The Loneliness Epidemic

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[@mattdavella]

Thanks for watching. Share this with someone who needs it.

[@hyperdarck1367]

Mr Matt you really inspire me to be more and more successful! Thank you

[@SirAtticus]

Great video 👌🏽

[@rajatgupta7265]

You are an amazing KZbinr!!! Keep doing what you do

[@jackshultz2355]

when you watch this at 6 am to start your day off right. thanks matt!

[@nicolaasdecausmaecker5827]

Strong Message! Feels good to be understood!

“The relationship between social media and social life is like the relationship between porn and sex.” Wow that really struck me.

[@KN-wo2lv]

Eesa Özil yes! Porn is really bad for society

[@ronniesunshine1163]

I think this is a really important quote that a lot of people probably overlook because they wouldn't want to give up social media

[@Chris-bw5zk]

@Jake Witzacker which benefits?

[@Lukexplore]

It's not that porn is bad, it just tells you that it won't fill your real needs. That doesn't make it bad.

[@benalmahsyur392]

@@Chris-bw5zk the difference between a reality and fantasy maybe?

[@melomurmursasmr7336]

what's really messed up is that two people can admit to be lonely but still not make friends with each other

[@NewBlueTrue]

Friendship requires effort and from what I’ve seen, most people don’t actually put effort into their friendships. Probably why they’re not friends

[@cathyhamlin3611]

So true

[@annikesta8796]

@@NewBlueTrue and that is what makes me so angry. Even the basic minimum of continuous effort is too much. We live in a fast world - fast food, fast fashion, fast consumerism and sadly, fast friendships & relationships.

[@NewBlueTrue]

@@annikesta8796 I’ve been doing a lot of history learning in terms of human beings day to day interactions and the way their cities/communities were structured and what I have found is many people lived in very close, walkable distance from each other. They were constantly interacting with all types of people every single day. Why would someone worry about whether or not they have friends if their social needs are being met by the people they interact with day to day. And don’t forget people back then had more free time to nurture their personal relationships because work wasn’t treating them like slaves. I don’t think people back then were better at being friends, but actually had more opportunities for human interaction so they didn’t feel as lonely. So, what I am trying to say is we need to restructure our societies so it is easier for people to interact with others so their social needs can be met instead of relying on people who can’t or won’t put effort into maintaining a friendship.

[@annikesta8796]

@@NewBlueTrue I've read similar things! It's very interesting. There's a video on what North Korean defectors missed most about their old homes and they basically confirmed what you've typed above. But I don't neccesarily think that it's just the structure. Nothing has really changed in my hometown since my childhood, but it used to be the standard for people to just come and go into each other's households as they pleased. I do think it has something to do with a new sense of privacy that came from the changed working conditions you mentioned above. After being bombarded with social interaction @ work and then seemingly on social media, I feel like a lot of people's social batteries are just drained at the end of the day. Also: there is no need for friends to come over and physically tell you about what's happened to them today when you could witness it live in their facebook/instagram/whatsapp stories. Maybe there's just a lack of topics for people to begin with.

[@marcoseesmarcoshares]

"Everyone's connected, but no one is connecting."

[@Fearless-ex4iv]

Marco Garcia Good one

[@lindapoulton2982]

You've hit the nail on the head, Marco!

[@genesismakeup]

No intimacy

[@supritiphani1282]

How true

[@Jay-vr9ir]

True

[@Gary-sx5ox]

My mom used to tell me; ‘a person needs to figure out how to be alone without being lonely’. Once you have achieved that, you’re ready to have a healthy relationship with others.

[@supritiphani1282]

Gary - your mother is correct . No one told me this but I figured the same thing due to life experiences

[@MAR7LO]

I love this

[@nehashrimali123]

WOW!

[@LeBronyaJames]

@Justice is Right 1st step is to realise that if you're not comfortable in your own company, it can be impossible to make connections with anyone else. Start by learning to become comfortable in your own company. Also, don't expect too much as expecting too much won't do you any good. Keep it simple. If people refuse, just keep looking and focus on those who accept (they'll come, no forcing it). This won't happen overnight but over time. To fight loneliness, try to establish a meaningful connection with people. Loneliness is a normal feeling once in a while but don't let it consume you, become you or become something far worse. Social pain is so painful it can break anyone. It'll be hard but you make a friendship and maybe create a new family. Family doesn't mean blood relation, it means a very strong connection between a group of people. It's why close friends can be considered family. This won't be easy but it's achieveable, it's created to happen. All humans are made like that

[@Feber2001]

If you develop a good relationship with yourself, accept your flaws and strengths as they are, you'll never be truly alone.. You will attract good energy, as long as you create good energy within yourself.

[@ericspencer8093]

Social media is essentially just self-advertisement: "look at me! See how perfect I am! See what a happy and beautiful life I have!" Eventually, you come to realize that everybody is advertising and nobody is buying. Truly a hollow enterprise.

[@ameliaconway]

yeh that's actually pretty spot on. pretty sad hey. We could all take away their power by not following, but people seem to love to follow. As tho by following they somehow take on some of their fame or perfection. When really the follower gets nothing.

[@chantzukit681]

Not exactly, if done right social media can be an instrument for good. But point taken, social media is horrible for social connections.

[@MsBlonde0000]

It also depends. I use social media to keep in touch with family and close friends only. I don't rely on likes to validate me. Remember social media is a tool and it's up to you how you use it

[@elijahgibran7569]

Well put. This realization was the catalyst in removing myself from social media entirely. I'm back to living/experiencing life for my own gratification, no ulterior recognition needed. People can start depending on the synthetic reassurance to feel good about themselves, sucking the authenticity out of living. To each their own, not here to judge. We're all searching.

[@RahubaatNeteru]

Social media is just people posting propaganda about how their life is going...

[@SirJoelsuf1]

Social media has pretty much turned the world into a giant high school that never ends lol.

[@griffphilm]

Sir Joelsuf: Yeah, high school, but pre school and especially first, in the womb and out of the womb teachers schooling us. And , now all is influenced by soc. media, and main stream media.

[@mrgordy1980]

so true

[@SmellyBones]

That's an easy conclusion to reach if one's ideas about the world are formed from social media.

[@yaboyjonez9476]

I dropped out after FB

[@luvliesbleeding]

agreed, but i dont think it's always gonna be like this. think about it, we're in the teenage years of social media and the internet- if its bad right now it's because we're new to it all and still figuring out how to pull all the right ropes. i think there'll be a time when things are more regulated and less chaotic. kind of like adulthood?? kind of

[@coreolis7]

most people are not pursuing wealth, just constantly struggling to stay employed and pay the bills, & thats depressing

[@timebender83]

That is a very sad and suicidal way to live one's life

[@thathandsomedevil0828]

@@timebender83 For most people, that's reality. You gotta play the cards life deals you.

[@timebender83]

​@@thathandsomedevil0828 Who says that? So be safe and complacent after watching the news because you don't live in Syria or Ethiopia, while continuing the 9-5 rat race you been given in exchange of your life? Thanks but I will pass and decide to create my own reality where I am responsible for my actions and life in general

[@timebender83]

@@thathandsomedevil0828 In other words I would give the deck back for reshuffling and deal me new cards

[@thathandsomedevil0828]

@@timebender83 more power to you buddy, I am just glad I make enough at the moment to pay the bills, stay afloat and not be a burden to my parents. I don't know about you but it's fucking cold outside and my supplier just charged me for this month's heating bill. It's not ideal but that is my reality, right now.

[@SB-gy2vx]

I'm a guy born in the 90's and damn, do I miss those time where life was much simpler. Social media killed my social life, everyone is virtual nowadays.

[@purpur7187]

Now many people live in an artificial world, so they are lonely.

[@moonlightstargem1006]

Oh yeah ever since iphones came out i was curious why i was all alone for a long time why my social life just disappeared. Movies in the iPhone generation hit different because in the movies the teenagers were socializing and best friends doing homework at each others house and having fun taking selfies and doing funny things. But in reality a lot of us are disconnected in real life. It can be a very empty mundane boring existence. No social life. No friends. Barely a sex partner here and there & just hanging out with my family

[@McSalty087]

Life isn’t the same since 2012/13

[@parvinlaming]

🎉​@@moonlightstargem1006

[@hobihope2981]

The hardest part is having a tribe who’re are all addicted to their phones so you end up not actually getting to spend time with them because even when youre all together they’re not really *there*

[@shrancks]

.. and when you ask them something you have to wait for them to finish with their phone

[@flowmotion_2]

Louis G. I stopped hanging out with people like that, that shit is annoying

[@dartarro21]

Or wanting more deep and meaningful conversations but everyone around you is too shallow so you don't have friends because you can't stand drivel

[@girln1dog667]

Very True ..

[@diatonicjon]

"Alone Together" by Sherry Turkle

[@deren2001]

I'm off FB, Twitter, Insta, tv and even media for 3 years now. I was expecting relief, but I's like getting your head out of the smartphone, looking around you and there is nobody there that sees or notices you Its like the world is not speaking the same language anymore. A loss of social skills even. Saying hi to a total stranger seems wrong these days. So...I feel even more depressed.

[@raymoreci3847]

Hi franky

[@es_three232]

I know how you feel. My friends used to tell me I was always on my phone. Once I with out a phone (it broke on deployment) I realized that everytime I went out with my friends the script had flipped & we would go out to eat, go out drinking, etc. & they would spend more time snapping what we were doing than actually enjoying it. I got back on Social Media to keep in touch with them (since im out of the military) but honestly I feel just as depressed & lonely with it as I was without it. Idk maybe im crazy.

[@deren2001]

@@es_three232 Society has gone crazy, not you

[@mayl2773]

I did the same thing! I had a social media detox but realized that I felt more alone too because no one reaches out anymore and when I reach out, it’s not reciprocated. I feel out of touch and fall out of touch with “friends” (any friend). So in a way, it’s a necessary evil because that’s just how society is nowadays. I still want to meet some real genuine people in real life

[@42Mrgreenman]

Personal improvement in this case is like recycling to stop catastrophic climate change, even if you do get your mental house in order it will do no good if you are surrounded by basketcases....I hate to be a doomsayer on this kind of video but the end is near, we need large scale solutions (like getting rid of consumerism/capitalism and/or worker co-ops) or all will be for nought....we need everyone in the game if we are to save some portion of the biosphere, we need to help as many as possible in the shortest time frame. It's not a question of resources, it's a question of political will....

