How to Overcome Anxiety & Improve Resilience [Acceptance & Commitment Therapy]

[@MedCircle]

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[@jacobreichard1062]

Not sure if you read, or are interested in covering this topic, but I would be really interested in hearing about sadism (non-sexual), and possibly it's relation to narcissis.

[@mindnoodle]

I have a question. Every culture talks about having values. Are values dynamic? If values are dynamic and change with time and experience, why have them?

[@jacobreichard1062]

@@mindnoodle I feel like there is a duality to values that we can see simply from looking at mankind for the past several thousand years. Like you said, I think there are dynamic values (a shift in some women desiring to focus on a career rather than being a housewife. Not trying to bash either, both are totally cool, and if it wasn't for a mom who knew how to do both at the right times, I would be much different.) Anyway, so I think we can see values that do change or have changed over time (even just look at separate countries. Western countries (often) operate in a Wealth dynamic, whereas poorer African nation's society is founded frequently in a Power dynamic, again different from the east where we see a Respect dynamic controlling societies. All three of these groups are people with different values. However, 95% of these countries would agree with certain values that are held by humanity, and I don't think we see these changing (significantly) on a widespread basis (there are some outlier individuals). Hammurabi's code (while by no means is it a standard anybody would want now) is a great example of how certain things are just innately wrong. Things like murder, assault, rape, all the way down to expecting someone to make good on a promise. 4500 years ago, the core of these values still stand. Line up ten people and ask if they think murder should be legalized. You (hopefully) would get all "yes"s. Humanity has advanced so much in such short periods of time that I feel like values can look like they're changing when historically, that hasn't been true. Sorry... It's rambling hour for me. Just some thoughts and observations.

[@hannahpickett6035]

MedCircle Yes, because I practice DBT and this is a rip off of that method, concept for concept.

[@genniepoon2189]

Hello. Am I the only one who couldn't find the 6 sessions? There aren't any videos in it.

[@carolwhelihan1514]

These series have changed my fear towards my thoughts and my anxiety. You are both such a blessing to so many people. Thank you so much for what you do.

[@nicole9540t]

This explained everything that I was feeling but was struggling to explain. It’s like amplifying the inner voice in your head that judges you for getting too focused on self deprecating feelings

[@Princeton_James]

I've been to weekend long trainings with Dr. Hayes and I gotta say that Dr. Ho knocked it out of the park with this 17 minute video. Sometimes we just need the cliffsnotes. She did excellent.

[@Rollwithit699]

Kyle is such an understanding intelligent man.

[@ycnsena]

Kyle has more trust in ACT than Steven Hayes has himself and I love the sincerity of it because I truly felt the way he did when I discovered Acceptance and Commitmen therapy

[@theliftexpert]

The dog is so calming 🐶

[@sarahd7946]

I like how the dog matches the decor

[@codnba136]

He's probably thinking: why do these humans have all these problems.^^

[@littlestbroccoli]

Yes yes yes yes. Number one thing that has helped me shift my thinking and recover from years of depression AND KNOW WHAT TO DO WHEN IT COMES BACK. ACT is real, it's helpful, and together with all the other tools it's possible to see the light at the top of the dark pit and inch toward it. Every thought countered is anther step closer. All good luck to anyone out there struggling with anxiety and depression - you aren't alone with this and you do deserve to live without shame because you are enough!

[@veebieee]

A lot of people limit themselves with 'Can'ts' and 'Don'ts' because they can't see themselves any different than how everyone else sees them, but this video is a huge breakthrough. If people watch this with intention it WILL change their life, like it has mine. Most people want to see the change right away, but changing the way you think is a process that you must stick through to see the simple results. Love this! Thank you.

[@brandnewnew9905]

Your thoughts are a part of you but they don’t define you and they can be unhealthy at times.

[@eversunnyguy]

Yes our thoughts are part of us. Some of them are irrelevant which don't reflect true self but others are definitely reflect our personality.

