Maybe You're the Problem

[@ivanivan5192]

I am learning English. I watched your video with subtitles - I didn't understand everything. I realized that you are sincerely talking about relationships between men and women. I also live alone. Many people want to find their soul mate.

[@Striving_for_Perfection]

Well done on the apartment cleaning, trips are terrible with making stuff a mess. Then eventually you’re stuck searching for a thing that you’re not sure which trip it was with you on and which travel’s pile of stuff you’ve shoved in a corner it’s in. Or maybe that’s just me 😂 As far as how to get a secure attachment style, I used to be more on the avoidant side, and now firmly in the secure camp, but what really helped me is I started my relationship with my (now ex) wife by deciding to be completely open and vulnerable from the beginning and behaving in such a way as to make it the best it could be if successful. Even knowing it could be wrong, I took comfort in the fact that I’d know I’d given it my best, and after a while of doing that it got natural to me. She was (and is) more of the disorganized attachment style, so it wasn’t learned from her, though she did help me get there. It’s a lot of work to rewire the pathways in your brain but it can be done. I’m still working on it and a bunch of other stuff too, but I’m living proof that stubbornness in the face of stupid odds (and therapy) can get you surprisingly far. I recommend making better choices regarding partners than I did though. I didn’t hold my ex wife’s circumstances against her, but eventually, they won out. Think about both the person they are, and while I do recommend considering the cards they were dealt and correcting for them a bit, I don’t recommend disregarding factors rising from their circumstances completely, and judging them mostly based on the quality of the person they could be. That said, I honestly don’t know if there’s another fool like me, but worth saying if it helps someone. Wasn’t directly what lead to the divorce, that was more to do with incapability of trusting someone on her part, resentment over years of counting every mistake I ever made, along with a general lack of mental health and willpower. I’m honestly kind of proud of how it ended, felt like I was a decent husband, even if not perfect, and we’re still on talking terms and she would agree. I guess if an ex wife would recommend you to a friend you’ve done something right in life 😂. I recommend focusing on working on yourself and making sure you’re doing your part, and making sure your partner does theirs. I also don’t suggest getting in a relationship that is one sided from the outset, or at the very least not marrying them when you find out it’s not responded to in kind when the roles are reversed. Well, I was young and dumb, now no longer quite as young, but hopefully less dumb as well. Learn from my mistakes. Curious what you mean by object permanence though. Do you mean more of staying in touch, or understanding you are living your life in the meanwhile, or something else?

[@sonofGod...]

Так вообще то Микаэла в правильном направлении, когда упомянула что пережитый опыт в семье может влиять на будущие отношения. Что по поводу модной идеи о "привязанности", вы сами пережили , что это не является навигационным приоритетом в построении успеха. Ответ может быть в другой плоскости. Одно могу уверенно утверждать, у Господа абсолютно для каждого есть возможность для счастья. В любом возрасте и обстоятельствах. Не нужно контролировать за Бога. Это Его ответственность, заботиться о каждой сфере нашей жизни. Мы свою часть исполняем, при этом хорошо бы настроиться принимать сюрпризы от Него😊

[@Jibs-HappyDesigns-990]

my thoughts exactly, so appropriately layed out! love it! 😁👍💪🦴🍌🌮🥧☕

[@just42tube]

Since we all are the main person in our own lives, that means that it's almost impossible not to be also your own main problem. I paint here a personality type, which will have problems finding and keeping relationships: If you're unforgiving to yourself, that can mean that you are also too critical and perhaps secretly too demanding for other people too. You start to see and catalogue their faults or weaknesses until that collection becomes too much. And since you are so aware of your and others shortcomings, you'll have trouble being really open and unpretentious in your relationships. You try to be better, which unfortunately means that you can't be totally emotionally involved and true, since you're consciously trying to manage situations and your and perhaps others behavior. This will cause emotional detachment.

[@sonofGod...]

Жертва не может быть виновной. Конечно нет безошибочных людей кроме Бога, но разбираться с душевными ранами и своими ошибками нужно отдельно. Чтоб не начать оправдывать обидчиков, что мешает полноценному освобождению и исцелению. А после этого, безусловно важно себя простить. И это не психология или философия. Это духовные законы, а духовность наше начало. Применять к духу душевное напрасно. Не может второстепенное иметь влияние на первостепенное.😊 Но наоборот

[@just42tube]

Some libraries have recording studios and similar facilities available for public. So you might be able to try to use them at least initially.

[@Jijijenni]

I am living in Tampere now, can you please tell me the karaoke bar you went to?

[@Benito-m8g]

Практика. Что практикуешь, такие результаты и получаешь. Практикуешь отношения с людьми, получишь опыт. Практикуешь одиночество, станешь опытным отшельником :)

[@sonofGod...]

Микаэла 🙏 Иисус это единственный эффективный Психотерапевт.

[@rainymanish]

🎉😊

[@SteelFanther]

The problem with America jokes is that Americans don't think they're funny, and Russians don't think they're jokes ... * Парамоновка, Россия

[@РушанШигапов-н9е]

Не была она Испании ,пришлось уехать навсегда Москву , дом Барселоне оставил может когда нибудь поеду !? Gracias Santo Mariya❤

[@84kaskad]

рушан, ты явно купил сертификат по-русскому языку. Тапки-баул-аул

[@bobli5103]

такие дела..

[@iggyt8250]

Hit the " like", however slightly disagree with your book, В любом случае - удачм!

[@soll31]

А ты жила в Испании?

[@soll31]

2 unlimited.no problem.всезависит от тебя.

[@jtinalexandria]

You meant "flaky"...

[@РушанШигапов-н9е]

Вернись лучще Primavera Москву

[@soll31]

Тебее нужен муж иначе ты потерялась в жизни

[@Montecristo-x3d]

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