

[@hapigoluckee1266]

My ex is 14 yrs younger. Im currently seeing Chris (same name as my ex haha), and new Chris is 20 yrs younger. I’m 49, he’s 29. The first meet up was a magical evening. Never thought I’d click that much with someone who seems like a male version of me. He can be a model as in super hot and stable to boot! Younger women look at us with that LOOK.... oh lord.... he was just proud holding my hand that night and was so sweet. Imma continue seeing him. Thanks for this video!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for the beautiful share Hapi Go Luckee 🙏

[@hapigoluckee1266]

Mat Shaffer you’re welcome!!!

[@pleasuretube2132]

HELLO beautiful Queen How are you. I m single no kids looking for one Seriously. I m 24

[@mcb00]

@@hapigoluckee1266 how did it go?

[@tayandkayworld9095]

My guy is 22 I’m 32 and he literally said all these things to me yesterday lol I feel great to hear this !

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so glad this helped you!

[@user-ik2no7jw5g]

This is the best insight I’ve heard on this subject. The setting men free idea is what I intuitively feel. This validates it.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

amazing thank you my dear!! means a lot me!!

[@simplymarilyn5295]

Thanks Mat for this awesome video! I am 17 yrs older than my man.....im 62 & he's 45! When we're together, we feel so compatible. I used to feel a little insecure but he always makes me feel so beautiful & sexy about myself. I just do my very best to take care of myself so I can always feel confident. It has become a lifestyle, not a struggle....& After 5yrs, I don't even think about my age anymore. He has always been kind and gentle. As you said..." I will never let my age be a limiting factor!" 🏹💕

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AMAZING share and exactly what I’m talking about!!! Congrats on fostering such a beautiful connection ... age truly is just a number 🤗🤗❤️

[@simplymarilyn5295]

@Marin Cuculic Thank-you ♡

[@marincuculic1020]

@@simplymarilyn5295 Are you still dating him?

[@simplymarilyn5295]

@@marincuculic1020 Yes, still together! 8 yrs now....I'm 65 & he's 48y/o.

[@marincuculic1020]

@@simplymarilyn5295 glad to hear that :) I at least hope we can be friends.

[@liliangardner]

I enjoyed your video and chat. It makes me feel good regardless of my age. Thanks so much.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

amazing so glad you liked it

[@willa1699]

And here I was, concerned about a measly 6 year age gap lol

[@ladywrld5863]

Me and my boo have 9,5 years between us , when we're together I feel like we're the same age which is around 23. I'm 27 he's 18.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

[@jeanmoore8626]

So I just started a relationship with a man who is thirteen years younger than me! I asked my daughter and her husband about finding me a guy and when they said his name my heart leapt out of my chest! I asked him he said yes and omg! I’m falling quickly and so happy I’m even taking things slower than I normally would! He’s seeming to be my Twin Flame. Can he be any more perfect for me? Not a moment of the day I don’t think of him! Things I want to do with him like shopping, camping, races, movies whatever! Thing is I was feeling down yesterday and he asked me if I was ok! Not a one of my ex’s except my first husband would have asked me what was wrong! I have never had that before! Yup I am falling hard!

[@bidziilalex146]

Hello

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@tanhue1265]

amazing!!! love this video! thank you for reminding us all that men have feelings and want to connect.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!

[@squidward6187]

I'm 10 years older than my bf. We've been together five years so far and we're still very happy and say "I love you" every single day. We're constantly showing our appreciation for each other. I think that's why younger men like to date older women. We're usually way more appreciative and respectful. I feel lucky to be with him.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@rachelarmel7547]

This is so refreshing and uplifting. Love this video! Thank you.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

yay so glad you enjoyed it :)

[@lovebah3795]

12 years between us and i love him so much yes i do

[@Mat_Shaffer]

beautiful love hearing this!!

[@1suitcasesal]

I think you are absolutely right. I am an older woman and I find that many younger men are attracted to me for those reasons. I can also look back to when I was young and I wouldn't talk, I was shy and uptight and really I know I am a lot more fun to be with now than I was then.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESSS its all about freedom and fun!

[@PreciousLuna1988]

How old r u

[@lisaberruti9223]

My husband and I are 23 yrs apart..but we get along great

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Amazing!

[@allisonbennett9209]

Jesus i think i'am falling for a guy 14 years younger than me. He is the only guy who has tried to get to know me. I want to get to know him more. The chemistry is out of this world 🌶️!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Yesss get it girl! Have FUN!

[@marincuculic1020]

Allison you are very cute :) Are you single?

[@buffy2257]

I went on a date with a 19 year old and I'm 35. It was the most fun I've had in years. I feel kind of guilty becauee he is so young. But it made me so happy.