[@ilovemango1000]

ACT takes a slightly different approach. From an ACT perspective, there is no such thing as an "unhealthy thought." There may be painful thoughts, sure. There may be thoughts that are not helpful, yes. But what ACT is all about is redefining your relationship to your mind and to your thoughts. In ACT, we are more interested in noticing thoughts without latching on to them, or struggling with them, or letting them be in charge of our actions and lives.

[@PetroCosh]

Please give the expert more time to talk, and listen more. You interpret what she says and she just confirms. YOU are not the expert.please!!!

[@slenderman8170]

This video has helped me get through the darkest and most difficult of times. Thank you.

[@mariasammy8643]

MedCircle is a miracle and a blessing. Everytime I watch I learn something about myself. Love this channel so much. Thanks for all you do!

[@brusselsprout5851]

Its true that just because we think it doesn't mean it is or that it has to be. I love this.

[@ayblgr3202]

Her delivery is so casual yet so efficient. The most lovable person on the internet by far

[@joannajackson5884]

Thank you Medcircle for being a resource and ally for all of us struggling 🙏😊

[@luvbearbut]

Omg..you're thoughts aren't you, they're simply your observations!!! This blows my mind!!! It's something that I have always gravitated toward to survive but never heard expressed...

[@eversunnyguy]

Dr Judy makes very good points...one CAN do many actions while distressful thoughts are running in the head. ACT is really a form of behavior therapy !

[@charlietowler3416]

Dr Ho would be an amazing Professor she really explains the concepts of Psychology in a way that's easy to understand and makes the topics more interesting with less textbook style.

[@monikabylinka2145]

I agree!

[@patteegee9506]

She is a professor at Pepperdine University, in addition to doing a million other things.

[@charlietowler3416]

@@patteegee9506 I don't know where she gets all the energy!. :D i admire her work ethic and energy

[@patteegee9506]

@@charlietowler3416 I just joined her Instagram and she learned how to do trapeze!! There is a video of her doing it! The thing that stands out to me is that despite all her accomplishments and accolades, she remains humble and down to earth.

[@shewitghebrezgitesfasilass3742]

Kyle really make the Mental Health and the other related fields easier and brings changes in other's lives.

[@triskitbiskit1762]

U asked so here it is. I'm studying the concept of A.C.T. Just the definition as given is fantastic. I can live a meaningful life even though I'm suffering? I never considered it. My thought was I'm doomed to suffer. So I'm getting a new way to think. Thanx

[@Badboyjoshyyy]

the thing she said about getting out of the maze really resonated with me!!!! i feel like when we're kids we're not in the maze, but we see all the adults in our life going through this maze and it seems like they know what they are doing, so we end up going in the maze with them without even realizing and we just spend our whole lives trying to get out of this maze that's so complicated to get out of!! i guess we gotta get out the same way we went in?

[@ShikhaNB]

This is not really a new method, it is at the centre of meditation. But yes, it is very helpful.

[@CROWSurvival1]

A new take or presentation on even ancient knowledge, and good to see being integrated more mainstream. "All the world's a stage..." We identify ourselves, categorically, as our fashion, income, jobs, education, interests, etc, at the expense of realizing and experiencing our true selves separate from the contrivances, beliefs, expectations, and principles of the Manmade world...and one of the best filters to allow us to step back and release those attachments is, and always has been, connection/immersion with Nature. That is the one and only pure, "Carpenter's Level" that we all share and that can reveal and nurture our spiritual core or essence, unfettered.

[@evasilvalayton758]

I share your feelings. I need a friend like you :)

[@kitlitmitt]

love this- I bpught an annual supscription- so much cheaper than therapy!

[@luvbearbut]

When situations in your life become observations rather then feelings of who you are, it frees you to realize what you are, not what you imprison yourself to be nor whatever outside BS tells you to be...but what you know you are, an enlightened expert on yourself, and nothing else can tell you otherwise!

[@StudentNurseDean]

Watching this, thinking about traumatic events in my past, I had a thought that broke me in a good way. "That hurtful thing that happened in the past, it isn't me. It's just something that happened to me."