[@georgejoseph4968]

"Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don't need. We're the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our great war is a spiritual war... Our great depression is our lives. We've all been raised on television to believe that one day we'd all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars, but we won't. We're slowly learning that fact. And we're very, very pissed off." - Tyler Durden | posted 20y ago

[@happycam1686]

wish my parents knew this before putting me to watch TV.

[@wholeshebang1]

@Happycam - TV is passive entertainment; we absorb content made by others. It's a poor babysitter. Computer games, online gaming and social media are introduced to babies and toddlers; it's the new pacifier. It seems like connecting, but often leaves one feeling empty and isolated.

[@jamie49868]

@@wholeshebang1 Watching tv at least you hear human voices and see human faces. That at least fosters a connection with humans. Computer games, not so much. Neither is a good baby sitter. The boomers were raisedon tv and at least know how to interact with people. The millennials text to each other on dates while sitting across the table from each other.

[@ManiacalViolet]

We have been in constant war since 2003.

[@RedShipsofSpainAgain]

I was thinking how eye opening that part of Fight Club was when I saw it as a kid 20 years ago. Released in 1999. Yet here we are exactly 20 years later and by and large men have forgotten the lessons of Fight Club. I was thinking about why this is. Been watching some videos on female hypergamy and how women are attracted to men with high status. Well by definition, not all men can be high status. So one way men signal their social status is by buying and displaying expensive consumerist bullshit. Watches, sneakers, plasma TV, fast sports car, etc. So I wonder how much of this consumerist, materialistic displaying is men trying to show social status to get more friends and by extension, women.

[@user-gh2lf1zw3r]

I loved the junk food analogy making us physically sick, while social media is making us mentally sick.

[@TheBlackSheepDiaries]

I signed off fb years ago because I got sick of pics of people eating their junk food!

[@yourmaster8094]

@@TheBlackSheepDiaries Discord App isnt any better tbh but ngl i feel connected on there somehow

[@MrSvenovitch]

Life is inherently sick when you have to eat other living things just to stay alive. It's always been a stupid race and at the end if you make it you grow old and die. Whoop a doodle do

[@user-gh2lf1zw3r]

Sven I agree!

[@rondarawson6236]

Mmmmmmhmm...🤢🤮

[@thas1227]

I stopped going to school with my phone. I literally don't even bring it with me. I have noticed I feel much less anxious and I strive to make conversation with real people more, and my satisfaction from social interaction has gone up like crazy.

[@KiraIRL]

Congratulations, you have to reinforce basic behaviors. This generation has no self control. A little self control and you can use your phone just fine

[@ninjabunnyproductions4029]

@@KiraIRL I agree, but if that's the approach they want to use and it works for them, then great! Sometimes we need to get back to basics.

[@greenpigking6974]

I got grounded from my phone for two weeks and during that time I felt amazing bc although I felt more anxious in social situations I was much better about making eye contact and not getting distracted or impulsively looking at it when I’m uncomfortable.

[@SuperbMoves]

They are doing this on purpose they want us to feel more lonely. Social media is evil.

[@RTCLR123]

Hey, bro, write a short e-book about that, what happened, how you got to that idea and why it is logical move and put it somewhehere for people to download.

[@thisistotallyfine]

Matt D’Avella deserves his own Netflix series

[@meevil24]

His movie Minimalism is already on Netflix

[@jomoody798]

@@meevil24 its not his

[@shubhamjain2099]

Yes! Matt should get a netflix special for his messages and filmmaking skills

[@meevil24]

@@jomoody798 He directed it though

[@joseflunda8429]

Nah, he would be too good for Netflix ...

[@HumansOfVR]

*The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly. I'm trying to keep my world intact, so I work on my self and on my animations every single day!*

[@ruffels1496]

when you shake the coca cola can and when you open it it all fizzes out and you cant do shit.

[@anitaares8271]

Unless a sabre tooth cat is about to eat you in the next second, Or you are looking at starvation by famine, Or a horrible disease is eating you alive, You are leagues ahead of your ancestors. You are the reason your ancestors existed. Do them proud. Survival is the name of the game...

[@victoriapippo6651]

I didn't realise that was happening to me until I read that

[@williamn6133]

Please don't fucking like comments bcos they are in bold

[@ruffels1496]

Peter Pober *I know right*

[@CityGuyGoesCounty]

In the old days when you were lonely you could go to a coffee shop, the gym, the mall and you would meet people. Now days you go places & everyone's got their ear buds on, their all in there own little world...😩😫

[@anahiv9082]

Felix Bofil as a teenager, I try to go out to meet people but it seems like no one wants to communicate):

[@CityGuyGoesCounty]

@@anahiv9082 I'm just saying now it's ten times worse because everybody's got their earbuds on they don't even make eye contact..😎🙄

[@anahiv9082]

Yes! Especially at school, even the teachers allow us to wear earbuds just so kids won’t be distracting. It’s really sad & pathetic tbh 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@CityGuyGoesCounty]

@@anahiv9082 I really feel sad for the young people.. I have work with the Elderly they end up very lonely but now days young people are lonely & depressed so sad..😖😣😩😫

[@anahiv9082]

Felix Bofil so true ! 😢

[@adamyohan]

Matt's content doesn't feel so hyping, full of temporary energy or whatsoever. It's so chill and doesn't feel like it's forcing this thing down your throat. My absolute favorite KZbinr thus far.

[@KrazzyKittyy]

This comment made me think of Shane Dawson lol

[@oj4191]

Adam Ny II Yoo I'm taking pyscgology next year :) is it good?

[@ahmadafzali5775]

OTech lol if you get a good teacher. But yes it’s amazing you understand people and yourself even more in depth

[@forthelulz5411]

@@oj4191 most of the students there have some problems themselfes, when starting studeing psychology.

[@nzkid2599]

oooh throwing shade at a lotta youtubers there 😂😂

[@BenyaminLorit]

"If you think that life is about money, and status, and showing off, you're gonna feel like shit. It's not the exact quote from Confucius..." Nah man I'm pretty sure that's it word for word.

[@mattdavella]

Lol

[@Bonanzoo]

6LACK1AB REAL NIGA BOI I just cleaned my out. Sold more than half on Poshmark. I have 3 shirts, 10 t-shirts, 2 pants and 3 sweatshirts. I donated 3 trash bags full.

[@felipegalvezengels]

Hahaha, almost fell out of my chair

[@dougyeefresh87]

That's what everyone is trying to chase, it's sad. Once you realize all of that is fake you're on your way to finding happiness.

[@MitfordWilliams]

I've quit social media - Haven't had Facebook/Twitter for two years and quit Instagram 12 weeks ago. It's the way forward if you actually want to start living again.

[@KeikoFXDesigns]

KZbin can be just as bad man.

and you somehow ended up on this video still... great.

[@MitfordWilliams]

@ yeah just browsing and came across this...

[@MitfordWilliams]

@@KeikoFXDesigns I find KZbin is different for me - I only really watch comedy videos and documentaries. But I guess for some people it's similar to other social platforms.

[@andyblake83]

@@MitfordWilliams do you feel happier? I'm in Australia, I'm lonely

[@deacubogdan2263]

Socializing actually makes me feel more depressed and frustrated because I see all these people who have deep relationships with other human beings be it romantic or platonic and it reminds me of my inability to achieve that so I become angry and return to my cave where I can forget all of that shit and regain my illusory happiness.

[@yeshalloween]

Same

[@Wurmstinkt]

Me too.

[@virajkadam1684]

I am the same. I see all of my cousins married to their loved ones having kids and living the life I have always had a dream of living, it makes me unhappy and sad that I may never have that kinda life.

[@n908qd7]

I’ve finally found someone like me!

[@vitkusbow4482]

I feel exactly the same. Hope I can once make relationships that will be as valuable as other peoples

[@jadebethj4807]

I'm an introvert but I still like having friends or doing things with people...sometimes. I like to say "I like to be alone, not lonely." Because there's a difference.

[@manichispanic5234]

Thank you so much for this comment and and I agree and understand completely. I was always very introverted, not a lot of people are welcome in my home. But I have always had a number of friends, acquaintances and meaningful relationships in my life. I love striking up conversations with random strangers, you never know who you'll meet. I love to party! I love adrenaline and I'm competitive, but then I go home to a safe place be with myself. My home is my Sanctuary. I see so many people that lack social skills claiming to be introverts. They can't look people in the eye, can't stand up for themselves, have mood swings and triggers when confronted. Half of KZbin comments are people letting everyone know how much they hate other people! These are not healthy behaviors and people are going around putting a label on it feel better about themselves. It comes from a place of denial, honestly kind of scares me. It just makes me so sad, I just want to hug everybody dammit! LOL. "Hey mother f*****, you need love! Stop pretending like you don't" lol.

[@Sonic2332]

Yes! This comment fits me so well.

[@arifali6762]

What is the difference please explain?

[@marie_84]

@@arifali6762 To be able being from time to time *alone* & doing sth for yourself like reading a book...and being always *lonely* is difference. Being sometimes alone is okay..but being always lonely, not.

[@yourheinness9275]

@@manichispanic5234 hit the nail right on then head there. Wow. Could not have said it any better myself.

[@syntheon]

I really like the sound quality Matt, considering no visual mic's. I also like how you're not interrupting the man constantly with affirmations like 'uhu, yes, ok, I understand'. You just let the man speak and ask very hands-on questions. Good one!

[@lewiscantplay8639]

im going to make an educated guess that matt is now using a mic boom? but yeah I agree, very clear interview, cuts out all the bullshit - keeps the viewer focused on the person talking which I LOVE!

[@martontichi8611]

i hated the audio quality! can't hear a goddmamn thing!!

[@defenderndefendern1568]

It is also to be noticed that the dude knows what to say and what seems irrelevant. So he finds an end to his comment, his story whatever. A LOT OF PEOPLE DO NOT HAVE THIS ABILITY *getting a little angry* :*

[@SkylarChao89]

Your videos change lives, they really do. Thank you.

[@wassabo]

Sounds like a line from a song.

[@mattdavella]

Thanks so much for watching, Skylar. It really means a lot to read comments like there.

