Why Being Pretty Sucks

[@pupper5580]

for me the authors background matters. Imagine you have a book, something like "how to be a good person" and it was written by person X. 20 years later you found out this person X has actually done some Austrian Painter level bad stuff. You're like errr well everything in that book is basically out the window now. Like the authors personal life actions can retroactively ruin their art. For example, I used to like the song "last night". Now I'm like I never want to hear that song again - Diddy being a horrible person puts a completely different twist and interpretation to the lyrics of the song.

[@Striving_for_Perfection]

Thanks for introducing me to Teal Swan, her videos seem rather interesting, but I do see the reasons for her controversy. Goes to prove the everyone controversial who gets popular has to provide value, people wouldn’t stick around otherwise. Definitely will keep watching some of her videos too. Good point about the successful being more important, I wonder if it’s more about the fact that you have both I guess? Don’t know if glasses make one less attention grabbing though, definitely make one seem more intelligent, been using that trick for years, so would think that it would have the opposite reaction. That said, don’t really understand looks or really attracted by them anyway, so hard to say. I find myself often dumbing myself down or downplaying what I do or experience in order to fit in, especially when talking about my random adhd monthlong special interests. That said, for me it’s a lot less to do with the jealousy aspect, and much more to do with the things I’ve done sounding much cooler and more complicated than they actually are, and not wanting to seem better than I am. Also I’m just generally obscenely lucky and I don’t want to overplay my part in what I’ve been lucky to just be a part of. I’m envious of you with the approachability though, instead I’m lucky in that I generally look like whatever I’m doing, I’m meant to be there, and know what’s going on. First time I was in the JHC I got asked to fix a 3d printer despite the staff not knowing me, or I’ll get asked for help in a store despite wearing a red shirt in Prisma. That said I often come off as aloof or judgmental which I’m working on. Any tips on approachability or are you the wrong person to ask if it comes naturally to you? BTW, I know I’m giving long comments, hopefully it’s not weird my thoughts are just provoked by your videos and I’ve been learning a lot about myself through these videos. Your videos have genuinely helped me a lot so I thought to comment and I seem to be the rambling type on here too. Think it’s especially a bit weird as we run in the same circles and will very likely meet IRL at some point if we haven’t already and I just can’t connect IRL with video (LPR, coaching for LUTES, Business Mill, etc.). Just wanted to make sure my comments are coming off as the (hopefully) intellectual dialogue and fascination in your thoughts they are meant as, and not as some local creep going through all your videos. Just give me a thumbs up or a quick comment to the tune of, no worries it’s fine, or tell me to maybe tone them down a bit or stop watching if you prefer. Either is fine, I’m just trying to respect any boundaries you might have especially as we are likely to meet in the future. Also feel free to tell me if my comments feel a bit too much like I’m trying to replace my therapist with you as that is not at all my intention, she is very much keeping her job, I’m just trying to maybe give a second opinion from a similarly diagnosed person, similar to how you have with your videos to me. Also to maybe give some video ideas too, as you have been asking for those. Makes me feel really chuffed you’ve made a video on quite a few of them so far 😊

[@MigratoryMikaela]

Nah. I definitely enjoy reading your comments so keep them coming. You mentioned LUTES so I'm wondering if you're the entrepreneurial type. And you're Finnish, right? Do you mind sending me an email? I am still thinking of starting a business in Finland and am wondering if you'd have some input. Thanks!

[@Striving_for_Perfection]

@@MigratoryMikaela ​​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠ I dont have your email but I found your (student) email from the internal LUT directory, I sent you an email there, but sometimes my emails don’t make it past the filters so just shoot a quick message if you get it. I put Striving for Perfection in the subject so if it isn’t visible try searching for that.

[@T.K.P.]

Coding has to do nothing with ADHD, i always had ADH behaviour, and i was very good at coding, but i had to leave that field because of my eyes....

[@AndreiListapad]

Забавно получилось. Все хотят внимания.) А тебе хочется внимания от того кто тебе нравится. Интересно слушать твою иронию по этой теме. Вроде как страешься инвестируешь в мозг а смотрят на личико. Женщинам с другой стороны будет проще показать свой ум, скромность и свои ценности когда настройки привлекательности поменьше но вот дилемма вам хочется внимания, но просто получить его можно с привлекательностью).

[@T.K.P.]

10:10 it was funny seeing you scrambling to act accordingly or seen correct 😂😂 You don't have to worry about that kind of kid's behaviour anymore, we're past that age...i could have helped with these small things, if i was around you.