[@imelizy123]

This genuinely reminds me of many buddhist teachings and concepts surrounding the idea of detachement, pain and suffering and being an observer of your thoughts. Kinda amazing to see so many parallels. Although i'll say this, everytime ive delved into this kind of approach on thinking, I've been fearful of diluting the intensity of happiness whilst trying to dilute the attatchments to thoughts that are more painful - I'm scared of being less happy when im already struggling. I know this is probably not the point and having that point of neutrality would be a net postive but idk.

[@tonyausten2168]

Because you are a Human Being, YOU HAVE WORTH!!!!!!!

[@stinareed270]

Right. Did God create any mistakes? Or do we all have a purpose as part of a greater whole?

[@periclesdasilva5973]

Love you. "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation present your requests to God by prayer with thanksgiving. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding shall guard your minds and hearts in Christ Jesus." Phil 4:6-7

[@vivekoriel]

Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life. Philippians 4:6‭-‬7 MSG

[@StepheBrown]

Can't get enough of this session especially from 12.20-13.33 mins. Thank you.

[@annagallagher2498]

In some situation I can not be fair to someone else & be nice to myself at the same time.I put someone else first & me second.Then started to bother me & I was felling hurt but hurt by me so realizing that I stopped.I think it has been a pattern & I am so glad I figured out.

[@wanjiruolive]

I have just discovered this channel through Dr Ramani's You tube channel and all i can say is thank you this channel is so educative and am loving every bit of it.....Thank You

[@Rogelio_007]

Thoughts are like mindlessly channel surfing. These are great tools to help deal with it.

[@ivanpetrov5304]

"You can live a meaningful life even if you are in suffering" Jordan Peterson has entered the chat.

[@anas4754]

I just started a new therapy and my therapist mentioned ACT as her method. I don't see much difference than CBT which was only short therm helpful for me.

[@dutouch1086]

I feel this! Was treated with CBT as a teen in the late 2000s. It’s 2021, and I can 100% vocalize emotions but with zero sense of self ever cultivated (chaotic/neglectful upbringing). ACT is starting to help me fill in the missing values/self piece I never had. Hope your treatment’s going well ♥️

[@brusselsprout5851]

Hooray for Kyle that he is getting help with his anxiety! Hooray!

[@whomolgan]

As a student becoming a clinical psychologist, i found this video to learn more about ACT. Sadly, it feels a bit too much like a sales call.

[@user-fi9wx2vb9e]

It's solely a sales call. This channel is becoming disgusting. :(

[@johndeal4381]

You're only 10 months old.

[@rkowel]

Perspective of student in learning is different when you have already graduated and deal with it.

[@judeboy618]

THANKS GUYS, ANYTIME I SAW YOU, ALWAYS HELP ME.

[@sebastiansimonofficial]

Just starting into that video that sounds like buddhism/meditation to me. And yes, definitely that should help anyone and especially anxious or emotionally unstable/ depressed people

[@peterlloyd4447]

Without even seeing the complete series and this only being the 3rd segment I've watched, I believe I have a positive takeaway that might what will attract people. I think that these tools are less formal. For me, I have recognized that the structures in psychology/therapy before now, dont feel as accepting or flexible and in my honest opinion, they either haven't proven to have had a huge success rate or many people just wouldn't take those roads. Mostly, what I like, is that this type of therapy doesn't just give the fish that are needed, it also teaches you how to catch them yourself. I know that this aspect of the toolbox, is the game changer!

[@shyaaammeneen63]

Very informative video. One more suggestion to reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. When taking a walk, at office, in college, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.

[@SandeepSinghCreator]

Thanks ! Now i wont judge myself through my concept art!! This is next level awareness. And OMG was thinking about this earlier only that it needed solidification. I love your videos. Thanks for this. Judy Ho is great!

[@arthurb8924]

Love these tools and observances ....

[@haardshah1676]

I loved this. I think it would be really helpful to also link to some of the key papers or other resources where one can learn more on their own.