[@danieldauber8335]

Yep!! If you hadn't said it already, I would :)

[@BrutalTurtle]

They really don't.

[@cardozzzo]

@@mattdavella Yeah Matt! You really really really change lives! Can't write how glad I am. Thanks for share those reflections with the world, man. I'm a brazillian guy and your videos teach me more than english language... They teachs me resistance!

[@wahidkhaliq4776]

I’m from England and in my late 40’s and been isolated and lonely all my life and it’s getting worse . We need to speak up about this epidemic there’s no shame in talking only shame in keeping quiet

[@wahidkhaliq4776]

Ed thanks for replying and I have to agree as a bad diet certainly won’t help . Many of us tend to eat junk food which can’t help . I also hydration with clean filtered water is imperative to refresh us and aid clarity and brain function 🤔

[@ianwylie9064]

Dont be lonely. Say hello. Everone does sometimes feel lonely as well. Thats just a bit of it

[@MultiGoldkehlchen]

Wahid Khaliq salam maybe a bit of a personal question but what do we have to lose really: are you married? Feel free not to answer if this is out of your comfort zone! Wish you the best in shaa allah

[@wahidkhaliq4776]

Chels without sounding sarcastic .... there is an assumption by many that everyone is or should be heterosexual when not everyone is .

[@LeBronyaJames]

@@wahidkhaliq4776 Well, we all need connection. Obviously when it comes to love or sex, it'll be different for everyone. People will have sex with people they are sexually attracted to or maybe they won't have sex which is ok, having a connection is the main thing. Love is a different kind of connection that we build up with family and/or others. The love for your partner is different to the one you have with biological/fostered/in-law. I could be stating the obvious but just to make sure, was that the you made or you had another idea?

[@justice7788]

Shout out to all of my depressed loners

[@astoldbynickgerr]

Austin Starke we out here 👌

[@SonyCamry]

feels bro :( no job, no friends, fml :(

[@CarbsLVR]

Hello! :) :(

[@michaelhofby]

You don't have to be depressed man! That's the good thing about being aware :) All people are lonely from time to time! Loneliness is not solely a bad thing if you learn to accept it as part of life

[@Aanbaannaann]

@@SonyCamry things will turn around for sure

[@susuho675]

He perfectly describes me of last 10 years ... no friends, no one to turn to in a crisis situation, lonely, isolated and deeply depressed

[@williamfunes2740]

Your not alone. I'm right there with you. No for reals look behind you. 👻 JK...I'm in your closet.🤓

[@zoesolanki961]

My faith in Jesus has helped me through a lot of lonely times. Couldn't have got through life without Him

[@Lola-ip6yi]

i feel the same way yogi mom... same exact way!! 🤔

[@Dd-po2ij]

Me 2 GOD help us all.

[@houljourneyofficial5748]

@Lance Gotti God

[@ChubbyChecker182]

I was brought up as a kid in the 1970s / 80s in London. We had a fixed family home, I knew about half the people in my street, we even went on holidays with a few of the other families. My dad worked hard, doing double shifts in a factory but I got to see him quite a lot, and he was always around at the weekend. My mum stayed at home at looked after the family, and also looked out for the neighbours, and the elderly and needy in the local area. We were a working class family, but very happy, and sociable. Nowadays, couples in London are both working hard to pay for a box to live in, and may not know their neighbours at all. This is not having a go at the current generation, it is just that the economy has squeezed the life out of people.

[@patriciaking7892]

Chubbychecker182, life is sucked all the way out! Thanks for your comment 👍.

[@HighSpeedNoDrag]

Yes the Economy and the DISCONECT between people, families or whomever with Smart Phones for example.

[@sleep3417]

Recession time.

[@DUDE72341]

Ya $ capitalism....The mighty dollar$..For profit! Money may not make you happy, but it may give you the freedom to find it! Balance is the equation we have a problem with! Work Play!

[@CraftyZanTub]

@James Daniel Smith Becoming a parent is the worse thing you can do no matter what society you live in. Children are nothing but shit machines for half their childhood.

[@optimusmech5313]

This is true. I was oddly depressed living in the US. Moved back home to India after 12 years and instantly felt better. I think it has a lot to do with the number of humans around you and how many of them actually touch you....literally.....either on purpose or mistakenly. Nothing can replace human touch.

[@cebedojames]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/o2arq5doicqAd5I watch this video. it explains everything. I am also not from the US but I live in the US. The video made so much sense. The problem with the video is that it can be offensive to some people.

[@MeMe-lx2jw]

@@cebedojames Some people are offended by everything, so no surprise there haha

[@tims6777]

Indians in the US make good money but are all lonely. Whites are too but they are born out of loneliness lol

[@Collasseum]

@@cebedojames This comment took me down a long rabbit trail. Very interesting, I've always wanted to travel but now I'm definitely going!

[@Wewereneveryoung]

I think it also has to do with the quality of people. I'm born and raised in the US but I don't like the people here. The best job I've ever had was with foreigners. They just don't care about the stupid little things like we Americans do. And most of the time their attitudes are great.

[@ovymeme]

The worst part for me is when I have nice dreams about my authentic self, connecting with people and friends from the past and childhood, and then waking up and realized that now I'm really alone, and isolated, Everyone seems to avoid me now. . That pain is so hard.

[@MusicLover-ui9sm]

People can start forming a Connection meet up friend groups on Facebook pages Even during the pandemic you can sit apart to talk laugh tell jokes play music , have a picnic And reach out to other people that feel the same way

[@rranger1014]

wow just wow

[@bryan.p4072]

That’s literally the same feeling I’ve been having most of the time... my friends seems to avoid me, and I ask myself “why?” sometimes I already know the answer maybe is because they are too busy today, but sometimes I feel like I wasn’t meant to be part of them even though I knew most of my friends for a long time now I guess... I’ll be alone.. since they don’t want me..

[@ryanblack844]

Wow this really hits home for me!

[@johanna5688]

Yeah me too tomie. And I am twice your age. If you think it's bad now, wait till you get older. I always dream of the dear friends I had in my youth. Always. I think we all do. Once they married, moved, etc, I never heard from them. I'd lost touch with them long ago. I moved interstate and know that many ppl I knew back in my home town have died since. Trust me, it gets harder as you get older. You have youth on your side - I don't. My folks emigrated out here (Australia) so after they died, I found myself all on my own. Not one of their family or relatives followed them out here. This is quite common here. I'm married, but my husband is stuck abroad unable to come out here. Haven't seen him in ages. My life is a living HELL on my own. I just live for when we can be together again. I never imagined things would take such a dive like this. This Coronavirus has well & truly f****d our lives up, good and proper. I am so depressed that it leaves me speechless just thinking of my life now. When I think of the past, it all seems like it was just a dream, not real. Nothing is certain in life these days anymore.

[@nobodyandeverybody979]

I respect Matt so much for keeping the channel advertisement-free.

[@-r3d-056]

Thats how you know authenticity !

[@punjab1captain]

@@-r3d-056 why because someone is trying to make some dough?? Just because a channel wants to eat they not legit??

[@msgirly6827]

@@punjab1captain Thank you. Sometimes people are so unrealistic.

[@bambooexpress]

@@msgirly6827 how is it unrealistic? The interviewee literally says we are bombarded with advertisement messages in a way that rewires our fundamental thinking. You don't see the double standard of then showing advertisement in a video that tells you how it can become a problem? I liked the choices Matt made for creating this video for us. Thanks, man.

[@msgirly6827]

@@bambooexpress sooo he shouldnt be able to provide for himself then? Him putting ads on this video wouldnt make the message less authetic whatsoever. Some of us understand that we live in reality. Therefore we still need money to feed our relatives and ourselves.

[@paytonpryor]

It's crazy I used to have friends I connected with and who really knew me and I knew them. I don't have those connections anymore.

[@deren2001]

Shout out to you! I really believed it was me...

[@JadedJassy21]

I feel the same way. I had actual friends...and now I don't.

[@PsychoZ856]

@Michelle Staunton depends on you try to talk to people that you seem are good and try to form a friendship

[@PsychoZ856]

@@deren2001 well for me it another way around i found my friends after high school in collage i found 1 good friend and in the military i found 3 good friends that we hangout alot every once or even twice a week and im very glad that i finale made long lasting friends, considering i was alone after 6th grade until i finished high school.

[@TheBlackSheepDiaries]

I know that scene too well. Been a rough go and lot of self reflection here. Visit a goofy old fart trying to give some help to others in similar boats, boats against the current, We can beat this.

[@am5790]

this first thing people ask "what's your job?" then they gauge the situation

[@ananaanana5526]

...then they decide on f you "worth" their time.

[@dawna4185]

so true....when folk ask me "oh, what do you do" i start listing off all my favourite hobbies and activities and they proceed to look very perplexed.....our paying job does not define us although, i know, most of society would have us believe otherwise, eh?! lol

[@stuartdochertystudio]

I don't ask, I just check their LinkedIn.

[@sheilahollley7129]

this is so true. since I lost my job I am a nobody.

[@dawna4185]

@@sheilahollley7129 don't believe those lies and don't perpetuate them!! screw what they think!!

[@productnerd]

Loneliness is NOT a lack of number of relationships but a lack of DEPTH in relationships. 1000 surface relationships online will never replace 1 deep relationship with a real human.

[@Zzmora]

True but we probably also need a true community and a role in it, as we evolutionarily did.

[@elijahgibran7569]

A R that's a rough perspective. We all build our opinions through our own experiences, no one can say your wrong. My experiences tell me that good people do exist.

[@greenkitty82]

A R there are people out there who will be a genuine friend but if someone is getting pleasure out of someone else's suffering then that just shows that they are not only sadistic but suffering as well. Happy people don't like to see people suffer, only those who are suffering too do.

[@AK33M]

This is the truth. I have plenty of friends, but none with any depth. Just a bunch of cliches and stolen jokes.

[@juliemignard8448]

I'm sorry, maybe this is a stupid question... But, where do you find these real humans?

[@alaind4713]

I wanted this interview to last longer, it was so interesting. Then I realized that "we're not made to talk to screens" and I went out grab a coffee with a friend.

[@GoogleAccount-po1gl]

...be honest. How many times did you check your phone?