[@vivaeuropa]

You deserve to be happy and anyone who judges you in your circle they shouldn't be in it anymore❤

[@ShoaibKhan-bz5qm]

Don't feel guilty as a young guy older women are better generally speaking to me

[@Mat_Shaffer]

It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

[@lolacookie453]

Thank you for doing a video about this, it is so spot on! I recently went out on a first date with a professional rugby player who is 14 years younger, I look a lot younger than my actual age 😂 Unfortunately he had to travel back to his country the very next day but we continue to talk all the time. When I found out his age I tried pushing him away and he called me out on it and told me that the age gap didn’t make a difference to him bc he didn’t remember the last time he had connected with anyone like we did. So what you say about having that connection overriding age difference is so spot on. In many ways I have found him to be so much more mature than men who are older than me and I love that he surprises me in so many ways. I really appreciate videos like this bc not long ago I watched a “well known relationship expert” do a video on this same subject matter and he dissuaded a younger man from dating an older woman, completely dismissing the fact that they had a true connection and brushed it off as “it’s just not a good idea/goes against nature” simply bc the woman was older. So thank you for bringing attention to this topic and treating it with such respect! 🙌

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome! Thank you for your beautiful share 🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

[@kellyplowman6170]

I only date younger men. I'm 54. It started when I turned 50.

[@antoinettefernandes8133]

Mat had to smile when I watched this ... makes perfect sense 😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

i'm so glad I could get you to smile!

[@Kellykittymom]

I'm 50, this still gives me hope!! I always dated a few yrs older than me, but once I was in my 30's, it reversed! Lol!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YES it's so cool how it works!!

[@marincuculic1020]

Kelly you are so charming :) Are you single?

[@patriciaviii]

I’m 35 and if I date someone younger, he has to be very mature and secured. Not a lot of those types here in NYC.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YES I’ve heard a lot of stories like that in NYC! extra important for you to practice discernment there 🤗🤗

[@patriciaviii]

Mat Shaffer haha, it’s bad here but I’m staying positive.

[@pleasuretube2132]

@@patriciaviii HELLO beautiful Queen How are you. Single man no kids looking for one Seriously. I m 24

[@marlonrichardson9172]

Im 30 years old and i like a 50 year old and everytime i see her i get butterflies and she makes me blush and i thibk she's really attractive and had a nice personality.

[@njndox7252]

Good lucky!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations! And thank you!

[@stephanie5471]

Thank you Mat! This information needed to be put out there 🙂 I agree with all the points you made. I also would like to add that some older women do not bring the added pressure of marriage/kids into the relationship as they have “been there and done that”. Also, older women have seen their share and are a lot less prone to freak out over minor-ish things. Just my two cents 😉

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESS thats another great point! Its funny I actually recorded this video once before and had that point in there(but the audio wasnt working ugh)... but FORGOT to say it this time around! so important!

[@thnkr0917]

@@Mat_Shaffer I absolutely agree. I am just not going to get upset about a guy who disobeys some dating rule. All I care about is at the end of the day that you respect me and are my loyal friend first and whatever else second and I'll do the same. I'm soo much more chill than I was when I was younger. So what, he got busy and didn't text me enough today. I may not even notice because I got off the dang couch and did my own thing . When I was younger it might have been twisting my head in knots trying to read into that and avoiding doing my own thing to obsess about it. Guys enjoy my company better now, lol. 😋

[@aylex1974]

Be an asset for this type of woman doesn't be a problem. She is done with those types of people. She already knows how to be alone and is not scaring. This guy is telling the true...

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much for your feedback!

[@Auset333]

You are so correct. Most of the men that approach me are younger men.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@marincuculic1020]

Are you single maybe?

[@joeselsalcedo1512]

Yeees im older than 15 years ahead to my Guy but we have a wonderful relationship 😇

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YAY love it!!!

[@HMAKmusic]

Nice! I found such a sweet women she is 36 and 12 years older than me

[@nadiamordvinkin6310]

@@HMAKmusic 36 years for woman- it's still good and young age.

[@nadiamordvinkin6310]

@@claudiaduncan5827 "Dated"- it doesn't mean to live with young men and match to his long term life plans, his look and his fertile abilities.

[@lucitatuazon7641]

You're quite amusing, i like your topics ,hence i subscribed to it. Good job, Mat👌

[@Mat_Shaffer]

🙏❤️ I’ll take amusing all day!

[@MT-rg2qz]

I am 26 year old that is with a 47 year old woman. She's cooperative, feminine and communicative. She knows what she wants and she doesn't play games. Neither one of us want marriage or kids. She has a kid of her own but doesn't need a father figure for her kid. Just wants me for fun times and good memories. That is chemistry right there.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@kahalacromwell9741]

Nice to hear are you still seeing each other?

[@karenjensen7566]

I’m 69 and I do get a lot of attention from men in their 40s and 50s. However, they don’t want to date me they just want to go to bed with me. I want a real multifaceted relationship. I don’t want to be anyone’s secret toy. I’m attractive full figured smart and funny. I have more to offer than just sex.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

amen sister! keep standing for what you know yourself to be worthy of

[@selah71]

We have to set boundaries. If a man is really interested he'll respect them no matter what age women happen to be. I'm 66 and dissing a guy in his 50's because of this. He kept pushing boundaries and I don't have time for games!