[@nonhlanhlandondo4722]

Recently learnt about this in my post grad class, and I'm interested in learning more and doing research on its application in a low to middle income public health care setting with chronic disease patients... perhaps this may even be my PhD topic. I'll definitely email the results.

[@daniroberts9832]

I always love what you have to present Dr. Ho and you are so beautiful too! Thank you!

[@m25personaldevelopment55]

You know how to FREE YOUR MIND! Amazing content and thank you for helping to make the world a better place! LOVE LIFE! :)

[@biancasamuel7097]

The question that I have been having was if my thoughts were making me crazy, insane, not normal. My anxious thoughts were kind of pushing past my own, making me think things that I would have never thought if I was anxious. But now, looking at that question, I'm starting to think that I'm NOT crazy. If I push past my anxiety, I can make the right decisions. I believe that walking away from this video, with a stronger understanding of anxiety, I can strengthen my mind and understanding of certain situations.

[@henaautumn]

These are not new concepts. This is spiritual truth at it's core. Inherent value of the individual. Finding joy and meaning in the midst of suffering. Interesting how it's being discussed as though this is a completely new paradigm.

[@20vajj]

This video alone helped me

[@rebekahthomas6109]

Great stuff, but I really want to watch the whole series and it's not available through the links. I also can't find them on KZbin or can't figure out which vids are part of this series.... ?

[@artbaugh3]

Good points and skill building.

[@user-ek7vp6et4l]

This is mind-blowing! And have I said that this is blowing my mind?? Omg mind blown

[@andreadeans2520]

A positive thought is 10x more powerful than a negative one , Louise Hays

[@mosspirate]

I so wish I could watch this series, it sounds brilliant!

[@sindhukodoor5343]

Excellent series, love Judy Ho, and Kyle is very good at hosting these series. I have rewatched it many times and has changed the way I associate/disassociate with my thoughts, my first therapist introduced me to ACT and the book Happiness Trap. I really love it, I know there is an app to remind us to be here and now. What other resources was Dr Ho talking about in the last few minutes of the video?

[@melissaqualls5774]

This series helped so much. Thank You!

[@nikk6435]

the puppy is like "unxiedy? what's that?" 😭😭😭😍😍😍

[@Treezp1]

Thank you Kyle & all the MedCircle Doctors. I love your enthusiasm! Love Theresa

[@sparrow646]

This is Echart Tolle

[@melissaplasencia8717]

I've recently look into self help books and bought a few.. I heard of eckhart tolle ! What about the author would you say this reminds you of ? A certain book ? Is it a good thing or a bad thing ?

[@yusepp]

Or Echart Tolle is this.

[@geraldobrien7323]

@@melissaplasencia8717 Read “The Power of Now” yourself and make your own decision. I think the book has a lot of good advice similar to what they’re talking about here, but I don’t think it’s absolute gospel. He came upon his ideas based on his own issues, so just like with everyone, one size doesn’t fit all.

[@LECityLECLEC]

Both of you guys did amazing! You are great at what you do ^^.

[@RJ-cs9gz]

A lot of this is Buddhist meditation 101, as is DBT

[@larahamilton2273]

This is simply Buddhism put in Western terms. It is NOTHING new!!!!!!! However, it is powerfully put together which is important to make the skills more accessible sans any weird religious stuff.

[@melissaplasencia8717]

This is very good to know. Since idk much if anything about Buddhism, it'd be very interesting learning about this through that route since I don't have to pay a membership tho lol but very interesting. I'm you mentioned this. Bc I've been wanting to learn more about the Buddhist way of life anyway

[@Deweythesecond]

Came here to say this!

[@MySmallWindow1]

Lara Hamilton, No it’s not! You’re obviously saying that because she happens to be an Asian American And even if it was true, she is far more beautiful and intelligent it’s pleasure to listen to her.

[@hxjj111]

@Lara Hamilton Amen

[@w_kwok]

I agree this is very similar to the heart sutra. Where you should care about your thoughts but you also shouldn't because "form is emptiness and emptiness is form". Thoughts are simply something to observe and your actions may be of it or not of it, it doesn't matter.