[@mattdavella]

:)

[@What_was_wrong_w_jst_our_names]

If last longer on patreon

[@laumay7364]

You have a "real world" friend? 😯

[@JoesFlow]

This was one of the most valuable 21 minutes I've ever spent on KZbin. Amazing interview, with such an important and meaningful message! Thanks Matt and Johann!

[@chrismorri2960]

Go watch Johann Hari's TED Talk(s) (I think there are two, can't remember for sure, there's definitely at least one though). He says a lot of the same material but it's one of the best/ most important TED Talks I've ever seen; if you liked this you'll absolutely like the other videos too

[@jonettheonly]

One reason I feel alone is that I feel I can't properly express my opinions anymore at the risk of upsetting the wrong person and potentially losing my job, or having slander thrown at me online. I'm not an internet celeb or anything but cancel culture has made me extremely paranoid about what I say and who I say it to, and this is on top of pre-existing social anxiety.

[@A.Martin]

yes that has made it worse, because you don't want to break the wall in the fear that you will get attacked for it.

[@niviamaeva]

Just be considerate to people and situations. You will be all right

[@ct4074]

You're absolutely right. In fact, that is the goal of cancel culture and leftist liberal culture: To keep us separated and divided, hating and being suspicious of your family, friends, and neighbors, and, especially, take away our freedom of expression. THIS is the foundation of a TOTALITARIAN FASCIST STATE. This is how the KGB, and the Gestapo kept everyone living in fear.

[@A.Martin]

@@ct4074 divide and conquer

[@NVRAMboi]

The original poster in this reply just needs to be themself. Finding an honest, genuine individual with no agenda in this environment is akin to stumbling over a diamond. I don't have to agree with everyone in my life, or even like them. But when I respect someone it might be the largest compliment I have to offer. And I respect people who are genuine. If you pay attention, you'll recognize them when you meet/see them.

[@laurenmarsland7599]

MATT I SWEAR YOU READ MY MIND! everytime im lost, you release a video related to my problem. keep on keeping on. one of my favourite youtubers

[@samaritan29]

sooo you're lonely???

[@purnya2]

@@samaritan29 we are

[@debonairrose]

Yes we are

[@jayaram.ramanarayanan]

I agree Lauren

[@mattdavella]

Thanks, Lauren. I really appreciate that.

[@jeep19]

This is why I speak to strangers children when they say "hi" (and wave) because they see me and they (unapologetically) want to be seen and acknowledge!

[@peacefullylove9566]

Haha.. same here.

[@missa2037]

I have an 18 month old daughter. Who loves to wave & say hi to everyone. You’d be amazed how many people see her but ignore her. Breaks my heart. I absolutely love when people acknowledge her & share kindness. 💜

[@patrickjenkins9167]

🗿 There's something UNEXPECTED & DISARMING about children who wave and/or say "Hi" when they're out & about with their parents. It says something about the parents. I too, try to always acknowledge their presence by returning the greeting. These kinds of social encounters tend to remind me that if kids (and DOGS) seem to like me, I must be doing SOMETHING right with my life❗ ✔.

[@Smoove_J]

Language is such a novel concept at that age. The idea that you can use words to communicate with people just seems so exciting at first. Then you slowly figure out that most people are total crap and the novelty wears off.

[@oneoffasmr7971]

ultimately useless, only meaningful close connections will fulfill you

[@danielthrasher]

You're doing important work, man. Keep it up.

[@mattdavella]

Thanks, Daniel.

[@JohnZaabi]

Surely he can get it up! or else, the blue pill

[@annehislop2449]

Years ago I said to a friend that I believed that the increase in technology would lead to a breakdown in communication. She looked at me as if I was stupid and just laughed. I was right though.

[@gavin9039]

you was right ann,you was right this whole time.since you were right on that answer i have another one for you.....what now? what are supposed to do? i hope you make it quick because iv had suicide on my mind for awhile now .i have been completly alone since i was 18 im 32 now and i dont think i can make it another year

[@forthcoming-d8694]

@Gavin pleez don’t ! You are a valuable human being for your family and for yourself ! Don’t let the toxic world of today affect you being a classy human being ! The fact that you are feeling this way makes you a distinguished type but not to the point of giving up life to escape the junk of society ! They will not care about your action nor will they remember you. Just be resilient and get something fun of a material thing to make it through this period ! I was same like you until I got a motorcycle and started loving it and enjoying it. You will definitely feel better and also be careless towards society and just think that you own the world with your intellect and different mindset. Screw everybody else

[@eddyvos2628]

​@@gavin9039I was, you WERE, he was. Use correct grammar please.

[@Iceni007]

"social media is a parody of the things we've lost". that is a very interesting argument.

[@oleanderpink4505]

When I reach out to people they aren’t interested.

[@stefan3876]

Very very true. I try to reach out and make friends but everyone is self absorbed

[@thenlcholas]

Yesssss.

[@migspeculates]

@Dewmercel ouch. are you talking about yourself just in case?

[@user-bj2lu9qt3o]

@Dewmercel looking for attention by hurting people. Nice, you're doing well.👍

[@alec3979]

@Dewmercel that's such a hurtful and stupid fucking thing to say. One thing I've realized in life is that everyone plays some sort of role in shaping the world no matter how small or big. Everything you have and take for granted, or everything that I have, can be traced to someone else's work. I'm talking about the food you eat, the toilet you shit in, the place you live, the job or school you go to, whatever your parents did for you or whatever other people did for your parents. You have so much that you wouldn't have without other people. Some people leave a negative and detrimental impact on the world and that's not good but those people are usually failed by circumstances and society. In general, people are worth your respect because whether you know it or not the good things you have in your life somehow came from them. Why would you disrespect that? Would you even be this disrespectful in person or is it just on the internet?

[@TheClosedBoxTTV]

Real interesting talk. I noticed the less I use social media, I feel less sad, now I just need to socialize more.

[@Rfpepe7295]

Emilio Gomez I deleted Facebook about a year ago and the affects were amazing and immediate. After a few days of FOMO, I felt like a gained my life back. I could not recommend dumping Facebook any higher

[@javiercervantes4752]

Same here, deleted the app and it was just gone! This is actually me trying to socialize right now on a KZbin comment, instantly motivated by the video... 🤔 LETS DO THIS!!😬👊🏼

[@k-mdn4905]

Why don’t we form a group to motivate and hold each other accountable?

[@quarantinelife.]

I uninstalled Facebook from my phone for 3 months and would only occasionally check it via browser on my computer because some of my family members live in another country. I noticed that my life got simpler, I no longer care how I look/what I do. I don't care to impress anymore lol

[@QuinshunCarswell]

This hit deep. This explains this sadness I feel sometimes because I thought it was me. No, friends or family.

[@wentinggao3064]

Sending you hugs! Hang in there! We keep each other company in our loneliness. Hope that alleviates your loneliness a little bit

[@leenawathe7162]

@@wentinggao3064 a big hug to u too🤗🤗

[@michellee2990]

You're not alone . My family has disowned me , so I have no contact with them. I'm partly to blame for this , but I tried to make things right on my end. Though it's hurtful , I also remind myself that I don't want to be where I'm unwanted and not respected. I've had different circumstances in my own life that's caused me to be alone . I don't mind this for much of the time , but I also like to interact with others . We all need each other. Sometimes the loneliness will get me and I'll feel an emotional pain. It's not a good feeling.

[@MusicLover-ui9sm]

We need to come together and be kind to each other Reaching out on here to others Ask who lives in your town And do they want to meet at a park to talk or lunch And concerts six or 8 feet apart during this pandemic and still enjoy each other’s company and maybe make a new friend

[@jaetok]

We live in 2019 but out minds body and souls are still rooted in ancestral routine. Y’all better join a hiking group or something.

[@13Grneyez]

RunningFromAdults I want to go hiking but my friends don’t want to go with me. hiking group... never thought of that thank you 😊 have a great day!

[@A-Wa]

I love hiking but live in a city where there is not a single mountain within 400km :/

[@xristinakazakou9453]

Hiking group in Greece...Hahahahah.No.We have so many mountains but not hiking groups :(

[@Nel_gb]

I'm kind Greece? I’m jealous. It’s beautiful there. The architecture. ❤️ I live in NYC.

[@xristinakazakou9453]

@@Nel_gb Yeah it is but it would be a lot better without crisis ;)

[@CalebVannoy]

I don't really ever comment on youtube. But this video is incredible. Thank you Matt for providing tremendous value to my life, from minimalism, to your great podcast episodes. As well as tremendous inspiration as a fellow film maker and content creator. I look forward to every new video!

[@mattdavella]

Thanks, talkercv. I really appreciate you leaving this comment.

[@Sequins_]

I learned about this man on the Joe Rogan podcast and he undoubtedly, along with Jordan Peterson and Sebastian Junger, saved my life. When he first appeared on the podcast I was absolutely at the lowest point of my life, I was not leaving bed, my mother had just died a horrific death, I moved away for college for the first time and, due to my mothers death, family was tending to life back home while I was alone. I didn’t know anyone, I didn’t have anyone… Not even my mom! I gained 30 lbs, slept all day, I hated the fact I was given life, I wanted this to end. For years I just wanted the to end. And then I heard this man’s interview. And then I heard Sebastian’s and Jordan’s. This man absolutely gave me my life back to me. I’m getting emotional recalling it just because I don’t know where I would’ve been without him agreeing to go on the Joe Rogan podcast. More than one time I had a rope around my neck ready to end it, and I didn’t, and this man’s work and dedication made sure that it will never be there again… This man give me my life back, and all these men agave me the tools to make life worth living. Thank you, sir. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

[@stevethomas74]

That's so amazing to read, my friend and I'm glad you didn't end it all. As someone who has Depression and battled it for 20 years, it always galvanizes me whenever I read comments like yours as well as see people like Johann Hari talk. Stay well and keep strong :-) \o/

[@stephaniet3857]

You’ve come a long way, hope you learned lessons. I will pray for you. I understand.

[@patriciaking7892]

Sequins, I'm over joyed they helped you. I'm not suicidal, but I'm trying hard to change a lot of chaos in my life. Your comment does giv me hope. Thanks for sharing!