[@masoumehlashgari1833]

Karen Jensen exactly! ❤️

[@masoumehlashgari1833]

Selah good for you ❤️

[@IvySnowFillyVideos]

I've dated 20 years younger and 50 years older. It's all about connection and maturity...but IMO older men tend to know how to treat a woman better. Finding that younger mature guy that has it together would be gold.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

great point! Connection and maturity transcend all

[@IvySnowFillyVideos]

@@Mat_Shaffer I'm sure they are out there...but they can't replace the experience of an older man. It might be just my case...but every date I go on with the younger guy seems worse than the one before. I won't totally discard the younger guy...but hard to find one who is genuine & has his life on point. I do find as I get older I'm less tolerant. Older men who have been there done that seem to intuitively know how to appreciate and treat a woman.

[@ishaanagarwal2220]

I've always dated older women & Hopefully will continue to do so...I find them more attractive & exciting than younger,The points you listed are absolutely right Most importantly,We don't feel the pressure to carry the relationship Mate,What do you prefer to date older or younger?

[@EMcgame.23]

My brother-in-law told me the reason why he go with older woman more than the younger woman because they like to put your hand on you and like drama a lot

[@Mat_Shaffer]

It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

[@kctillman]

Glad I was told about this video just yesterday! ;) great info and I thought the energy was on point!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Awesome! Thank you!

[@shirleyclarkejackson5560]

My hubby was 16 years my junior. From the time we met we had fun. He looked after me in every way possible until he died aged 52 years, 11 years after we met.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@kahalacromwell9741]

Sorry for your loss. Great reminder to enjoy the moments we have. Thank you for sharing this. Bless you always.

[@greatlovesexthroughifs8948]

I wholeheartedly agree with you. The hard part is that on dating apps, sooo many men and women over 40 lie about their age. When I state my real age (57), the younger men don’t really think to click on my profile because of the age and the older guys are 10 years older than their stated age. It’s very depressing. I wish Dating apps required people to upload a driver’s license to verify age.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

[@hiannahgus574]

I have had the same experience regarding honesty in age. I love the idea of holding the intention for a living relationship. Good suggestion! Thanks for the videa.

[@sisigs4820]

Dating online in general just isn't a good idea.

[@kahalacromwell9741]

I gave up on dating apps.

[@Tenshus4ever]

My sister-in-law is 7 yrs older than my brother, amazing!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESS IT CAN TOTALLY WORK CANT IT?!?

[@Tenshus4ever]

@@Mat_Shaffer YES indeed!! 👍😀

[@chriswhite1584]

"Older 'Women/Ladies' Are The Best..!! They Know What They Want..!!" ❤🔥

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESSS brother you totally get it! They;re WONDERFUL :)

[@anitakleinhans8047]

@@Mat_Shaffer hey, I really love this show , very interesting it's reality no matter how people can deny but is reality , please if is any man looking for a good woman , a good relationship long term relationship pls don't hesitate I'm available , South Africa

[@joydapalangdao5605]

Yes exactly we are😜

[@anitakleinhans8047]

Yes indeed older are matured, responsible and loyal,,

[@ganymeade5151]

They are also great in bed

[@Star-dz3ei]

This info was perfect. Ty for making this video. Gold nugget info.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

No problem, Star0210🙌 Thank you for sharing.❤❤❤

[@SLembo-ov7hu]

I'm 57, he's 24 ❤ So very enjoyable to conncet authentically. No games

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@aimeemauricio4949]

Im gonna be 40 in March and in the last 6 years they have been 7 to 10 years younger. Younger guys chase me

[@Mat_Shaffer]

beautiful I love it! you must be quite a magnetic woman! :)

[@aimeemauricio4949]

@@Mat_Shaffer aw thanks for saying that. Im a romantic and i have a baby face they think im their age and I am free spirited young soul. Thanks for replying

[@Sweetgirl420]

I have a much younger man in my life. We have such a connection... right from the start. We joke if I had an older man, I may end up looking after him, my younger guy says you have me, I will look after you now!!!!! Love that. Matt you made me feel better!!! Iv had a problem with our age difference, you just dispelled my fears. Thank you, again.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

beautiful this makes me so happy! love it !

[@elisabethmurphy7246]

Older men want a nurse purse or both!

[@pleasuretube2132]

HELLO beautiful Queen How are you

[@brightantwerp]

I came to your channel because of a nice younger man is attracted to me, and I feel insecure about being older. Love your other video's as well. Thank you!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

wonderful I hope it inspired you to give him a chance! :)

[@brightantwerp]

@@Mat_Shaffer Absolutely, I will.

[@ImWORTHITINC]

I enjoy this Mat!! Great advice! I LOVE hearing the male POV! I just subscribed! GREAT STUFF MAN! I'm learning from YOU for my channel! (just about speaking & production it's not about romance) I APPRECIATE YOU! THANKS!

[@robertwilliams7463]

Hello beautiful lady, how are you doing 😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Welcome aboard! ♥ :)

[@vanassiafields4630]

I'm a older women that's found a perfect younger man,Man is the thing.Its a great turn on to know you have the ways to keep them so in tuned to you!Never thought I'd feel this way!,

[@bidziilalex146]

Hello

[@Mat_Shaffer]

So happy to hear that!