Matthew Hussey is the Best INFJ

Matthew Hussey is the INFJ of all INFJs. He's the same type as Darren Brown. He does the same kind of thing as Darren Brown--he's an expert on people. In this video he gives some advice on using the perspective of what other people are going to through to help you develop gratitude and greater happiness.
We'll have more on Matthew Hussey in another video. Great guy.
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[@waitstill7091]

The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are. Carl Gustav Jung

[@jvc8947]

Perspective yes. Just by careful to not fall into the “comparison” trap-that’s a one way street to unhappy town.

[@thomascarstens2729]

I know where you're coming from, but any perspective looking at other people's lives *is* a comparison. And it's not always bad, I can copy and imitate others to get where I want to be :)

[@Nerdy-By-Nature]

It's the ranking that is dangerous. "This person is better than me because _". I like Dave's strategy of learning shortcuts and pitfalls by looking at other people. That's the healthy way to use Se.

[@talonthorn]

One of the hardest things in life for most people must be to become content with who they are. This means accepting their faults and finding people they can trust who offset their faults, whose faults they equally offset. The improbability of this lies in trusting someone else with your faults! If you don't feel comfortable with yourself, how do you expect to feel comfortable with someone else taking care of your faults!??!

[@AmbientDisguise]

This guy seems like a genuinely nice guy, the problem is those who are facing something like depression statements like this although not intended to be negative are actually incredibly harmful if not framed correctly, because of the immense amount of guilt an individual can feel when thinking “so many people have it worse than me, so why can’t I be happy, what is wrong with me?”, This is where his fe approach needs to be balanced out with an fi framing as well, something along the lines of the quote by Epictetus “We suffer not from the events in our lives, but from our judgment about them.” Even if you can see another’s point of view and that you should feel better in comparison, emotion isn’t rational, not in that sense at least. To put it in physical terms, someone who was born with only one arm will handle what they have easier than someone who has just lost their arm. Same situation, different conditioning.

[@hirsch4155]

If someone feels guilt for that then the point is to feel it and shift it, and work on their own framing. There is no problem with Matthew’s framing of it, if you take it as feeling and not as Fe vs Fi, you can take what he says for what it is. Point is that we all suffer from it as Dave says, the judging part of it is another story. There is indeed suffering without judgement. The judgement part is the mindset of seeing something wrong with you. Change the mindset and you lessen the guilt. You lessen the burden . And can be happier. If that’s the path you’re looking to. I think the approach you’re talking about isn’t an Fi approach but a thinking approach , more than guilt I think it’s shame about how you are in the tribe , when on the spectrum the conditions are not as bad as others. That’s all mindset, how you’re reasoning about it. In fact what Matthew is saying is man up, other people deal with shit too. And no it doesn’t mean you can’t get angry sad or whatever about your situation. Just means to have a bit of empathy and grace. Balancing out your own suffering with seeing the bigger picture.

[@AmbientDisguise]

@@hirsch4155There is a chance you and I are mistakenly talking past one another, however there is also a chance of having a lack of sustained retained empathy. Some never look at someone else’s life, feel good they are in a comparatively better place, and then only return to feeling bad because memory loss has caused the dopamine hit from seeing someone doing worse outside of the common tribe. Some of us see the pain of an individual, acknowledging that pain was worse than anything we the outside viewer may have ever experienced ourselves, have recounts of their pain imprinted on our minds, however it doesn’t shut of that firing of one’s own amygdala in a time of personal loss. Few people for example would loose a child and just turn around and say “at least I didn’t loose two like that friend of a friend I heard about”. A more clinical physical and psychological example may be one person has their arm broken in two places, another person has their arm broken in just one of those same places, orienting from this point person 1 has it worse. Upon speaking to the people on a deeper individual rather than a broad tribe basis the first person might have a higher pain threshold and may partake in a thrill seeking lifestyle more prone to injury. The single broken arm however may have never experienced significant injury before, lives a much more sheltered life and has much more sensitive nerve receptors. In this situation with only the surface level facts sprinkled across the tribe but without the deeper level if the individuals felt trauma (understood either by analysis or less spoken more empathetic means), reframing via visual perception rather than understanding through one on one evaluation of the individual’s personally felt perceived trauma is all but irrelevant. If the only thing someone needs to do to feel better is look at someone else who is struggling more and say “thank god I’m not that guy”, then that is a level of privilege I think many of us would be envious of.