[@julzzcan9490]

ACT seems good for people who have trouble or cannot effectively use mindful meditation, which is a robust cure-all beyond ACT.

[@vulgarghost]

IMO it's under the purview of behavior analysis, treating the internal dialogue "thinking" the same as overt verbal behavior just with self as listener/speaker has the same verbal behavior rules to it and uses lots of autoclitics but isn't just breathing exercises or defusion techniques, it's goals, methods, and outcomes are BACB ethics code approved and is good science when done correctly, with RFT, ABA, and ACT tools used properly.

[@Evernia6181]

4 months of psychotherapy and I was NOWHERE near this.

[@kamilazaba7280]

8 months of psychotherapy and I feel the same.

[@Evernia6181]

@@kamilazaba7280❤😊 I fired the therapist. I won't pay someone to do NOTHING.

[@kamilazaba7280]

@@Evernia6181 I'm thinking about that too.Everyone deserves to be happy!!!Sometimes it takes time to find the right therapist.I hope we will find the right one. Wish you luck Sandrine:-)

[@eminayiden]

This is Buddhism and meditation. Buddhisms main doctrine is literally that pain is inevitable but suffering is not and that suffering stems from us identifying with our thoughts. Meditation is the tool for observing your thoughts and see reality clearly so that you don’t have to suffer.

[@suzychocolate7]

how to make yourself believe it? this thought is telling me that I am an idiot, but I am not. but what if the thought is right and I am wrong? who do I believe?

[@suzychocolate7]

​@Nik I keep telling myself internally "you're an idiot" whenever I miss up. I say it a lot even on the most trivial matters. sometimes when I do, I ask myself: am I really an idiot? this is of course one of the many negative things I say to myself. it is actually the most common. I just said it to myself when I accidentally unliked your comment instead of liking it.

[@user-hp6jh9eu3v]

Common sense will always be your friend, because in realistic terms, doing this CAN be dangerous, it is manipulating your mind. We are of course very in-touch with everything, but we can manipulate that. USE your common sense, to see when you're being wrong or right. Observe your reality instead of fantasy. Hope this helps:)

[@suzychocolate7]

@@user-hp6jh9eu3v so you're saying that I should turn the table and manipulate my brain instead of letting it manipulate me?

[@user-hp6jh9eu3v]

@@suzychocolate7 What I meant is, the technique she is suggesting is to manipulate your brain instead of letting it manipulate you. This method still CAN be dangerous, but still clever to an easier life. I personally think it can cause 'delusion', but at the same time, it can cause reality and relief. What I suggest is, do this technique, but use your common sense as your common ground, do as she says, "Im having a thought" and then let your common sense do the rest. "What I did was rather idiotic" or "Nah I'm just overreacting, Im just making myself paranoid for no reason"

[@suzychocolate7]

@@user-hp6jh9eu3v I see that makes sense although it is a bit tricky

[@rebecamontenegro7580]

Preach! Love ACT

[@Thanatology138]

This is just stoicism!

[@mihaelahaita994]

How shallow both! "So fun! I love it!" How is this fun? What do you mean?

[@kaylaree6479]

Med circle! Thanks for all the videos. Please reduce the subscription fee on your website! Where I come from that's twice as much as Netflix! 9 usd was fine, but 20? :( I can't afford it, wish I could though.

[@MedCircle]

Hi, Kayla! Thanks for your feedback. Based on feedback from you and other MedCircle viewers, we have updated our pricing: www.medcircle.com/signup

[@andreavanda4722]

I'm not sure I get it. I have to think about this some more. I think the explanation' could have been more simple.

[@b.nawazligade3582]

Mam, May Almighty keep U EVERGREEN 🍀, HAPPY, HEALTHY, ENERGETIC& SUCCESSFUL Forever for such a great service for the Painful people.

[@emilycarcamo9605]

Read: Eckhart Tolle, "The Power of Now" and Dr. Joe Dispenza, "Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself". Life changing.

[@davidk.7264]

I do get it........THANKS

[@makaylahollywood3677]

Great video. I am so thankful for this channel.