[@Sequins_]

Patricia King I went from a fat and depressed college burnout, to a healthy, 25 y/o girl, college grad, in love with my man and owning a home with him. I have A LOT of shit to figure out, but hot damn I’m happy. For once, I’m happy. If I can do it, I know anyone can ☺️

[@patriciaking7892]

@@Sequins_ you go girl!!!!! 😉

[@llIlIlllII]

5:00 saying stuff like "NO ONE really knows me, I have NO ONE I could turn to in a crisis" might also point to higher self obsession. How many times have you heard people say they have no friends, and then it comes out that they do? But what they really mean is "I don't have any PERFECT friends."

[@NVRAMboi]

My oldest and best friend I met when he was just 4 years old. He's 58 now. We haven't lived in the same city for over 37 years but we still talk via phone at least 2-3 times per month. We're some 4.5 hours drive time away from one another so visits are now infrequent. However, each time we speak it's as if there's been no break in communication or distance. We long ago made it clear to one another how much we value our friendship. We're extremely lucky to have one another.

[@UltraK420]

I'm lonely because I always make an effort to contact and visit my friends and spend time with them while still having to work each week like them but they rarely do the same for me.

[@MrDramatizacija]

ha similar, but with my family:(

[@Mia-ki3jx]

me too

[@shanewreck2322]

I feel it's happening with Everybody !

[@thethinkingbeing9817]

@@shanewreck2322 It is. Most guys who are smart and interesting to talk to are discussing views about how the world will end. I've evaluated and analysed all of the options, and hearing them talking about it gets boring. Meanwhile, but bad things are happening in the world, and they don't want to talk about the *solutions* to these problems, making them shy and ultimately boring friends to be around. They just don't want to take any risks 😑 I want to go rock climbing in the mountains, and skiing. But none of my friends are fun enough do that, or they fear getting judged too much 🙄

[@BrettMcNary]

@@thethinkingbeing9817 I suggest going skiing by yourself then. When you arrive at the ski area, you'll find your tribe. Like minded individuals who ALL want to be there. I know, I've been a ski bum for 30 years. :)

[@mediocrebanters]

One solution from a TV show: "Sometimes you want to go where every body knows your name and they're always glad you came." -- _Cheers TV show_

[@keldraalpine7091]

I think about this phrase all the time.

[@BigBadJerryRogers]

Ha! The iron y there is a lot fewer people go to bars because they don't have to in order to meet people. You used to have to go because there were no apps or chat rooms. And of course in the bars you'll see plenty of people interacting on their phones instead of with the people around them.

[@mediocrebanters]

@@BigBadJerryRogers True. But there are many alternatives nowadays to the bar scene when it comes to meeting new people. What people are yearning for is genuine connection; that *sense of belonging.*

[@ryanp2743]

I consider myself an introvert, and it’s true that I often enjoy being alone and it’s sort of a way to recharge. However, I *crave* genuine human interaction. For humanity to survive, I think we need physical communication and reassurance from other human beings that we look up to and enjoy being around. I get so lonely because I get so anxious when trying to hang out with new people. I feel as though since nobody ever texts me first to hang out, that nobody cares enough to want to be around me. When these things do eventually happen I then have to figure out what to do with people and make sure they are having fun, even if I’m just enjoying being around them. I don’t know where I’m going with this, and I’m not sure what the point is, but when I do have genuine interactions with people I enjoy being with, it’s one of the best feelings ever and I *crave* that.

[@perccocaa7197]

At least i am so relieved to know that there is someone in this entire world that feels the same exact things that i do feel. If you want to, we could talk and exchange each other email. It would be a true pleasure for me to talk with you and know much more about your personality. Xoxo from italy (:

[@dcvhsd]

Hey Ryan, when you write about your loneliness and you feel nobody ever texts you first to hang out, I can totally relate to this. In my situation I seemingly have many friends, but still im feeling very lonely, and like you said I feel like a lot of the times the initiative has to come from me and when they already made plans i'm always invited to join them, but it's that feeling of them not thinking about me first to go plan something. It would be good for my self esteem if i didnt need to put so much effort in. When i'm in my loneliness downward spiral I start to see things as a confirmation of why my friends are meeting each other without inviting me or why im single (no one likes me, they think i'm boring, im not adding value to the company, etc.). These thoughts might be partly true or maybe not, but in any case theyre not helping me. So when im feeling lonely and sad the thing that helps is being around friends, so then i just text whoever I think is available and hope someone wants to meet up with me. You write about being an introvert. I consider myself definetely also more on the introvert side. But for me i's not about being less social or wanting to spend time by yourself. Introvert to me is just not being the person at the party with the biggest mouth or who starts a conversation with random strangers easily. I am social, but just a bit more quiet en shy and I prefer smaller groups of people to hang out with than bigger groups, but I still like to meet new people, make friends, etc. Anyway, not sure where i'm going with this either XD How are you feeling? How are you dealing with your loneliness at the moment? You got any advice? Take care, Charlotte

[@xatiter]

Preach, brother, preach!

[@POMOnkey1]

As a fellow introvert I can relate so much. Social situation with people I don’t know well enough can make me very drained. Deep connections on the other hand are revitalizing so to say, I get my needs fulfilled.

[@b4rs629]

Same. I'm 26 and I live on my own and use to being alone, but mentally.... I just can't do it anymore after being an outcast and never really fitting in any I've been. And I have pretty much accepted I'll never be happy with myself, my life, or with anyone else. I'm tired of being disappointed over and over again. Been trying to make changes and better myself, but I'm so tired of focusing on me and improving myself for a potential someone to come into my life. I just broke up with my girlfriend after a year and half of being together in sort of a long distance relationship. She use to live 30mins away when we were dating, but then moved 30mins further away for more job opportunities. Even when she only live 30mins away she would never visit me on the weekdays to have dinner with me or anything and always insisted she was too busy. Obviously things got worse when she moved further as we only saw each other probably 1 time a month sometimes 2 every other weekend. I tried my best to make things work and talk things out with her, but my efforts fell on deaf ears it felt like because she never put me first in the entirety of us dating. + Due to covid she basically stopped seeing me for a total of 2-3months before I finally just said fuck it and broke up with her. She claimed she loved me and always cried every time I would try to fix our relationship. Been trying to heal emotionally and mentally ever since May. Trying to put my self out there dating again, but it just feels to hopeless at this point. My single best friend of 13 years is just so wrapped up in his life doing things for his abusive girlfriend. I probably only see him like once a month whenever he busy doing whatever. I don't like to my coworkers about my personal life, but that's pretty much the only social interaction I get all week. My family never hits me up about anything. Only person I can actually kinda talk to on a daily basis is my mom, but it's just gets boring not having anyone my own age to talk to.

[@bangochupchup]

Today I had a 45 minute chat with a stranger on a dirt road in the hills of southern Utah. We exchanged names, shook hands and wished one another a good day. Set aside your phone and practice saying the words "hello" and "good morning".

[@carlyandt6748]

word warrior Yes God Bless!

[@alejandromoreno5056]

word warrior I gave a couple of Lyft rides today and felt a genuine connection with my riders. At work (sales), I am acting all day and all my interections are just that, an act, only a means to an end.

[@tbg6070]

You're one of those annoying people who think they're saving the world by annoyingly approaching stranger for a conversation in the name of going back to "the good old days". If someone is not making eye contact with you, moving in a way that says "I want to talk to you", etc. leave them the fuck alone. Funny how old heads always complain about this generation LaCk oF sOciAL sKiLLs yet they always miss the basic cues that people don't want to talk to them.

[@baruchben-david4196]

You don't have to set aside your phone. Just keep in mind who's boss. You can say hello anywhere, and most people will respond.

[@baruchben-david4196]

@@tbg6070 I'm one of those annoying people. I figure we need to connect more than we need our solitude. If someone doesn't want to talk to me, I assume they can say so. If they don't say so, it's on them. Yes, I'm old, but people are the same today as they were centuries ago. I talk. If you don't want to talk to me, say so.

[@b.chuchlucious5471]

Experiences are more important than things.

[@HighSpeedNoDrag]

Right On.

[@make-trix4036]

100%

[@laumay7364]

What if I'm experiencing my things?

[@getsugatenshoFTW]

It actually depends. What if those things grant you experiences that bring value and/or joy to your life? Let's say you buy a game to play and you stream for a living, you're successful and you enjoy what you do. That statement is a "one-size fits all" statement that is just a hasty generalization.

[@getsugatenshoFTW]

@NPC Trailer Switch, Celebrity NPC in that case, a trip

[@Floods01]

"We have developed speed, but we have shut ourselves in. Machinery that gives us abundance has left us in want. Our knowledge has made us cynnical. Our cleverness, hard and unkind. We think too much, and feel too little. More than machinery, we need humanity. More that cleverness, we need kindness and gentleness. Without these qualities life will be violent, and all will be lost." Chaplin got it right a long time ago

[@manictiger]

I think we need a culling. We're not designed to give a shit about 7.6 billion look-a-likes. We're designed to care about roughly 150 at most. Plus, we're really fucking this planet up. A culling is inevitable. Don't know what form it will take, but it'll cut the population down to size.

[@noobjitsu1743]

@@Ii_Argus_iI Oh jeez

[@Sensorium19]

Replies to this comment got weird. I just wanted to say I love that quote by Chaplin.

[@sheilahollley7129]

Loneliness is a slow, silent killer and will break you down. We all need to be touched and matter to someone. I wish I had an answer.

[@johnconnor2074]

Advertising was my career and guess what...I ended up depressed, lonely and alcoholic to boot. It finally conflicted with my authentic self. Today I've shelved promoting consumerism, I have what I need, I reject materialism...the TV is OFF and the booze is OUT. I invest in friendship, community, helping others freely and my spirituality. I have much more positive energy and seem to attract the same. I had to change my thinking and it was so well worth it.

[@michelleolak7898]

John Connor you sound like a lovely person. Your bio picture is scary tho.

[@johnconnor2074]

@@michelleolak7898 Just a Terminator movie fan...on my spiritual days off lol.joke.

[@Desimere]

@@johnconnor2074 haha

[@nugley]

A major cause of loneliness is our inability to enjoy our own company. Alone and lonely are not the same thing.