[@xenfazenda2642]

Поставь камеру чтобы она была чуть выше уровня глаз, а на заднем фоне включи какой-то источник света, например вон ту лампу справа. Картинка сразу станет намного лучше.

[@mijosombrero]

вообще наплевать какая у неё картинка

[@ivanschekoldin7315]

Idk it never even crossed my mind that someone who's beautiful is also healthy. Also, there's being beautiful and looking like you take good care of yourself. The latter I can pretty much link with good health, I guess the opposite catches the eye even more. Generally, doesn't anything suck if you look at it a certain way? Being rich? Sucks. Being poor? Sucks. Being tall, short, fat, skinny, etc. In the end it depends on your perception of yourself and the world - embrace your strengths and learn why your weaknesses are also strengths.

[@prostokostya]

Странно но почему то твои видео действуют успокаивающе. Odd?

[@Vlad_a450]

Женская болтовня. Слушаешь не текст, а голос.

[@webmatrix100]

Mikaela, Great video! But honestly, I think you're overthinking it a bit! While humans are complex social animals with intricate behaviors and relationships, a lot of decisions are still driven by basic biology. Sometimes we get caught up in the details and forget to step back and see the bigger picture. It's great to be thorough, but don't let overanalyzing hold you back. Trust your instincts-they're probably guiding you in the right direction!

[@JaySlay69]

Will you ever do a video listing the pros and cons of Finland and Russia, and comparing the two countries to each other?

[@MigratoryMikaela]

Sure. That's a good idea, although I've only lived in Kyrgyzstan, not Russia

[@sergeypavlov9488]

I'm pretty sure there are studies which illustrate that you can be "smart" in many dimensions, it's not just IQ which is 1-dimensional. I think maybe especially in the US and especially nowadays with faster and faster pace of life people tend to appreciate more people who can learn something quickly, even if they learn not so deeply. While for the most difficult problems, scientific problems actually it's more needed people who can really go deep and discover hidden dependencies etc. Especially now, with online encyclopedias, search engines, and finally Large Language Models coming in, this superficial knowledge can be easily replaced with them, while this ability to go deep will be valued more and more. So, bottom line is don't estimate yourself based on this superficial understanding that "smart" means "able to quickly do not-so-difficult tasks". I'm pretty sure that if you work at NASA you're smart, smarter than at least 50% of women of your age. You want to be smarter, but there will be almost someone who smarter than you, unless you're really the smartest person on Earth, but in this case you'll feel very lonely because all others are dumber. I don't mean that you shouldn't care at all or shouldn't try to become better version of yourself, but the point is that you need to appreciate who you are and compare yourself just with yourself in the past. Wish you all the best!

[@lidazemlyanika4159]

Привет Мика!😘🤗🤗расскажи про свою мачеху ,подробнее она ругает тебя?за что?какие действия предпринимает?может вызвать кого то из социальных служб домой?она тебя не бьёт?😔

[@Jibs-HappyDesigns-990]

yup! make grill cheese samitches now!! Mmmm!

[@lvvlvv7956]

so cats like dogs or what

[@rainymanish]

😊

[@VictorGubin]

I heart new a trend - change gender, and become handsome instead of being pretty. As well as no problem with relationship with attractive friend, who pretty.

[@daniil-evgenyparasuhin5802]

Можно такое же видео на русском? Тема очень интересная

[@ВаняПанчмен]

being ugly still much worse)

[@were05andrey]

ты очень красивая

[@noneofyerbeeswax8194]

Because you’re being overwhelmed with marriage proposals? Lol. The amount of simps in the comments…😂

[@MigratoryMikaela]

Amen to that

[@ReallySG]

My name is Igor. I live in Russia near the city of Volgograd. You are a very beautiful and good bride. Of course, I would marry you officially. In Russia, for example, you can buy a house for $1,000 in the countryside or near a big city. Do you have Zangi?

[@nickzinchuk9877]

Ну сказал же депардье о вашей рашке несчассной что если я захочу пожить в раше то достаточно пожить у моём сарае возле дома.

[@ВгостяхуСантаса]

Мне кажется что в привычной речи Миша использует много слов паразитов, или фраз которые используются просто для связки слов. Хотелось бы слышать более размеренную, чистую, грамотную и осмысленную речь. Речь!)

[@andrevadyaskin164]

Dear Michaela, next time speak slowly a bit, please, coz I can't translate you to Russian with enough quality to understand you perfectly. 😅

[@Chelovek_Pot]

Замедли скорость видео, друг! 🤗 И всё 😊