[@寿司食べたいな]

I love that there's a dog in this video. His opinion should be consulted too imho.

[@ThemiwiplaceMed2]

Mindfulness, Buddhism, not really new. But great anyway❤

[@SuperCatwoman09]

Where can I watch the whole series on anxiety mentioned here

[@tammik4652]

Can someone with BPD where thoughts are hard to pinpoint, benefit from this series? I think learning techniques when triggered and the split immediately happens, maybe they can use the tools to help them get out of it. I want to share this series with my partner with BPD but I’m afraid he won’t be able to accept it. He will just shut down on me.

[@brownsugaa1889]

I don’t really understand this. How will you really understand who you are if you deny all your flaws? Shouldn’t we accept it then find a way to overcome it? Like fake it till you make it? always think positively? What if I THINK I’m something positive but FEEL different? Am I just being negative right now?

[@iddejonsson4374]

I guess this is an alternative way to accepting. Accepting something is really hard to do for many people.

[@stejac1000]

It’s not about denying your flaws. Delusion allows you to hold your thoughts loosely at arms length vs having them as part of you. One ACT metaphor has the client cover his eyes with his hands, and imagine looking at the world this way. Now hold your hand at arm’s length. Now you know what was blocking your vision. You are actually more aware vs less aware of the efficacy of your thought.

[@doobieddooo]

Very Informative! Thanks!

[@GamerGrade]

How do i watch the series? EDIT: Just found it, thanks!!

[@leajingsi7766]

may I ask how and where?

[@I-MonkMode]

Top notch advice

[@fireflies7000]

I love your interviews.Very helpful and life changing.

[@julieb6624]

This guy is handsome. AND he loves dogs. It's sad people like this get depressed. He deserves always be happy. Good looking,classy and smart guy. I'd totally go on a date with him 😍

[@majiddehbi9186]

what about the detachement thinking i it's a tresor if we know how we deal with this detachement

[@eduforumallthingseducation3651]

Good interview

[@silviashusband497]

Non dual meditation.🌊✌️

[@shoemakerlevy9micxz72]

thanks ya'll.

[@taymaabuhakmeh3846]

That's what meditation teaches you. You can apply the same method to feeling difficult emotions as well. Instead of "feeling sad or anxious" oh I'm "just feeling"

[@Jessie-bo9mo]

If Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is so new, are therapists actively using it with clients? I’m asking because I have been in two Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) classes and haven’t resonated with it much. I would love to try ACT with my therapist.

[@emma-my8bn]

When I told myself that my depression was just temporary, it went away.

[@kyliewilson2911]

Love this woman

[@emilaubry6856]

This was so informative and insightful. Thank you so much for your wealth of knowledge and explanation of it Dr. Judy 💕

[@jay02192009]

Hello, I've only been watching MedCircle videos for just a few days but thank you so much for such amazing and helpful contents. It might be weird to ask such a question here but I want to give it a try, anyway... I'm especially intrigued when Dr. Ho mentioned in this video about the self that "has worth in itself", that "because you are a human being, you have worth." I am sincerely not being sarcastic nor am I in a particularly moody situation here, but this is a concept I don't get. I'd be like "what the heck does this even mean???" if someone tells me every human being deserves love. At the same time, sometimes I struggle to convince myself that things in life, whether big or small, are really worth the effort at all. It's hard to tell myself that it is worth the pain living in a world full of sufferings. Would ACT (or CBT, or DBT etc.) be helpful in providing answers to such questions? Again, no matter what, thank you for the contents you've provided.

[@ozi1578]

I think it means that you think you don’t deserve love because you forget that we are all humans and we all have that self. But we all start having different stories about our Self’s. It’s not you but it’s your story about yourself.

[@annflood2615]

Thank you!

[@b.jaylinenunez9485]

I would love to meet her and I will. ♥️

[@ruthasemota910]

Many thanks for this video. I truly agree that this is one video I would desire to watch and listen to many times within a short time. It is so enlightening and informative. Aboundant thanks once again. Pls may i request the full series sent to my email?