[@AmbientDisguise]

@@hirsch4155By using this method, framing your happiness by comparing it to someone else’s sadness, you could essentially just make someone in your own life feel worse just so you could feel better hence bullying, assault etc. Centring yourself within yourself removes the need to constantly be comparing your life and your highs and lows to others. Otherwise life is just scrolling instagram ranking yourself next who yells the loudest and promotes the largest.

[@wisamrohilina3006]

Oh my God.. you just gave me a new "perspective" on why it is so hard for Fi to get out of their box and see things from another angle or (as said here) another person's perspective.. because it seems so easy for Fe's, it is almost the most logical thing thus why we tend to become people pleasers & codependents in case we were in unhealthy relational dynamics..

[@ConsciousPatterns]

You have to decide that you are done suffering and take responsibility for where you went wrong and what you are no longer willing to accept from your weaker self. Your suffering ends when you stop accepting being the victim. You're biggest hurdle, is you. Once you see that, you will grow in so many ways. Best of luck to you all. 🙂🤗

[@filipposa212]

This is the kind of guy who would have all the women falling for him and then one day his scam or whatever gets exposed

[@orangeziggy348]

Like a magician

[@CoffeeCrashedMal]

​@@orangeziggy348Oh fuck hahahaha

[@ShadowGirl-]

Were true, but we also suffer more from negative emotions then anyone else, are too sensetive to whats going on so we often prefer to be alone, which is good because we also need like double the time we spend with people to ourselves to be ourselves... its not an easy life, but we honestly care about the bigger picture as well as everyone else's feelings.

[@Lu-ot8hs]

YES he is the best INFJ 🖤

[@caiden3396]

Dudeis even British and good looking.

[@Alfredoguanes00]

So you are trying to do Fe Mastery by Te surveying people on “what are they saying” about how to Ni+Fe? Nice.

[@Nerdy-By-Nature]

This is really the key to using Se inferior correctly, imo, especially with Fe. When I get too stuck in my masculine Ni-Ti, inside my own brain, I lose where I am at on the spectrum and its way too easy to catastrophize.

[@IndieAuthorX]

He probably types himself as an ESFP.

[@MariaM-qq6kv]

I wonder what his wife Audrey is... INFP?

[@solarisan_]

This is not someone with Ni Fe Ti Se cognitive stack. RM from BTS is INFJ. Haemin Sunim is INFJ. Rilke was INFJ. Abstract thinking paired with concern for society does not come across like this. It is not about selling a philosophy. It is about making others consider various options and helping others understand abstract principles. It is a deep process of mapping the world on the inside. Internalizing the visual aspect and peeling off layers to get to the core of things.

[@chandanmolo5276]

Is that true that I can't type myself becoz of my age 16 let me know ?

[@XAEX12]

No of course you, is just the older you are supposed to be the easier to know yourself therefore easier to type yourself

[@chandanmolo5276]

@@XAEX12 I was told that becoz of my age I can't be typed (neuroplasticity) If i can be typed then can u give some tips to find 4 cognitive function?

[@Myure]

At 16, it is very much possible be typed! I am interested in MBTI since the age of 16, and I had typed myself accurately back then.

[@chandanmolo5276]

@@Myure can u give me some ways to find cognitive function mine or others to type ? I have been stuck for yrs I can't find my type help ?

[@Myure]

@@chandanmolo5276 The best way would be to be professionally assessed. In the mean time, I highly recommend keys2cognition's function test! You can easily find it online.

[@AustinOllar]

100%

[@Charmian-and-Iras]

Simon Sinek and Mathew Hussey ellicit the same cringe-response in me. I think it's the cookie cutter blasting up on the tree stump that reminds me of this tendency I also have, as a fellow blaster, (and constantly try to fight off) to blast before truly listening.

[@globelights606]

Simon is INFJ but Mathew is not. xNFJ blast is very different to xSFP blast, one interests me the other bores me.

[@Heyokasireniei468sxso]

not an infj he has a fi snarl smile