Maybe You Should Talk to Someone With Lori Gottlieb || The Psychology Podcast

Today we’re excited to have Lori Gottlieb on the podcast. Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which is being adapted as a television series with Eva Longoria. In addition to her clinical practice, she writes The Atlantic’s weekly “Dear Therapist” advice column and is the co-host of iHeart’s upcoming “Dear Therapists” podcast, produced by Katie Couric. She is also a TED speaker, a ​member of the Advisory Council for Bring Change to Mind, and advisor to the Aspen Institute. She is a sought-after expert in media such as The Today Show, Good Morning America, The CBS Early Show, CNN, and NPR’s “Fresh Air.” Learn more at LoriGottlieb.com or by following her @LoriGottlieb1 on Twitter.
In this episode we discuss:
The fundamental themes of human existence
Irvin Yalom’s influence on Lori Gottlieb
Why we feel isolated in our experiences
The loneliness crisis on college campuses
How the internet helps us numb
How to know when social media has become an addiction
Why happiness as a goal is a disaster
SBK analyzes Lori Gottlieb
Why we are often scared to do things that excite us
Why there is no “hierarchy of pain”
The hierarchy of pain and the social justice movement
Why is it so hard for us to change when we know what to do?
Why we don’t let ourselves be happy
The importance of self-compassion
The most important factor in the success of therapy
What makes for a boring patient?
Why feelings sometimes don’t care about facts
Common myths of therapy
“Part of us wants something and there’s another part of us that goes against the thing we want”
Why “our feelings need air”
How numbness is a state of being overwhelmed by too many feelings
The importance of seeing your own agency and the choices you have

[@jennyhadfield9164]

This is just amazing

[@laurens7431]

Wow, I got a lot from this. Really insightful advice

[@queensigal]

"It made me show more gratitude " the man says, he complaints about his mother being overbearing and needing distance, she will die in a few years, whether 20 or 30 or 40 and he will be sorry, I loved his cup though. He will be a nightmare as a partner as long as he resents his mother so much

[@AznDudeIsOn]

0:31 The fundamental themes of human existence Irvin Yalom’s influence on Lori Gottlieb Why we feel isolated in our experiences The loneliness crisis on college campuses How the internet helps us numb How to know when social media has become an addiction 14:23 Why happiness as a goal is a disaster 17:57 SBK analyzes Lori Gottlieb Why we are often scared to do things that excite us 23:03 Why there is no “hierarchy of pain” The hierarchy of pain and the social justice movement 28:37 Why is it so hard for us to change when we know what to do? Why we don’t let ourselves be happy 34:22 The importance of self-compassion The most important factor in the success of therapy 42:00 What makes for a boring patient? 45:46 Why feelings sometimes don’t care about facts 54:16 Common myths of therapy 1:02:31 “Part of us wants something and there’s another part of us that goes against the thing we want” Why “our feelings need air” How numbness is a state of being overwhelmed by too many feelings The importance of seeing your own agency and the choices you have

[@bolivar1789]

Wow, wonderful! Thank you so much for taking the time to do this. For someone like me, who is obsessed with taking notes, this is gold! Wherever you are, may you be safe and healthy.Best wishes!

[@AznDudeIsOn]

@@bolivar1789 Thanks for spreading the spiritual energy (: I hope 2020 has been kind to you.

[@bolivar1789]

@@AznDudeIsOn Thank you so much! This is really a very hard time for everyone. But I try to take it one day at a time and try to be as present as I can with all the people I love and I come across with. To return you the favour, I would like to tell you about this wonderful podcast: It is made by the most beloved psychology professor at Yale University, Laurie Santos. After seeing how many of the students were suffering from depression and anxiety, she decided to offer a class called " The science of happiness" and it soon became the most visited class at Yale. On her podcast " The Happiness Lab ", she shares all the insights she offers to her students on those lectures. Many greetings and best wishes :- )

[@debbiesmith2207]

What if you are dealing with a sociopath? It seems to me none of this advice applies? Do you have any suggestions on how to avoid them?

[@cantavoidtrite]

Is she an MD?

[@mauiswift6391]

No she is not, she did go to medical school but decided to go into psychology.

[@queensigal]

I thought the term is "clients" not "patients"?

[@MrPathorock]

Too many ads

[@mikedonnarumma5337]

what insecurities are wrapped around the need to say , like , after every second word,

[@chilloften]

mike donnarumma it’s beta.

[@mikedonnarumma5337]

@@chilloften i agree,,,, It comes from the term alpha (most commonly seen as alpha male) and means the opposite of what alpha does; rather than being strong and dominant, someone who is "beta" is weak and has no backbone to stand up for themselves.

[@epoulos108]

He seems weak. Mother torture.

[@queensigal]

I really resent the tone of this conversation, first of all the snide remark about the overbearing jewish mother, when there are so many people without mothers or with abusive mothers, and then this therapist is really not getting it, if people COULD communicate, there would not be a job for therapists! How this man is teaching when he is obviously so hostile and disrespectful to his mother is beyond me . he is a jerk.