[@billhusky]

i agree find your center and happiness within yourself not on others or materials. We give out of love not need the tools are for us to use, seems like that what has been lost

[@mike45blue]

Exactly, what I do is take walks at parks listening to Lo-Fi, gazing at nature and thinking about life, really relaxful and stressless. Takes away any anxiety or even depression from my life. I recommend at least going to a park once a week, preferably one with a lot of nature going on. Haven't really felt lonely in a long time because of that, even though I'm alone.

[@CC-lq3ie]

nugley so true! i go to the movies alone and people think that is weird 😕

[@jeffbridges5312]

@@mike45blue Only problem for a lot of men with going to the park alone walking around is you're running a high risk of being falsely accused of sexual assault or rape by women because of the psychotic #metoofalseaccusationepidemic - if you're unattractive they'll call 911 because women want all unattractive men to be ejected from their sight, if you're attractive and women do like you mostly fat, ugly, trashy (which describes most women today) women are going to be hitting on you, the very ones you don't want anything to do with and when you reject them then they'll falsely accuse of rape out of revenge. It's a lose/lose situation for men until there are radical changes to our legal system and stiff punishment for women making false accusations

[@mike45blue]

@@jeffbridges5312 Good thing I go to a park full of old people and families, you'll get the occasional hello wave while walking but nobody talks to you. Hell, you might run into some house wives thinking they're still young but other than that everyone minds they're own business.

[@xanderusa1]

I don't think the loneliness is the problem. The real problem is the *people* that make *you feel* lonely. And that's because people are more individualistic and narcissistic than ever; yet they feel miserable and empty inside trapped in a vicious circle.

[@chrisanthony61]

Individualism is just an idea. We are not individuals.

[@sarasaric8053]

So true

[@Roald94]

but at the end its the main topic, say its because of people or yourself, it's still loneliness the common factor there

[@Roald94]

@ thats sad to read men, i wish u lived in a better situation. I would bet that cancer came with all that depression u had with your family, its hard to believe your family wont care about you having cancer

[@genie674]

Definitely more narcissists now.

[@richardeidemiller6739]

This man hit the nail on the head. It's what I've said and felt for years( also was on antidepressants for over 20 years) No one to turn to causes great depression and anxiety. Like being on a flotation device in the middle of an ocean. No one to reach out to is a horrible, frightening, painful existence.

[@monjiaitaly]

We judge each other to harshly. We lose patience to quickly. We under value each other. To quick to dismiss another human being with faults without looking at our own.

[@bibbybankz2427]

monjiaitaly 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@lelaarneson3147]

This is the BEST video I've seen in ages and believe me I watch a lot of them. I have thought often of how I used to have friends and now I have none. I have many acquaintances but nobody close to me. My husband is pretty close but not now or ever probably will be as close as I wish. I've attributed this loneliness in my life to many things but this video and all the comments made me feel better only in the sense that I'm not alone in this. I have thought about forming an organization that deals with this on a human to human - face to face (not face-book) level. There needs to be a humanity RESET!

[@leenawathe7162]

Yes u are right

[@leenawathe7162]

But nobody respect a person who is not doing showoff on instagram.... I mean only dual personality people on instagram get more respect in there real life I had seen this...

[@rondarawson6236]

I think that's brilliant....so do it. .😁

[@inthevault9603]

We’re not alone in the fact that we’re alone. How utterly sad.

[@IthliniEllyanSenah]

I think Johann is very right and I want to add something more. Society and social media doesn't only disconnected us from other people. They disconnected us from OURSELVES.

[@FoougieTV]

💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@firesign4297]

👏👏👏

[@evapatrikova4134]

I think its cause we are disconnected from God

[@pulsedemon4508]

@@evapatrikova4134 jesus is from the holy hentai bible i read minutes ago

[@Nokss87]

Video games, posting pictures, sending texts, video calls, parents chasing us out of the home because we're 'adults', friends disassociating with high school friends because we're doing better than them, people want to speak more than to listen, people are competing instead of complementing each other, status is more respected than reputation of your personality. We just lack love, physical touch, belonging to a tribe, and feeling safe. ❤️

[@johanna5688]

Ppl are too superficial - phoney! They put on an act showing they are happy while it's not so.

[@martydom9820]

*Watches Matt D'Avella's new video* *Instantly feels like a better person*

[@mattdavella]

*Reads Martin's comment* *Instantly feels better*

[@patriciaking7892]

Martin, I do too!

[@jackjohnson9449]

The gap between our expectations of life and our daily reality are so great we become stressed and depressed.

[@Sameoldfitup]

“Has it ever struck you that life is all memory, except for the one present moment that goes by you so quick you hardly catch it going?”― Tennessee Williams..

[@johanna5688]

As that poem goes, life is a dream within a dream. When I look back onto the days of my youth, I always feel I am reliving old dreams. I never thought I would end up sad and alone. I cry by myself. Yes life goes by in a flash. Our youth, missed opportunities, lost much loved ppl in my life, made mistakes, bad choices, etc. I know much is gone - lost. There's no going back to the old days of happiness, but I firmly believe all will return one day when I will be reunited with the ppl and friends I so badly miss, so long since I saw them last, once my time here on Earth is up. When we believe and trust in the Lord, we shall know love and joy once again, and then eternally. This life is brief but painful.

[@GrzegorzPalian]

Excerpts for my reference: "What consumer objects do you think you have to have? How do you think your life will be different when you've got them?" "What are moments you actually felt your life was meaningfull, satisfying? How could you build more of that into your life, and less of seeking the junk value stuff."

[@GrzegorzPalian]

@Xx BigBoss xX Well I believe that everything, things, relations, but also traditions and beliefs has value, as long as YOU think it does. For example, I'm an atheist but I think that religion has value for those that believe in it, it can indeed make their lives more meaningful. It all depends on your perception of the world. If human relations don't have a high value for you, that's ok. I'm sure that there is something else that you value in life. Besides, materialistic possessions CAN make your life better in a measurable way, there are some things which I find very valuable and usefull, and I know that I would be less happy without them.

[@winterhell2002]

I stopped eating sugar. Depression and anxiety plummeted

[@winterhell2002]

Yes. I'm on a ketogenic diet(low carb, only from veggies) and its great. Since you r blood sugar and insulin levels dont Yo-Yo all the time, there are no mood swings or sudden lack of energy.

[@winterhell2002]

As far as dressings go, just don't have sugar in them. Most mustards for example and hot sauces are basically a liquid candy but there are ones without sugar. Also I make mayonnaise myself. Fruit is alright from time to time, still much better than regular candy. Not a big fan of bananas though.

[@VinhLe-bi4zh]

What a useful comment, I'm gonna give it a shot. Thanks

[@joelyazell7380]

Diet is the key. Food controls hormones that direct feelings. Toxins make you edgy and incapable.

[@paulaslife3781]

winterhell plant based diet changes all that. I got rid of joint problems etc etc the list is endless ☝️

[@osse1n]

*LONELINESS is a state of mind, which arises when we don't create value for others.* We think that we deserve to be loved and appreciated just for the sake of it. But the truth is, human species have evolved due to communication and symbiotic relationship with each other. Growing together. Help me - help you. It becomes even harder, when technological advancements have devalued and extracted human communication in contemporary way of living. Creating value for others will open up doors for new interpersonal relationships.

[@spicysalami4301]

I wish everyone could see this comment. Every single person on this planet. Thank you for this.

[@gr8ride411]

When my best friend recently passed away I told my son that my universe got a lot smaller. He didn't get what I was saying to him. I was asking for some help. I'm a hands-on person in my late 60's, he's in his early 30's and prefers social media. 🙏🏾

[@owen_is_not_here]

Isn’t it weird how we scroll through the comments as we’re watching the video?🤔

[@WilliamCooper2005]

Yeah, just mindlessly scrolling and reading but still trying to watch the video!

[@coreyw5981]

We're so lonely maybe we are just desperate to look for a "community" and find people with similar thoughts

[@owen_is_not_here]

Corey Walvatne or maybe we just need to be so constantly entertained that even sitting still and watching a video doesn’t satisfy us...we have to constantly be scrolling...🤔

[@coreyw5981]

@@owen_is_not_here we all suffer from ADD nowadays with everything being instantly available to us

[@Iquey]

Nah bro I actually watched the video bc I like Matt's content. However I do do this on KZbinrs I don't know.😂 Just to see if they are legit or not.

[@emeraldwind4897]

Wanna know what's weird?, My parents are more addicted and interested in FB and social media than I am....

[@AK33M]

What are you? 13?

[@tracysevolution]

same thing and I am 30

[@yellowblanka6058]

@@tracysevolution Ditto, mid 30's and same thing. I have a Facebook account but barely use it, but my Grandmother/parents etc. are addicted. I don't need to read political arguments or the minutia of the lives of classmates from highschool. I think I'm more annoyed by how polarized everyone seems on Facebook, I consider myself a moderate, and it seems like you can't have a civil conversation on certain topics.

[@NinjaChoke]

Yeah, same here. I quit social media a while ago, and don't regret it, but my mom and dad (they are 50-55) are more addicted to it, and tend to overreact at news and someone's posts. I tried to convince them to quit it many times, bun didn't suceed yet

[@davesomerton5232]

When you think about it, it's not that weird - adults often become more and more socially isolated as they grow older, get married and get busy lives that don't leave time to see their friends any more - (my parents can currently count friends that they see more than once a month on one hand and if they don't go out of the house, they won't speak to another soul for days). This general isolation, alongside brains that were, during their youth, less desensitized to the constant dopamine hit provided by things like smart phones, video games and the internet, would lead to unimaginable amounts of lonely adults ready to be hooked up to social media's dopamine drip and artificial connections. There's loads more factors that can contribute but that's a start.

[@robar711]

I totally agree that people need genuine human interaction, and I realize that is what is lacking in my life. My question here is how do you interact and find this kind of connection with others? People are so closed off, busy or preoccupied. It's seems almost impossible to connect, and I find this really disappointing and frustrating.

[@keldraalpine7091]

I agree; I once was an extrovert--and now I can't connect.

[@d0wnstars]

Learn base guitar or drums, the guitar players will fight for you. I realize how lonely i would have been without music. When i go play guitar by the lake there are always people who stop walking and take some time to watch me or sometimes even talk. It give me the feeling i exist when we make eye contact, maybe we never meet again but there was a connection and appreciation.. Maybe sport is better for you, i cant stand competition spirit.

[@michaelhofby]

Truth is, everybody are YEARNING for true and real connections! But they are afraid, disconnected and as you say they "occupy" themselves with non-sense (most of the time). But if you dare to open up and you show that REAL connection is still a thing, people will respond to you! Don't be afraid to connect if you feel there is a connection to begin with - because life is short and fear of what that person MIGHT be like is all your own perspective - you actually don't know for sure if they are really "busy", "preoccupied" or anything else.. Most people put on their "blinders" and run!

[@michaelhofby]

For example i have begun forcing myself out of my comfort zone by daring to ask ladies that suggests interest in me somehow. Before i would just smile and move on - but i really wanted to approach her, because hey, you never know. Maybe it is the start of something good for you. So these days i have started not to think so much about what they might think if i approach, or if i overanalyzed the signals etc. I just switch off my thoughts and i approach - of course i only approach if i really can see that there is an interest from her, like alot of eye contact or smiles etc. It´s sooooo easy to just pass up so many opportunities for engaging new things - whether that is a relationship of some sort, or whatever it is. And you will really only lose if you dont act upon it, because you will have regrets! Life gives you opportunity for a reason so you should act on it! Most people are afraid of doing this because of aaaaaaaaall kinds of reasons that they make up in their own heads. That´s the first step to become happier and generally just be more in tune with life, thats constantly going on around you.. IF you just open up in that area and capitalize on the opportunities, amazing things will start to happen in your life - i promise.

[@sallymilow6646]

@@keldraalpine7091 me, too -- but it's taken Covid to do this.

[@BigRobChicagoPL]

New semester in college and most people are too busy on the smart phones texting to want to network and make new friends. I found myself being the only person in the class putting up an effort to converse while others were glued to their phones. Boy was I happy to see my last semester friend after class...

[@SeekAfterGod]

i dont use social media. i took my friend out to eat and i was the only person in the restaurant that wasnt on the phone. it makes me sad. i am lonely

[@joecalbery1919]

I owned a cell phone for about a year and a half. I gave it up, realising it was just a distraction to life. Everywhere I go, if in a room of 20 people, 3 people will not be on a phone. You are right, it's saddening. The opioid epidemic is a mere joke compared to the loss of human consciousness due to "devices". I know I am on a device right now, sorry about the hypocrisy. God bless

[@kaylasheppard7746]

That was my biggest pet peeve with my one friend, I'd go out to eat with her and she was on her phone the whole time. I stopped hanging out with her as much, luckily found friends who aren't on their phones and we enjoy conversation and actually connecting

[@2driverpls652]

I have a golf buddy who was on his phone the entire round. Needless to say we do not golf together any more. I am out there to escape the world.

[@Mischabelle87]

I'm with u on that. When I go to a restaurant to eat with someone in rather pay attention to the it conversation> staring at a screen like a zombie. No1 wants to engage. Ppl have the attention span of an ant. Its sad.

[@Mischabelle87]

@Col83 No1 said that they are better. We just wish ppl would interact more.

[@krisholt8390]

Sounds a lot like a modern version of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, the lack of natural interaction and connection is chopping off the top half of his pyramid. Great video, need to find the full interview for more.

[@junuhunuproductions]

Funny how Facebook was built for the mission of "Connecting everyone around the World", yet that just made people insecure and not-willing to make real friends in real life, because it just became too easy & pleasing to make internet-friends. The kind of 'hollow' relationship that is discussed in the video.

[@annikesta8796]

I was trapped in that endless spiral myself. In school, I was neither with the popular nor with the unpopular kids - always smooth sailing but never standing out. Social media and especially those damn likes on instagram got me hooked, because I felt as if everything was suddenly about me - the validation I felt was insane, especially at the crucial stage between 16 and 20. I posted so much, people started to get annoyed by me constantly popping up on their feeds. Ironically, I also felt emptier and emptier with each decreased amount of likes on my photos. Decided it couldn't go on like this and went on a solo camping trip without any internet - changed my life. Deleted myself off of social media and am now taking a solo vacation at least 1x a year to be completely alone with my thoughts and regain focus on the important decisions I have to face that year. Changed my life immensely and was honestly the best decision I could have made to save myself before my depression could really take hold.

[@thiago_soubra]

I lived exactly the same as you. However, now 25 years old, I'm lost again. It seems that leaving social networks was a mistake because I am much more isolated than before when I had them. With them at least I had something, without them there was absolutely nothing left. It seems my problem wasn't having social media, it was something much bigger.... But what now, what to do? I've been trying psychotherapy but I don't see results... How are you today? I'm curious.

[@xxfiza.]

"Why are so many of us finding it trouble to get through the day?" Well... student loan debt...medical bills...lack of empathy from peers or loved ones...phones isolating us... Note: this is a descriptive statement, not a judge-mental one. Just outlining people's documented struggles...

[@aminjl_art]

Fiza Javid loan dept medical insurance...all these physical stuffs are there in the world we cant change...what is harming us is people leaving each other , not being kind to each other, not caring ...everyone is just becoming dangerous because they are scared of each other...

[@SUN-qw7oo]

@@aminjl_art Nope. It's just a human disconnect created by technology.

[@aminjl_art]

SUN 0704 humans should use technology to connect to people and reach their soul goals and desires, but they started building up on the materials(technology itself) , that the issue

[@DrummerJacob]

You borrowed someone else's money to elevate your skill set and become more educated so you could have a better career, and now you're using that education to complain about how paying it back makes you have a hard time? That's beyond selfish. I try to isolate myself from people with your idiotic thought process, so I can understand why others would as well.

[@xxfiza.]

DrummerJacob look at you judging a complete stranger that you don't understand the struggle of. My family is well below the poverty line, and I take care of my parents in their old age. Your lack of seeking understanding and quick judgement/lack of empathy is the pure idiocy here. I will succeed and pay off my loans, but it's a free country. I can complain about it all I want, and I'm allowed to call you a total asshole for judging me for it.

[@justinreyes5042]

I don't use ANY media besides KZbin not even email I work and have acquaintances yet it's so hard to make valuable relationships... I think the quality of heart in people is too low

[@francistylercald9587]

Justin Reyes same

[@purplezen4261]

Justin ! I agree - men are not even willing to put in the work to date me- they would rather have phone sex! This is disturbing . nothing is Real anymore :(

[@PrincessMeowicham]

@@purplezen4261 I feel that girl, my ex-fiance would rather watch porn and go on fb than be with me, physically touching or talking. It took me months and months of trying, to realize the extent of his addiction. It really messed me up, but it is getting worlds better. Realizing that this is not normal or healthy has changed my perspective a lot. Anything decent in life takes effort, screw people like this who can"t make an honest effort for you! xx Hugs xx

[@sauravjyotimedhi]

It's though to find people who understand. Most are blissfully unaware.

[@BlackTakGolD]

@@purplezen4261 maybe you're ugly ?, i'm not being mean, i'm just proposing reasons as to why they don't want to meet you, this seems more plausible to me than implying that men are not willing to put effort in dating anymore suddenly, which you kind of imply

[@kevtony1490]

This is one part of my life Im working on. Im 19 and been lonely/depressed my whole life. I never had any real friends at all. Could be me I don't know. I feel that most people I meet just don't care about close relationships. Im not even close to my own family. No body cares about me no matter how much do. I just feel so lost.🙏🏽

[@BigBadJerryRogers]

Tell me this though, do you honestly make any efforts with others? Do you take the time to tell at least one person something positive every day? "I like that shirt," "you are looking well lately," etc.? I do this in the gym every day. It makes me happy to encourage others and try to lift people up with just something that requires so little. If nothing else, just work on self-improvement mentally or physically, that's what I focus on, so I'm in the gym every day and trying to become more educated.

[@John-mu2js]

I know how you feel. If you know Jesus this is a great opportunity to become closer to Him. He's really been a great comfort to me. He'll do the same thing for you too.

[@AR-tj9qr]

im in the same situation rn, 19 as well. im trying to improve but no one wants me. hope it got better for u anthony

[@trishaspencer9956]

We’re all connected, meditate and love yourself

[@rondarawson6236]

Anthony....my son is in his mid twenties...he was a shy introvert as a child and still is...he rarely goes out and has been alone forever....he had a few girlfriends that broke his heart in his younger days and has been alone now over 11 years....he has come to the place were....what will be will be ....acceptance is were its at....the world is a lonely place...your born alone you die alone....so how you live your life is important....if you do not have purpose your life will be empty....placing faith in your life creates a purpose for living...having faith in something bigger then you gives you perspective....having perspective gives you clarity....and clarity gives you peace....peace gives you comfort and draws you closer to God....God draws you closer to people who are faithful and patient....and insightful....you can find a new family and belong in a loving enviroment with people who accept you....all you have to do is find the right religion for you....you won't be lonely ever again, and you will have friends and you never know...you just might meet a girl who knows how to be faithful...😁 Good luck. .be well

[@Maya_Ruinz]

Great interview, it’s one of the reasons I never used social media and can’t stand it, it’s hollow, talking to people through screens is completely deafening. People think those who don’t use social media are crazy but the reality is is that I don’t have these problems with stress and loneliness.

[@later116]

“as you can tell from my chin” me too Johann, me too

[@DepressionTalks1]

Thank you for using your platform to talk openly about mental health. Many people can relate to this

[@SomethingToThinkAbout2002]

Hey! I remember your channel mate! :)

[@DepressionTalks1]

@@SomethingToThinkAbout2002 Hey bud!

[@mase002]

looks like old people were right. Technology did mess up the children.

[@chriscross2268]

Not that I condone his actions or agree with all of his beliefs...but the Unabomber was saying all of this back in the 80s and 90s. It's interesting that even ~40 years ago Ted Kaczynski was able to see how technology was isolating people from each other. An interview with Ted Kaczynski would have gone almost exactly the same way, except with some revolutionary rhetoric thrown in. A George Carlin interview would have been pretty similar too. This problem started growing long before Facebook and instagram. ... Please give me a thumbs up to know someone read what I said. Or a thumbs down to create a new internet troll. Either way, just acknowledge that I said something.

[@milwaukeemoynahan805]

but at least we're not all speaking german

[@trubkadefekt3645]

I think every older generation complains about the younger how messed up they are ... because the younger generations are different doesnt mean they are worse

[@rameshmurugaiyah5824]

@@trubkadefekt3645 This is true to a certain extend. We complain about things we find hard to understand, things that are different. But there is some truth in them complaining about the new generation being messed up. You can't deny that. Look around you and see for yourself how ignorant people are becoming. It's crazy to think how what we feel is advancement in society is actually a whole step back at the same time.

[@stoiccrane4259]

@@chriscross2268 What does the acknowledgement of random people over the net really meant to you? We're all in the same sinking ship of humanity as you are. None anymore important than the either in reality.

[@nghtrydrmusic]

"The most effective strategies for dealing with depression and anxiety are the ones that deal with why we're in such distress in the first place"

[@Christina_320]

People seem to not strike up as many conversations anymore it seems like. Everyone is just on their phones 24/7. Different generation as far as communication. I am off social media and I feel like an isolated alien. Very sad and unhealthy IMO. ☹️🤷🏻‍♀️

[@TheRubinre]

I feel ya!! I did have fun posting silly things, but I've been off everything for 3 years. Others try & make me feel like an alien, but I often felt bad seeing fake shit, political aggression, and drama. I didn't care to be a voyeur of that media anymore. I think I was born feeling lonely. Yet I have wonderful people in my life. 🤔

[@mariekatherine5238]

Christina Mancuso I hear you! I prefer face to face relationships, but have discovered most people are content with shallow, easy come, easy go, nothing lost lost style relationships.

[@altimusxaktarak8786]

@Roger Gerritsen You are not alone. Many young men are in this predicament. I feel like loneliness might just be worse for young men because of things like this.

[@danzena4059]

I hardly go on Social media and when I'm off, I NEVER miss it. I go on from time-to-time but I don't spend no more than 5 minutes on it. Well, Instagram that is. FB I do have some groups I'm apart of so I'm a little more involved but I'm in and out. The most unhealthy thing is to be on social media and feel like shit about your life.

[@Christina_320]

Roger Gerritsen That’s too bad sorry to hear that. I am actually not a feminist :)

[@HumansOfVR]

*We are a culture that relies on technology over community, a society in which spoken and written words are cheap, easy to come by,* *and excessive. Our culture says anything goes. We are slow to listen, quick to speak, and quick to become angry* *If you have time, stop by my channel I do similar content with animations*

[@hankbellows]

Life Progress - Health, Wealth, & Happiness Channel what should we do about it?

[@certifiedfinest5065]

Hank Bellows just read his comment and carry on

[@nikolaos1991]

Life Progress - Health, Wealth, & Happiness Channel It’s not about the technology, it’s about competence in the system

[@rinowx5]

Completely agree.

[@ryanblack844]

This makes perfect sense to me. I have a small family, live alone, and most of my friends have either moved away or passed away. Also I'm gay so I'm in a minority group that has been shunned by society over the years. I've been on antidepressants for a long time now. I'm not really sure how to improve things and not be so lonely. I hope to figure it out soon.

[@gigigiselle4366]

I'm an atheist in a society which 90% of it are muslims. So i can't really make friends or marry someone.. I'm too poor to immigrate too so I'm just stuck here. I feel you bro. And if u happen to reply to me may be we can exchange contact nd become friends..

[@jamie49868]

The problem is tech. You used to have to leave the house to do or get anything. That would mean actual interaction with living beings. A simple short conversation with the bank teller, cashier, or waiter, along with eye contact and a handshake does wonders. Now, even if you are out in the world, everybody is staring at their phones and you fail to exist to them. You become so invisible that they will actually walk right into you without noticing you. That will make a lonely person feel lonelier.

[@mohammadasad5637]

ya, i do feel them most of the times. I'm just fed up with this life.

[@jamie49868]

@@mohammadasad5637 Welcome to the world. Life is mostly disappointment and despair with only a few moments of bliss thrown in. Even things that bring excitement only offer a brief respite from our daily doldrums, before they too become tiresome. With the further erosion of human interaction it will only worsen. At least we have music!

[@baishakh739]

Absolutely

[@DaP84]

Nah, he's right in this vid! The tech is just a reaction, a substituted need and supply! It's how this society is built that's the real problem.

[@mikochild2]

I guess, but I think it is strange for strangers to be extra chatty...and I had life before mobile phones and internet existed. If people are paying more attention to their phone than you, they don’t actually want to pay attention to you. If the phone is gone, they aren’t interested in you, they just have nothing else better to do at the moment.

[@mimilion6072]

An hour of human contact is worth a million of hours on social media, Skype etc....

[@babycakes8434]

@Amadour Lopez My brother lives there and he is single😧Where do you live now?

[@babycakes8434]

Sometimes that one hour with other human will suck up all your energy and all your happiness😂Sometimes some people are very annoying to you, and you can't or you don't know how to fix it😏😔😰

[@mimilion6072]

@@babycakes8434 well, when Every single person in your family has died, Except me ! I have even lost my 2 Best Friends.... When THIS happens, the things that used to bother you sure don't seem important then !,, Hope you Never have to suffer what I am . Bless you

[@fy9526]

Depends on the human, these days people are always complaining about something!

[@fy9526]

That was in reference to the first comment

[@winstonthomas4576]

Technology seperated man from nature. Next, technology is separating man from himself. In the future technology will separate people from life. That’s happening g in Japan now, actually.

[@petparadise6955]

wow, well said

[@Wewereneveryoung]

Please don't tell me you're talking about hikikomori

[@wyw201]

@@Wewereneveryoung Indeed he is talking about mental health issues in Japan. Hikikomori is a symptom, not the cause.

[@sofialeroy6168]

Explain please how is it separating people from life in Japan.

[@winstonthomas4576]

@@sofialeroy6168 I am talking about Hikikimori to some extent. People use tech as a way to project fake lives. Some other people use tech to look at other people’s lives, then feel bad that they don’t have that life like the other person. You know that social media breeds anxiety and other mental issues in people who feel pressured. Then, nature soothes human nerves and tense minds. Some people don’t know how to unplug anymore. Tech is throwing off their natural sleeping patterns. Sleep is key for good mental health. Looking at the clouds and stars is very therapeutic. Lots of tech dependent people stop doing that. Socializing with real people is amazing for immune system, emotional health, and so on. However, we think we are socializing when send texts and messages and likes. That’s all fake. Nature can help a lot of the people in Japan. I can go on forever.

[@Lukas-kh5gu]

Keeping it ad-free...wow! Matt, you wouldn‘t imagine how much I appreciate that and respect I habe for that. I recently unsubbed from a lot of big youtubers who thought they could just push in 5+ ads on a 15min video.

[@stephenthomas3493]

Lukas T add blocker lol

[@pookie4660]

Try and use Bitchute. Some quality YT producers have switched.

[@ulrikfrikke-schmidt3327]

there's a google chrome and firefox free extension called "ublock origin" that you can get for free from the "add-ons" settings in the menu in the upper right. problem solved lel

[@pookie4660]

Why would I want to give money to a anti-speech, hence anti-American company like YT?@Olivia Dove

[@pookie4660]

No doubt. But you can't get to the truth if you limit speech! @Olivia Dove

[@oohbootiga7649]

This guy really has done his research. These are all the things I have also come to learn in my own research as well. We lost our tribe and we need that now more than ever.

[@alexsuperpower1]

Thanks Matt for sharing your insight. From someone who is suffering from depression and loneliness this hits hard.

[@chuy8356]

Texting, video chatting, pictures and social media will never be the same as touching, seeing, and talking to someone in person.

[@Xarkom89]

Exactly, all of those were supposed to compliment communication, never to replace it. Sadly more have opted for the digital version due to convenance.

[@robertmale9628]

Yes that it . We need to start talk to people again in person than through a machine. Robert

[@leelunk8235]

CHUY+ ALL THE LATTER STUFF WAS WHEN ...BACK IN 1990...TIMES HAVE CHANGED

[@kitanassidenigga3301]

Feels the same to me

[@Pachitaro]

it seems you do not know da wae of vr chat

[@dodger3294]

I really like that I can watch your videos in 360p but they still look high definition. AU internet appreciates you.

[@Ken19700]

I've already surrendered to the fact that I'm going to die early and alone.

[@eezee5744]

They say loneliness can kill you. But if one is lonely, I don't think one necessarily wants a long life, so I would think it's good thing loneliness kills.

[@MusicLover-ti6zo]

Make some friends. Friendships have saved my life.

[@renameagain5808]

I have accepted my lonelyness, and - this might sound stupid- but I actually feel less lonely now lol

[@renameagain5808]

I still have no friends tho

[@Ken19700]

@@renameagain5808 Me either

[@MartyD]

Anyone ever feel lonely in a crowded comment section?

[@narfit1966]

lol best comment yet, smile at the world and it smiles back

[@Spider-Too-Too]

We COPE Together

[@jack-fc8oq]

Mee tooo....

[@kevtb874]

I think a big factor driving this sense of isolation and depression many people feel in the modern world is due to now connected we are, or OVERconnected. Hard to wind down when we are bombarded with so much news and entertainment and social media 24/7. Hard to live in the moment when you can jump online at any time and witness 20, 50 or 100+ 'friends' living their moment too. Hard to figure out who you are and your place in the world when there are literally thousands and thousands of influences around us. In the past you had your family, extended family, school/work colleagues and some form of local community. Now? We have that if we are lucky but more often we that has been replaced by celebrity and people in the media we look up to. Whether they be actors, musicians, scientists, or whatever. Hard to see yourself in a positive light when you can see thousands and thousands of people who are prettier, more talented, more successful, richer, funnier etc etc. Hard to know where you fit in or which path to take. So many people grow up and discover a talent or hobby passed on from their parents. But what happens if they are 200 things being thrown in your face at once? Limitless possibilites? How do you focus on one and not freeze up with fear? Sorry for the rant.

[@heidi_d]

Kevtb87 That’s interesting, I haven’t heard that before, but that rings quite true for me. Thank you!

[@HealthInspectorz]

I understand. Social media entertains us but also leaves us feeling insecure. Oh, he or she has a hot bf/gf while you feel miserable. Oh, he has a nice car, might as well get one. I can go on many things and rant but the whole display or plethora of things that social media shows does more harm than good. I'm a person who values interaction more than materialism.